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Can you identify this 1800s (?) Eastern/Central European novel based on the half-remembered description of an unintentionally hilarious sex scene?This really great Hairpin list put me in mind of a vaguely remembered novel (specifically: Really? The war is still going on?) I have no idea when this book was written. It took place in the 1700s and 1800s. Possibly Russian, definitely Eastern/Central European. I read it in translation in English, and it was originally written in another language. DEFINITELY NOT THE BROTHERS KARAMAZOV although I recognize the plot is similar. Also not War And Peace. It was not a good book. The actions of the novel took place over many years, if not generations. There were two mostly unrelated plotlines--one involved a man fighting a war (I am pretty sure it was the Napoleonic Wars, but searching books about the Napoleonic Wars is giving me nothing) (I also seem to call that the man was a mercenary but I could be misremembering), and the other had to do with the man's wife who was in love with the man's brother. The characters were wealthy/noble. The bulk of the book was war scenes. The writing, or maybe translation, was poor, and it was often difficult to follow what was happening. There was more of a focus on the big picture than any individual character or scene or motivation. I can't remember why I was reading it, or why I continued to read it. I remember the storyline with the woman more clearly, even though it made up a smaller portion of the book. The woman had sex with her husband's brother (who was gross and sleazy, but the only man who could bring her to orgasm), and then I think she might have gotten pregnant and had an abortion (I'm actually not sure; the writing was unclear), but she did definitely have some kind of uterine-related disease, and she eventually died. Here's my most specific memory: an unintentionally hilarious and bizarre sex scene where the woman was milking a cow in a lusty way (which, I know, doesn't make any sense because she was supposed to be a noblewoman) and the brother in law sees her. He headbutted her breasts "like a tame goat" and then they had sex. I remember that line "like a tame goat" and would bet money that that is the exact line, but searching google books for it brings up nothing. Other detail: I have a particular interest in the history of the Balkans, so there's a reasonable chance this book is related to that interest. Well, now we're all thinking about goats. Any ideas?

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I've included some specs and such in the body of the message. Basically, the system specs seem comfortably above the minimum reqs for Win10, but I'm not clear on whether I should go 32 or 64 -- her XP is 32, but I don't know if 64bit OSs were a thing at the time.Gibson Research Corporation SecurAble indicates: YES: 64 bit YES: Hardware D.E.P. NO: Hardware virtualization Specs from Speccy Operating System     Windows XP Professional 32-bit SP3 CPU     Intel Pentium 4 630 (CPU 3.00GHz)     Prescott 90nm Technology RAM     4.00GB Dual-Channel DDR2 @ 333MHz (5-5-5-15) Motherboard     Intel Corporation D945GTP (LGA 775) 40 °C Graphics     SyncMaster ([email protected])     SyncMaster ([email protected])     Intel 82945G Express Chipset Family (Intel) Storage     74GB Seagate ST380815AS (SATA) 34 °C Optical Drives     ATAPI DVD C DH52C2P Audio     SigmaTel High Definition Audio CODEC After this I need to figure out how to do a clean install -- just format then install? I've only ever done this once, on a new build.

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Are there recent rock albums or bands that are of some "universal" or broad interest to a large number of people between the ages of, say, 16 and 24? Or have r&b, rap, and other genres totally replaced rock music?EXPLANATION My friend recently raised this question. He said that he was unaware of current rock albums that might be considered either new or distinct in some universal way by young people who pay attention to rock music. He's in his 40s, and he used some of the following examples in roughly chronological order: My Bloody Valentine "In the Aeroplane Over the Sea" by Neutral Milk Hotel "69 Love Songs" by Magnetic Fields "Kid A" by Radiohead The Arcade Fire (this was the last band he could think of that had this impact in his assessment) Some of those albums actually did new things while some repackaged fairly familiar things, so this is not about being groundbreaking. And it's not about being universally beloved: he himself didn't particularly like the Arcade Fire, and I didn't care for that band or "Kid A," but we both recognized those as albums we felt we had to hear, and which somehow changed the landscape in their moment. CAVEATS 1. He does not claim that great rock music is not being made right now, but was skeptical that either critically acclaimed or popular rock albums matter to younger people in 2016. 2. Obviously there is some gray area here: his list includes some albums that only sold in the hundreds of thousands when they came out, but explicitly does not include "Nevermind" by Nirvana, which we agreed seemed to make more of an impact on what record labels would fund rather than how people who liked punk-ish music thought about punk-ish music. 3. He looked at the charts! He heard about six songs he judged to be in the rock genre, and was skeptical that any of them matter to young people who follow rock music per se. 4. He is definitely aware of all the cool things that are happening in rap, r&b, and other genres, and of the underground/independent music scene in the city where we live. But he's trying to find the Kid A for the current generation, if that thing could be said to exist.

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I bought an airport express with the sole purpose of letting me play music from my computer. Unfortunately, whenever I do so, within 0-50 minutes, the music starts skipping, and ultimately I get the warning: "An error occurred while connecting to the AirPlay device "[DEVICE NAME]". The host cannot be reached." Any way to reliably fix this?Here's my setup: I have a new Airport Extreme base station (this one) broadcasting to two networks (one 5GHz with a different network name). The airport express is 3 feet away. My laptop is around 20 feet away from both of those airports, and I'm in a loft so there is only a half-height wall in between my computer and the routers. Detailed Details: Checking my connection quality, I have RSSI: -78dBm, Noise -95dBm, Tx Rate 264 MBps. Channel selection is automatic, security is WPA2 Personal, the network is not hidden. The router mode is DHCP and NAT. DHCP lease is 1 day, I'm blocking incoming IPv6 connections, not allowing Teredo tunnels, and am allowing IPSec authentication. I have two hard drives attached to my airport extreme that function as time capsules, secured with device passwords. In terms of internet settings, I have IPv6 configured automatically, native mode, with ipv6 connection sharing enabled. Let me know if there's any other stuff I can provide. I've reset the routers before, which helps for a few minutes but I get the same stuff after a while regardless.

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Yesterday, "A crazed woman trying to sell crickets and worms on a D train suddenly threw them all over the crowded car, sending it into chaos during the evening commute." "The air conditioning shut off and the screaming passengers were all stuck inside the sweltering car with the woman, who then treated them to antics for half an hour as the crickets jumped on passengers. The worms just wriggled on the floor." Today, actress Zaida Pugh admits she staged the incident, calling it a "a performance art piece meant to highlight the way people with mental and emotional health issues are treated."

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This Brazilian duo of guitar and parrot are pretty good, but birds and guitars are not unusual. Birdie the crow and "Blackbird" (longer version previously) Bluegrass sparrow Cockatoo minimalism Zebra finch shoegaze (about)

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The Legend of the Choco Taco [Eater] "For just about everyone other than the French inventor of the Cronut, the Choco Taco [wiki] is the stuff of nostalgic summer sweet tooth obsession — the most beloved and innovative of all the American ice cream "novelties." Its acolytes are legion. Restaurant pastry chefs and boutique scoop shop owners regularly pay homage."

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I need to resurrect my old Firefox favorites list. I used an online magazine article digest whose name escapes me. The site also has links to online newspapers. All I can remember is the graphics were orange. I had to refresh my OS and forgot to back up my Firefox bookmarks.

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I'm asking as I just watched a live drama tv program where a young man's face was almost constantly contorted as if he was in the throes of crying but there were no tears. It reminded me of something I once heard a cop say regarding questioning a suspect who, also, sobbed very much over the death of a loved one but no tears were shed. The policeman said "No tears? Its fake." I know whenever I'm really emotionally over the edge I will cry with tears - I call that experience "crying" - is there another type?

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My friend and I have recently been crawling out of some pretty thick mental mud from the past several months, and I was hoping for some suggestions in and around Portland to swing us back into greater health.I am heading to Portland from the Midwest soon to stay with a good friend of mine for several days. I'm not necessarily looking for specific places to go, which is still fine and well, but rather looking for creative ideas as how to spend our time. Both of us haven't had the best summer as far as mental health goes. We're both approaching our respective situations with our own solutions. We've also been communicating our experiences with one another, and I thought coming with a solid suggestion to do something to "forget it all" would be nice. I've considered mountain camping all the way to sensory deprivation tanks. Is there anything specific to Portland, OR that the hive mind might suggest given this? Even unspecific to Portland: Is there a specific activity you have done when your misery has been in company with another, but you ended up having an experience that made you both feel great afterwards?

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We're getting married. We both dislike jewelry but have decided to wear simple rings. But the selection is overwhelming. Do you enjoy this sort of thing and want to help us?We started to look on Etsy and were so overwhelmed. Please help us (male and female). We are sort of idiots about this. - Cheaper is better. - One of us has a metal sensitivity. Is there something that we should do about this? - We have no idea what types of metals are a good idea. - I guess we'd be willing to go to a shop if you think that that would be better. - Maybe are there cool things to do like get your names written on the inside or something? What are the possibilities there? These were sort of okay.

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Just trying to live a peaceful and functional adult life beyond the reach of a controlling, emotionally abusive parent. But I was tracked down by a PI and I'm worried that it's only a matter of time before I have to face this awful person again. What do I say to make clear that I have no intention of reestablishing ties and that I wish to be left alone?I don't believe that there's a threat of physical danger by interacting with this parent, for which I'm grateful, but I prefer to continue my life without contacting him and his side of the family. Almost a decade ago, I stopped communicating with all of them, and I began to see that I could be a worthwhile person when I wasn't surrounded by people who relished opportunities to tell me I was stupid, fat, unlovable, and whatever else. I'm an adult now and I have people who I know care for me, but I feel so anxious when I think about seeing any of that family again, and it takes me back to a time when I was a lonely kid, and the only people around were the folks I most depended on and yet they seemed dedicated to breaking me down whenever they could. I know that things could have been much worse -- I'm sure this parent would point to his own physically abusive father and say that I got a better deal than he did. But he didn't have to perpetuate the abuse-as-love theme from his own childhood. So a few nights ago, a PI visited my home (someone else opened the door and confirmed that I lived there even though the PI asked for me by my old name) and handed me an envelope with a typed letter inside. He also asked for a photo -- which I declined -- saying that this parent just wanted to see me again. I was frazzled and foolish because it was only after the PI left that I wondered if maybe he had been asked for more than just a photo. Like an address. The PI gave me his name, but the phone number I found through a Google search went to a non-working number, so I don't think I'll be able to call and ask him to keep the address private. I'll likely need to just email this parent and ask him to leave me alone, but I'm not sure how to go about it. Have any MeFites done something similar, and if so could you provide some useful phrases to include in the email? Also, any general advice and encouragement would be helpful. I've thought of just pointing him to my doctoral student profile page as that has a decent photo of me and he might take heart simply from knowing the university and the program into which I matriculated. Maybe then he would let me be...? * There's likely an earlier Ask about this same thing so please point me in that direction if you know about it. So far my AskMeFi search turned up topics about how to cut ties (which I've done) and dealing with one's own feelings about the cut ties (which I dealt with long ago). But how do I shut down someone who is trying to reinitiate ties that, at least for now and the foreseeable future, I do not want?

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I am crowd funding a clothing line and am looking for outside sources to promote the campaign. What options outside of mine and indiegogo social media are available to me. I was thinking of contacting bloggers to do personal interviews, product trade. etc? Any and all suggestions appreciated.

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Hi guys, I am building a slow sand filter to purify captured rainwater. I have advertised here and on reddit for an experienced engineer to design a filter for me. Where can I go to get more visibility for my request or what should I do to motivate interest in my project?

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What music styles or specific songs do 85-year-old ladies like to dance to? I'm putting together a playlist for some dancing grammas. Certain criteria: Familiar songs (popular in the 1940s-60s); Upbeat (no slow dancing at this crazy ol' party); not loud (no rock please, not even Elvis); bonus for international songs or sung in non-English, especially German!Perfect examples so far: Bei mir bist du schon, by The Andrews Sisters Tu vo'fa'l'americano, by Renato Carosone

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Help me find the right hashtags to connect with resources on twitter relevant to my particular interest in clothes.I am trying to figure out how to dress in a way that makes me comfortable, both psychologically and physically. I grew up with very old fashioned parents and did not own a pair of pants until I was seven. (No, they were not religious. They were just a) old and b) super old fashioned.) I have dressed pretty butch the past few years, which isn't a first but is more extreme than anything I did previously. It has been an interesting experience and provided much food for thought. I like dressing more femininely than I have been recently and I am exploring my thoughts and feelings on that here lately in a blog. Although I want to dress more femininely, I have strong objections to the general trend that feminine = sex object on display for all the world to see. Dressing more butch has helped give me insights into that, but I don't know how this gets talked about by other people. Surely, there is existing language for something like this. I have no idea what kind of clothing related hashtags I should be looking for or using. Given that this is sort of a personal revolution and protest in addition to just figuring out how to dress, I suppose there are even tags not specifically clothing related that might work, but I wouldn't really know. Please suggest whatever tags you know of that are clothing related, gender identity related, women's rights/issues related or whatever makes sense to you that might fit. Please explain what the tag means or is used for on Twitter (and/or why you think it might be meaningful to me) so I don't use one in a way that gets horrific backlash. Thanks.

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Poet Max Ritvo has died at 25. His "Poem to my Litter" appeared in the New Yorker in June. His debut collection, Four Reincarnations will be published in October by Milkweed Editions.

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We have two cats, one of whom is very fastidious. She won't use a box that is not to her standards of clean. She will go next to the litter box if she deems it unclean. I am considering getting two self cleaning litter boxes but am wary of the cash outlay.I work long hours, my daughter works and goes to school. I am about to put my house on the market so poos on the floor will just not do and we have a hard time keeping up with the litter boxes as it is. Are there any recommendations? How often do you need to clean the self-cleaning? Do they only use their own bags? Will any clumping litter do? Thanks!

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I may be paranoid, but someone sent me an email with a very suspicious attachment. How can I find out what's in it?It was from an address I don't recognize, but not trying to advertise or sell anything and Gmail didn't classify it as spam. The attachment has "Content-Type: image/bmp". (Can you really put malware in an image file?) Of course I didn't download or open the file, but I saw Gmail's preview (which I assume was rendered by Google on the server side, not in my browser) it and looked black and white with some text in it. I saved the whole email in a text file, since I figured looking at base64 encoded text is OK, but I haven't tried to extract the attachment. Ideally I want to know what's in the attachment and who sent it, but if that's not possible I at least want to know if it contains malware or not. I'm using Mac OS and don't have any anti-virus software installed.

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Need to move a ship? Or several ships? Try a Float-In/Float-Off Heavy Transport Vessel.

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I have a newish iMac and three external hard drives of varying age and corresponding capacity (500 GB, 2 TB, 4 TB). I have ca. 2 TB of music divided between the latter two. What is the best way of backing this up?I use Time Machine (on the 4 TB) for the iMac itself, but my greater concern is that, if one of the drives goes, I lose much of my music. That said, I feel that buying a backup drive for the drives might lead to a "hard drives all the way down" situation, with backups to the backups of the backups. Is multiple redundant devices, in fact, the best, most (reasonably) secure way of backing up files, or is there another way? Thanks in advance.

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Most of the media focus on Transgender rights up until now have been on "Bathroom Bills" that are being presented across the country, yet in doing so, we are, as Chase Strangio, Staff Attorney for the ACLU LGBT & HIV Project states, ...ceding the terms of this conversation to the people who want to expel trans people from public life and write us out of existence." But is that really happening? Are there people who want to write trans people out of existence? On Tusday August 23rd, as the Dallas Observer reports, Ken Paxton filed a lawsuit in the 5th Circuit court with Judge Reed O'Connor, "...on behalf of the Franciscan Alliance, a religious hospital network, against the Obama administration and the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services in an attempt to block HHS from defining sex within the Affordable Care Act", which would allow medical institutions to refuse medical care for transgender people on the basis of religious freedom. Just two days prior, On Sunday, August 21st, 5th Circuit Judge Reed O'Connor, addressing the lawsuit Ken Paxton filed in May agains the DOJ guidance on transgender students, issued a nationwide injuction against the DOJ guidance. The BBC coverage of of the sunday ruling notes that Reed O' Connor in 2015 also "temporarily blocked federal rules that would have expanded medical leave benefits to some gay couples.". It is important to note that Ken Paxton also shopped North Texas ISDs in an attempt to build a case for the May filing of the Texas V US case against the DOJ, then filed actions in courts with a Judge who, as the BBC news coverage illustrates, is historically aligned with anti LGBT rulings. (Content Warning!!!) The Family Research Council's published position "Understanding and Responding to the Transgender Movement" illustrates a multi-front position against the rights and support of transgender people that correlates with the actions being taken by Ken Paxton. The policy paper defines a multi-front response that seeks to remove protections for medical coverage and care for trans people, seeks to remove protections in public facilities and restrooms for trans people, seeks to remove protections for trans people at local, state level and federal levels, seeks to disallow transgender people from serving in the military and to most importantly, seek to affirm that "...most ordinary Americans would consider dressing in ways that are culturally appropriate for one's biological sex to be the most fundamental "appearance, grooming, and dress standard" that could be conceived of." The fight over what makes a "culturally appropriate" gender can even be seen in the Supreme Court's temporary injunction against Gavin Grimm Taking the FRC document and looking at the recent history of events, beginning with the campaign that led to HERO failing to the passage of HB2 in North Carolina, to Texas filing one federal lawsuit limiting the rights of trans students and another federal lawsuit seking to access to limit medical coverage in the same court that shows historical support for anti-LGBT rulings, there does indeed appear to be a nationwide coordinated effort against the existence of trans people as Chase Strangio states which now appears to be led by Ken Paxton and the Texas GOP. Here are few helpful twitter accounts and sites to help you follow this story as it develops: Twitter: @JoshACLU ACLU Attorney @chasestrangio ACLU Staff Attorney @PaulCastilloJD Lamba Legal Attorney @5thCircAppeals Jason P. Steed 5th Circuit Apellate Lawyer @andreagrimes Reporter for the Texas Observer and is on Ken Paxton's ass. Court Happenings: SCOTUS Blog Transgriot The Texas Observer (most notably Andrea Grimes)

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I'm looking for something like Patatap but with a bit more structure (like record, rewind, stop, that kind of thing), so I can just let a tune flow from my soul and then play it back or save it. Creating music without having to think about it too much, maybe just learning the instrument/website as I go along. I don't want to get sucked into learning a DAW; this is just for temporary fun. Is there anything like that? Thanks!

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Known as much for his flamboyant style as his prolific output, rapper, singer and weirdo Young Thug [prev] has released a new commercial mixtape (can we call commercial mixtapes albums already?). The project title No, My Name Is JEFFERY asserts a new identity, and the music continues to twist the Atlanta trap sound in new and strange directions. "I always had a Michael Jackson mentality...The message is to go back to who I really am. I really am Jeffery. That's really my swag." Oh, and the cover art is wild.

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First, there was the extrovert/introvert binary. Then, came ask culture vs. guess culture. Now: are you round or pointy?

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