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People are stealing my food out of the fridge at work. This is pissing me off. I need to find a lockable box. Please help.I keep a stash of mini Babybel cheese at work for quick snacks. They are in a Tupperware box that is clearly labeled with my name on it. Yesterday I was out sick. Today I came in and found that more than half of my cheese is gone. This is not the first time this has happened. I'm hungry and still not feeling well and this has put me in an extremely shitty mood. I don't make a lot of money and bringing food to work is one of the ways I keep my spending down. Having people steal my food seriously sucks because I can barely afford groceries as it is. I can't have this happen any more. My birthday was last month and I have a $100 gift card for Amazon. Does anyone have any recommendations for a small lockable lunch box within that dollar amount that I can get to keep in the fridge so no one can steal my food I'm thinking even like a cash box would work, but all the cash boxes I've seen are super big and really I only need something that's about the size of a medium-sized Tupperware container that locks. Please help. I am so angry. Thanks.

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Due to an accounting error, my employer has not been paying me my full salary for the last several years. I'm in sales, and I get paid on commission, so my paycheck fluctuates month to month - I never even noticed my paycheck was always secretly slightly less than what it should have been. My employer just discovered their error and told me immediately. Which I hugely respect. We have a good employment relationship and we'd all like it to continue. They're saying they now owe me about $145k plus interest, and are prepared to write me a check, but they know this raises some tax issues for me.I'm aware of some of the US tax implications here: I asked both a tax attorney and an accountant, and both agreed that I will owe 2014 taxes on this sum, and that it will put me in the highest tax bracket (39.6%) for year 2014. However, if I had been paid on time-- that is, in all those the prior years in which I actually earned the pay-- my overall tax burden would have been less than what it will be next year. Or to put it another way: I've been in the 33% tax bracket during the entire period of my employment, and would have still been in the 33% bracket all along if they had not made the accounting mistake. My employer understands how this will complicate my current tax situation, and has offered to either pay me something on top of the back pay I'm owed plus interest, in order to make up the tax difference, and/or to pay into an retirement account for me - or a trust, or some other valid means of lawfully avoiding/delaying taxation. So far they're extremely willing to work with me to correct their mistake. What should I be asking for? How do I even begin to calculate this to make sure we all have the numbers right? What else would you do in my shoes?

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Recently my jeans have started lasting only one wear before beginning to smell musty. About halfway through the day, I notice that I've been sweating enough to make the waistband slightly damp and there is a distinct odor coming from my jeans. It comes back quickly after washing, and I've never experienced this before in my life - I'm used to jeans lasting a week or so before switching them out. How do I keep from making my jeans smell, or how do I eliminate the odor permanently in washing?I started noticing this in the late Fall, nothing like it has ever happened before and I've never had odor issues previously (well, maybe some shoe odor on a rare occasion, but only in old cheap cotton shoes). This happened to new jeans I've bought in the past week, which started smelling musty after two wears. I'm just a little baffled as to how it started in the first place. I can't think of why it started as I haven't changed my diet in that time and can't think of any differing environmental factors since the Fall. My office is heated through the winter but I never feel too warm, and it's not like I haven't been in other extended heated environments in the past. My best guess is some sweat built up bacteria at some point in all of my current jeans and they're not being properly washed out. I've tried starting to wash them separately from everything else in the hot water setting, tried using borax powder when washing them, and I've tried switching detergents (I use perfume-free detergent), but to no avail. This is driving me crazy and is quite embarrassing, and I'm having to do laundry much more often that I'd like because I only have 5 or 6 pairs of jeans.

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A couple's final journey. "Chris MacLellan and Bernard Richard Schiffer never exchanged "for better or for worse" vows. As a gay couple, marriage wasn't an option in Florida. Instead, they lived together and loved each other for 11 years."

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I have been wondering for month about a song I sometimes heard on the radio sometime between 1992 and 1997. The chorus is very close to the instruments, beat, and tempo in D.C. Talk's "Just Between You And Me" opening verses (starting at this spot here) but the singer sounds kind of like Seal. It's sung kind of wistfully, but I don't know any lyrics, just how it sounds. Any idea what it could be? I went through Seal's discography one by one, and it's not him. It sounds closest to "Prayer For The Dying", the same sort of delivery and tempo, but that's not it.

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I've had a difficult time over the last while and I feel like I've completely run out of steam. How can I keep going and accomplish all I need to? I feel all my motivation is gone and frankly I just want to hibernate but obviously I can't. Have you ideas about how to keep putting one foot in front of the other?At the minute I am coping with a lot of grief about the breakup of my marriage (and massive guilt about my part in that), I'm living between two houses (family) and looking for a house, working full time and completing my studies. On top of that I just found out yesterday that I will lose my job in 5 months as my company is closing. I love my job and the people who work here, and it has felt like the only stable thing in my life over the last while, as well as a chance to escape to somewhere I can have a laugh, and I'm devastated about having to look for something else (which is unlikely to pay me what I'm on now - I'm struggling financially as it is and I will only be getting a very small pay off, like a few hundred.) I feel like I don't have the energy to look for a job, a house, do research, perform well at work and generally get on with things. On top of that I have started smoking again (I know, I know) and I've put on quite a lot of weight. I can't seem to find the willpower to diet or quit smoking again. My sleep is also not great and I feel tired a lot. I realise this all sounds very whiny, so apologies, but I kind of feel at rock-bottom now. If you have been in difficult situations before how have you managed to replenish your inner resources, keep motivated to accomplish necessary tasks and generally not give up?

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Chinatown Sartorialist. "We saw them at Portsmouth Square and frantically made a beeline for them, both in a brown, earthy palette with matching cheetah sweaters and furry hats."

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An Oral History of 8 Mile's Rap Battles

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My last job had health insurance through a certain company I'll call WORST COMPANY, and they capriciously decided to be assholes about pre-certifying a surgery that my husband needs, as per my husband's surgeon (the surgeon is ready to go, he's been treating my husband for this condition for years now, and he says this is what's required. We've done all the conservative measures and they didn't help). We were fighting with them for almost a year and it was a whole big thing including trying to appeal to the state (which didn't work because then we found out my then-employer had a self-insured plan). It's a long story but please take my word for it that it was capricious and not our fault. I just got a new job and thought "Thank god, we'll start over with someone else." Except my two options are a high-deductible plan through OKAY COMPANY and a regular PPO through...........WORST COMPANY. I don't want the high-deductible plan because even after your deductible is payed off (about $3,000 between my hubby and I) you still have to pay for 10% of your care after that, which could add up. And I don't want the WORST COMPANY plan because I want the surgery to actually, you know, happen. Which is the lesser of two evils? I know WORST COMPANY will carry over our medical histories, but will they continue to dig in their heels or treat it differently because it's a different employer? What should I do?

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The Ket from the Lake Munduiskoye (2008, 30 min.) The Ket people are an indigenous group in central Siberia whose population has numbered less than two thousand during the past century. Although mostly assimilated into the dominant Russian culture at this point, a couple hundred of them are still able to speak the Ket language, the last remaining member of the Yeniseian language group. Recent scholarship has proposed a link between Ket and some Native American language groups.

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I have asked my husband and sister, who are both professionals and say I'm worrying too much. There are three companies involved in this scenario: the first company I worked at for only 6 months, then had another short-term job involved after that. I took the 6-month job off my resume for a while because I didn't want to look like a job-hopper. Anyway, I interviewed at a company 6 weeks ago that saw my resume without the 6-month job on it; they ended up rejecting me for unrelated reasons. I put the 6-month job back on my resume, and then got hired at a new company last week. So it turns out this new company will be working with the company that rejected me (they are both gov't contractors that work on the same contract)...so I may be working directly with the phone interviewers that rejected me (I hope not though). I am probably being paranoid in thinking that they'll ever figure out I put the 6-month job on the resume for one company but left it off for the other, right? *I was completely truthful with the company that ultimately hired me; all jobs were on that resume and verified in a background check. People have advised me that if I'm ever confronted about it, to just say that I accidentally sent an old, outdated resume to the other company. Hope this makes sense, sorry for the confusion...

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I'm an early 30s lesbian who spent most of her 20s in committed relationships. My latest and most significant ended about a year ago and I've started dipping my toe in the scary online dating waters. I'm not ready to get serious yet but since I've been in these long relationships, I've never really 'dated around' per se, except maybe in my very early 20s- although at the time I was pretty closeted and neurotic, so I hardly even count that. Anyway, I registered on OkCupid and messaged back and forth with a few people. Somewhat naively, I gave two of them my phone number to text. BAD IDEA. More inside..I'm a texter but I'm not married to my phone. They started messaging me so often that I felt annoyed and frankly borderline stalked (to the point where I deleted my OKC profile and one noticed within 15 minutes and asked what had happened). I realized quickly that I had no interest in either of them- mostly because they came on too strong, but I could already tell it wouldn't go anywhere even if I did meet them. And for various reasons I don't even see friendships with either of them. They are both nice people, I just don't feel a connection, friendship or otherwise. And I don't feel a need to text or contact anyone, even close friends, to the extreme that they texted me. Maybe if I 'felt it' with these people I wouldn't mind. So I started responding less and less. The first one got the hint after a day or two and finally stopped communicating with me. The other one continues to send me messages that are either petty complaints that show an alarming lack of maturity, or open ended questions like 'how are you.' Oh and stupidly I accepted her friend request on Facebook when we first started talking (it's really only been about 2 weeks) because, like I said, naive, haven't dated in a long time- since before Facebook and texting blew up, apparently! I have literally NEVER reached out to either of these people first and I'm honestly astounded that anyone would keep trying after my lackadaisical responses- I either don't respond or will write back something short although not immediately. Last time I tried online dating it was the total opposite. I was interested in the people I dated; they weren't interested in me. I've been blown off a lot and I KNOW it sucks, but I've never been pushy to the point that these people have and it boggles my mind. I know I'm not handling this right but I can't help but feel like... I've never met these people. So, my questions are really: - Do I owe them an explanation about why I don't want to talk to them? -Is it unethical to just stop answering messages from someone you're not interested in if you've never met them? Does this change if you HAVE met them once or twice? - Do people ACTUALLY have these weird texting relationships before a first date... is this standard now?! I have no interest in someone I don't even know yet having 24/7 communication access. I miss the days where you chatted on AIM and just blocked the person if they got creepy.

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Like a lot of folks, I bought an Obihai VOIP adapter primarily for the free Google Voice XMPP calling, and like a lot of folks, I'm saddened by the loss of the essentially free home phone service. Obihai has listed Anveo and Phone Power as "Approved Service Partners", but there seem to be a lot of other options out there, and I was just wondering if anyone has any recommendations for BYOD VOIP providers that are affordable but also likely to be around in a year or two so I don't have to find a new provider on short notice.

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British Pathe releases 85K videos to YouTube. An archive of film from the late 1800s onward is now available on YouTube.

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In my (D/s) relationship saying "I love you" is totally out of the question. However, expressions of affection and adoration expressing that sentiment are allowed and highly encouraged. In old B&W movies of the 1930's/40's I hear phrases like: "In my eyes there's no man taller" (about a vertically challenged suitor), and "You set the sun, hang the moon and paint the stars"... Sappy, sentimental, campy, corny, kinky (bonus points for kinkified!), and just plain funny phrases that will let someone know that they are "the only duck in my pond" are what I'm after.

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"Academics restart work to unlock secrets of mystery medieval civilization with links to Persia on edge of the Siberian Arctic. The 34 shallow graves excavated by archeologists at Zeleniy Yar throw up many more questions than answers. But one thing seems clear: this remote spot, 29 km shy of the Arctic Circle, was a trading crossroads of some importance around one millennium ago."

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The world of video game music has blossomed in recent years, enough to support live concert tours and bestselling albums. But while most such work is licensed or contracted out to third-party composers, a rare breed make their living at a single company, imbuing entire franchises with their unique sound. And apart from Nintendo's venerable Koji Kondo, there is perhaps no dedicated gaming composer more renowned than Martin O'Donnell. From humble beginnings writing the jingle for Flintstones Vitamins, O'Donnell and longtime collaborator Michael Salvatori joined developer Bungie in 1997, penning music for Myth, Oni, and most notably the Halo trilogy -- an iconic blend of sweeping orchestral bombast, haunting choirs, and electronic ambience that became one of the most acclaimed and successful gaming soundtracks of all time. O'Donnell also helmed Bungie's audio department, managing voice actors, sound effects, and an innovative dynamic music engine, and was most recently working with Paul McCartney on the score for the upcoming Destiny. So it came as a surprise today when it was announced MartyTheElder was being terminated without cause (flabbergasted reaction: HBO/DBO - NeoGAF - Reddit). With O'Donnell following Joseph Staten, Frank O'Connor, Marcus Lehto, and other Bungie veterans out the door, what might this mean for the company and its decade-long plan for Destiny? Behind the Music interview (part 2) Meet the Composers: Martin O'Donnell Frankie takes the piss out of Marty in a 2006 studio tour A comprehensive list of interviews and video interviews Full soundtracks: Myth - Oni - Halo - Halo 2 (Volume 2) - Halo 3 - ODST - Reach Notable tracks: Truth and Reconciliation Suite - original main theme Ghosts of Reach - Won the Game Audio Network Guild award for Best Original Choral Song Earth City - ditto, for Best Original Instrumental Song Mombasa Suite - soundtrack to Halo 2's 2004 E3 demo and the retro-futuristic slums of Old Mombasa More high-energy pieces: MJOLNIR Mix (with Steve Vai) and Unyielding Or gravitas: High Charity Suite - Unforgotten - Heavy Price Paid Siege of Madrigal - A track from Myth often hidden away in future games Finish the Fight - Halo 3's announcement trailer score and Wake Me When You Need Me - Halo 3's final scene Deference for Darkness - The moody, noirish, saxophone-accented ambience for ODST's rainy nighttime streets Early Destiny music samples BONUS: The Odyssey, a three-part post-rock jazz fusion epic composed by Incubus and RHCP's Flea for Halo 2

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I'm an English adjunct and the end of semester (and my employment) is 20 days away. My dept isn't hiring adjuncts for summer. The community colleges in my city don't have any openings. Where can I find work to survive the summer?I have an MFA in Creative Writing and I've freelanced in Graphic Design for several years. I applied to the few graphic design jobs posted to the university job boards, but am worried I won't get a position. I followed up on one application and discovered that they were already nearing the end of the interviewing process. The office worker told me that if I am going to get an interview, I should hear from them in the next few days. But what if I don't hear back from them? Or any of the offices I applied to? I've been applying for design jobs, because I'm very tired of the low pay, huge workload, and lack of job security that plagues adjunct work. I can't handle panicking every semester over whether or not I will be employed for another semester. It's too stressful. I am responsible for too many bills and too many people to not have consistent employment. I just want a normal, 9-5, year-round office job, please. But one thing that worries me is that perhaps I am not good enough for many of the design jobs I come across. I am very good at print and graphic design. I am okay at CSS and HTML. I am not familiar with PHP or Javascript or things like that. But so many design jobs I'm coming across are asking for you to know ALL of these things. So, I don't bother to apply for these jobs. However, a friend of mine says I should apply anyway and just "wing it" and learn what I don't know on the job. I don't know if that will go over well with a future employer. Are you really expected to be good at every single thing in a job posting's description? I am planning on trying to become more familiar with these programs, but I need a job now. Or at least in 20 days. Ahhh. This is so stressful. I feel like I have wasted the last three years getting this degree. I should have gone to design school and become a "real" designer :( I would love to hear what other adjuncts have done to survive the summer. Or how other adjuncts made the transition from working within academia to working outside of it. Thank you so much for all of your advice.

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I was wondering if anyone knows what my digestive system/ body is struggling with: I am almost 24 years old. I have a very stressful teaching job, and sometimes I don't eat very well because I don't have access to a supermarket. But, even before I started this job, I began to suffer from constipation. I only experience a bowel movement on average once every four days (often it takes a week.) My father has Crohn's disease, and I have been to see his doctor. His doctor told me that he sees a lot of young women with this problem, and he recommends that I take miralax regularly. I take it about once every other day, and occasionally drink Senna tea. But it doesn't always help. I have trouble particularly the week before my period. Have any other young women experienced this kind of thing? Is it as common as my doctor says? Does anyone have "home remedy" advice that actually works well?

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Action Park was an amusement park located in Vernon, New Jersey, (in)famous for its dangerous rides. "You'd see a kid in the summer cover in friction burns, and you'd be like 'How was Action Park?' " (13 minute documentary on DailyMotion.) Relive some of those memories with 9 minutes of commercials from 1979-80, including an actual record of people on Cannonball Loop, and almost six minutes of rides and attractions from 1991.

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Stephen Soderbergh's 1996 movie of Spalding Gray's Gray's Anatomy

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I am trying to find any information about binocular vision in pterosaurs.This past weekend, I went to the Museum of Natural History's exhibition on pterosaurs. Their illustrations for Jeholopterus varied greatly in the placement of they eyes from on the sides of the head to facing forward (third picture on the page). (The second image caused me to dub it "freaky monkey pterosaur.") So how much binocular vision did pterosaurs have? I have found a couple of scattered references to family Anurognathus (of which Jeholopterus is a genus) having binocular vision, based on the structure of ear canals. Were these pterosaurs unique in having binocular vision, or did pteranodons and other pterosaurs have vision like a raptors instead of like a tern or pigeon? Links to academic articles are acceptable, I have confederates who can access articles for me. Please nothing by David Peters. From what I can read, his work on pterosaurs is at best somewhat wrong and generally completely inaccurate, which is a shame as he seems to be the only one who has posted anything online about this. (If the site mentions Jeholopterus as a vampire, skip it)

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I want to work for the CDC after med school and residency, but I don't know how to show people (particularly med school adcoms) just how serious I am about this. I'm applying to med schools this cycle and want to mention my CDC aspirations, but am afraid that doing so might inadvertently hurt my application because I have no experience with the CDC.I'm a junior biology major on a pre-med track (taking the MCAT/applying this summer) and I've been thinking for a while about working for the CDC after residency. I want to mention this fact in my med school application/interviews, but I'm worried people won't take me seriously because I have absolutely no experience in government work. I've looked up the job descriptions of medical officers for the CDC on the CDC website, and I've taken an epidemiology class, which is what re-sparked the CDC dream. (When I was in middle school I toyed with the idea but I didn't do a whole lot of research.) I know for sure I don't want to go into private practice, and given my interest in epidemiology and infectious disease, working for the CDC just seems right to me. How can I go about showing people just how serious and committed I am to this? Potentially helpful extra information: I don't live in Atlanta, but I do live in a large-ish city. Maybe there are some resources in my city I don't know about?

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Try to win a staring game against Dali (or a campbell's soup can or a giraffe) in this free staring game on the iPhone. Or have characters from The Office stare at you instead, in The Office Stare Machine.

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Basically I'm curious what tips and tricks folks have for compartmentalizing, so stress in one area of your life has less of an impact on other areas.For me it's mostly associated with work - our organization has undergone a massive reorganization which has everyone turned upside down, I'm 'acquiring' new reportees/employees, my boss is retiring, and in my organization (pre and post reorg) decision making is quite decentralized - progress is made (soooo slowly) by committee and consensus building. None of this is necessarily bad, but I find it very exhausting (especially the constant human negotiation/juggling element) and bringing a constant level of low level anxiety to my job. I think I can handle the actual work, things will improve some with time etc. but in the mean time I hate thinking about my job after I've gone home, especially when I'm trying to sleep at night. Basically I want, as much as possible, to only worry about work when I'm at work. So what are your tips or tricks for keeping stress in one specific area from leaking all over the rest of your life?

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