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Bought a large bag of unsalted corn chips and didn't realize it until I got home. Store won't take them back without a receipt which I don't have. Do you have an easy method for adding salt to unsalted chips? I'm not talking about pouring salt over the chips.

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I need to send some legal documents (a wage garnishment assignment from a spousal support court judgement) to the appropriate department at AirBnB. The garnishment is for one of their employees, my ex-husband. I am having trouble locating the appropriate contact at AirBnB. Does anyone have an email address or direct phone number for either the legal department or Accounts Payable?I have tried calling the corporate phone number, it goes to a voicemail box that is always full. The help lines go to a third-party help desk with no access to corporate contacts. I tried mailing the documents to the corporate address and got no response, though it was signed for. Ex-husband is refusing to provide info, surprise surprise. I do not have a lawyer, and I cannot afford one. I am also out of state for the moment, so hauling him back to court is not an option for the next several months. Please help! If I can find a contact at AirBnB I can get this process going. I've done this with his previous employer, so I know the drill. Thank you!

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After searching, I see this has come up on Ask MeFi before in regards to apartment situations. The difference here is that we own, as do our neighbors. We live in Chicago, and naturally the police are less than responsive about these sorts of matters. I have spoken to the vibrating bass vehicle owner himself, twice, which helps for a week or so at most. I am a quiet person and a homebody - also a stay-at-home mom to a toddler and impending baby. There is literally nowhere in the house I can go to escape it when it's at max volume.Additional background: we have a cordial but otherwise non-existent relationship with these neighbors. They are an older couple, perhaps in their upper 60s? He spends most days in his detached garage, adjacent to our backyard, with the music cranked from his car stereo. He's got a nice truck with fancy schmancy rims and a clearly advanced stereo system, in which he seems to take pride. He's actually playing some music that I find pretty great - mostly Motown - but ultimately it doesn't matter as the volume ranges from loud to absolutely outrageous. Bass aside, it is difficult to enjoy our backyard when he is going strong, because it is just that loud. But if I retreat indoors, its back to nebulous thrumming and vibrating. It can be hard to concentrate. I have hypothesized that he is somewhat hard of hearing, because I don't know how someone could sit in that garage right next to the car and not experience headaches. The most recent time I politely asked him to turn it down, in the midst of the Polar Vortex, he seemed somewhat flustered and perhaps offended, but kept it lower for a period of days till it drifted back up again. He also has a broken motorcycle that he will rev for hours straight in the summertime, creating both noise and exhaust issues, so I think it's safe to say that neither he nor his wife are disturbed by loud noise. None of our other immediate neighbors are home during the weekdays, so I think this is primarily my dilemma to attempt to solve or learn to ignore. Any advice would be appreciated!

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What James 'Blood' Ulmer record has a photo on the back of him and his band wearing African attire and looking tough? My boyfriend wistfully mentioned having owned it and I'd love to pick up a copy for his birthday.He thought it might have had "Jazz Is The Teacher (Funk is the Preacher)" on it, but this doesn't jive with anything I can find after scouring Discogs for a while, so I was hoping someone might know which record this is. I don't want to press for any further details and risk giving away the surprise.

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This is a souvenir tile my wife's parents bought in Holland 30-odd years ago. We'd like to work out where the picture comes from.

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Are there campgrounds in the DC area (within an hour) that allow alcohol and catering on site? Trying to plan a party for someone where everyone can spend the night and camp out if they have too much to drink.My only criteria: - Will allow a catering company to set up - Allows booze - Allows a campfire - Allows camping out - Less than an hour from DC It looks like every single campground prohibits alcohol - understandable. Is this one of those things people still do anyway if they're smart about it as long as they aren't obnoxious? Or do private campgrounds exist that allow this sort of thing? I've never planned a camping trip in my life so this is all new to me. A cabin is officially out - we've been back and forth on it and the idea has been scrapped for logistical and financial reasons (party is too big - about 20 people, too expensive, they are all reserved at this point, etc).

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we are having a sundae bar at our wedding. what is the best (cheapest) way to get very large quantities of candies and chocolates for a sundae bar for 175 people? We're willing to spend money on delicious, but not on packaging. We are willing to ship stuff, but not to pay extravagant fees to do so. We are willing to buy at Costco, but it seems like cheaper should exist somewhere? Also, what are your favourite sundae toppings that you would be excited to see at a sundae bar? Also, if you have any tips about how we should lay it out in a cute way, please feel free to inspire us. thank you!

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Five years into my field aaaannd I don't think it's for me... help?A bit of a long story but background details always helps in narrowing down advice. During university I interned at X Company in the automotive industry for 3 summers, then upon graduation I was hired on. Worked their for three years full time, but coming up on the fourth year I was pretty much muscled out of there for a number of reasons. 1. Someone had to be thrown under the bus and of course it's always the person at the bottom of the totem pole. 2. The company is super antiquated and many colleagues and mentors jumped ship and had warned me to do so too... so I did. During my time there I worked in international marketing, really a point person for all international teams to us as a resource and help roll out tools to team. Really had a high level point of view and had a variety of tasks to do day in and day out. So I was a jack of all trades and a master of none. Immediately as I started looking for a new job and was hired on at Company Y doing a snippet of what I used to do at my last company, event planning. Company Y is a totally different industry, the structure of their company hierarchy is totally different, their corporate culture is completely different. At first I was having a really hard time accepting all of this but as I continue to work here I've come to realize that its not just the company that is hard for me to deal with, it's the job. I'm in over my head. It's too demanding and too stressful and no one has patience with me. My boss and I do the same work and she does 4 times the amount of events I do. She really doesn't have patience with me. I've always been an overachiever but this whole company is made of over-overachievers that just want to make others feel inferior. I feel really lost and on top of that now I feel like I am under qualified for everything. I was hating myself, really beating myself up because I feel like I am underperforming though I am trying really hard and now I'm starting to really hate this job and I don't want to think like that. It's ruining my mental health. I've started to look for a new job in a new company and I am scared I am under qualified for everything now and that ultimately I will have the same experience I have now, everywhere. So hive, can you give me some tips? Have you been in a position like this? What did you do? Should I change fields? Career path? I just need some help. I've tried to look for mentors here at Company Y and professional organizations I participate outside of work but I can't find anyone. I do still plan on going back to school next year but with a wedding coming up I need to save money and such before I go back full-time. So last bit, some facts: -Yes I love marketing, but I feel like I have LOTS to learn. The end goal was to do strategic marketing but I am really doubting I can do it now. -My strengths lie in presentation-giving, public speaking, teaching, coming up with ideas, problem solving. I have considered going more into account management but I have no idea where to start with that. -Plan was to go back for my MBA.

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In Poul Anderson's "The Last of the Deliverers," (spoilers ahead) he describes a future America in which, for all practical purposes, cheap solar energy and a culture of decreased desires for material advancement (people are essentially satisfied with a comfortable, but low, standard of living) have led to a kind of utopia. The plot of the story is, more or less, that two representatives of remnants from an older culture – a small-government type in the Barry Goldwater mold as well as a member of the American Communist Party – meet in a village and argue about the virtues of their respective ideologies, but cannot appreciate that social evolution and the lack of scarcity produced by it has made their political differences (and their politics) largely pointless and obsolete. So how am I to understand the last half-paragraph of the story, which seems to undercut the entire story in a most paradoxical way:That was the year the Brotherhood came to power in the north, and men wondered what this could mean. The next spring they learned, and there was an alliance made and war went across the hills. For the Brotherhood gang, just as it had threatened, cut down trees wholesale and planted none. Such evil cannot go unpunished. Here are some observations about that last paragraph: 1.It seems to be in a great deal of tension with the entire first 99% of the story, the entire point of which describes a stable and idyllic society that is almost completely free of conflict. 2.The last paragraph, in some sense, seems to argue that the politics-free utopia that the story describes is a kind of mistake or illusion, or at least not nearly as stable as the villagers (and the rest of the story) imply. 3.I think Anderson revised this story from its (originally published) form to its book form in The Best of Poul Anderson. Originally, I believe the last sentence of the story read "For the Brotherhood gang, just as it had threatened, planted no Trees at all, and such evil cannot go unpunished." The revision apparently emphasizes that it was the cutting of trees, not simply the non-planting of trees, that was offensive to the narrator – presumably underscoring that it was the lack of a stewardship/conservation ethic (an ethic which sometimes entails burdensome work) that "cannot go unpunished." 4.From a literary standpoint, the last paragraph is puzzling (or maybe just bad writing) because I don't think it is at all foreshadowed. It seems at best to be something of an out-of-left-field shock ending conceptually. 5.Poul held libertarian/Goldwaterite views, which adds support to the theory that Poul was more sympathetic to (at least one of) the remnants of an earlier society than the 'evolved' culture was. (But the two remnants speak in such clichés!) This would further suggest some skepticism about the kind of utopian equilibrium that Anderson portrays here. So how do you understand the significance of the last paragraph? What is going on here? I don't want to overthink this, but am I missing something about the way this story is supposed to work? To me, this reads like having a new last paragraph inserted into Orwell's 1984, in which Eastasian soldiers invade the pub in which Winston Smith is drinking and then hand him a copy of a new Constitution. I know this is a very small thing, but it has bothered me for nearly three decades.

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I'm set to return to work next week after 16 weeks of maternity leave, and I'm trying to figure out what should go in my Amazon order this week to make sure pumping goes as smoothly as possible. I've been pumping with a hand-held manual pump once a day since early on, but the logistics of using my double electric pump at work and hauling stuff back and forth is really, really intimidating. I'm looking for tips about what things to buy to make this process easier when it's not just a few steps to my kitchen to clean the pump and store the milk.I will be commuting by bike to and from my office, and it's about a 15-minute ride. I'm assuming I'll just leave my pump at work (it's a Hygiea EnJoye, which is compatible with Medela parts) but schlep the need-to-be-cleaned parts back and forth every day, along with the expressed milk. I'm looking for specific advice on what to buy or how to handle the following issues: *Bag / ice pack / something else (?) to keep the expressed milk cold after pumping and on my commute home. I'll have access to a refrigerator in my workspace, but I'm actually renting an office within another company's space, I don't know anybody there, and I'm not sure how comfortable I'll feel leaving breastmilk in the communal fridge, especially at first. *Stuff to clean the pump parts in between sessions. Especially at first I just can't imagine walking into the shared kitchen with flanges leaking breast milk and washing them in the sink--so, what is the best solution here? Wiping down with paper towels? Something else? *Anything else that will make my life easier on the pumping front--either tips, or things to buy. I have a Simple Wishes pumping bra and the actual pump (with one set of accessories) but that's about it. For some reason, this is the single piece of going back to work that is really, really stressing me out, and I feel like I haven't been successful in finding "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Pumping At Work" so I feel totally lost. I'm hoping other pumping mefite mamas can help me out here.

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White Power and apocalyptic cults- Pro-DPRK Americans revealed: An in-depth examination by Nate Thayer of the history, ideologies and personalities of American pro-North Korea political organizations.

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So I've gotten it into my head that sometime in the next few years -- possibly as early as 2015 -- I want to participate in the Seattle-to-Portland bike ride. Though doing it in 1 day sound like a cool accomplishment, 2 days would be fine. Difficulty level: I have zero experience with distance riding, am in somewhat poor shape, have no idea what I'm doing, and, to the delight of shopkeepers everywhere, am a total sucker for trying to combat my ignorance with my wallet.My background: I've been riding casually for years, though generally just toodling around for no more than 30 minutes at a time and rarely breaking a sweat. Right now I bike to my office every day... but it's only 1.5 miles each way, and I curse at the tiny-ass hill I have to climb every time. I know nothing about bikes, bike clothing, maintenance, riding etiquette, or how to fix my stupid kickstand so my bike won't fall down when breathed on. My current bike is a 5 year old Specialized Sirrus Hybrid. My helmet was the cheapest one on the shelf at the time of purchase. Talk me through the process of becoming a competent distance biker, from (reasonable) purchases through riding regimen. What kind of bikes do people ride for distance? (corollary: How much money am I about to drop on a bike?) Aluminum? Carbon? Potassium? (That would be a hell of a ride!) Disk brakes? Shifters? etc ad nauseum How much time do I need to devote each week to riding? I've seen the recommended distance workouts on STP's site but have no concept of how much time people spend on their thrice-weekly rides. I own no specific biking clothing. What's useful? Like, how many pairs of biking shorts should I have in my closet? (I live in Seattle, so: consistent drizzle.) Are hills ever enjoyable? What questions am I not asking that I should be? Beyond this ride, I like the idea of bike touring, possibly even trying multi-day trips involving camping or motels. But all on roads -- mountain biking is not my thing.

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I'm looking for a specific series of paintings (watercolors?) depicting characters from a hodgepodge of recent popular movies - Juno, Pacific Rim, Fargo, Hot Fuzz, Monsters University, Casino Royale, among others. Low detail, no background - mainly just characters on a beige/brown background.This is kind of a shot in the dark, as I have no idea if this artist is famous at all.

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I need some advice regarding where my family should live. My husband and I met on the West Coast, got married, and had our first baby. After our baby was born, we decided to move back East where our families are. His family is on one side of the state and my family on the other (about 4 hours apart). At the time, our work situations allowed both of us to move to his hometown because our companies happened to have offices here. I had always dreamed/planned to move to my hometown someday to be near my family but due to the work situations, it wasn't feasible to move there at that time. So we are currently living in his hometown, near his small family, who we don't see a ton. Recently, both of our work situations changed, and we are now both working from home, meaning we could live anywhere. In addition, we recently found out we are pregnant with our second child, and with two kids and demanding careers, it seems to make much more sense to live near my family since we have to much more support. So now we have to decide whether to move home near my family, which is where I want to be, or stay here, in the house we bought last year and in a town we have come to really like.In the year that we have lived here, I have wanted more and more to live near my family. I have a big family (about 20 relatives) who get together regularly for dinners, birthdays, etc. Basically, everyone is involved and supportive of each other, and loves to have fun. In addition, everyone is so helpful, whether it is last minute baby-sitting or shoveling snow when my husband is traveling, it would be so nice to have the support of my family since we both have demanding careers and a child. My husband's family is just one parent and one sibling. They do not get together often, we have been invited to his mom's house only twice in 15 months and they are the type who want to see us and our daughter when it's convenient for them and that's all. At the same time, if MIL doesn't see baby enough, she complains (and lies) about how long it's been. They aren't very helpful- the MIL cancels on babysitting or sometimes just says no, even if we just need help for an hour or two and she's going to be driving by our house, and husband's sibling has baby sat one time in 15 months. The MIL situation is an entirely different issue that I will not go into right now, but lets just say it's been a trying and not very pleasant year living near her. So now we want to move, and my husband says we can move anywhere I will be happy. However, it's just not that easy! I know deep down, my husband would not be as happy. All of his best friends are within two hours of us (meaning they will be 6+ hours away if we move), and he is even closer to his friends than his family, though he acknowledges that we can't plan our life around the friends he sees on average of once every other month. Furthermore, my husband (and I) loves our house, our neighborhood, our daughter's daycare and the town we live in. And then add in some practical issues such as having to sell our house, tell my husband's family (which they won't take well), and having to uproot our life again so soon after doing it once, are all issues holding me back. My husband says we can put the house on the market tomorrow if I want, and I've said for so long living near my family is what I want more than anything, but now that the opportunity is here, I am having trouble just doing it. Help!

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So I'm joining a Call of Cthulhu game, and my character, assigned by the GM, is that of a young lady (age 20), who is from one of the wealthy families of Venice, in the 1920's. She is educated and capable but nothing was expected of her except to marry well and produce children. But the sudden death of her father has thrown her life into turmoil. Are there any good books or movies I can watch that feature this type of woman in this time and place?There are questions I have, that the GM has said "you can decide that, because it doesn't matter for the story"-- but it does matter to me, to help figure out who this woman is, where she's come from, what kind of things she can do, and how she'll respond when tentacled horrors start coming out of the walls. So I want to decide, like, "how did her family make their money?" (because being the child of a financier is going to be different than being the child of an art smuggler or a vintner) Where did she go to school? Where did she travel? Can she ride a horse? Drive a car? Shoot a shotgun? I assume she's Catholic, but how devout? What kinds of experiences might she have had, and what is her day-to-day life like? A good book on just general life for the wealthy in 1920's Venice would be fine, but a story would also be welcome; bonus points if it's actually an enjoyable book or film!

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A few miles off the coast of Japan lies "Battleship Island," or Gunkanjima (軍艦島), the Japanese nickname for Hashima Island, due to its resemblance to the Japanese Tosa battleship. The island was formerly a densely populated coal mining town, purchased by Mitsubishi in 1890, but by the 1960s the coal was running out, and in 1974 the island was quickly vacated as Mitsubishi offered residents jobs elsewhere. Now, the island is an urban explorer's dream, though the island is not completely open to the public for tours. Last year, Google trekker walked the island, providing a virtual tour of the island. And if the roughly 40 year old ruins aren't foreboding enough, Bryan James put together a Chrome experiment called Hashima Island: Forgotten World, based on the Google maps tour of the site.

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I lost a lot of weight, and am looking for a plastic surgeon recommendation in the Alexandria, VA/DC area to help with some skin removal and breast reconstruction.After losing a significant amount of weight (fairly slowly), I'd like to meet with a plastic surgeon to discuss my options in dealing with sagging and extra skin. I have this in the usual places (breasts, arms/underarms, inner thighs, stomach), and while I think I can live with it in some places more than others, I'd like to meet with someone to discuss what's the best course of action for me. At the top of my list is wanting to have my breasts fixed. The other things bother me, but less so. I need a plastic surgeon who: - is experienced in dealing with the after-effects of considerable weight-loss - will help return me to where I naturally should have been had I not been overweight/obese; for example, I don't need my former larger breasts - I'm perfectly happy with more humble, smaller, breasts. I would like to not have any implants put in to return me to something big - but I have a lot of sagging skin. I live in Alexandria, but anyone in the greater DC area would still be ok. Many thanks. - preferably a female, but this isn't a must. - will not sugar-coat things and tell me all the amazing, wonderful things they'll do to make me look fantastic. I'm the kind of person who would much rather hear the honest truth about the expectations and what's involved, even if painful and negative, so that I can go in fully informed.

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In the first week of June I am going to NYC to visit a girl who I am hoping to woo. I have a pretty open window: the first day we are meeting is June 4th, and I'll be leaving that Sunday. Snowflake details inside.This is a girl I have known for a very long time and, for various reasons, we never really "gave it a shot." She essentially wants me to court her, and as such I will go to NYC and take her on a series of dates (we only have it set up to meet on Wednesday, but assuming that goes well will continue to see each other). Either way, I'm not sure what to do! She has lived in NYC all of her life and while I have been to NYC a number of times, do not know the city nearly as well. I'm trying to figure out what might be a good way to spend that first day together... I know she doesn't like super heavy food, she likes lighter meals (think Japanese), that sort of thing. She does like desert, but I shouldn't go overly heavy I think. She's not a big museum person. I'm at a big loss of what sorts of restaurants might be good, what parts of the city might be fun to walk around... Further, as the long weekend progresses, I'm not sure what else we can do. We can only walk around so much, right? I know I'm not going to be able to "impress" her with anything in NY, so I think my main bar is to just have a lot of thoughtful, interesting things planned that will give us a chance to connect and enjoy each other's company. Oh, and she isn't really a drinker so potential ideas for non-alcoholic destinations after dinner would be really great. Maybe late night desert spots, cute cafes, somewhere romantic with a nice view, that sort of thing. Any ideas?

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My friend was riding his bike through Brooklyn early Sat morning. Streets were quiet and he was not stopping at all the red lights, just slowing & crossing the (mostly) vacant intersections. Unbeknownst to him there was a cop in a patrol car following him about 1/2 a block back. After multiple blocks the cop finally pulled him over and issued separate tickets for every red light, totally about $800 worth. Although there is no dispute that he went through the lights, this was a very dick-ish move. How to protest in court?My question- Is there an angle that he can use to protest the multiple tickets? Could the officer's passivity to his repeated infractions be used as an argument to reduce the fines? Again , my friend does not dispute the activity and is perfectly willing to pay the fine for ONE violation. But I feel that if the officer knows the situation and in effect condones / ignores it for an extended period, is this some thing that can be leveraged when appearing in court in order to reduce the violations? I'm thinking along the lines that - running a red light is an infraction b/c it is a threat to public safety. - the officer knows from observed behavior that such an infraction has occurred and is likely to occur again. - yet he allows these to continue, putting both the offender and bystanders at risk. - etc. comments and advice please!

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Obsessive practice isn't the key to success. Spaced, interleaved, varied practice is.

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I am considering a set-top box for commercial video-streaming. An Amazon Fire TV + Amazon Prime + Netflix subscription sounds pretty good. Should I be looking at other hardware or services?I have a Linux-only house and an HTPC with a tv tuning card running XBMC; the proprietary, commercial video-streaming world is something I know about pretty much only from MeFi comments. I'd like a better/easier way to watch tv and movies than recording broadcast and playing physical DVDs. I'm not interested in games or a million gewgaws, but being able to play my existing video and music from a network-share drive would be good. The Amazon Fire TV seems like good hardware at a decent price; $100/year for Amazon prime and $8/month for Netflix seem like pretty good bang for the buck. (Checking canistreamit.com shows a bunch of things I'm interested in.) Anything else I should consider? (I'm not interested in copyright-violating approaches.)

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[Fritz Lang's] Metropolis and the posters of Boris Bilinsky.

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I'm wondering how to stop being clingy or needy to people. I find that it gets in the way of me meeting people especially when it comes to dating. I tend to text more than I should or come on too strong on occasion. And I overthink things more than I should. What should I do? I do maintain a busy life but I still make these bad judgments more than I should. I'm very picky if that helps.

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After some ups and mostly downs, my family thought we were finally going to get out of the dismal living situation we've been enduring for 2 years I spoke about in this anon question, but then life decided to completely derail, and I don't know what to do. Details inside.Pertinent situation details - Family of 3, we have his daughter (who I love as my own) about 35-40% of the time. We make just enough to not qualify for public assistance (I've looked into it extensively), not enough to save any money. I have cut out everything that can be cut out of our budget, live as frugally as possible while maintaining a roof over our heads/food on the table, and paying off debts we have from the past one at a time to repair our credit. Here's the (slightly edited for life updates/relevance) copied situation if you don't feel like clicking the link - "We have had to live in a room at a friends house since January of 2012, and due to income vs. bill output/cost of living, haven't been able to save up for a security deposit to get into a new place. The house rules are pretty strict because the owner has severe OCD, we can't have anything of ours outside our room, and can't really keep food in the house. He also keeps the house insanely cold, for most of this brutal NE winter he's had the heat totally off - the only room that is warm is ours, so we tend to stay in there. Unfortunately our budget doesn't really allow for us to take our daughter out to do things when we have her, so we engage and entertain the best we can with what we have. There is nowhere else for us to live at present, there are no other family or friends that have room for us/can help out financially." After posting that question (which had to do with ways to cope with her saying she wanted to go back to her moms quite a bit), we had the incredible luck of someone helping us out with a security deposit. We proceeded to start looking for places, and because of that cushion had the ability to start splitting up bills so we could start moving towards not living paycheck to paycheck. Everything was finally starting to turn around for us, when we got hit with the following triple whammy - -My fiance's car suddenly required a major necessary repair that cost $1200 to keep it driveable. -I got in a car accident from which the repair bill has been estimated (with second and third opinions) at $4800. That's with reduced labor and salvage parts. I still owe 12k on the car, and the damage did not total it. I could only afford the barest of insurance, and it will not cover any of the repairs. -A medical issue of my fiance's was randomly aggravated (most likely due to the stress of the previous events, and a serious injury to one of his parents) which requires an out of pocket expense of around $1500 over 1.5 month's period of time, ongoing. It's not something that can be put off due to medical necessity. I am at a loss as to what to do. We were able to cover the first car repair, which took away that cushion we were going to use to get a real home to live in. We are now down to one car, with him driving me to and from work every day, there is no public transportation that goes between where we live and my job. My credit is beyond poor because of the circumstances over the past 3 years, job losses, significant financial and life events, etc., and he hasn't had an opportunity to build any. We're working on trying to get him a starter credit card so that he can start to build some. The shop where my car is will not take payments, they require the full amount before they release my car to me. With the medical issue, we can barely keep his health situation from getting much worse as is until the treatment period is up. All we want to do is just have some shot at a normal life, with a safe and comfortable environment in which our daughter (about to turn 4) can thrive. We do all the right things to get ahead in life with with we have. Before my car accident, I was looking for a second job to work nights to try to create more savings/safety net for us for when these types of major life events happen...they just happened before we could save up the money to lessen the blow. Fiance works manual labor 8+ hours a day, so a second job isn't an option for him, plus someone has to be around to be with Daughter and it, of course, should be him over me. We'll be going in front of a loan revue board at a credit union next month to try and get a loan to cover some of the car repair, but even if we get approved with our poor credit and no co-signer, that's another monthly bill that I'm at a loss as to how to fit into our budget every month. So, AskMe.... are there ANY resources out there for a family in our situation? I am just at a complete loss as to what to do at this point. I am unbelievably thankful for any suggestion/ideas you may have.

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Hi! Over the weekend, the receiver/speaker combo I use to listen to vinyl and my iPhone (cobbled together from stuff friends didn't want anymore) reached a critical point of sounding crappy. Can you help me find a replacement?I would like to purchase something that can amplify the sounds coming out of my record player AND my iphone/ipad/laptop--bluetooth would be awesome. I live in a tiny studio apartment, so I would like for this thing to be small. Right now I'm losing precious floor space to a super heavy receiver and a pair of bulky speakers. I would love to have something I can put on a table or even move around my apartment with me. Budget is flexible, but would like to find a solution ~$200 if possible. My mom has a Jambox, which is basically exactly the price/size/quality I'm looking for--but I also want to be able to plug in my turntable. I'm pretty ignorant about terminology for this stuff, so my google searches are sending me in circles. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

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