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My new phone is a Sony XZ2 Compact. My car stereo is a Pioneer DEH-X7800DAB. My previous phone, a Sony Xperia Z3 Compact, connected and played music flawlessly. My new phone does not. It does connect, and the track names etc show up in the stereo's display, but I don't get any audio. The phone does however work as expected with my other car, a Renault Zoe with the factory integrated Bose stereo. I've tried restarting the phone, but I don't know what else to try. Any ideas?

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Fellow corporate stooges at large companies: How burdensome is the review process for minor purchase agreements?I'm at what is now a fairly large company which has been trying to catch up on some of our historically lax policies, like making sure we get legal to review things we sign first. I basically agree we were too lax before, and accept there's a corporate interest in that. On the other hand, I am currently trying to spend money on what is basically a glorified magazine subscription. It's a couple grand for my group, way under my signing limit, but they gave me a terms-and-conditions sheet to sign. The terms seem reasonable: Don't download our whole library and then cancel your subscription, also don't share accounts. But it's been in review for four weeks, our quote has expired, legal wanted an editable version of the document so they'll probably change it, we've had two rounds of IT security review with 40+ questions. This was triggered because we are giving them employee names to create account they now have "our data" and GDPR blah, blah, blah. (To make matters more ridiculous, I gave them the names *already* for an evaluation run, but since I didn't sign or pay anything it didn't trigger this particular process.) This sort of thing has been frustrating for a while. But we recently had a company survey where bureaucracy and efficiency ranked super low so I feel there's a slight chance I can make a real point with this as an example, as long as I don't overplay my hand and share my true feelings. ("How do you feel about the review team's execution?" "I'm all in favor it.") If you are a large company how burdensome are the processes you deal with? I'm especially interested in this sort of relatively minor expenditure for an off-the-shelf service.

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I feel like the music video had a high point in the '90s and then I stopped paying attention. Please recommend me 2 or 3 videos from the last while that are must-see, be it for artistry, originality, infamy, whatever. Context would be appreciated. I have seen This Is America.

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"The sheer invisibility of Native people leads to some very warped perspectives about contemporary Native life. Forty percent of respondents did not think that Native people still exist. While 59 percent agree that 'the United States is guilty of committing genocide against Native Americans,' only 36 percent agree that Native Americans experience significant discrimination today — meaning nearly two-thirds of the public perceive Native Americans as experiencing little to no oppression or structural racism... ." Reclaiming Native Truth's report on how the American public views Native Americans. "Respondents also held stereotypical and contradicting views that Native Americans are both poor and flush with casino money, both spiritually focused and addicted to drugs and alcohol, and both resilient and dependent on government benefits. Many participants expressed the misconception and even resentment that Native Americans get 'free money,' with one respondent stating, 'They get a monthly stipend if they are at least 1/16th Native American'"

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My city is experiencing a bus service meltdown that appears to have been totally avoidable. I learned about it through a local daily free paper and a local blog, but the city's paper of record has not seen fit to cover the story. I'm pisssssssssed and would like to let the world know about it. Should I write to the paper asking them to cover it OR should I submit a letter to the editor?Looking for pros and cons for the two options - what's more likely to achieve my goal of getting the dang paper to at least mention this failure? Here's a blog post about the situation (including a gripe that the Chronicle isn't covering it). I am already writing to the mayor and my district supervisor.

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We have Philips Sonicare toothbrushes and we need new brush heads. Branded heads are expensive, but it sounds like unbranded heads are often soft. What's a good balance between cost and benefit?We got two Philips Sonicare 2 Series Plaque Control Sonic Electric Rechargeable Toothbrushes a while back. Now I see that Sonicare has some sensor in its heads, which I can't use and don't want (less tech trash, please), and they're really expensive. But the discount no-brand heads sound like they're often soft, and there are so many options, so I'll ask MeFites for suggestions. Thanks!

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My grandma is nearing 90, and increasingly suffering from symptoms of dementia and trouble hearing, along with generally frail health. I'm ~7000 miles away but still struggling with this. How do folks cope?I've mentioned my grandmother on here previously. SHe's come to visit from Thailand a few times over the past couple of years , and every time mom and I wonder if this time will be the last. Grandma is now quite paranoid, and her fears and sense of persecution are causing mom and I a lot of emotional distress. My coping mechanism has basically been quiet withdrawal, especially if mom talks to grandma on the phone. These are unpleasant conversations even from a couple rooms away, full of mom yelling to be heard, and constantly repeating herself. Grandma, meanwhile, struggles to understand what's being said and has more than once sounded very close to tears, if not actually crying, it's honestly hard to tell. I feel guilty about my withdrawal. I do my best to support mom before/after any conversations, and listen to her if she has to vent. I don't really get a lot out of talking to grandma myself, due to a combination of hearing loss and my own lack of great Thai language skills. Mom has mentioned that some people she's spoken to suggest that grandma would be a lot happier here. I'm not sure how I feel about that, I have a visceral fear of seeing her decline up close, more than I already have. At the same time, I worry that she will pass on quietly in Thailand one day, and nobody will be there, or... This is text-book catastrophizing, of course. There's a lot of complicated drama around mom's relationship with grandma, even before all this started, but it's kind of peripheral to the question I'm wondering about, how else can I cope/how have you done so? Am I wrong-headed for avoiding the stress of conversations with her as much as I can?

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Assume that I am going to take motion sickness medication. Assume that this medication makes me drowsy. How can I limit or manage this drowsiness?I am going on holiday to Hawaii with my husband and kids soon, and will need to take motion sickness medication on at least 4 of the the 7 days of our travel. I take either Gravol (Dramamine I think?) or Bonine which both combat the motion sickness very well. But they both make me very drowsy. Gravol makes me drowsy sooner and Bonine later but both will hit me with bouts of very intense drowsiness. I have tried all of the various other options for motion sickness and none of them work as well as the medication. What can I do to best manage the drowsiness? I think that I know the general types of suggestions like sleep well / eat well / exercise / limit alcohol etc. but I am looking for specific things to do when the drowsiness hits. Nap? (I don't want to sleep away my holiday and a nap is not always practical, but if this is the best way to get past the drowsiness let me know I guess) Run? (Can I burn if off somehow?) Jump in the ocean? (Shock it out?) Drink tons and tons of water? (Flush it out?) Eat something special? (Magic fruit? Lots of protein? No protein? etc.) Something else? I also know to try to plan when I take the medication to get drowsy at night if I can, but that is not always an option. Please tell me what has worked for you!

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I need some bungee cords for general travel use, attaching packages and extra bags to my main rolling bag, on an impromptu basis. All bungee cords are not created equal! This is one of those types of things where it's a commodity product, but there are definite winners and losers. And then, maybe there's a neat indie product or creative solution out there that's even a tad innovative? 15-30" is probably the range I'm interested in.

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Half a billion years ago, Habelia optata lived and hunted prey at the bottom of a warm shallow Cambrian sea. Protected by its thick, hard, spiny armor, it walked on five pairs of articulated legs. Only 2 to 3 centimeters long, it detected and grasped smaller less fortunate animals. With its many comparatively large jaws, it cracked through the hard shells of its prey. How Art Makes Better Science: a short case study of the 2-D and 3-D interpretations by Joanna Liang of one of the many weird creatures of the Burgess Shale. via The second video in the main link gives a good overview of the process.

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Can you help me remember the title of a YA novel that has a character in it who may or may not be imaginary who only speaks in song quotes? He quotes CSNY's line "we are stardust / we are golden / we are billion year old carbon" and I think something from REM's Shiny Happy People.I read this book in about 1995-1997. It was contemporary at the time. My copy was a purple hardback. Other things I remember: the characters are in high school. The main characters are two twins, a boy and a girl; the narrator; and the narrator's imaginary friend. Other things I think I might remember: the imaginary character's name begins with an R. The story might be the narrator's coming out story. I think when the narrator figures out their sexuality that their imaginary friend disappears.

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There is a particular style of magic trick that involves the audience member making choices that eventually lead to a very specific choice, such as a specific playing card, and it turns out the magician has predicted this all along. I'd like to convert this into a CYOA/Twine-esque game, but there's a couple of tricky programming ideas I'd like input on. MAGIC SPOILERS INSIDE.So the trick generally works by the magician making a hidden prediction, then telling the audience member(s) some kind of story and the audience making choices that lead to the prediction. For instance, the choice tree may be: 1. Red vs Black 2. Hearts/Spades vs Diamonds/Clubs 3. Picture/Court Cards vs Number Cards 4. Even or Odd (if it's a Number card) 5. The specific card - this may take a few goes if we're starting from a pool of more than 2 MAGIC SPOILERS NEXT MAGIC SPOILERS NEXT MAGIC SPOILERS NEXT MAGIC SPOILERS NEXT MAGIC SPOILERS NEXT The trick behind this is that no matter what choice the audience member makes, the story shifts to make sure the choices keep the predicted card in the running. For instance, if the desired card is a Red card: - The audience member chooses Red: "Great, let's go with that then and continue" - The audience member chooses Black: "OK, we've eliminated that choice, let's continue" (If this is being told as a story there's usually a plot contrivance that reflects that choice. For example, one version I heard had the cards eventually end up in some deserted island after a shipwreck, and the Red vs Black choice was which set survived the shipwreck. If they chose [Desired Color], they got on lifeboats and rowed to the island; if they chose [Other Color], then that colour got rescued and eliminated, while [Desired Color] were adrift at sea and eventually floated to the island.) The basis of it could work as a Twine game already, though the danger is that if you preset it with a specific prediction, if you play it enough times (even just twice) you'll figure out that no matter what, you'll choose the same card. So ideally the game could generate a prediction ahead of time and then change the variables around to make sure the choices still worked - for example, replacing [Desired Colour] & [Other Colour] in the shipwreck story above with whatever is relevant to the pre-generated prediction. How do you do that with Twine/Javascript/maybe some other language? In terms of the prediction, my idea was to give the player a password-protected file that they had to download first, then when they're done with the story they get the password to unlock the file and it holds their prediction. I want this to be a downloadable file because otherwise people might claim that it just gets changed or manipulated online while the story progresses, whereas they should be able to give that file to a friend and then that friend can open the file offline, if they want. I couldn't figure out a format that worked though. Word docs can be password-protected, though that depends on the other person having Word in the first place. I think some Zip files can be password-protected but I don't know if you need to have a specific program to use that function. What sort of file format works across platforms? Also, if we go the prediction-is-autogenerated route, what sort of way would we generate that file? It can be as simple as an image or text file. Side note: I had been imagining this as a Twine game, which I think runs on Javascript, but am open to other programming languages or game systems if there's one that works better.

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I am on maternity leave with a 7 week old and by the time dinner rolls around I am spent. But tonight I became an alchemist and mixed a packet of harissa skillet sauce by Saffron road with ground turkey. OMG it was so easy and delicious. I want to rely more on the formula of ground turkey + sauce packet. I am far from inexperienced with prepared foods but I haven't ever cooked with those packets before. Do you have any specific recommendations?

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The last of San Francisco's series of now-defunct amusement parks was Playland at the Beach, which closed in 1972. in 2008, Playland Not-At-The-Beach opened to the public across the Bay in El Cerrito. It contains memorabilia related to Playland, Sutro Baths, a miniature version of the Sells-Floto Circus created by Isaac and Donald Marcks, a variety of pinball machines and other amusements, and even a room devoted to Eartha Kitt. Unfortunately, the building is slated to be demolished and like its predecessor, replaced with condos, so Playland Not-At-The-Beach is closing Labor Day 2018, and its contents will be auctioned.

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Difficulty: burgundy.This is for someone who is 5 feet tall and large chested, so need to be able to wear a bra. Color can be in any shade of burgundy/wine/maroon range. Thanks!

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...and I guess this is what vertigo feels like when you're sleeping? YANMD, but has this happened to you, and then what?This morning I awoke with a shriek when it felt like my bed was flipping over. It was terrifying! So I guess this is vertigo? I slept a bit more and then opened my eyes to a bit of a merry-go-round view of my ceiling. Then I slept more. That was it, and though I've felt a little bit groggy and hungover most of the day I feel fine. I am terrified this is going to happen to me when I'm standing up. What are your similar experiences and how did it play out? Obviously everyone will advise me to go to the doctor, but I'd also love to hear about real experiences from the green. Other things: -I'm healthy, I have zero history of health problems and take no meds (except calcium chews and the occasional multivitamin); I've been to a doc one once in the last five years; -I'm intermittently active these days, mostly walking and regular short bike commutes; -I'm pretty good nutritionally and aside from my daily cuppa java, I drink only water (and maybe a glass of wine or beer 2-4 days a week); -We fell asleep at a crazy early hour last night and slept at least nine hours; -No family history of anything like this as far as I know; -I visited a chiropractor every 10 days or so for about 2 months, but it ended a month ago; -I'm 50 and female.

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We live way out in the country and we bought a cell phone signal booster which is giving us 3 bars on a flip-phone (before we were getting 1 bar) but now we want to see if we can get Internet on a smartphone but have been told it varies from one phone to another. Any suggestions?We are on Verizon and we can change carriers but we have also been told that ability to get Internet varies from one phone to another. Would an iPhone be better than a Samsung Android phone? Does model year make a difference between one brand of phones? Or does it even matter? Any other tips appreciated!

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It's weird.We live on two floors. We sleep in a space that is 4 feet below ground level in a brownstone. I've had this Huawei Nexus 6p phone for about 2 years. Starting today, it will not make or receive phone calls when I'm in the bedroom. It just never connects. It has no problem making or receiving phone calls upstairs in the living room/kitchen area. Also, it connects to the internet just fine on my home wifi and also sending and receiving texts works fine. I called the Verizon (my carrier) guy and he said there was only so much he could do because I didn't buy the phone from Verizon. We did a bunch of troubleshooting and he said maybe it's because they're phasing out the CDMA signal from my neighborhood (?). He said the phone seems to have a good LTE signal, though. He suggested I get a VOIP app to make calls with, and when I asked for suggestions, he said I should call Huawei (really??) This is very inconvenient because I'm in the bedroom a lot and need to be able to make and receive phone calls! Any ideas appreciated, including for a VOIP app (I don't really know how to set this up.) Thanks.

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carter jr. likes Roblox, and wants to experiment with Roblox Studio (the developer tool). However I am having a difficult time trying to figure out what the Studio will run on. Mac and PC, obviously (?), but anything else? We have some Kindle Fires and a Chromebook lying around for his use. Thank you!I emailed Roblox support, but no reply (yet). If Roblox Studio does require a PC, any recommendations for a lower end/refurbed laptop that it would run on would also be appreciated. Thanks again!

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I have to be in Portland, OR on Monday August 20 and have a place for my 9 year old and I to stay. But I want to do *something* on Tuesday, maybe stay somewhere Tuesday night, and return to Seattle on Wednesday. Suggestions?I don't want to have to lug tons of camping stuff. Beach? Mountains? Whatever. Kid likes fishing. We both like beaches. We have a Washington state parks pass. Could access an Oregon state parks pass probably. It looks like it will be super hot.

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Help me buy a new nose screw!After almost ten years of it faithfully adorning my face, I managed to lose the (I think?) surgical stainless steel nose screw I've had since I got the piercing. I quickly ordered a new nose screw and nose ring from Etsy, but was really disappointed in the quality. Can anyone suggest an online source for quality nose jewelry? (Google is mostly showing me stuff like Claire's and Hot Topic which I'm...dubious about). If the best bet is to get one in person, can you recommend any piercing shops or jewelry stores in the Bay Area (preferably Oakland or downtown SF) with good selections? Thanks!!

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This week is National Afternoon Tea (not High Tea) Week. But what is Afternoon Tea? It can be simple (scones, jam, cream, tea) or elegant or expensive. There are do's and dont's. It's not this, or this, and just c'mon, but is found in Yorkshire or Bolton or Liverpool or London or Belfast or (suspended reality) Harrogate or the Falklands or far from Britain. Some options, and more and some more - and one to reignite the English class war. The tea can be red and the food can be based around chocolate or a Dundee cake or dim sum or fish or of course gin or fruit or Harry Potter, or be for dogs, or be oh not again served by hipsters. Or, you could make your own, perhaps a healthy option, or construct one at Ikea. May attract criminals or Her Majesty. Clothing optional.

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Advert for cat caring job on Greek isle brings deluge of candidates. "From experience, the job is most suitable for someone 45+ years of age, who's responsible, reliable, honest, practically inclined – and really with a heart of gold! You will at times be expected to trap or handle a feral or non-sociable cat ... so cat whispering skills should come natural to you."

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I was here earlier bemoaning my mindless "technical writing" job that is actually just assembly-line-style copyediting; now I have an interview invitation to an actual technical writing position and I'm feeling pretty defeatist about my ability to convince them that I'm qualified to do a job I currently hold in title only.My questions/requests related to this are threefold. - I need an attitude adjustment. I am feeling kind of sorry for myself that my week has been invaded by this new intimidating challenge instead of excited about an opportunity for changing my life. I know there will never be a "good" time for putting myself out there or carving out the time for an interview, so it might as well be now, but that's as far as I got. Any thoughts about how to frame this as a good thing without ratcheting up the pressure to succeed at it? - Personal anecdotes. Have you done well in an interview that was a stretch for your skills? How did you talk yourself into feeling like you belonged there? How did you respond to questions intended to "catch" people with thin qualifications without sounding guilty or dishonest? - Positive, encouraging interview advice resources. The internet is full of scare-mongering interview advice about how easy it is to throw an interview, and I would like to avoid that stuff because I've already done a good job of intimidating myself, but still could use some good sample questions/advice on answering them.

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Why does my dog, who loves walks, always act so nervous during the buildup to a walk?My little dog generally loves going on walks. Like most dogs, I guess, it's kind of the highlight of his tiny life. He sniffs everything, he pees on things, he walks very fast with his little butt wiggling to-and-fro, you get the idea. HOWEVER, when he is getting ready for this walk, he acts like he's being prepared for the guillotine. When he sees the harness and leash come out, he shrivels up like a raisin and trembles. He usually has to be carried all the way down the stairs to take the walk. Once he's outside it's all butt wiggles and sniffs. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else's dog does this, if it's a tiny dog quirk, or if it indicates something I should be worried about. Even better yet, if there's one weird trick that will make him feel more confident about going on a walk! We used to do the excited "wanna go for a walk?!" routine, but since his reaction was always muted at best, we kind of stopped making a big deal about it. Far and away, the leash and harness represent "a fun walk" more often than "going to the vet" or something else unpleasant.

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