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I have a future plan which includes working in an ivory tower then sliding into the political scene after I rub elbows with those who hold the power and money. I wish to participate in online discussions, but am worried about future foes using my words out of context or my attempts at humour winding up being offensive. Do I just continue to watch conversations from the sideline or should I just try to be careful with my commentary?I've deleted many traces of my online involvement in controversial issues and have scrubbed quite a bit of my social media sites clean before privacy became a major concern. I have been on and off of meta since the mid-noughties having trashed a previous account in the middle of a manic breakdown. Since then I have used it mainly to find viewpoints in answers to questions similiar to my own (Like a way better Yahoo Answers of life) and to just browse interesting topics About a year ago I decided to join again but have kept pretty (completely) silent until yesterday. Before I continue in adding to the book of meta I was wondering if I'm paranoid, over thinking the situation, or have some reasonable concerns. (talking out philosophical views with others helps me hone my own more than just reading other's discourse) Thank you.

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How do Colombian think? The do's and dont's of doing business in Colombia.Background: I have some proprietary knowledge that can make companies a lot of money (let's say chemical industry). I am very close to a deal in Asia. I understand the mentality there very well. I tried to do Business in Russia too but results have been disappointing so far, even before the collapse of their currency. They have a way of being paranoid in their thinking. (Please understand that this is not meant judgmental, it is based on their history and may have them served well). Now I found a company in Colombia. I never heard of it before and I know they should be tremendously interested in what I have to offer. The only way that they would walk away from my proposal would be if they are too stupid to understand what I am offering them. Also, Colombia has a free trade agreement with the USA, we could serve the US market. This makes this so interesting. I have been to Colombia, I like Colombia, I don't speak Spanish (but Portuguese). Likely the company will be able to communicate with me in English but a language barrier is always a huge problem, besides trust. I don't want to "burn" this opportunity. I Russia I basically did "cold calling" and I think this was a very bad idea. In Asia I had someone open a door for me. My Questions: 1. How do Colombians think? Are they paranoid? Do they have an inferior complex when doing business with a "gringo"? I want to understand their way of thinking. 2. How should I approach them? How important is it to have someone make the contact for me or could I just email them? I have not emailed them in the last 2 months because I really want to have the right start. 3. I don't know the financials of this company. Likely they won't be able to pay me and my partners what we are asking for. That is fine. This time we actually would prefer to be paid in equity. This is a tremendous opportunity for both sides due to the free trade agreement with the US. How likely is it that a Colombian company would be willing to do such a deal? How open are they to partners? (Chinese companies dislike such things). I am sure there are Colombians on Metafiler and I would appreciate any help/suggestions/advice.

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The Turn of the Century Posters that Warned against the Horrors of a World with Women's Rights

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I have a fairly painful toothache due to an exposed nerve that started a couple days ago. Unfortunately, I couldn't get in to see a dentist until next Tuesday, but the pain is definitely getting worse. I'm probably going to go to the campus clinic tomorrow to see if I can get some painkillers (and maybe antibiotics if they decide I need them), but are there any other ideas out there for dealing with tooth pain? I'm not a huge fan of taking opiates for longer than I need to (drowsiness, addictive potential, acetaminophen side effects, etc.), and I've found that the oral numbing gel is ineffective.

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It hurts me to recognize that I will never be the person I have dreamed of. How can I learn to be okay with this?Whenever I think about my life it seems like a series of endless failures and disappointments; the truth is I don't think there is anything I have ever excelled at. I'm not meaning to say I don't have interests – I have many of those: Middle Eastern and Central Asian studies, writing, chess, photography, geography, raising exotic spiders and collecting insects, etc. – but that I have never succeeded in anything or accomplished anything. In school, I failed basically every course, and in fact some schools only graduated me because "it was in everyone's best interest" that I move on, as if I was too young to understand what that meant. Extracurricular activities weren't any easier for me; I have dreadful motor skills and equally dreadful social skills. To this day I have still never succeeded in completing a degree in anything. Over a year ago I did complete truck driving school but even then I came bottom of the class, having failed it twice. What I really desire is to be able to come out on top for once, to no longer receive sad facial expressions combined with overused cliches like, "What matters is you tried," or, "Who cares if you failed – You tried!", but to truly be recognized as talented and admirable. My idol-nemesis, i.e., the person I wish I was and hate myself for not being, is Magnus Carlsen, the 24-year-old World Chess Champion and the highest ranked chess player in history. Fame, fortune, looks, talent, how I wish I was him instead of me. Obviously I will never be someone as exceptional as he is, and despite recognizing this rationally, I find that it is extremely hard to accept emotionally. Never amounting to anything other than a nameless, faceless someone with no exceptional abilities and never accomplishing anything other than what most people I know already have is intensely disappointing to me. To which I ask, how do I learn to stop feeling so disappointed in who I am?

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I have a bunch of text messages that I need to use to substantiate certain statements. I would like to export many messages from my phone, for two reasons...1. To prevent against loss or theft of the phone 2. To present the messages in organized, time-stamped manner, clearly indicating the names of the several conversants. Preliminary research suggests I will need to purchase some software; that's OK with me, just looking for the "right" software. If I'm mistaken please enlighten! I am using iPhone 5S still running iOS 7.1.2. The transfer will be made to a MacBook Pro early 2011 running Mavericks. On Preview I see something from 2013 called Phoneview... is that still the king? Things move fast, may be something new and better... Thanks!

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Anyone have any creative ways to generate income with a property other then renting or selling it? This is a multi-million dollar property I am in possession of, but can't sell or rent. It's located in NJ about 30 minutes from NYC.

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I'm pregnant. Do I tell the boy*?Obviously I do not plan to keep it, or else hiding it wouldn't be an option. I don't really know how to process this. This is only my 2nd hetero relationship, not used to the idea of pregnancy, this is all so weird. About the nature of our relationship: Boy and I have been dating a little over 3 months. We are not technically in an exclusive relationship, though both of us have expressed we have no desire to really date anyone else. He is pretty much the deciding factor keeping us from being partners. This doesn't worry me too much. After our first encounter (sort of spontaneous date), we both kinda fell for each other. That same week, after talking nearly every day, he said something along the lines of "you're smart and funny and honestly the nicest person I've ever met. I want you in my life, at least in some capacity." My response was basically "duh, you dork. We're dating now". For the first 2 weeks we'd talk nearly every day, until it eventually fell into a more normal pattern of talking every few days, sometimes once a week, because we have work and things. I had also, a month ago, been planning on moving to a city ~5 hours away sometime in february. When I brought this up with him, his practical response was that he was contemplating moving in with his brother to a city ~1.5 hrs away from my new city, which according to him, was pretty doable. He wouldn't be moving as soon as me, but it would be better. His adorable response that came later during tickle fights/pillow talk was "you're so pretty. I've never thought about moving to (your new city before) but I might have a good reason to check it out. IDK I hear it's cool". So, he's expressed that he's at least thought about us long term, that he's not interested in dating other people, etc. But he is keeping me sort-of at a distance, with the refusing to label me his girlfriend. But from what I know, his last relationship didn't end well. He'd dated her for a long while, moved to her state to be with her, but there was betrayal on her end (she cheated), and she was potentially emotionally or physically abusive (he has a scar on his arm he attributes to her, from a fight, but I don't know the full details). But other than this label, our relationship is steadily becoming pretty relationshippy. We also have had "serious" conversations before. This is me. He escalated the physical aspect of our relationship extremely fast, there were consequences (for me, and my mental health), and we've had a couple discussions about them. There was much apologizing on his end for fucking up, and he's since been much better. He also encouraged me to open up to him about those things, in a "I need to know what not to do, and how to be better toward you" kind of light. I've given him vague, broad details. He hasn't always responded perfectly, but he has been pretty open to discussion about his reactions and how they make me feel. Here's where I'm at right now: •I want to tell him. I want us to move into partner status. I kinda feel like, if I can't share important things like this with someone, then they're not worth relationship effort. But should this really be the deciding point? •My anxiety and depression have given me a lot of resentment for always feeling alone and isolated. Silent suffering kind of deal. If I can't share my feelings with my partner, I know it will grow into resentment toward them and I will push them away, and feel alone, which will probably spiral into self loathing. •I really hate the idea that pregnancy is the women's responsibility, that it's something that just happens to women. But, unfortunately, society does and I'm afraid that telling him will scare him away. •Not telling him seems disrespectful, somehow. I don't like secrets. •If I do tell him, when? After the procedure? When I've got an appointment date set? •How should I phrase it? "I'm pregnant." "I need an abortion" .... how do you say it that doesn't sound like you're dropping a bomb on someone. Input from guys who have received this information early on is greatly appreciated. Girls who have been in the same situation, please advise. This shit is....shitty. *(I realized at the end that "the boy" sounds flippant, but it's actually a term of endearment, a la the little mermaid & "Kiss the girl" aksthegreenanonymously@gmail.com for private answers via email.

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Recommend me a neat 2015 wall calendar whose purchase benefits a good cause!

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Snapshots of LGBT life in Midcentury America Coursey of the ONE national gay and lesbian archives at the University of southern California libraries.

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Ars Technica's Lee Hutchinson reviews a military grade F-18 flight simulator.

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I'm trying to find some music with simple instrumentation and composition with a focus on drums/percussion/heavy guitar and intense/strong vocals. I'm not sure how to describe what I'm looking for, but I do have a couple of examples. I blame the bear for reviving this intense need...I wish there were a way to put my finger on it, but there's something about the combination that doesn't let up for me, but sadly the two songs that fit it perfect are kind of short. Kaneda's Theme was my first taste of this weird sweet spot, but that's been one of my jams for over ten years... I desperately need more.

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My 9-year-old daughter has an old wifi-only iPhone. Her 9-year-old friend has an old wifi-only android phone (i.e., neither is on a contract). They want to be able to message each other for free. What's the best option?Constraints: (1) Texting isn't an option; the phones aren't on cellular and no one has a texting plan. (2) Someone in a previous thread suggested AIM. It's currently my top contender, but AIM requires you to be 13 for an account. (I could lie, of course---but is there a better option?) (3) What's App has been suggested. There is a $1/year charge, and there's some concern (from the other mother especially) that it asks for/shares too much personal information about the kids. Plus apparently it was just bought by Facebook. (4) Ability to set up whitelists would be awesome.

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I've been putting this off for too long, so it's time to see an optometrist. Ideally in the inner east side, or around Portland State. Thanks!

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It's finally Friday, and I feel like celebrating with a smooth grooving' twist... and a little mashed potato and a little... If you don't do it, you're just considered out. ... and go like this! Oh Rob! Twistin' (and more) with the Kang! They're doin' it in Italy! (if you can get past the ads, it's worth it). They're doin' it in France! They're doing it in Scotland.. and they won't stop! Even in Japan -- though without music, apparently. You can do it too!

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We're going to be in Austin for several days before and including Christmas Day. What is there to do on Christmas Day, including places to eat (bonus for vegetarian) - i.e., what's open?

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I am taking my partner on a long weekend trip to Truth or Consequences, NM as a Christmas gift. I don't know the area at all, so I'm looking for suggestions on what not to miss while we're there.We will be there from Friday Jan 16 through Monday Jan 19, and we will be driving from Albuquerque. I've booked the hotel already (Fire and Water Lodge) for those dates. Neither of us is a huge fan of the cold, so any nearby winter-specific outdoor activities (skiing, etc.) are out. I'm open to both places to stop on the way to/from T or C and things to do while there. My car is not meant for anything extreme, so please don't recommend that I drive us up a steep, windy dirt road to the top of a snowy mountain or anything. Budget is flexible, but I'd prefer to keep the costs down when reasonable to do so. About us: We both like good beer and wine, nice food of all varieties (no dietary restrictions), artsy things, mildly strenuous outdoorsy things (no 15 mile hikes, but shorter hikes welcome), weird local kitch, local history/culture. We are both in our 20s, she is female, I am male. I have zero interest in getting a massage or anything like that, but she might be into it, so if you know of a good place that she would enjoy going alone for a bit, feel free to send it my way. Bonus points for cute ideas about how to present this gift visually in a wrapped box that she can open on Christmas morning. Thanks Metafilter, you're the best!

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"'It really speaks to the lack of access to health insurance that's particularly predominant within the Latino community,' says Sarah de Guia, executive director of the California Pan-Ethnic Health Network, an advocacy group. Latinos make up 62 percent of the uninsured, she says, either because they can't afford to pay for health insurance, or because they're afraid that signing up for coverage will expose family members who aren't lawfully present in the U.S." California Whooping Cough Infections Run High Among Latino Babies, NPR. More about pertussis: "Although cases of pertussis have dropped dramatically in the United States since the introduction of the pertussis vaccine, the disease has caused widespread outbreaks in recent years. In 2012, nearly 50,000 cases of pertussis were reported in the United States, the most cases since 1955. Twenty pertussis deaths were reported in 2012. Fifteen of those deaths occurred in infants too young to have received the vaccine. Pertussis also remains a major problem in the developing world. The World Health Organization estimates that pertussis caused 89,000 deaths worldwide in 2012. "The tendency of pertussis to be milder in adults, sometimes escaping diagnosis, further complicates disease transmission. The coughing associated with the disease may be mild enough in an adult case to be written off as a simple cold. The adult, however, will still be contagious and can easily spread the disease to infants too young to be vaccinated, or to individuals whose immunity has waned." From January 2, 2014 – New California Law Requires Doctor's Note For Vaccine Exemptions... But There's An Out, by Claire Trageser for KPBS: "But there's a way around this new requirement. "The new form also has a box that says the family belongs to a religion that prohibits 'seeking medical advice or treatment.' If parents check this box, they don't need a doctor's signature to exempt their children from vaccinations." September 2, 2014 – Plunge in kindergartners' vaccination rate worries health officials, LA Times: "California parents are deciding against vaccinating their kindergarten-age children at twice the rate they did seven years ago, a fact public health experts said is contributing to the reemergence of measles across the state and may lead to outbreaks of other serious diseases. "The percentage of kindergartens in which at least 8% of students are not fully vaccinated because of personal beliefs has more than doubled as well, according to data on file with the state. That threshold is significant because communities must be immunized at a high rate to avoid widespread disease outbreaks. It is a concept known as herd immunity, and for measles and whooping cough at least 92% of kids need to be immune, experts say." December 8, 2014 – NPR's Morning Edition, Health Shots: When It Comes To Day Care, Parents Want All Children Vaccinated, Patti Neighmond, NPR News. Transcript. Further links Pertussis (whooping cough) page – includes vaccination recommendations, data, recommendations, fact sheets, and more. (California Department of Public Health) Fact sheets in PDF format, in English and in Spanish, at the Contra Costa Health Services website. Vaccine-preventable outbreaks map – just tick 'whooping cough' and apply to see the map results. (Council on Foreign Relations, wikipedia entry here.) Why vaccinate? – The History of Vaccines See also: Misconceptions about Vaccines, from the same website. PDF summary reports of number of cases of pertussis in California., latest report from November 2014 (CA.gov) California Pan-Ethnic Health Network (About page). Previously: Vaccination map of Los Angeles schools

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hello, i'm new to metafilter. happy to be here. this is a cool video of how surface texture affects blood stain patterns. happy friday!

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I need the BEST CHERRY CORDIALS IN THE WORLD that can be ordered online and mailed!My dad loves those cherry cordials. I love my dad. His actual gift won't arrive by Xmas, so I would like to send him some cherry cordials, and I'm hoping that Metafilter's Chocolate Snobs can point me towards some wonderful chocolatiers that do mail order. No Queen Anne's or Brach's, please. Ideally they will be: - not too sugary. I know that's a weird thing to ask for in a candy, but you know how cheap candy tastes? Think the opposite of that. - available in a small package. He's one guy, he doesn't need six dozen of them. 4-6 will be fine. - able to be delivered by Dec 24th The best suggestions will be places that you have personally experienced. Thanks!

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My loyalties are firmly in the Apple camp. I've owned many iPhones, iPads and various Macs. However, I know nothing about Android devices... and it's about time I learn. I'm a self proclaimed tech geek for pity's sake, but yet I am woefully ignorant about all things Android. I want to change this!It's almost Boxing Day in Canada (it's about as crazy as Black Friday in the states), and it should be a good time for me to pick up something to play with. Given the price point I'm hoping for it'll probably mean I'm getting a tablet, but an unlocked phone would work as well. My criteria are: * price - I'd rather not spend more than $200, less is better than more * version - I'd like something that'll have (or could be upgraded to) Lollipop, and bonus if i can upgrade it as newer versions come out * not a complete piece of crap, hardware wise. It's ok if it's older hardware, but I'm not interested in a cheap knockoff brands or anything that will make me want me to throw it out the window. * works with the google play store? (ie not anything Amazon-branded?) Things I don't care about: * screen size or resolution * memory, drive space, etc Any idea on what I should be looking at in order to get a non-crappy first Android experience? This question was inspired by the fact my local (canadian) best buy currently has an 'Asus MeMO Pad 7"' on sale for $100, but the specs say its upgradable to Android 4.4 (KitKat). I can't quite figure out if that also means I can also upgrade to Lollipop. (I'm ok with rooting the device or futzing a bit if necessary, as long as there's instructions online somewhere.) I came this close to purchasing the Asus on impulse, but then figured I should actually do some research first. Hence, I came here! I know there are some good Google and Samsung tablets out there, as well as other big names, but it's a little overwhelming when trying to chose something. I'd prefer to buy online (as long as they'll ship to canada) but B&M works too (I noticed several options at Costco, for example...). Suggestions?

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I'm applying for an H1-b visa to enter the US. All my documents are ready. All I need to do now is go to the embassy in London: I have an appointment on Monday, which is the 22nd. The problem is this: I already have a flight booked back to the US on the 31st. Should I change my flight now, or wait?The embassy says that typically it takes 3-5 days for the visa to be given. Since Christmas day and boxing day are not working days, the 5 working days after the 22nd are: - the 23rd - the 24th - the 29th - the 30th - the 31st Should I change my flight now, or should I wait? (To change my flight costs $300 + the difference in price between my old flight (about $600) and the new flight.) The safe option is to change my flight now. It'll cost about $700. If I wait, I might get my visa in time for the 31st, in which case I won't have to change my flight at all - hooray! On the other hand, if I wait I might not get my visa in time, in which case I'll have to book a flight to the US at very short notice, which is likely to cost a small fortune. My first day back at work in the US is the 5th of January. Thanks in advance, MeFites! (I live in the SF Bay Area, in case that's relevant.)

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This bot takes works of literature and algorithmically summarizes them, a chapter at a time, to 1% of their original length. These are then read aloud by the lovely voice of Fiona, a Scottish speech synth, and posted at on Twitter at convenient 3 hour intervals. This way entire works of literature can be consumed in bite-sized algo-chunks, giving you the gist of the book, without any troublesome cause to actually 'read' or 'understand' it at all...

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Some family members have a dog that they can no longer care for. Their lives have gone through a lot of upheaval in the last year. At some point I guess getting a puppy seemed like a good idea? Well it wasn't and now they have an approximately 9 month old dog that is not trained, he barks a lot, and is basically chewing everything and anything including the walls. He is medium sized maybe 40 lbs. A poodle pomeranian shih zsu mix. But kind of looks like an all white lab. I don't know much about dogs.My grandfather is in his 80's and had to go live with them and he has a bunch of problems including some symptoms of dementia. The barking gets to him and he tries to hit the dog. From what I have been told the dog will get hit when it barks or just behaves as a dog would. I've contacted shelters but they are full. I have a home full of cats and can not take him in myself. I'm concerned for the dog. I'm sure some people hit their dogs but it bugs me and I don't see how it will stop it from barking. Especially when they aren't taking it out for exercise or putting any time in to train him. What are some other options or resources? They will probably be surrendering the dog to the aspca very soon if I can not find a no kill shelter.

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Everything You Need To Know About The Dangerous Teen Trend 'Wodehousing'

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