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Wiki Titles Singable to TMNT Themesong is a twitter bot that generates Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle-style title art images based on wikipedia article titles singable to the TMNT theme song. [hat tip to waxpancake]

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For reasons, I'm trying to remember a song (a) who's title was quite possibly "weekend rendezvous" or who's lyrics prominently featured the phrase, (b) was at it's most 'popular' in the late 80s or maybe early 90s, (c) would have been heard by teenagers into "alternative" music around Minneapolis (and maybe beyond?), (d) is definitely not the 70s song of the same name by Racing Cars. Because my Google-fu has let me down, I suspect either it was an obscurish band or a total figment of my imagination. Please help.

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Instagram showed me an ad of something I wanted to purchase. I clicked through to the link, put it in my cart, and accidentally x-ed out of it. I can't remember the name of the company, only the nature of the product, and as there is no browser history or "back" on the inherent IG browser which one is led to by clicking an ad, I can't find it.Googling is returning nothing because the words on the item (a dress) are not at all unique, only the design of it. Knowing instagrams algorithms, is there something I could search to try to make the ad come up again? Or is there a better way to search google to sift through all the items with this phrasing on it? If it matters, it's a dress made out of T-shirt material that is like a baggy jumper type (no waist), I think it had pockets, has a ufo on it, and reads "get in loser".

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I read a book by a Japanese author a few years ago. IIRC it was a series of vignettes, mostly about the elderly/aging in contemporary Japan. I remember the cover quite vividly: it's blue and white and it has a graphic of an old Twin reflex camera. Please hope me!

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I have a rocky relationship with my father and he's getting an MRI next week. While he was physically present and provided for my material needs (which is more than many can say, I know) he was also belittling, critical, angry, and physically and emotionally abusive. He berated my mother and I every night for years. He threw 9 yo me into a wall one time. My mother excuses him from everything, saying that's just how he grew up. My mother is depressed after years of his treatment and might also be an alcoholic, and she and my father are a perfect closed loop of dysfunction. (Yet, my father is also funny and cynical and smart and we share many of the same weirdo nerd interests. It's complicated.) He is currently in the middle of a health scare and is undergoing an MRI soon. Instead of being present and comforting my mom, I have exited stage left, emotionally speaking. I know my behavior is hurting her and I know she needs my support. I'm bitter and resentful about a variety of things, including the fact that I did a lot of emotional labor for my mom growing up. Dealing with grief in particular is hard for me because I handled so much of my mom's grief growing up (there is a long backstory for that, but not relevant to this question.) This is all sending me back to when I was a kid, and I would wish sometimes that my father would just leave. It's not a nice sentiment but that's how I used to feel. The house was lighter without him in it. I think I need tips on how to handle this with more grace. It's going to come up this weekend when I do my father's day phone call. I think I've started grieving even though we don't even know what's wrong with him yet. Yes, I am in therapy but I find it really hard to talk about my childhood in there because I know I had it so much better than other people did. If you've had this experience, how did you get through it? How do I show compassion for them without feeling like I'm stuffing down and silencing a part of myself?

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After almost six years and two children I'm finding it incredibly hard to be the parent and father that I want to be / know I can be. Weekends, which once were my time to recharge and grow have turned into two days that I dread the most and sap me of my energy because I simply don't know how to simply 'be' with my kids at the ages they are at. Looking for suggestions on how to make it through this tough time.My two kids, 5ish and 2ish are both amazing, healthy, smart etc. I'm in a loving relationship with their mother who looks after them during the week while I work as the founder and manager of my own business. I absolutely love them both to pieces, but for the life of me I don't really know what to *do* with them, or how to simply *be* with them, and I feel a lot of guilt and confusion about this that is starting to come to a head. I know that this is a temporary stage that once they both get a bit older that these things will become easier, but I'm finding that it's having a big impact on my mental health in that I basically have come to dread the unstructured weekend time, and end up completely sapped of energy. As someone who is very physically and mentally active during the week, this is a bit concerning. Even though I'm in a very social-facing position with my work, I've always been a huge introvert. Weekends before kids meant lots of time by myself to recharge. I knew what I was getting into by starting a family, but I definitely think I underestimated the all-consuming 24/7 nature of it, and my capacity to handle it. Even when I try my absolute best, I just can't seem to truly engage with them for extended periods of time and feel like I'm floundering as a parent and it's not fair to my kids or my partner. At the moment me and my partner are experimenting with trying to literally timetable out the weekends, so we both get a bit of a break and the time to ourselves that we need, but when it comes time for me to figure out what to do with them I just fall into some sort of paralysis. My partner is great with the more social side of things - Going out to birthday parties and socialising with other parents - doing classes or organising playdates and has no issue with things, especially bringing both kids. I do some of this as well but I find it much easier to take just one child at a time. I can integrate that into things like grocery shopping, or catering to a current interest they have. With both kids at this age though it's so tough because they are at such different levels of development and have such different interests, it's challenging to find tasks or activities that I can do with both of them at the same time, and even when I try to do those things it's always such a huge and ongoing struggle. Nothing major - just basic kid stuff, but it really does add up over time. Getting them in the car, stopping them from fighting, asking for food every five minutes, changing nappies, getting bored after 5 minutes doing anything, asking for their mum or to go home, etc etc. A short trip to the shops, or spending an hour with them around the house, and I feel like I've done a days worth of work and the gym and find that I just keep counting down the clock until their bedtime, looking forward when I can go back to the office on Monday into some form of structure and calm, and I know deep down this is not a good feeling to have and that it can have a negative impact on them as well. Again, I know this is all temporary and will pass, and I take full ownership that this is my own issue, and working on it in therapy as well. I also feel a bit sheepish even asking this, because I know some of this is just the first noble truth of parenting. At the same time, I'd love to hear from other parents here who might have experienced similar issues and how they got through it!

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In my relationship, I feel like we fall into some patterns. I feel like my emotions are received as attacks, and I feel like I'm pushed into an emotionally responsible 'lead' role by my partner. I don't want this. Help!I'm in a wonderful loving relationship with my partner. But we frequently have communication issues. And I often feel like I'm expected to be an older/powerful role figure who "fixes" the problem, rather than being in a collaborative equal partnership where we're both trying our best. There are a few patterns that I feel like we keep on falling into: 1) My expressions of emotions seem like they're received as attacks by my partner. It's really important to me to feel heard, so I want to talk about how I feel. However, it seems like this makes my partner feel personally attacked or criticized. I've tried continuously to clarify that I'm not attacking them, but really wanting to express my emotions. I try my best to use 'I feel' statements, to try to not make observations and not interpretations (ala NVC). But when I share, it often doesn't go over well. I think that my expressions of emotions are seen as a threat, or a demand for something to be fixed, or an implicit message that my partner did something wrong.. even when it's as simple as saying "I feel sad". This makes me feel incredibly frustrated and trapped, which of course doesn't help. Often times I'll try to get over it, calm myself down, and to make us feel better, which often works, but then makes me feel like I've neglected or hidden my emotions in favor of making us or my partner feel better. This relates to the second pattern: 2) I think that I am often framed as the "responsible" one, or an emotional lead of sorts. That is, my partner will ask me, "do you want me to do X?", "was I wrong to say/do Y?", "what do you want me to do?" and similar questions. OR, I feel like my expressions of emotions become interpreted as those things - and my partner will interpret me as saying 'I want you to do X', 'you were wrong to say/do Y', 'I want you to do something else instead'. To me I feel trapped again, because I feel like this puts the focus of agency and control solely onto me.. and I don't want that! In my dreams I would like (what would feel like) a more emotionally equal partnership where the focus of agency is either between us, or in both of us. In my ideal, my partner would have their own ways and thoughts and opinions and feelings about this, and would come to the table with their own needs and ideals, and then we'd figure out what works for both of us together. But instead it feels incredibly lonely and isolating to feel like my partner is looking to me for an answer on how to 'solve' or 'direct' our conflicts. It also feels tiring and exhausting, because I feel like if I have a firm grip on being emotionally healthy, then working through conflicts feels easy and great... but if I slip up, then conflicts deepen. That means that I feel like there's no 'safety net' underneath me, and as if all of the responsibility of working through conflict is on me, and that I have to be perfect & without mistakes. There's, of course, a gender (and age) aspect to this as well. This is a cis hetero relationship; my partner is a white cis woman and I'm a POC cis man. We are in our late 20s/early 30s (I am older). So when I feel like I'm pushed into an emotional lead role, I feel like I'm also being asked to amplify & align with gender roles that I didn't ask for -- and to be honest, this makes me a bit resentful. I have communicated all of this to my partner explicitly. They say they want that too. But we still get stuck in the same patterns. And I don't feel like anything changes. 3) Metapattern: Am I actually making things worse? When the first two patterns happen, I feel sad, lonely, isolated, exhausted.. and then I start to feel resentful and upset and angry because I think that my partner is being "passive". I'll try to articulate my feelings about this, and then it won't go over well. And then I wonder if I'm getting caught in some sort of larger gender-role trap where I AM indeed actually re-entrenching ourselves into gender roles, because I have this ideal of a balanced partnership of emotional agency, and I'm trying to make it happen. Like, I'm pushing for it because I think it's good, but on some sort of meta-level, maybe I, a man, am arguing for 'what I think is right' to my female partner? Am I inadvertently entrenching an overfunctioning/underfunctioning dynamic? Should I back off and accept these patterns as what the relationship is? I mean, if she wants a relationship with an emotional lead, who am I to change that? Also, am I crowding them / not giving them enough space within the relationship to hold agency and do things / make mistakes? I don't think so? But maybe I am inadvertently? I could try doing this more by being less specific about what I want, talking about these patterns less, erring on the edge of undercommunication.. Another pattern: I also hold some resentment because I feel like this is really important to me, so I try to do a lot of reading. I've read some of the Gottmans' stuff, Non Violent Communication, Conflict Is Not Abuse. I've tried to model and share ways of communicating and facilitation that I've seen work in other non-relationship contexts. I've seen therapists here and there over the years, but am actively looking for one lately; they've never seen a therapist. I feel like I'm more pulling and asking for better communication and doing the work to read about it and requesting to go to couples therapy, etc. And then again, I wonder: am I an overcommunicator? Am I forcing things? If I'm being honest to myself, I definitely have expectations that my partner will actively bring ideas to the table and that we'll find a happy middle ground as equals. I have expectations that I can make mistakes and my partner will catch me, or push back against me, and tell me what I'm doing wrong. (Gosh, if my partner were to stop us in a conversation and to gently and firmly tell me that she'd like me to communicate differently, that would be a breath of fresh air. I would love it. That sounds so nice it makes me tear up.) -- I love them a great deal, and I know that they love me. I trust them, and know that they trust me. They can be a great listener and are down to try things. We have really rich and good conversations about sex and gender and race. Underlying our relationship is a pretty solid desire to make things work together. I try to remind myself that the patriarchy and sexism shapes both of us, and that there are systematic and social forces that has told my partner, as a woman, that she should be responsive/passive, and that those same forces make me more comfortable with being proactive / having agency. It's tricky, because on other fronts it can be balanced; they're more of an extrovert and I'm more of an introvert, they're white and I'm a poc. But I am also older. So I am aware and trying to be more aware of the power dynamics that we hold within our relationships. I am trying to be patent and open and understanding. I am trying to work on myself also, independently of the relationship. Much of the time, things are really good. Sometimes we will go near these patterns, but will pull ourselves out. But when one of us is tired/hungry/sad/stressed, we can fall into these patterns and swirl for a while. And again, in those patterns, I feel incredibly lonely, trapped, and isolated. So in the end, I'm not sure what to do. - Should I work on myself primarily? - Should I focus less on 'changing' our relationship and set some emotional distance? - Should I try to change the way I communicate to better share what I am feeling? - Should I do less and back off so to create more space? - Should I try to be more explicit about what I want? - Should I fundamentally accept this relationship for what it is and let go of my expectations, and let whatever emotional dynamics might happen to happen? Any and all thoughts would be much appreciated. Thanks.

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The lab of famous battery scientist John Goodenough is working on Lithium batteries that use powdered glass as an electrolyte . One of the great advantages to this construction is reducing the well known risk of lithium battery explosions, which is leading to increasing fires in the scrap industry, and increasing the challenge of recycling. Despite the explosions, most manufacturers choose Lithium Ion - it's light, energy dense, less toxic than older tech, and at the cheap part of the development cycle. If you can relax those requirements, there are different battery chemistries with different strengths, weaknesses, and environmental impact. Nanofabrication permits batteries out of junkyard brass and iron. Renewable energy (and homeowners that want batteries they can't kill) have made Edison's original Nickel Iron batteries and Salt water batteries available again. If you only want to buy batteries once, consider surplus submarine batteries. Or DIY an all iron battery. Or extend the life of lithium batteries with a DIY powerwall [ previously Nickel iron batteries, previously fires ]

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By which I mean, taking the train from YVR downtown?The family (3 of us, youngest is 15) is flying through Vancouver BC on an international flight, with a 4.5-hour afternoon layover. The internet reviews of the airport (YVR) are mixed, with some recent SkyTracks members complaining of slow, long lines at customs and security. So... do those of you who have recently traveled through YVR have thoughts on whether it's wise and/or worthwhile to take the train downtown during this layover, to see a sight or two? Or, if staying at the airport (ugh) is the better option? Thanks in advance!

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Actually, Air Bud sucks at basketball

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Ill keep it short. I suspect there is a God. But I prefer there wasn't. Believing In God puts me in a bad mood, and yet I do believe there is a God.I prefer to believe there is only energy. Quantum physics. The "Universe God" if you will. Just an impersonal universe responding to our thoughts and intentions. Because if there was only energy, there would be no one to be angry with for creating a world, for allowing a world, like ours. No one to be angry with for failing health. For weird bodily symptoms. For weird bodies. For bad smells. For parents who die. For all the little annoyances that happen in a days time. Its far more appealing to me. Not only do I prefer to think there is only physics. I am a more loving, caring, happier and healthier person when I adopt that viewpoint. Those little annoyances I referenced above are suddenly tolerable. Because it's no one's fault...it just is. And I can deal with that. But this bliss doesn't last long, as I don't believe So I go back to believing in God. But when I go throughout my day believing there is a God, I am angry and less loving. There's a drastic difference in my happiness, my tolerance for life and people. In my ability to love. Believing in God puts me in a bad mood. Does this make sense? Ex: I take care of an old lady throughout the week. Today, I had to clean up a gross mess in the bathroom. Today, that was difficult because of the thought that God made it this way to teach us a lesson, or because this isn't what life was like before the fall and now we're just dealing with the consequences of someone else's mistake, etc. Last week, when I was in a "Universe God" frame of mind, cleaning up her mess in the bathroom would be no big deal whatsoever.

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My teenage daughter would like to watch the S. Korea vs. Ukraine soccer match tomorrow (6/15) morning. We have no TV, but we have computers and internet. Help? Snowflakes follow.So we found out about this match from my mom (who is Korean) and my daughter has decided that she'd love to watch it, live if possible. We have an internet connection. All TV viewing in this household happens through streaming internet due to the lack of a TV. I have Amazon Prime, uh, Netflix, and CBS All-Access through Amazon, but I've only ever watched Star Trek: Discovery through CBS All-Access and don't know how to get a sports channel. I would prefer to watch this legally, and am happy to pay for access to whatever if it's, say, something I can sign up for a month and then cancel, but I'd prefer not to spend above $20 or so, and I don't know if that's doable. Assume that I am completely ignorant of where to find internet sports TV in general. Any help appreciated, thank you!

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Does post a letter mean "poop"? My wife just asked me, and I had never heard this expression before. I tried Google and no luck. However it is the first definition in Naver Dictionary. I assume that they are just wrong, but am curious because it sounds like a plausible euphemism.

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I'm a postdoc. I was just invited to apply for a managerial position in a small nonprofit working in an international biotech/resource equity space, interfacing with lots of corporate folks. Have you made the switch from academia to a non-profit or corporate workspace? Please tell me about it!How did you describe your academic experience in your application? How did you find the transition? How was the adjustment? I'm nervous about what leaving academia would mean - to my advisor (with whom I'm still quite close), to my mental self-image, etc. And I'm nervous about making the transition, regretting it, and then never being able to return to academia. Bonus! Are you someone outside of academia who has hired academics? What do you look for in candidates who are successful at making that transition?

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I have a 3-D print file for 4" earrings that I created using Tinkercad. I'd like to get them printed with colored plastic. I know nothing about 3D printing and I'm guessing I would need to print a few versions before getting the earrings right, so getting it printed in person seems ideal (feel free to convince me otherwise). Where could I do this in the Bay Area and how much would I be expecting to pay? Experience level: Total newbie.

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Found in a yard in Denver, CO.

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I'm looking for a place where I can post a question, with some detail attached, and receive an answer pretty well guaranteed, either from an expert or the community. Happy to pay per question, though not so keen on subscriptions. Any ideas?

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Mrs. Mikey51 has been home with our kids for 10 years and is looking to reenter the workforce within the next few years. She has a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, but does not want to go further in that field. She is willing to go to school for a couple years to get certified in a certain field, but unsure of some good options. She is leery about the medical field. What are some good non-medical career paths that would only need certification or an associate's degree?

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Hi mefites! I am getting better at oil painting and would like to do a series of still lifes. I like the idea of painting modern items in a kind of old master style, a bit like this (I am still improving!!).Can anyone suggest any fun modern items I can paint that would look interesting and quirky, perhaps next to something more traditional? Ideally this would be themed to rooms (kitchen, kids' room, living room etc) but not necessarily. I'd just like to feature something which catches the eye. Thanks lovely people!

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I'm having big problems with my PCP. Are there any steps I can take to get better-quality care for myself under Medicaid?My PCP's office does not answer the phone, preventing me from getting an appointment. There's an automated menu, so I know it's the right number, but I end up sitting on hold endlessly once I reach the appointment line. Obviously this means I can't make an appointment, but it also gives me some concern about the quality of care within the clinic. In general, my experience with Medicaid has been pretty negative for everything except emergency care. Some of the problems have included months-long waits for appointments, or doctors who are only available for 10 minutes at a time. Is it at all possible to avoid these kinds of problems, or do I need to accept a lower standard? Is there any way to find out the reputations of the clinics and doctors in the area? Should I just be asking around for recommendations? This is in PG County, Maryland.

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I am putting up flyers around Boston and Cambridge for a free arts event. While I have a game plan for certain areas, I want to make sure to do justice to the neighborhoods I know less well.If you wanted to get eyeballs in JP, Dorchester or Roxbury, where would you stick a flyer? What I've got so far: -In Roxbury, I plan to hit Dudley and the area near the Hamill Gallery -JP: Centre Street -Dorchester: Fields Corner Any areas I egregiously left out? Specific street names/shops/landmarks you can offer would be very helpful and appreciated. Bonus question - what is a can't-miss place to pop in for a small treat in any of these neighborhoods? (as in, a bubble tea or a breakfast sandwich, rather than a sit-down meal.)

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Lost the keys to my entire life (work, hobby, house, storage unit, car), on a green keychain, in the grass. Any tricks for finding them?This morning, I was walking my dogs in a park, when somehow, they were suddenly no longer attached to the leash, and were running away. After sprinting to successfully retrieve them and reattach the leash, we continued our walk for a couple of minutes. Then I put my hand in the pocket of my hoodie and ... no more keys. I'd been letting them do the leading on our walk, so our path was indirect to say the least. I've retraced, as best I can recall, the entire route we took three times. It's about a mile in total. I've walked and re-walked the sprint path more times than that. There's no clear lost and found at the park, but I've checked with both places it could be multiple times. I know for a fact the keys were in my pocket, because a kind of sketchy guy drove up as we were getting out of the car, and I beeped the lock again just in case. The keys are on this keychain with my car key attached. The grass was mowed relatively recently, so it's not terribly tall. I'm considering going back this evening with a flashlight to see if they reflect when it's not so sunny out? Any and all ideas considered!

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I moved and needed new insurance. I talked to a family friend who is a broker and he quoted me ~1,900 annually as my lowest rate. I went through Progressive (talking to a broker over the phone for the quote) and they quoted me ~1200 annually. I talked to the family friend again, and he's skeptical: he thinks that that they will give me one month at this rate and then jack it up to match his quoted price (maybe a little more). More detail inside, but should I expect this to happen?I ran through the coverage line by line with the progressive agent, so it seems like the policies are nearly identical in terms of coverage. I paid up front for the first six months, so can Progressive change the price having already received payment? Or am I 'safe' and locked into this rate for at least six months? I also opted to do Snapshot, but I'm not sure how much of a scam this is, versus an actual opportunity to save money (I do about 3 days of heavy highway travel per week, but average relatively light usage otherwise). Any experiences with this program?

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I've had my current 13" MacBook Pro for about 7 years, and it's slowed to a crawl. I'm thinking it might be better to get a PC laptop with a bigger screen rather than spending a bunch of money on a new Mac, but I don't really know anything about what's out there. Just tell me what to get?Budget: I'm imagining something in the $750 range but I really have no idea...I'm hoping to keep the same one for a long time, so I can afford to spend more, but also if there's a $500 one that does what I need, that's fine. Specs: -I almost never take it anywhere, so it doesn't have to be light. -My house is tiny and I don't have space for a TV or desktop, so I'd like a large (maybe 17"? is that too large?) screen. -I would prefer something in like, a tasteful silver if possible, rather than clunky black plastic or with, like, flames on the side -I get a small discount for HP or Dell but it's probably not enough to make a big difference if another brand is a lot better Main uses are: -watching YouTube/Netflix and occasionally a DVD from the library -internet browsing with Firefox -blog posting/editing -photo editing (rarely) -word processing (nowadays this mostly happens thru Google Drive anyway) -ripping CDs into itunes to put on my phone, but I'm thinking maybe it's time to get over myself and just sign up for a streaming service Other considerations: -I don't do any gaming or video editing or music editing. -How do I avoid a bunch of unwanted software? -My big worry about switching to a PC is malware--how worried should I be? -Operating system?? Windows/Chrome/Ubuntu? I don't care about getting under the hood, I just want it to work.

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"Mexico's cultural minister, Alejandra Frausto, has accused the fashion house Carolina Herrera of culturally appropriating indigenous Mexican patterns and styles in its 2020 resort collection." Originally reported in El País (en Español). The NYTimes has further information as well as a bit of a rundown of fashion's history with cultural appropriation.

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