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I can't find any way to create a new yahoo contact by capturing an email address from a received email using only my android phone and the yahoo mail android app. Am I missing something or is this functionality missing?

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I bought a used car in California before moving to Pennsylvania, and never got the title in the mail. Help!In early August I bought a used car in California, with cash. I went to the DMV to transfer the title and registration. Then I moved out of state, to Pennsylvania, before the title arrived in the mail. I had mail forwarding set up so I figured the title would just get forwarded to me there since it would be sent first class, but it seems mail from the DMV doesn't get forwarded for various reasons--apparently if something says 'Return Service Requested' it gets sent back to the sender, maybe with the new address, instead of forwarded. What do I do to get the title without going back to California? Looking online I see a form for requesting a duplicate title but it seems to require being notarized (by a CA notary? it asks for the county in CA) and there's also something about needing to show up in person if you have a different address than is on file, so I'm not sure exactly how that would play out. I only need to have a different mailing address so I can get the title, and then probably transfer it to a PA title. I am specifically hoping for advice from someone who has experienced something similar to this or works at the DMV rather than people's educated guesses.

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What the Hell Happened at the Mexico City Marathon?

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I tutor at a school, and am working with a bright sixteen year old girl who has been out of the habit of reading for pleasure for several years (she says she stopped reading for fun at eleven or so, after switching schools) but is keen to get back to it. I'm looking for books to recommend to her.My student read the Hunger Games books when the movies came out, and liked those; she says she generally likes: stories about girls, friendships and family drama; romance; and detective stories, and stories with elements of suspense. We are also looking for short story writers that she might like, since her creative writing projects at school and in exams usually involve writing short stories and she wanted to see more examples of the genre. I know there is a ton of young adult stuff out there but don't know where to start, and am unfamiliar with major short story writers (other than Flannery O'Connor and Saki, both of whom I think may be unsuitable to begin with). I'd be grateful for any suggestions.

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ClassicFilter: are there any well-known/well-regarded orchestral arrangements of Beethoven's piano sonatas, especially the late ones?As an (amateur) orchestra geek, I always find myself thinking "but this is a symphony" when listening to the later Beethoven piano sonatas. You would think somebody would have arranged them for orchestra, but I've never heard of any famous arrangements (like the Bach/Stokowski Toccata and Fugue from Fantasia, or the Brahms/Schoenberg G minor quartet), and a cursory google doesn't come up with much. Is this a matter of "if Beethoven had wanted them to be for orchestra he would have written them that way himself, don't mess with sacred things"? Or what? If you do happen to know of any decent arrangements/recordings thereof, point me to them! Not for any specific purpose, I am just interested in hearing how they would sound. Thanks!

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Reviews of Frankenstein, Wuthering Heights, Moby-Dick, Huckleberry Finn, and Dracula show the sometimes surprising reactions of 19th C. readers to 19th C. literature in English. In a letter from 1888, Nietzsche points toward the sometimes surprising coverage of another source, suggesting that The Main Developments in Literature during the Nineteenth Century by the Danish critic Georg Brandes "is still today the best Kulturbuch in German on this big subject": v. 1; v. 2; v. 3; v. 4; v. 5; v. 6. The Main Developments in Literature during the Nineteenth Century is also on Will Durant's One Hundred Best Books for an Education (ca. 1929). Many texts that Brandes discusses are available online in English. Volume 1: The Emigrant Literature François-René de Chateaubriand: Atala, René, and Memoirs from Beyond the Grave v.1, v.2, v.3, v.4, v.5, and v.6 Jean-Jacques Rousseau: Julie, or the New Heloise v.1, v.2, v.3, and v.4 Johann Wolfgang von Goethe: The Sorrows of Young Werther Étienne Pivert de Sénancour: Obermann Charles Nodier: Le peintre de Saltzbourg may only be available in French but a story from Contes fantastiques is available for checkout Benjamin Constant de Rebecque: Adolphe Madame de Staël: Delphine, Corinne, Ten Years' Exile, and Germany Prosper de Barante: A View of French Literature During the Eighteenth Century Volume 2: The Romantic School in Germany Friedrich Schiller: The Robbers and Wilhelm Tell Friedrich Hölderlin: Hyperion Ludwig Tieck: William Lovell parts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 and Puss in Boots Jean Paul: Titan Friedrich Schlegel: Lucinde Percy Bysshe Shelley: Queen Mab Novalis: Hymns to the Night E.T.A. Hoffmann: The Devil's Elixir parts 1 and 2 and Weird Tales parts 1 and 2 (The Best Tales of Hoffmann is also available for checkout) Adelbert von Chamisso: Peter Schlemihl and The Marvellous History of the Shadowless Man Johann Wolfgang von Goethe: Wilhelm Meister's Apprenticeship and Wilhelm Meister's Travels Joseph, Baron von Eichendorff: The Life of a Good-For-Nothing Ludwig Achim von Arnim and Clemens Brentano: selections from The Boy's Magic Horn Clemens Brentano: Honor; or, The Story of the Brave Caspar and the Fair Annerl Heinrich von Kleist: The Prince of Homburg is available for checkout in three editions, including a collection along with Amphitryon Zacharias Werner: The Templars in Cyprus and The Brethren of the Cross Friedrich de la Motte Fouqué: Undine, The Magic Ring, and Thiodolf the Icelander Volume 3: The Reaction in France François-René de Chateaubriand: The Genius of Christianity, Travels to Jerusalem and the Holy Land, through Egypt, and The Martyrs Joseph de Maistre: Considerations on France and Letters on the Spanish Inquisition Alphonse de Lamartine: "The Lake," Raphael, and Graziella Victor Hugo: selections from Odes and Ballads Alfred de Vigny: Cinq Mars Volume 4: Naturalism in England Percy Bysshe Shelley: Julian and Maddalo, Hellas: A Lyrical Drama, The Revolt of Islam, Prometheus Unbound, The Cenci, The Witch of Atlas, "Stanzas Written in Dejection, near Naples," "The Cloud," The Triumph of Life, "Ode to the West Wind," Alastor; or, The Spirit of Solitude, The Masque of Anarchy, Rosalind and Helen, Oedipus Tyrannus, or Swellfoot the Tyrant, Peter Bell the Third, etc. Samuel Taylor Coleridge and Robert Southey: The Fall of Robespierre William Wordsworth: Poems Dedicated to National Independence and Liberty, The White Doe of Rylstone, "Influence of Natural Objects in Calling Forth and Strengthening the Imagination in Boyhood and Early Youth," etc. William Wordsworth and Samuel Taylor Coleridge: Lyrical Ballads Samuel Taylor Coleridge: Christabel, The Rime of the Ancient Mariner, "Hymn Before Sunrise, in the Vale of Chamouni," "France: An Ode," etc. Robert Southey: Wat Tyler, Joan of Arc, The Curse of Kehama, and Thalaba the Destroyer Walter Scott: Rob Roy, The Heart of Midlothian, The Lay of the Last Minstrel, Marmion, A Tale of Flodden Field, The Lady of the Lake, Waverley, Quentin Durward, etc. Lord Byron: Childe Harold's Pilgrimage, Lara, "The Dream," Hours of Idleness, "To Florence," "Lines Written in an Album, at Malta," "Stanzas Composed during a Thunderstorm," "Stanzas Written in Passing the Ambracian Gulf," Don Juan, "The Curse of Minerva," The Siege of Corinth and Parisina, Hints from Horace, The Giaour, The Bride of Abydos, The Corsair, "Ode to Napoleon Buonaparte," Manfred, Cain, Marino Faliero, "Ode on Venice," Beppo, The Prophecy of Dante, Sardanapalus and The Two Foscari, The Prisoner of Chillon, Heaven and Earth and Age of Bronze, The Vision of Judgment, etc. John Keats: Hyperion, "Sleep and Poetry," "Ode to a Nightingale," Endymion, Isabella; or, The Pot of Basil, Epistles, etc. Thomas Moore: Lalla Rookh (especially "The Fire-Worshippers"), Irish Melodies, The Poetical Works of the Late Thomas Little, Esq., "A Canadian Boat-Song," Fables for the Holy Alliance, The Fudge Family in Paris, etc. Thomas Campbell: "The Battle of the Baltic," "Ye Mariners of England," The Pleasures of Hope, "Stanzas on the Battle of Navarino," "Lines on Poland," "Hallowed Ground," etc. Walter Savage Landor: Imaginary Conversations, Hellenics, Pericles and Aspasia, Gebir and Count Julian Lady Caroline Lamb: Glenarvon Volume 5: The Romantic School in France Victor Hugo: Hernani, Notre-Dame de Paris, selections from Les Orientales, The Burgraves, Lucretia Borgia, and Mary Tudor Honoré de Balzac: The Chouans, Beatrix, The Magic Skin, "The Fair Imperia," "The Conscript," Domestic Peace, A Woman of Thirty, Eugenie Grandet, "Facino Cane," Father Goriot, Rise and Fall of Cesar Birotteau, Cousin Betty, Lost Illusions, Seraphita, Modeste Mignon, Louis Lambert, The Lily of the Valley, Letters of Two Brides, etc. André Chénier: miscellaneous poems in A Memorial Alfred de Musset: Emmeline, Carmosine, The Confession of a Child of the Century, The Chandler, Rolla, The Follies of Marianne, A Caprice and Bettine, The Two Mistresses, etc. George Sand: Consuelo volumes 1, 2, 3, and 4, The Devil's Pool, Letters of a Traveller, Jacques, Teverino, Indiana, Mauprat, and (available for checkout) Lélia Stendhal: The Charterhouse of Parma, The Red and the Black, and On Love Prosper Mérimée: Collected Writings / Stories including "The Etruscan Vase," Carmen, Letters to an Unknown, Colomba, "How the Redoubt Was Taken," A Chronicle of the Reign of Charles IX, "The Blue Room," "The Venus of Ille," Arsène Guillot, "Lokis," and The Double Mistake Théophile Gautier: Collected Writings including Mademoiselle de Maupin, Fortunio, The Grotesques, and Captain Fracasse Charles-Augustin Sainte-Beuve: Selections from Poésies de Joseph Delorme Alexandre Dumas: Gabrielle de Belle Isle, A Marriage of Convenience, period: Louis XV, and The King's Gallant, or King Henry III and His Court (novelization) Alphonse de Lamartine: History of the Girondists, volumes 1, 2, and 3 Philothée O'Neddy: "Fanaticism" from Feu et flamme Volume 6: Young Germany Ludwig Börne: Briefe aus Paris seems unavailable in English, but the short essay "How to Become an Original Writer in Three Days" has been translated Heinrich Heine: Poems, Poems and Ballads, Prose Writings, etc. Karl Immermann: The Oberhof Karl Gutzkow: Sword and Queue (a.k.a. "Sword and Pigtail" in Brandes) David Strauss: The Life of Jesus (translated by George Eliot) Bettina von Arnim: Goethe's Correspondence with a Child Charlotte Stieglitz: from Gedichte und Briefe the one charming poem (unmentioned by Brandes) "If only I were a whale" Eduard Mörike: Poems

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Seeking advice to help my partner, and myself, through the sudden and unexpected loss of a pet.Last night we suffered an unexpected loss. Miles, a three-year-old FIV rescue cat we'd taken in a couple months ago, had spent the day at the vet under anaesthesia for some dental work that the shelter we took him from had booked and paid for. I'd been told to call back mid afternoon to check he was OK to pick up. I called, and was told to call again at four. Then five. Then I got a call back from the vet, and was told he'd suffered what looked like irreplaceable brain damage due to complications with the anaesthesia. We went down to see him and say goodbye, and agreed to allow him to be put to sleep. We'd not had him around for too long, but both loved him dearly and were looking forward to having him around a long time - he was a sweet, gentle animal and a perfect fit for our situation, we couldn't have wished for a nicer cat. I feel horrible about the whole thing, but my main priority is to do my best to help my partner, who is devastated. I'm not always the greatest with difficult emotional situations, and I'd appreciate any advice.

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Please help me politely navigate a visit to my dad and his wife, where they are asking me to do something I don't want to do. Details follow.My father remarried late in his life, I'll call his new wife Amy here. Amy is fine. She has been perfectly nice to me. She is intelligent, and and interesting to talk to. As a person, I like her quite a lot. She is however, massively controlling of my father. I mean really, seriously, controls his every move. And its not just him, she is really controlling of her friends as well. For example, my dad has a curfew when he has to be home and once when I wanted to sit on his front porch and have a glass of wine with him, he told me he couldn't because Amy was working in her office and couldn't join us and he couldn't do that without her. I don't say anything about this though, because my dad and I aren't super close (he physically and emotionally (not sexually) abused us as kids), and in the past my dad has has been pretty blatant about deceiving and cheating on his wives and girlfriends (including Amy). I figure whatever weird controlling mess he's in, is his business to figure out. I expect nothing from my Dad, but I do enjoy our occasional visits. The new wife does not let us visit without her being present, which is generally not too annoying because, like I say, I find her an interesting person who I usually enjoy hanging out with. The problem is that from the beginning, she has made it a BIG deal that she wants me to meet her daughter and son in law. I was OK with that but I didn't think there was any rush or anything. We are all adults, I'm not super close with my Dad, its not like we are "blending families" or anything. But the longer its taken to happen, the more insistent Amy and my dad have become. So strangely (to my mind) insistent, that now I've really got my back up about it and have been avoiding visiting when the daughter and son in law are in town. But now Amy's daughter and son in law have moved to the town Amy and my father live in and I'm going for a visit this month (in case this is relevant, I have other reasons to go to the town where my Dad lives, its not a visit just to see them. I don't stay with them when I visit). I called to let my dad know I would be in town and asked to take my Dad and Amy out to dinner for my dad's birthday, giving them a choice of nights that I would be free. They ignored my request to take them to dinner saying instead that they want me to meet the daughter and son in law but don't know how the daughter and son in laws schedules will be for the week so they can't commit to a date yet. Further, they want me to go "see the daughter and son in law's new house to see what they've done with it." I DO NOT want to do this. I can't exactly explain, even to myself, why I just really don't want this, but everything in me is totally opposed to it. For some reason it makes me feel a bit ill. Maybe its because of my history with my dad that I really want to keep him at arms length, or maybe its the sense that I've gotten that Amy needs to prove how wonderful her family is (I have no idea what she's heard about our family before she came along but the reality was that it was pretty awful). I've begun to get the feeling that she is dead set on showing me she is in control of everything now. Anyway, the whole situation just really creeps me out. I don't want to have to forfeit my few visits with my dad so I feel like I need to be careful how I respond to this. if I make Amy mad, she can easily cut me off from ever seeing my Dad again. If I have to be I am reluctantly OK with the daughter and son in law going to dinner with us, though I didn't invite them originally and I'd rather not pay for their dinners, but I am NOT OK with going to their house and acting like, "oh isn't it great, we're gonna all be so close and family-like now." Any thoughts on how best to keep this from becoming a big mess? How can I steer them away from the house visit? Thanks.

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I have a new mom returning to work at my office, and I'd like to convert our underused conference room to a nursing/pumping/mom's room. Pinterest is failing me. What should a room like this have (aside from a lock on the door)?Suggestions of what to have in this room are welcome - but also any links to photos, Pinterest terms (I can't find any), blogs or websites are welcome too.

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The study of languages has long been prone to nonsense. Why is linguistics such a magnet for dilettantes and crackpots?

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Leo Pelligrino is an energetic baritone sax player. Here he is at the BBC Proms He's a member of Too Many Zooz, known originally as buskers (vid is recent and staged), but last year played the CMA awards with Beyonce and the Dixie Chicks They've also done a TEDx presentation on "Brass House" And natch, previously. He's also a member of Lucky Chops, also previously.

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Top Boffins looking at whether cats are liquid or solid, why old men have big ears, and the effects of playing the didgeridoo have on sleep apnea were among the laureates at the 2017 Ig Nobel Prizes. (Previously) This year's version of the annual awards organized by the Annals of Improbable Research were awarded in the following categories: PHYSICS PRIZE to Marc-Antoine Fardin, for using fluid dynamics to probe the question "Can a Cat Be Both a Solid and a Liquid?" PEACE PRIZE to Milo Puhan, Alex Suarez, Christian Lo Cascio, Alfred Zahn, Markus Heitz, and Otto Braendli, for demonstrating that regular playing of a didgeridoo is an effective treatment for obstructive sleep apnoea and snoring. ECONOMICS PRIZE to Matthew Rockloff and Nancy Greer, for their experiments to see how contact with a live crocodile affects a person's willingness to gamble. ANATOMY PRIZE to James Heathcote, for his medical research study "Why Do Old Men Have Big Ears?" BIOLOGY PRIZE to Kazunori Yoshizawa, Rodrigo Ferreira, Yoshitaka Kamimura, and Charles Lienhard, for their discovery of a female penis, and a male vagina, in a cave insect. FLUID DYNAMICS PRIZE to Jiwon Han, for studying the dynamics of liquid-sloshing, to learn what happens when a person walks backwards while carrying a cup of coffee. NUTRITION PRIZE to Fernanda Ito, Enrico Bernard, and Rodrigo Torres, for the first scientific report of human blood in the diet of the hairy-legged vampire bat. MEDICINE PRIZE to Jean-Pierre Royet, David Meunier, Nicolas Torquet, Anne-Marie Mouly and Tao Jiang, for using advanced brain-scanning technology to measure the extent to which some people are disgusted by cheese. COGNITION PRIZE to Matteo Martini, Ilaria Bufalari, Maria Antonietta Stazi, and Salvatore Maria Aglioti, for demonstrating that many identical twins cannot tell themselves apart visually OBSTETRICS PRIZE to Marisa López-Teijón, Álex García-Faura, Alberto Prats-Galino, and Luis Pallarés Aniorte, for showing that a developing human fetus responds more strongly to music that is played electromechanically inside the mother's vagina than to music that is played electromechanically on the mother's belly. (Note Bene: They also offer a product based on this research named "Babypod".

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Going through a huge amount of stress with family visit over seemingly small issue and am looking for adviceI've been in my first apartment a couple years now and when my mother has suggested multiple times staying at my apartment when visiting me again from where she's living out of country, I've always welcomed her to do so. We've been having monthly video chats for years and have usually gotten along quite well on them. So she just arrived to visit with my sister for nearly a week and a half, and on the way from the airport I mentioned that it's important to me that shoes not be worn around my apartment. She didn't seem thrilled to hear that. So at my apartment, she's walking around in her shoes multiple times despite my repeated requests that she not do so. She starts to take them off for stretches of time, but then today after I got home from work and am agreeing to take her and my sister somewhere very shortly instead of the Uber they were going to take, she's saying she needs to wear her shoes at the far end of the couch away from the door because it's easier for her to put them on there. I say fine, because we'll be leaving soon. Then while wearing her shoes she says she just needs to get her coat in the closet so she walks clear across the floor in her shoes and I expressed my annoyance again, for nearly the 10th time by this point over the last few days, at her doing so. She explodes in anger that I keep expecting her not to wear the shoes around, and I explode back saying call the Uber again because I'm not driving you around if you're going to act disrespectful like this. She threatens that she'll never have anything to do with me again after being treated like this over the shoes, so I back down and still agree to drive them, and she and I are loudly arguing back and forth the whole drive while my sister is helping to defend me. My mother doesn't call me to pick her up afterward to return to my apartment, and apparently got an Uber, and I'm still not at all in the mood for talking, so I go off into my room after letting her in. After maybe 15 minutes of silence, she tells me to come over to talk. I'm hoping there will be maybe a bit of apologizing or attempting at reconciliation from her as I'm explaining to her that for years it has been important to me to have a no shoes rule once I got my own apartment, and that really, more than the act of not wearing shoes around in itself, the principle of being shown respect is important to me, and she doesn't budge at all from having an attitude of her being completely in the right, mentioning things like all she did for me raising me over the years, and how because of that I'm asking too much by expecting her to take off her shoes here. When I see that there's no chance of her budging on her feeling that she's right and it's starting to turn into a shouting match again, I simply say "I'm done here" and walk away into my room to slam my door shut. Then I hear her complaining that I'm being a coward and running away even though she's just trying to talk it out. On the one hand I'm thinking that if I had just let her wear the shoes around everything would still be fine, but on the other hand I'm thinking that for all the money I'm paying for my apartment and all the time I put into preparing for their visit, and that my allowing them to stay here would be saving hundreds in hotel costs(they've had to pay for hotels in previous visits because when I lived with my dad his house was quite messy and not really suited for guests), I have the right to put my foot down about at least ONE thing, just on the principle of expecting a little basic respect of something important to me. So she's been talking to another friend on the phone she's visited here and is crying and painting a picture of her as being completely the victim and me as being weird and obsessed for making a big deal over something as simple as wearing shoes around the apartment, when I'm seeing it more as important on the principle of it, as I've said. She's been here with my sister just a few days so far, and isn't set to leave for another week. I still have to work a couple days this week in spite of this huge stress for me, and have no idea how things will get better from here, short of my admitting I'm the one who's fully in the wrong. I'm hoping the stress will ease up since I've been having a tough enough month at work as it is. I've felt tempted to just offer to pay for a hotel for her since she has little money left, so I could have peace in my apartment. I'd love to be able to patch things up and have an enjoyable last few days of their visit, but I feel like I have a right to set a simple ground rule in my own apartment. I've been pretty damn lucky and happy in recent years, maybe not in ways that it would necessarily inspire envy in others, but just that I've tried to keep focused on and appreciate what is going well for me. I almost feel like this is fate or the universe or whatever's way of saying to me "whoa now, not gonna let you get too content and happy!" I know I'm still really lucky and things aren't nearly as bad as they could be, but this is a massive amount of stress I'm facing compared to anything I've faced in a long time. That she's my mother and we have mostly gotten along well over the years makes this all the more difficult to deal with, even though I feel she's acting too entitled.

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I keep seeing floss picks in parking lots. Gas station parking lots, supermarket parking lots, strip-mall parking lots... all the parking lots. Why? I don't understand how floss picks are ending up in so many random parking lots. Do people keep and use and discard them in the car? Are there a coterie of dentists who are confetti-ing local parking lots? What the heck in going on?

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Can you help me figure out why my dog isn't housebroken anymore, and what I can do about it?In the past year, starting a few months after we moved to a new city, my 11-year-old dog has started having indoor accidents. She's been housebroken for literally the entire decade before this past year, with no accidents. She only has accidents when I'm gone (except for one time at a friend's house, when she peed on her dog's bed in front of us). It doesn't seem to matter how long I'm gone or how long of a walk she's gotten beforehand. My hypotheses about why this is happening: *Marking. I'm in a mostly-carpeted apartment that's older and very dog friendly, so there are probably some smells in the carpet. Now that she's had enough accidents, that's added to it. Supporting this theory, her accidents are usually in similarish regions of the carpet. HOWEVER...I extensively treated the carpet with Nature's Miracle, and even rented a Rug Doctor last week, and she's already had 2 accidents since on an area that I KNOW I treated really well. So if this is the issue, I don't know how to address it. *Unlearned housebreaking/age-related cognitive issues. This was my vet's theory. She had a legit accident early on (I was kept late at work and she wasn't feeling well, and had diarrhea) so maybe that led her to decide this is a thing she can do now. It's still a little weird that she doesn't do it when I'm there, though, and it definitely makes it hard to retrain. *Boredom. This is definitely a possibility, although she's a pretty lazy dog, and has always just laid around all day. She has toys and big windows to look out of. I ordered her a new puzzle toy to see if this helps, and am going to start taking her on much longer morning walks before I leave. Hypotheses I've mostly ruled out: *UTIs/age-related incontinence. When I went to the vet a few months ago, she said there's nothing physically wrong with her (based on a few hundred dollars worth of tests), and she might just be experiencing some cognitive issues. She's able to hold it when I'm home, and since it's sometimes poop too, it seems unlikely to be a medical issue. *Can't hold it as long as she used to. On our morning walk before I leave for work, I make sure she pees at least twice and poops, and sometimes she'll have had an accident if I come back a few hours later. It doesn't seem to matter how long I've been gone for. She can hold it for 8 or more hours if I'm there. *Separation anxiety. She howls nonstop when she has separation anxiety, and hasn't had it since she adjusted to the new place. She's never peed from separation anxiety. I do have a crate for her, and I realize that this is going to be what a lot of people will suggest, and I get that. I crated her for the first few years of her life and I'm not anti-crate. But I would like to see if I can figure something else out before I crate her- my work day is 9 hours long and I don't love the thought of keeping her cooped up that long. Making sure she has a great quality of life in her golden years is important to me. I can't afford to hire a dogwalker. We will be moving next summer.

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MacDonald's Store is a family business in the town of Hot Coffee, Mississippi. They sell shoes and brooms and ice cream and PVC fittings and hoop cheese and souse. They've been open since 1967. They just repainted.

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"I'd made up my mind. I said, 'He's on my roof? Whatever it takes, he's coming off,' " Wilford Burgess told ABC7 after he pushed the man off his house's roof. Crisis negotiators had been called to the neighborhood, where a man was jumping from rooftop to rooftop, Los Angeles County sheriff's officials said. The suspect was on one roof for about five hours before the elderly resident "got tired" of his antics, climbed onto the roof and pushed the man off, according to Sgt. Joseph Morales. "The grandpa did what we couldn't," Capt. Tim Murakami tweeted after the incident.

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Preferably a mix of chocolate, mint, rum, pistachio, and anything else. Candied fruit optional. Not that crap sold by Dreyer's/Edy's! If necessary I'll take the subway. I would tell you how delicious this is, but I want it all for myself!

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I picked up some unworn, vintage boots several years back. By all measures, they appear to fit me well (quite well in fact!) but my lack of knowing how to break in boots like this has prevented me from wearing them on the reg. I have many questions about the care and maintenance of these boots.I picked up a pair of Friedman-Shelby boots a few years back at a yard sale, completely unworn in their box. These are probably the only nice shoes I've ever owned. I like them. I don't want to sell them, but I also want to freaking wear them. I've only worn them a couple dozen times in the last several years. I would like to increase this abysmal wear-to-not ratio. I have a few questions about these little buddies: -What is the best way to break these in? -How should they act when they are broken in? -They clock-clock-clock around and sound a bit like high-heels. Will this abate if I break them in? -The soles appear to be leather all the way through. This would make them unsuitable for walking around in the rainy PNW, correct? How much moisture is too much? -Best practices for maintaining the finish? I've had leather shoes before , -Is it possible to take them to a cobbler to have a rubber sole put on? Is this a thing that is done? Is this the worst idea? Basically, I'm looking for a "How to fancy boot" guide, but have yet to find such a resource.

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Harry Dean Stanton died peacefully Friday afternoon at Cedars-Sinai Hospital in L.A. The legendary actor's career spanned more than 6 decades. His credits also include "Repo Man," "Cool Hand Luke," "Paris, Texas," "Alien," "Wild at Heart" and "Twin Peaks." Stanton was born in West Irvine, Kentucky, to Ersel (Moberly), a cook, and Sheridan Harry Stanton, a barber and tobacco farmer. Stanton served as a cook in the U.S. Navy during World War II, and was on board an LST during the Battle of Okinawa. He then returned to the University of Kentucky to appear in a production of "Pygmalion", before heading out to California and honing his craft at the prestigious Pasadena Playhouse. Stanton then toured around the United States with a male choir, worked in children's theater, and then headed back to California. His first role on screen was in the tepid movie Tomahawk Trail (1957), but he was quickly noticed and appeared regularly in minor roles as cowboys and soldiers through the late 1950s and early 1960s. His star continued to rise and he received better roles in which he could showcase his laid-back style, such as in Cool Hand Luke (1967), Kelly's Heroes (1970), Dillinger (1973), The Godfather: Part II (1974), and in Alien (1979). It was around this time that Stanton came to the attention of director Wim Wenders, who cast him in his finest role yet as Travis in the moving Paris, Texas (1984). Next indie director Alex Cox gave Stanton a role that really brought him to the forefront, in the quirky cult film Repo Man (1984). Stanton was now heavily in demand, and his unique look got him cast as everything from a suburban father in the mainstream Pretty in Pink (1986) to a soft-hearted, but ill-fated, private investigator in Wild at Heart (1990) and a crazy yet cunning scientist in Escape from New York (1981). Apart from his film performances, Stanton is also an accomplished musician, and "The Harry Dean Stanton Band" and their unique spin on mariachi music have been playing together for well over a decade. They have toured internationally to rave reviews. Stanton became a cult figure of cinema and music and when Debbie Harry sang the lyric "I want to dance with Harry Dean..." in her 1990s hit "I Want That Man", she was talking about him. As he moved into the time in his life when most other people would be calling it a day, Harry Dean Stanton has remained consistently active on screen, most recently appearing in films including Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas (1998), The Green Mile (1999) and The Man Who Cried (2000). A true gem amongst character actors, and with an on screen presence capable of adding that something extra to any production.(IMDB)

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I, mid-30s, fat, incredibly introverted, and completely not at all cool, have been invited to a concert tonight for a group I'm really excited to see, with some people I know who're a few years younger than me. Problem: I have never before been to a concert at a bar like this, and I'm incredibly nervous about it because I have no idea what to expect. So how do events like this actually work?In particular I'm a little concerned because I'm not sure I'm actually up to standing for several hours straight and it doesn't look like they actually have much seating. Also, it turns out the people I'm going with are actually going to be late and are expecting me to be there when they arrive, meaning I can't just latch onto someone who knows what they're doing. I have anxiety medication that I'm intending to take and will not be driving but will also not be drinking. Knowing what I'm getting into and how best to arrange this will help a lot. I was definitely not cool enough to do this sort of thing in my 20s, and I'm only feeling less so now, but it's the Mountain Goats.

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Please excuse the pun in the title. I'm looking for a way to meaningfully compare two slightly older computers so I can decide which one to bring to work.I'm a math teacher who's been the owner of a MacBook Air circa 2011 or so. It runs well, upgraded to OS X 10.11.6, the main drawback is that the battery doesn't hold charge like it used to, especially when the internal fan comes on, which it will because the underside get hot when it's working hard. At the same time, my employers gave me a Lenovo Thinkpad, which is a dark grey brick of a thing running Windows 7, don;t know how old it is. My experience with Windows ended around 2002, when XP was still riding high. The reason I needed the Thinkpad is because it came installed with SMART Notebook for the smartboard in my room -- I'm a math teacher. Now, as an educator, I can get a license for SMART Notebook for not too much, so I'm wondering whether it'd be easier on my back to bring the MBA back and forth to school rather than the Thinkpad. My question is: what should I consider? Is there a way to compare the specs of these two very different machines and decide which one would be better for use in my class? What do I not know about the Thinkpad or about Windows 7 which might affect my decision? (Mods: I beg forgiveness in advance that I may post more details about either machine below, if someone tells me how to pull specs from the Thinkpad.)

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When I'm finished my day at work, I get so sick thinking about my "real" life. I have felt so profoundly alone and lonely since my father died in March. I've been left to "take care of" my 72 year old (alcoholic, etc.) mother and it's just too much for me to deal with, I'm an only child. I've recently moved out, but I still feel awful. I just feel so alone. How can I make it better?Everything just hurts. I had to go to my mother's house today after work because I forgot a receipt for something I need to return to the store. Of course, she wasn't home... she's at the bar, where she usually is (the only place she'll go!!!). After I found the receipt I just started wailing and crying and so upset. I am so tired of this pain. I'm 29 and I feel like an 8 y ear old. I'm an only child and I really have no family or close by friends to support me. My father's brother is the executor of the estate, but once the estate's settled he's not someone I can rely on. I worry so much that she's going to spend all her money getting drunk at the bar and that i will have to support her forever. I'm in grad school and working part time now and I don't think I could even support her if I had a job. I probably will never make *enough* money to support someone living in a senior's home, if worst comes to worst. I know she's going to be my responsibility until the day she dies and that terrifies me. I am absolutely horrified. Moving out hasn't made me feel any better, it's made me feel worse. I don't know what's wrong with me. I just feel *so* profoundly alone. All I want in the world right now is a family so badly and I know I'm not going to get it. Growing up with my mother has made me feel completely worthless and unlovable. I feel like I'm nothing. If I got into a serious accident no one would care about me. I don't have anyone to use as an emergency contact if I got hurt. How do you go through life alone like this? I'm terrified. I'm too afraid to date, because I can't imagine that anyone would want to be with me if they knew about my mother. They would run away so fast. I don't even dream about getting married or having a family anymore. I feel like I'm bound to be alone forever and spend the rest of my life taking care of my father's mistakes (my mother). I'm utterly terrifed. I'm at a loss at what to do. Can I do anything to make my life better? It hurts so much. I am in therapy, but I don't know what more I can do.

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Maybe the hivemind knows a current seller of a wallet in this style? Salient features: bifold, id card slot on one side, 3 credit card slots on other side, invisible card slots behind each side of bifold, leather, black.I bought this wallet back in 2011, and again in 2013, and it was great. It's been discontinued since then. And since then I've bought at least 4 other wallets that looked like they'd be similar but have each had ...problems. Once, I even forked out for a fancy name brand wallet I thought would work, and it came with extra pockets (which promptly deteriorated), extra-soft leather (which got all weird in my pocket and ended up breaking one of my credit cards because it was too soft at the corners), and an irremovable metal logo widget that dug into my butt when I sat. Wallets suck. Small daily annoyances add up, and I realized today how much I dread playing the wallet lottery. Anyone know of a simple, basic, durable black wallet with the features listed above? I'll buy, like, 10. Open to suggestions for more simple durable alternatives; I tend to carry a fluctuating amount of cash, some paper receipts, 2-3 credit cards, a library card and an ID card.

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My husband and I are celebrating a big anniversary this January, and I'm hoping to get his passport renewed and drag him over to Europe for a visit to celebrate.Flights to Dublin are really inexpensively priced, and I'm contemplating a week or so in the city sitting happily in a pub next to a fire. Is this a good idea, or are there other European locations that would work? Maybe smaller towns instead of big cities? He traveled a lot in Europe years and years ago and hasn't been back, I have a passion for Italy but maybe would rather pay cheaper airfares at the moment. I was also considering Spain, because in-country prices are good but the airfare is maybe more than I want to deal with. Help me brainstorm? I'm thinking of a smaller vacation where my usual museums-and-cathedrals turns into loitering-and-people-watching-cozily.

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