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Is there hope in restoring photos that have not been backed up or synced onto iCloud? I was in the process of syncing photos to iCloud, and plugged my iPhone 5S to my iTunes account on my Windows laptop. In the process of doing so, iTunes recommended the update to the latest iOS version. Of course, that crashed my phone, and I got an error message that the upgrade didn't complete. Worse yet, my phone is not usable right now, and iTunes has an error message stating "iTunes has detected an iPhone in recovery mode. You must restore this iPhone before it can be used with iTunes". I checked older askmes and I found a lot of info in restoring from a backup, but what are my options in this wild wild west state? Help me! I have precious vacation pictures on my phone, would be inconsolable if they're gone forever.

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Looking for alternativesWe are looking for alternatives to the True Detective HBO show since season 2 will be in 2015. Any suggestions would be great, the quality and content of that show was really good and anything similar in quality and style would be perfect. Movie suggestions along the same line welcomed. Thanks

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Impressionist and voice artist Lewis Macleod tells the story of Little Red Riding Hood with the help of some famous names. (NSFW, SLYT)

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I am in China and my SO is in USA. we both use the app WECHAT a lot to keep in touch.. wechat is a very popular app in China as a social utility that connects people with friends on mobiles phones. but since 2 months ago, i could not view the full images of the pictures he have sent me and could not download them. we can still send each other text messages and he can recieve the pictures i have sent to him. And i can view and download other pictures my chinese friends sent me. i think this is strange. does anyone know why it happens or how to fix it?

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NPR's Planet Money explains the history of the sales tax in the United States by tracing what kinds of sandwiches get taxed and why: How the Burrito Became a Sandwich. Bonus: In-N-Out Burger history in the podcast.

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Looking for suggestions of chill hangout spots or low-key activities (preferably not wine-related) for that awkward "before dinner" time in Napa.I am looking for suggestions of something low key to do in Napa (especially the Rutherford/Yountville area) between 4pm and 6:00pm on a Sunday that isn't centered around eating or drinking. It seems like everything is closed during these hours and we can't go back to the hotel because we will have checked out. [Note -- this doesn't have to be a 2 hour activity -- we could start as early as 2:30] I know that we *could* go to a winery that's open late, and that's definitely in my back pocket as an idea, but a couple people in our group would prefer not to drink, so if we go to wineries I'd at least like them to be places that would be interesting to folks who aren't tasting any wine. Something like visiting a sculpture garden or a small history museum or a particularly beautiful nature walk would be perfect (but the diRosa museum closes at 3:30pm, and the Grist Mill stops milling at 4pm). Also perfect would be suggestions of places that are hotel like, such as a very homey wine bar, spa, or coffee shop where people could chat and sit on couches and work on their laptops or whatever and maybe get a glass of wine if they choose. The more specific the suggestion, the better -- like names of specific stores rather than "go shopping downtown". Thanks!

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Is there a place online (either a store or a site that facilitates merchants or a single merchant) that sells custom or just awesomely painted upscale (Taylor, et al) guitars?

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I just got a refurbished Nexus S from Ting (I would link to the phone, but they're not selling it right now). Honestly, it's been great, except that twice now the phone just turned off and wouldn't turn back on. Then, in a few hours (like 12-16 hours), it does turn on and pretends like nothing happened. This causes me anxiety. I'm still under warranty for another week or so; should I ask for a new phone? I did try a few things, which are listed below.Apparently there is a "take it apart and put it back together again trick"; I tried the trick the second time the phone turned off, but nothing happened. Then, a few hours later, the phone did its whole starting again just fine thing. I also tried to charge the phone while it was off, thinking maybe it ran out of juice, but the phone didn't even react to being plugged in (which it usually does, even when it's off). And I had it plugged in for hours. OK I didn't try that many things but those are the two things I did. Advice?

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My husband was laid off from his job a few weeks ago. We have a toddler and live in Chicago. I've lived here forever, all of my family and friends are here, and I have a job I love here. So far, he hasn't come across any opportunities in this area, but we've seen some great looking job postings in smaller cities in flyover states. (Think Des Moines and Omaha.) Should he consider pursuing these opportunities, or should we stay where we are and struggle along?I love living in Chicago - my whole life is here. My husband grew up elsewhere and is more eh on it. Realistically, my husband has better job opportunities elsewhere. But we have some complicating factors in deciding whether or not to consider moving. 1. My husband has a chronic health condition and has some complex medical needs. He has a great team of doctors here that he's worked with for a long time. There are doctors in these smaller cities, but they're nowhere near as cutting edge as what we can get where we are. Plus, he has a medical emergency of some sort that requires hospitalization 1-2x a year now - it's a lot easier to deal with that with family right there to help out. (I also worry that he'll eventually not be able to work at all, which would bring it's own set of problems.) 2. Along with #1, he can't drive because of this medical condition. Where we live now, he can walk or take a bus or train to get everywhere he needs to go. In these smaller cities, he'd mostly have to depend on me for rides (since public transit is so spotty there and they aren't really walkable). 3. Our salaries were comparable before the layoff (I make $107k a year, he made around $100k), but we'd probably both see a little bump. Couple that with a much lower cost of living and we'd be quite wealthy. 4. However, we're in different functions in the same industry (he's a lawyer, I do analytical work), and there's not that many companies in this industry where we are now. It could be quite a long time until he finds something here, and it may be at a lower level than where he is now. He says he's ok with that, and he's said he's ok with maybe taking a non-legal job in our industry, but I don't know that he really means it. Since he's a lawyer, and all we ever hear about is how tough the legal field is, I'm not sure he could easily switch industries to a different legal position either. 5. We can get by on my salary for awhile, but we'll have to move and change our son's school and not save much of anything for retirement. I have no idea how we'd save for college, either. We do have cash reserves in the $150k range (emergency fund + house downpayment), and we have $300k saved for retirement, so we can have a bad year or two and still be ok. 6. Because there isn't a ton in our industry here, I don't think we can really move for a couple of years and come back if we don't like it. I've already job-hopped a bit as it is. I love my current job and have been here a year and a half. If I leave this job, take another job, and have another short stint, I think it would raise some red flags to hiring managers. 7. I love big cities. We went to Des Moines for a visit and I just couldn't see myself being really happy there. It looks ok on paper (low COL, great schools, high salaries), but it mostly just felt like one big suburb. Plus, we are atheists, and it felt a lot more church-y there than we're used to. I worry we wouldn't fit in. So, our options at this point are to stay here in a place we're happy and have a support network, hope he finds something, and sort of limp along financially; or for me to suck it up, expand his search to these smaller, far away cities with more opportunities and possibly better salaries, and not have to worry about money again, but be far away from family, friends, and medical care. What say you, Ask MeFi? Move for the money, or stay and wait it out and risk less money and financial stability? Or another option I'm not thinking of? I think this would be a very different conversation were it not for his poor health, and I tend to let that cloud my judgement, so I'm hoping to get some good feedback.

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Columboldies is a tumblr featuring furniture/clothing/etc. from the tv show Columbo.

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An animated interpretation of the strange life of Boston Corbett, the man who killed John Wilkes Booth. It was animated in charcoal, pastels and crayon on the pages of 12 paperback books. Previously: "Asked what had happened since he entered history by shooting Booth that early morning in Virginia, Corbett said that despite his fame, he had nothing."

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I'm 24 and have almost no dating experience, and I need help knowing whether I should pursue things further with this guy or end it.I'm female. Because of shyness and anxiety, I never dated in college and high school, so I'm behind many of my friends in terms of dating, sex and romantic relationships. I've never had a boyfriend. I've never had sex. I've had a string of one-off dates and "platonic" hang-outs that once I thought about them, still had some undercurrent of attraction on my part. I'm still trying out whether I could ever have a close guy friend without feeling some level of attraction to him; so far, the answer seems to be no. So for the sake of putting this question and my current thought process in context, here are three guys I've been drawn to in some fashion since I've ventured into the dating world over the past year or so: Guy 1: Super-cool, similar interests as me and fun to hang out with, but I didn't feel physically attracted to him. He responded to a craigslist ad I'd posted, but by the time we decided to meet up I was freaked out by how into me the guys I met seemed to be right off the bat and I told him I just wanted to be friends first. He said this was fine (he later faded out, so I guess it actually wasn't) I think what made me consider him more as a friend was that he was introverted, like me. Once we hung out with a friend of mine, and he was very stiff and quiet. At the time, I thought I didn't want to be with someone who would force me to be the social one if we were at a party, but now I'm reconsidering. Since then, I also wonder if I've placed too much emphasis on appearance, and whether I would have dated him if I hadn't been so concerned over looks. Guy 2: Confident, extroverted and attractive. We met at a Meetup and I really wanted to date him after one platonic coffee meeting, though he wasn't interested in being in a relationship with anyone at the time. I acted too overeager to hang out with him, and he ended up feeding me a line about being too busy to hang out again. Guy 3: Cute, similar interests as me, but he also was introverted and his quietness meant there wasn't that much conversational chemistry between us. He would sometimes not say anything and leave conversation up to me, which drove me up the wall. Which brings me to Guy 4. Based on my experiences with above-listed guys (and others similar to Guy 2), I thought that primarily, my type was someone who is extroverted and a good conversationalist. I guess I'm realizing I'm attracted to how they make me feel--less shy and awkward, and more like a good conversationalist, by virtue of their drawing me out of my shell. Given this, Guy 4 is not the type I thought I'd be interested in. He's pretty soft-spoken and not a talk-easily-with-any-strangers type, such as Guy 2, but conversation flows pretty well between us, and he doesn't let conversation die, like Guy 3. He's also a science grad student and outdoorsy. I'm a writer and very indoorsy. What we have in common: interest in foreign films, certain TV shows and a common love for certain ethnic cuisine. Less stuff in common to talk about than Guy 1 and me, but I do enjoy spending time with him. We had two dates over the weekend, both of which lasted about three hours each, and we've texted back and forth between them. I enjoyed hanging out with him both times. I know he really likes me, and we're going to hang out again sometime in the near future. However. All of the three previous guys I was excited to get texts from. When this guy texts me, though, I don't feel any highs. It's more like, "Oh. Cool." It has been sort of nice, though, not feeling like my entire day is made by whether this person gets back to me or not. Also, after hanging out with Guy 1 and the one time with Guy 2, I left feeling really buoyant and energized. With this current guy, I've walked away from our two dates feeling that it was a pleasant time, and I'd happily hang out with him again, but again—no high. It's nice, just not limerance-y or exciting. I know that similar questions about ambiguously spark-y dates have gotten answers like "Grab their hand, and see how it feels" or "Kiss them, and that should clear it up." But I don't feel comfortable doing that sort of thing. Not even hand-holding, because I am not naturally a touchy-feely person. I'm also scared that doing so would give this guy the wrong impression that I'm more into him than I actually am. Like me, I don't think he's had much, if any, relationship experience. He hasn't even initiated a hug with me yet. I know he's into me, though, and I don't want to do anything that will encourage his attraction when I'm still confused. So...how best to handle this? Some commenters on these AskMe questions have suggested that the person feeling "meh" at least be honest with the other person about how they feel, just so that they're both on the same page. I'd like to be honest with this guy about my feelings, but really, what's the best way to say "I think I kind of like you and would like to continue seeing you, but I'm probably not as into this as you are. What do you think?" That's my main question. But because I over-analyze everything, I have two other concerns: 1. I just moved back home after living in a different city with some college friends. Part of me is worried that I'm just trying to fill a social void by dating. In my previous city, I had one friend who I could contact or hang out with pretty much any time when we weren't working. I fear I may be looking for something similar by seeking a relationship. I think the sudden lack of a social support network is what drove my interest in dating right after a moved back home the first time, post-graduation. It also probably led to me unintentionally stringing Guy 1 along. I liked having someone to hang out with consistently. I have since realized how problematic this is, and in addition to dating, I'm trying to expand my social circle by taking up hobbies and connecting with old high school pals. So I like to think I'm being smarter about dating this time. But even so...I don't want to use this guy and lead him on. 2. This person is the third guy I've met off OKC since moving back home. (I've been using OKCupid on and off for about two years.) I know people say it's better to just keep messaging and keep dating, but I find it exhausting, especially because my city's small-ish, so there's not a huge pool to choose from; a majority of dudes I message don't reply; and I've never been one to experience a flood of messages in my inbox. Subconsciously, maybe part of why I'm reluctant to break things off with this guy is the rarity that someone I kind of still like-like after meeting them in person actually likes me back. Usually it's imbalanced on one side or the other. So I think, deep down, I'm afraid that I'm interested in him because I won't be in this situation again for awhile. Like, if he did the slow fade and never spoke to me again, I don't think I'd be too torn up about it. But I also don't want to ask if he just wants to be friends, because assuming that a friendship could actually work out, I'm scared that I'd one day find myself attracted to him, but he won't feel the same. So as you can see...I have a lot of fear and uncertainty clouding my mind right now. Fear of stringing him along, mixed with maybe a fear of commitment and dating in general, I guess. The last thing I want to do is hurt Guy 4. We've been texting tonight and he's already told me a few times how pretty I am. I'm not used to such talk, so I really need advice on how to proceed here. My throwaway email is confusednewbiedater@gmail.com

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Doing his best Orson Welles impression, Ze Frank administers a Voight-Kampff Test to a Vancouver TED audience.

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Is there any way to learn how to communicate like a normal human being?I've always been a bit of an outcast; the couple people who know me well would describe me as depressed, unsociable and a poor communicator. I'm frequently completely invisible in both my physical presence and voice. This delightful cornucopia of personality traits has greatly hindered my adult relationships and career options, and I'd like to change that. After some months of self-reflecting and observation I've realized the connecting thread in all the failing areas of my life are due to an inability to thrive in social situations. From observing acquaintances I've noticed they all seem to enjoy the company of others; have the normal give and take that conversations go through with a dash of jokes and harmless flirtation. They seem to intuitively know when to turn on the charm or take a step back, when to greet and say their farewells at the appropriate time with the appropriate intensity. Me? Well, not so much. Socializing has always been incredibly confusing and stressful to me, and I wish to be able to communicate well with others and enjoy the company of others as I've witnessed others frequently are able to do. My style of communication is more efficient; to the point. I have trouble with banter and small talk, and am oddly silent when apparently I should be making jokes and being charming. When I speak I tend to blurt out answers and my words and letters get frequently transposed making things even more jumbled and confusing. Many times my thoughts themselves get incredibly screwed up and jumbled in my mind making it hard to communicate at all. Is this simply social anxiety? What can I do to fix this? What resources should I look into to help me communicate better?

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Looking for an industrialish-type fixture to replace the brass boob in my ceiling and the snowglobe stuck above my sink.So I'm doing a few small things to my kitchen since I can't afford an entire remodel right now. I'd like to replace a small snowglobe-looking light above a sink and the light in the center of the ceiling (which looks a bit like a brass boob stuck to the ceiling). I really want: -Something industrial-looking -Nothing on a pendant cord -Bonus points for metal and retro bulbs If I could find something like this without the pendant cord, it'd be pretty much perfect. Any ideas on where I can find this?

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Sixteen-year-old Agnes Quill has inherited an ancient family curse, brought about by the loss of her parents. Several of our key scholars have accounted for and confirmed that she has the ability to see and communicate with spirits trapped between worlds. In several confidential journal entries, Agnes describes the events of her parents' funeral, where the ghost of her Grandfather, Ages Quill, visited her. It was then that he explained the nature of specters and how he used his connections with them to great advantage throughout his career. Ms. Quill's stories are written by Astronaut Academy creator Dave Roman, and illustrated by a growing collection of artists. (via io9)

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It is hot and I sweat. No, I POUR sweat from my head and it is quite embarrassing in public. Are there ways to deal with excessive head sweating aside from hiding in my house splayed in front of the my lone fan?It comes and goes in some magical order only it knows. I can be fine one minute and the next my hair is soaked. I have sweated out hair dye in six hours (clown purple!). It messes up any hair style I have had so when summer comes I basically shave most of it off and try to rock the dyke genderqueer look but it isn't always appropriate and dammit I would like to be able to have long hair at least one year. Add in it pouring down my face and making me feel dirty and oily and I start to loathe the sun. Are there ways to prevent this? Mitigate it? Help me look vaguely put together instead of a beached sunburnt whale dripping from the ocean? Hats seem to make it worse and enhance my comically large head (which you can't notice but if I put on a hat is all you notice). Am I doomed to just be that sweaty person at every occasion? Do I invest in a spray bottle with a fan attached like my elderly aunt?

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"Saying "Hey, I like Kim" isn't as inspiring to people as us getting married. And anyone that's in a relationship knows that in order to get to the point to get married and then to be married and to then carry on, it needs that work put into it. Right now, people look at it and it's like, "Wow, that's inspiring." Meaning that love is infectious. You know, God is infectious—God flowing through us and us being little-baby creators and shit. But His energy and His love and what He wants us to have as people and the way He wants us to love each other, that is infectious. Like they said in Step Brothers: Never lose your dinosaur. This is the ultimate example of a person never losing his dinosaur. Meaning that even as I grew in cultural awareness and respect and was put higher in the class system in some way for being this musician, I never lost my dinosaur." GQ interviews Kanye West. Time: 5 Things We Learned from Kanye West's GQ Interview Early K.West footage has recently surfaced - Kanye at Fat Beats August 1996

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I've been branching out into more dresses and trying to figure out what length/shape of necklaces look best with different necklines. I have plenty of necklaces I like, just not sure what to wear with what.I'm fine with button-up collared dresses, but everything else gives me pause. It would be helpful if you could both suggest the length of necklace (choker, opera-length, whatever) and the shape (by which I mean size - from a dainty chain to a big blocky statement necklace). Any books or guides you can recommend? And can someone suggest what kind of necklace I should wear with a higher necked notch dress? Thanks for any suggestions you have! And if your suggestion is "wear what you love", I really like all of my jewelry and don't have much of an intuitive grasp about this so my current backup is already "wear what you love", but I'd like to have a slightly more nuanced approach. Thank you!

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Una Baines' unreleased album with her band The Fates has been reissued by Finder's Keepers on vinyl. You may know Una Baines as the first keyboard player in the Fall, as a founding member of Blue Orchids or from a short lived stint in Nico's backing band. The Fates were a "women's group" operating at the intersection of post-punk, english mysticism, indie and folk. (Link goes to an interview at the defunct online Fall zine Reformation!) Here is a review at The Quietus with a bunch of background info and great youtube links. The first 4 songs on youtube: Ceaseless Effort Bridget of Ireland Sheila - She Beats in My Heart For some context, here is the Blue Orchids' classic and influential Bad Education. The Fall's Bingo Master's Breakout And The Blue Orchids backing up Nico in 82: Waiting for My Man All Tomorrow's Parties (Live Video)

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If I buy a region 2 DVD player and use it in the US with a plug adaptor and power converter, will that damage the electronics in the long run?So I was in the UK last year and bought a pile of my favorite BBC shows on region 2 DVDs. My original plan was to buy an inexpensive region 2 portable DVD player there and bring it home. I don't quite remember what happened to that plan but I think it had to do with it needing a plug adaptor and a voltage converter. I may have also been thinking it would be simpler to use my old laptop and just leave it permanently on region 2. That laptop is nearly dead and I haven't been able to find another way to watch my DVDs. We happen to be heading back to region 2 shortly. I was thinking about the DVD player/converter/ adaptor plan again. I don't think there are any region 2 players made with US power in mind and I don't want to fool around with trying to find a region 1 player that maybe has a code that I can enter to maybe make it region-free or anything along those lines. And in any case, those that can be made region-free seem to be the counter-top plug-into-a-TV style and I'm looking for the small, portable type. I don't imagine I will ever watch anything other than region 1 or region 2 so I don't even need a region free player. I really just want a portable region 2 player but I'm concerned about adapting/converting the power supply. Thanks for any advice/input!

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What should a young male academic wear when it's hot?I think I've figured out what to wear when it's cool: I typically wear dark blue jeans, brown leather boots and a dark green/brown tweed jacket. I like this outfit because: 1. It's smart enough for the academic environment, but not excessively smart (as a suit would be). 2. Both tweed and denim are hard-wearing. 3. Dark blue and brown suit me given my eye-colour, skin tone etc.. 4. Dark blue and brown hide the odd bit of mud or bike grease. 5. The outfit doesn't require much effort. For example, jeans don't need to be carefully ironed. 6. I'm an outdoorsy person (I like hiking, mountainbiking etc.) so tweed suits me. Now I want to figure out what to wear when it's hot. I like wearing linen, but linen trousers don't last nearly long enough. Too formal is better than not formal enough. I like old-fashioned. I'll shortly be moving to the bay area.

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Last month, a twelve-year-old girl named Lauren Arrington was credited with research showing that lionfish, an invasive species, were surviving in water with a much lower percentage of salinity than was thought possible. Not mentioned, however, was the previous research done by a grad student named Zack Jud, who published on the topic in 2011. This omission is curious, because Lauren Arrington's father was an author on that paperr. Judd has been distressed to discover this as the story has gotten a lot of play in the media without his name or research getting any mention and he has commented on his Facebook, wondering how to respond to this without quashing a young girl's scientific curiosity. Lionfish Previously

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Bread bakers of Ask MeFi, please share your advice, techniques, favorite instructional videos, books and/or websites about making bread loaves look terrific.My dough is fine, but I cannot get the hang of making my bread look attractive. I suspect some of that is lack of oven spring due to overproofing; some of it, though, is that I'm not proficient in shaping techniques. Tools I have: baguette pans; an (unused) couche cloth; various round stoneware pots/bowls; standard loaf pans. My free-form loaves also need practice. What has worked for you in improving the shape of your loaves? The doughs I make most are ryes and Peter Reinhart's Pain a'Lancienne. My pizza shaping skills are also so-so -- advice welcome there, too.

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4x+y+2z=100, x>y, y>z, x+y+z=j, 3x+z=k, j>k, j+k=100. WolframAlpha can only give me alternative forms or a solution involving 'real and imaginary parts of z'. Is there a solution I can count on my fingers?I wish to buy a thing. The thing I buy will have two desirable characteristics: j, and k. j comprises three sub-characteristics, while k comprises four sub-characteristics. I have three levels for ranking how important these sub-characteristics are to me - let's say 'super important', 'kinda important' and 'meh, whatever'. Obviously, they are of decreasing importance. I have rated the three sub-characteristics for j 'super important', 'kinda important' and 'meh, whatever'. I have rated three of the four sub-characteristics for k 'super important', and the fourth 'meh, whatever'. This means I have a total of four 'super important', one 'important', and two 'meh, whatevers'. Finally, j is a little bit more important to me than k. If further defining these variables help, then I think they'd be about a 60/40 split, though I'm flexible. They can be equal if that helps. At this stage I'd settle for k being less than j if it means a solution pops out. I would like to assign positive numbers to x, y and z, because I'm a bureaucrat, that's why. So, x>y (must) y>z (must) j = x + y + z k = 3x + z 4x + y + z = 100 (per cent) j + k = 100 (per cent) I can't change the number of characteristics, sub-characteristics, or levels of importance. I could make k=2x+y+z, and so change the overall equation to 3x+2y+2z, but I'm not smart enough to know if that helps. It didn't help WolframAlpha.

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