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Les Paul's 1954 Custom: The One & Only Original by Michael Molenda, Guitar Player. More on Les Paul, and his partnership with Mary Ford, at Gibson.com. YouTube: How High The Moon (1951). Previously: How High The Moon

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By now, we've all heard about the low numbers of American women in science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM). My own new research, co-authored with Kathrine W. Phillips and Erika V. Hall, indicates that bias, not pipeline issues or personal choices, pushes women out of science – and that bias plays out differently depending on a woman's race or ethnicity.

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The worlds of anime cybersex roleplay and Bar Rescue are rarely combined. Original thread. Blog post. @JonTafferRP. Boring as Heck, previously.

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I've got the job. Now I have to navigate the paycheck/loans/benefits/retirement... Where do I start?I'm graduating in May, and have a job. (yay!!!!!) I'll be making enough that I estimate half of my take home will pay my expenses and debts. What do I do with the rest of it to maximize that money for the rest of my life? How much should I save each month? How much do I actually get to spend? My only debt will be student loans. I want to buy a house within a few years. (Bf & I plan to stay in this area, get married, have kids... we are mid 20s, he graduates next year and will also have loans.) Second part, the prelim benefits package shows options between medical plans, expense account, etc. How do I choose which plan, how much $ to put towards 401K (max I can, I guess), etc. Are there online resources/blogs/etc that deal with this post-college first-job transition?

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With interest rates at an all time low (and likely to increase later this year), the spring home selling season should see plenty of new real estate listings. Many of those listings will feature terrible real estate photos (which has been covered before). It's amazing how good photography can make the difference in selling a house in 8 days versus 8 months. But with the rise of photo apps comes the worst thing to happen to property listing photos: bad HDR real estate photography.

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The biting cold of a March morning did little to dissuade fans of Amelia Edwards, founder of the Egypt Exploration Society, from turning out in force to watch the unveiling of her blue plaque at 19 Wharton Street in London this week. Edwards joins a small list of women writers including Elizabeth Gaskell, Mary Shelley and Agatha Christie, chosen to be celebrated by the scheme as its first female Egyptologist. As one dives deeper into Amelia Edwards' contributions to Egyptology, one begins to wonder*, was it she who was the real Amelia Peabody, so well known to us through the words of Elizabeth Peters? *Really thought I was the first to make the connection, never mind

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A caesar, a brandy old-fashioned, etc. What cocktails define a region and get you strange looks when ordered elsewhere?I grew up in Wisconsin, and upon leaving the state, I was surprised that making an old fashioned with brandy was unusual and that you don't always get a beer chaser when ordering a bloody mary. What are some examples of other very specific regional drinks and traditions, in the US or around the world? I am somewhat skeptical of other lists I've found on the internet, so I'd love to hear your opinion.

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"The plaintiff, Ellen Pao, had accused the firm, Kleiner Perkins Caufield & Byers, of discriminating against her in the course of her employment and eventual dismissal. The decision handed Kleiner a sweeping victory in a case that had mesmerized Silicon Valley with its salacious details while simultaneously amplifying concerns about the lack of diversity in the technology industry." Pao is now the CEO Reddit - Relevant Reddit thread.

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Time to move out, my friends. I realized I'm being threatened to be disowned again. However, unlike the other times I think the other person might be serious this time around. So tell me about all the resources needed and how fast can I leave?Profile: Under 25, some college debt ($15k), incomplete college degree (left due to lack of funding/commute), have pet cat, some medical conditions and in therapy, NY-area, own driver's ID, declared Independent and no savings (long story). The reason I have no savings because family decided I don't need money and took every birthday/holiday gift ever. I have searched for jobs locally and online. I'm planning to go into IT and studying for my A+ cert until this happened. Great. I can't rely on relatives because they are estranged/non-responsive. I don't have friends because I'm technically in limbo not being in college/work force. Most of interaction is online but my mother is threatening to cut me off completely too. The reason for everything is how I quit my part-time job with my abusive mother who was the manager of a family business. She decided to cut me off, take away all internet/communication privileges, healthcare, and finance. Any advice or help would be appreciated thanks. p.s. I'm on my LTE right now so it might be slow for me to reply. Thanks.

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I don't want a Robe, I want the best robe. I want a robe that looks both stylish and timeless - a robe Cary Grant could wake up in and stay in all day. I want a robe that is well-constructed and comfortable enough to last forever and I could lounge around in while still looking natty. I want something with a retro-feel and interesting colors. I do not want white terrycloth. Where can I find this robe?In NYC if that helps, would like to be able to feel the material before I buy but online shopping is okay.

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I have a completely irrational but very persistent fear of frogs. Has anyone else experienced this fear and overcome it? What worked for you?Here's how my frog phobia negatively impacts my life: If I'm on a walk and I see a frog on the trail or road, I can't move until it goes away. If I'm going swimming in a pool, I must thoroughly check for frogs first. Forget about swimming in a pond. I avoid puddles, swampy areas and streams of all kinds because they are frog habitats. I am especially concerned this spring because I had a baby last year and I don't want to exhibit the fear in front of my one-year-old and risk passing it on to him. I really want him to have a normal relationship with frogs. Any advice, suggestions or strategies (even if it's about other animals) would be so helpful.

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How do I do taxes for the first time? I live in NJ, and I had a paid internship last summer in CA. The internship provided free housing (is that taxable?) and I'm a college student in NJ. Sub-questions: What forms do I fill out, and what software can I use?How does this relate to my parents' taxes? What percent of my earnings should I expect to be paying, both now and in the future?

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* Special snowflake advisory *I've had 2 close male friends my entire life (I'm a guy as well). He was one of them, we were late teens, early 20s at the time. Now its 25 years later. Looking back on it, I'm not sure how we were such good friends. I'm 2 years older than him (not a factor now obviously). Different schools. Very different personalities. He was popular, extroverted. Me not popular, extremely introverted ... (note, not shy, but to this day introverted, diagnosed high-functioning autistic ... I know, I know, everybody is autistic nowadays.) He married his high school sweetheart. Probably has several kids by her. My life has been a series of 1-6 year relationships. No kids. We've both moved from our hometown. Looks like we live about 1000 miles apart, so there's no actual meeting going to take place. I am not a sentimental person. I've tried and learned it doesn't work. You can't go home again. What has happened in the past in situations like this is a few email exchanges, some catching up and then its done. There's nothing more to say. I don't see the point of this. So, I can just ignore the request or reply ... what do you think?

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We got married on the spur of the moment and are now facing the prospect of paying for health insurance twice for the first couple of months of being married.I have health insurance through my employer, my spouse has it through the health insurance marketplace in PA. We got married in March 17th, and put her on my health insurance, other stuff happened and so we only just got around to calling the health care marketplace and they won't let her cancel her insurance until mid-April. At the same time, my insurance covers her beginning the date of the marriage because she's being added under a "life event" rather than during open enrollment. That means we are paying a hefty payment to my company, as well as to her marketplace insurance for the months of March and April. This is killing us and makes no sense. We called the PA marketplace, who said it was up to the insurance company whether we would be charged and of course, when we called the insurance company, they said it was up to the marketplace. Neither are budging. This can't be the first time this has happened. Does everyone pay twice for insurance for the first couple of months they are married or is everyone else way smarter about this than we were? If you have any experience with this either as an insider (in health insurance, HR, etc) or having done this yourself, is there anything we can do? Paying an extra $300/month for insurance we don't need just doesn't seem right and is not something we can afford right now.

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I have a situation which I do not feel completely safe to talk about. There is a particular site that has edited my posts to make it look like I am a crazy person. I am unable to say what I mean to people who I wish to communicate to because of this. what should I do? How do I communicate to people on a site where my posts are edited by other people?

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Elsinore is an adventure game set in the world of Shakespeare's Hamlet - which places it, historically, in 16th century Denmark. Since we began work on the project a year or so ago, I've shown the playtest build to family, friends, and strangers alike. After they're done playing, intermingled with their feedback on gameplay, they often point to Ophelia and ask: Why is she black? For Gamasutra, Katie Chironis, team lead and writer of Elsinore talks about why they made the protagonist black, the possibilities of black people living in Denmark in the 16th century and why history and "history" in games is so often whitewashed.

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Dan Deacon "When I Was Done Dying" for Off The Air on Adult Swim - "Tapping nine unique and talented animators (whose work had all appeared previously on the show) to create a beautiful and seamless journey through the afterlife..." [previously!]

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My wife and I are Americans, but will be in Copenhagen on the night of her 40th birthday in early July. I'd like to plan something very special (such as dinner at an incredible restaurant or a breathtaking daytrip) to celebrate the occasion. Any suggestions?While we've traveled throughout Europe quite a bit, we have not yet been to Copenhagen (or even Denmark). I'm open to anything under maybe $1,000 US. We're in good health but not particularly athletic. We like food, wine, culture, music, beautiful scenery, and adventure. The key thing I'm looking for is "memorable" -- which I'm finding is a little hard to pull off in a foreign country on my own.

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Editor quits journal over pay-for-expedited peer-review offer "With a tweet yesterday, an editor of Scientific Reports, one of Nature Publishing Group's open-access journals, has resigned in a very public protest of NPG's recent decision to allow authors to pay money to expedite peer review of their submitted papers. "

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What is this song? Chorus: "iiiiiit's alllll-right"This might be a long shot: I heard a song on the radio today that I can't track down. Here are the details I can figure out: 1. Guitar based, relatively simple song structure (almost like Dinosaur Jr. but lighter tone guitar?) 2. Chorus is "iiiiit's alllllright ([when?] [you?] something something something)." repeat. Sung by nasally-sounding dude. 3. It starts off kind of slow and slowly gains tempo in the same structure/chord progression. 4. One of the lyrics might be (and I really emphasize might be, because this might just be red herring) a variation on (something something) being me and you/you and me. I'm thinking it's the last 3 decades or so, but from my really hazy memory of it (couldn't pick up any memorable, googleable lyrics) it seems late 80s or modern. The station plays stuff from The Cure to today, as far as I can tell. If anybody has any leads, I'm desperate. Thanks!

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My student loans are past-due and I can't afford the minimum payments. I need more assistance for the next two years and I'm concerned I won't be eligible anymore. The loan servicers website offers income-based repayment plans along with other options, but support isn't available to answer questions until next Monday. I'm really freaking out... Can anyone shed some light on the consequences of repayment plans, deferments, and forbearance?I took an extended break after graduated from a 2-year college and didn't realize my loans exceeded their grace periods and are already past due. I have two loans.. both are from the U.S. Dept of Education, but one consolidated from a previous college attempt and the other is a Stafford loan from my recent school. My loan servicer offers repayment plans to help, but I'm concerned if I take the "Income-based repayment plan" it will disqualify me from further assistance. I've plan to start at a 4-year school this Summer and require loan assistance to finish my degree. I can't find any information online and customer service isn't available until Monday morning.

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Lee Lin Chin is an Australian television presenter best known for anchoring SBS World News for over a decade. She is also utterly hilarious, most recently attracting attention for her own take on a 'mean tweets' video. Apart from her superb anchoring work, many viewers tune in because of her keen fashion sense. She is The Chin. She is legend. Marvel at her immense legacy.

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Can medical marijuana cure or at least be effective in some capacity in treating cancer?We're thinking about complementing chemo treatments with medical marijuana. These folks prescribed two different strains in an oil formula and made a bunch of other recommendations (low sugar diet, various other supplements) and seem to be suggesting that these types of medicines, taken as prescribed can have a therapeutic effect. We're thinking about trying it but it's expensive! We figure it'll be about $900/month so it would help us to better understand if THC/CBD can really offer some hope. The reality is that this tumor will likely never go entirely away but if it can be fought off for some time, it would be worth it. Are there any good studies on using marijuana/cannabis as a cancer treatment?

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My mom has maybe a year to live after being diagnosed with cancer, and I want to spend more time with her than I have vacation. What do I say for the care I'm going to provide to get FMLA approved if she and her husband can physically care for herself most of her remaining time?My 81-yo mom was recently diagnosed with a brain tumor (GBM), has had surgery, and is now in physical therapy with the expectation that she will return home. Soon after that will probably be two weeks of radiation treatment. She came out of the surgery pretty well, both mentally and physically. Doctors say the median survival for cases like hers is 12 months. She has a husband to help her with any day-to-day tasks that she can't do on her own, and I and my siblings are arranging for things like house-cleaning and cooking to take more load off. But I want to spend more time with her than I have vacation, so I'm setting the stage to get unpaid time off via FMLA (I meet the various time-with-employer requirements). I hit the place on the form where I'm supposed to document the care I will provide and estimate of time needed, and I'm not sure what to put. "Provide psychological comfort"? "Help with day-to-day living"? I recognize that I might be trying to do this too soon, not knowing exactly how much help she will need when she is out of institutional care; for all I know her actually going home and leading any semblance of normal (assisted or not) life are just wishful thinking. I just want to get this approved now so that I can use it when needed, but I really don't know what kind of care she will be needing. I live far enough away that I can't easily just ask one of her doctors what they think about future care. Also, any thoughts on which doctor would be the best to complete the rest of the form? Primary Care, Neurosurgeon, Oncologist? I'm in no way asking you to help me commit fraud. If you tell me you're familiar with FMLA cases and what I'm doing is wrong I'll certainly back off. I think my employer is understanding, but I want to make it easy for them to approve and protect them from audits.

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Je ne suis pas liberal: Entering the quagmire of online leftism "Classifying leftist ideology in a framework of agency and trust, I find a buried contradiction at the heart of anti-oppressive activism, one in which practitioners pathologically self-position themselves in a space of chronic moral jeopardy."

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