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The college football season kicks off in earnest tomorrow night (though the first game and first upset have already happened) when the Ramblin' Wreck from Georgia Tech take on the Alcorn State Braves. But if you don't want to watch a 45-point FCS underdog get tuned up on, the weekend will also bring us some more intriguing matchups: The Michigan Wolverines have their first game under Coach Jim Harbaugh, whose signing generated more offseason ink than every other story in college football combined – to the point that Fox Sports will feature a Khaki Cam trained on him throughout the game. Oh, their opponent? The non-cupcake Utah Utes of the Pac-12. The defending first-ever College Football Playoff champion Ohio State Buckeyes (picked by virtually everyone to repeat) look to avenge their sole loss from last year, when Virginia Tech upset them in Columbus. The historically punching-above-their-weight Boise State Broncos welcome back the guy who brought them to national prominence, now coaching the Pac-12's Washington Huskies. Defending College Football Lineal Champions the TCU Horned Frogs travel way north to defend the belt against perennial Big Ten midcarders the Minnesota Golden Gophers in what is also one of the best mascot matchups of the weekend, if not the entire season. The federal government says that college football players aren't employees, so enjoy this year's crop of scholar-athletes playing an extracurricular sport that in no way detracts from the real reason they're there – to attend classes.

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Help me entertain myself in a few airports. Over the next few months, I'll have mid-length (lets' say 3-6 hour) layovers in Doha, Qatar (DOH) and both BOM and DEL in India. Any particular highlights inside these airports? I'm looking for unusual things to do, interesting views of outside or airport-workings, particularly good people-watching, food? If my best option is to park myself with a book and a snack, where should I get the snack, and where should I sit?I will be traveling solo with just a 45L backpack and perhaps a purse, if that matters. Also, since it nearly always matters, I'm female and white. And from the US.

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Is there a swing arm or some other way to mount a monitor such that I can lay down, on my back, and look straight up at it?Due to an injury, I really need to be laying flat on my back with a roll under my neck. Unfortunately, there is work that I really need (and want!) to do. Input gratefully appreciated.

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My mom is a lovely, intelligent, caring person. She also has lifelong untreated dysthymia. What's the best way to deal with her frequent, subtle passive aggression? (Wall of detail inside, feel free to skip to TL;DR if you have general advice for coping with passive aggression in family context.)First of all: I'm already in therapy, we're tackling this, but it's slow going. I can generally brush off other people's passive aggression, so I don't think it's just me being oversensitive? But I admit with mom, even the insignificant shit tends to hurt so much more. (According to my therapist, it's because this is the way I was brought up so it triggers old pain.) I'm doing CBAST therapy, which involves analyzing concrete situations, so here are a few examples from when I last visited my parents with my kids (translated from our native language): #1 Mom: [sadly] I only have cooked vegetables with rice for you, but you don't like them. Me: [bewildered] Huh? Since when don't I like cooked vegetables? Mom: [walks away] Yeah well you know, you don't like them. Me: [following] How do you mean? Veggies are good. Mom: [sighs] You don't like them because you prepare them differently yourself. Me: ??? Your cooked veggies are good. Mom: [turns her back, ignores me] (NB: I have never criticised her veggies) #2 Me: Haha, I snored so loud tonight I woke myself up. My kids: [giggling] Mom: Finally! After all the years that I've been accused of it and thought to be disgusting. Me: ??? (NB: The grammatical construction doesn't translate well; she didn't say who had accused her but seemed to imply it was me. I didn't even know she snores!) #3 Me: Mom, this salad dressing tastes off and the bottle made a weird hissing noise when I opened it. Also, the expiration date was weeks ago. It seems to have gone bad. Mom: [not looking at me, speaking to my father] Oh, some people are so fussy with the expiration date... When I put it in writing like this, it seems innocuous or trivial, like something I should just laugh off. I know that! It's just that it's like death by 1000 papercuts and I never know when to expect one; every time I visit her, I'm tense all the time, bracing myself in case my loving, funny mother suddenly starts to channel Emily Gilmore. And this is the way it has always been - these sudden remarks, subtle guilting and insinuations of how she's been criticized, mistreated or hated (by me?), acting like a martyr, all the "oh, never mind me". As a kid, if I actually did something to displease her, the silent treatment could go on for hours. Sometimes it started without me realizing what I'd done wrong. I'd be chattering away happily and suddenly realize my mother had been offended by something and was replying with icy silence. And I'd panic and start replaying everything in my head - what did I say, what did I do? (She still does this sometimes.) Other behavior from her that may or may not be passive aggression is that she never phones me, never emails me (but she does reply to my mails) and hasn't visited me for 10 years (while otherwise travelling extensively). She also has bouts of excessive self criticism, when she blames herself for things, calls herself an idiot (or ugly or fat or stupid etc.) and refuses to hear otherwise. What I've done (and doesn't work): I used to openly confront some of the passive aggression as a teenager (with admittedly the social skills of a teenager - yelling, crying, pleading). The result was invariably denial and silent treatment, for hours and sometimes days. I also got a reputation in my extended family as an angry, unreasonable, unstable person. (I swear I'm not! ...Or am I, and in denial?) So, for many years now I simply ignore, or occasionally use very gentle humor to counter some of it. But I feel like crap every time, and occasionally it triggers a panic attack (which I deal with in private). I walk on eggshells, never criticize, keep any risky opinions to myself. Trivial incidents like the above send me into a quiet spiral of self doubt, guilt and sadness. This has got to fucking stop already. I can't change my mom, but is there a way I can approach situations such as the examples above without making them worse, i.e. causing her to resort to silent treatment? How do I let go of my wish to have a safe, carefree relationship with my mother? Is there a way for this to hurt less? Or any other advice you can give me? I love her, my kids love her (and she doesn't treat them this way), and when she's not doing this she is a genuinely wonderful person. TL;DR: Mom has always been passive aggressive and prone to silent treatments. How do I cope and minimize the effect it has on me?

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I'm seeking gift ideas for a 30-year-old male I'll be meeting for the first time at his birthday celebration.We'll meet on a camping/hiking trip with up to a dozen people there. There will be birthday celebrating/merrymaking of the outdoorsy sort. He is a soldier (now reserves), a mechanic, a guy who has his own gear, etc. So it's not like I would get him something he needs. Of note: he's the adult son of the person I am seeing - we haven't met yet as he lives elsewhere. (Dad lives in between our two locations, and will be moving to my town soon. All easily drivable distances.) I'd typically give a gift from my town to someone who lives elsewhere. But that seems presumptive somehow in this situation. I don't want to make a big deal of it but don't want to be empty-handed. The only thing I can think of is a gift card for a local craft beer shop - I've emailed them to see if that's even an option. I'd appreciate any other ideas though.

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SIGGRAPH 2015 - Technical Papers Trailer (Previously)

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Have you recently purchased a bar in Brooklyn, but are completely bereft of original ideas? Firstly, congratulations on joining the thriving Brooklyn bar scene! Secondly, relax! You can use this handy tool to generate a name and menu for your fine establishment – absolutely no imagination neccessary!

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This morning Édouard Lock, bad boy of Canadian dance and founder/choreographer of Montréal's celebrated La La La Human Steps, posted an emotional open letter to the company's website, announcing that due to continued financial hardship, the iconic company is no more. Lock has scheduled a press conference for 3pm EST. In the meantime, why not gorge yourself on some of the instantly recognizable, frequently provocative, often innovative, and unapologetically populist works that made La La La (and Lock) such towering figures in Canadian dance history and (as an added bonus) helped propel the solo career of Lock's most famous muse (and an astonishing artist in her own right), Louise Lecavalier?

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I backed a kickstarter campaign for a local game store cafe and one of the prizes is getting to name one of the game tables that will be in the store. Fellow gamers, I need help! There are no restrictions, but obviously keep it clean.

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Can you help me put together a list of crochet blogs and instructional videos that explain in painstaking detail -- like, looped super-close-up slow-motion detail -- how to a) stitch something other than Ch, Sc, and Dc and b) make some simple crocheted gifts?After learning how to do some verrrrry basic crochet, I am now obsessed, but I'm struggling a lot with figuring out how to read patterns -- written ones and the chart-type things -- and I don't understand gauge AT ALL. I did sign up for Ravelry (I'm dbr over there, too). I'm one of those people who needs direct, hands-on instruction when I'm learning how to do anything but the current slate of in-person crochet classes at my LYS is impossible for me to attend due to my work schedule. And all of my crafty friends are knitters, not crocheters. Some of Melanie Ham's instructional videos have been helpful, but sometimes her hands go out of frame for a few stitches and then I get totally lost. Is Craftsy a worthwhile endeavor? I'd love to figure out how to make a hat, gloves/mittens, or some cute little ball animals (amigurumi) but right now all I can do is rectangles and squares. So far I've made one terrible Sc scarf along with ~1/4 of of a pretty good Dc scarf, and I'm about halfway done with a middling Dc baby blanket. I have a couple different weights and styles of [vegan] yarn and a few hooks but no stitch counter, stitch markers, or yarn needles. If you're like, "Well, I would post this project, but it's written/walked through at a level that would be easily understood by a literal kindergartener," that's exactly what I'm looking for. I saw this previously but OP is already at a more advanced skill level than me and although I do have a nice pair of size 9 needles, knitting is currently beyond the scope of my comprehension. Thank you, crocheters of MeFi!

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We just bought a new house. Yay! It needs a LOT of work. Boo. How do we make it through the next year with our sanity intact?We just bought a house that has the potential to be the home of our dreams. Thing is, it needs a lot of work - not a complete gutting but halfway there. We're talking at least 6-9 months of work. On the plus side, we don't have to move out of our current house until it's done, and it's only about five blocks away. But according to every single person we tell (and Hollywood), renovations are traumatic. (I'm sure I'm naive, but I kind of have a hard time understanding exactly why - it's just a bunch of decisions, right?) Anyway, we want to gird our loins for the coming year or so. Not just in terms of dealing with contractors, but relationship-wise too. In the long run we trust this purchase will relieve a lot of the current stress of living in a small home with two young, energetic kids. But in the short term, obviously, it will add to that. How can we make this an exciting, bonding experience instead of a couplehood claymore?

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Taylor Swift: A Socratic Dialogue

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TreeSheets is an open-source "Free Form Data Organizer" for Windows, Mac, and Linux. It's an outliner! It's a spreadsheet! It's a mind-mapping tool!

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It was like a mirror world to YouTube comments, where several dozen anonymous people had come together in love and harmony to write a complex, logically coherent document, based on a single tweet. Fan is a tool using animal. Maciej Cegłowski on what happened when fandom was forced to migrate from Delicious to Pinboard and he asked what his site could do better.

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I'm changing planes in Brussels, on a Monday later in Sept. One flight lands at 11:55, the other takes off at 15:35. My feeling is that I won't have enough time to do anything worthwhile, and I should just bring a book and wait it out. Is that correct? Bonus question: is there anywhere you'd recommend to sit & wait, in or near the airport?

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Cartoonist Lucy Bellwood's comic about a whitewater rafting trip through the Grand Canyon. Lucy Bellwood on the Blue, previously, previouslier.

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What should I do/see during my two month stay in Vannes, France (Brittany)?I'm going to be spending October and November in Vannes for work. Anyone have any advice for can't miss things to do/see/eat? Places I shouldn't miss a weekend trip to? Any words of wisdom for staying that long in a relatively small French town? Or anything that is going to cause me culture shock? My French is so-so. I live in Austin so it's going to be a change going from urban to small town living, but I grew up in a tiny town in Indiana, so hopefully that's not too much of an issue. I'd love to hear any thoughts y'all might have :)

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I'm going from employed to being a freelancer. So now I need a name for myself. Details under the fold.I will be doing audio post production mostly, but there will be some music production too. I find it hard to come up with a good company name that reflects (most or some of) the following ideas/things: audio - sound - post production - music - art - quality - fast - digital - editing - mixing. Another requirement is that the url is still for sale. I'm considering using a new domain extension (such as .tech, .digital, .audio, etc.). In my mind a name like "superb digital audio" is too much bragging, and names like "audio.solutions" or "postproduction.media" sound like a fake scam company is behind that name. So what I lack is a bit of lateral thinking, to get something original. I very much admire a name like "Industrial Light and Magic" which totally does not say "we do special visual effects" but in a way it 's spot on for 3D computer magic. Dear hive mind, I hope one of you can come up with a great company name. Thanks in advance!

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Are Thinkpiece Twitter Bots Causing Mefites to Wear Skinny Jeans? and other important thinks and thoughts. See also Slate

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When my wife and I bought our house two years ago, almost all the windows came furnished with custom, wooden blinds of high quality, and I assume, high price. Our lil' devil cat made short work of most of them, however, systematically chewing all the bits of connective string he could get at. Now we have a bunch of half-ruined blinds and loose wooden slats. I'm not sure what to do with this mess.Most of the blinds have been taken down and relocated to my garage, where they're taking up a lot of room (and we have very little storage space to begin with). I'd like to get rid of them, but I wince at the idea of throwing away what is probably hundreds of dollars worth of blinds. My question is twofold: 1) How much does it generally cost to restring blinds? All the other components of the blinds are intact and I could hang on to them for now. The cat is not going to change his ways and he's young, so it might be awhile before I can do anything with them, but if he croaks early (not that I'm wishing this on him) or we want to sell the house, maybe it's worth it to repair the blinds? If it's too great an expense, then it will make it that much easier to get rid of them. 2) If I do get rid of them, is there any charitable organisation that might have use for such a thing, where they could repair and resell them? Or do I just have a bunch of flimsy wood fit only for the dump? P.S. Yes, we tried the spray-on cat deterrent. I am the only one who suffered from it though, getting that awful flavour in my mouth accidentally as I removed the blinds. The deviant cat wasn't bothered by the taste at all. Cat 1, Human 0.

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I'm making a huge playlist of songs from 1978-1985 that represent the best of all music from that time period THAT ARE GOOD TO LISTEN TO WHILE DRIVING -- groovy, upbeat, etc.I'm interested in more than just the hits that we all still remember today... let's also dig up some good jams that have been somewhat forgotten -- e.g. I'd prefer something from The Clash's album Sandinista versus "Rock The Casbah". The only real caveat is that the songs must have been released between February 1978 - July 1985 and great to listen to while driving on a road trip. Any genre is fine -- let's put Madonna next to Soda Stereo!

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I listened to the two episodes of You Made It Weird where Harris Wittels talked about his experiences with drugs, heroin, and rehab. What other nonfiction podcasts are like this?I'm looking for nonfiction podcast series or single episodes that talk about substance abuse and addiction. I'm especially interested in personal experiences, whether that's the people with these issues themselves or others (family, doctors, etc.). OK if the topic does not involve substances and is more of a behavior than a physical addiction (e.g., gambling, compulsive shopping, sex, etc.). Thanks!

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Faced with the prospect of $15 an hour wages for fast food workers, Silicon Valley is re-inventing the automat.

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Tomorrow I have a meeting on Beacon St. in the mid-afternoon. I'm coming from Western Mass. I have a car and I'm happy to drive most of the way but I really hate and fear driving in downtown Boston. What are my best options for avoiding that? I'm looking for good park-and-ride locations, mostly, preferrably cheap, that I can take the T from.

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Need feedback on renting a car from Sixt at BOS...Flying into Boston in a couple of weeks, five day trip up through New England for a wedding, 4 adults, arriving Wednesday on an afternoon around 4 PM and dropping off around the same time on the following Monday. Looking at prices online with Orbitz and Kayak, Sixt rental car is quite a bit less expensive for premium vehicles (just considering stepping up given all the driving we have ahead of us), but do not want to hassle with a frustrating trek to a distant off-site facility or lousy customer service. Has anyone used them? Any advice? Thank-you.

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