posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I'm not sure if there is a term for the category of movie I'm looking for, but I've lately been on a kick of thinking-person's science fiction movies, and I'm looking for more that fit the bill. Movies like the Martian, Contact, 2001, Interstellar, Solaris and I was especially moved by Arrival. Thoughtful, sort of technical, lyric, and slow. Limited violence and no sexual violence. Any suggestions?

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Simply put... My 13 year old daughter is gay. I really want to support her in anyway I can. She goes to a religion-based, private school where she is very happy with lots of friends. I feel a conflict between the anti-gay official position of the school and the actual reality of the students. So... should I keep my daughter in a "Christian" school vs. ?

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I recently got some California Baby Calming Shampoo, and I love the smell. Sadly, the shampoo itself isn't my favorite. So do you know of any other awesome lavender-scented shampoos and conditioners?I don't need the shampoo to have any special characteristics (SLS is totally fine, organic status is not important) as long as it smells like real lavender and not like some weird artificial scent that pretends to smell like lavender.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
A friend is requesting to pay for art I've created. Not sure how much to ask for or if I should?A former co-worker and I got laid off from our job a couple of months ago. Before we did, she expressed interest in publishing a children's book she wrote. She asked me if I'd be interested in drawing it. She was aware of my art abilities and was the first person she asked. She would rather ask a friend than hire a random artist. We began working on the project and recently completed it. Throughout the planning/production stages - she insisted occasionally on paying me. I honestly hadn't thought about getting paid as I found this project to be a great stepping stone and opportunity for me and I enjoyed it immensely. I'm not sure what to ask for. I've sold work before but this is my first long term project. The thing that makes it complicated is that she's a friend and she's still currently unemployed. As am I. I also found the experience rewarding because I got a lot of it. The work included sketching thumbnails for the pages+cover, brainstorming the design/logo/layout for each page with her, and finally drawing and coloring the whole book digitally. Overall 5 months, I worked 5 hours a day for 5 days straight a week. Basically I want to ask for amount that's reasonable for the work I did yet at the same time not surprising her with an extravagant amount. I would appreciate some insight. Thank you very much.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Ikea's Space10 lab has released open source plans for the Growroom, a 2.8 x 2.5 meter spherical garden.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
When I ride in my husband's car I hear a continuous noise like a camera flash charging. It's that really high frequency, rising pitch noise that lasts maybe 10 seconds per cycle, and cycles the entire time the car is running. My husband doesn't hear it. The car is a 2016 Honda Accord. What might this be?

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I am having a hell of a time finding a decent women's suit or matching separates that fit my criteria: pantsuit, less than $300, one button on the jacket, straight legged or tapered but not (freaking) cropped, buyable in person in NYC. Black or grey. Help me out here.I've looked in several places and have found nothing that hits every beat. Ann Taylor has been closest but they stock practically no pants that aren't wide-legged or cropped, and I look utterly ridiculous in cropped pants. (They also seem to sell the majority of their suiting online, and I really want to try this stuff on in person.) Banana Republic doesn't seem like good enough quality for the prices they're asking. Express and Zara might as well be made out of tissue paper. I tried Century 21 and found literally absolutely nothing - plenty of blazers and pants but not a single matching set - and stalked resentfully past the huge floor of lovely men's suits at enormous discounts. I know I could try thrifting a suit and getting it tailored, and I probably will, but I might need to buy a suit before I can do this as I'm trying to get interviews now. I guess I'd go up to $450 but it would have to be one hell of a suit and fit all my criteria perfectly. I could compromise on the one-button thing as long as it didn't look incredibly frumpy, which most of the two- and three-button jackets I've seen have. If it makes any difference, I'm around a size 8 but sometimes wind up as a 10 in pants, and I also have fairly long arms which sometimes screws me when it comes to blazers - but I'm not tall enough to wear a 'tall.' I figured I'd try Nordstrom Rack and JC Penny next, but does anyone have other suggestions? (As a secondary question, what's with all the goddamn cropped pants? They just make it look like I bought the wrong size pants!)

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Those edit boys at Auralnauts (of whom previously, previously, pre— oh just do a bloody search) are at it again, with an edited dub of Star Wars: A New Hope in which R2-D2 has a speaking voice. (Specifically, that of voice actor Scheiffer Bates.)

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
My five senses are intact, but I simply don't USE them effectively. It's almost as if I don't trust physical sensation as a reliable source of information. Sensory information feels like an overload or useless noise that I'm now increasingly recognizing as not quite useless: to either ignore or fixate on all the wonderful sights, tastes, sounds, smells... would not only negatively impact my wellbeing, but also lead me to miss out on a good portion of what makes it so great to be a young human being!I'm not necessarily subpar at noticing details in my environment, but that sensory information just isn't well-integrated into the rest of my experience. This makes me susceptible to either fixating on or ignoring sensory details. It also keeps me from enjoying certain sensory experiences in moderation -- I err on the side of being very stingy with myself in all sorts of matters, such as staying warm/cold, responsiveness to pain/lightheadedness, food, drink, clothing-- while also paradoxically being overly sensitive to or overindulgent in those physical experiences. I'm not good at driving, and I could never choose a surgical field as my medical specialty because I'm not great at truly being in the physical moment. Sometimes I feel like words and ideas form the scaffoldings of my existence, rather than actual, present, lived experiences and the physicality of being. Throughout my life, I've felt varying degrees of disbelief that the entire world is actually a physical thing. I enjoy hiking because it is a lower-pressure way of interacting with a physical environment where I do not have much of a way to constantly search for some deeper or hidden meanings or connections (except when I go nuts about geology and botany). The same goes with traveling to different cities-- I can read all I want, but so much of the experience is grounded in just physically being there. I also like tea, music, art museums, but I think I like the latter two because I'm constantly searching for patterns and symbolism and history, not because they're exclusively sensory experiences. Anybody here know what I'm talking about? Anybody else start out with this kind of predisposition (sort of head-in-the-clouds, disconnected from physical environment) and end up improving on this (and hopefully enjoying life more in the process)? Will it get better as I get older? Any essays, books, experiences that helped you? I'm looking for things beyond the oft-suggested mindfulness meditation, yoga, therapy, etc.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Our 7-year old over-the-range Frigidaire microwave died last night. We need a new one.We were never happy with the old one - it never vented that well, it had the most annoying beeps (long, loud, and wouldn't stop until you opened the door or pushed "stop") it required repairs within a year or two of getting it, the display started dying after a couple years and is barely readable now, and the plastic on the door cracked just after the 1-year warranty ran out ("a common problem" according to the repair guy). To say the least, I ain't ever buying a Frigidaire again. After that experience I am gun-shy about buying another one. We need a 30" wide unit, stainless or black to match the rest of the crap, that is decent at venting (outside vent is already in place). Any recommendations on what to buy or what to avoid? Thanks!

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
In Strange Horizons, Na'amen Gobert Tilahun reviews Colson Whitehead's The Underground Railroad and Ben H. Winters's Underground Airlines, two recent novels that integrate speculative fiction and fictional slave narratives. His critique includes an interlude asking (and answering), "How can you tell if a narrative is meant for a white audience?"

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
My credit card lender will give me a lower APR for a year but I won't be able to use the card. Does this sound legit or is there a catch I'm missing?I recently started paying a much higher monthly payment on my (private, non-negotiable) student loan since my grace period has ended. Looking for ways to cut costs, I contacted a credit card company that I've been with for a long time to see if they would lower my APR. They offered to lower my APR for a year but use of the card would be suspended for that time. Is this a no-brainer offer that I should jump to accept? They said it was an "in-house" offer that would not be reported to credit agencies. I am somewhat distrustful of credit card companies. I had a bad relationship/financial experience in my 20s and when I called the credit card company I was using at that time, they basically closed my account permanently while I was on hold. Today I'm a *little* smarter about debt, I pay my cc bills on time, and my experience with my present-day credit card's customer service is fine. I don't know if it would be better to try and make extra payments when possible while dealing with my current (higher) APR or take this deal, which would lower the APR to something like 16.99%. I'm getting slammed by student loans so am looking for ways to save money in other areas. I also started using YNAB and am still on the learning curve with it. I feel dumb for asking this question but I'm wondering if anyone has taken a similar offer with no negative consequences, since I feel like I can still miss the fine print with financial issues.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I am taking my partner on a surprise trip to New Orleans for his birthday March 5-7. Neither of us have been, and he doesn't yet know our final destination, and I am super bad at finding places and deciding where to go. Need hive mind's input into what we should do!Trip dates: March 5 (arriving at 8am) to March 7th (leaving at 6pm) Staying at: The Saint Hotel around Jackson Square/French Quarter What we like: jazz, art, museums and do not mind long walks anywhere we need to be, flexible on food (we eat everything and do not drink) Our itinerary is wide open so looking for (and deeply appreciate) your recommendations!

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
In the 84th minute of his team's 0-2 loss to Arsenal yesterday, Sutton United's reserve keeper Wayne Shaw was shown eating a pie on the bench. With all of Sutton's substitutes used and the non-league side happy just to be in the fifth round, it seemed to be, as Shaw would later describe it, "a bit of fun". It wasn't. Sutton had put aside their sponsors, Green Go Waste Solutions, for a higher-paying sponsorship by News Corp-owned Sun Bets, and the latter was offering 8-1 odds against his eating a pie on-air. Shaw has now resigned under pressure and is now facing an inquiry by the FA and the Gambling Commission under rules designed to prevent match-fixing. Opinion is largely in his favor, with even fervent Arsenal supporter Piers Morgan coming to his defense (warning: link to Piers Moran's twitter).

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
My little girl tried Trader Joe's Formula No. 3 "All For One, One For All" shampoo/conditioner/body wash last night. Almost immediately, her skin started itching. Can you help me narrow down the suspect ingredients?Ingredients can be seen in the image on Amazon. She also gets contact dermatitis from plastic, but not fabric, bandages. Because she tested negative for a latex allergy, we're guessing it's the adhesive.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Crazy cat lady here. I am taking care of a 5 year old chihuahua/terrier dog while his owner is in the hospital for an extended period (weeks? months?). Poor boy has mostly done his bathroom business on pee pads in the bathroom. I would like to learn how I can train him out of this behavior, at least while he's with us. Help a clueless and grieving dog novice!Apologies if this has been asked or there are obvious resources out there that I'm not aware of. I am overwhelmed with family medical crises and while I am happy to be able to take care of this dog while his owner gets better, it's a foreign world to me. I know how to train cats, not dogs. Here's the details. Sonny is 7 lbs and some sort of chihuahua/terrier mix. He's 5 years old and has lived with old people who never trained him to go outside. Fortunately in the last few months of petsitting him I have managed to leash train him and he will pee/poop outside when he goes out, but he still primarily uses pee pads when he's not outside. He seems to pee every couple of hours and can't hold it in which is problematic when I'm away at work or asleep at night. I guess my questions are: 1. How do I train him to let me know when he needs to go outside? 2. Is there anything I can do to teach him to hold his pee for 8 hours or to make him less likely to have to go so often? For example, I currently leave a water bowl out all the time; should I only have it out when I'm home for an extended period? 3. Anything else I can do to prevent accidents inside the house in the meantime? Is having pee pads out "just in case" going to entice him too much?

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Pretty much exactly what you imagine. Yes, it's a real hashtag. [Some NSFW illustrations there.] From FurScience!: A Summary of Five Years of Research from the International Anthropomorphic Research Project: "When compared to other fan groups, furries were the most predominantly White." There is, of course, an opposition.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I would like to know more about this toy and bonus points where I could possibly get one? Two Headed Action Figure. I have limited background, but basically a toy collector friend spotted (and took this photo) at a toy convention. He wants one. The owner had no details on the figure. Thanks.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
So I've been out of work for a few years trying to do my own thing. I've decided that I miss the work I used to do (just not the company I used to do it for) and getting back on a job search. And I have a big gap on my resume. And I'm not sure how to proceed.So yeah, been out of work for about 5 years. At about the middle of that period I did a short (3 month) stint as a contractor, as much as a favor to a friend as anything doing absolute grunt work (it was easy and the pay was OK). The problem is, it makes my employment history look like: 3 months - Mall Security Guard 10 Years - FBI agent 8 years - Police Detective so that the first thing a reviewer sees is this three month stint in the middle of a large gap. Is there any point in not throwing away the throw away job?

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
The Music app on my iPhone plays songs that aren't on the playlist I selected. Can I fix this?I have an iPhone 5 running iOS 10.2.1. With the advent of the Apple Music service, the Music app has become hard to tame. I thought I had it in-hand: cellular access for Music is turned off; Genius is turned off; it doesn't display songs that aren't downloaded; home sharing is not activated. I do not subscribe to Apple Music. All of my purchased songs are on my Macbook, but my iPhone has only one specific playlist synched and downloaded. It has been months since I synched, but I haven't changed it, either. When using the iPhone, I only ever listen to that one playlist on random. Literally, I always select Music > Playlists > [playlist name] > Shuffle All. Lately, though, when that playlist is on random, other songs play that I've purchased but are not downloaded to the iPhone and not on that playlist. This has only happened at home but, again, home sharing is turned off. So I don't know what's going on. Is there a way to make the Music app stick to a playlist anymore? Alternatively, is there an app that just plays playlists anymore? Preferably not affiliated with a streaming service, although I recognize it may be time to bite that bullet.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I'm getting laid off at the end of the month. My company is pushing me to transfer internally but I don't want any of the jobs listed on the intranet. They have said they'd discuss some kind of severance package if I can't transfer. Will it hurt to say "no, I don't want to"? If I had some outside job lined up (I don't), could that affect my severance package or do they legally have to give it to me regardless of whether I'm working or laying on the beach?I've never done this before. I've only ever quit or been fired (once when I was 18). The convo I'd like to have with HR goes like this Them: So we have position X or Y that we think we will fit you Me: No thanks, I'm good Them: Oh, you found something else? Me: No, I'm going to sell everything and buy a sailboat Them: OK here is your severance package, best of luck Is that what happens? Is the package negotiable? Is there anything I should or shouldn't say? I've been there six years and I'm a project manager. I have excellent performance reviews.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
How do I find the sales ranking, say, for the past 3 or 6 months, of specific books on Amazon. I'd prefer not to spend a bunch of money on an app if possible, but I am willing to spend a bit of money, if necessary.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
I live in a condo building in a newly created 'historic district' which apparently means the city wants us to put back the original wood windows. Nobody in our building can afford that. Around 20 years ago all the windows were replaced with white vinyl windows. Meanwhile the building is now falling into disrepair because we can't get a permit to fix the crappy windows we do have.So I'm trying to figure out who manufactured the windows at 2516 N Kedzie and 1704 N. Humboldt. I've contacted both owners and I can't get a response. The first is owned by Fischman who owns a bunch of rental property around here and the other is Bickerdike Apartments who own and rent affordable housing units. As far as I can tell, these were the only buildings that have replaced their windows (at least with a permit) in the last 10 years in the 'Logan Square Boulevards Historic District.' If anyone knows otherwise let me know. Here is a closer photo of the windows at 1704 N Humboldt. Link to streetviews: 2516 N Kedzie 1704 N Humboldt If you can find any other locations in this district that have gotten a window permit through let me know.

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Is there a reason to not put household bills on my credit card to get points?I pay my credit card off in full every month and while I'm not sure why I never paid bills (phone, cable, etc.) on a credit card, I'm wondering if there's a reason I shouldn't. The additional amount wouldn't approach my credit limit (so my credit won't get dinged for overutilization) and it just seems like I'm leaving points on the table by not doing this. (Obviously this would only apply to bills that don't charge an extra fee for paying by credit card. )

Read More...
posted 3 days ago on metafilter
Where can I go pond skating near Stratton, VT?I'm a city kid, and I have only ever been ice skating on man-made rinks. Everyone I know who grew up in colder climes says that pond skating is where it's at. I'll be taking a ski trip up to Stratton soon, and I'm curious if there is anywhere that I can go pond skating near there. My google-fu has failed me. Any place within a 45 minute drive of Stratton/Manchester should do the trick.

Read More...