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There are many foreign players in English football today, but back in the 70s and 80s there were only a few. Some became club legends, others had disappointing spells with their club. This Daily Mail article has lots of lovely 70s and 80s style pictures of many of these players, including Ardilles, Grobelaar, and, of course, a young Alex Sabella.

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The thing about ableism is that it's everywhere, and it's incredibly common, and we don't even realize it. It's in the books we read, and in our daily lives. Ableism is that belief that everyone who is able-bodied is "normal" and everyone else is abnormal. Abelism is probably one of the most common kinds of –ism's, and it rarely gets talked about. The language of disability and why it matters.

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Non-American working in the US for 3 months, then returning to the US a year or two later. I want to use this 2 year gap to build a US credit score. How can I make this work?Situation: - I will be in the US for 3 months, working. - It is highly likely that I'll be returning more permanently in 1-2 years. - I'd like to take advantage of this and the whole US credit score system. Plan: (1) Get credit card somehow while in the US. (2) Build credit score via: - Buy ebook on amazon once a month, or buy a US friend some monthly subscription to something. Will this work? - Possibly change the address to be my (trustworthy relative)'s house in the US for the 1-2 year interim period? (3) Return to the US and have a credit score. Possibly relevant: - E3 visa from Australia. - Big company with lawyers and HR arranging for visas and housing and things like that - this time. - US tech industry salary - so proof of income is easy. - No existing cards with any banks that transfer history to the US - over here we mostly use debit cards. (I'm not concerned about the whole 'its credit'/temptation thing. Debit cards with a positive balance aren't any less easy to spend money on.) So, questions: Firstly, what's the easiest way for me to get said credit card? - Some kind of secured card is fine - I have the money. Should I be able to get these? - I'm guessing a store card is out? Given I won't be able to physically visit a store to buy things? - Is everything either MasterCard or Visa? Or are there other variants to avoid? Secondly, what am I likely to have trouble with? - Bank accounts here usually want proof of address and things like that - without a utilities bill, what else might be accepted, if banks there are the same? Thirdly, what am I missing? Anything else I'm likely to care about?

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You how there's always a scene in science fiction movies where a character enters some futuristic utopia and a robotic voice starts talking to them, saying something like "Welcome to Futureville, where all your needs are met" ? Is there a name for this trope? Can you think of some good examples?I ask because I'm writing an essay and trying to think of what to call this thing that happens--the utopian introduction. I think it is based on the announcements in airports.

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Cmd.fm is no frills, command line music streaming. For the geek music lover in all of us. Exploring is quite simple--just type "help" or "genres" to get started.

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I have recently been put on a medication to manage chronic hives. It has one problematic side effect: my couch essentially becomes a black hole that adheres my ass to it with its gravitational pull. Once I get moving on a task the momentum sees me through, but getting to that point is like having to push a stalled car with a jammed emergency break slightly uphill before you can get it rolling downhill. How do I find ways to get myself moving? More detail and examples inside!The medication is called Atarax and it has another use: to manage anxiety. I am not anxious. Perhaps that is the issue. I cannot go off the medication because I itch so much that I scratch holes in myself in my sleep. Please do not suggest alternative therapies because I have tried them all, including steroids, elimination diets, holistic ointments, fragrance-free detergents and soaps, and whatever worked for your coworker's aunt. I hate this side effect but it is preferable to scratching until I bleed. I am by nature a motivated person who Gets Stuff Done. The side effect of this med is that I do fuck-all, and don't particularly care that I am doing absolutely nothing. This would be great if it were vacation and I was spending a day at the beach. But it's not, and on days where I forgot to take this med the day before, it's actually pretty scary. I should note that I am actually getting my job done to everyone's satisfaction. My job is not in danger. However, it is a job and not a career, and that's because it leaves me the time to pursue the avocations that fulfill me. This has been great up until I went on these meds. Now I am unable to motivate myself to work on any of the side projects that fulfill me. An example of the difference between on and off meds: when off the meds I have completed NaNoWriMo several times, including while holding down an all-consuming job with a 2-hour driving commute each way. I am currently working from home at a job that is...not all-consuming, and have plenty of time to spare, and I am halfway done with a novel. However, when I am on these meds, I just can't be arsed to write anything on my writing project. Except when I miss a dose of my meds, when I write a ton and say to myself, "Self, what the FUCK are you doing not writing?????" Another example: I live two blocks from a museum showing an exhibit I've been looking forward to all year. I have free tickets. Did I mention I work from home? And yet I have not been, and I can't get my ass off the couch to go. And then I skip a dose of my meds and realize that FUCK that exhibit is going to close in two weeks! WTF am I doing? I also have a tendency to not eat because it's too much trouble to make something, or even to order takeout or delivery. This would be an issue except one of the side effects of this drug is weight gain, and let me tell you, I'm skipping 50% of my meals and packing on the pounds anyway. I am not sitting on the couch binge-watching TV, because turning on the TV seems like way too much effort. I spend some time reading a few articles online and then poof! my day has evaporated. However, if I do actually manage to pry myself off the couch with a goddamn crowbar, the momentum once I get started is profound. If i can get myself to write for 10 minutes, I will literally write 4000 words in a sitting. If I start doing laundry I will wash and fold and iron everything - and I've never been the ironing type, but now apparently I am if I get moving. If I wash one dish in the sink I will wash every single one - and, because of previously noted ass-glued-to-couch-tendencies, that's an alarming number of dishes. And if I start eating, the food in my fridge trembles in terror. So - how do I get the metaphorical car over the little hill so it can get the downward momentum? Once I get moving, I get shit done, but it is damn near impossible to get moving. I desperately need some tips on how to get started. And yes, I forgot to take my meds last night, which is why I have the motivation to write this question today. Anon because I would rather not have my employer find out about this issue.

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I love Junji Ito. He's probably my favorite horror writer that I have ever read. I especially like the stories "Glyceride" "The Town With No Streets" and " The Window Next Door" . I like the feeling of dread they exude. Not really into jump scares, or torture porn at all. They're scary I guess, yeah. But I like the sort of slow crawl into absurdity ( The walls are suddenly leaking grease... Or the window outside is slowly creeping toward you, How bizzare is that?) So give me your best! I'm into short stories, manga, comics, and movies mostly, but I'll take novels, web stories, pictures, videos, or anything at all you can think of! Creep me out.I'm into short stories, manga, comics, and movies mostly, but I'll take novels, web stories, pictures, videos, or anything at all you can think of! Creep me out.

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There once was a time when your working knowledge of, say, Junot Diaz or Radiohead was all you needed to show some conversational with-it-ness. Now, though? Restaurants - the currency of the young and cash-strapped - are the key to the cultural kingdom.

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With Saturday being the 15th anniversary of the tragic departure of the Moon from Earth orbit, it's a good time to visit The Boneyard, home to all the disassembled remains of the Eagles used in the Space 1999 series. This is naturally, part of the Sci Fi Airshow site (previously), and is one of their best efforts to date. Also, previously: (episode list). And previously- .

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He starts by saying he's tired From World of Dance

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Solo Travellers - what practical tips do you have for handling the unpleasantness of getting sick while on holiday?I am going to do a lot more solo travel soon. Nothing too adventuresome - mostly in Western countries with high health standards. However I am still bothered by the prospect of getting sick while travelling. What practical tips have helped you cope when you've come down with something while away from home?

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After studying a lot of lighting tutorials, I've settled on some form of 3 point lighting to illuminate the subject (me!) as I cook. The problem is that my kitchen is connected to my very dark, cavernous living room, and so the space tends to swallow up any lights I use. Can you give me pointers on lighting this space, and help me to purchase more lights (if necessary) to adequately light my kitchen?Please keep the technical jargon to a minimum, as I only started teaching myself about shooting videos and lighting up a room last week! I'm going to be shooting simple demonstrations of recipes and cooking techniques, and talking about specialty baking ingredients while standing in the kitchen behind our granite countertop. The videos don't have to look professional or artistic, but they do have to be aesthetically pleasing, as the food needs to look appealing! Just trying to help people make healthier choices, so that is the end goal to keep in mind. The kitchen has light coming from 2 windows. There's a large window on the left side of the kitchen, and a smaller behind me, over the sink. I took pictures of the space I'm trying to light, here, here, here, and here. So far, the equipment I've purchased is the following: -an adjustable 160 LED video light -minus green gel to cancel out the blue-green cast -2 600 watt softbox lights on stands (up to 6'8" in height) -a 43" 5-in-1 circular reflector I was thinking of getting a couple of 9' light stands. On one of them, I would use a flexible arm clamp to hold my 43' reflector (seems like this would be useful for still shots as well, if it would truly hold that huge reflector in place!). On the other light stand, I was thinking of attaching a boom arm and one of the adjustable LED lights as the backlight. Since the room is generally so dark, I was also thinking of attaching this wide angle light to light up the upper half of the frame. Both the wide angle light and LED video light would be attached to the boom arm, facing in different directions. I would also have to use a twisty tie to suspend the lights higher, as they would cover my face since I'm 5'11". Is this lighting set up workable? Will it fall on top of me as I'm cooking? Any suggestions for how to improve this setup?

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Those of you here who are jazz fans may have heard a little about Kathleen Annie Pannonica Rothschild. Her nickname "Nica" is enshrined in many a jazz composition's title, for example Nica's Tempo, Nica's Dream, Blues for Nica and, simpy, Nica. She was, as you'd imagine, a devoted lover of jazz, and an inestimably important benefactor, patron and enabler of many of the jazz legends of her time, especially the great Thelonius Monk. Learn more about her in this Guardian article: The jazz baroness and the bebop king.

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My mom had a full hip replacement on August 22nd. 12 days later, she had a TIA. The ER lab tests (MRI, CAT scan, and electrocardiogram) said there was no sign of a blockage. 2 days later, her primary care doctor said it was probably caused by a blood clot related to her surgery, and she shouldn't make any changes other than taking an aspirin, avoiding alcohol, and monitoring her blood pressure at home. Does this sound like a normal treatment plan for someone who had a TIA most likely caused by a hip surgery-related blood clot?I'm mostly worried because I read into what a TIA is, and found that people who've had them are at risk of having a stroke, and up to 33% of TIA sufferers have a full stroke within 3 years. However, I'm wondering if this same risk doesn't apply to my mom, since 1) we know the clot was "probably" related to her surgery, 2) there's no sign of other clots, and 3) she won't be as immobile anymore as she was before/after the surgery. Her primary care doctor didn't seem to be too concerned about this happening again. After my mom told the surgeon who performed the hip replacement and my mom's 2 at-home nurses about the TIA, they all said clots related to orthopedic surgery, especially full hip and knee replacements, are common.

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What are some of the most ludicrous exhortations in pop music?Sadly, I got "The Safety Dance" stuck in my head tonight. After rolling it around for a while, I got fixated on the line, "Everybody look at your hands!" Which in turn led me to wonder: what are some other ridiculous commands in pop? I don't want your garden-variety "Push it real good", or even (necessarily) the object-oriented "Boots! Start walking!" but rather specific admonitions directed at the listening audience. The more left-field, the better. What say you?

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Moving on from an old crush...Yep, she's the girl I really, really liked two years ago. She has a boyfriend too. They've been dating since high school. I first met her in the spring of 2012 at our college, as her and I were hired on as orientation leaders for the summer. We wound up working together throughout the next academic year as well and we became quite close friends. Eventually I started to like her. Hard. I went to exercise sessions just to be with her like, even though I thought it was silly. But I loved spending time with together. We were best friends that year and she even lightheartedly stated that if neither of us were married by the time we turned 40, that we'd get married. Sealed by pinky swears. It's funny, pretty much everyone in our circle of friends that year figured that I was majorly crushing on her before I confided in any of them about it. I don't know if they ever talked to her about it, I know I never did. I figured it was pointless to say something while she's already seeing someone. I received a phone call from her back in the spring of 2013. It was a Thursday night, and I was filling out a scholarship application. She asked if I could cover a student tour for her but she sounded extremely upset over the phone. I asked her if she was okay and it turned out she wasn't; her and her boyfriend had just gotten into an argument and he broke up with her. I felt this incredible rush of emotions at that moment - feeling sad and emphatic for her, and realizing also that hey, here's my opportunity finally. I wondered what kind of boyfriend I could be for her. We hang up a few minutes later and I sit there, taking it all in. An hour passes by and it rings again, oh, it's her. Her boyfriend wound up apologizing and she told me that everything was okay between them again. I vividly remember sitting in my room staring at the wall for about twenty minutes trying to figure out what the heck just happened. It was really difficult for me being in that moment and having an opportunity like that disappear so fast. After the academic year wrapped up I didn't really see her much anymore. The last time we spoke at all was last October, before I voluntarily chose to cut off contact with her for a good period of time. Not seeing her has helped, though it unraveled a good bit a few months ago when her and her BF came into the retail store I work at and I was reminded just how not over her I am deep down. It was really jarring for me to see her after such a long time. And no, I chose not to walk up to her and say hello. I admit, writing this out is really cathartic for me. It's taken a while but I've even accepted the fact that if she's happy and fulfilled with her current s/o then there's nothing else I could ever possibly ask for. I miss talking to her and hanging out as friends since it's been over a year, but I'm a little worried about those feelings roaring back like they did when I physically saw her again those few months ago. So, what can I do from here on out to get past this and be done with it?

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I signed up for a senior-year seminar class for prose fiction. My GPA cannot suffer. I'm willing to learn anything and everything on the subject. Book recommendations are also appreciated. (English TAs and Profs are preferred! You are the next best thing to Literary Gods)

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I have a really hard time relaxing in life and sharing myself with others. It's making me miserable. How can I overcome this?I am 21 years old. Still living at home, currently working full time and taking a semester off school to figure out what I want to do with my life. And I'm female. I grew up in a kind of dysfunctional family. I lived with my dad since I was one, my parents weren't together when I was born, my mom has a fifth grade education and really bad schizophrenia. I visited her as a kid and didn't know how messed up she was. My dad's girlfriend moved in when I was 4, with her two girls who were 2 and 4. I have a sister who is 10 years older than me. My dad was always pretty distant and sometimes really angry, he would freak out on us and sometimes be kind of abusive, also called us named like retarded a lot. I know he loved me though, just didn't know how to show it. When I was younger my mom would try to turn me against my dad and especially my stepmom, and my stepsisters and I fought a lot, I felt pretty alone and unhappy and confused I think. I spent a lot of time in my room just listening to music. When I was 16 I got into a relationship. I basically stopped hanging out with my friends, who were starting to go down the wrong paths anyway, and talked to my family even less. I spent all my time with him. I was really unhappy and felt like I lost myself, and I wanted to experience being single so I broke up with him in May. Now I don't really have hardly any friends. My high school friends are potheads and not in the best places in life. I feel very very self conscious, tense and alienated from people. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. Even when I'm alone I feel very out of it, I never really feel peaceful and content, except when I'm around someone who feels that way, if that makes sense. I don't know how to rebuild my relationships with my family. I don't understand me. I was the only kid still living at home for the past couple years but my stepsister, the one who's my age, moved back in for a couple months. We used to hang out in high school and were kinda close. She's really cool, a no nonsense type of girl, really chill and artistic. She invited me out to a bar last night with her, her boyfriend and one of our friends from high school came. We were drinking and she was trying to talk to me some. She said I should come out more often, that drinking and smoking weed helps you let go and overcome those blocks and inhibitions, she said "I think it's good for you sometimes, especially for you. You just need to let yourself out, I can tell, you just need to not care" I almost started tearing up so I excused myself to the bathroom. I was in there drunk and crying for like 10 no sites so she came in and checked on me, could tell I had been crying, I was embarrassed but I needed to let it all out. She tried to talk to me, encouraging me, said she knew something was up with me and that her and her mom had talked about me, that no one knows how to connect with me, that she wants to help me. Which made me cry more. She made me feel kinda better, more clarity than I've had in a long time, still don't know what to do though. She said she can tell I'm not happy and that I'm not getting as much out of life that I could. She came home today and I overheard her telling her mom what happened, she said I had an anxiety attack and was crying because I don't know how to open up to people. I'm embarrassed to talk to her. I always feel so tense, I work at a coffee shop, and I always feel like I'm out of it, never present with coworkers or customers, people can tell and they try to be nice to me but I'm not connecting that well. I want to just be myself but I don't know how, I don't want to be the goofy immature self I'm afraid I am, I want people to see me a certain way but maybe I should just stop trying so hard. I need help, I don't think I can do this on my own. I think I have depression, social anxiety deffinitely, and general anxiety. Being around people like my stepsister, I just want to feel that kind of peace and self confidence. I just don't know. Been fighting this battle for a long time.

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Douglas E. Smith, creator of the classic 8-bit computer game Lode Runner, which got a second life as one of HudsonSoft's most iconic Famicom titles in Japan, has died at the age of 57. An official mobile version of the game is available for iOS, Android and Windows Phone. Computer users can play the Apple IIGS version in a browser window.

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A week of Ctrl-Alt-Del posts on Raymond Chen's blog The Old New Thing begins with a simple blog post: Who wrote the text for the Ctrl+Alt+Del dialog in Windows 3.1?. What followed was a mixture of confused tech journalism and Chen's patient Windows archaeology. Chen's initial post was widely misreported; in a followup, Steve Ballmer did not write the text for the blue screen of death, Chen notes that Windows 3.1 actually died to a black screen: The Ctrl+Alt+Del dialog was not the blue screen of death. I mean, it had a Cancel option, for goodness's sake. What message of death comes with a Cancel option? In I wrote the original blue screen of death, sort of, Chen continues into Windows 95's blue-screen errors: When a device driver crashed, Windows 95 tried its best to limp along despite a catastrophic failure in a kernel-mode component. It wasn't a blue screen of death so much as a blue screen of lameness. Note the optimistic message "It may be possible to continue normally." Everybody forgets that after Windows 95 showed you a blue screen error, it tried its best to ignore the error and keep running anyway. In A lie repeated often enough becomes the truth Chen notes that "'blue screen of death' was generally attributed to the blue screen fatal error message of Windows NT." Finally, What did Windows 3.1 do when you hit Ctrl+Alt+Del? closes the circle back to Windows 3.1, delving deep into the mechanics of Windows internals: "now things got messy."

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What is the best way to get to the New York Maker Faire? I'm driving from New England and pretty unfamiliar with New York. The Faire is in Queens at New York Hall of Science. Website recommends several ways to get there. http://makerfaire.com/getting-to-maker-faire/ I can't tell one from the other honestly.I'm afraid that parking near the Faire will be a nightmare due to the crowds. I was thinking I could park somewhere a ways away and take public transportation (subway maybe) to it. But I don't know if this is feasible or best way to get there. Any suggestions? What would you do?

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I'm hoping to follow the Scottish Independence Referendum returns live as we do here in America for our big elections. Does anyone know where someone in the USA could watch as the counts come in? (Does this even happen over there, making a night of it?)

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My beloved border collie is aging rapidly. He still has lots of the old BC traits but his body can't keep up with them--how do I help him avoid disappointment and keep him happy?My BC is 15 years old, and has just begun to slow down in the last couple of years. In the last few months, the aging process has sped up exponentially. He was originally a pound pup, and came to me after a couple of owners when he was about 2 years old. While he was never a working dog, he was always very active (a daily 10+ mile trail run was part of our routine until about 3 years ago), came pretty much everywhere, and seemed incredibly happy. Now he's got a bit of arthritis in his hips and limps after just a few blocks, but his working dog drive tells him to keep going, so we have to closely monitor/limit his activity or he'll be sore for days. His hearing is also starting to go, and he shows little interest in tricks old or new. We've moved so we have a lot of outdoor space for him to relax and sniff and go to the bathroom freely. He has lots of comfy beds, pillows, and rugs, plus all of the chairs and couches in our house. We do have another, younger dog, but they aren't very interested in each other. He's had annual vet checkups and labs and we've been told everything is normal. We have also made a list of his favorite things for assessing his quality of life to decide when to put him down, when/if it comes to that. What can I do to help him age comfortably? He still has such a strong BC instinct to follow us around and be with the pack, but while his body's not capable of doing so, it seems he doesn't realize it. The look in his eyes when we leave without him is heartbreaking, and I want to make sure that his last days here are as happy and comfortable as they can be. While there are other asks about when to put dogs down, I'm more interested in how to improve these sunset days, especially for working dogs like border collies (but feel free to share other info, too). Thanks in advance for any suggestions, tips, or recommendations!

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How pointe shoes get made, at Freed's of London (official shoe makers of the Royal Ballet). Has that whet your appetite? You can try your hand at the Royal Ballet's company class (or the Bolshoi's, if that is more your speed). If you never got a chance to take ballet as a kid, be inspired by the adult beginner ballet students of Kathy Mata. The Royal Ballet has put together a history of ballet - from its origins in baroque dance to modern ballet though historical ballerinas Marie Taglioni, Fanny Elssler, Anna Pavolva, Alicia Markova, and Pierina Legnani; and historical choreographers at the court of Louis XIV, Carlo Blasis, Auguste Vestris, August Bournonville, Marius Petipa, and Enrico Cecchetti. You can watch rehearsals, performance clips, and more from a number of different ballet companies on youtube, including The Royal Ballet A Place To Dance - Royal Ballet School Documentary A Day in the Life of a Ballerina Sleeping Beauty Rehearsal 1, 2 The New York City Ballet city.ballet episode 1 UrbanEye: The School of American Ballet School of American Ballet Boy's Program Get to know NYC Ballet George Balanchine and the NYC Ballet Recreating a tutu When we were kids The Australian Ballet The Ballet body The Tutu En pointe! A view inside the Australian Ballet Episode 1 Pacific Northwest Ballet Company class - jumping! Dancing through the national parks Being in the Corps de Ballet A Midsummer Night's Dream - Pas de deux Joffrey Ballet About the Joffrey Ballet Rehearsal of Swan Lake, with Christopher Wheeldon Alonzo King LINES Ballet Refraction Long River High Sky Before the blues People of the Forest Anaheim Ballet Ballet bun tutorial Tiny Dancer (and 3 years later) Carol of the Nutcrackers Urban Ballet Special Guest Misty Copeland (I will what I want)

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I am 90% sure bf neematoad is proposing this week. I have an emotionally close but geographically far family. We're not on social media. What's the best way to share the news?The engagement was decided by both of us, only the proposal will be a surprise. We've been dating about 1.5 years and everyone thinks we are good together. My mom has very minor caveats that have more to do with her thinking 100% perfect people exist, and some resentment her kids are growing up and the family dynamic will change. ---9 year age difference (I'm younger) so few of my friends have gotten engaged. I'm not on social media, so I found out through personal phone calls each time. ---Dad is traveling international right now. All family conversation is through texting -- I think I can call him but not sure about the details. ---two sisters, one who lives locally and one who is 5 hours away. ---Mom lives 1 he away and I visit her 2-3 times a month. I want to tell people in an everyone finds out at once so no one feels they heard the news first and are favored sort of way. My mom will probably feel bad if she doesn't hear first but I feel nervous she'll something not supportive. There is a very small chance that would happen, and I think this is mostly my own anxiety. Texting seems most fair but also too informal. The whole family probably won't be together for at least 5 months. Other relevant factors: we're going to move in together at the end of Oct. I'm not sure how my parents will react to that bc they are old school. They know we go on vacation and don't mind that, but don't want him to sleep over (in a separate bedroom) in the family home until we're engaged. I figure I'll keep this piece of info separate. I care less about telling other people and figure phone calls will mostly cover it. But what's the deal with engagement announcements for a young-ish couple not on social media?

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