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What are the most current books that explore the fields of research relating to the anthropology and genetic work of determining who migrated where and when in human history?While I am interested in essentially the entire history of the world in this regard and would enjoy reading some overviews of the entire field- if I had to choose a specific area it would be most specifically Europe where I have the most ancestors, but since all these peoples have overlapped and migrated the history of ancient people ties us all together in relatedness. I am particular curious about genetic studies combined with cultural anthropology studies of bones and artwork and inscriptions and goods of ancient peoples. I know this field is ever changing and while I enjoy reading online, I'd really like to sink into a cocoon of book and read some good literature from the people doing this work. So what are the best current works that address these topics particularly in relation to all the new research being done and how that ties into past works and theories?

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My husband and I are visiting Montreal and we've never seen so many white people with dreadlocks in one place. What's up with this?For reference, my husband grew up in the Bay Area, so it's not like this is a totally foreign thing to us. In particular, there are a lot of white punks with dreadlocks in Montreal, which surprised us: you'll see a lot less of that in NY, I assume because of more of a concern over cultural appropriation? Not super familiar with the dynamics of race and cultural appropriation in Montreal, so was wondering if there's something we're missing here?

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What can I do in the midst of a violent rage from my preteen?I have a child with complex disabilities (not autism, but many similarities - PM if important). We have a psychologist and psychiatrist and have had lots of assessments from a zillion places. Lots of diagnoses. On the whole, things are really improving. He's totally fine at school and daycare, assuming 1:1 support. However, he's getting stronger and more threatening to me and I am the main target for anything that went wrong through the day. (We have put better debriefing plans in place with school and daycare). Leaving the room uses to shift things, but now it's making things worse. Our team is focused on the overall trajectory, which is toward improvement. But I'm a single mom. He's getting super, super aggressive and violent to me, because he's getting older, smarter and bigger. I've been told to make myself bigger than him, but he then responds by standing on a table or the top of the sofa. Anything can become a weapon - a toaster can be turned into a medieval flail - but anything obvious is put away. However, I can't turn my small apartment into a rubber room. I also can't move. He has a den for his room, but there isn't a door, btw, and I can't leave him along in there during a rage as he will jump out window. I support the overall goal and process. But what on earth can I do in the middle of these rages? Any sensory tool I provide will be thrown at me. I know it's better to catch him before a rage, but sometimes that isn't possible and anything can become a weapon and he is set on destruction too. Specialists have observed that he is very strategic and devious and that all attacks and destruction is very deliberate - he's unable to think or calm down in the rage, except he is still very, very strategic about what he does. I am in Canada. There are very few behaviour consultants for this sort of thing here - he doesn't have autism. Our psychiatrist tells me that there is pretty much no help from the system. I contacted multiple government departments, including the special needs unit, and they said they can't help either, not even with a support worker. I'm open to applying to charities for help. If there is some sort of de-escalation training, even if it is in the US, I am all ears. If there is a technique I can use in the midst of a rage, I am all ears. Note: Ross Green Explosive Child tactics do NOT work with this child, although they work with my other kid. Collaborative problem solving in the midst of a rage just causes even worse explosive behaviour.

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I overheard a very hateful conversation last night--how do you keep hateful things you've overheard from taking root and ruining your day?Late last night I overheard two couples from my cul de sac talking--they were all on one of the couple's property (not public property) and weren't being overly loud (certainly not something that would warrant a disturbance call to police, etc), but we live in a common group of townhomes and with windows open it was very easy to hear them. They were saying incredibly hateful, horrible things about Muslims, transgendered folks, and Barack Obama--and it was even more upsetting because one of the women kept invoking Bible verses and Christianity to justify her words. I won't be any more specific than that because even recalling what they said is terribly upsetting and I don't want to put any of it into print. I eventually moved to another room in my home so I couldn't hear them anymore. My question is NOT whether or not I should have confronted them last night or whether I should say anything about this to them in the future. I have only a passing relationship with these neighbors, and after overhearing this conversation I hope that I never need to interact with any of them in any way ever again. My question is this: I have felt depressed and out of sorts all morning because of what I overheard--not because I feel unsafe, but because I am incredibly sad and disturbed to have overheard so much pure venom. I don't want to give these people the power to affect my day or my thoughts in this way. How have any of you found success in redirecting your thoughts and emotions so that upsetting things you may have heard or witnessed don't take root and overtake your mood?

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I've recently been getting into Tony Zhou's Every Frame a Painting series of youtube videos that really dig into the details of how cinematographers compose their shots and why they make the choices they do. I was wondering if there was anyone out there doing something similar for comic book art or the like? I like to draw and can see myself making a comic for fun much more easily than making a film. Having something to watch that is similarly engaging, but that I could actually apply would be really neat.

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The problem began with paper. Humidity wreaked havoc with the color register of fine, multicolor printing. Ink, applied one color at a time, would misalign with the expansion and contraction of the paper stock. A solution was designed in 1902 and patented in 1906 (as an Apparatus for Treating Air), starting the "air conditioning" industry, though it would be decades before air conditioning changed the American landscape and beyond, making hot, muggy climates more livable around the world. A longer read: The Evolution of Modern Office Buildings and Air Conditioning (PDF, 10 pages), from the American Society of Heating, Refrigerating and Air-Conditioning Engineers (ASHRAE). Europe to America: Your love of air-conditioning is stupid (Washington Post, World View)

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Long before Edward Snowden went public, John Crane was a top Pentagon official fighting to protect NSA whistleblowers. Instead their lives were ruined – and so was his. Snowden calls for whistleblower shield after claims by new Pentagon sourceAccusations that Pentagon retaliated against a whistleblower undermine argument that there were options for Snowden other than leaking to the mediaPentagon source goes on record against whistleblower program

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I need a new bed frame, and I found one that's hitting a lot of my buzzwords: it's hand-made from locally-sourced hardwood by a small business. And at $280 (Canadian) for a queen, it's less expensive than comparable beds from IKEA. So I'm assuming it's made by someone in their garage. How can I tell if it's well made?The bed seemed solid when I tried moving it a few inches in the store. But I don't know a lot about woodworking, so I don't know what else to look for. How can I tell if it's likely to remain solid and non-squeaky after years of use? It's made with solid oak, and the slats are less than 3 inches apart. If it's more difficult to disassemble than flat-pack furniture (or just not possible to be disassembled), that's OK with me. The store that's selling the bed is so mom & pop that there are no reviews on Yelp or Google. So no help for me there.

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What to do/where to stay for 24 hours near Shannon Airport in September. We're two adults flying from the U.S. into Shannon early Sunday morning and need to be back at the airport on Monday to meet with a group of people. Basically, trying to figure out where we should go for the day, spend the night, and (hopefully) something interesting to do on Sunday while we get used to the time change. Transport info would be nice, too.

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Sleeping position is causing problems. How do I fix this?I recently had surgery to remove a messed up disc from my neck and fuse the vertebrae. Recovery going well, most of my symptoms have gone. But now I have a new problem. When I sleep, I usually fall asleep on my side. At some point in the night I flop over onto my stomach, and virtually always wake up that way. This seems to be causing some sort of compression to my spinal cord: I wake up with the ring and pinky fingers on both hands, half of my palms, and the corresponding parts of both arms completely numb. It goes away, mostly, after waking up/sitting/standing up for a while, which is what leads me to believe it's pressure. (Slight tingling/numbness was a symptom of the messed up disc; this is much worse than it was.) I specifically believe it's the position, because if I fall asleep on a sofa at my sister's house that is too short for me to stretch out on, I remain in a fetal position when I wake up and don't have this problem. How do I prevent myself from sleeping on my face without sleeping on a short sofa forever? I see my neurosurgeon next week to assess how the fusion is going and will be asking about this; looking for something immediate (and free/cheap) that I can do, as I'm worried about causing damage. I have a cervical pillow but usually end up with it thrown somewhere else in my sleep--I wake up without, or under, the pillow most of the time.

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Sometimes a music video completely recontextualizes the song. Pet Shop Boys' most recent single Twenty-something is one thing when you just hear the song, but the video makes it something else entirely.

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Bill Gates blogs his reading list at gatesnotes.com -- usually just a quick summary of what he found interesting. For Seveneves, he and author Neal Stephenson went for burgers and recorded their (admittedly brief) conversation in VR and in-browser 360 video. (Gatesnotes previously and previously)

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I have a nearly four year old who is mesmerized by all things aviation, plus I have a mass of airline miles and hotel points. Where to go?My nearly four year old has been through a number of challenges this year, and absolutely loves all things aviation related (he can tell you the difference from an Emirates and British Airways plane from a mile away!) I've been traveling a lot and have more than enough air and hotel points for travel anywhere. Where would be amazing to take him for a long weekend? Thinking an age appropriate play space or air and space museum. I know there are lots of those - but needs to be somewhere he can play - not just a collection of static planes. One of his all time favorite places is the Chicago O'Hare airport kids aviation play area with the big toy plane - he can literally play there for hours.....pretending to pilot the plane as he looks out over real planes taking off. We are San Francisco based, but anywhere in North America is fine, and the flight itself is part of the fun (he travels well so a 6 hour flight each way is ok) It could also be a children's discovery center type place with an aviation area - the Honolulu Childrens Museum being an example.

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I've been diagnosed with Labyrinthitis. I've had it for 6 weeks, and it doesn't appear to be going away. If you've had this or someone close to you has, how long did it last? How did you cope? If it didn't go, what do you do? Surely it should be going away by now. More details below...I had a heavy cold/mild flu about 6 or 7 weeks ago. After this subsided, I had about a week of slight dizziness, which I just put down to the passing of the illness. I didn't think too much of it, until the end of the said week when I was stood up on the Sunday evening and realised I couldn't stand up, as the room span relentlessly around me, and I felt so sick it was all I could do to stop myself throwing up. This continued for the rest of the evening/night and in the morning I went straight to A&E. I was diagnosed with a suspected inner ear infection/labyrinthitis and subsequently referred to the GP to which I went the next day, who also decided it was either an inner ear infection or BPPV. After a couple of days the worst of the symptoms settled down, and I returned to work, struggling through as best as I could. After a couple of weeks, I had 3 days where I seemed to be improving, with long spells where I wasn't too out of it at all and just generally feeling better. Unfortunately I then caught some god awful stomach bug that laid me flat out for about 5 days, the last two of which were mostly spent with minor stomach symptoms, but a terrible fever. After that, the Labyrinthitis, which seemed to have been improving, came back with a vengeance.... I've sort of struggled through, and last week things seem to have been improving slightly until this Friday afternoon where the dizziness came on something chronic, and I ended up going to bed at 8 o'clock after coming home from work, and staying there until 8 the next morning. I've felt awful all weekend, and pretty much as bad as I was at the beginning of all of this. Even now I'm struggling to focus on the screen while typing this. So, mefites, please can you tell me your experiences. I would ask elsewhere, but other forums seem to range from those filled with utter horror stories to those filled with comments like 'Yea, I had this once, it'll be alright mate, give it a couple of weeks' and so would appreciate the relatively sane response of metafilter members.... The handful of people I've spoken to in real life who have had it, have with one exception (who had a horrendous bacterial version) either recovered by this point or at least were starting to feel substantially better. I don't feel anywhere near either. For the record, I'm fairly sure this is Labyrinthitis, although I'm open to suggestions if people believe it could be anything else. I seem to fit the symptoms to a fairly text book degree rather than those of BPPV or anything else, and although I've done a fair bit of scaring myself online with reading about brain tumours etc. the only other thing I could find that might fit the bill was possibly some kind of silent hayfever or sinus congestion. I've been prescribed a limited amount of Prochlorperazine (and have been told I cannot take this long term as it interferes with the compensation process), have taken ginger and also mutivitamins, just in case there is some deficiency that I'm unaware of, and although I'm trying to get another doctor's appointment (they are nearly always booked up), I'm none too hopeful with what they will say, as the general medical consensus seems to be you just have to ride it out and try and remain as active as possible. I'd really appreciate hearing other people's experiences of this, frankly at the moment I feel like I'm barely living, and the list of goals I have for myself, seem to have been reduced down to trying to stay sane, and trying to keep my job. I pretty much struggle through work and then spin out quietly in my room before retiring early to bed. So, if you've had it, how long did it last? How did you cope? If it didn't go away (god forbid), how do you live your life?

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I have a 24 ounce bottle of Clorox Control Bleach Crystals, but I lost the dosing cap. I would like to know the the volume in fluid ounces of line 1 and line 2, which is referenced on the instructions on the back of the bottle. I tried calling Clorox about this, but they couldn't / wouldn't help. If you have a bottle of this stuff in your laundry room, could you measure the dose for line 1 and line 2 for me? Thanks!

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We are troubled as to whether or not we should put our daughter in a math special education program. The school has said she needs it, but she is adamant that she does not want to be seen as different.She feels so strong about this, I feel like this is one of those turning points in life where I might make a huge mistake in what I do. My daughter is very gifted in music, has sung for hundreds of people in various venues, won awards, is in OPUS, has been in the theater and been selected as the favorite by the audience, plays musical instruments and won awards on those. She is also a public speaker. The reason I mention these, is to explain that she, as our daughter, has shown us who "she is" and the Mom in me says I should simply love her for who she is and not put such importance on school grades. I, myself, was an academic, so at first it was hard to see my daughter not get excellent grades in school. I would say she is a B student in other classes, but math is very hard for her. We have taken her to tutors, I've tried to help her, but she hates math and also is very challenged in it, when she does try. Sometimes she gets B's, sometimes C's, and sometimes, D's and F's. Do I just not listen to her and put her in the special ed math class and tell her, "Look, sometimes you have to do things in life that you don't want. You need to pass the math class each year as you go through high school." OR do I just let go of the thing, stop trying to help her (which ends in arguments), not put her in that special class, and let her be who she wants to be, and if that is a performer of some kind, then so be it. She is 13 so one of these days, before I know it, she will be out of the house and I want a relationship with my daughter. In the end, her happiness is what I want. I want her to feel good about herself and love her life. Thanks.

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My Mom is in the hospital for Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML). She's had an infection for the past few days and isn't doing well - she's not critical or anything, but she's not looking/feeling great and doesn't want anyone to see her in this state. I - plus some other close family members - REALLY want to visit her, especially considering her condition could change quickly - but we are worried she will get upset. What to do?I am on her "trusted list," which means that I can visit anytime - however, there are many days that she doesn't want visitors. I text Mom every day, and drop by on the days she says she's up for it. Her condition is currently stable, but this could change at any moment. Her Mom (My Grandma) thinks we should visit her for the support, even if she doesn't want visitors on any particular day. I'd like some feedback regarding this. I don't mind if she's not able/willing to talk; I'd be perfectly fine just piddling about on my iPad and talking to her when she feels like it. I get very anxious when I haven't seen or talked to her for a few days, and calling up the nurses only brings so much comfort. I think Grandma's worried that Mom's condition could go downhill quickly. I'm worried too. What do you think? How do you feel about unexpected visits on days where the patient is feeling unwell or doesn't want anyone to come up? I can't help but believe that the more we see her and prop up her spirits, the better. (She is ecstatic when she visit and she's feeling well..)

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Miranda July (previously), Paul Ford (MeFi's own; previously) and Starlee Kline (previously) team up for a presentation with a twist at Rhizome's Seven on Seven 2016. (Spoilers below.) As described by attendees, it caused feelings of both flattery and dread. Though it touches on issues such as privacy, homogenization and privilege, its primary intention is to explore the concept of narrative, as culled from raw personal data available online. (The link is straight to the beginning of the piece. Via waxy links.)

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The Babson Boulders of Dogtown were one man's endeavor to leave a mark... by carving brief mottos in the large boulders in a vacant field he owned.

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The remote south Atlantic island of St. Helena has largely lived apart from the world. For decades travel to the tiny (roughly 10 x 5 miles) island and British territory of 4000 has been entirely dependent upon a monthly visit from the Royal Mail Ship - a week-long voyage from Cape Town that has kept the island on the margins of the global travel market. You have to be a very determined traveller to see where Napoleon died and have a visit with a the oldest living land animal - a 184 year old giant tortoise named Jonathan. That is until last week when the first commerical airplane flight landed at the island's brand new airport. After five years of construction, hundreds of millions of pounds, and 450,000 truckloads of dirt and rock, Saint Helena Airport (airport code: HLE) is open for business, but how will St. Helena (now branded "The Secret Of The South Atlantic") adjust to the end of its isolation? Will the island's culture itself survive? More: (two part BBC Radio 4 series "St. Helena - Joining The Rest Of Us") Previously on MeFi: What a romance my life has been! -- Napoleon Bonaparte

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All three of my cats have been hospitalized this year for various reasons. I've spent about $10,000 on vet bills since February of this year. They're still not healthy.Some details: All cats are in the 11-12 year old range. So not young, but not elderly. I am one of those people for whom my pets are like children. So "put the cat down" is not really a feasible option for me unless the cat is genuinely suffering with a terminal diagnosis. That does not describe my cats at the moment. All three have rebounded, at least for now, from the acute illness that landed them in the hospital. All three are trotting around, meowing, playing and being their usual selves. In each case, the cat became abruptly deathly ill due to reasons not related to the other cats being ill. Hospitalization was necessary and extensive diagnostic testing to figure out what the problem was. There were also the expenses associated with taking them to their regular vet(s), which in each case eventually realized they were out of their depth and referred me to the local specialty emergency vet. Two of the cats are on an insanely expensive commercial raw food diet, and it's looking like the third one might have to join them. I'm sticking with this diet because even the highest quality canned food seems to make one cat in particular very ill, and making my own raw food at home makes me nervous about the whole bacteria thing. I make a okay salary but certainly not one where I can painlessly absorb $10,000 in four months. For the most recent hospital visit, I had to sign up for a Care Credit account because my credit cards were maxed from the last visit. Which leads me to the next problem... No cat is totally well right now. All three are in dire need of tooth cleanings, at $450 a pop. One kitty will likely need close monitoring of her condition for the rest of her life. Another cat has had IBD-ish symptoms for years and I finally pushed my vet for a B-12 test, which showed that not only is he low in that (I'm giving him injections), but he also has something wrong with his pancreas, requiring a full blood panel and ultrasound to properly diagnose. I just...I can't...argh... Finally, I'm sick to death of being in vet offices and hospitals. The local specialty hospital is depressing, chaotic, disturbingly disorganized, and no visit there takes less than three hours. I guess the issue is, not one of the cats is ill enough to warrant euthanasia. With proper veterinary care, they can continue to live at a high quality of life for much longer to come--at least, I really fucking hope so! If this were just one of the three cats, it would be no big deal. But taken collectively, this is destroying my finances and general life plan. I'm sick of vet offices, having huge swaths of my time gone and stumbling into work exhausted because of another late night at the emergency vet. I'm tired of watching the cats and worrying that each cough or sigh or upturned nose at a food dish is yet another impending disaster. I love my cats so, so much. They are worth much more to me than anything else money could buy. But I'm at a loss as to how to proceed. I certainly don't qualify for financial assistance. And I don't want to forgo important things like teeth cleaning that would leave them living in discomfort. I just don't know what to do next. Is there anything I have not thought of?

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Because Reasons, I suddenly will be receiving $450K from a family inheritence. I'm in California. I have, like, a normal-sized bank account like normal people who don't usually receive $450K suddenly. I am going to have to find a financial planner who can advise me how to deal with this money long-term, but where am I going to put it, like, next week when they want to give this to me?I am a financial ignoramus. Can I just deposit this in my credit union and let it sit there for a few weeks or months while I figure out the long-term plan? Is it going to disappear when Trump wins and the New World Order arrives? I only mean that half in jest -- could that money just go away in some fashion? Like, if my credit union failed? If I need to spread it around for safety, can I have the whole amount wired to my credit union and then have a portion or portions wired to other banks? (I'm thinking I might have to open multiple accounts to deal with FDIC limits?) Is that safe, for that large amount to be in my account for a few days? I'm really only worried about this holding period. I don't intend to leave this all as cash in the bank for long-term. Help?

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I don't know what I can do to help my partner come to terms with his illness.SO has completed treatment for a rare cancer (surgery and radiation). He's physically doing pretty well but it's early days. And he's sad. So sad. We have a 1yo kid. SO took care of me during a hard time of post natal depression. He set aside checking the lump thinking it was some other injury. By the time we discovered it he was angry at himself for not having discovered it sooner. We are both working, both busy. Things are financially lean but we're OK, parenting takes up most of our time. I'm very good at compartmentalising. I'm mostly so pleased he's alive and doing pretty well that I'm mostly over the moon and life as usual. But he's sad. Sad about not being around for our kid potentially. He's uncomfortable all the time and will never physically be the same. He is very young, thinking about dealing with this long term. It's a lot for a person to manage. Therapy - he's a pretty even headed well adjusted person - even now he is still an awesome partner and co-parent, until he hits a wall and loses it. Not for long though. He just holds it together. So basically he doesn't feel he has time for therapy, he wants to focus on physiotherapy and getting stronger. So no therapy suggestions, I've tried. And please believe me when I say he's pretty okay without it although I would much prefer he went. My question is about me. How can I be a better partner? I've been trying to give him space to hang with friends or work on himself in whatever way, but he just plugs along, it's like his goal is to make everything as normal as possible, when I know it isn't, and when he confesses his sadness. I feel like we're stuck in the production line of work, mortgage, parenting, and there isn't the space to breathe and come to terms with this happening to him. And I'm just...finding it easy to be normal, because like I said I'm just happy he's here, but I don't know how I can make him less sad, and I should do something.

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Ukip councillor attempts to blast BBC for 'historical inaccuracy', gets destroyed by actual historian More about Margaret of Anjou [via Making Light]

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Paul A. Johnson Pencil Sharpener Museum. "I now have over 3000 different sharpeners, with NO duplicates in here." "The literal definition of this museum is: a shed on the side of the road filled with old pencil sharpeners. A better description is: Behold, a glorious haven! A pencil sharpener sanctuary with no rival for size or awe. Come visitors; come marvel upon it."

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