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Would having a cat living in a granny suite in the basement of a large house be likely to create issues for a cat-allergic person living on the main floor of the house?- person living in the granny suite wants to adopt a cat - person living in the top floor has an allergy to cats and is adamant that a cat downstairs would trigger their allergies and make them sick - house has venmar/air circulation system. - No overlap in terms of living areas, they have separate facilities/entrances/etc. Entire top floor is one living area, and to get to the granny suite from the inside you have to go down a flight of stairs and through a large unfinished section of basement. - there is no interaction between the residents of either section.

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What is the simplest personal finance software these days for a Mac?I'm sick of Quicken's constant upselling, security fixes, downloading, etc. when all I use are its checkbook registers to reconcile my bank statements. I manually input the few checks I write. I do use and want the scheduling feature for recurring bills and automatic deposits. I do not need or want online connectivity between my financial institutions and the software. I do not plan to migrate my Quicken data to the new software. I do not need budgeting capabilities either. So what software should I get?

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This video edit of a Leap Motion powered cat anatomy simulator was recently shared on Facebook and has a million comments of people asking "what IS this music!!??". So far no answer. Can you help?

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Jimmy gets the gang back together for a Degrassi reunion

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I'm a cat sitter. What are some cool tricks I can (try to...) teach "my" cats that will make their regular humans go wow?Assume a grown-up cat of average intelligence and a period of about two weeks – is that even realistic? I'm a live-in sitter, so we can practice throughout the day.

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Warning: Consensual Cannibalism "Three weeks after his accident, our anonymous redditor invited his friends for a meal: On Sunday, July 10, 2016, three weeks after the accident, Shiny, who prefers to remain anonymous, invited 10 of his most open-minded friends to a special brunch. They ate apple strudel, quiche puff pastries, fruit tarts, and chocolate cake. They drank gin lemonade punches and mimosas. And then the main course came out: fajita tacos made from Shiny's severed human limb."

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What would happen if the five boroughs fought each other? A discussion of the martial strengths of NYC's five boroughs if they were locked in a war with each other with no outside help.

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I'm a mid-thirties professional woman (assistant type work). I would like to take a break from the professional world and just do housecleaning or something. I can afford this, for now. But would I be shutting myself out of the workforce?I am not sure if I don't like doing white collar work, if I am still recovering from my last (very sexist) workplace, if the new work place is just a bad fit, or what. I'm exhausted because I farm on the side as well. I'd like to make that full time but I don't know if I ever can. Just out of college I worked at an orchard, and later a bakery, and I loved those jobs. My mom left the workforce to raise kids (also something I'd like to do) and hasn't been able to get a good job since then. That was at least a 10 year break and what I'm considering could be shorter. So my question is: 1. If I leave the white collar workforce for a while, will I be shutting myself out from it? 2. Is there part time work I should be pursuing (especially from home) that I could build up instead? My main skills are: editing, organization, writing instructions

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Behind the scenes in the National Zoo kitchen. "Pumpkin spice is a favorite of the lions, sending them into a flurry of activity—rolling, rubbing and scent marking... Turns out, lions love this seasonal scent just as much as we do."

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It claims on TV Tropes that Stephen King said the opening of Dragons of Autumn Twilight was one of the best ever. Is there a article somewhere where Stephen King does actually talk about my favorite fantasy book series from when I was in 6th grade?

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Hi AskMe, i have just become aware of an immediate need to loan money to a family member so that they do not have their house foreclosed on. Help? This is a large house they have owned for decades and in which they have substantial equity. I would like to structure a loan to them with a minimal interest rate that is backed by the existing equity in the property. How do I go about doing this? I assume I need a lawyer to help me draw up documents? How do I find someone to help me? What else should I be thinking about here? Thanks.

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I have a character who uses crutches temporarily while her broken leg is healing. She puts no weight (for medical reasons) on the leg while walking. 'Limping' might be the obvious one, but I worry that I'm entering some ableist territory.The worry that limping is ableist has to do with that one definition of 'to limp' is to walk with difficulty, and I've seen some people operate with crutches quite speedily. OTOH, given that her use of the crutches is temporary, she's probably not going to be a virtuoso with them. Thoughts? THANK YOU

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I've spent a month going being recruited by a company and do not know how to turn down the interview without burning bridges for future positions.About five years ago, I was recruited by Company X and Company Y. I ended up choosing Company Y rather than moving cross-country to Company X for personal reasons. X kept checking in with me for a couple years after, trying to see if I was interested in a role. X is an amazing company that I wouldn't hesitate to move to if I was single. However, now that I have a partner and child, Y offers me the extensive flexibility and a culture of work-life balance that's comparable to Facebook and Google, as well as stock options, that X does not have. The flexibility in my schedule is non-negotiable, because I have a toddler who is in daycare/ sports/ speech therapy, and no support system other than my partner and I to take care of everything. Now, three years later, a recruiter - with my permission and certain conditions - submitted my resume to X. Phone interviews went well, and at every turn I emphasized the need for a flexible schedule with the my own recruiter, the HR person, and the hiring manager (who was the same one I interviewed with five years ago, and is thrilled that I'm interviewing.) Despite my repeated concerns to my recruiter that this company most likely will not meet my needs, she encouraged me to set up a date for an in-person interview. I've since spoken to the HR person again, with whom my recruiter also spoke earlier this week. They both think I should fly in, speak again with the hiring manager who may give in to what I'm asking for (my flexible schedule requests are not insane by any means, and normal for tech companies in California, not so much elsewhere.) My instinct is telling me I shouldn't take this job, and quite frankly, as I've told my recruiter and the HR person many times - I don't want to waste their time or mine. I do not want this job anymore, not at this time. My interview is scheduled for Monday, June 18. I have a few hours in which to book travel from San Diego to NYC. Perhaps it is too late for me to do anything, but I strongly think going to this interview and then turning down the offer is going to burn bridges with the company. I would really hate to do that, because it's possible that five years from now, they're one of the few companies I'd consider working for (and our intention is to eventually move to the east coast when our son is older and has a more routine schedule.) So... which of these options would carry the lowest risk of burning bridges with this company, since this will be the second time I'm turning them down? 1. Go to NYC, attend a full day of interviews, and the scheduled dinner with hiring manager and VP with the knowledge that I am 99% likely to turn this down. 2. Not go to NYC, call my recruiter up tomorrow, and tell her firmly that I've changed my mind and I am not going to waste any more of anyone's time. 3. Email the hiring manager (with whom I have a pretty good relationship, having interviewed with her previously and having had a warm, friendly conversation on the phone recently this time around) to do her the courtesy of letting her know that I've been thinking about it and the timing is just not right for my family. Then tell my recruiter what I've done. 4. Any other options I haven't thought of? My partner and I have thought this out extensively, and I don't want to debate the pros and cons of taking the job with this question. Rather, I'd like to focus on keeping a good relationship with this company for the future, if that is at all possible (I realize it may not be!) Thank you for your help.

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Can you spell out for me the actual, practical babysteps I need to do to get my head from where I am now to where I need to be?I've been in therapy (weekly sessions) for the past 6-7 months. It's been working really well, also thanks to the encouragement you guys have given me in my previous questions. We've been working on my self-esteem issues, trust issues, etc. and I have seen concrete improvements. What I am still working on is that there is a (large) part of me that is exactly like the person asking this question. (I hope it's ok to link to other peoples questions?) To sum up: I'm constantly looking for unconditional approval from pseudo-parental figures, filled (ha!) with a bottomless hunger, that nothing seems to sate. I also understand that craving and trying to regain the unconditional love I never received as a child is not the way forward, and I would like to stop. I have done lots of journaling, thinking and have talked about it with my therapist some (it's still the thing that is hardest for me to talk about). But what usually happens is this: we concur I need to sate my needs myself, e.g. the need for approval, so I get "homework" to write myself the approving words I would like to hear. I do this (earnestly!) and when I read it through, I do feel a little better. And then I think: "Well, I bet my therapist will be proud of me, wait until she hears this!" Which – argh. It *always* happens like this, and it's so frustrating. Whatever I do, no matter how much I consciously decide to change, I always end up in the same old mindset – wishing, longing, hoping. I've done a lot to improve my mental health, for *me*, but all those successes are (almost involuntarily) followed by wondering if now I'm finally good enough to get the love that I crave. I can't seem to make myself consider anything else but this the ultimate price / goal. My first question is: is this simply a question of patience, or can I do more? If yes, this is where I would like your concrete, actual, practical babystep instructions on what I can DO. "You need to look for acceptance within yourself"-kind of instructions don't help me where I am right now, I need "look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself you love yourself"-level stuff. As always, thank you for reading & for your help :)

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TL;DR A pin went missing from my hard disk. I have no way to recover the data inside. I deleted KeePass database. I still can't access my Gmail after using the Forgot password?. I've contacted Account Recovery team through the forums, but they couldn't verify the account belongs to me. Could someone help me? Thank you.I was doing "spring cleaning" and deleted all backups, including KeePass database. I was following the advice from an article that said you'll need everything in one place to efficiently organize things. Unfortunately, my hard disk suddenly stopped working on 9 May 2018. The technician said it was a hardware problem. A pin went missing from the hard disk. My laptop is a Lenovo Ideapad Y580 and is about 6 years old. I doubt you can get Lenovo to fix it. What I've tried: *1* I've started a thread on Gmail forums. The mod sent a private message and asked to submit a form to the Account Recovery team. I received a negative reply: "Unfortunately, based on the information you provided, we were unable to verify your ownership over the account you escalated." - Two-step verification enabled on my phone. - No recovery email. I removed the Yahoo email associated with it, and forgot to add a new one. I have access to the Yahoo email. - Don't remember the creation date. I cleared the old emails on my Yahoo. My friend lost the password to her Yahoo account. So, no asking for her help. - I am still logged into the Gmail app on my (non-rooted) phone. *2* I found a Keepass database with a Gmail password from 2015, but it didn't work on the Forgot password? form. *3* I have tried recovering the password from my Chrome browser (after replacing my hard disk) on laptop and smartphone. I used the Forget password? option. *4* I even asked my friend's help, but he kept getting "too many attempts" message. He assured me that you can change the password if you're logged in on the phone. I doubt it'll work. I really need to recover this email address. I used it for everything important. I can't reset password from the Gmail app if my phone suddenly stopped working. I am willing to pay to recover my email, but don't know anyone reputable. This is a last resort. Maybe I could get the bank to cancel my debit card attached to Playstore? The card is under the same name as on my profile and some emails correspondence.

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In 2015, the Federal Communications Commission (FCC) adopted historic Internet rules (CNN Money), when the Democratic-led commission approved 3-to-2, split along party lines, to assert extra government authority over the Internet and permitted enforcement of net neutrality rules that would prevent Internet providers—including cellular carriers—from blocking or throttling traffic or giving priority to Web services in exchange for payment (Ars Technica). That came to an end on Monday, June 11, 2018 (CNN Money), following another FCC vote, split on party lines again (CNN Money), but breaking for the GOP. The FCC's Net Neutrality rules are dead, but the fight isn't (Wired). At the core of this debate (Daily Dot) is Title II of the Communications Act of 1934 (PDF). Title II is the legal foundation on which the FCC enacted the Open Internet Order of 2015 (PDF), which established rules for internet service providers (ISPs) regarding net neutrality. Why is Title II so important for net neutrality? Essentially, without broadband providers being classified as common carriers under Title II, the FCC would lack the legal authority to enforce net neutrality rules against block, throttling, and paid prioritization. This is the result of a January 2014 court decision (PDF) in Verizon v. FCC when a federal appeals court struck down (DD) key parts of the FCC's Open Internet Order of 2010. As the court's ruling states, "the Commission had failed to cite any statutory authority that would justify its order compelling a broadband provider to adhere to open network management practices." The ruling was a blow to net neutrality, however: It left the door open for the five-member FCC to write new rules to fortify the open internet. This is what eventually led to the FCC voting 3-2, along party lines, to enact the Open Internet Order of 2015 and reclassify broadband under Title II. ... FCC Chairman Ajit Pai, who voted against the 2015 Open Internet Order, laid out his reasoning for rolling back the Title II reclassification in an op-ed for the Wall Street Journal (WSJ). So it should be no surprise about what the Republicans had control of the FCC, particularly with Pai at the helm. Ajit Pai's FCC voted to allow industries to self-regulate (AT), under the repeal order that was titled Restoring Internet Freedom (FCC). But over the years, ISPs and cellular carriers large and small have violated net neutrality principals: 2004: Madison River Communications Corp. blocked internet users from using the Voice over Internet Protocol (VoIP) service, Vonage, instead of the company's landline telephone services and was fined $15,000 by the FCC (WaPo) 2011: Comcast slowed ("throttled") uploads from peer-to-peer file sharing (P2P) applications, and Comcast did not stop blocking these protocols until the FCC ordered them to stop (Torrent Freak) 2012: AT&T (and Verizon) blocked Apple's FaceTime app over cellular connections (AT), until AT&T devised new data plans (AT), and in 2013 blocked Google Hangouts from cellular data (AT) 2017: Verizon was accused of violating net neutrality rules by throttling video applications on its mobile network (AT), claiming that reduced speeds to video streaming from Netflix, YouTube and Verizon's own Go90 video service were due to limited "network testing," which they considered to fall under "reasonable network management practices" that were allowed under the FCC's net neutrality rules 2017: Comcast deleted net neutrality pledge the same day FCC announced repeal (AT); the three-year-old "no paid prioritization" pledge was suddenly, quietly removed, while it loudly proclaimed it would invest more than $50 billion in infrastructure over the next five years because of the repeal of net neutrality rules and the new tax overhaul (AT), except based on previous years, Comcast's spending likely would increase regardless of whether the net neutrality repeal and tax cut happened (which might be part of why Comcast has ended its bandwidth throttling for heavy data users after 10 years of using its congestion management system -- but it'll still cap data usage. Companies have pledged to "not block, throttle, or discriminate against lawful content," but are generally silent on paid prioritization or zero-rating (Wiki) services or sites, like Portuguese mobile phone company MEO already does (The Verge), zero-rated access to their own service "MEO cloud", but caps the amount of data customers can use to access competing services, selling monthly data packages. What happens next? First, some companies have ongoing net neutrality requirements. Comcast, the nation's largest broadband provider, is forbidden from violating net neutrality under the terms of the government's approval of its 2011 acquisition of NBC Universal (Wiki), but that restriction expires in September. Charter, the second-largest home broadband provider, is required to uphold net neutrality until 2023 under the terms of its acquisition of Time Warner Cable in 2016 (Wiki). And under the Congressional Review Act, or CRA, Congress, with the approval of the president, can not only reject regulations issued by a federal agency but effectively bar that agency from taking similar action again. This process already started, when Congressman Edward J. Markey (D-MA) and Congressman Mike Doyle (D-PA-14) introduced a Congressional Review Act (CRA) resolution to overturn the FCC's decision on net neutrality (Doyle press release). Though the senate approved the resolution to overturn the FCC decision (NPR), it's a long road to get from here to enough House votes and support from the president. Fight for the Future's Battle for the Net [FftF previously; BftN previously] initiative claimed a victory with the Senate, and still has hope for the House, as there's strong bipartisan support for net neutrality among the public (WaPo). Otherwise, there are a flurry of lawsuits that have been filed to fight the repeal of net neutrality (NYT). The fight is also happening at lower levels of government, as several states have already reinstated their own network neutrality regulations (Wiki), and some governors have issued executive orders (The Hill) that prohibit the state from doing business with any broadband company that violates the principles of net neutrality.

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Gizmodo reports on Amazon's "Voluntary" Time Off (VTO) scheme, whereby workers are encouraged, incentivized, or even forced to work fewer hours in order to improve the efficiency of their distribution centers. It's little wonder then that the foremost complaint among the people I spoke to was pay. Already low hourly wages, frequent VTO, minimal bonuses, lack of cost of living adjustments, and capped pay increases were a source of diminished quality of life. "I maxed out what I can earn as my pay grade three years after I was hired into Amazon," an associate who has been with the company nearly seven years said. He claims that repeated attempts to apply for a higher-paid managerial position have been met with excuses or ignored outright. One picker in Kentucky—the densest state in terms of Amazon facilities compared to population—claimed he wears out a pair of sneakers every month from the amount of walking the job demands. "Take that away from $12.50 an hour and you'll see how quickly it adds up to not much money," he joked. The irony of working in the former Zappos warehouse which still primarily stores and ships shoes wasn't lost on him. An associate in Indiana went so far as to guess that recent reports of Amazon workers' reliance on food stamps in many states was a direct result of excessive VTO. The obvious line of questioning when faced with similar testimony of multiple associates operating in separate facilities is what Amazon accomplishes with VTO that couldn't be achieved by simply reducing its staff. There's no question excess staff can of course help warehouses absorb upticks in volume, though how many surprises there could be for a company like Amazon with access to troves of individualized customer data spanning over two decades is dubious. However, the recent focus on Amazon's Battle Royale-style search for a second headquarters has brought its reliance on state and local incentives into renewed focus. Although the particulars of deals the company strikes with the cities it agrees to operate in are often kept from the public eye and redacted in Freedom of Information Requests, local reporting over the years indicates that at least in some cases, a stipulation of the considerable funds, tax breaks, and other incentives the company squeezes out are predicated on the number of jobs it creates.

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Cats come in all shapes and forms. Even liquid. Documenting them all, an Instagram account called DailyPurrr is creating "stupid cat drawings on a daily basis." The portraits they share are purrrfect combinations of simplicity and humor, and even you'll be able to replicate them!

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Before he mysteriously disappeared and landed on the Air Force Most Wanted list, Capt. William Howard Hughes Jr. phoned home to tell his mother and father that he was going to the Netherlands.

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A lesson in foresight: Balloonfest—about the Doomed Cleveland Balloonfest of 1986. Release 1.5 Million Helium Balloons at the same time? To raise funds for charity, to raise Cleveland's civic pride, and get the city into the Guinness Book of World Records? That's a Great Idea! What could possibly go wrong? This post features old-school local news footage, murmurations of balloons, the mysteries of atmospheric science in 1986, maritime tragedies, and Cleveland. \\ Happy footage. "Let the Bad Memories Fade Away." \\ [via The Atlantic and Jessamyn]

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This Pitchbook report talks through this insane moment in private equity and venture capital. Some of the origins, some ongoing trends, and some potential effects it'll have on tech investing and our economy. Dizzying but interesting read.

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An oral history of B3: Palace of the Silver Princess, the racy module that almost sunk Dungeons and Dragons. Some more details. A review.

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I'm fulfilling a long-time dream of visiting Helsinki at the end of August. Flying from New York; the trip will be a week. Help me decide on a route without being overambitious. Details inside.I have just seven nights. I want to focus on Helsinki and see a bit outside the city, but also include Tallinn (and Stockholm?) if reasonable. Here are my flight options, all of which will cost within about $100 of each other. (I've compared - I'm using a travel credit with SAS so I don't have so tons of options.) 1) Helsinki (7 nights) & Talinn (day trip only) = NYC --> HEL --> NYC 2) Helsinki (.. nights) & Talinn (.. nights) = NYC --> HEL, TLL --> NYC 3) Stockholm (.. nights) & Helsinki (.. nights) & Talinn (1 night) = NYC --> ARN, TLL --> NYC 4) Stockholm (.. nights) & Helsinki (.. nights) = NYC --> ARN, HEL --> NYC Me: late 30's, cis het female, and traveling solo. Big draws for me are museums, design, history, saunas, bike rides, and hiking. I'm leaning toward #2 so I can be relaxed and get to venture outside the cities to explore. The only reason I hesitate is thinking Stockholm is relatively close, it would be silly to skip it. But it would involve another flight. Help talk me down.

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If you were a mid-to-late 30s woman with some disposable income, what beauty and wellness procedures/appointments/treatments would you get to maximize your beauty/health/wellness/well-being? Examples inside.Thinking of things I can now afford (goodbye beauty school haircuts) in sort of a "buying a quality bag instead of several cheap ones" ways. Examples such as: Keratin treatment Regular mani/pedis Teeth whitening Skin peels Waxing/laser hair removal Self-care! Yay!

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Hi! I am wondering how to find a hard copy or online back issue of either Ranger Rick or My Big Backyard (I think the latter) that had a huuuge spread of jack-o-lanterns on the front cover, back cover, or somewhere inside. It would have been when I was ages 4-7, so 1985-88. I remember it looking so magical!

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