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In the 1970s, nobody knew what to do about Britain. The economy was in tatters. Industry was in decline. Governments changed like traffic lights. There were fears about terrorism, immigration, and fascism. We joined Europe, then we wanted out. This is a film about how the '70s shaped me. It's my story, but it's also Britain's. - Boy George's 1970s: Save Me From Suburbia

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I recently got the opportunity to foster a Momma and her three kittens. We believe they're about eight weeks old. Poor Mom is in rough shape and she's at the vet getting IV fluids and antibiotics. They're all feral-ish. How do I best get them ready for adoption? Details inside.I raised one of my cats from a kitten but he was probably four months old, so this is my first rodeo. The two boys (Sassafrass and Caraway are the biggest and I'm not too worried about them. In the past three days they've gone from cowering to being largely fine with my presence. They're too busy playing to be afraid. Rosemary (we call her Rosie) on the other hand is really insecure. I feel like I have a limited amount of time to get her comfortable around people. At the shelter, kittens have the best shot of being adopted. We like to say the cat will find you. She isn't going to find anybody hiding in a corner or in a litter box. She's the runt, and before Mom went to the vet she was constantly using Mom for comfort. She'll allow me to pick her up, and she's stopped hissing but that's about the best I can say. So far I'm holding her and reading, wiping her with a wet paper towel (she has random sticky bits on her, i think she's stepping or rolling in food). I've tried playing with her but she's completely inert. She just gray rocks me. I feed her every few hours and don't allow her dry kibble. I know it's a good idea to allow kittens to free feed but I'm hoping if she associates me with food that she'll be better off? If I'm wrong on that let me know. I've read that it helps having a radio in with them so they get used to human voices. I really want to do right by these kittens. Is there anything else I should be doing?

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I am about to replace some old pairs of pants and I really want something low-rise. Mainly looking for sweatpants and shorts, pajama/lounge pants, and Levis.My current workout gear and pajamas are incredibly high-waisted. With the crotch at what seems like a reasonable level, they're all high-water and the waistband is almost to my ribs. They can run up to 4 inches above my navel, and what I really want would be several inches below it. Sometimes I fold the waistbands down, but that can obscure the pockets. I have enough hip to hang a waistband off, and that's where I like it to be. It's a lot easier to find low-rise jeans, partly because it's a thing that you can search for. But if you have recommendations for particular styles of jeans that'd be nice too. Other minimum requirements: - Non-static cotton or cotton blend - Two front in-seam pockets, or at very least, one pocket that can hold a key and ID - Not totally form-fitting in the waist/crotch/butt (so no leggings, possibly also no yoga pants) - Gentle elastic or drawstring waistbands on the workout/lounge stuff - Machine wash, tumble or line dry (any temp OK, delicates cycle OK) - Men's or men's-style or gender-neutral; medium to dark colors Is this a total unicorn, or do pants like these exist?

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Two people were killed during the second storm this year in the Netherlands. There was extensive damage. Roofs were torn off of buildings, cargo containers were blown off a dock, buildings collapsed and trees fell on houses and cars. The storm started in the morning and blasted the country for several hours. NRC posted this (non-gruesome) report in pictures. And if you're eager to see footage made and shared by Twitter users, don't miss out on #storm and #westerstorm.

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I'm having a bit of a job / life crisis and would love some outside insight beyond just ranting to my husband. I am not good at office jobs and feel like I am broken. I have had two "real" office jobs, and invariably they have ended the same way: about a year in, I get frustrated, wildly bored, and start making moves to leave. Advice from any other creative types who've struggled with this same issue would be particularly useful!!Looking at my post history, you can tell I've been a career wanderer (except for the actual post about quitting, which I posted for a friend!). But I've finally figured out a Thing about myself. I'm a creative person and a bit entrepreneurial. My dream is to work as a photographer/writer. I have a successful freelance business that has, at several points, been my primary income. Those have been the times I've been happiest - when I can set my own schedule, work on projects that I like, ditch disagreeable clients, and have PLENTY of time to work on my creative pursuits (Yay!). I don't LOVE all my freelancing work, but it gives me time to do what I do love and it's way more agreeable than working as part of a corporation. However, I am also susceptible to freelance panic. Last year, I hit a rough patch with clients and had a health scare and wanted better insurance (thanks, America). I applied for a few FT positions. In a whirlwind, a company interviewed me and offered me a job. I was super hesitant about the position - it is in a different industry with different job duties - but I'm bad at saying no under stress. (Something I'm working on!) Surprise, surprise, I'm a year in and I HATE it. The company isn't bad, but the position is not for me and has no relevance to my future goals. I feel like every second sitting at this desk is wasted time. I can't force myself to care about anything I'm doing, and my work is suffering. Plus it's wildly stressful and leaves me with no time for my creative pursuits. I could list a dozen reasons it's not ideal, but I feel like most would be manageable for a "normal" person who can handle a day to day job without panicking and feeling like their dreams are being flushed down the toilet. Since day one of this job I've regretted stopping freelancing to work here. I've started rebuilding my client base so I can jump back to full time freelancing by mid year. And I got married, so I can get on my husbands insurance! However, I know this makes me a job hopper. Essentially, my resume looks like: Job A, 2 years straight out of college Job B (contract while freelancing), 1.5 years Job C, 9 months (ok, to be fair, I had to quit because we moved cross country but also I would have been looking for other work soon probably?) Job D (current position), 1.5 years Freelance writing, 4 years across or in between all this On one hand, I don't ever want to go back to an office job! They are not for me! So maybe my resume doesn't matter. My goal is to sustain myself with freelance and contract work until I can shoot/write full time and/or have some sort of entrepreneurial enterprise. But also I know leaving yet another job so early will put a red mark on my resume if I DO ever need another office job. I am miserable here, to the point of crying in my car and having breakdowns on Sundays. Yet I keep thinking: the job is not objectively awful (an accurate statement) and I should be able to suck it up for at least another year or two. I feel like I'm being bratty and spoiled. But the thought of waiting another two years to get any real time to work on my passions - and spending another two years resentful in an office working long stressful days - makes me so miserable, especially when I have a client base that pays enough to live. So many people hate their office jobs and continue to go to them and perform well for decades. Why can't I be one of them? Is it a basic flaw in my self that I struggle with doing this? (By the way, my dad is a serial entrepreneur and my mom teaches entrepreneurship so I've never had a good example of "goes to work for ~the man~ without complaining"!)

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The 'Ice Tsunami' That Buried a Whole Herd of Weird Arctic Mammals

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I have a seldom-used 500g dmg file in DropBox that's not mirrored on my drive. I need to grab it for a sec, but don't have room on my hard drive, so I'm downloading to an external drive. But I haven't been able to complete the d/l in Safari or Chrome (for reasons explained below).I'm afflicted with the common and longstanding Mac issue where external drives frequently spontaneously eject (you get lots of "Disk Not Ejected Properly" notifications). That's likely what screws up the downloads, since I'm downloading to an external drive. The workaround for the problem is an app called Mountain which automatically re-mounts ejected drives. But it's not quick enough to recover the download, apparently. I don't expect to solve the random disk ejection issue here, but I do need to get the damned file downloaded. Any suggestions? Maybe a download manager app capable of auto-restarting stalled downloads? Or does DropBox block that sort of thing?

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Every so often I'll be outside and smell apricots when there are no apricots in view. I believe some plant is giving off this smell — not an apricot tree, probably, but something with flowers or pollen that smells exactly like apricots. What might it be?I am 99% sure that this is botanical and that I haven't repeatedly walked past a pile of human-discarded apricots. I'm in Northern California.

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I used to use Readability to send Longreads to my Kindle. It was absolutely seamless, one click, no effort. I hit "send to Kindle" and the article showed up--in a readable format--on my Kindle. My search-engine searching is not turning up an alternative that has this functionality. Any suggestions?Just to re-iterate: I am looking for a one-step no intervention from me (beyond entering my Kindle email address) browser extension that will send long reads (or other long form articles) from the internet to my Kindle for reading on airplanes and the bus. If there is no such thing, are there absolutely dead simple ways of doing this on my own? DRAG AND DROP dead simple. Your least tech-savvy most-easily-panicked-by-the-computer friend simple.

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Please help me brainstorm ways to get people in my town to stop walking their dogs off leash in violation of the leash law. All ideas welcome; even if they seem crazy, they might lead to a more practical solution. My on-leash dogs have been charged by off-leash dogs twice already this week and I've had it. I'm specifically focused on people walking dogs off-leash on the sidewalks in town. Things I've thought of so far after the jump, in increasing order of rage-fueled irrationality.- Asking the city to step up enforcement - Asking the city to fund signs reminding people of the leash law - Posting regular reminders to NextDoor - Posting regular reminders to FB and asking local friends to share - Buying bulk .99 kennel (slip) leads and putting up a little kiosk in front of my house with a sign stating the leash law and offering the use of a lead if you don't have one (similar concept to Tiny Library), and then when I see people with off-leash dogs helpfully directing them to the kiosk - Buying a trail cam and moving it around town to catch people in the act and then posting screenshots to a FB page devoted to shaming people into obeying the law

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I have a conference in Prague in late May and I want to take my family along. Where should I be looking for AirBnBs that meet our needs? The conference locations are near the Florenc metro and the second location is immediately next to Náměstí Republiky metro.While my getting to the conference locations daily is important, I'd also like the location to be nice for the others involved - adults, an elementary aged child, and a baby. We need a kitchen and a washing machine in the AirBnB. Walkable to a supermarket would be great too. And their ability to easily get to stuff in the city is key. I'm looking and filtering on AirBnB, but it is unclear to me if I'm looking in a really commercial part of the city or what. I'd be thrilled with AirBnB links or "living" hotels or explicit neighborhood suggestions.

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I am looking for recommendations for shampoo, for my specific hair. It needs to be fragrance-free and sulfates-free. I have naturally gray hair that I dye brown. More hair details inside..I can't seem to find a shampoo with a description that covers everything I'm looking for. I am a white woman in my 40s. My hair is: - naturally gray - dyed using L'Oreal (this is fyi only, I am NOT seeking opinions or advice on dyeing my hair) - very thick and long - wavy to curly - the only other product I use is Jason fragrance-free conditioner Due to allergies, the shampoo needs to be: - fragrance-free - sulfates-free I would greatly appreciate any recommendations!

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A couple of days ago I asked what to do about a wild child cat who we just weren't clicking with. I must have jinxed myself by stating in the question that he was not being aggressive towards our older cat, because right after asking the question he started bullying the old guy. It's time to find him a new home where he will be happier, but this will be an uphill climb. Would it be best to simply take him back to the shelter?After a long (leashed) walk with our young cat, he came inside in a very frisky mood. Our older cat was sitting nearby, and the young cat playfully started batting at him. The older cat swatted back, but sadly lacks his front claws and his swatting had no effect. The younger cat had previously been deferential to him, both because he was much smaller and because the older cat had made a big show of being top cat when we brought the little one home. In that moment it must have dawned on the young cat that, hey, I'm as big as you now, and you don't have claws! Attack time! Since then he's behaved aggressively towards the older cat, to the older cat's distress. Another aspect of this is that the older cat came to us as a traumatized pet and it took several years to fully bring him out of his shell. I don't want him to have to spend his golden years dealing with an aggressive young interloper. Given my last question and the consensus that the best situation for the younger cat would either be to let him roam free or rehome him, how should I go about the latter? I've already exhausted my admittedly small network of people who might be interested in a cat. Given his needs I would want to carefully vet any stranger who wants to adopt him. Ideally he would go to be someone's farm cat. I definitely don't want him to end up cooped up in a studio apartment or in a worse situation. But how on earth to place such qualifications on adopting out a cat, when rehoming a cat is already a nearly impossible feat? The shelter I adopted him from allows you to bring back a pet any time for any reason, and I'm wondering if this would be the better option. At least they have something of a system in place (I hope) to ensure reasonable standards in who they adopt out to. And finally, I think the best option would be to keep him but let him roam to his heart's content. If anyone has any advice on how to convince my spouse to agree to this, please share. My spouse is adamantly opposed to it due to the impact on birds and wildlife. (And if there are any Mefites anywhere in the Midwest US who want a silly, high energy little tuxedo cat, I would bring him to you!)

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How Do You Rebuild Your Life After Leaving a Polygamous Sect? Buzzfeed writer Anne Helen Petersen reports on the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (FLDS) community of Short Creek, and how it is changing now that its former leader Warren Jeffs is in prison for life, there are a growing number of ex-FLDS members in town, and formerly powerless female ex-members have formed the Girlfriend Club to support each other as they recreate themselves and their lives. (TW: Some mentions of sexual and physical assault, forced marriage.)

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It's pretty simple. I don't live in the UK and I'd like some Wensleydale. Any suggestions?While vacationing in London I ate a marvelous Wensleydale and carrot sandwich. I'd like to replicate it, but I'm not sure where I can find Wensleydale cheese. I live in New Jersey, if that helps. I'm willing to travel as far as NYC or Philly. I'm OK with ordering it online, except all the Wensleydale I've encountered online comes with fruit. I want plain cheese. If there are cheeses similar to Wensleydale that I could use, I'm willing. The open Internet hasn't really been helpful to me on this question, or my Googling skills have betrayed me in a profound way. Thanks so much.

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India is gigantic, India is colorful. India is also chaotic, noisy and polluted as the photographer Kristian Bertel has pictured. These and many other attributes characterize one of the most diverse countries on the globe. On a journey through India, a country so diverse that you think you are traveling through different worlds and pure luxury and wealth are often faced with a few meters of poverty, dirt and disease... Traveling in India Traveling across the subcontinent of India takes you through vibrant cities, encounters numerous cultures and encounters a varied geography. With swanky temples, lively markets, lively festivals and delight in the culinary diversity of the country. More than 1.1 billion people live in the second most populous country in the world. That is almost four times as many as in the whole of Europe. However, you do not have to assume that you are bumping into crowds everywhere. Most of the population is located in the fertile plains of the Ganges. Alone in the cities of Mumbai, Delhi and Kolkata live about 40 to 50 million people. India has a lot of visitors to offer highlights. One can get to know the capital Delhi but also Varanasi, the sacred Hindu city and both have their charms. In Ellora in Maharashtra, one can take a look at the temples hewn in stone. Tradition and culture in India With the dimensions of the Indian continent, it is not enough that over time a number of cultures have formed there too. You basically can not speak of a unified Indian culture because the cultures are just too different. Add to that the gigantic distances. The Indian culture is strongly influenced by the four main religions Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism and Sikhism. All have left their mark in the form of palace and fortifications and sacred buildings. The variety of Indian culture one will also discover on the basis of the many cheerful and boisterous festivals that run throughout the year. The most famous are Diwali, which is the Festival of Lights and Gandhi Jayanti and Indian culture includes many culinary delights. For some, however, it will take your breath away, they are so sharp. What unites India in cultural terms is the Bollywood film industry. Even in the smallest nest, the stars of the industry are known. Another common feature is respect for the other. In the traditional welcome ceremonies Indians fold their hands, bow slightly to their counterparts and say 'Namaste' and this custom comes from the Hindus. Photographing the Indian culture Essence is often synonymous with the soul and for the photographer and his photographs from India. He is a photographer, who has traveled in Rajasthan, one of the most colorful provinces in India. He specializes in travel and portrait photography. As a dedicated traveler he is always tries to depict life in a pure and simple and unstaged way. Giving the viewer the feelings and emotions, he experiences while photographing, is what he tries to accomplish in each of his photographs. The state of Rajasthan is really worth a trip for which the India traveler should take enough time. The photographer had stayed in Varanasi far too long, but this city, with its timeless atmosphere and unconditional will to tradition, can really please your heart. It should also be noted that I have also been struck by various kinds of adversity. It is well known that India is not only the land of contrasts, contrasts and extremes in cliche. Hopefully, this travel article will inspire you to go to India.

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I'll keep this brief. I'm currently visiting Los Angeles and would like to participate in the Women's March here on Saturday. I'm a tourist staying in Venice Beach with a rental car and a bike. What would be the best way to get downtown and back for the march? I've asked around and heard horror stories from last year about the transit options: impossible parking and traffic, trains too crowded to board, overstressed Uber and Lyft systems. Are there shuttles I should know about? Better times for the trains? Any ideas would be welcome! Thanks!

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As Tom Phillips, the UK editorial director, leaves Buzzfeed, his parting piece describes the 29 stages of a twitterstorm in 2018. Related: the 29 stages five years ago (MetaFilter thread). Unrelated: MetaFilter content previously amplified by Buzzfeed.

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I was just hired for a well-paying p/t time in my regional hospital system. That's great, but it's shift work. How do I stay sane, healthy, and motivated to continue work on my side hustle? And oh, advice for working in the hospital system too, please.Where I live--Kingston, Ontario--can be notoriously hard for employment, especially since the best paying jobs are in the hospital system, Queen's, St Lawrence, or RMC. I count myself really lucky to have impressed HR to have been quickly offered this opportunity. (I've been unemployed for over a year. My chequing acct has a whopping $11 in it.) It's doing scheduling/staffing, if that informs your answer. The hours will be: noon to midnight, 5 am to 5 pm, 1 pm to 9 pm, 5 am to 1 pm, rotating as needed. It's part-time, but I am so used to keeping a fairly regimented 9-5 schedule even at home working on my podcast and beer columns that I must admit I'm a little terrified. I used to work weird hours in my 20s when I was a barista but it's been a long time. How do I make sure I stay on track with good eating and exercising when my usual times for these things will vary? And sleep? I worked so hard to have a regular sleep schedule! My partner and I are childfree so there's no little ones to worry about, but it will be strange to be on an opposite schedule. If you do shift work, how do you cope? And if you work in a hospital, how to adjust to a work setting that isn't like an ordinary office?

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I've been given an unused Apple AirPort Express. Great! Maybe I can finally network my printer and print wirelessly from it. Given the specifics of my current WiFi configuration, can you help me figure out the best and/or easiest way to do this?I have: an unused AirPort Express from about 2014 (I'm guessing) an existing WiFi network from my Verizon provided router/modem a Brother HL-L2300D Monochrome Laser Printer The printer is, unfortunately, a good ten feet across the room (and a well trafficked walkway) from the router/modem. I can't move the router/modem, and I'd prefer not to move the printer, either (it fits really nicely in the side table where it's been living, and there's no good space for it near the router/modem. Since I don't have a base station to connect it to, I assume the easiest solution is to just get a looooooooong Ethernet cable to connect the AirPort Express to the router/modem across the room. Does that seem like the best solution?

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"Why Did Two-Thirds of These Weird Antelope Suddenly Drop Dead?" More than 200,000 antelope died in 2015. Scottish crossbill faces climate change extinction Climate Change Spells Extinction for Pikas of Lake Tahoe Huge Puffin Die-Off May Be Linked to Hotter Seas Mass die-off of Antarctic penguin chicks alarms researchers In pitiful animal die-offs across the globe — from antelopes to bees to seabirds — climate change may be culprit

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I will try to keep this short. I have had lifelong OCD/Anxiety/Depression. I tried meds in the past. I have been in therapy for a decade. I've done it all, including ketamine infusions. Docs want me to try meds again. Info insideI have had lifelong mental issues, primarily OCD. I was on meds years ago and came off when they weren't working and causing very significant side effects. I went through a crying/shaking/suicidal withdrawal. I think that it may have been the daily Xanax, but I'm not sure. I NEVER want to feel that way again. I have been off meds for 5-6 years. I have remained in therapy and have done ketamine. 4-6 months ago I started seeing a therapist from the OCD Foundation that specializes in OCD (ERP etc). I also found a psychiatrist through the same site. They want me to try meds. The PDOC suggests Luvox as it it the gold standard. He wants me to get up to 200-300 as quickly as I can and stay on it for 6 months to see if it is working. I am TERRIFIED of feeling worse. I have been on Luvox before and feel that it never worked. The only thing that has changed since then is that I have been exercising and eating healthy for years. I wasn't at the time. I also know that I have MTHFR A1298c ++ and supplement with methyfolate and b12. I am much healthier. I got my vitamin D levels up etc. I did Promthease and populated my 23&me but didn't come up with anything useful. Here is my dilehma: Do I try Luvox. He seems to think that I need to be on it for 6 months to know if it is working as long as I can tolerate the side effects. I don't care about stigma, I am scared of side effects and eventual withdrawal/poop out. He said not to worry about those things. I have been on other things in the past – Wellbutrin , Prozac, Zoloft, benzos, etc. I know that I was on the generic Luvox. Perhaps that is why? Will the methylfolate help? I am worried about being tired (already am), losing my libido (been low due to depression) and not being able to drink (can I have ONE beer with friends once a week). I am worried about serotonin syndrome. Can I continue nightly marijuana Please help me feel like it is OK to try this....or are my fears valid? These docs act like these drugs are no big deal

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Need advice on optic audio splitters...I understand that digital optic audio splitters like these are for one source (a TV, say) to go to multiple audio devices (receiver, soundbar, etc.). Is the reverse true for these splitters? The question: I have a PS4 that only plays its audio through the crappy TV speakers. I have my cable box (not my TV, it doesn't have an optic audio port) going to a Samsung soundbar via an optic audio cable. I am willing to buy a second optic audio cable. Will the optic splitter work if I want this: PS4-------\ Optic Audio Splitter-----------Sound Bar Cable----/

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I'm going to Thailand and Cambodia this spring. I'd like to read novels and poems about these places, ideally in translation.I found this 13-year-old question, but most of the recommendations are for books originally written in English. I'd much rather pick up something originally written in Thai or Khmer and translated into English. I'm not looking for travel guides (that's what the internet is for) but for a sense of the culture. I'd lightly prefer fiction and poetry over memoirs/nonfiction, but if you've read a nonfiction account that you found compelling and well-written, that'd be cool too.

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Is traveling to Mexico City during Holy Week (Semana Santa) a bad idea?I'm considering traveling to Mexico City for vacation the last week in March, which encompasses the entire week of Semana Santa before Easter (March 25-31). My friend and I are visiting another friend who will be living there, and we'll want to do the regular tourist stuff--museums, historic sites, etc--as well as exploring neighborhoods and trying to find off-the-beaten path fun gems and generally running around town with the friend we're visiting. He does not live there yet (though he has before, just not around Easter), so he's not really able to give me an accurate account. I've done some googling, and it's basically half split between "oh it's great because all the locals go to the coast and the city is peaceful" to "all the businesses are closed except for the museums which will be really crowded". Are there any native or current residents that can give me the real deal on whether or not this is a good week to visit? Are there other times during the Spring that are not good times to visit (we're trying to get there before May at least)? Also trying to avoid American 'spring-breakers' but I'm assuming they'll all be in Cancún anyway and not much more of a problem than usual, right?

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