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The Ballad of Kathy Scruggs The latest Clint Eastwood movie, "Richard Jewell," depicts the events surrounding the Centennial Olympic Park bombing in Atlanta in 1996, and the scrutiny of Jewell, who was initially hailed as a hero but then became the prime suspect. The movie is said to imply that Kathy Scruggs, the real-life journalist who broke the story of the FBI investigation into Jewell, slept with her source. The Atlanta Journal-Constitution denies this and has asked for a disclaimer to be added to the movie. Olivia Wilde, who portrays Scruggs, has defended the depiction.

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Lately, I've been thinking about how I don't feel a strong connection to my culture (American-Chinese) but at a loss how to change it.I'm not interested in CN web novels, dramas/movies, or even manhua. Although I understand 50% Mandarin I cannot speak, read, or write Mandarin. Also, I live in a diverse NYC community but I don't celebrate any specific holiday other than NYE. I'm mostly estranged from my immediate family and there's a language barrier for the others. I'm aware they have a Chinese club on campus yet I'm just not really into clubs. Then Social media feels like it's too ax-grindy like FB, Twitter, and Reddit. Language classes would be expensive and I don't really have much money either. It's just so awkward when someone asks me if I speak a second language and I just reply I don't. At the same time, I wonder if it's just a millennial quarter-life crisis to be disconnected from life or even my past. Growing up I was pretty much the only Chinese American in class for years and I would think I'd come to accept it now. I'm in my late 20s now but I'm wondering if I'll always be distant from my heritage due to my own personality and if I'm missing out on anything. Most of my time I'm balancing classes and doctor appointments so I feel like everything I do is just not enough. FWIW: I do suffer from depression/anxiety and I'm under medical care. Finally, I'm wondering if other first-generation Americans feel the same way and how you cope? Am I just not trying hard enough? Thanks.

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I have a little over a pound of Alaskan halibut that has been gifted to me defrosting in my fridge. I need help selecting a recipe/meal, please!I like fish. All fish but not like, frozen fish sticks. I will eat it prepared just about any way. I have access to a charcoal grill (with hardwood charcoal and hickory chips), a gas grill, a cast iron skillet, a stainless steel skillet, a stainless steel Dutch oven, an Instant Pot, an oven, and an electric range. I also have some cedar planks. I have many seasonings and access to like 16 freakin grocery stores within a 5 mile radius. I love rich savory flavors. I am interested in citrus or herbs or shallots/garlic/fennel all of the above. I am a decent cook, and I prepare seafood often - but mostly shellfish and mahi, salmon, swordfish, whiting. But this is my first experience with halibut - I know it's in the flounder family, which great! But I want to do something special with a nice piece of fish. Side dish pairings are also requested; I like stuff that is tasty but reasonably healthy. Oh, and I am not looking for soups or stews at the moment, but if they're specdamntacular, please provide and I can bookmark. Y'all rock.

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I have $200 to spend for wellness related items or experiences by Dec. 31. What's the best bang for my buck?All of this stuff sounds great but I would like ideas on the best ROI. Some things about me: I used this a couple years ago to buy a yearlong membership at a local rec center but didn't go that much I have an Apple Watch I don't exercise as much as I should I am mid-30s, female, generally healthy I have a pretty good handle on my finances and cooking/food I'm willing to spend over $200 if it's worth it Below are the eligible expenses. Thanks for your suggestions. Fitness center, health club, studio and aquatic center membership fees Group exercise class fees Wellness-related class fees Weight management program membership fees Personal training fees Nutrition counseling fees Exercise and sport equipment Multi-purpose wellness tracking devices Mobile Apps Subscription Fees: apps that promote/track wellness, healthy eating, physical fitness, mindfulness (e.g., Headspace), etc. Financial planning services Organized Sport and recreation activity and lesson fees Pet Adoption Athletic Shoes Massage therapy fees Sit-stand desks for home use: Desk risers and desk converters are not a qualified expense

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Hello Mefi, I'm looking for a book that I remember being quite fond of as a small child. I'm hoping you can help where my Google-Fu failed.Here's what I remember: It's a shortish picture book. The whole thing takes place on a small island. There's a wall in the middle with a hole in it. Two monsters live on the island, one on either side of the hole. They're friends, and they speak to each other through the hole. One day, they get mad at each other. They throw rocks and shout insults at each other. One of the insults is "Nincompoop!", which was the /height/ of humor to my 5 year old self. They throw so many rocks that they entirely knock down the wall. They decide to not be mad at each other any more, and now they're friends together on the island. Given my age, the book is around 35 years old. Any leads?

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I just started a new job which requires international and domestic travel, improving my language skills and long hours. I am single and live alone, and have to run a household and want to do all the normal person things like socialise and date outside of work. What are some hacks for getting everything done, especially the necessary washing shopping cooking and cleaning whilst still leaving time to sleep? Note I am on a modest budget but can consider some expensive suggestions anyway.

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Today I learned that Jupiter could have become a star if it were bigger and this fact both terrifies and intrigues me. I would like to learn more about how planets and stars, y'know, work. However, high school algebra and physics were as far as I got in those subjects, they were never my thing, and those classes were a long time ago. Can you recommend some books (or podcasts, but books would be preferable) that explain space stuff for people with only a rudimentary science backgroud? Thank you!

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I'm looking for podcasts about Oregon history, and particularly the little strange bits of history. For example: I like the podcasts from the Montana and Virginia Historical Societys that are recordings of conference speakers talking about very specific things. I like the "Lost Highways" podcast from Colorado. I am NOT looking for two dudes sitting around and talking to each other about beer or what they think about Oregon history, which is most of what I found. Podcasts I would totally listen to would be: history of Japanese-Americans in WW2, particularly those who were inland from the coast // LGBT in the 1970's // how interior Oregon agriculture has changed // Native American history // Shipping // early white settlement failures // wildlife Give me just the podcasts with history facts, well reported.

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I work for my local government. My work is about a hot topic that people have strong feelings (including strong anti-government feelings) about. My personal phone number is probably going to be in some documents that we're turning over in response to a public records request. Should I change my number?i know who the public records requesters are and they are not allies. I wouldn't put it past one of them, in particular, to engage in doxxing or harassment, although if they did it would be pretty clear how they got that information and they'd be held accountable for it. Several other people are in the same boat - we routinely put our phone numbers in calendars when we're telecommuting, let people know how to reach us outside business hours, etc. I don't want to change my phone number because it's an enormous pain. I already don't answer calls when I don't recognize the number. What do you think we should do? What have you done in a comparable situation?

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Are you wishing for a festive yet disturbingly dystopian Christmas tune? Look no further. Musical mashup master Bill McClintock (previously) has just released a mashup of Marilyn and Mariah Carey singing "All I Want For Christmas Is The Beautiful People" (SLYT, NSFW: the usual provocative Marilyn Manson imagery and lyrics)

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Anna Wiener, who files the New Yorker's "Letters from Silicon Valley" explores the five and a half acre rooftop park developed in the shadow of Salesforce Tower, Salesforce park, writing about the juxtaposition of the plants called "dinosaur food" and the tech companies ringing the park. Citylab had covered Salesforce Park previously -- "The Salesforce Transit Center, San Francisco's new bus and (someday) high-speed rail terminal, has been billed as the Grand Central Station of the West. But it might just become the Bay Area's answer to the High Line" -- looking at San Francisco as optimistic about the new bus terminal beneath the park and the park itself. Wiener asks how the park's development reflects the city, writing: Taxpayer-funded, corporately branded, suspended above the homeless, the park is an irresistible metaphor for the city's socioeconomic tensions. It also feels like a bid, or a prayer, for a certain vision of its future. (Wiener also wrote the Personal History, "Four Years in Startups," with delightful asides on scale and homogeneity in tech reflecting scale and homogeneity in tech workers' lives.)

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One of my team members has flown back to India for the holidays and surprise! He's getting engaged in 4 days. He's worked for me for a little over a year, and I've done a lot to mentor his success. As such, he's sent me an engagement invitation. While clearly, my wife and I are not going to be able to attend, what can we do, and or send that would be culturally appropriate at 7500 miles away? - or should I just wait til he gets back despite his fiance still being in India?

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An eccentric group of citizen-scientists called Old Weather has transcribed millions of observations from long-forgotten logbooks of ships, many from the great era of Arctic exploration. As the polar regions grow ever warmer, the volunteers have amassed a rich repository of climate data in a 21st century rescue mission.

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What are some unexpected pitfalls if my primary care doc doesn't participate in my insurance plan?FWIW: *I'm considering MVP plans on the New York exchange (they don't pay out-of-network). *I like my PCP, but she doesn't accept any plans that work for me. I don't see her often, and her charges are reasonable. *Most of my expenses are with specialists, labs, and prescriptions. The plans I'm looking at don't require referrals. *I'm guessing bloodwork and other tests ordered by her would not be covered (even if they're completed by labs that are participants).

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Algorithms that supposedly can tell you it'll rain in 20 minutes are not what I'm looking for. I'd rather glance at high-res radar imagery and make that judgement for myself. Yes, I'd like a good main screen with detailed current conditions and the typical 2-5 day forecast, but I'm especially interested in having access to lots of realtime data packaged in a clean, ad-free design with worldwide functionality. Assuming I'm willing to pay for a quality app on iOS, what would you recommend for someone like me? Wishlist below the fold:High-res radar and a variety of realtime satellite imagery such as visible hi-res (0.5 km), longwave IR, water vapor, etc. Easy access to NWS Area Forecast Discussions [like this] for US locations Good data for non-US locations and functionality worldwide Air-quality info Good privacy policies (weather apps are notorious for selling location data to third parties)

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I have problems: too much unblended powder, dough-like, on blender blades, sides, and cover; wrong ratio of milk to water (to ice) for rich and creamy yet light rather than thick and sludgy. These specifically, plus anything else people can think of. I'm using a 1500-watt NINJA blender, and original Met-Rx powder in single-serve packs. (I've read all the past questions on AskMeta about smoothies, so pls don't link.) thanks

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Groundbreaking NY Poet and performer John Giorno -- creator of Dial-A-Poem (call now: +1-641-793-8122!) and Giorno Poetry Systems, landlord to Wm. S. Burroughs, star of Andy Warhol's Sleep -- died in October, aged 82. Thanx for Nothing. UbuWeb archive Eating the Sky (my favorite of his performances)

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I have an old pair of Sony MDR-ZX770BT wireless headphones. They are- god bless them- falling apart. I'd probably use them til they disintegrate, but my dad has generously offered to replace them with a better model for Hanukkah. Problem is, I have no idea what a better model would be... Hope me metafilter!They'd have to be wireless as I am most likely going to have to upgrade the old iPhone into something without a headphone jack soon. I'd also like it if my dad didn't spend 500 bucks on me so something reasonably priced would be preferable. I do have some minor hearing loss so nothing with ultimate noise cancel or ULTRA BASS that might make the minor hearing loss worse. That being said because I am a tad HOH something with very good sound quality is preferred so that I can appreciate music/podcasts at a lower or lowest possible volume would be best. Over-ear is a must- besides that I'm curious what all of y'all consider the best wireless headphones. Thanks in advance!

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May 1945: An enormous octopus is sighted several times outside of Puerto Vallarta, given the nickname "El Pulpo." American attention is mostly focused on the end of the war in Europe

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Rich Juzwiak Writes for Jezebel: Looking at the raw data of streaming music is enough to expose the conceptual fallacy of "cancel culture." To subscribe to the notion that the public readily exerts its power to defrock a celebrity is to believe in a black-and-white binary, the absolute polarity of good and bad, the neat societal organization of punished and free. The truth is messier. Those who believe in and decry cancel culture also miss a crucial point: In order to enact its power, the public must have the will to do so.

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My 7-year-old niece is OBSESSED with strength/agility obstacle courses like those on American Ninja Warrior. She is constantly building physical challenges for herself at the playground, and running them repeatedly in order to improve her time. She is super strong and LOVES feeling strong. For Christmas, I'd like to gift her with something that lets her do more of that!I considered getting her some sort of backyard slack line/obstacle course kit so she can set up her own courses at home, but there are no large or usefully spaced trees in her yard to make those setups work. Also considered lessons/gift certificate for her local rock climbing gym, but am wary of gifts that make scheduling demands that might be burdensome to my sister and her husband (who already juggle full-time work and the insane extra-curricular schedules of three active children!) Also considered gifting an entry to a kids version of a Spartan Race/Tough Mudder/etc., but have the same reservations re:scheduling, and am also not sure how great the kids version of these races are, nor do they seem to host them in my sister's area (BC, Canada) very frequently....and waiting 6+ months to get to do your gift is a bit of a bummer for a 7-year-old's Christmas morning. There is a "ninja training gym" in a nearby town that caters to kids and seems perfect for this...which is presumably why my sister booked it for the niece's birthday just a few months ago, so that is out. Further complicating factor: I live thousands of miles away, so unfortunately can't take her/accompany her on whatever the experience is. So, what is a great experiential gift I can get for a kid obsessed with monkey bars and obstacle courses and agility challenges and other feats of freakish 7-year-old strength?!

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Looking to improve my quality of life by adding more positive rituals/practices/comforts, rather than changing or getting rid of things. What good things are a value add in your life?I've recently been leaning into the idea of improving my mental/physical health, wellbeing, and daily enjoyment in life by adding positive practices/elements, rather than trying to beat back negative ones. So far, I've found that making more space for good things has been really enjoyable for me, and can have positive outcomes without all the anxiety of focusing on things I should be doing. For example, I've recently been drinking more herbal tea. This has a lot of positive ripple effects-- less caffeine intake, less mindless snacking, a relaxing evening ritual-- but I'm not focusing my mental energy on those benefits. I'm just drinking more tea, because it's nice. Another example is this iPhone app I downloaded that identifies pictures of plants and tells you about them. It encourages me to get outside more and take longer and more varied walks, but mostly it's about appreciating nature. Right now, I'm way more interested in something like this than an app pinging me to walk 10k steps and log more exercise minutes. A few others I've been incorporating lately: lighting candles in the evening, using a meal subscription service, writing in a gratitude journal. What good things have made an improvement in your life? Could be a purchase, service, or practice as long as the spirit is one of abundance rather than limitation.

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The Complicated, Problematic Influence of TripAdvisor Restaurant Reviews [Eater New York]

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Every Movie of the 2010s, Ranked. "Our critics pored over 5,279 of the decade's films. Here's the best, worst, and mehst." [David Edelstein, Alison Willmore, Bilge Ebiri, and Angelica Jade Bastién—Vulture] (And if you just want to skip ahead to the Worst)

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Looking for Christmas gift ideas for future in laws. Challenge, must be able to fit in suitcase and last from US to Philippines.My son's girlfriend is going to see her mom in the Philippines for Christmas. I want to send a gift with her for her mother and her brother. Any ideas of something smallish that I can send with her for a ~40 yo woman and a ~16 yo boy? We have never met them before in person but we care very much for her daughter and want her to know that we think of them as extended family. Open to things that they don't have there, food things (that are OK to take through customs), and more meaningful stuff too. TIA!

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