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My boyfriend, age 29, dropped out of high school and got his GED. He has been taking courses at the local community college and is interested in transferring to the local state university's kinesiology program. Questions inside.BF is good at school and tests well. He took a college prep course load in HS, but dropped out in his last semester due to mental health issues. Fast forward 10+ years, and he has been taking pre-reqs at the community college for a physical therapy/kinesiology track-- he has worked for 3 years as a youth climbing coach and is interested in getting the credentials to continue working in this general area with maybe more of an emphasis on one-on-one coaching and injury recovery. He is the first in his family to take college courses and he is struggling to navigate the system of transfers and requirements. (I am also in over my head, as I just took the honors course load in high school, got a decent financial aid package and went straight to a liberal arts college-- pretty straightforward.) I have some specific questions-- I know these may not be answerable without knowing the specifics, but any guidance is appreciated. We are in the US. -Assessing the competitiveness of programs-- With such a nontraditional background, it's difficult to tell if he'd be a competitive candidate for the kinesiology program that he's looking at. What would be the best way to go about assessing that? Should he try to talk to someone at admissions, or at the department about their admission criteria? -General resources to help him navigate this-- are there any? He tried to schedule an appointment with admissions at the university but didn't hear back. I've encouraged him to schedule an appointment with the transfer office at the community college. Any other places or resources that might be helpful? -Making up requirements from high school. Looking at the local Uni requirements, the only things he thinks he doesn't have are all 4 units of English (he has 3.5 years from HS, but has taken an intro composition course at the community college-- would that work for this potentially?) and 2 units of a foreign language (he has 1.5 of Latin, and could likely also pass an exam for Spanish due to out-of-school studying-- is testing out a thing that could potentially be an option?) If he needs to take classes to make these up, is the best route to just make these up at the CC? I also welcome any other thoughts on going to college late in the game or on PT/kinesiology education/career paths. Thank you!

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Let's say I have to give a lecture and my career depends on this, for reals. It has to be not just good enough, but fabulous. Let's say further I may not get much notice on the topic and audience or date. I would like to hire whatever the public-speaking equivalent is of a cross between a ghost-writer, an editor, and a coach. I cannot be visibly hiring such a person (i.e. I can't just post on craigslist or something). How do I find and hire this person? How much might it cost?Given the stakes, I am willing to invest here, obviously. The topic will be academic and the talk (unlike a TED talk) would ideally engage the audience. That is, even though I said lecture, there should be some kind of participation. It needs to be content-ful and accurate but also engage people completely. Yes, I know this sounds dramatic, but my situation is different from that of most people in a nominally-similar situation and the difference between "a great talk" and "OMG that was AMAZING" really could mean losing or keeping my job. I am not looking to read about public speaking or go to toastmasters or such. I do not have a public speaking phobia. I am a decent public speaker. Obviously this person must be willing to work anonymously, to never list me on their resume, to not expect a blurb or recommendation from me, etc.

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"The oldest known surviving film made by an African-American director, Within Our Gates is a searing account of the US racial situation during the early twentieth century, including the years of Jim Crow, the revival of the Ku Klux Klan, the Great Migration of Southern blacks to cities in the North, and the emergence of the "New Negro". Directed by Oscar Micheaux, the film is one of the earliest and finest examples in the genre of "race films". Produced outside the main Hollywood machine, these films were purposefully made for an all-black audience, featured black actors, and became important arenas through which representations of African-Americans in mass culture were contested." (Within Our Gates YouTube) - Industrious African-American filmmaker Oscar Micheaux designed a cunning film that is in so many ways an inversion of The Birth of a Nation. Where Griffith simplifies history, Within Our Gates complicates it. - This movie is very much the antithesis of Birth. The black characters are given a depth and humanity that would have been denied them in standard Hollywood productions. Sylvia in particular is amazing considering the period: she is a female character who manages to be independent and intelligent, - Restored 'Race Films' Find New Audiences (NPR)

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i do not have a boyfriend so I made one out of boxes of wine. i took my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine to his first #pride and he loved it. BIG ANNOUNCEMENT my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine and i are moving in 2gether. my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine took me to the garden and surprised me...guys i said YES!!! A love story from Mike Schneider of BLKSMTHdesign, told via twitter. Other adventures with the boyfriend made out of boxes of wine: my #boyfriend i made out of boxes of #wine and i decided to become social media #influencers this week staying fit 2gether is so important to me and my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine omg my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine surprised me with a trip to nyc i am so happy something is wrong between me and my boyfriend i made out of boxes of wine please respect r privacy at this time

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Do you have a problem? Do you want a book to help you solve it? Book Therapist is Rosalie Knecht, LMSW, a licensed therapist and author of the novels Relief Map and Who is Vera Kelly? (Tin House, June 2018). She will be taking questions monthly for Lit Hub at [email protected] See also: Book Therapist columns for April, May, June.

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I am not kidding at all. [REALLY, REALLY NOISY] LAST ONE WAS CHEATING IMO

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What Happens to #MeToo When a Feminist Is the Accused? After a year long Title IX investigation, NYU Philosophy professor suspended Avitall Ronnell for the coming academic year for sexually harassing a male graduate student. A number of feminist scholars, including Judith Butler, have announced their support for Professor Ronell in a letter. The letter cites the "international standing and reputation" of Professor Ronell, and accused the victim of waging "a malicious campaign against her." Zizek also signed the letter. An 11-month Title IX investigation found Professor Ronell, described by a colleague as "one of the very few philosopher-stars of this world," responsible for sexual harassment, both physical and verbal, to the extent that her behavior was "sufficiently pervasive to alter the terms and conditions of Mr. Reitman's learning environment." The university has suspended Professor Ronell for the coming academic year. Gothamist writeup here. Brian Leiter's blog post, with a link to the letter. Chronicle coverage. Zizek's Zizekian explanation.

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Seeking women's soft fitted T-shirts, but I am picky. Details below.I am looking for simple soft plain shirts that are longer and fitted, but not skin tight. They should be at least 26 inches, longer is better. I know that 23 inches is too short. Not looking for; *Polyester blends, polyester anything. *Ribbed anything. Not even the kind that has very small ribbing, which I've observed can be found on thicker cotton shirts. They lose their shape too quickly. *Spandex only in small quantities, preferably not at all, but if a shirt is of good material overall, I can sometimes make it work. *Crew necks or small v-necks. Am looking for: *Cotton first, then modal. Silk if it is affordable. Rayon blends sometimes work. Viscose... meh. *Solid colors only. Can be heathered, but no actual prints. *Either short sleeved or tank tops, or spaghetti tops provided they aren't the kind that are cut so low in the back that the bra is exposed. Racer backs... maaaaaybe. *Repeat: not skin tight. "Fitted" may not be the right word, it just comes closest to what I am thinking of. I do not want your standard boxy tee with no shape; neither do I want to have to feel self-concious about belly bloat. In short, soft T-shirts that can go with any outfit. I have looked all over Amazon and other places. The closest I ever found were the cheapie T-shirts from Wal-Mart for Juniors, which at least are the right length and shape, and fit okay, so long as I size way up. But they are just $3.00 shirts and pill very quickly. I don't want to go into cost other than to say I am on a budget, but would be willing to pay more for the right product. Thanks.

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I am looking at making a major international trip in about two and a half months' time. Despite my best efforts, I am really stressing out about how I will deal with my various chronic pain issues, especially since I know that the trip will be mentally and emotionally taxing as well and I will not have a lot of ability to deal well with pain. What can I do? Blizzards inside.I have osteoarthritis in my knees and plantar fasciitis in my feet. My core strength is almost non-existent, so I have sporadic lower back pain as well. Standing/walking pretty much always hurts; I have trouble doing so continuously for anything over 5 minutes. (I also have other neck/shoulder/elbow pain, constant and mysterious abdominal cramping, and am prone to headaches that make me acutely noise-, smell- and light-sensitive, but I am less concerned about those aspects because they don't directly affect my mobility.) I'm in Australia, I'll be flying to the US (Melbourne - Sydney - Dallas - Pensacola, so a nice short hop). I'll have time in Florida, then fly up to NY, assorted road trips, back to Florida, then back to Oz (Pensacola - Dallas - San Francisco - Melbourne). I am not worried so much about the flights, which will be tedious and uncomfortable, but I know what to expect. I am worried about the airports. I know that I can ask for assistance getting from check-in to the gate on one of those little electric cart thingies, but there's all the standing around in very long queues as you clear customs, go through security theatre to test for gunshot residue and have to take off your shoes (that part is easy, less so is putting them on again later), all that kind of thing. I cannot stand in long queues. My knees lock and then painfully, crunchingly unlock each time I have to shuffle forward three steps. My lower back aches and throbs and before long roars in agony. But the other people in the queue are unlikely to say, why sure, you go straight to the front of the queue, we don't mind. And the sources of my pain are not visible and obvious - there's no cast or crutches or anything that shows I can't do this without massive pain. Even when I get to my destinations, the worries do not stop. I know for sure that there will be lots of stairs to cope with. I can do stairs in small doses (slowly, one at a time, clutching a handrail) but there are lots and there isn't always something to hold on to. Plus, I will be seeing people who have not seen me with this little mobility before and I am scared and ashamed to admit that I will not be able to do things we have previously enjoyed doing (visiting museums and other places in NYC, walking numerous blocks, riding the subway standing up). I walk incredibly slowly. I will have trouble just walking down to the shop on the corner to pick up milk if we run out. I can't do anything about the osteoarthritis, although I have been doing short stints on the exercise bike every day for the past three and a half months to help build strength in my knees, increase overall fitness, etc. It hasn't been a bad thing to do, and I am pleased I have stuck to it, but I absolutely still have pain. I've increasingly become aware that my core strength is definitely something I need to work on, but beyond a few exercises meant to encourage ab-strengthening haven't been sure how to do this. I am getting to the point where I am seriously wondering whether I should cancel my trip before it's too late because I just can't think how I will be able to cope with everything. I know you are not my doctor, physiotherapist, myotherapist or psychologist; nor can any of you make my decision for me. But I am increasingly feeling like there is nothing I can do except look forward to more pain and even less mobility so travel is right out. I really need some hope and to feel like I can actually still do things, but I don't know what I can do to make this happen. Alternatively, if it just sounds like I would be better off cancelling the trip and I am just in denial, please, tell me. Also I know that there will be suggestions to get a cane (have one, doesn't help) or a walker/rollator with a seat (I have looked them up and have not been able to find one that will accommodate both my enormously wide hips and similarly massive weight) and go swimming (no, no and more no) so please bear in mind that I have thought of these things already.

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According to the New York Times (and the curator of an exhibition of her work), Donna Gottschalk is the most famous lesbian photographer you've never heard of (NYT Link) Brave, Beautiful Outlaws opens August 29th at the Leslie-Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art & features photos that Gottschalk took of herself and other important figures in her life. I am your worst fear / I am your best fantasy Self-portrait in Maine Donna and Joan

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How do I get through a photoshoot when I don't like having my photo taken?I have a photographer friend who really wants to bring me in to his studio for a photoshoot. I've turned everyone down who's wanted to take my photo on a professional level away, as I'm super camera shy. People tell me I'm photogenic, but most of those people have never seen a photo of me, as I tend to jump or run away from the camera. I'm doing this as a favor to said friend, as he's great, I have the time free, and want to face my camera phobia. He's taking shots of musicians the day after and I only agreed to this to help him set up and figure out angles and test shots for that. Because it's so last minute (tomorrow), I have no idea what to wear, how to stand, what to do with my face- you get the idea. So, help a lady out... if you're a photographer or have done a photoshoot before, any tips for face/body shots or general helpful things I should think about?

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So I got into a small fender bender with my rental car. I'm scheduled to return it tomorrow. What do I need to know?Prima facia, I believe I am not at fault. I had just parked the car (in a lot). I opened my door and the other car pulling in the spot next to me hit my car door with his side mirror. We talked briefly and took photos of each other's driver license and I took a photo of his license plate. I did not get extra insurance for the rental I do have insurance for my own cars. The accident took place in a state that is not my state of residence.

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I will be arriving in Portland, Oregon late at night and I want to take a shuttle to Eugene as soon as I get out. Do I need to book in advance, or can I just get a seat/ticket at the airport?

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I just a whole 8.5 oz bag of Chex Mix without noticing.I was tired and spaced out and ate handfuls and then it was gone. This is after a normal day of eating real food. I do have health issues already -- easily upset digestive system and am not supposed to eat a lot of sodium because of kidney function issues. So... I know I should not have eaten this bag. But how weird is this? I have always struggled with intermittent bingeing but I don't normally eat this kind of snack because of healthy/dietary restrictions. Am I going to feel really ill?

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Hello MeFites, I'm enrolled in a paralegal program, which puts me back in schools for the first time in over two decades. I'm getting excellent information on the latest brain science for learning, but I'm not sure how to manage two courses.I know that assignments and tests will guide some of how I use my study time, but otherwise, I'm not sure what the best method is for reading the material for both courses. Should I alternate nights or do some reading for each class every night? If it helps, one class meets weekly for three hours and the other class is entirely online. Please that I'm not asking for specific tips how to learn, but how to maximize my time with two courses. Thank you.

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O Bender and I will be heading on a trip to Spokane and Heyburn Lake State Park in a few weeks. We are leaving from Olympia on Monday 8/27 hopefully taking the scenic route. We are staying two nights in Spokane then staying at a Cabin at Heyburn SP. I'd love ideas for route and things to see along the way, things to do (neat hikes, cultural events, shopping, neighborhoods to wander through etc...) & restaurants to eat at while we are in Spokane, d Coeur d'Alene & closer to Heyburn.

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I booked inexpensive impulse tickets to Paris for 10 days next May. It turns out we don't really like big city vacations that much. Instead of staying in Paris, I would like to spend our vacation in a smallish European town where we can walk, ride bikes, go to the same cafe every morning for breakfast, look at beautiful things/scenery, etc. What small town/home base within a day's train ride of Paris do you recommend?My main goals for this town are that it is: -easily accessed from Paris (by train) -navigable on foot/bike/public transport (not renting a car) -full of architectural/visual/natural/historical beauty & wonder -on the smaller side, with enough to do that we don't feel bored within a day but not so crowded and full of options that we're exhausted by the end. We are interested in: walking, visiting museums, shopping (me), eating (vegetarian/vegan), looking out over beautiful vistas, hiking/cycling/swimming/exploring, learning about stuff, people-watching, cafes. From my cursory research it looks like maybe Montpellier would be a good fit? Thank you for any specific recommendations you have, search terms I should be using, or past similar questions that might have good ideas! I've looked online but it's so overwhelming I had to stop!

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Anna Coleman Ladd, a sculptor, made lifelike masks for soldiers of WW I. World War I caused the death of millions of combatants and civilians, while countless soldiers suffered from injury and disfigurement. Perhaps the most disheartening were facial injuries, as soldiers had to not only deal with the physical loss, but also the constant psychological stress of wondering how people would react to their changed appearance.

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In a few months I'd like to get a second dog, but my current dog is rather finicky. Trying to think this through.So my 6 year old dog, Rooney, is a female terrier mix, 30 lbs, and kind of neurotic. She can be shy and fearful though she ultimately loves all people. She gets an anxiety pill every day, which helps, but I'm not sure she's happy. She lives for human attention and snuggling and I work a normal 9-to-5. I would like to get a second dog to be a companion for her, and because I love dogs too of course. But here's the issue. Rooney doesn't really like other dogs. At least, she is very scared of them when she first meets them, and she goes into flight or fight mode. As in, if she can ignore them or get away, she will, but she interprets normal dog behavior as a threat when it's coming from new/strange dogs. Then she does a very panicked scream/growl/bark and her body gets all tense. I'm not sure if she would actually bite or not because I've never let her get into a situation where she could. There are some exceptions. When I got her as a puppy, we lived with another (smaller, male) dog, and they got along well, even though that dog was kind of a dick. My sister has a french bulldog (smaller, male) who doesn't seem to set off her fear at all, although she is still a little touchy about him getting on "her" couch or taking up too much attention from the humans. And some days we will go to the farmer's market or whatever and she will be curiously sniffing the other dogs and slowly wagging her tail. I do think she WANTS to be with other dogs but she's afraid. Okay, this is getting long. I am very willing to have a long, cautious introduction. Like over a couple weeks, gradually letting her get used to the new dog. And I have some tips and tricks from a rescue agency for introducing two dogs. So assume I will do my very best to keep both dogs safe and happy. On to the question: 1. Dog breeds. I'll be adopting, so obviously I won't be getting a purebred, but if anyone has some recommendations for breeds that tend to be medium-sized (or a little smaller), patient, gentle, calm, etc, I'd appreciate it. 2. Age. Originally I was thinking I would get an adult dog, so I could tell if its personality would be a match with Rooney and my household in general. But, since she does better with smaller dogs, I was wondering if a puppy would be a better choice and feel less threatening to her. She might not even perceive it as a dog if it was small enough. Plus, puppies are so resilient and joyful, I feel like they would be less likely to be like "Okay bitch, what is your problem?!" On the other hand, I don't want the puppy's psyche to be affected by Rooney's attitude. Thoughts? Opinions? Anyone else had a problem like this and what did you do? Thanks all

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Based on the 2017 US Census Bureau Population Estimates, Overflow Data compiled this handy chart to answer the question above. You can sort the columns, and even break up each generation into smaller age ranges. Once you ungroup any generation, you can regroup them by selecting the age ranges and click group (the little icon that looks like an paperclip), but you'll lose the labeling. You can group any age ranges together like this for more analysis. At the bottom of the graph you can also reset the graph and undo or redo. There's quite a few things you can do if you want to mess around with it.

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There was a lot of excitement among LGBTQ people when Batwoman--in the modern incarnation, a Jewish lesbian who takes up crimefighting after she's kicked out of West Point during the Don't Ask, Don't Tell era--was announced to appear in the CW's "Arrowverse", which features a number of DC Comics characters. There was even more excitement when Ruby Rose (Orange is the New Black,John Wick: Chapter 2, The Meg) was cast. And then came the backlash. Numerous tweets using the #RecastBatwoman tag said, variously, that Rose wasn't a good enough actress, had outed someone without their permission, and, although a lesbian, wasn't specifically a Jewish lesbian. Many in Twitter pointed to Ashley Platz, an actress and yoga instructor, as an alternative casting choice, even though Platz herself tweeted in support of Rose (as did Stephen Amell and Batwoman co-creator Greg Rucka). Rose herself has left Twitter.

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I read the Wee Free Men for the first time, and I'm delighted! Now I want a soundtrack to go with the wee scunners. What songs remind you of the Feegles?What I'm looking for is Scottish, anarchic and, above all, fun. (Assume I know nothing.) Thank you!

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What can parents do to better prepare a highschool senior for college?My oldest son is in his last year of highschool. My husband and I are hardly helicopter parents but we have been there to remind, make lunches, do laundry, and even make sure our kids are up in the morning when they sleep through alarms. I know— we should let them sleep through the alarm. Easier said than done. Highschool senior son makes good grades, has a fast food job, has a gym membership that he uses regularly, has his group of friends, and drives. He loves fast food and eats a lot of Taco Bell and Wendy's. He plans on attending a state university. While away at college I'm afraid he's not going to clean his toilet, live in filth, eat fast food for every meal, and sleep all day. I know he will live and learn but I'm looking for grow-up-fast strategies and ways to help him this year so he'll cope well and succeed in his college years. Kind of like "you're an adult now" bootcamp. Most of the time he doesn't want or need our help. I know we were supposed to be preparing him since birth to leave the nest but what if we only have a year? Any advice appreciated— financial, emotional, practical. Thank you.

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You've seen rankings of superhero movies, of Netflix originals, of various Hollywood Chrises. But there's one ranking you haven't seen: CAPES. The 60 Greatest Capes in Movie History.

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looking for well-written, compelling books about historical womenSome non-fiction can be written in a dry academic fashion. Then there's the fun stuff, like Bill Bryson, and the "this reads like a well done novel", like Bruce Catton. I'm looking for more stuff like those, easy or gripping reads-- but I'm specifically looking for books about historical women (historical = let's say no later than 1950, and earlier than that is better). Can be specific women, can be groups of women, can be women as a whole at a specific place/time. If book isn't exclusively about woman/en but features them very prominently (like, say, a married couple with each half getting equal screentime) that's okay also.

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