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Through an online contest, six fans are selected to film Dinosaur Jr. performing Bug in its entirety at the 9:30 Club in Washington DC, June 2011. Experience the fans' joy as they witness a classic performance and meet their heroes face to face in an exclusive interview with the band. Under the direction of Dave Markey (The Year Punk Broke), In the Hands of the Fans brings the fans closer to the band and the music closer to you. Includes bonus footage of Henry Rollins speaking candidly to Markey about the the band, and interviewing them on stage before the show. Single link Youstoobe so well recorded.

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I'm a 23 year old trans woman who lives with my religious parents, deeply closeted. I need to move out as soon as I can, and I think I'm figuring all that stuff out okay... I just don't know how to get myself to actually do it. And I don't know how to approach my parents about any of this. I know I am going to hurt them and I know they've given me no choice, but I'm still feeling a lot of guilt over it. Convince me I'm doing the right thing :/They are not abusive or even especially restrictive or preachy, which has been surprising. For Jehovahs Witnesses they have been open-minded and permissive. I've mentioned my desire to move out sometime soonish, but kept things very vague. All they've said is they don't want me to rush and be destitute. I think they've come to terms with my lack of interest in their religion (they've said just about as much, and said they aren't kicking me out and I would always be welcome back). They have implied they know I want to move out to escape their religion, which is partly true and I haven't really denied it. They probably see me as the prodigal son. We have actually gotten along fairly well recently. Better than any other time in my life. I am legitimately not angry at them; I just know I need to move on. So I know it will be a huge shock to them. They've been so accommodating of me and given me so much, but I know they won't accept my gender or my sexuality. I still hate to hurt them. It's also really difficult because there's every possibility I will never see them again. And they've made my life really hard in some ways but I still love them and would miss them so much. So my question is really how to do it. I know I should line everything up and move my stuff out so I can escape quickly, but I would have to do it in one day within five hours while they are at work. I have a few difficult decisions: Leave a letter and disappear, or have the toughest conversation of my life then move out? Come out as trans or not? Leave open the possibility of contact or disconnect completely? (I have already decided I won't tell them where I am moving). I feel like I owe them an explanation of why I'm doing this. I'm leaning toward the conversation and coming out as trans while enforcing no-contact for at least a few months. But that just takes it from 10 to 11 in difficulty. I also don't know how to process this emotionally. I'm sitting in the aisle of a Target crying while writing this, just imagining the conversation. I've been listening to "She's leaving home" and bawling, especially at the parents' lines. Please convince me I'm doing the right thing :/

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Why can't I get over my artwork being ignored?I've been pursuing having a "career" in cartooning and independent underground comics and graphic novels. "Career" as in, something that I love doing and that I'll never stop. I really enjoy making comics and I have a taste for the underground scene. Eventually I would love to have my work be published (fantagraphics). I see a lot of great work out there and a lot of it resonates with me. I feel like it's a world I want to be a part of and a real community I want to be in. But I've been having a real hard time connecting with others. I've met other artists (through work) who enjoy the same type of work. And they were jerks. i was completely engrossed in their work and interested but they were the complete opposite. I feel like a lot of artists I meet who share similar tastes act very elitist to me. It's kind of depressing. Should I care so much? I guess you could say the art I enjoy can be called very "hipster" and it's all very modern and beautiful. I post all of my work on social media and I've received praise from kind strangers. Yet I feel I haven't impressed the more well known artists. Ones around my age who are more successful. I don't want it to seem like I'm chasing fame but it's more like being accepted. Having my work accepted. But the thought that my work isn't good enough to impress fellow artists crushes me. It even makes me reconsider doing art. And it's all I've got. Am I trying to please too much? (I normally have better sentence structure and grammar so I apologize)

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I am a born-and-raised meat eater looking to cook up some tasty vegan meals. Difficulty: tofu/tempeh/fake-meats of various varieties freak me out.My boyfriend is vegan, & I'd like to expand my arsenal of meals I can cook for the two of us that don't squick me out. Examples of very successful meals: These portobello fajitas; this cashew cream pasta; and this kale and leek soup. Thanks!

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Can someone explain this comic strip to me?I don't read the strip on a regular basis, just happened to pick up the comics section while in a cafe, and I am puzzled by this one-panel comic.

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Along in the late 1970s when I was in grammar school, we watched a film in class that had a catchy tune about "Mecology" -- the idea being that ecology is relevant to you and "me." What was this film? (Could it have had something to do with being on a spaceship, or is my memory playing tricks on me?)Along in the late 1970s when I was in grammar school, we watched a film in class that had a catchy tune about "Mecology" -- the idea being that ecology is relevant to you and "me." What was this film? (Could it have had something to do with being on a spaceship, or is my memory playing tricks on me?)

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The last time this question was asked was back in 2009, so just wanted to see if anyone had any advice or recommendations for getting a super old LJ printed into some sort of keepsake book.I had a LiveJournal through most of high school and I would like to make sure, god knows why, my angsty emo teen scribbling is preserved somehow. I saw this older question that recommended using a service called LJbook, but LJbook has been replaced with another service called BlogBooker. It looks like you then upload these PDFs to Lulu.com to actually print out as a book. Just curious if anyone had any advice on whether this is still the best way to go for this kind of project. Ideally the service makes it easy to print all of the hundreds of entries and comments into some sort of pretty, readable, holdable physical format. I don't mind paying cash money, particularly for something that will look nice. It would be neat to be able to keep some of the formatting from the posts (images, the little mood and music dealies), but that's not required. Also, curious if anyone has any general advice on digital preservation for this kind of thing. Seems like you can't really beat old fashioned paper.

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I am watching Chef's Table. I love good food and dream to go to Massimo Bottura's restaurant some day... some day. Until then I am hoping to find some place in Boston that has a chef that loves food as much as him! It's for a birthday celebration but doesn't need to be fancy or amazing service or anything - just terrific, inventive food. Do I have to go to New York or is there something here in Massachusetts?

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I'm in the midst of a job search. I have an interview with Company A scheduled early the week after next. I have a final phone interview (i.e. the round before an in person interview) with Company B scheduled late next week. (There are also Companies C and D, much earlier in the process.) Do I tell B that they're potentially going to run into a time crunch? What do I say?These are tech jobs. I work as a sort of data scientist/developer hybrid and these are the jobs I'm looking at. I have some doubts about my fit with the position at Company A, but I'm optimistic enough that I agreed to the interview. Thus far, the position at Company B sounds very much like what I'm looking for. I'm worried I'll end up with an offer from Company A and need to give them an answer before Company B's process finishes. (I'm in a position where I can say no to A if I don't think it's a good fit without another offer in hand. But it's conceivable that A could be good and B could be better.)

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I have a ginormous Rosemary bush which I need to trim back to manageable amounts (at the moment it covers our path, which is obviously not ideal). I like Rosemary with lamb, but theres limited variations on that. Are there any recipes where Rosemary might not be the obvious thing to use? Does it freeze? Any other non-obvious uses? I've offered it to neighbours but it doesnt seem to be a thing amongst my mainly Asian/Afro-Carribean neighbours, but if there's a way of giving it away I'm all for it!

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Women and shoppers-in-women's clothes of Metafilter, I have been gladdened by the appearance this summer of women's denim shorts with actual inseams! But I've only seen them in the wild, and haven't found any in stores. If you've bought some can you tell me where? Criteria inside.Necessary: * Inseam betweeh 3 and 5 inches (not bermuda shorts) * Blue Denim, not super shredded or holey * Available in women's size 0-4 or 25-28 * $100 or less I've already looked at the websites for Asos, Jcrew, Madewell, Nordstrom. Thanks!

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I am thinking about replacing and refreshing a lot of things in my home, and I would really like to start my research with an eye towards ease of keeping stuff clean. What kind of product features, materials, etc. do you find make them easier to clean (and keep clean) than other products in the same category?I'd like to cast a wide net with this question, but here are some things I've noticed that are examples of what I'm looking for: The (glossy) paint in my bathroom is much easier to wipe clean than the (matte) paint in my living room, which tends to stain more easily. Products with removable parts (toaster oven racks, fridge drawers) are easier to clean than those without. Sofas are easier to clean when they have removable, washable cushion covers. Other: I have two cats so fur and hairballs are issues. No kids but I do have kid guests sometimes. Thank you!

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I wasn't honest with my partner for several months about my feelings for her. She told me weeks ago that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I did not feel the same way, and to avoid hurting her feelings I didn't tell her. When I did tell her two days ago, instead of being happy, she felt I betrayed her trust. It really hurt her to learn that I was hiding my feelings. She says she can't be sure I won't continue to hide my feelings from her. How do I rebuild her trust?Apologies in advance for the length. The text above is basically my TLDR, continue reading if you want (a lot!) of detail. Biographical info I'm 26 year old man, working as a freelance designer. She's a 24 year old woman, about to enter a doctorate program in September. We've been dating for 8 months. We met online. At the time we lived in different cities. In April I moved three hours away to be with her for the summer. And just last week I moved with her to the city where she's going to school this fall, on the other side of the country. This is my first relationship, technically. I think I've been doing really well, even though I don't have much experience. I'm very introverted, sensitive, and I have difficulty making new friends. There are a lot of reasons why this is the first relationship I've been in. I was brought up in a deeply religious household, and I was also home schooled. So, I did not receive the same sort of socialization most children get. Although I can maintain the appearance of being an outgoing person, I have fairly serious social anxiety. I'm also sorta choosy when it comes to my relationships. I've gone on dates with people for years, but never met anyone who I felt was right for me. While I have nothing against promiscuous relationships, I never felt comfortable hooking up. She's an extremely intelligent, loving person. She grew up in a conservative, religious household as well. We both studied art and design on college; she double-majored in design and psychology. We share political perspectives that are left of center--she's a left-liberal intersectional feminist, I'm a communist. She started dating later than most people too, around 21. I haven't really talked to her about her previous relationships, but I have picked up a little information here and there. She has told me she carries an insecurity from her past partners that she will always love her partners more than they love her. She's been broken up with more than once because her partners told her they had no romantic feelings for her. She has told me that I'm the first person she was ever able to tell that she loved. Balance She has a very particular relationship philosophy. She emphasizes "equality" in all aspects of the relationship. She does little everyday things like paying for her own meals, opening doors for me, etc. One of our recurring relationship issues is the "balance" of equality, the give-and-take of the relationship. She is very attentive to how much she's "giving" to me: how often she shares her food with me, how frequently she cooks meals for me, how many times she's planned activities for us versus how often times I have planned for us. She's very focused on gestures of affection: symbolic gifts, long letters, and thoughtful actions, and wants me to reciprocate in the same manner. This focus on equality is a very liberal way of understanding healthy relationships. I don't mean that to sound like it's not a valuable way of creating relationships. It's my understanding that she approaches romantic relationships in this way to protect herself from being used by her partner. For her, the emphasis on equality and reciprocity between us is to keep our relationship from descending into a patriarchal arrangement where she does most of the caring and I just glide along, using her love. However, this idea of equality is basically a metaphor which comes from capitalist economics, where a market-exchange ethos is used as the guiding ideal for the relationship. Two individuals entering into a consensual relationship based on mutual interests. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours, essentially. Let me be clear, I think this sort of politicization of our relationship is good! I absolutely do not want to reproduce patriarchal social relations in my romantic life. One of the reasons I'm with her is because we share that desire. But I am uncomfortable with the way she practices her politics in our relationship. It seems very transactional and inflexible; her approach is unable to fully incorporate the unique needs we have as individuals with different experiences and the qualitatively different ways people show love to one another. I have talked about this before with her, stressing the inflexibility of her relationship philosophy. She understands my perspective, but hasn't changed hers (and I haven't asked her to). I believe equality and reciprocity are good starting points, but that we must go beyond both to reach a full understanding each other's experiences, and therefore know each other's unique abilities and needs. The problem Ok, that's more than enough background information. So, repeatedly over the course of our relationship--I'd say every three weeks or so--we will run into a rough spot. The triggering events are all different, but fundamentally they all relate the same issue. She feels like I'm taking more than she's giving, and believes this is because I care about her less than she cares about me. It's eerie sometimes how good she is at anticipating my needs. However, I have trouble knowing what she needs without her stopping to tell me clearly and directly. We have talked about this disconnect, and she has given me things I can do regularly which will make her feel cared for--and they're mostly things she does for me. They're all gestures of affection like sending letters and planning fun activities. Ordering vegetarian dishes so she can try my food, texting her first, surprising her with thoughtful gifts. I have listened to these requests, and changed accordingly. I'm more than happy to, I want to show my love to her. But, even though I improve in the areas where she makes her requests, she has a multitude of other needs which I fail to meet. This is because she can't predict the need herself, or in the moment she isn't able to ask me for something because she feels uncomfortable. She expects me to sense her needs and step in without her asking for my help directly. To her, this is a sign of conscientiousness--if I have her on my mind, and truly care about her, I would be able to care for these needs which she isn't able to express to me in the moment, whatever the reason. She collects these opportunities I miss and every three weeks or so, brings them to me. Usually, she'll get really quiet and push me away, making me bother her until she tells me what's on her mind. Then she'll talk about the balance of giving and taking between us and name all the times in the last few weeks I failed to take into account her needs. I will listen, apologize, and tell her I will try to do better. After these conversations I usually write down the needs which she tells me I've missed, in order to understand her better and perhaps arrive at a place where I can anticipate the ways in which I can support her. I believe I have been doing better. But I am still unable to predict what she wants me to do much of the time. This finally brings me to the incident that is causing us a lot of emotional pain, and could be the beginning of the end of our relationship. This Friday, I said some stuff which caused her to totally lose trust in me. We had another tough talk during which she expressed that she still feels an imbalance and that she still feels like she's giving too much. She told me I was just more self-centered than her, and that she can't go on feeling like she's caring more for me than I'm caring for her. I proposed, for the first time, that we come up with a plan, a communication system of mutually agreed upon guidelines--a sort of relationship machinery--which, once set in motion, could rectify the feelings of imbalance. I think she liked that idea. She admitted it was unfair of her to expect me to divine her needs, and said that, because of past experiences with bad partners, she has learned to hide them. She said I have to coax her needs out of her. I do not like this, but I believed that, with the right system of communication, I could come to recognize what she wants even if it takes a little prying. As we neared the end of our talk, I told her that she was the love of my life. This is something she told me a couple months ago. It really was an incredible moment when she told me. The meaning of that statement is of such a huge magnitude. I had spent my life looking for someone I could be with forever, and here was my girlfriend, telling me she wanted just that. However, twoish months ago, I still had some doubts about our relationship. Because this is essentially my first romantic relationship, I have had trouble interpreting and trusting my feelings. I was also concerned that she didn't believe I loved her as much as she loved me. I felt confident that I loved her, but worried that I wasn't feeling the Real Thing, and also that this person might not be right for me because we seemed to be running difficult times very often. So, when she first told me I was the love of her life, I did not reciprocate. I just told her how much that meant to me and how happy I was to be with her. I felt like eventually I would reach that place where I could tell her she was the love of my life, so I held off telling her. I finally felt ready Friday night, so when we were embracing after our talk I told her that she was the love of my life. This would have been fine by itself, I think, but then I went on to say that I was happy to finally be able to tell her that I wanted to be with her forever. She was shocked to learn I still had doubts as recently as a couple weeks ago. What I thought would be a happy moment quickly devolved. Essentially, she thought we had always been in the same place, that we both wanted to be together forever, and hearing that I really wasn't sure of that until quite recently really hurt her. She told me I was dishonest for hiding my feelings from her. I think she's right. It was wrong of me to hide my feelings. But I didn't realize I made a mistake until I saw her reaction. I thought she would be happy that we're in the same place, regardless of how I felt in the past. I now realize we should have been walking that journey together. I let her assume what she wanted while I worked things out on my own. That was dishonest. We've spent most of this weekend apart. She told me she needs her space to feel hurt. She called me yesterday, Saturday night, to talk. She had texted me earlier in the day to tell me she forgives me for my mistake, but over the phone she told me that, actually, she decided she couldn't forgive me. She also said she didn't see a way to fix what I had done to our relationship. I had taken advantage of her trust, and there was no way I could make it up to her. She told me she didn't want to see me for a while. She said she had given too much to me already and if I wanted to be with her in the future, she would have to withhold her care, and the burden of fixing the imbalance would be on me. I felt really desperate hearing all this. This Sunday morning I asked her to talk about the future of our relationship. I wanted to talk more about what she had said to me the previous night, as well as make some suggestions for how we can repair our relationship--how we can rectify the imbalance and rebuild trust. She did not want to expand on what she had said the previous night, and listened to my suggestions quietly. I believe I probably met with her too soon. She wasn't ready to hear what I had to say. After an hour or so, she told me she wanted me to leave and said she didn't want me to ask her any more questions. I left, and then a half an hour or so later she called me to tell me she was angry with me for not respecting her boundaries. I understand where she was coming from, apologized for asking her to meet so soon, and asked her how I could best respect her boundaries. She asked that we spend some time apart while she figures things out. She doesn't want me to talk to her or meet with her, but the occasional text message update is fine. She's not breaking up with me, but doesn't want me to be around. This is where we're at today. What do I do? I really love her and would like to see our relationship succeed. I remain optimistic about our future. I know most/all couples go through hard times like these. We're still learning how to be with one another. She is not optimistic. Over the phone today, she told me that she felt like she couldn't be with me because she's given too much, and also that she can't trust that I won't mislead her about my feelings again. She doesn't think I can change. We haven't officially broken up yet, but I fear that during this time apart she will come to view that as her best option. Does all this read like the growing pains of a new relationship? Is this issue of balance something couples struggle with often? How would I fix it? Does our relationship seem healthy, despite the difficulties I've described? I don't know how to save the relationship. She has to work with me to save it, and right now she's telling me that she is not able to give anything to me. I will give her time to figure things out. In the meantime, I'd like to reflect on our relationship and come up with a way to make things work. I think I can. Is my optimism misplaced? I know this post is very long and perhaps self-indulgent, so thank you for reading.

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I'm wondering where department stores get things like the books they use as incidental decorations in e.g. the furniture section.Genesis of my question is that I happened to be in my local mall department store and to kill time, picked up a book to thumb through. It happened to be a book of RC canon law with stamps from a monastery in Spain. I'm interested in how the book made it to the middle of the US. I'm asking about Macy's (North America) specifically, and have dug around a bit on the corporate site but not seeing anything superbly apposite to my query (the Macy's Merchandising Group apparently works with product lines). Does anyone have good ideas for the right places to look?

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The Nine Circles of Hell for Adjunct Faculty

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Can you help me be a better trail runner, and train for a hilly San Francisco half?I've signed up for this North Face half in early December. I've done a couple of trail runs up to 15k, though not with quite this elevation. I'm certain that I'll have to run/walk it (personally fine with this) and will finish before the cutoff. But I'd like to be able to run more of it than not. I'd also like to not get injured. Right now I do a fair amount of cross-training because I'm a terrible summer runner. Once September rolls around though, I hope to up my mileage and hone my workouts for this half. Other than just forcing myself to do hills, what kinds of cross training would be good to prepare for this kind of course? I currently run a few days a week, do some other cardio work and regular strength training classes (Barre, Bodypump, Bodyshred). Or some incline (walking) intervals on a treadmill, up to 25. I live in the DC area - any local suggestions for prepping myself would be appreciated. I've also never been to San Francisco before, so there's that. I've forced myself to run in most weather conditions (though not with this distance) - so I think I'll be ok with some questionable weather. San Francisco trail runners - would it be worthwhile to invest in a jacket? I usually keep it pretty simple - old race shirts and basic activewear. Lastly, are there any tricks to keeping your trail running shoes clean? Mud is to be expected, but I don't want to trash good shoes. Is it really worthwhile to invest in specific shoes geared for trail running? Are they easier to clean? My go-to shoe are Brooks Ghosts (road shoes) - they keep my feet and legs happy. Many thanks for any advice.

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I like plans, but I generally have no idea where things are going from year to year with my son's education (he is now 13). He's bright, and half-way through a degree course. We fumble a new plan each year, but I still don't really know exactly what we would best do next and what distant destination we should be aiming for. We're in New Zealand.I remember when he was three or four I asked a local education expert what she would do if he were her kid. Her response immediately was "homeschool, without a doubt". Being rather traditional, I pretty much ignored this suggestion as a weird hippy/religious option. However, after six months at his first primary school (aged 5) we had a final fight with the idiot headmaster and I withdrew him (kids here don't need to be enrolled until they are six, so we had six months in hand where we didn't need to go to school). Those next six months were the best fun we have ever had, so I applied to homeschool him. I had no experience of the school curriculum and no experience of the average kid, so we just got on with studying and playing for a couple of years. I tell him stuff, he remembers it. We had to move a few years back after significant earthquakes disrupted life over here, and our local primary school had a great new headmistress who was a maths geek. He enrolled and had a lot of fun while we continued with maths/science at home (either me in the classroom or him doing half days). She connected me to the local high school who were fabulous, letting him sit exams and attend the odd classes when internal assessments were done. They in turn connected me with the local university, which offered a 100-level maths course for high school students. When the great headmistress left we didn't get the same attitude, and we went back to homeschooling for a year or so at the end of primary school. So by 10 he had completed the required high school qualifications and university entrance and his first university papers, even though he'd only been taking maths and physics at that point. The university sadly didn't offer any courses beyond 100-level without being on-campus, so we transferred to the one university in New Zealand who offer correspondence courses. The way this seems to work is that the papers on offer are listed on their website, we pick some and pay for them, they send the coursework out and give a date for the exam. Assignments are by email. Apart from the initial application for registration, we haven't managed to have a serious conversation with anyone about what the plan should be. They did originally ask for proof of his "work ethic". He doesn't have one. He reads the coursework, walks into the exam, leaves early and they give him an A+. I can't remember him ever revising. However, they considered that good enough. Fast forward to this year. He decided he would like to experience high school (over here, this is five years aged 13-18ish), and so started this year (January 2016). He's having a great time with all sorts of varied subjects he's not studied seriously before, such as languages, design, art and so on. They are extremely helpful, reorganising the school curriculum so that he can attend high level chemistry classes when his cohort are doing basic science, allowing him to work on his university assignments during maths lessons and so on. He is currently doing two university papers per term (half of the usual amount), usually one in maths and one in computers. So now he's got about half of the necessary credits for his degree, mostly in maths subjects but some in computers and physics. He's doing fine in his first year in high school, making friends and having fun. He spends far too much time playing computer games, so no surprises there. But it annoys me that I can't see where this is going. I can't find anyone to talk to about how the degree progresses. Nor why it should, of course. The university won't talk to me because I'm not the student. He is thirteen and doesn't know what he wants to do of course because he doesn't know what options are available. I am concerned that there don't seem to be many papers left that he hasn't taken (that are available by correspondence). It may, of course, be because he's overtaken me. I am fine up to first-year maths but am somewhat bewildered by what he's studying now. Similarly, I ran a software company for many years and can keep up with his computer papers but am likely to get left behind fairly soon at the rate he's going (although I can clearly see that he has significant promise with his coding having employed dozens of programmers in the past). I should add that he's otherwise pretty rounded. Not an athlete but not the last around the track, generally as grumpy and self-centred as the average early teenager, usually happy, fairly proud of his achievements and very keen on programming. It's looking like "his thing" is morphing from maths to computers, which is no surprise to me. When he's used his allotted internet time per day, he programs for fun. I have seen many helpful comments by academic hive members and wondered whether any would be able to help me believe that we had some kind of plan as to what to do next, and/or where we should be aiming. I obviously know far too little about how universities work and am struggling with not having them locally available to discuss this. It seems to make sense that his first degree would be in maths and computers (perhaps even a double degree). Do we just keep on buying papers and doing them? Is there something I should be preparing for when he's older? With a normal kid I would know what to expect: get to 17/18 having as much fun as possible while studying and then (should he wishes) going to university to study whatever turns him on. At the moment I can't even see the plan a few years hence, and I'm worried that I am missing something that I should be doing.

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Please recommend me some new-ish critical/theoretical/academic writing on new-ish horror.Hi! I was thinking about This House Has People In It, and it occurred to me that I'd like to read about it (and things like it) from a more critical/academic perspective. I'm completely outside of academia and don't know where writing like this might even be appearing. I did hear about The New French Extremity, by Alexandra West, which I think is the kind of thing I'm looking for (although I haven't read it yet): writing that treats the subject as worthy of serious thought, from whatever perspective. I'm defining horror and new very broadly on purpose!

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Vintage Indian Clothing, a blog by Anu Moulee (tumblr) Suffragists in India a dress of such intense, fresh, and wet green On Colour h/t infini

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A poem, in tweets, about Marge Simpson by Raphael Bob-Waksberg, show runner and co-creator of Bojack Horseman.

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My friend came into possession of a 100-year-old maths textbook, and the front page contains handwritten text, apparently written in shorthand. Neither he nor I can read any form of shorthand, and Googling has proven fruitless, but he would love to get some idea of what it says.

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Matthäus Schwarz was a 16th Century German accountant with a taste for fine clothing who managed to parlay his fashion sense into a noble title. He documented his life and clothing in an illuminated manuscript that has been recently translated, annotated and republished as The First Book of Fashion by Professor Ulinka Rublack and Maria Hayward, and includes reconstructed outfits by Jenny Tiramani. The process of remaking one of Schwarz's outfits is shown here. As befits a scholarly tome about a work often likened to modern style blogs, there is a First Book of Fashion Tumblr. Schwarz's son, Veit Konrad, also made his own illuminated style diary, but did not continue after his father's death in 1574. A slightly inaccurate copy was made in the 18th Century, a scan of which is available on Wikimedia Commons. Prof. Rublack puts Schwarz in context as a man of the Renaissance.

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I'm likely moving to California at the start of October. Recently, the location has tentatively changed to San Jose. I don't want this to happen, so please convince me that San Jose is the worst place ever, or give me some reasons for why it's really not that bad.I've got a friend that lives in Santa Cruz. This friend has convinced me to make a semi-spontaneous transplantation to California for an indefinite period of time. So I decided to vacation from Mid to Northern California a couple months ago and Santa Cruz was the dominant vacation spot. I liked it, but didn't love it. However, it reminds me of Boulder, Colorado by the beach so that really added to the appeal. As of a couple weeks ago, this friend of mine has changed his desired living location to San Jose, and the reasons why are absolute bullshit. He's claiming that San Jose is supposedly "cheaper" than Santa Cruz, and you can get more bang for your buck, even though all I've heard and read is to the contrary. And apparently he has "projects" in San Francisco (that I've never heard of) and doesn't want such a hellish commute. My intuition is telling me that the real reason for him wanting to relocate to San Jose is to be closer to his fairly new and substantially younger girlfriend and her priorities. Anyways, if this move is to happen, I'd like some input as to what it's really like to live in San Jose. It reminds me of the district in Colorado where I did much of my growing up-- a safe, upper to upper-middle class superb where nothing cool exists. All it consists of is houses, strip malls, and Targets. Nothing else. Here's what I'm looking for as far as a living situation goes. Honestly, I couldn't give two shits about what amenities the place has, as long as it's moderately affordable and it's close to at least some action. I really like what Santa Cruz has to offer: young, laid-back liberal people; various types of recreation; water of some sorts (preferably salt water); and walking distance to at least a couple decent bars. You know, 20-something kinds of things. I know i have the option of finding random roommates in Santa Cruz on the Internet, but sometimes moving in with people you don't know kind of sucks. I'll also be moving out there with roughly $2K and no job, which is probably a horrible idea, but that makes initial rent+deposit+living tough until I land a job. Any input into any of what I said would be very much appreciated. Thank you in advance. --Omgkinky

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Mrs. Gefilte and I have a ten year old Maytag/Whirlpool top-loading washing machine with a direct-drive motor. It's been working fine for a while, but lately, intermittently, clothes will still end up sopping wet after the spin cycle. It's now constant, and very annoying.Observations: -When the spin cycle is initiated, water drains out of the outlet hose in big gushes, then it slows down to a pulsing trickle. If the clothes are removed during the spin cycle, they're usually fine. -If clothes are left in _after_ the spin cycle, water seems to creep back into the tub. Attempts at repair: -I've checked the inlet and outlet hoses, and there are no obstructions. -I've removed the drain pump and it looks fine to me, nothing obviously stuck inside. (It's this kind.) Questions: -Do you think replacing the drain pump will help, which would be very easy, or is this a more complicated repair? -Anything else that could be causing the problem?

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Hello all, my mom is disabled and homebound. She just received a retirement check from the people who manage the retirement for her old job, and now she doesn't know how to cash it. The check is around 1800 dollars and made out to my mom.My mom finally received a retirement check, which is basically just a check for 1800 dollars. She was operating under the assumption that she could just sign the check over to me and that I (her son) could deposit it into my bank account where we could use it to help pay some of her bills. She recalls doing this with other checks, but honestly that was a long time ago and the checks were much smaller. I called my bank and asked about this and they were extremely unhelpful. I was told that if I wanted to cash that check, I would have to bring my mom down to the local bank branch to sign paperwork stating that she understood that she was signing the money over to someone else. When I told them she was homebound and had difficulty leaving her house they basically got even more unhelpful, basically telling me to get her to the bank that originated the check. That is definitely not a possibility, because that isn't even a local bank. I got the distinct impression that either they didn't want to deal with this situation, or, even though they looked up my account info and could see I've been banking with them for 15 years, they were suspicious that I was trying to do something funny. I've basically ruled my bank out as an option, and the other places around that I've been suggested to try are the local Walmart, which will cash checks, and another local to my area store that is well known for check cashing, with a fee structure similar to Walmart. I've also got the usual assortment of check cashing joints but was treating them as a last resort. Does anyone have any recommendations for what I should do in this situation? Should I try again with my bank or can I do this elsewhere? Thanks in advance.

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