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Onta is a small village of potters in Japan, who produce distinctive etched ceramics entirely by hand (YT). An episode from Ceramic Treasures of Japan, an NHK World series of 15 minute documentaries, which looks at local ceramic arts in various parts of Japan. Episodes are scattered across youtube; links to 9 episodes are inside. Here are the ones I have found: Arita-yaki, Saga Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8b7Dcxq5IHk Bizen-yaki, Okayama Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCcQGrLUOis Hagi-yaki, Yamaguchi Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TmIypnIQpVU Iga-yaki, Mie Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqE2vqAVz2c Karatsu-yaki, Saga Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XwiyiX1iBQY Onta-yaki, Oita Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFOotlIz9xs Satsuma yaki, Kagoshima Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ya0O2BKz2h0 Yachimun, Okinawa Prefecture - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XJyPdpkRjrQ

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I am keen on law, but don't plan to go to law school because of the time and money. Yet, this new certificate opened up at Queens University, Ontario. Would it be of any practical use or is it merely for intellectual pursuit? Is it possible to land into legal research/government jobs with a certificate in Law? I also do not have to pay for the program due to scholarship and bursuaries benefits as well.

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Feminist Architecture: From A(udre Lorde) to Z(aha) (via things magazine)

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Does anyone have experience of using Reedsy (particularly writers looking at self-publishing, but other angles welcome).

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Seeking a reasonably priced rectangular planter that can be used underwater. Length: will be creating the perimeter of a 12x12 foot square so would prefer to use eight 6ft but could do other permutations. Depth: should be 12 inches but could go down to 9 inches Width: can be as little as 9 but would prefer 9-12 inches Will be completely submerged but must be a dark and unobtrusive color (dark brown, black or dark grey)The total cost should be less than $500. (beware of shipping costs) As a business, we can purchase wholesale. I need to have the items within the month and we are located in the NYC area of the US. I am ok with an item that isn't designed to go underwater as long as it doesn't warp horribly and visibly within weeks. Metal and plastic are ok. If you know a place that would do this custom, I'm definitely interested. Also seeking suggestions on materials and construction that I could give to custom business. Total long shot: If you have materials and could make it yourself, memail me.

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After reading about it on AskMe, I've recently started StrongLifts. I lift on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. But I like my daily routine of running to the gym, doing something there, then running home. What should I do at the gym on days I'm not doing StrongLifts?

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Lately I have not been able to enjoy time off from work. The lack of structure makes me batty. Help me relax for the next four days, please!Constraints: I have a 2-year-old so the amount of structure I can create for myself is limited the weather is horrible I know that I could either relax and enjoy down time or do stuff around the house, but I seem unable to do either. I obsess about what needs to be done (minor things, like organizing the pantry) but I don't do it so it keeps stressing me out, and I'm not able to focus on anything really fun. I also don't have a lot of hobbies or friends right now because of the aforementioned toddler so most of my fun stuff is not super appealing either. Help!

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How should I approach deciding if / when to have children with a partner that has newly-diagnosed ADHD?My husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD. They believe it started in childhood and just wasn't diagnosed. We are relieved in some ways because it explains so much of the things that have been difficult in our relationship (and in most of his life). He is a wonderful, loving person who wants to use his life to help make the world be a better place and be a strong partner and father (eventually). But he has always had a hard time following through on a lot of the things he wants to do or commits to, even though he has the best of intentions. On a daily basis he forgets things big and small, gets really distracted from things he's working on if he's not in panic mode, and we've ended up in the dreaded parent-child dynamic where I'm keeping super close tabs on him. I'm working on stopping that in myself. We are only at the beginning stages of him figuring out a treatment that works. Thankfully he is gung-ho with it and really eager to do as much as possible - try medication, get a counselor, etc. I know he will always be living with this, though. This is coming right when we were going to start trying to have children. In fact we've been waiting for a few months while he got in to get the diagnosis. But now, I'm wondering now about having children with a partner that has ADHD. I've read on a lot of forums that it is like having another child and that it can be really lonely and overwhelming for the non-ADHD partner. I don't want to hate my partner (or my life). I'm also really wondering whether it makes sense to wait until he is further along with treatment before starting to try to conceive. I'm almost 36 so I am feeling the time pressure of my age and am trying to weigh starting now and possibly having enough time to try for three children, versus waiting. The idea of going through pregnancy while he is / we are still sorting out his ADHD feels like a lot; then again, I know that there is no miracle cure for ADHD so what would I really be waiting for anyway? We're going to have to figure out how to live well with this, one way or another. I am worried we'd just be wasting time while I wait for some sort of perfect situation that will never come.

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My housemate cycles to work and is looking to buy a pair of gloves for the winter so that her hands don't freeze, but doesn't like the look of proper bike gloves. Alternatives?We are in Melbourne so it doesn't get SUPER cold, so serious winter gloves aren't necessary. More like regular stylish gloves that you can still cycle with! Really appreciate any suggestions.

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Fake it till you make it: meet the wolves of Instagram. The rise and fall of binary trading and it's associated affiliate marketing on social media in the UK (Plus bonus! It's replacement by cryptocurrency hype)

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Spouse is looking for a CBT-oriented therapist in NYC who also has expertise in sexual issues. We have some questions.Spouse has always had issues feeling spontaneous sexual attraction towards me--but he has also always had issues feeling sexual attraction towards other partners he has loved, including a former spouse. He's only felt strong, spontaneous sexual attraction to people he hasn't been as close to, like strangers or less close, less long-term dating relationships. Of course, there is a long history behind this and Reasons, and he has been in emotionally-focused therapy for many years but has not found it helpful on this particular issue. He is seeking a therapist to help him integrate love and attraction, and to help him deal with what he can already identify as unhelpful thought patterns that he falls into. He feels that he'd like to try CBT for this. A quick search shows that CBT doesn't seem to be used for sexual problems (although "sexual problems" generally seem to be different than what I'm talking about), and he wrote his EFT-therapist about this idea, and she replied rather strongly that she couldn't imagine CBT could be helpful here. His feeling is that EFT has not helped with this (though it has helped with other, underlying trauma-related issues) so he doesn't see the harm in trying something new, especially since he feels his issue is very thought-pattern based. So this is a two part question. 1) Has anyone had experience with CBT for this type of issue, and if so, can you share it? And 2) Can anyone recommend a CBT-oriented therapist in the NYC area who also has expertise in sexual issues? Notes because I am already anticipating certain responses: I'm not going to DTMFA; we have an otherwise good marriage. We are able to have sex and enjoy it (this is very much an in-his-head issue and doesn't manifest as ED or anything). There was porn involved, there hasn't been for years (yes i am sure). There is no infidelity.

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We will be running user testing sessions with groups of young people for several different online games. We have a testing protocol with a series of questions we want the kids to answer and need an easy way to capture their feedback, ideally directly from them and without too much adult intervention or supervision.I would like a cloud-based technology solution that can be quickly and inexpensively implemented that doesn't require a subscription or enterprise account, and that will help us more quickly analyse the raw data. So built-in reporting tools would be awesome; however, we don't need a lot of bells and whistles. I'm envisioning some type of basic survey tool - but there are so many options out there that I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

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All serious causes of my new headaches have been ruled out, now need (non medication) solutionsSymptom: moderate to severe daily headaches behind my eyes after reading (mostly computer but phone, books, too - any up-close focusing), causing fatigue and making me unable to work, 2 weeks duration so far although my routine hasn't changed. No nausea or auras or anything else. Pain is like a dull ache, not throbbing. Result of Doctor Visits: Full exam showed no neurological problems indicating serious brain issues. Not migraines. I wear glasses but no significant change in vision rx warranting new lenses. Question: How do I stop these ASAP so that I can work again (have taken 4 days off)? Doctor said regular use of NSAIDS or Tylenol will cause a rebound headache and GI issues long term - yikes . I've tried brisk walks, lots of water intake, hot showers, massaging my temples - all of given only temporary relief. And yes, I take regular breaks when doing computer work. Open to trying almost anything at this point.

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Marriage is what happens when the state gets involved in endorsing and regulating personal relationships. It's a bad idea.

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Our baby is due in 2 weeks and we've been trying to settle on a name for 9 months! Please help!We already have a son, named Gideon, and have rejected tons of girl names. Things we're looking for include: * Jewish/Hebrew (We're Jewish, and kinda painted ourselves into the corner with giving our son a Biblical name). * Not too popular. * Not a fan of traditional names (Sarah, Ruth, etc). * Should be fairly easy to spell (We like the name Ma'ayan, but it's out for this reason). Complicating the matter is the fact that we want to honor some deceased family members. Our son's name is a near perfect amalgamation of his two grandfathers' names (Gil and Leon), so we thought it'd be nice to have our daughter's name be made up of her two great-grandmothers' names. They are Mina and Liza/Elizabeth. So far the only name that fits all the criteria is Eliana. We like it ok, but aren't certain it's *the one*. Here are some other names we have considered and more-or-less rejected: * Mila or Milah / Amelia / Amalia (I really like Mila, but my wife says it's too Slavic; and Amelia is too popular) * Naomi (my wife doesn't like the "ao" sound) * Zella * Juniper (nicknamed June...for a baby due to be born in May) (too hipster/not Jewish enough?) * Mira (usually short for Miriam, which is not really our to our tastes) * Medina (too Arabic?) * Delilah (I like this one too, but the biblical connotations are unfortunate. Also, Gideon and Delilah sounds cute together.) * Mirabel * Margalit * Sami (If this baby had been a boy, his name would've been Samuel, so this is us trying to work it into a girl's name.) * Daphne * Also, I really like the name Zelda, but my wife hates it.

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Nearly every queer character in every work of art I've experienced seems to figure out that they're queer easily and effortlessly. They fall in love or are hopelessly attracted to someone of the same gender, and quickly settle on a label (bi or gay or pan) to match. It's assumed that the romantic orientation matches the sexual orientation. Asexuality doesn't seem to exist. "Questioning" your sexuality is really just the process of coming to terms with the fact that you're not straight. But I want to experience works, in any medium (film, novels, comics...), fiction or nonfiction, where a character doesn't find it all so simple.As an example, I recently read the graphic memoir My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness by Nagata Kabi and was struck by her frank descriptions of her sexual exploration. She only reads gay male erotica despite identifying as lesbian. She doesn't seem to have ever had a crush on or attraction to anyone specific, and bases her identity on the fact that she finds female bodies arousing but not male. The few times she's had sex (through an escort service at age 28), she's found the experience awkward and uncomfortable. The work as a whole really challenges a lot of the tropes of queer sexual awakening in a way I've never seen before, and I found it incredibly relatable- thus my desire for more works that touch on the same themes. I am especially interested in works that feature PoC. Thank you all so much!

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I recently talked to an artist in Canada about buying one of their shirts. Postal office quoted them $18 to ship from Vancouver to New Mexico, almost doubling the price of the shirt. Is this the price of international mail, or is there a cheaper option?And how to best pay the artist? Paypal is an option, but they also mentioned e-transfer, which is new(s) to me. What's the process for folks in the US? I'm a member of a credit union, and Chase, FWIW. Thanks on both fronts!

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I've always had a ton of difficulty concentrating at work. I don't think I have ADD or executive function disorder, because I'm fairly good in other areas of my life. How do I fix it?The question pretty much says it all. A lot of the time I feel like the guy in Office Space who "only does 15 minutes of actual work" each week. I'm very good at doing responsive things like fixing problems and presenting at meetings, which makes my boss happy. But when I actually have to proactively do the actual work, I'm utterly terrible. My coworkers completely run laps around me, and it's not because they're smarter, it's because they're focused for far more of the day. I've tried lots of things. I've blocked most web sites on my work computer for years. I put my phone in restricted mode. I've tried the Pomodoro Technique. I'm reading Deep Work. I listen to music or sometimes audio books. I quit caffeine. None of it really seems to help. I just reread the same things endlessly, or get distracted by some tiny aspect of the problem, or spiral into obsessive negative thinking, or just completely space out when I'm supposed to be working. Pretty soon 8 hours have gone by and I've done almost nothing. Last year I had a 9-month project with well-defined goals. I basically did very little during the day, and ended up doing it all very late at night -- sometimes staying up until 4 in the morning. It did actually work and I met all the deadlines, but it was obviously not fun and pretty much wrecked my personal life during that time. Our office is deathly quiet with few distractions, so it's not that. Again, I don't have this problem much outside of work. I'm capable of keeping the house mostly clean and maintained, paying the bills on time, making dinner every night, reading long books, etc. I'm not perfectly conscientious, but I'm not a total disaster either. I did OK (not great) in college and grad school. In the last few months had to take two all-day super-challenging tests that took weeks of studying beforehand, and I focused perfectly and totally aced them (99th %ile). So I'm clearly capable of paying adequate attention to complex tasks when I'm not at work and/or there's a direct and very clear time pressure. But at work there really isn't, and this has been a problem at several different jobs over most of my adult life. It's just that if something isn't intrinsically valuable to me and I don't have a deadline, I can't figure out how to MAKE my brain do it. Any ideas?

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Easy, under the radar methods of sending myself non-work documents-in-progress to and from an increasingly monitored work account?I, probably like you, have a mundane full-time desk job. In the past, one of the "perks" of this given job has been long stretches of downtime, which I've tried to use productively on my own ongoing personal/freelance/fiction writing. It used to be fairly simple, as there were few security barriers placed on our internet use, so I could breezily cut/paste/attach to and from my personal Gmail on whatever I was working on. However, over the last year or so the powers that be have gradually introduced more and more blocks and monitoring on our web usage. No more Gmail or social networking sites, then all online storage platforms (Google Drive, Dropbox, etc.). Usage of non-work USB keys or external drives banned. Attachments to non-work-recognized domains are monitored and potentially flagged -- I've even received a stern reprimand from compliance on the security hazards of me doing this (they even read the chapter I was then working on, ugh). Emails with body text containing profanity or whatever weirdness (we use Outlook at work) can apparently trigger warnings, especially when being delivered to outside domains. I do often work from home, accessing my work account via VPN, but as far as I can know I can't effectively copy things from the remote drive to my local drive, even on the same machine (right?). Arguments regarding network security and whether I should even be doing what I'm doing on company time aside (I don't care)...any suggestions for an easy, semi-daily, free or low-cost, under-the-radar method I can send myself or upload docs, or even just cut and paste large chunks of formatted text, for easy access later at home?

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I'm not sure if this technology-derived algorithmic facticity of taste is better or worse than Meryl Streep-Anna Wintour deciding what I wear, which might be the core concern of this essay. The algorithm suggests that we trust it, but we don't entirely want to. We crave a more "authentic," lasting form of meaning...We know the machine doesn't care about us, nor does it have a cultivated taste of its own; it only wants us to engage with something it calculates we might like. This is boring. "I wonder if, at the core of fashion, the reason we find it fascinating is that we know there's a human at the end of it."

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I love orange juice. My favorite brand is Tropicana, and I can easily drink a gallon or more per week. But my nutritionist said I should stop drinking juice because of the high sugar content. What can I replace it with that will satisfy the same craving?I know that nothing that's not juice will have the same mouth-feel, but I'm looking for something somewhat similar that will prevent juice cravings. I like tea, so I was thinking maybe some kind of naturally sweet tea (but what brand/flavor?)? With lemon and... something else? I'm looking for something that I can make a big pitcher of and keep in the fridge for several days. I would like it to be very delicious and feel like a treat, the way a nice, tall glass of cold OJ does. I'm looking for something that's not carbonated. I already drink a cup of coffee in the morning, which is tasty but doesn't scratch the same itch as juice.

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I just got a new job. HOORAY! The biggest drawback will be that for the first time in years, no one will be home with our dog during the day. Please help reassure me she won't be horrendously bored and depressed.After months of temping, I finally have a full time job offer. I am so, so relieved, but also plagued with guilt about my pup. For the past 6 years, my wife and I have had a great situation where one of us is always home before 5pm, at least to take the mutt on a lunchtime walk. With our new situation, we'll probably both be gone from 7:30-5:30 most weekdays. That's 10 hours. I realize this is normal for many/most people with dogs, but it sounds so sad and lonely to be alone all day. If this is your schedule, how do you alleviate your guilt and/or how can you tell if your dog is unhappy? More details: - she currently gets a short walk in the morning and a longer one in the afternoon, which we'd have to push back to when we get home. Right now she's usually home alone from 8-12 and then 1-5, and seems... okay with that? Who knows. Maybe she's already sad. THE GUILT. - we usually keep her in one room of the house while we're gone. No outdoor access - we can probably take her to doggy daycare one day a week, maybe two? (Pricey) - I'm semi-open to a dog walker but she's a reactive dog and I worry about this even with a well-recommended walker -I'm not worried about her bladder, she's a champ - just being stuck in a room all day - I could eventually ask new job if I can modify my work hours to take a longer lunch so I can come home, but that seems like a poor use of time as it'd take me at least 40 min just to go back and forth - it's probably not practical to get another dog

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Is this music video of Bob Dylan's Subterranean Homesick Blues the first instance of this flashcard trope? I realize there's going to be some ambiguity in answering this; just hit me with whatever observations you've got.

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Olivia Jaimes is the first female artist for venerable comic strip Nancy in 85 years. She's been drawing strips for over a week now, and the early results are good. It's unknown who Olivia Jaimes really is (The name is admitted to be a pseudonym) but other artists are quick to notice the dramatic increase in quality.

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What could be cuter than piglets doing stuff? How about piglets getting a bath? More piglets (plus the occasional cat and dog) doing stuff: 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017

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