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I'm now working near Navy Yard in Southeast DC, and the extended commute from Northern Virginia is wearing thin on me. Outside of the area immediately near my office, I know nothing about what's going on in Southeast DC and Maryland. What neighborhoods should I be looking at?I am a middle-aged queer professional used to commuting in from the burbs. I'm fine with driving. I currently pay $1,500 a month for a 1BR near Tyson's, and really love the up-and-coming feel of the neighborhood and access to the Beltway and I-66. There's lots of new construction within walking distance of my office, but it seems a bit pricey to me. My impression of most of the Green Line-accessible neighborhoods on the southeast side of town is that they're in a bit of a "pre-gentrification" stage.

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I'm a dev for a SaaS application. Usually we handle client payments completely outside the application (invoices). We now have a client that will allow their users to "buy" the service in discrete chunks on their own timeline. I'm doing my own research, but I wanted to get the advice of the Green about how best to accomplish this.I'm thinking it's just a matter of integrating something like "Google Checkout", or Paypal, where I send them the amount, they popup a window where the user can pay, and they send me (to the client or my server?) a confirmation of payment. We use Java on the back-end and a standard web front-end. Ideally the user wouldn't have to jump through too many hoops to pay (creating accounts on the payment system, etc...) We only need to support Credit Cards (not bitcoins, e-checks, etc...) The easier to implement the better (we're on a timeline) Lower transaction fees are better, but can be balanced by other factors.

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"When we use the phrase, what we seem to be trying to say is that there should be a lot of room for intelligent disagreement around aesthetics – and that we don't feel comfortable about asserting the superiority of any one style or approach over any other. It implies an acute sensitivity to conflict and a fear of being rude or mean to others. However, by resorting to the phrase, what we actually do is unleash a stranger and more reckless situation: what we're in effect stating is that nothing is ever really more beautiful – or uglier – than anything else. This suggestion then has a way of implying that the whole subject is essentially trivial. After all, we'd never say that truths about the economy or justice were in the eyes of beholders only. We know that big things are at stake here – and over time, we've come to positions about the right and wrong way of approaching these topics, and are ready to discuss and defend our ideas. We wouldn't ever say that 'the treatment of the poor is just a subject best left entirely to the eyes of beholders' or 'the best way to raise children is in the eyes of beholders,' or 'the future of the environment is in the eyes of beholders.' We accept that there are dangers to arguing in aggressive and unfruitful ways; but we are confident that there are sensible and polite ways to advance through these tricky yet vital debates. The same should feel true around beauty."

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My sister had a baby. My brother and I are giving her a larger-than-normal for our family chunk of cash for her birthday. Please help me write a card that doesn't make me sound superior, or her obligated.I'm worried that giving cash could send a lot of different messages, that I want to avoid. Such as: * we make more money than you * this is all the help you're going to get * you can expect similar gifts in the future * we think cash is an appropriate gift in lieu of xyz * we want to control how you use this * we expect you to reciprocate in any way * we think you complain about money The message i want to send is that we love her very much, we expect having a baby can bring up surprising, unexpected expenses, so we want to give a bit of cushion here and there. Here's the message I have written in my head. Please give me suggestions: Sister, brother, and daughter, When you need some time alone, some quick food, some emergency baby supplies, or a date night movie, you can use this cash. If it survives 18 years you can give it to daughter to pay for college or for a horse or something. We wanted to be generous as soon as possible, because you never know when stuff might happen. Best wishes - brother and brother.

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My little queer family is driving down to the Wilmington, NC area from the DC area and we are looking for tips for places to stop every few hours (small kids) that are also "safe" for a very visibly queer family.We will leave in the morning and will need to stop every few hours so the little ones can wiggle around, which they like to do these days. We are looking for driving/directions tips (I have found a few previous posts about this) but also I am hoping for some guidance around places that will be relatively safe for us to stop as a family that is not gender-conforming or heteronormative. Thank you!

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What is the most recent piece of instrumental music from a film score that the general public could immediately identify upon hearing, and why is it the theme from Jurassic Park? (many) Details inside!Okay, the last part of my question is a tad facetious, but hear me out. I've had an off again on again discussion with several folks about film scores, and discussing why it is that, as best as I can tell, there hasn't been a major motion picture released in 20 or more years that had as part of its score a 'theme' (if you will) that has become ingrained in the collective cultural conscience in the same way that films from years past have. I feel as though Jurassic Park may be the most recent one, and that came out in 1993. Why is that? Think about films from the last 20 years that might be candidates here. I'm willing to listen to arguments for perhaps the Harry Potter films or the Lord of the Rings trilogy. Maybe Titanic,Gladiator, or 'Duel of the Fates' from The Phantom Menace, but I just don't think any of those occupy our consciences in the same way than nearly anything from the years prior. I think you could potentially pick out dozens of films from the 60s, 70s, 80s, and early 90s, hum or play a few bars from its theme, and people would know it immediately. And sure, John Williams may be responsible for a large portion of such music, but your Batmans, Back to the Futures, Godfathers, etc. were created by a variety of other composers, so I don't think the 'Well it's just John Williams' syndrome applies here either. So again, why is this the case? Why hasn't there been a piece from a film score in the last 20 years that's achieved the same status as Jaws, or Indiana Jones, or Batman, or so on? Obviously John Williams continues to write for and score films, as do Alan Silvestri, Danny Elfman, and Hans Zimmer - but nothing's really caught fire. To be clear, I'm not talking about a song from a film - so things like 'My Heart Will Go On', or 'Get Happy', or 'Let It Go' don't count. Lastly, allow me to posit a potential answer just to give some additional food for thought: is it possible that the current state of film scores is because they don't 'sell' in the same way on digital storefronts (iTunes, say) and aren't as easily marketable as a single like 'Let It Go' is? In this day and age, is the attraction of getting a song out in front of a film as a way to market the movie and potentially make beau coups of money outside of ticket sales so enticing that a film's score takes a backseat, in a way, to generating a hit single? Again, I'm not arguing that there aren't good scores still being written or that they're not important, nor do I believe anyone is telling John Williams 'Hey, maybe don't create a super recognizable theme like you used to okay?', but the cynic in me feels like there may be some correlation here. So, wrapping up, I'd be curious to hear the Hive Mind's thoughts on this subject. Is there a simpler answer I'm overlooking? Maybe enough time just hasn't passed yet? Some detail that might unequivocally refute my argument? Is it just that the concept of 'themes' is dead?

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Jessica Gentile has compiled a brief-but-interesting listicle for Pitchfork: "Songs about PMS and Periods"

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Karen Gaffney (TEDxPortland) speaks on history and present state of the value of people with Down syndrome. Gaffney (previously 1, 2), is the first living person with Down syndrome to receive an honory PhD and the president of an eponymous foundation dedicated to inclusion and advocacy. Gaffney in an interview with the American Academy of Audiology Behind the scenes with Gaffney's speaker coach, Amy Wolff

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I'm moving out of my 1 BR apartment in Madison. Most of my possessions will be shipped. Illness set me back on getting ready, and now I need to find folks (paid or charitable) who can help me pack and ship last minute. More details inside.I have a lot of stuff but not a ridiculous amount--a lot of books. I'm getting rid of my furniture. Mostly I just need help getting things into boxes safely and then getting those boxes shipped. I don't have a car, so it would be really hard for me to take the boxes anywhere. Are there any professional movers who will take my things to be shipped rather than, well, move them? I called You Move Me and they don't offer that. I'd rather not call all the moving companies and ask. My plane to Virginia is tomorrow, and I'm supposed to be out of my apartment then as well. I have tried contacting Access to Independence and the mental health center to see if they could offer help directly or refer me to someone. I also posted to the Dane County Time Bank and craigslist, to no avail, in addition to asking friends. Mostly I am focused on getting this all done, not getting it done perfectly. Any suggestions you have are welcome.

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Hell, damn and bitch are especially popular in the south and southeast. Douche is relatively common in northern states. Bastard is beloved in Maine and New Hampshire, and those states – together with a band across southern Arizona, New Mexico, and Texas – are the areas of particular motherfucker favour. Crap is more popular inland, fuck along the coasts. Fuckboy – a rising star* – is also mainly a coastal thing, so far. from Strong Language via Kottke [NSFW language, natch]

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Sudden onset of allergy symptoms, out of the blue, from a peach?I'm in Switzerland, and probably since I moved here I haven't eaten many peaches, but previously I would have eaten a few every summer, I'm sure. A month or so ago, a South American friend who also lives here mentioned to me that she had experienced an allergic reaction to peaches for the first time. I sympathised and we discussed whether it was something unusual about this year's peaches, or something in the soil, but then the subject was dropped. I gave her a can of peaches (just from the supermarket) to try and she had no trouble with them. Half an hour ago, I ate a fresh peach, and within a couple of minutes my lips swelled, my throat and hard palate started itching like crazy, and now I have this scratchy uncomfortable feeling in my throat and an itchy red mark next to my mouth. Like my friend, I have never had an allergic reaction to peaches before. I do have asthma, and this year I experienced truly terrible hay fever for the first time (I've had very mild symptoms before). I've had nectarines and apricots this season with no weird reactions. I'm not sure which country these peaches were from, since I didn't buy them myself, but at this time of year they usually come from Spain or Italy. I can forego peaches this season if need be, and I'm not overly concerned about being tested since it's uncomfortable but clearly not life-threatening. But what gives? Why are my friend and I suddenly allergic to something we've both eaten all our lives? Is there something unusual about peaches this year?

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And yachts, dinghys, paddleboats, battleships, canoes, schooners, tugboats, and catamarans. I love reading about boats and life aboard them. Fiction or non-fiction, freshwater or salt, genre and era unimportant. Please recommend books about boats!That's about it. I really have no criteria other than: 1. Must be a good read (no dry academic tomes, please, although I will read juicy academic tomes) 2. The majority of the book should take place on a boat, and ideally talk a lot about the minutiae of day-to-day boat life. My ideal boat* book is every book in the Aubrey-Maturin series by Patrick O'Brien. Meticulously detailed descriptions of shipboard life, jargon for days, whole books where they never set foot ashore, I love it. Other boat-related fiction I have enjoyed: Ultramarine, Malcom Lowry Billy Budd, Sailor, and Moby Dick, Herman Melville The Horatio Hornblower novels, C.S. Forester Three Men in a Boat, Jerome K. Jerome The Farthest Shore, Ursula K. LeGuin Some non-fiction I have enjoyed: Sailing Alone Around the World, Joshua Slocum Maiden Voyage, Tania Aebi (teenager sails alone around the world in the 80s) The Last Grain Race, Eric Newby (last days of sail before WWII) I am interested in everything. From WASPS and their yachts on Martha's Vineyard to the lowliest cabin boy aboard the Santa Maria, I want to read it all. Thank you! *Captain Aubrey would have me flogged for calling it a boat

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A decade ago, Susan Smillie bought a classic ketch, moored it on the Thames and moved aboard. Now hipster landlubbers squeezed out of the property market are taking to the water in droves. So what are the joys and challenges of a river residence? (No, it's not cold in winter. Yes, she can only buy ebooks.) (slGrauniad)

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AskMe is so good at this kind of thing! I read a science fiction novel when I was young, in the early 80s, although it may have been written earlier. The protagonist was a teenage girl who had been kidnapped because of her rare ability to see and travel through interdimensional portals.Details I remember: -- Only a small class of people on Earth could see these portals, and if a person entered a portal they were transported to another universe, and their human bodies were transformed into a creature from that universe. -- The two most common portals were to a universe of lava and sulphur hellscapes where humans became a kind of armored tiger-looking alien, and a universe of liquid and seaweed where humans were transformed into tiny seahorse/water-baby creatures. -- People had figured out technology "hacks" because if you were holding something in your hands, it was also transformed into an item from the destination universe. So if you wore a necklace made out of aspirin, safety pins, wooden buttons and lint taped together in a certain way, then when you appeared as the alien hell-tiger in the new universe, you had a gun strapped around your neck that was operated by your alien mouthparts. -- The girl was being held on a rural farm in the USA by two adult men, although they were not cruel or crimminals, just doing a job she didn't understand. The farm had crabapple trees on it, and the girl had a bit of a crush on one of her captors. How can I remember so many details but not remember the book's title? Thanks for any help you can offer so I can recapture this memory of youth and read the book again.

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Working on a playlist of fun, catchy pop songs by women whose underlying (or overt) message is simply, "No, seriously, fuck you. FOREVER." Can you help?"Fuck You" by Lily Allen is an obvious example, but that's more about calling out bigots at large as opposed to telling someone to fuck off for treating you poorly on a personal level. "Walk Away" by Kelly Clarkson and "Bad Blood" by Taylor Swift are more along the lines of what I'm looking for. I feel like there has to be at least one Nicki Minaj song for this kind of occasion and I'm just totally spacing on what it is. Slick, overproduced top 40 kinda stuff is great, rap songs would be even better. Nothing remotely country/pop-country or indie rock, please, and definitely no songs by dudes. Bonus points for videos that involve women blowing shit up!

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What are some fun genre books set in Prague and Budapest? I'm going on vacation there soon and would like to get in the mood beforehand and also have a few things to read while traveling. Any genre, mystery, thriller, ya, romance...literary is fine as long as it's fairly accessible. Thank you!

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I'm driving a U-Haul from Cambridge, MA to Brooklyn and within Brooklyn on Saturday -- can you confirm my route is OK and a couple of other sundry questions?For the purposes of this question, I'm driving a 10' truck from Cambridge Brewing Company at 1 Kendall Sq to the CubeSmart at 900 Atlantic Ave in Brooklyn and trying to leave by 9 am on Saturday, 10 am at the absolute latest. Here's a Google Map of my route. In words: 1. Portland St to Mass Ave to Mass Pike/I-90 WB onramp at Newbury 2. I-90 WB to I-84 WB to I-91 SB to I-95 SB to NYS state line 3. Once in NYS, I-95 SB to I-678 SB (Bronx-Whitestone Bridge) to I-495 WB (LIE) to I-278 SB (BQE) 4. Exit 31 onto Williamsburg St, turn left on Clinton Ave, turn left onto Atlantic Ave This seems fairly straightforward and I think I've avoided all the truck-prohibited routes (Storrow and Memorial in Boston, all the parkways in CT and NYC). Are there any local construction projects or other things that should require me to change my route? This is 218 miles and 4h15min according to Google Maps. Does 6 hours seem reasonable, given traffic, unfamiliarity, and slower driving speed in a U-Haul? Bonus question: anyone have a lunch stop along the way, perhaps in Connecticut, that involves minimal detouring, easy U-Haul parking, is pescatarian-friendly, and is not McDonald's?

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A few months ago I was in a situation (detail within) where I had to eat a lot of heavy food (lots of meat etc) regularly for about a month. I developed GI symptoms that I choked up to indigestion. I've since resumed my normal healthy diet and lifestyle, but I continue to have stomach troubles. YANMD, I know, but any thoughts on what I could do? I am in the middle of 12 months of traveling abroad for research. About 3-4 months ago I was with a group of people who were extremely hospitable and to whom food is an extremely important symbol of good will and relationship. They offered tons of food every meal, and I ate whatever that came my way because that was the socially appropriate thing to do. Towards the end of my month with them, I started having stomach issues. Some days I am fine, but more often than not I feel full all the time (and would feel stuffed after a few bites), I get a sharp burning pain in/near my left rib cage for a few hours as soon as I start eating, acid reflux, occasional diarrhea and nausea. I am not especially averse to food, but I don't feel hungry and eating often causes pain, so I haven't been able to eat enough. At first I thought this was indigestion--fully expected, as I was not used to the quantity and type of food served (I normally eat quite healthfully, lots of vegetables, lean protein, brown rice, never eat junk food, only a little dairy, etc). But I've left that situation for several months now and resumed my normal diet, and the symptoms persist. I am beginning to feel the GI troubles taking a toll. I am otherwise in excellent health, and frankly a bit of a health nut. I don't drink alcohol or smoke, I drink 1 cup of coffee per day, lots of water, exercise 4 times a week. I am not overweight (BMI=20). I got to see one doctor, and was tested negative H. Pylori so I don't think it's an ulcer. I am also not anemic. I know YANMD, hive mind, but until I get home to my own doctor, what do you think this could be? Does indigestion last this long? And more importantly, what are some easy ways to relieve my symptoms (I've tried Toms to no avail)? p.s. I haven't been travelling in anywhere known for parasites or hepatitis

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This Italian giant is nestled in the sprawling metropolitan area of Naples, population 3.1 million. We're not talking "nearby" like Rainier is to Seattle or Popocatépetl to Mexico City. We're talking a volcano smack in the middle of the city. It is merely ~12 km (~7.5 miles) from the summit craters at Vesuvius to downtown Naples. For your average pyroclastic flow from a volcano like Vesuvius, that is a trip that would take only about two and a half minutes. The World's Most Dangerous Volcano May Kill Another City

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CW Developing 'Hyper-Stylized' Reboot of 'Little Women' "Disparate half-sisters Jo, Meg, Beth, and Amy band together in order to survive the dystopic streets of Philadelphia and unravel a conspiracy that stretches far beyond anything they have ever imagined – all while trying not to kill each other in the process." This isn't the first time changes have been made to Alcott's novel: in Les Quatre filles du docteur Marsch, Beth gets better and Jo marries Laurie (fr). Semi-related: Was Jo March really a lesbian?

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Whenever I run more than half a mile, the bottom of my arches feel like hot needles are getting poked in them. What is wrong with my feet? How can I fix this?My usual running circuit is about 3 miles (5 Km). However, I haven't been able to run that whole circuit in almost a month, because my arches start hurting only a few minutes into the run, and I have to walk the rest of the way. (My arches don't hurt while walking). I miss running! Please get me back to it again. Relevant Information: I work a very physically demanding job, take a weekly yoga class, and do some other exercise at home, so I'm pretty fit. I'm at a healthy weight and have no other injuries (knock on wood). I run on sidewalks and asphalt bike trails. I don't have the option to run on another surface. I currently wear kung fu training shoes -- which I have loved so far and which have helped me get rid of knee pain/runner's knee. They're basically minimalist shoes. Previously, I wore regular Nike running shoes. I switched about six months ago because of the knee pain I was getting in the Nikes, and have been very happy with that change. Since the training shoes' soles are so thin, though, maybe they wore out very quickly? Is there some kind of Dr. Scholl's sort of pad that I can put into them to help with my arch problem? TL;DR: What is going wrong with my feet and how can I fix it?

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I recently dyed a piece of fabric in iPoly's blue with it's color fixer, with all doors and windows open and several fans blaring. Hours later, the fumes are still there. How much cleaning/trashing do I need to do?So, I dyed some fabric blue with iPoly's blue polyester dye this afternoon, in a stainless steel stock pot that's now going to be used for dyeing only. Five hours after I poured the dye water down the sink, my kitchen (studio apartment) is still filled with fumes. It looks like the steam that came out of the dye pot every time I opened the lid left a film of particles on my stove and on a ton of the appliances and surfaces in my kitchen. I'm cleaning every appliance, pot, pan, and surface I can with 409 and other household cleaners, and that seems to get rid of the smell on the individual objects or surfaces. I'm wondering though-- is this enough? And how much do I have to get rid of that I'm not able to clean? My pantry is right there, is it safe to keep any of the dry goods that have been exposed to that steam, or do I need to trash them? Can I leave my dog alone in the apartment until I clean this shit out without exposing her to harm? Experienced dyers of mefi, help.

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It was an unexpected end to an extraordinary chase. For 110 days and more than 10,000 nautical miles across two seas and three oceans, the Bob Barker and a companion ship, both operated by the environmental organization Sea Shepherd, had trailed the trawler, with the three captains close enough to watch one another's cigarette breaks and on-deck workout routines. In an epic game of cat-and-mouse, the ships maneuvered through an obstacle course of giant ice floes, endured a cyclone-like storm, faced clashes between opposing crews and nearly collided in what became the longest pursuit of an illegal fishing vessel in history. (SLNYT)

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The top 50 assholes in cinema - by Andrew Blair, Den of Geek

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Inspired by The Novel Cure, I'm wondering if I can get any book recommendations (preferably fiction) that deal with anxiety/worry about the future?Lately, I've been massively anxious about my future. I'm in my late 20s and have ruminated about almost every aspect of my future for the past few months, for example: "Will I ever get married?", "Will I die alone?", "Will I ever get a better paying job?", "Will I have children?", "Will I have enough money for retirement?", "Will I be able to make more friends as I age?", etc. They're all sort of centered around those topics. I also sort of feel waaaaay behind all my peers. I've had enough of this and decided to book a therapy session for next week. What I'm looking for right now are recommendations of novels (or poetry, plays, any sort of literature) that sort of deal with the subject of fear/anxiety/worry about the future. I'm hoping that there might be some books out there that I can find some solace in. Characters that will remind me that I'm not the only one who worries about these things and that maybe some of my worries are unfounded (and that it will be okay in the end?? or not??). Do you guys know of any books that would fit these requirements at all? (I'm really just interested in fiction, not in self-help books or anything. That might be another question for another day.)

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