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Looking for "soulful" electronic music recommendationsI'm looking for electronic music that can be described as "soulful"; this doesn't mean that it necessarily has soulful singing voices (although that's great) but has a soulful "feel". If you're not sure what I mean by that, I'll also just take recs. for electronic music that is good, whether it's artists or song titles. I like both fast and slow tempo. I really like this type of music, but don't know many artists. Examples of stuff I mean/like (not even sure if these are strictly "electronic": Moby Portishead Fourtet The XX Fatboy Slim These are mostly from my "era"; looking to update and find more good artists (don't need to be current though)

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At almost 36 years old, I finally know what I want to do -- I want to work in historical media conservation/preservation. Preferably this would be film preservation, but I'm also very open to audio preservation and paper (and other media) archives. What is the fastest, most efficient, most direct way to get the practical skills to get my foot in the door?So, I'm thinking that, since these are very hands-on fields, you probably can skip traditional academia and just center on receiving intensive training at a special school, something that will lead to industry-approved certification. Apparently, that's not really the case. While Eastman in Rochester does have a certification program, it doesn't really seem like a middle-aged person with no valuable education is their ideal candidate (read: I find it unlikely they'd admit me). It seems the best deal is to head back to school and attend Tisch/NYU for a fast track BA/Master's degree. Once again, I'm not sure I'm their ideal. And... I did very poorly in college (extenuating circumstances) and didn't graduate. I did get a rather worthless Associate's degree (web design, but barely). I don't think a lot, if any, of my 15 year old credits will transfer. I just don't think I can face going back to school and jumping through all the academic hoops. I JUST want to take the practical courses that would teach me conservation, preservation, and/or archiving skills, so that I can do that for the rest of my life. I feel like I've looked at every school, every website, everywhere, but I can't really see anything that isn't aimed at young people just starting out. Does anyone have any insights on how I can make my dream come true? I'd be willing to relocate just about anywhere, but I'd prefer to not have to take Biology 101, French 1, and the freshman seminar again.

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The bulb in an overhead light fixture in my house has burned out. I cannot get the fixture open so I can change the bulb. Help me before I decide to just smash the damn thing.Pictures of the fixture here and here. The obvious way to get it open--and in fact the only one I can see--is to turn the central knob, which it seems like should screw onto some kind of threaded central mount. The problem is that I cannot get the knob to turn for love nor money. I can move it maybe an inch in each direction, and then it jams tight. It is, as you can see, very smooth and without anything I can grip. I've thought about trying to squirt WD-40 between the knob and glass, but figure it would probably ooze/drip down onto the knob, thereby making the situation worse. Any ideas? (If the consensus answer is "You're just gonna have to smash the damn thing," I will do so in an anti-celebratory fashion this Friday.)

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what options do I have to make fonts a bit darker?I use both pc's and Macs, generally with Chrome. Lately, it seems like more web pages have light gray text. I feel like I could see things a bit better if the fonts were a bit darker. I can see my Kindle just fine. I don't need readers, but I am getting close. Todoist is an example of a web page that looks a little too grayed out to me. I've been on a free trial and I'm trying to figure out if I can make it work for me. Do I have any options to improve my ability to see? I've tried increasing the screen contrast on the mac under accessibility. I've tried the Chrome extension"High Contrast." Anything else I can try?

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It's been several years since I've been involved publicly in the freelance game, and I have a client on whose behalf I'm looking to hire a subcontractor who does good PHP work. In the past I would have gone to vWorker or freelance.com, but like I said, it's been a while and I'm not sure where all the cool PHP freelancers hang out these days.And yes, we've already posted it on Mefi Jobs.

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I'm a first time car owner and I do not understand cars at all. How can I learn about cars, or enough about my car, that I'm not taken advantage of by mechanics/dealers when I repair/buy cars?I just brought my car in for serving at my dealer and I (stupidly) agreed to $1500 worth of "repairs" that I "needed." Like, whatever, I can afford the repairs, I'll survive, but I don't want to agree to something so stupid EVER again. I felt like I couldn't say no or that I even had a "choice" with what they wanted to do because I had no clue what the service manager was talking about. So... what's the best way to learn about cars and not be taken advantage of? I feel so stupid right now.

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Data Munging Pros: In a spreadsheet with ten data columns, Column "A" is related to columns "B" through "J" in that some unknown combination or interaction of some or all of them will produce the data in Column "A". How do we determine what that combination is? (I can't even find what this type of problem is called, and I've not been able to find any productive Google search terms.) A more thorough explanation/example is provided in-thread.Quick example, very slightly different than the one above the fold: Say I have two spreadsheets that I know are related in some way. Spreadsheet One has two Columns: "Alpha" and "Bravo". An example row for Alpha and Bravo are: Alpha = 42,492 Bravo = 3,115 Spreadsheet Two has seven fields: "Charlie" through "India". Example rows for Charlie through India are: Charlie = 39,912 Delta = 4 Echo = 17,664 Foxtrot = 11,313 Golf = 7,719,011 Hotel = 15,084 India = 412 Now in this example, example Alpha (42,492) is the relationship: [Charlie + Echo - Hotel] And example Bravo (3,115) is the relationship: [(Hotel / Delta) + Foxtrot] Easy enough to do with Two Columns in Spreadsheet One and only seven columns in Spreadsheet Two. But for my problem, I have 5 entries in "One" and I have something like 35 entries in "Two". What is this type of problem called? What is the way to go about attacking it? Assume that the only operators involved in the relationship will be "add/subtract and multiply/divide". Thanks so much for your time and your expertise.

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I am interested in becoming a Certified Fiduciary. Can I make a decent living doing this?I live in one of a handful of US states that licenses folks to do this job: http://www.usatoday.com/story/money/personalfinance/2014/07/08/retirement-fiduciary-guardian-conservator/10627507/ Note: This is not a bank fiduciary. I've been working in Medicare for a few years and have a law degree (After many, many years, I'll be licensed next month.) I know how frustrating healthcare can be and am overall a very patient person. I've been looking for a way to enter a "helping profession" without being a direct caregiver. I am all but done with Corporate America and wondered if the fiduciary role might provide me a way out but I can find almost no information about how much I might be able to earn. I'm not looking for untold riches but I live fairly well on my current salary. I am child-free with an SO who makes a good living himself. Any ideas on salary (and perhaps what I can expect for day-to-day work life?) Thanks.

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Ryan Sutton at EATER asks the hard question: What are the best fast food chain chicken nuggets?

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Ended things with someone. Wondering if I made the right choice.I was in a relationship that was going super well until it suddenly wasn't. We had only been together for a few months. Things moved very quickly, as we are in our thirties and knew what we wanted. We met each other's families, had a great time together, traveled together. Then we got into a fight. It was because she did something unintentionally mean and flaked on me last minute for a family gathering I invited her to. I was super excited to bring her and I was very hurt by her sudden reaction and how she didn't even seem that sorry. She said it was a work thing. The fight escalated and I got more and more upset. Since then, we couldn't seem to move past it. She didn't seem to want to take responsibility for how it was hurtful, even when I identified things I could and would work on. She also suddenly went from someone who was super excited about me to hot and cold - ignoring me some days, super nice the other days. This stressed me out, and I rapidly went into a mental and physical decline by not being able to sleep or focus at work for a few weeks. I finally addressed it and she said she was feeling uncertain about us but wanted to see where things would go. I knew I couldn't continue in a fugue state and it was too hurtful to have someone continue to ignore me. I broke things off mostly for mental health reasons. But then she suddenly became hot again - and begged me to get back together with her and said I was being stupid for breaking things off now. I got more and more confused. I held firm and since then, I've been wondering if I've made a big mistake. Some mutual friends say that we seem to be a great match. But I worry about being with someone who is so all over the map with me and doesn't seem to be treating me well. I am also not usually an anxious person and I was very anxious in our last few weeks together. I haven't been in a relationship for a few years. Am I someone who needs to be more patient and work things out? Should I have done a better job working on things?

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My grandfather's 100th birthday was announced on KTLA morning news this morning sometime before 7am. Is there a way to get a free copy of the tape or digital video file? Any chance someone in the MetaFilter community has it on their DVR?I contacted KTLA and I was told a third party provides tapes of their broadcast for $40. Is there a cheaper alternative?

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When we signed the contract for the videography of our wedding, we misunderstood how raw the raw footage would be. We need to find someone who can edit about 10 hours of footage from three cameras down to about two hours. We don't want to work with our videographer because we are unhappy with his turn-around times and price. Does anybody have personal experience with an editor for such a job?

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My 15-year-old son is getting his braces off. This means he can again indulge in some of his favourite snacks, especially popcorn and chewing gum. I want to celebrate and also cheer him up (he's been a bit glum lately)--already thinking of taking him to the cinema *just* for a big bag of MOVIE THEATRE popcorn, and putting together a care package of various brands of gum for his school locker, but other than that, I got nothing. Any ideas, mefites, for braces-themed jokes or treats, etc., that I can surprise him with for, say, a week? Even mild pranks might work (the equivalent of putting googly eyes on stuff, but braces/teeth themed)? He has a silly sense of humour. Thanks :)

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"Dogs think people are God, but cats don't. Cats know that people act as middlemen to God's will. They're not ungrateful. They just know better." Film maker Ceyda Torun and cinematographer Charlie Wupperman have finished their documentary about Istanbul's cats. Coming soon to a city near you. (The movie, not the cats.) Then there is Tombili, commemorated in bronze and even in death treated with affection and respect. Tea, kibble, worry beads – Hodge never had it so good (Previously)

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I don't know how to cook very well. Cookbooks, even ones that claim to be quick and minimal bore me. Motivator? Maybe a magazine with recipes, credible interesting articles on food and nutrition (even a lttle wine) I read Eating Well magazine and it seems pretty good. Any other suggestions?

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Who are the best gurus and best resources for "freeing yourself from the 9 to 5 grind"? Everybody and his brother has a book on how to set up an online business and/or multiple streams of income that will allow you to work from anywhere on your own schedule. Who are the best?Right now I'm reading Chris Gillabeau's The $100 Startup and liking it pretty well. I would like to find other resources that would give me ideas, inspiration and encouragement for striking out on my own. Googling is no help, seems like there are a million people who believe they are qualified to teach me how I too, could become successful like them. Amazon's recommendations based on the above book contain a concerningly high number of 2.99 Kindle books. I'm not sure how to sort out the good from the meh. Books, blogs, podcasts... I'm interested in whatever you got. Just trying to get an idea of who is well thought of in the field as opposed to the fly by night guys.

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My wife and I like to take weekends to engage in more complicated (or just time intensive) cooking projects. The problem is that most of my ideas are very meat heavy. I'd like some ideas for vegetarian or just vegetable focused, cooking projects.Either involved, with lots of active time, or just day long cooking projects (like, say, braised short ribs) are fine. Things I can't do after work, and which produce a meal as opposed to something like dessert or bread. Ideally, we like projects that have both a baking and a cooking component, so we can split responsibilities along those lines (she likes to bake, I prefer to cook). For example, we recently made dumplings with me working on the filling and her on the wrappers. Ideas like that would be great. Specific recipes are preferred over generic ideas. The recipes need not be vegan or exclusively vegetarian, but I'd like the focus to be on the vegetable component. Other than that, any ideas are welcome!

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I am 21 and I am going to graduate college soon. I have never had a boyfriend or been asked out before. I am in shape (5'5 and weigh 125 pounds). I feel like guys are not interested in me even when I do try to be social. Should I actually try online dating because I have not met any men being social?The only guys who tend to hit on me are older taxi drivers and occasionally men on the street. But I have never had a guy interested in me by being social (I joined a few clubs and a volunteer organization and I even joined a study program to meet others, I also go to dance clubs although not frequently) and guys at a reasonable age or in a reasonable position (not homeless) don't really seem that interested in me at all. There have been many times when I am next to a cute/interesting guy in a public setting (such as a coffeeshop /sitting on an airplane/grocery store), although not intended for socializing, and he never starts a conversation with me. I think about starting a conversation with them but they look like they aren't interested or they never acknowledge/notice me/just ignore me so I don't even bother. I am starting to think that if I cannot really attract a guy outside online dating, then there must be a problem with me.

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How long does it take for a letter mailed from New York to reach the recipient in DC?If my niece writes a letter to President Obama tonight and I mail it tomorrow morning first thing will it get to him by Friday? Relatedly, does mail sent to outgoing Presidents get forwarded if they arrive after the new President takes office? (if so, can we trust the cheeto's administration to responsibly forward mail or should we assume they will just put anything addressed to Obama in the dumpster?) Thanks.

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My wife and I finally broke down and bought a modern, flat-screen TV. I would like to hang it and hide the wires behind the wall. I know that I can do this with the low-voltage, HDMI cables, but I am wondering if I can run a good commercial-grade extension cord behind the wall as well so that I can hide the TV's power cord. Is this a dangerous/terrible idea?Thanks, as always, for your help.

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British Prime Minister Theresa May confirmed that leaving the EU would mean leaving the single market, and that both Houses of Parliament would get to vote on the deal. If the House of Lords believes it would be bad for Britain to leave the single market, could they prevent Brexit? How likely is this to occur? Could the Commons overrule them in this instance?

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Butterfly takes over Koala Joey's Photoshoot and owns it like a BOSS!

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I've been offered a job at 70k per year (pre tax) located in Manhattan to start in September of this year. I'd like to live as close to midtown as possible, but I'm also aware that rent is very expensive. What are my options for: 1 to 2 roomies, or a studio apartment around 1,200 per month. I'd be fine with up to a 45 minute commute.Other details: My main desire for my neighborhood would be interesting stuff nearby, and a good food scene. Safety and walkability are also obviously important. I would sacrifice more travel time for any of the above. I'd prefer my own bathroom. Feasible at that price? I'd like a kitchen, but don't care how small it is. No car, no plans of getting one. No pets. No medical considerations. No allergies. I'll also be starting on my student loans, so I would be willing to make sacrifices on living arrangements to pay those down and still enjoy city life. Posted anonymously to keep my online and IRL seperate with the given level of personal detail. If clarification is necessary I can make a burner email.

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I just learned that some people I consider friends only befriended me in order to pursue my best friend romantically. Where do I go from here? A veritable flurry inside.Me: A socially anxious, chronically ill twenty-something geek. No romantic relationships since high school, due to health reasons. Her: Poetic, noble, land mermaid. The Ann Perkins to my Leslie Knope. Best friends for nearly ten years, roommate for most of those. Them: I have been blessed this past year with some fantastic friendships based out of a common hobby I'm new to. I've never been happier in terms of my social life. I've always been a socially anxious introvert, so finding a large group of loving, kind people has been both strange and amazing in so many ways. She and I found this group together, and have really developed (What I thought) were some great friendships. The group ranges from 8 years old (member's kids) to late 50s, give or take, and includes husbands, wives, single people, different races, religions, orientations- it's a great community. I love the group as a whole, and it's generally not problematic at all. Now: So this past weekend, a friend asked her out. And a second friend came to me to cry because they had been beaten to the punch. Through a series of related events it was confirmed that I was considered her gatekeeper, sort of? In order to get close to her, you had to be friends with me, so they were being extra nice to me in order to get on her good side. (This isn't something I'd ever encouraged, wanted to encourage, or even thought about). Double-edged: I'd been kind of crushing on one of them, and thought they returned my feelings. Turns out, they were using me to get to her. I don't know what to do with this. I'm hurting, a bit, but feel silly about it. Should I feel happy they wanted my approval? Or used? I have all these conflicting feelings about it, and I don't want to go to my usual sounding board because I also don't know what to say to my best friend about this- How might she feel about this? She deserves her happiness at the date offer/s, and I don't want to shit on that excitement. On the other hand- shouldn't she know this going in? I've been ignoring texts from the two individuals all weekend, but likely have to face them again this week at an event I run. Due to group commitments and other stuff, I'll continue to see them over the next, oh, forever. Is time the only thing that's going to help this hurt, or is there something else I can do?

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. Since the first time we had sex, he kept losing his erection. I thought it was just nerves but things never got better.We waited about 7 dates to have sex. We made out from date 1 and were hot and heavy, all over each other. It seemed like we had a lot of physical chemistry. I wanted to wait a bit for sex and seemed OK with my decision. He would literally kiss me all over and people were telling us to get the room. He kept telling me how attracted he is to me and how he felt butterflies every time we touched. Then the first time we had sex, he was unable to maintain his erection. The next morning, we managed to do it and he ejaculated which was the only time he ever did. Things got worse and not from the lack of trying. Most evenings, he can't even get an erection no matter what I do and in the mornings, it's on and off and he never even came close to "finishing". Yes he tends to have a few drinks in the evenings but he is still reasonably young and in shape and the alcohol should evaporate by the morning. We tried doggy and different positions but no luck. The thing is, he told me that he never had this problem before unless he was blind drunk. He assures me that he finds me sexy and is not nervous. I know I am attractive and none of my previous boyfriends had this problem. What to do? My electric attraction to him is disappearing rapidly each time we fail to do it.

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