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Potty-Mouthed Princesses Drop F-Bombs For Feminism (YouTube; NSFW), FCKH8's new video campaign, has gone viral - attracting both praise & criticism. FCKH8's campaigns have sparked similar mixed reactions before. This Buzzfeed link relates in detail the content of the FCKH8 video without audio (therefore more SFW): "What's more offensive? A little girl saying 'fuck' or the fucking unequal and sexist way society treats girls and women?" Pigtail Pals Ballcap Buddies reacts on Facebook: I have a lot of folks sending me the cursing princesses video asking for my thoughts. When a friend sent it to me on Tuesday my response was this: "Well, I love the message and the girls are spot on as they deliver it. At the same time, they are being used as props. Those aren't their thoughts or words, they are a schtick. It is funny because it is so wrong that it is right, but in general adults using kids as puppets makes me uncomfortable." Then I learned the video was meant to sell t-shirts, I was distracted when I first viewed it and I didn't realize it was an advertisement. This is not the first provocative ad from FCKH8, whose adverts have gotten them in hot water before (using Ferguson kids to sell racism t-shirts). Now it just feels icky to me. Here's the thing at some point I hope people understand --- Using the exploitation of girls to further exploit girls is not empowerment. Girls, on their own, are quite powerful and many are passionate about issues of inequality, violence, and general societal mistreatment. I'm raising an eight year old just like that. But you know, she's able to make her own case, formulate her own argument, and USE HER OWN VOICE. If you spent time talking with girls, you'd find this to be true of many of them. When we have adults scripting and slickly producing a video meant to shock rock itself into viral fame, we aren't empowering girls and we certainly aren't liberating anyone. Feminism works when the message is heard, not argued over. So you can think this video is great and you can think girls dropping f-bombs is no big deal and you can clap and squeal at these adorable little feminists......as long as you see the video for what it is: child actors repeating memorized lines about some very serious topics (they may not even understand) so that a company can make money. further reaction at Women You Should Know: FCKH8's "F-Bomb Princess" Video Isn't Offensive... It's Exploitative FCKH8 had another recent campaign attract controversy: Hey White People: A Kinda Awkward Note to America by #Ferguson Kids by FCKH8.com (YouTube video link) Colorlines: This is the T-Shirt Company Making Money Off of Ferguson DailyDot: Clothing company FCKH8 gets hate for anti-racism Ferguson T-shirt The issue of FCKH8's "attention-getting style" has always been a source of conflict with the marginalized groups it attempts to represent. Both as a for-profit business and as a fundraising organization, FCKH8's main goal is to promote itself and sell more products. Inevitably, this causes some friction with non-profit campaigners who demand a more nuanced discussion of race, gender and sexuality... There's no doubt that FCKH8 donates significant amounts of money to worthy causes. But by simplifying issues such as the Ferguson protests, anti-black racism and LGBT discrimination into marketable T-shirt slogans, FCKH8 can expect to see more of this type of backlash in the future. further reaction from ChescaLeigh: FCKH8 Continues To Be Awful, Demands An Apology & Accuses Colorlines Of Being Homophobic (ChescaLeigh previously on MeFi with Shit White Girls Say... To Black Girls) on tumblr: stopfckh8 FCKH8 previously on MeFi for their Straight Talk On Gay Marriage video: Some Dudes Marry Dudes, Get Over It

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I want your book recommendations. I have just finished watching the first season of The Americans, a TV series about two Russian spies who live as an American couple with two children during the Cold War, and was surprised that I loved it a lot. I want more of that, but I don't usually love this kind of tv series. So I thought, instead of looking for other tv shows like this, I could try to find some books that I like.What I like about The Americans is that there is both spying and family life and the glimpses on what being a spy who lives like this does to people. I also like the moral ambiguity. There aren't really any "good guys" in the series, but on the other hand, the "bad guys" are still often likeable (so far). Usually when tv shows are more about character development than plot I often find them becoming boring or cliched but I like it in this show. Normally I also don't like tv with a lot of violence at all, but I'm okay with it here. Still, I don't want anything that is super explicitly and or graphically violent or too suspenseful. This is really important and one reason why I never really looked into this genre before and why I don't want to just search for a list of popular spy novels and prefer your recommendations. I also want a book with realistic and strong women characters. The main character doesn't have to be a woman, but the book should definitely pass the Bechdel test as an absolute minimum.

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Please tell me the most Dad thing your dad has ever done

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My 10 year old has developed and itchy scalp. Her scalp looks normal, there's no rash, no flaking, just a constant itch that has gotten so bad that it's now disrupting her sleep.We've racked our brains, trying to determine why this is happening, but cannot figure it out. After we tried a couple of high end, natural shampoos, that didn't help, so we took her to see her doctor who had no idea what the problem might be and simply suggested that we try Selsun Medicated shampoo. This has not helped either. We are at a loss and are now contemplating seeing a dermatologist but hope to find a less costly remedy.

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Hello, I'm looking for some good French podcasts that aren't simply radio broadcasts, but are more conversational/comedy/interview in style. I'm thinking of podcasts like: Judge John Hodgeman, WTF, Filmspotting, Comedy Bang Bang, Savage Lovecast, Lexicon Valley, My Brother my brother and me. Does such a thing even exist in France? I'd appreciate some help if you know of anything!

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A prolific vandal has defiled natural features in at least ten US National Parks. And then posted about it on social media. Reddit is on the case.

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"Photographer Pete Thorne has discovered that, just as photographing the elderly can make for powerful portraits, the same can be said for old dogs as well. His "Old Faithful" photo series takes a warm and intimate look at man's best friends as they live out their golden years."

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I need a high end sophisticated asian dining experiance in Central London / zone 1.

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Russell Edson was a prose poet whose poetry had the "the sustained wackiness of old Warner Brothers cartoons." When he passed away this year Charles Simic wrote in appreciation of his work, as did J. Robert Lennon, whose article included two audio clips of Edson reading. In interviews, Edson spoke with the same mix of seriousness and humor as he did in his poetry. Here are two interviews, one with Peter Johnson [pdf] and another with Mark Tursi. But, of course, the important thing is his poetry, so here are a few examples: 1, 2, 3. And finally, here's a video of him reading (starts after the 9th minute). [Edson previously. I especially recommend reading the linked appreciation by Sarah Manguso.]

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I am a recent college graduate who's been interested in combining interests in science and engineering with business. I would love to get into something entrepreneurial, but am not sure how.I recently finished a combined bachelor/Masters degree in chemical engineering; my research projects were related to synthetic chemistry/materials science and biotechnology. I've been working as a research assistant at my old university for the last few months, but I'm looking to make a longer term move soon. I feel like I have a lot of options. I could get a job at a traditional chemical engineering company or pursue a purely academic route in the field. However, I've always had an interest in entrepreneurship. I'd love to get involved in a startup or small company and to one day start something myself. I am really passionate about my field and would love to combine it with something entrepreneurial. However, I'm not entirely what the best path is to do that. Two options I've been considering for the immediate future are applying for PhD or getting a job. I was thinking about the PhD because it seems like that could potentially give me an opportunity to do research which could lead to something useful. I've read a few case studies of founders commercializing their PhD work, which would be great if reproducible. But, it do this, it seems to me like you'd have to somehow pick a topic which is very easily translated to something commercializable (which is not entirely clear how to do) and would have to get lucky that it works. I don't know if there's a way to kind of stack of the odds in my favor there. I've really enjoyed the inventive/research process that I've been a part of previous my degree, and so thought the PhD might be a good way to continue to do that. Moreover, it seems like even if the commercialization idea didn't work out, perhaps I could use the expertise gained during my PhD to get into research in an entrepreneurial company? I was also considering the idea of working off the bat, instead of doing more study. Perhaps a smaller company would be good, but potentially working for a larger company could provide valuable experience. Ultimately I suppose I'd really like to start something myself. My only concern would be whether jumping into a job would give me the opportunity to do that. I feel like have a pretty solid resume, and good recommendations, so feel like I could go in a lot of directions. I'd just like to take the one that gives me the most options to potentially do something entrepreneurial and innovative. Any advice on what I should think about in this case would be much appreciated.

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I'm looking for interesting coding-project suggestions, preferably, but not necessarily, for execution in Python, ObjectiveC, or Unity.Many moons ago, I studied computer science. Having changed course and graduated with a major in Something Else (TM), I want to get back into the groove. One of the best ways to motivate self-learning is a fun project with a clear goal. Do you have any suggestions for a project (and associated language, editor, environment, etc. to use)? Or possibly a free mooc-like/tutorial-set that is engaging & educational? I have previously studied C++ (and later, played around with Arduino), Java, SML, Lisp, & Scheme, relatively superficially; I am maybe at intermediate-student level, but comfortable with the core concepts. I am interested in learning Python, Objective C, or Unity, but am open to other suggestions. Looking for specific non-generic suggestions: Tetris & Pong are great and all, but, maybe you remember something special and awesome from your time as a code-grasshopper. e.g. in one intro class, I did a project that visually and aurally demo'd the various kinds of array sorting algorithms, using colored bars of varied length correlated with the notes of a scale. It was a fun to make, and very satisfying to observe.

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I am in my mid-thirties, but people often think I'm about 22. I could probably pass for 17 in the right outfit. Young face. On top of that, I am slightly built and female. Not short, but delicate. People call me honey and baby and ask me where I go to college. I want to look like a badass who can win venture capital funding. I want to look as powerful and effective as I really am.I am a bit out of the loop in term of what might be appropriate when pitching for venture capital in a field related to health and health technology. I am a bit out of loop on professional dressing in general. I recently recovered from a lengthy chronic illness and I am starting a new company now. I am putting a wardrobe together and I am trying to decipher some style rules. I hear about "pops of color" everywhere when I read about what to wear to business meetings. I am afraid color makes me look younger and sillier. Also, the thought of tying a small, colorful scarf around my neck makes me cringe. It doesn't feel like "me". I am really drawn to black and grey with gold toned accessories, to feel and appear grounded and serious. I am drawn to slightly androgynous looks like: http://static.zara.net/photos//2014/I/0/1/p/8181/222/706/2/w/1024/8181222706_1_1_1.jpg?timestamp=1413535178835 or:http://static.zara.net/photos//2014/I/0/1/p/7248/226/806/2/w/1024/7248226806_1_1_1.jpg?timestamp=1410777952366 I really prefer more modern style clothing, kind of architectural, like this http://minimalissimo.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/zara1.jpg and traditional outfits involving complete suits and scarves. I know that photo has a red shirt, but I like it in this case. When I read about pitching to venture capitalists, some people say wear a complete suit. Other people say wear sophisticated separates. Some people say don't dress up too much or look too nice. Be the genius guy in the hoodie. How conservative and formal do I need to appear? Any other tips for how I come across? For reference I am thin, medium height, long limbs. Very feminine in the delicate sense, rather than in the curvy sense. I am a creative, science-oriented person and will play the role of strategist in the new company. I'm looking to dress in a way that acts as a foil to my apparent smallness and youthfullness. Thanks!

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What are the odds that applying triple antibiotic ointment every month is going to breed antibiotic-resistant bacteria on my skin? I also have access to iodine and chlorhexidine. Would it help to use one of those instead? Or maybe rotate between them?I have an ingrown toenail that sometimes gets inflamed and tender. A few times a year, it won't resolve with a few nights of saltwater soaking, and then I apply some triple antibiotic ointment daily for two or three days. At this point, I expect to have to do this for the rest of my life. Other ingrown toenail advice is also welcomed.

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Photoshop Elements 8 will not import RAW files from my (new) camera, a Nikon D7100. The error message states that they are the wrong type of file. The same file type is imported without trouble from the unit it replaces (Nikon D40). What is causing this?

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I'm having some photos professionally taken and I would like to get them printed in a small, ideally pocket Moleskine-sized book. Where can I make that happen?The book/album will be a gift for someone who doesn't have a lot of space for clutter, and would likely want to keep it on his person as much as possible. The little 3.5"x5.5" pocket Moleskine books are perfect (even the cover, basic black, faux-leathery). I'd be highly surprised if I needed more than a dozen or so pages. I'm picturing a portrait orientation in my head, but I could settle for landscape if that's all that's possible. I've looked around at the usual suspects for online photo book making: Snapfish, Shutterfly, Lulu, and nobody seems to make anything smaller than a 5x7. One photographer that I contacted can make order books as small at 5x5, and I might consider that as a compromise, but the price is steep (as is typical for professional albums) -- $450 for 20 pages. I guess my secondary question is: What am I paying for when I spend $500 vs. $30 for the "equivalent" from Shutterfly?

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I was traveling through Central Europe last month and stayed in some pretty cool hostels. The staff were really cool and hung out with you, and were more like friends than your typical hostel staff. One thing I noticed is that most of them just landed there. Some have been there 3 months with the intention to stay another 6, some have been there a year. They just happened to visit for a few days and then started working at the hostel. My question: how is this done? I have a hard time believing they could get a work visa for this sort of thing, or does that exist? Or do people that do this just come on your typical 90-day tourist entry and illegally stay longer and just deal with the consequences when they leave?

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What products can I use to make transplanted hair look softer, flatter and less shiny?I have gotten 2 hair transplant procedures by a top doctor and it has succeeded in filling in the front half of my hairline and vertex, which is great. But, the hair itself is a bit coarser than it should look for someone who is obviously thinning. I don't mind the "thinning look", as I'm in my 40s, but I'd like the hair to be less spiky and a bit softer and flatter. The effect I'm talking about also looks overly shiny in certain lights, also. It would look better if it was more dull, actually. Not washing it doesn't look so hot, so are there also styling products to make it look duller on purpose? Bees wax, etc?

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Within the last 6 months I saw on the web an explanation of different countries/cultures styles of argument/discussion. It included simple graphical representation of the styles. They were line drawings with a horizontal (landscape) layout.The lines diverged to show each side taking a different position, then ran parallel to show their separation. The area between the lines was a word or short phrase describing the process or stage of the argument. At the right hand of the graph, the 2 lines converged, indicating conclusion. I *think* it was linked from metafilter or boingboing, but my google-fu skills have failed me. I've found leadership styles shown graphically, but that's not what I'm looking for.

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Hi! I'm hosting a dinner party. One of the attendees is a professional chef. MeFi, what do I feed my guests?I'm really decent at comfort food of the Southern persuasion, and I'm pretty good at throwing ingredients and spices together and getting an enjoyable result. However, I'm no trained cuisiniere extraordinaire, and I'm a little intimidated by the chefly credentials of this particular dinner party guest. Ultimately, I know it's the hospitality and thought that really matter. Plus, my chef friend is fantastic in general, and definitely not the kind of person who would criticize or nitpick or comment on how hmm, innnnnteresting it is that I opted to stir the roux in a counterclockwise direction. Nevertheless, I really want to ditch my usual weeknight comfort food and pull out all the stops to impress my dinner companions with my culinary prowess and creativity in presentation and flavor. So, friends, I come to you for cuisine suggestions for a group of 6-10. What are your dinner-party go-to's? Do you have any menus you've put together for past soirees, or deceptively simple recipes that look and taste phenomenal? As a token of my gratitude for your generous input, please accept 1,000 bonus points and these adorable red pandas. As always, thanks for reading!

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I'm not at all a gamer, and have only really played a small number of video games in the past. But I'm craving something new to try, and am looking for recommendations.In the past 5 years, about the only games I have played have been racing games (like Gran Turismo) and Tiger Woods PGA Tour, and with those I'll play maybe two or three weekends in a row every few months. Video games are something I dabble in on occasion, but don't devote much time to. When I was a kid I was into Super Mario Brothers, Zelda, and Metroid, and when I was a bit older I liked the newer Mario games and Banjo Kazooie on the N64 (that was maybe my favorite game of all time). But I really never got into any of the super popular games like World of Warcraft, Halo, Call of Duty, Grand Theft Auto, etc. (or Doom or Quake back in the day). In the very brief interactions I've had with those games, it seems like they're very hard for someone who is a non-gamer to learn and understand (but maybe I'm just dense). OR they really reward you for playing several hours a day, which I don't usually have time for. I say all of that to give you background, but I am VERY open to trying completely new types of games. In fact, that's really what I'm looking for. I want something different. I just also need it to be something that I can get into without banging my head against the wall too much, and that I can play for relatively short stints intermittently. Those are my only requirements (well, and that it be available for PS3, because I'm not buying a new console any time soon). So, please tell me what you recommend and why you like it (or why you think I will like it)!

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What , if any, voice recognition software would be suitable for a child who has issues writing? How do you make it work for in-class assignments? How well does IOS Dragon work?My 8 year old son has "visual motor" problems, which means that he has difficulty turning his thoughts into written word. Verbally, he can explain a concept ... to death. But for writing, the output becomes short, with no subject to the sentence and no elaboration. He resists using the keyboard and learning to type, though I'm sure that will come eventually. So, I'm thinking it's time to try dictation software, most likely Dragon Naturally Speaking. I know he needs to learn to use the software effectively (any hacks welcome) but I also I have a few technical questions. We use Macs at home (iPhone, iPad, Mac computers). The school can make a PC available to him. So, in order to use software, I guess we'd need to buy Mac software, left him take a device to school, and use in class. But then, how do we get the work product OUT of the device and onto paper the teacher can grade? They use Google docs, so maybe he can access through device and have teacher print it out? Any advice on making it possible for my son to use dictation software effectively at school, or recommendations for something better than Dragon for IOS are welcome.

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My ex has suddenly decided he wants to parent again. He got a bit screwed when it came to holidays and summer because based on his behavior during our marriage and the divorce he wouldn't be bothered. Anyways he says he has a lawyer and is going to send me papers to sign to lower his monthly child support payment and adjust holiday visits because he is making less money than when we got divorced. This is likely true he had the best job he has ever had aside from the military when we were getting divorced. What makes no sense is why he didn't lower it over a year ago (wait no I'm not surprised because he never does much of anything). He is supposed to be paying $630 a month in child support (in Texas it is 25% of your net income for two kids) It looks like he is currently paying that at about $150 per week. He has paid two payments in the last six months. He owes $13.5k in back child support. He forgot my 6yo's birthday this year, not even a phone call. He tried to make up for it by sending a gift that wasn't age appropriate even though I said what we need is him to pay child support to help with school costs not more toys. I want to think that this is him growing up finally but this is more likely him just trying to manipulate me to benefit himself or his family is pressuring him (which would be a huge surprise because while we lived in the same state I can count on two hands the amount of times they asked to see the kids). My 4yo does not know his dad, not from picture, voice on the phone or video. Both kids refer to my current partner as their dad not that they were asked to or anything but because he has been more of a father figure than their bio-dad ever was even during our marriage. Now that he is wanting to be more present it is making me worry. -4yo doesn't know him -hasn't seen the kids in person since Nov 2012 -doesn't communicate with the kids on their birthdays -is less than interested in them when he has called all 3 times this year -I had to call CPS because he was leaving the kids outside alone on a third story balcony that my at the time youngest could fit through the bars. CPS just warned him he continued to do it. -owes $13.5k child support I cannot afford the best lawyer there is. We live in separate states, him Texas..me and kids South Carolina. What should I do? What resources are available to me? How do I explain this to my kids and protect them from being forced to visit a stranger and to be in a potentially dangerous situation.

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Help me find a good LA spot for a birthday shindig!My birthday is coming up in a few weeks and I sent out a general Facebook "save-the-date" invite, but now I need to find a venue. This is just a general gathering (think mass-invite) to make merry with friends, so there's no sit-down dinner or anything involved. I'm looking for a bar or lounge or something that is not too demanding (really restrictive dress code or cover), and neat themes or fun stuff like photo booths are also appreciated. If the place has a back room or something that I can reserve that'd also be good--not everyone will fit, but it'd be nice to have at least a small section just for us. I considered Golden Road--which would be about as casual as I'd want it to get--and EightyTwo, Thirsty Crow, Bar Covell, etc. Someplace like Perch is probably too expensive/too much hassle. I thought I'd ask the hivemind for suggestions. So what's your favorite hangout or place to chill? Any suggestions in the Glendale/Eagle Rock/Silverlake/Los Feliz/Downtown area are welcome!

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Tomorrow I get my new iphone 6. What is the most indestructible case I can buy?I seriously should not be given small breakable things. Im finally giving up my iphone 4 which is practically a glorified brick, for a brand new shiny iphone 6 tomorrow. Now, I'm the person who would be the one to drop it as it comes out of the box (not kidding, I have done this). My current iphone has only survived because I saw the video of someone throwing it off a bridge in a Griffen Survivor case, and thought "yup, thats about right for my needs." I went online today to order a new Survivor, only to see that the reviews were very mixed, and I started looking at Otterboxes and Specks and have gotten myself totally overwhelmed. Requirements: Unbreakable. Rubber grippy sides so i don't throw or drop it from slipping Not Requirements: Size: Ive gotten used to not fitting my phone in my pocket Prettiness. So Metafilter, what is my best option besides just duct taping it to my hand and hoping for the best?

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Brushed off weird bugbites once over the summer, just woke up with them again, worried about bedbugs and trying to figure out what to do about it, if anything.Back in late July/early August I noticed what looked like bug bites on my leg that started itching on my way to work and got worse over the course of the morning. These were three bites that popped up on my left knee and front of my ankle. They started as red welts a little smaller than a dime, but within a day or two a little bump raised up in the middle, and they itched like crazy for days even with topical benadryl. (They don't look like hives I've had before, and I know you can't jump straight to bedbugs from what look like bug bites, but FWIW.) Nothing happened after that, and after checking for a week or two I couldn't see anything in my bedding or on/around/under my mattress that looked hinky, so I chalked it up to some weird bug bite I'd gotten hanging out in a park the night before, and kind of forgot about it. Fast forward to this week, I started itching on the way to work, and by mid-morning noticed six more of the same kind of bites, on my left shin and the back of my calf. Same deal, raised red welts that itch like crazy. My paranoid side is worried about bedbugs, but I neither want to be an alarmist nor in total denial. Also, I'm in an apartment building and wouldn't want anything to affect my neighbors (or get out of control in my own apartment.) Still no actual sign of bugs of any kind. I'm slathering on the Benadryl and I'm going to try the double-sided tape on the bed legs tonight, but it was months between anything happening last time, so who knows what that will turn up. So, in the meantime: 1. Do I tell my apartment management? (This seems weird at this point but I want to be a good neighbor and such?) 2. Will they expect me to have seen a doctor (or done anything else) first? 3. Am I way off base here? Could I just have one little bedbug that hitched a ride from somewhere and only gets hungry every couple of months, or some other type of bug altogether? 4. Either way, what do I do for now? Thanks much in advance.

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