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I'm a hobbyist photographer on a very fixed income. My camera is Nikon D3100, which I bought used for $300. Last fall it survived my apartment fire, and I think there's some discoloration from smoke damage. Don't know if I should repair (if so, where? And how much would it cost?) or replace (if so, with what?) I would love some help deciding if repairs would be worth it and, if not, suggestions on models that are good for newbies and are also affordable used.

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Ever since spring weather arrived in Brooklyn, there's been a single large bee patrolling my 3rd floor balcony. (1) What's the deal with this bee - where can I read more about its lifestyle? And (2) can I gently discourage it and its kind from hanging out and buzzing around my head when I want to sit out in the sun? It mostly ignores me when I'm out there, but I feel watched the whole time.It's about the size and shape of a jelly bean (full-size, not a puny jelly belly) with a glossy rear end with barely visible stripes, and fuzzy yellow shoulders. It hovers over the exact center of the deck, slowly rotating, all day. Occasionally a similar bee will approach, they will tussle (or shake hands, I don't know, it happens really fast), zoom off somewhere, and seconds later one bee will come back and resume the patrol. I've been assuming it's the same bee coming back, but maybe it's a shift change or the winner of the wrestling match. In previous springs here i haven't seen this particular bee behavior.

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When calling landline to landline, I have no trouble hearing every word that's said. Meanwhile, my friend just called someone to give an ETA and ended up shouting NATO phonetic alphabet into a smart phone that can stream 1080p video. After he hung up, he admitted that he hated talking on telephones because one party or the other always needed something repeated. Why is mobile call quality so terrible? Why do people not demand this (in the economic sense)?I realize on my eight year old flip phone with some $10 a month plan, this will be some sordid story of poor-quality microphones feeding noisy signal onto under-provisioned networks via an excessively lossy encoder running on wimpy hardware. But my friend tells me that even if I were willing to shell out for a latest-generation handset and high-end service plan, I just cannot buy anything like the call quality I get on my 1960s model 500 rotary-dial.

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I Was An Admistrator At A Fading DC Brothel

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I'm working with a psychiatrist to try antidepressants for anxiety in combination with my ongoing work with a therapist. He's started me on a low dose of Cymbalta and says I may need to try a variety of antidepressants before I find out what works. If you take medications for mood/anxiety, how do you track their effects on you to figure out if something is working or not?I have anxiety and my sense of my mental well-being changes a lot depending on what I'm currently anxious about. (For example, if I'm walking in nature and feeling beatific, I might feel like LIFE IS AMAZING AND WONDERFUL, and feel like anxiety is not a problem. But then an hour later and I get a terse email from my boss I'm like ALERT ALERT DISASTER PANIIIIIIIC WE'RE ALL GONNA DIIIIIE.) I'm very moody and emotional and tend to lose perspective very easily about things that happen outside of my control. If you have anxiety, how do you track your intangible feelings to see if medication is actually working? I understand that it will be pretty simple to track side effects like headaches, sex drive, etc. But moods and panic are fleeting. Is there a way to log my moods so that when I see the psychiatrist next I can tell him how I've been feeling? Or, do you track tangible effects only, like sleep quality, tightness in your back, tingly hands, instances of lost temper? Bonus points for strategies that involve apps, alarms, etc. so that I'm not just relying on my own willpower. Thanks in advance!! Trying not to be too anxious about anxiety medication... :/ Throwaway email: [email protected]

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On April 29 the World Health organization declared North and South America to be free of rubella after the last reported endemic case in Argentina in 2009. The New York Times discusses the history of rubella eradication in the Americas and the case of Gene Tierney, an actress who caught the disease while performing a show in 1943.

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Life as a suicide hotline responder. Imgur gallery. Surprisingly, read the comments. If you need help, suicide.org has international listings of helplines. USA: 1.800.784.2433; Canada.

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What font is used in the logo of the Royal Navy of the United Kingdom? Obviously the A is custom, but what's the rest of it? The R has a straight leg and the O is circular. It's not any of the usual suspects (Helvetica, Frutiger, Akzidenz-Grotesk, Gill Sans). It's almost Gotham Black, but not quite, and it's driving me nuts! Help!

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I need some help finding older Germans who would like to be old-fashioned pen-pals. I need to practice my superpowers!I need to find out how I can get an older German pen-pal to practice my German script. They will need to be pretty old, because almost no one learns Kurrent and/or Sütterlin anymore. Does anyone have any ideas or leads? My German isn't very good (vocabulary is passable; grammar all over the place unless I'm really careful), but I am really good at reading/writing the scripts. This would be a good way to practice both things. Backstory: Through a series of events in my childhood I learned how to read and write Kurrent but the German I grew up around is some weird mix of German, Swiss German, English, Yiddish, and whatever else melted into the pot. I've found being around genealogists, librarians, and archivists that no one can read the old script and I am always translating it. Even if I don't know the vocabulary, I can read what the word is. People treat it like a superpower! It's like I'm reading undecipherable runes to them! I'm going to be having a writing workshop on it later this Summer to show other people how to write it, but I'd really like to practice more German communication and it seems like the WWII generation is the last to have learned it. This seems like a great and fun match.

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I just knocked my iPad off the counter where it hit something on the floor that cracked the glass. What's the best way to keep the cracking from getting worse? Besides, of course, not dropping it again.Here Is a pic of the damage. The cracks don't extend into the viewable portion of the screen. Most of the cracking is below the surface and the edges are mostly still intact, except for the center focal point of the cracking, where I can feel the cracks on the surface and there may be very small loose bits of glass. The iPad seems to be otherwise intact and it's generally running fine. What's the best way to keep the cracking from extending? Tape along the edge? Krazy Glue or clear epoxy where the cracks hit the surface? It doesn't seem like it's worth doing a full replacement of the glass yet if I can avoid it and the iPad itself is well within its lifespan.

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Dearest Mefites of the USA, my 21 yo daughter is planning to galavant around your country this Northern Hemisphere summer, and we'd like your input! Any advice/recommendations for things to see, places to go, how to get there, accommodation, etc appreciated. We're yet to book flights, leaving everything pretty much to the last minute. We have friends in San Fran who will likely be her first stop, then after that, all is variable.Her interests include: - Nature - Music - Food, drinking, party - anatomy - Horror/creepy/scary/paranormal history places, museums - Art museums - Amusement Parks **Somewhere to go for July 4th - anything involving fireworks, drinking and fun** Places and Ideas she interested in: New York The Morbid Anatomy Museum 424 Third Ave, in Brooklyn Niagara falls Times Square NY Museum Of Modern Arts Watkins Glen State Park Philadelphia The Mütter Museum Oktoberfest at Brauhaus Schmitz (sep 19, Souh st) Summer Fest Craft Beer and Music Festival (JULY 25) Nigh Market (Aug 6) http://www.visitphilly.com/articles/philadelphia/top-events-festivals-and-exhibitions-coming-to-philadelphia-in-2015/ California Six Flags Magic Mountain Golden Gate Bridge Alcatraz Ripleys Believe it or not Winchester house Interface Aviation Plane parts (Hollistor Cali)
Rainbow Room bar Hollywood Disneyland Las Vegas The Las Vegas Strip Arizona The wave Atelope canyon Grand Canyon Tennessee Beale St - buy a yard of cocktail... (memphis) Texas Hamilton pool FloridaDisney world Florida Keys... anything beach, snorkling, pretty nature stuff VERMONT! The Scully's summer party thing is a must go to.

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I recently bought a pair of Aftershokz bone conduction headphones, with the express purpose of using these to listen to podcasts, audiobooks etc. without shutting out the sounds of the world around me when hiking. As hoped, they work brilliantly, so I'm now looking for new ideas of what to listen to when spending quality alone time surrounded by nature.I live in the Alps, with a huge array of mountain, forest and meadow terrain right outside my door. Part of the joy of hiking for me has always been the sounds of wind and leaves and birdsong - shutting that out with in-ear headphones has never appealed. These headphones sit in front of the ears and conduct sound through the cheekbones, leaving the ears open to ambient noise. Their principal marketing line is that this makes them safer to wear for e.g. running or cycling in urban areas. They're not amazing quality-wise for music, but spoken word is a revelation - they give the impression that the narrator is talking to you whilst walking alongside, just out of sight, their voice naturally mixed with environmental sounds. So... this opens up a whole new chunk of time I can use to listen to things. But a lot of what I currently listen to - mainly history / philosophy books and podcasts and episodes of In Our Time - when doing housework can be a bit too dry or hard to concentrate on whilst taking in the world around me... hence this question. Please let me know anything you think would work well in the setting I describe. Non-fiction about the natural world, geology, weather, landscape etc. would be awesome, but I'm also completely open to other non-fiction areas, fiction, drama, poetry... Expressive, engaging narrators obviously a big plus, but I know this is a massively subjective requirement. Podcasts, radio shows, audiobooks all equally welcome. I do have an Audible (UK) account so anything available there would be a bonus.

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I'm in the market for new sound isolating earphones. I had Shure SE210 earphones for a few years which did really well (and were chosen on a Metafilter recommendation) but now I need a replacement.What I liked about the Shure SE210: - sound isolation was great - this is important as I normally use them on long flights and on rattley Tube journeys - I liked the over-ear loop you have to do to get them to settle in your ear - I liked the sound quality - they were mostly comfortable (see proviso below) What I didn't like about them: - they stuck out of my ears so I couldn't comfortably lie on my side or doze on aeroplane journeys. I'd prefer something a little smaller and less sticky-outy. - they had a weird bulky extension lead point about 15 cm down. - the cable got damaged twice just by the earphones, once in warranty and once (just now) when out of warranty. So something with a replaceable cable would be great but the extension point on the SE210 was really useless. - my ears did feel tired if I'd had them in a while. I'm prepared to compromise on this one since I expect it comes with good sound isolation. Other points: I'm not a mad audiophile, and dedicated audio boards on the internet scare me, but I do appreciate good sound. I'm prepared to go up to £200/ $280 but would rather stay in the £100/ $150 range. I can buy from the UK or from the US, though UK is preferred for ease and speed. I'm old fashioned enough to use them with an ipod nano rather than a phone, so mic and cord controls are not really priorities. I would happily stay with Shure particularly if the size issue was resolved, but welcome other suggestions.

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I've been in therapy for PTSD since October 2014 with a therapist who is trained in gestalt therapy. I'm feeling confused, angry and anxious about therapy and I'm trying to figure out whether this is something is should work through with my current therapist or whether it is a sign to change therapists. More detail below.I've been in therapy before while I was studying abroad, for approx. 4 months. No particular issues there, but I did not go as deep in those sessions. This is my first time in therapy for an indefinite duration. Some therapy sessions with my current therapist have been very helpful: I've been able to talk about some issues whilst staying present instead of checking out, some weeks my anxiety diminished considerably, I've taken steps to talk about my trauma with family. But sometimes I will talk and the therapist's response leaves me feeling very alone or blamed/shamed or belittled. I will mostly bring up feeling this way during the session or in the next one, but most of the times (though not always) the conversation that follows leaves me feeling equally distressed and also confused or manipulated. My therapist will express that they feel bad that they made me feel this way and we try to examine why I feel this way. The conclusion though generally seems to be that I am projecting. They also mentioned a few times that I would likely feel the same way if I changed therapists. When I bring up that this second conversation makes me feel confused or manipulated this results in the same discussion, with the same outcome for me. I also have sessions where at the end and for days/weeks after I feel sad/anxious/angry because the things I discussed are horrific, sad or anger inducing. The situation I described above feels different from these sessions. Is it normal that (as a PTSD sufferer) therapy makes me feel this way? At this point I don't trust my own assessment of the situation and I don't trust my therapist in discussing this. Would changing therapists help or is it important that I work through this with my current therapist? I would love to hear an outsiders opinion or experience if you've been in a similar situation.

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... and linked an innocent man to a 20-year-old murder case. Analysis by the EFF of the case of Michael Usry, a New Orleans filmmaker whose father's DNA profile in a non-profit DNA database, which he had been assured would remain private, dragged him into a grisly unsolved murder case. This new search for evidence in the murder of Angie Dodge seems to have been spurred by questions about the conviction of another man, Chris Tapp, for the crime. The DNA found at the scene doesn't match him either, and there may have been police misconduct in the investigation. --- We've talked about familial DNA profiling before, when it was used to find the Grim Sleeper serial killer and, controversially, the killer of Yara Gambirasio. We've also discussed the Phantom of Heilbronn, the mysterious one-woman crime spree who turned out to be a worker at a factory making cotton swabs for evidence collection.

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The post on Genesis the other day reminded me about a TV documentary series I saw which focused on a different band's video clips each week. I'm pretty sure Genesis and Duran Duran were both covered. Googling hasn't helped me. Initially I thought it might have been Classic Albums, but they never covered Genesis. Does anyone know what series this might have been?

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Shit People say to Women [film] Directors. Tumblr - Exactly as described. The first part of their About page states: SHIT PEOPLE SAY TO WOMEN DIRECTORS is an anonymous open blog for any female-identifying individual to submit personal accounts of absurd, offensive, threatening, or downright fucked-up "shit" people have said to you while working in the film business. If you Google Best [Film] Directors Google shows you a sea of men. The second part of the ShitPeoplSayToWomenDirectors About pages states: This space is designed for catharsis and to raise awareness about the barriers women face in the film industry. Along with directors, we welcome stories from women in all positions including writers, producers, actors, production designers, cinematographers, assistant directors, art directors — you name it — if you're a female working in film or television and you have a story to share, we want to hear from you! NOTE: YOUR IDENTITY IS PROTECTED. BE SURE TO SUBMIT YOUR STORY/RANT/THOUGHTS ANONYMOUSLY. -Anonymous Women In Film P.S. Please do not hesitate to send questions or feedback. [email protected] Unchallenged sexism and misogyny within the Film industry (behind the camera) isn't often discussed for many reasons. One commenter to the tumblr blog stated: "I really want to be a TV writer and director and this is kind of killing my spirit." The tumblr blog maintainers responded thus: We will let another woman who wrote to us (with nearly 30 years experience as a director on high profile projects) respond to you: "Directors don't often meet each other, so the conversation virtually never happens, and to tell the truth, I never ever want to tell these stories out loud because I believe that it manifests the problem, and people see the chip on your shoulder. So the fact that it's anonymous is the only reason I'm participating. My hope has always been that I help by making great work which therefore exists and cannot be denied, and then the next generation doesn't get taught the sexism in the first place. Sexism is taught, not innate." Kathryn Bigelow was the first woman director to win an Oscar, and that was for The Hurt Locker in 2008. Indiewire decided to investigate why women don't seem to be handed the Directors reins on big budget action movies Indiewire notes that, not only does there seem to be fewer women involved in the control positions of blockbuster movies, but numbers of women directors overall appears to be shrinking. "Female directors of top-grossing films have decreased in the last 13 years, with female helmers clocking in at just 4.1 percent of directors across the 1,300 top movies in this time frame. This calculates into a gender ratio of 23.3 male directors to every 1 female" After original choice Michelle MacLaren (who has previously worked on Game Of Thrones and The Leftovers, and Breaking Bad to name only a few projects) left the upcoming DC Wonder Woman live action film project over creative differences, Warner Brothers appeared to struggle to find another woman to replace her in the directors chair. Zoe Margolis - primarily known now as a sex blogger and journalist - previously worked in the Film industry and outlined in the Guardian newspaper what a toxic working environment film studio environments can be if you are a woman. The Women Directors In Hollywood blog discusses the problems that women have experienced with the DGA Directors Guild of America. In January of 2015, Slate Magazine asked "Are Oscars Biased Against Female Directors?". Slate magazine concluded that it's not the Oscars in isolation, but a systematic issue that disadvantages women who work in the film insdustry: The central problem is that female directors and their work are so disadvantaged across the board in Hollywood, from mentorship to funding to awards. Metacritic has a (by no means, definitive) list of "Best Woman Directors" (as measured by many different metrics), but it's from 2010 - so currently five years out old. On a more positive note, here are some resources specifically for, or about female filmakers: Wikipedia has a long list of notable female directors in motion picture and televisual arts Sistersincinema.com - African American film directors list The Woman Make Movies site has a international list of resources for Women film makers from all backgrounds Femaledirectors.com - mostly US centric site Finally the Geena Davies institute looks at addressing gender bias in children's programming specifically Also very recent previously on the same topic ..

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Pitcain Island is one of the most remote communities in the world, a five-square-kilometre volcanic outcrop in the Pacific Ocean almost 6000 kilometres from the nearest continent. It has a population of less than 50 people, many of whom can trace thier family history to the HMS Bounty mutineers and their Polynesian partners. You can immigrate, but if you don't want to do that (or visit) you can enjoy Google Streetview, or read one of the two local publications for some local colour. Previously.

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I'm looking for a desktop (tower) PC of solid quality that can be purchased and delivered to my house for less than $1000 in Sydney, Australia. Can you recommend any?I would be using it primarily for programming work, doing stuff in Photoshop and Illustrator, and watching downloaded TV shows and movies. I would like it to run a Windows OS (7 or 8 are fine). It should not have to come with a monitor, keyboard, or mouse. It should have at least 6 USB ports inbuilt and an HDMI port. Can you recommend anything that fits the bill? I don't really want to build my own. Thanks, MeFites!

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Italian artist Angelo Musco constructs complex compositions of naked models into feathers, nests and other shapes. Kind of a second-generation Spencer Tunick. (NSFW)

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I am in an abusive relationship. Not physical, but mental, emotional and verbal. I want to stress that there is no physical abuse. I am getting my ducks in a row & working on an exit strategy. It will be ugly when I leave, so I really need to have things in order when I do. Problem is - I haven't had sexual relations with my husband due to the fact that his treatment of me over the past year has repulsed me to the point that even the thought of it makes my skin crawl.It would take too long to tell the whole story, so I'll try to summarize the best I can. My husband's true colors came out about two years ago, a year after our wedding. His temper is off the charts. I get yelled at and put down constantly. When I try to speak up, it only gets worse. I have come to know the terms "gaslighting," "stonewalling," and "victim blaming" all too well. It has been terrible. I have made the decision to leave, but because he is so cruel and controling, I have to plan in secret. I am lining up a new job & living situation. If I could go now, believe me I would. I am just trying to keep the peace for a few more months. I am walking on eggshells. I do not want to have sex with this man. I have told him in the past that his treatment of me is a turnoff. He does not think his actions are wrong. He is MR. RIGHT ALL THE TIME. He is getting upset about us not having sex. What can I do to avoid the situation, or how can I answer him when he asks why we are not having sex? Explainig to him that it is 100% because of the way he treats me will not work. I am so completely repulsed by him that I just cannot bring myself to be intimate with him. And I have discussed with him in the past that I WILL LEAVE if he continues to mistreat me, so when I do leave, it should not be a surprise - but he seriously does not see his actions as wrong or hurtful! Again, they are not physical, but I live in fear & will until the glorious day arrives when I can leave. Thanks for any wise words.

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Do you think I can build a network and find a job in technical communication despite living in the country with no STC chapter? My foundation is decent: an English degree and current technical job. Said job has few technical writing roles, and none available for the foreseeable future. More inside.Do you think I can build a network and find a job in technical communication, given the following information? I live in the country, and Louisiana doesn't have an STC chapter; Houston is the closest one. My foundation is decent: an English degree and current technical job (which I am being vague about so word doesn't get out that I'm looking elsewhere). Said job has few technical writing roles, and none available for the foreseeable future. Throwaway email: [email protected] I really want to get in touch with established writers (especially in and around Baton Rouge and New Orleans) and learn everything I can about this field. I'm also wondering about opportunities in Houston, Austin, or Atlanta*. Specifically, what kinds of technical communication work can be found there (computer software, engineering, healthcare, etc.)? My area of interest is computer software. * Because I am seeking an entry level job, I am willing to consider other places and subject matter to get into the field. Would I benefit from going to the summit in Ohio this year? (I'm already an STC member.) It seems like a prime opportunity for networking. How can I maximize the experience? And what about the internet? I have a LinkedIn profile but have hesitated to approach people, partly because I don't know them in real life. How does one approach forum users or blog commenters? Any recommendations for active online groups? Finally, once you've made connections, how do you keep the network strong?

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I'm getting divorced. It appears that ex is keeping everything (which I am okay with, I'm getting compensated). But now I am faced with buying lots of stuff. I'm not rich but not poor. I want stuff that will last 10+ years. What are the 2015 best practices? I have all the major American furniture and homegoods stores nearby. I'm fond of online shopping. Consignment is fine but I can't spend weeks hunting.Mattresses - are these online stores like kasper a good idea? Are ikea beds the cheapest for kids room? Dressers and bedframes - is ikea the easiest or are there better alternatives maybe online? Couch - I have kids and pets, again, ikea? Dining table - again, ikea? Maybe check out consignment shops? TV - Amazon? Bookshelves, both adult and kids' - ikea? Consignment? Kitchen goods - online? What stores have good quality stuff at good prices? I can get the basics and add as I need Sheets - I can only assume there are great stores online for this nowadays Towels - what's a good quality affordable brand? Rugs Would love help here. Cost, time saving, and ease is a priority. I can pay taskrabbiters to assemble furniture. I am overwhelmed but want decent stuff.

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27-year-old male, INTJ, single, straight, with a 2yo labrador, living and working in San Francisco. I have lived with various housemates since college, who provided me with activities to do and friends to hang out with. In August, our lease ends, and the others are moving away. Should I seek housemates, or live alone?I've never had a serious relationship, having never really sought one, feeling mostly occupied and satisfied with work, projects, ideas, and existing friends. If I live alone, loneliness might spur interest in meetups and dates. Downside: higher rent, loneliness. If I live with housemates, I might find friends who help me expand my social circle, or I might find people I never interact with or dislike. Downside: Logistics, given the dog; circumstantial friendship. Should I seek housemates?

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Hi there, I am a female who is in college studying to become a war correspondent, and this has been my unshakeable goal for many years. I would like to know how to successfully disguise myself as a man with the use of minimal makeup, masculine attire (etc.), and all the while keeping my hair shoulder or waist length. My main concern is that while I'm very thin, I have very, very feminine and delicate facial structure, so I feel like this could really really affect the success of my career as a future war zone journalist.

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