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"There is something of a journalistic routine each time terror erupts. Cover the news, of course, and put it into geopolitical context. Capture the drama of the scene. Pursue every tidbit about the attackers. And, perhaps most wrenchingly, try to showcase the human suffering... It never feels like enough. During what seemed like a particularly intense spate of attacks back in March, we decided it was not enough... We decided not to move on but to look back... to show terrorism's human toll."

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I have recently decided that I would like to start running a few times a week for exercise with the dog. I have learned a lot in the two weeks that I have been trying this thing out, but I feel like I may be doing some things wrong. Looking for advice about pre-running/post running routines that may help out with leg pain... specifically... shin splints. Or any other good advice for someone who literally knows nothing about running.I finally found a comfortable pace for me, I don't have problems with endurance or breathing, the only thing stopping me from doing more are my legs. I'm doing interval running and while I am usually okay when I am running, if I stop to walk my legs are wanting to cramp up. And afterward.. OOOHHH the shin splints. I'm already using KT tape and icing my shins after runs. I'm not sure what else I can do. My shoes are probably around 6 months old, and I'm shopping for a new pair, but the ones I have shouldn't be too terribly far off the mark at this point. I've been told that I will just have to push through the shin splints to come out on the other side. How far does that mean to push myself? If my having pain from a run the day before should I rest the next day? Or should I try to keep moving? When you were very new to running what was the best advice someone gave you? Or what do you wish you had known when you were very first starting out? Best pre/post run routines etc. (Right now I've just been running intervals for about 2.5 miles on running trails)

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Difficulty level: work and personal email addresses. I have a few work slack channels, and some volunteer/social slack channels. I'd like to not have two different Chrome tabs, because, look, it just bothers me. I'm looking for a solution -- it could be a feature I haven't seen yet, an app, a Chrome plugin ... I just want my NFP board slack and my work project slacks in a single interface.

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How to go about finding a place to live? Any recommendations?My sister has decided to move to North Carolina and due to *reasons* she needs to find a place within the next 2 weeks. I have looked at Zillow, Hotpads, Trulia and realtor.com but we've called a few places she liked and have gotten the runaround. Either it's been rented already even though it says it was just updated on the website, etc. We have about two days once we get to NC to look around but would really like to have some legit places lined up first. Any personal recommendations or somewhere to start? She has been looking around the Greensboro area but she's open to any other major cities that are safe/fun places to live. She just graduated with a nursing degree and is trying to get a job near a hospital or clinic, if possible. Farmer's markets, cafes, bookstores and libraries are the kinds of places she likes to go on weekends. Preferences: ~ $800 - $1100/mo., cat friendly, in-unit washer/dryer, air conditioning, wood or tile floors but not necessary, and if possible, a newer, updated kitchen. Thank you mefites! I am eternally grateful.

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A while ago I quit my job and went on unemployment insurance. Then later, I signed up for Patreon because I figured it might help to make a little extra cash. But then I found out that apparently Patreon money is considered taxable income and you have to complete a W9 if you make more than $600/year. So... am I in some kind of "employment limbo?"I know I should eventually ask an EDD representative about this, but I want to be prepared and know what exactly I should be asking. I keep imagining in my head that I'll call them and have trouble explaining what my situation even is, especially if I end up talking to someone who has never heard of Patreon (not sure how well-known Patreon is). Basically I want to avoid any horrible complications down the line. I haven't made $600 yet, but it's possible that it might add up to that by the end of the year. Right now I'm making about ~$90/month (starting this month), with the possibility of going up or down over time. Does this mean I should be telling EDD I'm now receiving "wages?" Am I now considered "self-employed?" Should I just cancel my Patreon altogether to avoid hassles? I'd prefer to avoid the last action, if possible. If it helps to know, I'm in California.

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Throughout my life, the overwhelming feeling has been one of a lack of control over the direction I'm taking and my own affairs. I feel like now, at age 30, I don't have any more control over my life than I did at fifteen. What can I do to take the steering wheel and wrest back some agency?I feel like all through my adult life, my choices have been made for me by randomness and I have no control over what happens to me. I feel like life is something that happens to me rather than something I actively live and choose what happens to me. In the absence of any sort of logic or order to the way my life unfolds, I've become incredibly superstitious because it at least gives me something to cling onto. I live at a house numbered 13 and the fact literally disturbs me. I didn't even choose the place where I live - it was just a random set of circumstances (grandmother died, left her house to my family that I now rent cheaply) that dictated to me where I live. I like the house itself, but I'm not fantastically happy about the location it's in. I feel incredibly isolated and I'm sure there are other places where I feel like I'd have a better quality of life, more interesting things to do, or just a change of scenery for a while! But I feel so trapped, trapped by circumstances and unable to just up and leave. I didn't choose my job - since a layoff in 2014, I've made efforts to try and find something I really want to do, but instead lurched through a succession of short-term temporary jobs that I've ended up taking in a rush because I've run out of "savings." Everything I do seems like this - a snap decision made with few or no other options rather than a considered choice from weighing up the pros and cons. When I'm in a job, I'm at the mercy of instability - right now I'm constantly days away from being unemployed again, because I'm on a temp contract that's officially ended. Once again, I have absolutely no control over a basic aspect of my life. Turning up day-by-day until I'm asked not to is no way to live. It feels like this is just a difficult, anxiety-inducing period of life - but the reality is that for my entire adult life, it's never been any different. Even when I had a permanent job, it was for a non-profit that was perpetually strapped for cash and regularly failed to pay salaries. The simple fact of whether I was able to afford to eat month-to-month felt like a lottery, and that feeling has never gone away because that fact has never gone away. My whole life feels like some higher power rolling the dice, with me just having to take what I'm given, watch what happens to me like some kind of incredibly boring TV show. Naturally, I'm a fiercely independent person and this feeling of having absolutely no executive function or agency is incredibly demoralising. On occasion, I've been known to self-sabotage simply so that I get some sort of feeling of having some kind of control over my existence. I'll quit a job at the end of my temp contract rather than waiting to see if I'm good enough to be made permanent, just so I can tell myself "hey, this is a decision I have made for myself about my future." It doesn't matter to the part of my brain that wants to be independent whether it's a good decision - I just need that feeling of having made a decision for myself. I'll say it over and over again to myself in my head - "I've decided, I've made my decision." Even when the decision is a catastrophically poor one, it's cathartic to have the chance to make a decision. So the question is - how do I, as a working-class person of relatively limited resources in Western terms, wrest back control of my life from the forces of randomness and make it into a life that I actively want to live and experience? If I can't do that, how do I put myself more at ease with the fact that I have no control over my existence? I'm no control freak, but I would like to choose basic things like where I live and what I spend most of my waking hours doing. Because I've never had this sort of control, I often struggle to figure out what I actually want - I struggle to figure out who I am for much of the time. I feel like a robot with no likes or dislikes of my own, because I'm not allowed to choose to like and dislike things, with just this faint and worsening sense of pointlessness and malaise. I just want to make positive choices for myself.

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I submitted a bunch of rent checks to my housing non-profit for six months ahead. One of these was a counter check—printed in-branch by the teller without name or address, just my bank account routing code. Unfortunately, it seems that the teller didn't properly review all the checks before giving them to me, and one of them did not have my account info on it. Neither I nor my housing non-profit noticed this omission before the check was deposited, and of course it was returned by their bank with "Unknown Account" on it. My housing authority chose to consider this an NSF check, and are requesting that I pay their NSF fee. Is that a reasonable request?I first learned about this when I received, by registered mail, an eviction notice mid-month. (My housing authority sent out a letter earlier in the year informing us that calling people when they were late with their rent was not working, and that from now on they would simply send an eviction notice, giving one ten days to pay the outstanding amount along with an NSF fee.) I was, needless to say, shocked to receive this, since I have never once been late with my rent, and there was sufficient money was in the account to cover the rent check. When I called them to find out why my check was returned, I asked them to read out my account number from the bottom of the check, and it simply was not there. Realizing the bank teller's oversight, I explained what must have happened, and told them I would come in the next day to pay in cash. The person on the phone, when asked, wasn't sure if I would still be expected to pay the NSF fee. When I went in to pay, they accepted my rent payment in cash, and did not mention the NSF fee (though I was dealing with a front counter person, not someone in the office). Now, a month letter, I receive a letter informing me that they received the outstanding rent payment from me, but not the NSF amount, and would I please send them a check for that. As a matter of principle, I am disinclined to pay this fee. The check was not returned "NSF," but "Unknown Account," and this was not due to any negligence on my part, but due to an oversight on the part of the teller who printed off the counter checks for me (the others were properly done). If the housing non-profit people had simply called me, I could have explained what had likely happened and told them that I would come in to pay on the following day. However, unwaveringly adhering to their new policy of not calling tenants whose checks are returned "NSF," they chose to send me an eviction notice by costly registered mail. (My bank, by the way, say that while they would waive any fees they themselves imposed in a case such as this where their employee was at fault, they can't be expected to cover fees charged by a third party due to such an error.) My questions, then, are: 1. Has anyone, in similar circumstances, received compensation from their own bank for fees charged by a third party, and 2. Is it reasonable for my housing authority to impose this NSF penalty upon me when the check was not, in fact, returned "NSF," the money was in the account the entire time, and I acted in good faith at every point?

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If My 3 Little Kids Reviewed Family Dinners

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Justin Rolian - the voice of Adult Swim's Rick and Morty - reenacts a truly ridiculous court transcript from a Georgia county courtroom, as Rick and Morty. (NSFW) The complete court transcript, for your incredulous reading pleasure.

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pic 1 pic 2 What kind of hat is Chuck D wearing during the Prophets of Rage appearance on Jimmy Kimmel last night? Thanks.

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Over the past year, the Archie series of comics has been receiving acclaim for efforts to rethink its classic characters. This fall, that continues onto the television screen, with the forthcoming series: Riverdale [Facebook Link]. Early reports about the show claim, "More Twin Peaks than Dawson's Creek", and that the show will focus on a darker side of the iconic characters, "As a new school year begins, the town of Riverdale is reeling from the recent, tragic death of high school golden boy Jason Blossom — and nothing feels the same." As bizarre (and, perhaps, terrible) as this may sound, the pilot episode is reviewing well.

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My 3 year old is about to start preschool at a nut-free school. What are some ideas for lunch that are PB&J-level easy and toddler-friendly? Searching for this online yields a lot of parenting blogs that think I'm going to bake scones or make homemade beef bourgignon every night.

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Finding systems with great DVRs and cameras (hardware) is easy. Finding a system that is supported by remote viewing software for smartphones/internet is not happening for me. My google-fu has failed. I need assistance, advice and recommendations from anyone with some personal experience.I don't need a massive system but I'm willing to spend about $1k if needed. 2 to 4 cameras would suffice, but I need relatively high def cameras, night vision and ability to scan remotely. Some systems have e-mail alerts for motion activity. I love the mid-grade Lorex hardware, but their FLIR-Cloud software is totally unreliable. I'm having a hard time finding great hardware supported by great software. FWIW, I'm finally moving to a place where I can have an art/music studio but the building is far away from the living quarters, so with all of my equipment in there I need to monitor it...just as if I was monitoring a vacation home from afar. If you've had to do something similar yourself, please advise! Mefites, what has worked for you? Many thanks in advance!

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New York Times: "...last week, Gov. Andrew M. Cuomo, a Democrat, signed a law permitting funeral parlors to serve light refreshments and nonalcoholic drinks, joining 46 other states..." The article also mentions funeral potatoes and funeral pie , but omits Koliva and funeral biscuits.

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BBC: "There are strong social divisions in how young people use digital technology , according to international research from the OECD. The economics think tank found that in many countries wealthy and poor pupils spent similar amounts of time online. But richer youngsters were much more likely to use the internet for learning rather than games. The study argues that even with equal access to technology a "digital divide" persists in how the internet is used.""

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I would like to get a vehicle with high clearance and AWD. I will mainly use it for some around the town errands and weekend trips to get to out of the way trail heads. I have a sedan that I use for commuting. My friend just bought a brand new CRV for about $28,000. I am reluctant to spend so much money for a vehicle that I anticipate to use only sparingly. I am hoping to spend around $10,000 or so, but can spend a few thousands more if needed. So I am looking for advice on which make and model to look for.I have looked on Truecar.com to get a sense of what's available. It seems around the $10,000 range, there is a smattering of 2004-2006 domestic cars with odometers >100,000 miles. I don't have much knowledge about cars and have really no idea which model is considered reliable at that vintage (if any). So please educate me on whether this idea is feasible: can I get a reliable car that I can use for rough roads for around $10,000? If so which models and years should I look for? I live in Portland OR if that matters. Thanks

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I feel like I have to watch what I say, especially since these days people tend to overreact and cry out racism all the time. It seems as if people try to make something racist or blow everything out of proportion. Can these comments below be perceived as racist? 1) People from India love the heat (since India is a very hot country). 2) Greek people like olives (because good olives are from Greece) I bring up these two examples because a friend of mine said that making absolute statements and referring to an entire population is racist. But these statements sound neutral to me. If they were negative statements then I think that would be racism.

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Mad Men to Seinfeld: TV's most criminally overrated shows — The Guardian's reviewers unburden themselves. Friends: "A fast-food sitcom that prized lukewarm consistency over wit or invention." Seinfeld: "An exercise in actorly masochism." Mad Men: "Just a meandering soap." The West Wing: "Not quite the smuggest TV show ever made, but that's only because The Newsroom exists." Lost: "The ultimate in tease TV." This Is England: "A production line of endless bleak trauma." Downton Abbey: "All that's missing is amnesia and evil twins." Battlestar Galactica: "Cringeworthy cod-philosophical dialogue." The Walking Dead: "Moves so slowly it can feel as if you're physically wading through time itself." Arrested Development: "Far too happy with itself to make me happy too."

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A New Yorker article on a tailor (cutter), bespoke clothing, desire and wealth.

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How do I move on from this breakup, considering it was such a short time?(when I shouldn't be, and I really don't know why this has shaken me to my core) A little brief background on me to set the stage. I graduated college two years ago, and started job hopping to get away from my parents, who have always been emotionally abusive. First, I moved out west for a temp job. When that ended, I came back to the East coast for another temp job, and have finally landed in a pretty nice, full time position (still have confidence issues about my new job, but that's another story). In between these times, there was a ton of depression and anxiety about my future, and a whole hell of a lot of job searching. When I moved back to the East Coast, I met a guy. We dated for 7 months, and fell in love (so I thought). He knew all about my past, and told me that he loved me. In my new city, he introduced me to his friends and family, and they kind of became my friends and family too. We spent all our time together, and he became my confidant. In retrospect, I was definitely a LOT co-dependent. But, hindsight is 20/20. Anyway, I thought things were going well. He showered me with affection, his parents said they were "glad" he found a girl like me, and that he couldn't wait to be with me for years to come. The day we broke up, we were kind of getting on each other's nerves (I had just gone through a few stressful job interviews, and was trying to look for a new place to live). I admit I was a lot more cranky than I should have been. My ex snapped, and told me that he wanted nothing to do with me and left. I was able to get him on the phone, and he spit out a slur of reasons why we couldn't be together, real life quote follows: "You're too difficult. We should probably just be friends, although honestly we wouldn't be able to stay friends. I don't like how you deal with things. I've been thinking about this for a while (me: well, why didn't you tell me? him: Well, you probably wouldn't have been able to handle it), you know. I just saw so many red flags yesterday, I'll never be able to unsee them. I asked him if we could take some time to work it out, and came up with a list of things I know I could do better/things I let slip. He responded, "I mean, I'll give you your time, but I'm just letting you know, there's probably nothing you can do to change my mind." Then, he left. I tried contacting him for a while after (about 2 months), giving him some time to cool off, apologizing, asking him for another chance, and which point he blocked me from everything and told me, "Good luck out there." Now, I have moved into my apartment alone, and I'm in my new job (which is hard), and I don't really have any friends in this city. I can't stop feeling sad over this. I've done so much to try and get over this. I went to therapy (or rather, continued it. been doing it for a while), I got on anxiety medication, had a few sessions with a break up coach. For the record, this man has not attempted to contact me once. It's been about 4.5 months. Every time I hear about friends who go through breakups, and how much better their ex's treated them, it breaks my heart again (for example, just texting to see what's up, offering to help with moving stuff, which is what a friend's ex did). I just feel like I got treated like the worst person on earth, for reasons I'm not clear about. I admit I was super stressed out during these times, but I didn't think I deserved that... I don't know what to do now. I just can't seem to swallow what happened. I feel like I lost an entire potential life. Please help

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If I wanted to purchase an Australian animal costume (any! Kangaroo, croc, echidna) for a baby/toddler somewhere in Townsville, Cairns, or Sydney, where would I go?The cuter the better, obv

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Burn Out, Depression, Insomnia, and drug abuse are among other ills destroying lives "We're like a pinball, free and easy to fly around the world,"

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What US campaign finance reform proposals are out there being discussed besides "Repeal Citizens United"? Specifically are there any that try to account for parity among multiple candidates rather than merely capping their resources?I've been thinking about campaign finance reform and how the whole idea is to limit the amount of money that goes into politics. I just wonder if there's a way to create strong election laws that don't just rely on returning to hard small dollar limits and involve the crazy difficulty of passing an amendment limiting donors. The fact is, before SuperPACs there was still often major fundraising disparities between candidates that were both unfair and corrupting anyway, so it's not like the current raging inflation created campaign finance problems. What if what we were after was actually parity the way sports like Basketball or Baseball think about it. Have there been any proposals, either by policy or (NBA Salary Cap) wonks, to create parity rather than limiting donations? For instance, a luxury tax where you can raise more than X times the amount that your opponent has but then your campaign has to pay a fine (which could either go to the government or into some shared resource like a pool of TV ad money both candidates could draw from). Or just a pure cap based on # of voters (your whole campaign can't spend more than X$ per voter no matter how much money you raise). Any type of proposal would be interesting to read outside of just Repeal Citizens United (and/or limit donations) in any form: tweet, scholarly paper, blog post, article, comic book, whatever. God bless America.

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Hi, My daughter has an I-pod Touch and I have an I-phone 6. I understand that we cannot facetime each other, because we are on "family share" and we have the same e-mail address when we sign into our phone. She is not yet 13.We can text each other when our devices are in our home, but as soon as she is in a different location, it appears that we cannot text each other. Do I have to turn on my hotspot? But I thought if I do that, then my phone is basically turned off and I cannot receive any phone calls. The reason we got her an I-pod touch was so that when she is not with us, that she could get a hold of us. I know she can't call us, as she does not have a phone, but I thought she could text us. Does anyone have any ideas?...any buttons I need to turn on like the hotspot or something? Like I said, we are able to text when both of our devices are in our house. Thanks.

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I am a dedicated iPhone user. But I took advantage of T-mobile's free phone offer for my two children. Now they both have a Samsung On5, and I'm lost.I've think I've got most things set up as far as privacy, tracking the phones when lost, and remote management for when they should not be used. Lookout was pre-installed for antivirus (I think). I still need to enter all of their contacts though, and thinking of having to do this twice is driving me away from it. I think I need a desktop manager for Windows 10. My searches have brought up a few things, but I don't know what programs are trustworthy since I haven't seen any names I recognize. What recommendations can AskMeFi make? What else do I need to know?

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