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For a friend: Who did your awesome, quick vasectomy? Looking for that doctor's name in DC or Maryland suburbs.

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We've had to ban Hamilton from our lives, temporarily, because it was starting to make us all crazy. So, I'm looking to find some new musicals we can listen to in the car. One of the things that really worked with the Hamilton soundtrack was that the kids could follow the plot. It wasn't just a series of songs that only made sense if you already knew the story. What other Broadway soundtracks share that quality and might be appealing to kids ages 5 to 11?

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I'm not sure if it's possible but I'm trying to grow the beach roses (Rosa Rugosa) of my Maine youth, outdoors in the ground, here in central South Carolina (zone 8a). They're going to get a lot of afternoon sun. Are there things I can do to help them live through the summer? TYIA!

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Brad is mad online and wants to know why Cracker Barrel fired his wife.

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We went for Korean food recently, and with our grill we were served a red dipping sauce - it was bright red, had a paste consistency, and tasted slightly spicy and quite salty/savoury. The waitress said it was called 'dengu', but I must have misheard as nothign comes up when I google. Any idea what this was?

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Are you familiar with the famous Disney songs "Give up... give up... you cannot do it back in", "An Unknown Distance to Go", and "Old Story Time"? How about those famous opening lines "What is life? Justice or bad?" by Queen? These and many others by the premier Diva of Google Translate.

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A Fictive Flight Above Real Mars - The anaglyph images of Mars taken by the HiRISE camera holds information about the topography of Mars surface. There are hundreds of high-resolution images of this type. This gives the opportunity to create different studies in 3D. In this film I have chosen some locations and processed the images into panning video clips. There is a feeling that you are flying above Mars looking down watching interesting locations on the planet.

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Last week, both Hanover Bald Eagle eggs hatched successfully. The young are being fed round-the-clock by their doting parents, "Freedom" and "Liberty." The frequent feedings result in the nest being liberally decorated with the remains of their fish, squirrel, and rabbit repasts. The live cams (Camera 1, Camera 2) allow excellent viewing opportunities. Eaglets typically fledge in around 12 weeks. Last year, neither fledgling survived; this nest has experienced harsh weather conditions recently, and occasional aggression from other eagles, but all appears to be well thus far. (Previously)

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I have a neighbour (in a small community) who is high-strung and nervy and now has some kind of strong reaction of dislike and judgement towards. It's her own story, and she does this regularly with people. I've been ignoring it but I find my response is to avoid going where I will be around her and to withdraw into my shell. It affects me more than I would like it to. I would feel much better if I could somehow make peace. Ideas?

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You're worried that having George Osborne as editor might compromise the paper's editorial independence. What editorial independence? The Standard is a jellyfish, a parasitic worm, a creature with a hole at each end and nothing inbetween: it thinks nothing, it feels nothing, it floats through the infinite dark and waits for a tide to carry it along. Hence the fury. Sam Kriss, Against the Evening Standard, Idiot Joy Showland (21 March 2017).

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In many towns and cities the familiar orange glow of HPS Sodium street-lighting has given way, or is giving way, to the cooler white glare of LED illumination, giving cost and energy-efficiency savings, and improving nocturnal colour rendition. Many welcome the change: Hal Espen, writing in 2011 for The Atlantic lamented the prevalence of the ‘jaundiced weirdness’ of sodium lighting and looked forward to its obsolescence. But others are unhappy: LED Streetlights Are Giving Neighborhoods the Blues reckons Jeff Hecht at IEEE Spectrum; some complain that ‘LED street lights are disturbing my sleep’ as Brian Wheeler reports for the BBC; research at the University of Exeter suggests LED lighting could have major impact on wildlife; and astronomers, among others, are concerned about the possible effects on the night sky — LEDs: Light Pollution Solution or Night Sky Nemesis? ponders Bob King at Universe Today. Lux Review (‘Your independent guide to lighting’) asks: Will tunable street light breakthrough silence LED critics?, while, at the same site, we learn of a Bird-friendly LED island in the Netherlands. Previously at MeFi. A history of street lighting in the United States (Wikipedia). Title reference.

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Sci-fi filter: I'm looking for far-future stories where Earth existed, but for whatever reason, it's not in play anymore.I've tried searching old sci-fi recommendation threads, but I'm not finding exactly what I'm looking for. The premise 1. Earth (Terra, Sol-3) existed 2. Earth existed a very long time ago 3. In fact, it was so long ago (or currently so far away), the characters of the current story aren't even sure if it was real 4. There are explicit or heavily-implied details to this mythical/legendary planet that readers could recognize it as our-Earth, but the information wouldn't necessarily be important to the protagonist or their culture 5. This serves as more of a wink-nudge easter egg from the author for the readers tl;dr I'm looking for far-future sci-fi that has links back to Earth but only in passing reference. Any medium will do: books, comics, movies. e.g. Le Guin's Hainish Cycle would not count, as Earth/Terra is still an active world in the Ekumen

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Is it possible to get a mortgage when you work for yourself? How do I really figure out what I can afford?Although I've been thinking of buying a house for a few years but am paralyzed by the process and making any choices that would move me forward. Market (and rapidly increasing prices in Chicago) aside, I'd like to look into the possibility a bit closer. I've been self-employed for 13 years, except for ~5 years in which once client paid me via W2, but I also had 1099 income during that time. That ended in 2015, so I have one full year of 100% 1099 since then. I've heard that lenders have a lot of rules around around things like this and am concerned that my self reliance will throw up one too many red flags. Coworkers in my same line of work have had major issues getting mortgages or refinancing as 1099. I'm single, so no spouse to help in this regard. I don't qualify to bank at any credit unions. Do I need to do anything to prepare myself to look better for lenders? Fortunately/unfortunately I have 0 debt so I have no history of payments other than paying my credit cards off on time in full for 20 years. As a city dweller I've never owned a car, and never had students loans but maintain a high 700s credit score... how much is this going to be a problem? A friend has a realtor and mortgage lady they love, how early do I start talking to someone like that before I'm really ready to be serious about buying? Honestly, I don't understand how people can know what price point to be looking at. I can estimate what my income might be, although it shifts a bit year-to-year, but I don't feel comfortable putting all my (non-IRA/retirement) cash into a down payment—how much % of savings is ideal for people to save overall for whatever? I definitely would put down 20% but like the idea of putting more down.

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I am in the mood to read some radical works - on anything, from community organizing, to race relations, to feminism, to alternative economic models, to lgbtq, to anarchism to whatever...the more left wing, the better. But I have no time - nor an attention span for more than 500 words at a time. Can you help?I'm in the mood to read about some interesting, radical, left-wing ideas... But given my current lifestyle I have a very short attention span and/or time - 20 minutes here, 5 minutes there. I can't handle complex sentence structures, long articles/books etc. or even...big words. Podcasts would be ok too - or audio books - but it would have to be really peppy and engaging, because...attention span. Is there anything out there for me?

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The revised second edition of A Dictionary of Canadianisms on Historical Principles is now available online for all of your Canadian English needs. A respectful write-up from The New Yorker.

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And more importantly, are they fronts for human trafficking?I ask this because in NYC there were "tui na" massage places that didn't strike me as happy-ending joints and, though I may be totally wrong, I didn't have a gut feeling they were fronts for anything shady. So I went sometimes because a $40 massage is kind of a great thing if you don't have $120 to fling around at all times. The first one I went to in the bay area was gross--lots of tentative ass-groping despite lots of big NO body language on my part and at the end, when I was eager just to get the hell out of there, the person working there didn't think a 20% tip was enough and practically didn't let me leave. I tried a place in Oakland Chinatown and it was grimy and sad. Mostly I'd love a place that does 15-minute chair massages, but there's a curious absence of them and a curious preponderance of iffy-looking places with no windows. Are these places all likely to be unsatisfying/weird-boundaried or worse? I just want a resolutely platonic massage and to know I'm not supporting anything bad. Does this not exist here? If it does exist here, by all means tell me where.

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I have fine, wavy/curly, thin hair, and I desperately want it to be thicker. Do any of the products, home remedies, or magic tricks on the market actually make hair thicker? I don't mean, "look thicker", I need there to actually be more hair on my head. Is there any hope?I've always battled with my hair. It's very fine, and there's not much of it. My only saving grace is that because of my natural wave, it has a decent amount of body. But the older I get, the stringier and limper it gets. Even the tiniest rubberbands can go around my ponytail twice. It's really sad. Recently, I (drunkenly) purchased some real hair clip-in extensions, and holy hell. When I put in even 2 or 3 of the 8 wefts that came in the set, it doubles the amount of hair on my head. They aren't longer than my hair, they just add so much glorious volume! And I get all the complements! I want this feeling all the time. I have an amazing hair stylist, so I'm not looking for haircut suggestions. And I've tried probably every bodifying/thickening styling product out there. I eat ok, take a multi-vitamin, and limit my use of heated styling tools. What I am curious about is if there is anything in existence that would really and truly give me more hair. A vitamin supplement? Rogaine? A sacrifice to a voodoo priest? I'm desperate here. Other notable info: my hair is very dark brown, it grows ridiculously fast, and I'm starting to see my first sparse greys. I don't *think* I'd be interested in actual hair extensions. My current style is bangs with hair a few inches past my shoulder. Kinda Zooey Deschanel, but with 1/4 the volume. It doesn't look thin at the roots (yet), but when it is down or in a ponytail, it looks very sad. Help!

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I remember seeing a one-off comic strip a few years back, in a sketchy style, where two cats were either fencing or dueling with swords, in panel one they adopted the en garde stance, in panel two they lunged at each other, and in panel three they were both on all fours curiously sniffing at the tips of the swords as all cats tend to do to any outstretched finger or objectI'm looking for either the image itself or somebody who knows the artist/series/site it's from. It's a great visual gag that loses a lot in being described.

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Secret Message Is Only For Dogs (via reddit)—from this years PROSH, a satire newspaper made by students at the University of Western Australia. BONUS: Plunk your doggo in front of the monitor for a SECRET DOG-ONLY VIDEO TO GET DOGS PUMPED [noisy noisy noisy].

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After years of wondering why I am constantly experiencing intrusive, obsessive thoughts about things I'm failing to do or otherwise screwing up, I have come to suspect that it is highly probable that I may have a form of OCD. I will be bringing this up with my therapist and psychiatrist, respectively, when I see them next. In the meantime, I'm seeking some advice from those who have been diagnosed with or are familiar with the condition.Quick context: 30 year old cis het woman in the US, already diagnosed and treating for ADHD Inattentive Type, Depression, and Anxiety. I take medication for the three aforementioned diagnosed conditions, and have undergone several years of CBT. I have always allowed my anxiety to run my life, especially before I was aware of/diagnosed with ADHD. I used my anxiety to overcome the hurdles of ADHD. In other words, when my ADHD made me withdraw or fail to act, I'd let my anxiety go full blast so that I'd be so worried about what it was I wasn't doing or getting done that I'd have no choice but to actually get it done. This is how I got through high school with very good grades, as well as how I made it through both my undergraduate and graduate degrees. I only owned up to my anxiety a few years ago, after already being in treatment for depression and ADHD. My psychiatrist heaved this sigh of relief and said that he's observed that I am highly anxious and was glad to hear me acknowledge it (I had previously brushed it off when he attempted to discuss it with me- I'd dismiss what he called "anxiety" as "hyperactivity from being ADHD"). I take Ativan (1mg up to 3 times a day, as needed). I also engage in vigorous daily exercise and am part of a Zen meditation group. Despite treating my anxiety with not only medication but also CBT, exercise and meditation, I find myself in a near-constant state of "what am I forgetting to do / what will happen because I already know I didn't do this or that / what will happen if I make that mistake / what would my life be like if I'd done this instead / why am I worrying so much / does the fact that I am worrying so much mean something else is going on / what can I do about this / ... " and so forth. It is a loud, never-ending ticker tape of BREAKING NEWS ANXIETY. The thoughts are not only obsessive, they are also intrusive and will pop into my mind without any kind of meaningful prompting. I definitely have an obsessive sense of impostor's syndrome, as well. I know that I've always had obsessive thoughts and worries, but in the last three years, it has really, really escalated into something where I am basically paralyzed from doing most things I love. I'm too paralyzed by my worries to read a book. I am too paralyzed by my worries to put on a record I enjoy and just chill out listening to music. I am too paralyzed by my worries to get back in to the job search, which is why my 'career transition' has been ongoing for like five years. I am too paralyzed by my worries to exercise some days (and so while I'm still fitter than the average person, I'm way less fit than I used to be and would like to be for my health and happiness). I am too paralyzed by my worries to address actual, real obstacles and dilemmas I am facing and use the obsessive worries as an excuse to shift focus away from the reality of said problems. Sometimes I even have intrusive thoughts about bad things that could hypothetically happen to other people, and feel immediate shame (and consequently a spiral of anxiety, worry) over the fact that such a terrible thought popped into my head. I also have a tendency to obsess over faux pas or embarrassing mistakes I made years and years and years ago that, logically, I know no longer matter, but continue to haunt me in the form of intrusive thoughts. I am really tired of living this way. It has zapped me of my strength to the point where I no longer feel motivated to do anything except show up for work, get work done at an adequate level, maybe go to the gym for an hour or two before going home, then sitting on my butt and either drifting off into a distracted world of me and my obsessive thoughts, or watching a movie or TV. Occasionally I may leaf through a copy of the New Yorker, or organize a drawer in my room, or manage to sweep up or wash the dishes. I realize that part sounds like depression, and I acknowledge it may be that, but it seems like in those rare moments when I *don't* feel anxiety or obsessive thoughts, that's when I suddenly also feel motivation again (a sudden kind of, 'oh, there's no obstacle here after all, let's get it done). The anxiety is making me paralyzed which in turn fuels the depression and then demotivation, or perhaps the demotivation and then depression. Again, I will be addressing this with my doctors to confirm there's an actual diagnosis to be made here. Right now, I would love to hear from those who have been diagnosed with OCD (in particular OCD that involves intrusive/obsessive thoughts) and what your experience has been like, techniques you use to overcome obsessive thoughts, recommended reading - anything that might help me gain a better understanding and context for OCD as it may, potentially, apply to me.

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Has anyone kept a list or know where there is an online list of the major articles on the Russian connections to #45, his campaign, campaign personnel, nominee's and family? Anything on potential Treasonous activities, too.I am preparing for tomorrow's demonstration (Friday, March 24) against Paul Ryan here in Chicago at the $50,000.00 a plate fundraising dinner. I remember several of the articles, but want to make sure to include as many as are possible and relevant. I am making a one page flier and on one side I want to list relevant articles, on the other I want a simple sign about it that demonstrators can hold up if they wish to. Thank you in advance!

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I have a couple boxes and I'm wondering if it might be worthwhile to try and condense them down to a rack but am I getting in over my head?I currently have three PCs that I use regularly; a Windows machine mainly used for games, a Linux everyday driver, and my NAS. They do require quite a bit of space to be able to arrange them such that they and my desk are usable so I've been considering shifting them into some 4U rackmount cases and buying a second-hand rack off Craigslist. I realize I could theoretically condense these all down to one machine with VMs but I'd rather have three machines running less of a load with cheaper parts than one bleeding edge machine. While I know this is feasible, is there any potential problems with doing this that I'm not aware of or things I'm going to have to take into account?

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How many chickens were employed, at minimum, to provide a steady supply of eggs for Gaston's breakfasts?I am told that when he was a lad, he ate four dozen eggs every morning, to help him get large. As an adult, though, he ate five dozen eggs for breakfast. What's the smallest number of chickens that would have been needed to provide a stable supply of eggs for Gaston's breakfast habits, both when young and as an adult? Serious answers only, please. I am a busy man.

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I'll be spending the month of april in Thailand. We will be spending the Thai New year with friends in Ko Phi Phi and we are planning on island hopping for the rest if the trip. Have you been to southern Thailand? What MUST I see / do / eat?We are 39 and 30. Definitely budget travelers. My husband is a veteran at this stuff so he's lined up several places for us to stay and now we are filling in the gaps. My husband loves to snorkel so we will be doing a lot of that. I'm happy to walk alone on a pretty beach or nature trails. We don't plan on eating out every meal but we will go out if it's cheap. Our tastes in places to stay lean more toward camping and "rustic" than resort. Any specific recommendations?

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After several years as a devoted okcupid user, I branched out to also try tindr and bumble. I've spent a fair amount of time on both apps for several weeks but have only met one person from the new apps - from tindr - it didn't work out.Often I get mutual likes with men but then they don't respond when I initiate conversation. I understand that some people just swipe right on everyone and see who writes back. No big deal. Then there are the men who chat briefly and then want to move the conversation to kik. This feels really weird to me and I always just unmatch them. A couple of times I've asked why they want to go to kik and I've never gotten an answer that seemed legit. Then there are conversations that just kind of peter out for no apparent reason. I'm already kind of frustrated with the app - there are lots of people in my area who are republicans, are married, or who can't spell, so I feel very cautious and defensive and I'm sure that's not helping my success rate. I'm ready to dump the site but I understand it's a different medium and maybe I need a different approach. What does a successful tindr exchange look like (assuming a hookup is not necessarily the desired result)?

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