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I was offered a new job, but I'm not sure if I can negotiate a better salary at this point. Don't want to upset the apple cart, but don't want to get short-shrifted either. Advice?I was verbally offered a job on Monday with basic information (salary, PTO, start date). Over the course of the week, I did a background check and asked if I could start a bit later than they requested, which they agreed to. I've mostly been dealing with an outside HR recruiter who seems pretty terse and non-negotiable, but the manager seems friendly. So, I wonder if I should have negotiated a better salary (HR told me that it was on the high end of the spectrum, but I don't know if I believe that). It's kind of a unique job in that I can't find other examples of it online to compare it to at salary.com or glassdoor. Since I just got the official acceptance letter and its awaiting my signature, can I request a better salary? Or, at least, see if they are open to negotiating? I should point out that I've never really done this before as most of my jobs were a set pay for anyone starting in that company.

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So I recently realized that a favorite poet of mine, Alice Duer Miller, published one more book of poems than I thought she had. I have been consequently wallowing in feminist poetry with snappy meter and rhyme for the last couple of days. Now that I'm done with my book, I'm looking for more poetry that strikes a chord, especially poetry by and about women. Where should I look, and who should I read?I will read blank verse happily, but I do prefer metered poetry--I just never can seem to find it in the topics I like best. I mentioned Alice Duer Miller, but I also love Margaret Atwood's poetry and Emily Dickinson's. I love everything that Ursula Vernon has ever produced, which includes her occasional poems, and "This Vote is Legally Binding" struck just the right itch. Susan Donnelly's "Inoculation" worked well for me, too. So did Jennifer Sweeney's "How to Make Armor" and Denise Levertov's "In Mind" and Ann Sexton's "The Black Art." On a less explicitly political note, Marilyn Hacker's "you did say, need me less and I'll want you more" was also an example of a second category of poetry about women I really love. Songs, which are basically poems set to music anyway, are fine; there I think Tracy Chapman, Dessa, and Vienna Teng hit the right mix of evocative and vivid emotional imagery that I really like. Where do I find the good stuff?

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Subsequent to this post (thanks, Iridic!), I decided to give Mind Webs a try. This morning, I listened to the last episode. What now?With the exception of maybe two or three episodes that were unlistenable due to poor sound quality, I have now listened to every extant episode of Mind Webs that the Internet Archive has to offer. The combination of classic Golden Age and New Wave science fiction short stories with Michael Hanson's soothing public radio voice was just the sort of thing I needed. But now it's done. What should I track down next?

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It wasn't Gordon Gano who was the problem: it was me. I was listening with a ghostly eighteen year old ex-boyfriend at my shoulder, and behind him, a chorus of snarling early eighties NME journalists, all ready to jeer, because even if I like the Violent Femmes, I'll like them in the wrong way. JK Rowling takes up ramalbumclub's challenge of listening to a well known album for the the first time and then writing about it: Violent Femmes from 1983. Other Ramalbumclub reviews Wikipedia page about the album. Gordon Gano recalls this era. Interview with the band in 1983 - who then play "Sweet Misery Blues".

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The ruling that state laws trump FCC efforts to expand broadband access means that Pinetops' current service ends October 28, 2016. The city of Wilson, fearing jeopardizing the service they can currently legally offer, won't appeal. Meanwhile, AT&T has something classy to say about a competitor.

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ARTS MacArthur Foundation Announces 2016 'Genius' Grant Winners [The New York Times] This year's winners of the MacArthur fellowships, awarded for exceptional "originality, insight and potential," and publicly announced on Thursday, include writers, visual artists, scientists, nonprofit organization leaders and others, who are chosen at a moment when the recognition and money — a no-strings-attached grant of $625,000 distributed over five years — will make a difference. Ahilan Arulanantham, 43, Los Angeles. As director of advocacy and legal director of the American Civil Liberties Union of Southern California, Arulanantham fights for due process rights for people threatened with deportation. He also works to broaden immigrants' ability to obtain legal representation in court. Daryl Baldwin, 53, Oxford, Ohio. A cultural preservationist who is director of the Myaamia Center at Miami University of Ohio, Baldwin works to rejuvenate the language and culture of the Miami (Myaamia) nation. Though the last native speaker of the Miami language died roughly half a century ago, Baldwin has mastered the language and is teaching it to others. Anne Basting, 51, Milwaukee. A professor of theater at the University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee, Basting uses theatrical techniques to enrich the lives of those with cognitive challenges. This work has helped older individuals battle the intellectual losses associated with aging. Vincent Fecteau, 47, San Francisco. The sculptor creates complex pieces from ordinary materials, such as cardboard and papier-mache, that invite close examination. Viewed from varying perspectives, Fecteau's works cast new light on the meaning of three-dimensionality. Branden Jacobs-Jenkins, 31, New York. Playwright Jacobs-Jenkins addresses issues of race, identity, class and family head-on. Past and present collide in some of his works, provocatively showing how America's racial history impacts present-day life. Kellie Jones, 57, New York. An associate professor in the department of art history and archaeology at Columbia University, art historian/curator Jones has shed light on contemporary art of African lineage. Through exhibitions and scholarly research, she has helped bring the work of Martin Puryear, David Hammons and others to the general public. Subhash Khot, 38, New York. A professor of computer science at New York University, Khot works to understand the possible limitations of computing. His discoveries have both theoretical and practical implications, the latter concerning how election systems function. Josh Kun, 45, Los Angeles. A professor of communication at the University of Southern California, Kun draws knowledge from the artifacts of popular culture. Album covers, menus, sheet music and other items have inspired his writings and exhibitions. Maggie Nelson, 43, Valencia, Calif. Writer Nelson serves on the faculty of the California Institute of the Arts. Much of her work, articulated in five nonfiction books, has been inspired by feminist and queer theory and other schools of thought. Dianne Newman, 44, Pasadena, Calif. The microbiologist, a professor of biology and geobiology at the California Institute of Technology, studies how bacteria influenced the course of life on Earth and continues to do so. Her work carries implications for treatment of cystic fibrosis and other diseases. Victoria Orphan, 44, Pasadena, Calif. A professor of environmental science and geobiology at the California Institute of Technology, Orphan studies how micro-organisms at the seabed draw energy from methane gas. This work deepens our knowledge of how the planet's climate functions. Manu Prakash, 36, Stanford, Calif. An assistant professor in the department of bioengineering at Stanford University, physical biologist Prakash researches how various life forms work. He also has invented devices that open up scientific investigation for those with limited funds, such as a lightweight microscope that costs less than a dollar to make. Jose A. Quinonez, 45, San Francisco. The founder and CEO of Mission Asset Fund in San Francisco, Quinonez has created methods for those locked out of the financial system to build and obtain credit. This includes people from low-income, minority and immigrant families. Claudia Rankine, 53, New Haven, Conn. A professor of poetry at Yale University, Rankine writes poems, essays and lectures confronting personal issues, as well as the racial angst of our times. Her innovative use of language drives much of this work. Lauren Redniss, 42, New York. An assistant professor of illustration at the New School's Parsons School for Design, artist-writer Redniss creates unconventional books that interweave text, typeface, layout and design to tell their stories. Her subject matter ranges widely, from the tale of a Ziegfeld Follies performer in "Century Girl" to the tempestuousness of weather in "Thunder and Lightning." Mary Reid Kelley, 37, Olivebridge, N.Y. A multifaceted artist, Reid Kelley writes, designs and performs in her videos. Various storytelling techniques converge in her narratives, which draw upon mythology, history and imagination. Rebecca Richards-Kortum, 52, Houston. A professor in the department of bioengineering at Rice University, Richards-Kortum has helped create low-cost medical technologies that aid societies in impoverished places around the world. These include methods for diagnosing cancers. Joyce J. Scott, 67, Baltimore. From a distance, the pieces created by jewelry maker and sculptor Scott appear decorative. At close range, they carry messages about sexism, racism and violence. Sarah Stillman, 32, New York. A staff writer at The New Yorker magazine, Stillman specializes in long-form journalism. Her extensive pieces have taken on subjects such as the poor conditions suffered by laborers serving the American military in foreign countries and the dangers that youthful police informants endure. Bill Thies, 38, Bangalore, India. The computer scientist invents ways to render various technologies available to developing communities in India. These include methods for making social media available to those with limited tools and helping individuals monitor their consumption of medicine, thereby slowing the spread of disease. Julia Wolfe, 57, New York. An associate professor of music composition at New York University, Wolfe creates musical works that draw on a vast range of idioms. Classical, folkloric, rock and other musical languages converge in her compositions. Gene Luen Yang, 43, San Jose, Calif. The graphic novelist/cartoonist takes on a broad range of topics. He has told many stories from a Chinese-American perspective, creating, for instance, inspirational Asian superheroes. Jin-Quan Yu, 50, La Jolla, Calif. A professor in the department of chemistry at Scripps Research Institute, Yu has done groundbreaking work in developing innovative chemical compounds. [via: Chicago Tribune]

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I need to buy a fairly sturdy tablecloth for a small unshielded outside table in an area that's usually sunny, but where conditions range over the year from scorching hot / serious UV, to occasionally rainy and maybe a bit windy, to cold-but-not-(usually) freezing. What kind of material am I looking for?In other words, what fabric or material option for a retail-available tablecloth is likely to degrade the least outside over time, especially in a very sunny climate?

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In 1993, American Girl set out to introduce its first black character. All she had to do was represent the entire history of black America. Previously.

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I have a wooden window seat/radiator cabinet cover that's aged and warped. It measures approximately 88 inches wide by 25 inches deep with a hinge in the middle. Pictures here. Does anyone have suggestions on cabinetry companies I could contact and an idea of how much it would cost?Alternatively, do you think this might be something I could do on my own as an amateur with a trip to Home Depot, or somehow address creatively without having to special order something from a carpenter? An added complication is that I will probably get a second set of internal windows (for noise reduction) soon, and eventually update my floors, so I'd prefer as neutral a finish as possible. I don't want to go with a finish for the cabinet, and then have it locked in with the second set of internal windows, and then be limited in how I can update my floors by the finish on the cabinet cover. Wood warps easily, so I was thinking a slip-proof steel cover might look cool — but I wonder if it will get too hot from heat transferred from the radiator. All ideas welcome — thanks!

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I would like to have more time-based structure in my working day. Like, 8-9am is for email, 9-12 is for today's tasks, etc. But I don't have a good sense of time, so I forget that I should be switching from email to tasks in about 5 minutes, for example. I also get distracted easily, so I go research something to answer an email and end up doing something completely different, forgetting I'm supposed to be answering emails right now. Is there (a Windows 8 or Android) app for that?When I was in school, the current classroom or teacher was a constant reminder of what class I'm in and the school bell was the notification to change classes. What would be the office equivalent of that? Do homeschooling families use something for such a purpose? I'm leaning more toward a solution for Windows, because I look at my PC's screen constantly, and my phone screen only occasionally. Maybe something that would sit on top of other windows and show the current task and notify me whenever that task changes?

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Another grieving process question: Since my dad died, I've had difficulty getting along with my mother. What's going on, and how do I make sure our relationship does not become permanently weakened?Firstly, apologies if this question is all over the place. My dad died 1.5 months ago. Previous questions I posted have more backstory, but basically I moved back to my home country to be with him after his cancer diagnosis earlier this year. I'm living at home for the next 5 months. I am still very, very sad and I don't expect this to go away anytime soon. But I am busy and active, socialising, exercising regularly, eating well and taking care of myself - so I don't think I'm depressed. I'm arguing a lot more with my mother these days. I feel so impatient with her. My mother is a good woman and a good mother, and I love her, but our personalities are very different, and they clash more than before nowadays. Specifically, I get mad at her for being unworldly, vulnerable and needy. (FWIW, she is the polar opposite of my father, who was definitely the one you went to for help and advice on anything practical.) I find it hard to be my best self around her which makes me feel so bad and like a total failure. I get mad at her for little things, I find it difficult to communicate with her about my feelings, and we both get angry with each other very easily, especially about long-time trigger topics like my weight. I fear that I am idealising my father and getting mad at my mother purely because she isn't him, which is ridiculous - I loved him but he wasn't perfect either. But all the things that bug me about my mother currently, are things that I miss in my father. I am pretty sure this is us readjusting to being a one-parent family (my parents were divorced but got along OK), she's readjusting to having to deal with me all the time and not having to share me with my dad, and I am also readjusting to just having one parent rather than two. But how long will this last and how do I make sure, during these stages, that I do not end up permanently weakening our relationship? I don't want that to happen.

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Anyone have any experience (short or long term) with the supplement 7 Keto DHEA? I just took it for the first time and had such an exciting, amazing day, wanted to see if others had similar reactions etc. Ok so basically a bit of background on myself, 38 year old asian, fit, normal bmi, no previous history of drug abuse etc, normal blood pressure, don't do a lot of cardio but have about 16 percent body fat. High stress, probably have adhd as well as bouts of depression from time to time. Long story short I read somewhere (can't remember which forum) about the positive benefits of supplementing with 7 keto dhea, but dismissed it since it was on Dr. Oz and figured it was some new fad like many etc. Anyhow I decided to do some research on it since after reading so many seemingly objective and non paid reviews on various vendor sites (amazon, gnc, vitamin shoppe, etc) many people have had good results. My main goal was to simply help fuel my workouts. I enjoy working out, (well the feeling AFTER Im done) but like many have had problems getting to the gym out of laziness etc. So long story short after taking 100mg of 7 keto dhea today this morning, this is what I experienced. -Took the pill, within a hour started feeling very "sunny" and pleasant, thought it was the weather but it was a subtle sense of happiness. Decided to get my work done that I was procrastinating, finished a minor to do list (Which I had been avoiding), wholeheartedly went to the gym after work (and was actually excited which was weird) and had one of my best workouts where I actually pushed myself to a higher intensity. (I usually take long breaks and waste time in between sets on my smartphone etc). Also what was weird was I didn't mind how crowded it was, I was in such a great mood, not crazy euphoric but more like at peace and energized... Anyhow after my workout I ate a healthy dinner and didn't gorge on sugary desserts (I have a sweet tooth) then went home and read a book I had been putting off, called 3 friends on the phone (im not usually a phone person) and then called a few other friends I had lost touch with and had not talked to in years! I was meaning to contact them but never had the urge or it felt kinda weird, but this drug basically lowers my inhibition, makes me energized, allows me actually WANT to do things I've been putting off and avoiding, etc, is this normal? The brand I bought, (jarrows, which was available at a local retail Vitamin Shoppe, as well as whole foods) recommended taking 2 a day, but 1 was so powerful and lasted from 10am until now (its 3am pacific time here) and it was such an amazing day. I feel very happy and positive and fearless. Not to scare anyone since I probably sound like a crack addict (as I have tried ecstasy in my younger years and it does feel like a mini ecstacsy trip but more in control) but just wondering if anyone else has taken this or can at least somewhat explain what dhea actually does to a non science/physiology person such as myself who simply gave it whirl and now honestly had a breakthrough day full of productivity, peace and love. Gosh I sound like a hippie and recognize if I take this consistently these severely obvious positive effects will lessen, but if it can just give me the gumption to get my ass to the gym consistently then it will be a miracle drug to me. Bottom line it made my day so much more fun and I wasn't in a bad place or depressed before I tried it. I admit this depiction in probably seems manic, and yes I had been prescribed Ritalin for my adhd a few years back and remember what that felt like, and yes this does feel a bit similar without the eventual comedown. Anyhow just curious is anyone would be kind and informed enough to explain how a supplement designed to speed up your metabolism is giving me a hybrid feel of caffeine, extascy, and ritalin and made my day so much more exciting and interesting? Also, although Im not one to peddle any supplement since we all have different body chemistry and even supplements that are available over the counter need to be monitored safely, perhaps this will allow someone else out there to try it out and also reap the obvious benefits that I have so far! (in one day of course lol). Thanks!

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The Atlas of Living Australia contains information on all the known species (animals, plants and more) in Australia, aggregated from a wide range of data providers: museums, herbaria, community groups, government departments, individuals and universities. It contains more than 50 million occurrence records, based on specimens, field observations and surveys. These records are enriched by additional information including molecular data, photographs, maps, sound recordings and literature. Explore your area! About the Atlas.

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The Brothers Karamazov: Illustrated Platinum Edition Other "illustrated platinum editions" courtesy of illustrator "Pablo" and author "Read Monkey" include Jane Eyre, Dracula, Hamlet, The Time Machine, A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court, Flatland, Persuasion, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, A Tale of Two Cities, Kim, Uncle Tom's Cabin, Little Women, Little Men, The Illiad, Northanger Abbey, The Red Badge of Courage, and many, many more.

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What are specific essentials required to do the work you do that would not be listed in your job description or key selection criteria for your work ? And why?

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I'm never hungry after long runs. What gives?I have always been into different types of workouts but I recently increased the intensity of my running. For whatever reason, I find that after my weekend long runs, it's very difficult to eat. In fact, the longer distance it is, the less I want to. I will force down something because I know it's terrible for one's body to not eat after such an intense workout, but why don' t I want to? This doesn't happen after other cardio workouts or when I do strength. I'm more curious than anything. It's not causing any real problems for me, but I'm wondering: why is my body doing this?

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I'm going to start a new job with a night shift next week (11pm to 7am). I'm considering getting one of those daylight imitating lamps to help maintain my circadian rhythm, but I'm wondering if anyone really needs or uses them, and if so, what kind? Are the little ones good enough? Or could I just get a blue-ish lightbulb and screw that into my regular lamp? Also do they rack up your electric bill a lot or is it negligible?Any other tips from night time workers appreciated, but I'd like to stay away from using sleeping pills or caffeine (ime, neither have much affect on me other than caffeine giving me the jitters).

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Batman: Bad Kitty (SLYT)

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The Golden Age of Squatting, a history of London's squats and what squatting looks like in the present day. The squat movement flowered in London in the 1970s, when an estimated 30,000 people lived in squats in Greater London, and the movement provided the base for many London subcultures over several decades. In 2012, the scene took a legal body blow when squatting in residential (rather than commercial) properties was made a criminal offense

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My dad never played catch with me When we jumped

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How Mr and Mrs Gock Saved the Kumara - amongst other achievements.

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I've got a black tie optional wedding coming up. I could wear a suit, but I've put on too much weight to fit into my suits. So I figure why not get spiffy. BUT the best place, Eisenberg & Eisenberg, has closed its doors for good. So...where might be some good spots to rent a tux in NYC? Places that are NOT Men's Weearhouse. I'm thinking traditional, though I am open to something a little more contemporary. But I'd like good quality, and not all sweated up and puked-on prom wear. Any suggestions will be entertained and appreciated.

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They're lining up the prisoners And the guards are taking aim I struggled with some demons They were middle-class and tame I didn't know I had permission To murder and to maim Hineni, hineni I'm ready, my lord Today on Leonard Cohen's 82nd birthday, he released the first single "You Want It Darker," from the album of the same name, which will be available on October 21.

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Well endowed women of Metafilter, do any of those stick on bras work? Does anything work? I want to wear backless summer dresses.The weather is warming up and I love clothes and I want to wear what I want to wear. I'm 36DD/E. I'm looking for a reliable backless solution that isn't a halter. It doesnt have to be super well made, I'm happy to have something that will get me through summer. I don't mind a solution with minimal lift if it can hold me still-ish. What makes me self conscious about going braless is bouncing and swinging when I'm walking around. Will any of those stick on things will work for my size? What else can i try?

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It seems simple enough. You are presented with two celebrities, and you must choose. Which. One. Vapes.

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