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My 14-yo has been talking about a gaming computer for many moons. He wants to play Steam games: Minecraft, Don't Starve, Day Z, etc. Mainly networked playing. All of the computers we look at are just a really high end, colorful box with no OS, no monitor, no keyboard or mouse for around $800-$900. I am looking for an all-in-one that is graphics, ram and HD expandable and will run Steam (mostly) effortlessly. All suggestions welcome!

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On Trial for Rape by Ann Brocklehurst [The Walrus Magazine] "Late last year, in a Toronto courtroom, a young woman faced off against the university student whom she accused of raping her in a school parking lot. The media ignored the story. This is a series about a criminal rape trial that took place in Toronto late last year. The trial lasted eight days; the judge announced his verdict earlier this month." —Ann Brocklehurst Part 1: She Said Part 2: Are You Sure? Part 3: Can the Complainant Continue? Part 4: The Facebook Test Part 5: He Said Part 6: "I'm Not a Rapist" Part 7: Closing Arguments Part 8: The Verdict

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I am currently visiting NYC and am moving here soon. I thought it would be helpful to know where to get cheap food - I won't be making too much money and am looking to move to Queens, Brooklyn or Inwood/ Washington Heights. Does anyone have any recommendations, even if not in those areas?Cheap produce would be great to know of as I usually skimp on that. I figure it might be helpful to look at these places while I'm here, to get a better idea of my budget, since outside of rent, I spend most of my money on food. Thanks guys!

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Do the four major US professional team sports leagues (MLB, NHL, NFL and NBA) have secret plans on how to proceed with the league and the league schedule in the event of a catastrophe such as a plane crash to one of the teams?For example, Major League Baseball plays a 162 game schedule. What if a team perished in a plane crash after playing 62 of those games? What would become of the other 100 games? Would the team simply call up their triple A team? Maybe there is a provision for the team to draft players from other teams in order to field a competitive team. I have to/want to believe that in this day and age of sports being a huge business, that there are stashed away contingency plans for each league on what to do. For the simple reason that nobody would want to publicly speculate on what happens in this event, I doubt there are public plans on what would happen, but good corporate governance would dictate that there at least be a plan in place. Whether that plan would be executed as written is open for debate, but is there at least a plan in place? I believe in the Russian hockey league the KHL, in 2011, a team jet crashed killing all aboard. The team did not participate in the rest of the season (not sure what happened to the teams that were scheduled to play them), there was some sort of draft held to help them field a competitive team, and they geared up to play in the following year's league schedule. Does anyone know of such contingency plans?

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I use Statcounter to track who visits my Tumblr, and a couple of IP addresses in a couple of towns are giving me some concern.I try to keep my account relatively anonymous because of various workplace bitching, etc. (nothing super illegal or racy), and it seems like I might be "out" to some people IRL based on the locations named in their IP addresses. Is there any way to more precisely determine who or where the user is, based on IP address, city/state/nation, browser, and/or OS? Or is this a futile exercise and I'd be better off scrubbing the blog and changing my URL?

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I'm finally ready to put my Memphis house on the market again, so have to find an ethical, skilled professional realtor there (I live 3 hours away). Ideally this would be someone who learned the business, and performance standards, in at least one other major American city.I bought the house in 2005 and tried to sell it in 2010, and ended up dealing with 6 different realtors along the way - experiences that ranged from disastrously expensive to frustrating at best. There was no intentional fraud (though I won 2 court cases), and all 6 were from well-known firms (haven't tried Crye-Leike yet). But they were all native or near-native to Memphis, where the boundary between personal convenience and public responsibility seemed to be to be frequently blurred. There is so much to love about Memphis, but I dread the thought of having to do business there one more time. Any recommendations?

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I have a Brother XL-5031 sewing machine which I cleaned and oiled 3 weeks ago. I do have the manual for it. It is sewing backwards in very tiny stitches. I think this means the feed dogs are not sitting right. So I've cleaned out the fluff on the feed dogs and checked my tension. I've re-threaded upper and lower threads. I've checked the pattern selection and the stitch length dials. I've found out when I press the reverse button, the machine sews perfectly well using the appropriate stitch length, in reverse, as it ought. But forwards, not at all. Mefites, has anyone a clue as to what else I could do here, short of taking it to be serviced? I think perhaps the pattern selection dial is sticking somewhere and doing something weird to the feed dogs, how to fix it? The machine doesn't have a drop feed lever as far as I can see.ps it would be great to have a category of 'crafts' because this could well have gone in 'clothing beauty & fashion' or 'home and garden' or 'technology' or 'sports, hobbies and recreation'.

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Piratenpartei MEP Julia Reda's draft report on copyright (pdf) has been heavily criticized by former Swedish Pirate Party MEP Amelia Andersdotter (previously).

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Fixing some information in a scanned document. Screen shows a perfect seamless page but when printed the blocks I changed show up lighter. Is there some way I can fix this?

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My most favorite everyday bras at Target have vanished. Help me find new bras? TMI inside.My favorite bras from Gilligan & O'Malley have vanished from Target - I can only assume they are discontinued. They were the perfect everyday bra in my opinion, so this makes me want to set things on fire. Please help me find a suitable replacement! My requirements: - full coverage cups. I hate demi bras so, so much. - smooth, so they don't show under shirts - no lace or other frivolous adornments. the plainer the better. - comes in neutral colors - lightly lined, to tame headlights - I'm used to underwires, but I suppose I can live without if I must - straps that can be adjusted to be racerback, regular or whatever (I can give on this if I *must*) - ideally priced under $20 each - no special sizing requirements. I wear an average size that is stocked everywhere. Please tell me such a bra exists ladies of MeFi!

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Iain talks about how it feels when a show closes (SLYT) Previously

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I'm a visual artist, and recently I've been feeling the urge to photograph nudes, male and female. Whilst I don't have any issues with male nudes, I seem to be getting hung up on past experiences when it comes to the female nudes. Help me understand what is due to the past and what is actually a genuine problem with what it is that I want to do (details inside).I've done plenty of photography work before (I'm mostly a painter and filmmaker, but I came to filmmaking via still photography and I still have a love for it). I've shot fashion and conceptual stuff; I've shot up to "implied" nude (i.e. the model might be topless but their nipples are hidden). I can't get out of my head that, whilst shooting male nudes is fine, shooting female nudes is just a sign that I'm a big old pervert and that I'm just doing it for my own gratification (no matter how much I tell myself I'm not doing). Part of this, I'm sure, stems from my now-dissolved marriage. My wife was fine with the idea of me shooting female subjects and would often come along and help out on my shoots, but she had very strong ideas about nudity, mostly: - Any guy who shoots nudes just wants to see naked girls. - Shooting nudes leads to the photographer screwing the models - No self-resepecting woman would model nude - Nude photography of women is driven by the patriarchy and is inherently sexual - There's no such thing as "art nude"; there's just varying levels of porn - Were I to shoot with a nude model, that model would later accuse me of sexual assault. Now, whilst I don't agree with her on all or even most of those points, I find myself wondering: Is the nude in art inherently sexual? I have no sexual feelings about shooting nudes whatsoever, male or female (I'm straight, FWIW). I often attend life drawing classes with nude models and never feel even the remotest stirring of anything at all, and I should imaging that making photographs of nudes would be much the same: i.e. concentrating on light and shadow and shape and composition. My current S.O. is perfectly happy for me to follow these ideas; she's been very supportive (she's an artist herself, often models nude for art classes, and is the least body-shy person I know). But for some reason my ex's words echo in my head: that to do this I must be a pervert or wannabe pornographer, that it's not really art and that I can only be doing it for titillation. There are enough naked photos in the world, my ex's voice tells me; I'd not be doing anything new so it can't be artistic. I guess what I'm asking is this: can a straight man legitimately photograph naked women for artistic reasons, or am I really just expressing some deep seated urge to see boobs? Can one identify as a feminist (as I do) and make artisitic pictures of naked women? And if I am just out to see boobs, why can't I just look on the internet like a normal pervert?

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A few weeks ago I bought a Lenovo Flex 2-14 laptop. I seem to have mostly conquered the issues catalogued in this question, which all stemmed from Lenovo's bizarre decision to pre-load the thing with Malware. After a total reinstall from scratch (and a lost weekend - thanks Lenovo), I'm now mostly happy with the machine, save for one crucial issue - the supplied SSD is far too small.The laptop shipped with a 25GB SSD and 450GB (or so) HD. The latter is perfectly adequate but it now transpires the former is not fit for purpose. This is my first experience of a laptop with a solid state drive, so I didn't think to check, but after installing Windows 8.1, a couple of browsers and Microsoft Office I'm regularly down to around 100mb of free space, which can't be healthy. Whenever I can, of course, I put data and programs on the HD, but Office apparently has to live on the same drive as the OS. So I'd like to upgrade. But how? Is there a way of buying a new compatible SSD, wiring it up via USB or something to clone the existing SSD and then physically swap them over? As ever, tips and tricks welcomed.

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Asking for a friend: help me find a psychiatrist or better yet a mental health outpatient clinic in NYC that takes Medicaid HealthPlus and doesn't have insanely long wait times.Friend who has no metafilter account is going from private insurance to Medicaid on Feb 2 and needs a variety of mental healthcare services. she suffers from bipolar, anorexia, adhd, ptsd. she does best with medication management and one on one CBT/group therapy. can you recommend providers in NYC that can offer these services without crazy wait times? she lives in brooklyn. she found a clinic in park slope with these services, for example, but they told her it would be a month until intake with a staff psychiatrist and then another month after that until she could get into regular therapy of some kind. this is too long for her to wait, especially for mental health meds. thanks in advance for your help.

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I accidentally put one of those plastic sheet protector things (with paper in it) onto an electric burner that was switched off but still hot. I didn't realise it at the time and came back to a neat hole in the sheet protector, some scorch marks on the paper and some of the plastic melted onto the burner. Thankfully it didn't catch fire. It's a coil burner. My question is: what's the best way to deal with it?There is less plastic residue around than there is plastic missing, so presumably some has melted/burned off already. Would it be safe to turn the coil on to burn the rest off or should I scrape the plastic off the coil? It's pretty well stuck on there, so while not impossible, would take a while and I'm not entirely sure I could get it all off. Any tips for removing the plastic stuff would be much appreciated.

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Of course my check-engine light comes on 4 days before the deadline to get my emissions tested. The issue got fixed yesterday, but they told me it could take up to a week to reset my car's computer--and if I got my emissions tested before it fully reset, I'd fail. Can I put my car through all the necessary paces in 3 days?They told me the three big things I had to do was stop-and-go city driving (check), sit overnight with half a tank of gas (check), and drive on the interstate (check). What else does my car need to do to pass the emissions test by Saturday?

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How do I remain impartial between two warring factions? A few years ago I joined my workplace union. As I have worked my way into HQ, I have discovered two distinct factions. I have made many good friends on either side but it's getting difficult to enjoy myself and feel included. I get upset and feel like I want to quit... HELP :/I'm no revolutionary; just a regular gung ho activist, in the sense that being an organiser and a decision maker in my union, (which has tens of thousands of members) is part of the call to make my small corner of the world a better place. Aside from trying to save jobs and represent members in workplace matters I leaflet the community on/offline about the usual stuff, fracking, tax avoidance, healthcare etc... The first year or two as I got involved I had so much fun and felt like I was doing well in the union, everyone remarked how I made the best speeches, had great ideas and I was ushered into lots of different positions on different committees (Youth, LGBT, Employment, Learning, Congress etc) writing articles for publication attending conferences on behalf of members here and sometimes abroad. I felt I had found my calling, but all this meant lots of time with the same few hundred leading representatives, some of it leisure time, so I made good friends, close enough to go to birthdays/weddings even funerals. Turns out being a catalyst for good is much harder than I thought. For the last year or so I have known about 2 distinct factions, one mostly socialists, the other mostly communists. They via for control of the council and at election time every year and hate each other with a passion. As I got to know people, I was being invited to fringe opposing fringe meetings. I have come to realise that the hatred is very personal in that they slander each other in their separate groups. I, having been somewhat naive thinking it was like any workplace in that some people just didn't get along. I can't attend either fringe meetings now as they usually run concurrently and I am left alone... I can get some on each side to admit personally that it is all stupid, in that they all work on about 97% of the same issues aside from a few political and ideological objectives they all are stuck working together on the same thing and they would be so much more effective if they worked together. I really dont see any advantage of being on either side, despite being in the inner circle. So I've been pressurised to join the slate by both sides for some time now, each extolling their virtues and telling how the other side lies and claims work they did as their own etc. Its election time again and I have been specifically tagged in both sides of the campaigns on social media, leading to personal messages saying "are you voting for people a, and can we count on you to spread the word etc" I don't want to reply saying "no" or "I vote for my friends on each side" because I know it will result in making enemies, and that's something I never want to do, not that I haven't had issues in the past wanting everyone to like me... It's just I see so many older members who used to be friends hate each other now, and I am upset by the idea that in the future I will have to choose to hate half of the good friends I have made. I get really upset sometime and feel like i want to quit activism and volunteering altogether! HELP :/ 1. How can reply to their messages and turn down their calls to canvass even though i am somewhat on side? 2. How do I remain impartial and listen to them slander each other? 3. How do I convince them that i'm impartial, not a mole or backstabbing each side in turn etc? Thank you in advance :)

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Last summer, Tilbury, Essex became Grimsby, North Lincolnshire. Detritus was strewn across the streets to affect the temporal change. Caricatures of slags and obese scroungers marauded up and down the road. Across one of the pulled-down shop shutters was scrawled "HULL R WANKERS", a rivalry that might have made sense a four-hour drive north. Tim Burrows asks, When Are We Going to Stop Laughing at 'Shit Britain'?

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I'm hoping to get suggestions for how to relax after a day of drinking coffee. I'm looking for relaxing behaviors, rather than substances. Hoping to hear what people actually do in their real lives, as opposed to what the experts suggest.I go through phases where I feel I need coffee to help me get my work done. I'm in one of those phases right now. It's okay, but I find it hard to relax at the end of the day, even if I only drink a small amount. Taking a relaxant to counteract the stimulating effect (like alcohol, sleeping pills, or pot) seems to cause more problems than it solves for me, so I'm looking instead for behavioral methods of relaxing. I read the Wikipedia article on relaxation techniques, but it all seemed rather formal and clinical, and I found myself really wanting to know what people actually do. What do you do in your daily life to relax, which you know works well from personal experience? Even if it's something very simple and obvious, I'd like to know. And if you do use a more formal relaxation technique that you can recommend, then I'd like to know that too.

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I'm looking for more songs similar to M. Ward's "One Hundred Million Years" for a 20-minute baby photo/video compilation. I have found plenty of kids' songs and songs written about having children. I'm looking for more indie songs that echo the sentiment, "And this love, this love between you and I, Is older than that burning ball of fire up in the sky." Songs by indie singers about endless love, happiness, joy, the beauty of life, etc. would fit the bill.Anything too specifically adult-romantic is out. Other artists I like are Iron and Wine, The Avett Brothers, Mumford and Sons, the Jayhawks, Mark Olson, Gillian Welch, Allison Krauss. I'm also using Josh Ritter's "Joy to you Baby." (Lyrics include, "Joy to the city, Joy to the streets, And joy to you baby, wherever you sleep.") Thanks!

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I'm looking into buying a new camera. I was a casual dslr user (Canon) but now I rarely use it and want to find a lighter camera (but with comparable quality) to bring when I travel. I also like the look of the Fuji X cameras because I do think they look less obtrusive and generally really attactive to me. I am completely overwhelmed by all the choices.Right now I've been looking up Fuji X cameras, but even among those there are so many! I don't know if I should go with a Fuji X-E2 or X-M1 or a camera with a fixed lens or if other brands have way better options?? I just want something with good picture quality and also good video if possible. I'm also going to Japan this year and wondering if I should buy one there? Any advice or recommendations would really be appreciated.

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75 million Americans don't have internet. Here's what it's like.

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The reason for the question is behind the cut, but basically I'm trying to find out if something like that is even remotely possible.A friend has an Internet friendship that's turning kind of serious, and this friend claims that they had a voluntary quadruple amputation three months ago while in the US. Internet Friend says they have a nurse come by to see them four or five times a week, and otherwise are entirely on their own. I can't think of any way it would be possible for someone to do that to themselves and survive-- and I also can't imagine that any competent doctor would do it, either. The lack of outside assistance also seems, to me, to be unlikely. (Possibly not coincidentally, my friend has never met this person IRL; and Internet Friend has started hinting at financial troubles.)

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How much and what type of math is beneficial to programming? What are the prerequisites / pathways to grokking this kind of math?Firstly, I know that you can be a perfectly productive, efficient and employable programmer with only rudimentary knowledge of math. I have a rudimentary knowledge of math. I finished studying math at the GCSE level in the UK, so I'm missing what ever would be taught at 'A' level math, or presumably VCE math in Australia (unsure of US equivalents). But, I was interested in following the MIT opencourseware course for Introductions to Algorithms and int he first few minutes the prof states that the prior course, Math for Computer Science was a prerequisite. So I quit that video, and found video 1 for Math for CS...I could follow most of that, but felt I'd have an easier time if I took one more step back. The trouble is, I don't know what step that should be. I took a look at the Khan Academy tracks for math and the options were not helpful. Do I want to look at algebra, calculus, probability, or something else? So please help me map out a sensible pathway for learning the math that will help with my main interest in programming and better understanding algorithms. We'll assume I can do arithmetic and basic algebra, and I can remember Pythagoras' theorem, and how to figure out the area of a circle, but not what sin, cos, tan mean or what they are used for. If you mention an area in math worth pursuing, please suggest what area of programming it is beneficial for.

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Why is it so easy for me to naturally make friends but never meet guys that ask me out? I always thought that people skills in both scenarios are transferable. The only difference I can think of are looks but I don't think that's my problem.To clarify, I make the most of my looks and already spend a enough time in the gym or shopping. I don't think I am too unattractive for men to notice me. However, it could be some weird sex appeal thing that I just don't exude? With that said, what could be the other reason that I am easily approachable and liked by people yet I never meet men that ask me out? I always seem to have to go out of my way to find men to date. It seems to be more natural for other people where they go about their daily life and just meet potential boyfriends randomly. Conversely, I never really put an effort into making friends. I am an introvert and content by being on my own so making friends is not really something I care too much about. Yet in any new enviroment people tend to talk to me and invite me to stuff and then friendships just deepen and progress over time. They tend to ask me for directions on the street too. To clarify, people that are friendly to me are always either women or non-single men. Somehow single men just seem to ignore me although I never meet that many to begin with, especially not those my age (30s). I am struggling to get it. I think that I am a good catch with my life together and great career and it's not like I live a hermit lifestyle either. Why don't I attract men?

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