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I'm looking for recommendations for tattoo artists in the DFW, Austin, or Houston areas with some specific guidance.The primary quality I'm looking for in an artist is a very individual style. There are lots of fantastic artists who work in Japanese, traditional, photorealistic styles, etc. that above a certain level of raw skill seem fairly similar to me. I'm not ruling out any of these specific styles, but I'm looking for an individual artist's hand to be obvious. The second is specific to the tattoo I'm planning now. It would be good if they have a psychedelic and/or occult bent or expertise. Any ideas?

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I'd like to take my mom (70) to the night markets this holiday season. Looking for the best options. Details inside.I'd like to take my mom to Germany and Austria this holiday season. Looking for suggestions — either DIY or a tour if you're familiar. She's fairly active, so walking is fine. Maybe 7-10 days? Bonus points if Budapest can figure in. Extra bonus points if you can tell me if a five-year-old would be fun in this kind of trip.

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Low-tech Magazine does small wooden wind turbines.

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I'm planning a family reunion and there are just so many variables that it's making my head spin. I need to find a place in the Caribbean that has reasonable airfares and reasonable rates for the specific types of lodging we need. But rather than going island by island, searching airfares and then lodging, I'd love to know if there's a service or a site that can do some of the heavy lifting for me. Is this what a travel agent can help with? If so, how do I choose a good travel agent?

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I'm going to the Umbria/Tuscan region of Italy next week. I will be taking day trips to Gubbio and Perugia. Any advice for things to see or do?Next week, I'll be at a yoga retreat at a villa in the Umbria/Tuscany region of Italy. Most days, I'll have activities already planned at the villa, but I"m also going to spend a day in Gubbio and a day in Perugia, plus wherever else I can get to easily. Any suggestions for cool stuff to see or do in Gubbio or Perugia? I've already done my online research on the famous stuff so I know about the cable car, the fountain of fools etc :) I usually turn to Atlas Obscura to find little known weird stuff to do but...they had almost nothing listed. I like art, music, festivals, theater, and anything supernatural or bizarre! Would also love suggestions on really good gelato/pastry places.

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The LA Review of Books revisits the life and writing of Ronald M. Schernikau i am afraid. am female, am male, double. feel my body departing from my body, see my white hands, my eyes in the mirror, i don't want to be double who am I? want to be me, male, female, see only white. i am facing myself, want to reach myself, stretch my arms out towards myself where am i? i see, kiss, hug and intermingle. at some point lea appears, then reappears, and at last he is aware of her. b. senses: he's lying in bed, it's morning, his room is blurry, he tries to take it in, feels the movement of his head, doesn't try to steer it. no hope for a good day today, fuckingettingup, fuckingschool, fuckinglife.

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Mail-in diagnostic testing lacks the rigor and accuracy of actual medical testing. The results can be inaccurate and misleading even when true, as they lack context. Science and astrology are often seen as opposite poles... The implication is that anything making a scientific claim, like a medical test, should not be as squishy as astrology. Yet the same thing that drives some people toward astrology drives others toward mail-in test kits: People want to learn more about themselves and make sense of why they are the way they are. Your life might be fine, but perhaps it could be better if you understand yourself on a deeper level. One such company Ubiome has shuttered under a cloud, and had it's offices raided by the FBI. And of course, everyone remembers Theranos which while not a personal genomics testing company, did promise to "disrupt" testing in a similar way, and crashed and burned under the weight of it's founders hubris. (Previously)(Previously-er) The up-shot? Personalized genetic readings can still be fun, even if they don't promise the sun, moon, and stars; genomics company Helix sells, alongside some dubious-sounding tests, personalized DNA clothing, tote bags, couch throws, and artwork. But if you're really concerned about your fertility, your gut health, or your cancer risk? If you wouldn't consult your horoscope, you might not want to consult a mail-in test either.

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My senior dog's kidney disease is acting up again. Do I do fluid therapy and hospitalization?We've been managing my 14/15year old Westie's kidney disease with specialized food. But he's refused it the past week and the vet says his bloodwork shows it's his kidney disease. She gave two options: Hospitalization with fluid therapy to "jump start" or get him comfortable. This is about $1-2k and could work (few more months) or could do nothing. I worry because he was hospitalized a few years ago and not sure I want to put him through the stress though it could make him feel better. Or, fluids under the skin that we administer. He got the shot a few days ago and it perked him up a little bit, but I'm not sure for how long it'll help. Sigh. I've read the other related threads but any recommendations or thoughts would help greatly. He's still eating chicken and other home cooked foods, played ball a little yesterday, so I'm trying to be hopeful (but keep him comfortable).

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I'm turning 30 in a month or so, and I'd like to plan a 2-3 night getaway for the beginning of August. Criteria inside.Looking to car camp or AirBnB it for

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I hate myself - I hate that I envy my friends, hate that I have a fear of missing out on information to the extent that it paralyzes my life and means I never actually DO anything. I hate my depression, hate that I have been taking antidepressants for 15 years and am no better, hate that spending time with my own family makes me uncomfortable, hate that I have zero ambition to get out of the dead end job I hate.Hate feeling tired all the time, having no energy to play with my daughter I hate being so cynical about everything- feeling like I am intellectually superior to people when I am not, I am just quick witted enough to bluff my way. I hate that I objectify women in my mind I have very few friends (surprise surprise) and I alienate myself from the ones I do have as well as my family No alcohol (excuse I use is I fear addiction) or non-prescription drugs. I take 60mg Cymbalta/Duloxetine every day along with cyclazine, lanzoprazole and tramadol all on prescription but still suffer from headaches every day. I have essential tremors in my hands and some facial twitching. My sleep is poor usually waking several times per night I love my wife (god knows why she even likes me!) and my beautiful daughter but I fear that some day I am going to cross a line and not be here for them any more Therapy is not really an option as the NHS won't provide any more than 6 weeks of it (I have had several sessions) and I am too poor to go privately

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Will Native Americans be counted? Leonard Jones doesn't remember a survey packet on the porch or a knock on his front door during the last census count. But that doesn't surprise him — not out here. Only family and close friends make the dusty 10-mile trek from the paved road, down dirt switchbacks lined by sandstone mesas, to his secluded home in northwestern New Mexico. There is no electricity, no running water, in the single-level sandstone structure. "Few people know we're out here," Jones, who lives on the Navajo Nation reservation, said on a recent morning as his son Brett trimmed his hair. "We live in nature." "The thought of people coming out here and making us a part of any official count seems like a stretch, you know?"

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I booked my Hadrian's Wall trip this summer. (With Contours, so thanks for that recommendation!) I decided to spend 48 hours in Newcastle from 2-4 July before I meet my friend to begin the hike. What should I do?I'm looking for recommendations for things to see, do-not-miss restaurants, special hotels for a comfy solo weekend, shopping districts which aren't big brands, parks/gardens and anything else which you think I should do. I'll likely never make it back to Newcastle, so I want to use my 48 hours wisely. Also, if there are MeFi's in Newcastle, let me know. We could maybe do a meetup.

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We're planning a trip to Austria in August. We plan to stay around three days each in Vienna, Salzburg, and Innsbruck. We've found based on past trips that things work best if we get an early start to our day, do one big thing that interests everyone, take a coffee break, have a late lunch, then head back to the hotel for some downtime in the afternoon. My daughter and wife aren't huge on extended trips to museums or galleries. All of us enjoy concerts, although they're best if short for the kid. Adventure playgrounds, swimming, and climbing walls rate very highly. Light hiking is great; we'd though about taking a funicular up a mountain, then walking part way down. I'd be grateful for recommendations!

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I'm looking for a delightfully preposterous scene from a 1970s or 1980s martial arts movie. Detailed (but almost certainly partially misremembered) recollections within.I hope that you can help me locate a scene from a martial arts movie. I recall the following details, some of which I'm almost certainly misremembering or embellishing: - the scene in question is the climactic battle scene of a profoundly weird 1970s or 1980s martial arts movie - the actors were Japanese and were speaking Japanese, and the audio was voiced over in English - the scene went something like this: (Villainous ninja is trapped in a forest by the good guy) Villain: So. You're the ninja hunter from the CIA. Hero: And you're the rebel who stole the DAK 10 formula. Villain: (grunts or otherwise articulates some form of grudging assent to this accusation) Villain flings the stolen formula, which is stored on a videotape or maybe a book(?), into the crook of a nearby tree branch Villain: We'll fight for it. Winner take all. And then they fight. - I saw this in North Carolina in the early to mid-90s on a VHS cassette. Any information would be most welcome. Thank you!

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We are driving from Boston to Western MA (Lenox) with our 2-year-old. Any recommendations for pit stops along the way?I'm looking to have an option or 2 in my back pocket for the latter half of the drive (basically anything past Worcester). Close to I-90 is best. Parks/great ice cream/cute walkable towns are better than museums, since I'm not looking to turn this into a 3-hour stop. Thanks!

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I've had a Flickr account in gadzoinks, probably since 2005 or 6. One thing I've noticed is that during that through the years the "new posts from friends" email has slowly drifted from arriving on Thursday, to Friday, Saturday, Sunday and now comes on Monday. Does anyone happen to know why that's happened? As in, what programming choice, or variable, has led to this slow drift.

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I'm teaching two undergrad level courses in the fall: globalization and international political economy. There will be considerable content and student enrollment overlap. How can I structure the courses to minimize repetition whilst staying sane? More details within...Hey all: Next semester I've been assigned to teach international political economy and a unhelpfully titled "globalization" course, both geared toward students with some entry level political science/economics background. But, I find myself at wits end because I'm kind of tapped out with regard with globalization. It's soon to be my second year teaching full time, and I've been assigned a lot of the introductory level political science courses. Last semester, I taught a course on globalization and regionalism and a separate one focusing on regional integration. While I received favorable student feedback overall, I'm struggling with dealing with the twin issues of low student participation, and overall insufficient student ability to engage with course reading material (most students are taking our courses outside their mother tongues). I'd like to structure the course around how theories tie in with contemporary issues (for example economic inequality). What makes it more challenging is that a lot of the students will be enrolled in both of these courses. Any suggestions on how I can: -better differentiate the subject matter of the two courses (globalization and IPE) -while also giving students a chance to see how theories and concepts between the two are interwoven? -conserve my dwindling physical and mental capacities (have major course loading) Thanks for any insights!

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My parents, wonderful people that they are, cannot seem to respect my decisions as an adult. How can I respond in a way that preserves our relationship while also respecting my needs?I want to preface this by saying that my parents are really wonderful people. They love my sibling and me unconditionally and try to do what they think is best for us. Severing my relationship with them over this issue is not an option. I am presenting a segment of our relationship here, but you can assume that, overall, they are loving and kind. It might also be helpful to know that my parents grew up in south Asia, but have been in the US for decades and are fairly "westernized." Also, I am a 30-something, financially independent professional with a good career and stable job. I'm having a longstanding issue in which my parents don't seem to respect my independence. Over time, their constant questioning of my life decisions has instilled in me so much self-doubt that I am stressed about every decision I make. They have these dreams of me marrying a handsome, wealthy man from our culture in a big Bollywood ceremony, having lots of kids, having a high-powered career in the big city in which I grew up (and where they still live). Meanwhile, I don't want most of those things. I have decided to move to a semi-rural Midwestern town that I love. I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful, unfailingly supportive man with whom I share life goals but who is not from our mother culture. I don't want kids. I don't want to get married at all. That said, I am happy with my life in general. But they constantly remind me that they don't approve of these facets of my lifestyle, and it's causing me a lot of stress. Although I've been saying for years that I've wanted to move back to that semi-rural town, the decision has caused me insane amounts of stress because now I'm questioning my decision, too - even though I know it's what I want, and even though I have a great job offer that I'm excited about. After meeting my SO (fortunately, they treated him well to his face), my father said to me that he thought my SO was beneath me and that "I think you should break up with him." (Obviously, I am not going to do this. I tried to explain that this was way out of line.) They repeatedly tell me that I should get married, that I should have kids. They want me to meet other men. They keep telling me about job offers in the city they want me to live in. They keep asking why I want the things I want, in a loaded manner that puts me on the defensive, and each time, they claim not to remember my previous explanations. I've explained to them countless times that they need to respect my independence, that they need to take my life decisions seriously, that their questioning of my decisions instills doubt in me that causes me stress, and that it's harming my relationship with them. They don't understand this at all - they think that they're voicing concerns as parents should. They say that they're actually hurt by my requests, but I'm honestly not sure why. I imagine that they might be conflating my requests for independence/support of my life choices with my rejecting them, their wishes, the values with which they tried to raise us, and our heritage. I'm saying, "Stop saying stuff that undermines my confidence and makes me feel bad, and don't insult my SO," but they're hearing, "I'm putting a certain lifestyle above my family and heritage." I suspect that there's also an undercurrent of concern about how they will be perceived "in the community" when their daughter moves to the Midwest and lives with her non-south Asian boyfriend without being married - though they deny this. My questions are these: 1) Can you help me understand why my parents feel hurt by my requests for independence and respect for my lifestyle? 2) How can I get them to understand my request? Or am I just going to have to accept that this is how they are, and if I want to preserve my relationship with them, keep the peace, and maintain my own confidence and sanity, I'm going to have to find a way to deflect the conversation when it comes up? 3) When it comes to either course of action in (2) - if you've been in a similar situation, are there specific phrases or ways of thinking about the issue that you found helpful? Thank you in advance, everyone, for your always-excellent advice.

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I'm concerned that I'm not getting the proper nutrition and would like to start taking vitamins. One of my doctor's suggested I get a Spectracell test. Does anyone have experience with Spectracell, and if not, can you tell me how you came to terms with a vitamin/supplement regime that works for you?The doctor told me that the Spectracell test (as well as having my hair tested for heavy metals) is the only way for me to truly know what my body is missing and able to absorb. I contacted Spectracell and got a list of providers in my area. I have an appt. to meet with an immunologist/allergy specialist in July. I will not hesitate to cancel if there's a better (and more economical) answer out there.

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Someone close to me is looking to rebuild their credit score after 10 years of never having credit cards. They mentioned setting up an authorized user, which I have heard of before. Does this still work in 2019?A few datapoints for followup questions anticipated: 0. I actually have a good credit score, no missed or late payments, etc. 1. I stopped regularly using my oldest card in 2016. I did end up using it this month for the rewards category, and they've recently sent me mailers requesting I add authorized users. I'm about to switch again because I've found a better cashback deal. 2. I trust this person, and it is reasonable to do so. We are on good terms, and I am already funding their recent move to be closer to family. They don't anticipate using the card, in fact the main risk I see regarding unexpected charges is if their card is stolen. 3. The credit score is a concern less about access to credit, and more about renting, car insurance, employment and other ancillary ways people are punished for not being in the system. 4. They have an old unsettled student loan they've allowed to balloon in fees and penalties, but there doesn't seem to be any negative information about it from the ratings agencies / creditKarma. They report they're working on a repayment plan now that they have a job (starting Monday). No other loans outstanding. So my questions: a) Would adding them to my oldest card help the person? b) Should I add them to more than one card? b) Could it harm my credit score to do this?

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English sumptuary laws (Wikipedia) started off with regulations on work attire, then a proclamation against 'outrageous consumption of meats and fine dishes' by nobles, in 1281 and 1309, respectively (Lords and Ladies.org). Next came the regulation of pointy shoes. Why Were Medieval Europeans So Obsessed With Long, Pointy Shoes? (Atlas Obscura) Want more? Check out The history of sumptuary law and shoes, a blog in which "the author attempts to describe a brief history of sumptuary laws and relate this to how legislation of the Middle Ages may have influenced the design and style of today's shoes," though the latest post looks at early Christian times, and other cultures around the world.

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Television Heaven tweeted 20 Things You Know Because of Television. Writer John Donoghue asked his followers "what else can we add?"

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I want to put a large fan into my kitchen window to blow hot air out of the apartment and draw cooler outside air in through other windows in the apartment. Looking for product recommendations and advice for removing the inevitable layer of kitchen grease.My apartment is 12000 cubic feet, so sfgate recommends a 6000 cfm fan. Seems unlikely I'll achieve that with anything meant to pop into a 27.5" wide window, so I'm happy to settle for 2000-3000 cfm. Any recommendations for a 2000-3000 cfm fan that fits into a 27.5" wide window? My front-runner right now is the Air King 9166F whole house window fan (specs), but I don't really know this space and I'm concerned about all the negative reviews mentioning premature failures and excessive noise. Another concern: I'm going to put this in the kitchen as an exhaust fan, which means the air going into the fan will be laden with smoke and aerosolized cooking grease. Is there anything like a grease trap for window fans? Or, failing that, how do I clean the grease off the fan? I realize a range hood is what I really want, but I'm in an apartment and the best I have is a recirculating thing. :-/

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I just booked a babymoon for the first week of July in Chincoteague Island!! Fwiw I'll be 29 weeks pregnant. What should I do there!? I am sooo excited! Food, nature, kayaking, beach, horses, walking around town all sounds delightful. I'm ok for slow physical exertion but do have weak spells so will skip anything rough.

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Couple weeks ago a Lyft driver showed up at my house looking for me, saying i requested a ride to a place about 20 miles away I'd never been to. I deleted Lyft and wrote off the $5 cancel they charged to my venmo. Just now I picked up my phone randomly to see the Uber app open. Kareem is on the way to take me to a place less than a mile away. Huh?I tried to call Kareem in the Uber phone app. No answer. I messaged him in the app to cancel the ride. No reply but suddenly Scott is en route to take me to the same place because "Kareem couldn't complete the trip." I quickly tried to change my Uber pw & turn on 2FA but the app was acting wonky. It was sending verification codes to my phone but wasn't allowing the process to complete. Nor could I log out. I restarted (Android) and was then able to complete 2FA and pw change. I updated the app also. But WTF? First Lyft then Uber? Interestingly, both rides originated at my actual location at the time, which I'd never called a ride share from. Also interesting is that tonight's very short fake ride was charged to my venmo as an $18 ride. I just checked and its currently a $6 ride, 30min later. Have drivers figured out how to get into the rideshare apps? And why? For a $5 cancellation fee?

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