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Can you identify this necklace?My wife's bday is coming up... Local S.F. CA newscaster was wearing this and the wifely-sort remarked she liked it. (That's our understanding that I'm now under contract) Apologies for this blurry tv screen pic. Have you seen this necklace, or one with similar array and colors?

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I would like to surprise a friend by replacing her favorite tote bag, a conference giveaway that is fraying & on its next-to-last legs. Can you help me find one? The actual bag style, not what it says (i.e. conference art) is the important part. The fact that it was a conference giveaway makes me think it's available SOMEwhere, if it was used in bulk like that.She got it in 2006 or 2008 at a museum professionals conference of some sort in Denver, but I don't remember enough to contact the organizers and ask if they happen to still know. Specs: It's a canvas bag with a pocket on the front (or on one side, whatever). It has a set of short carrying handles. It ALSO has a long strap that allows you to wear it cross-body. I'd guess it's 9 " x 12", maybe bigger—she uses it for library books. Like this, I guess, but less fancy—the straps are sewn directly onto the bag and are not adjustable. (Plus it has that crucial front pocket.) Any ideas? I would love to track one down for her.

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This might be a lost cause but two (very) different restaurants in my town have house hot sauces that are very similar styles which makes me think it may be a thing. Thick - about as thick as Frank's - a little milder than Frank's, not too much vinegar, strong garlic presence, GOOD. I know that's not much to go on... is this a known style? Does it come in gallon tubs from Sysco? Recipes? Thank you in advance!

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I'm fascinated with computers, robotics, and photography. Yet, there's something captivating about IT and Computer Programming. I'm almost finishing up my Social Science bachelor's degree (Sociology), which is pretty worthless from a marketable angle, little job offers. I would like to learn more about IT (Support Services for software) and Computer Programming as well, but I have no background in these two fields. Should I pursue a degree in either of these fields if I have no experience with math and computers?Furthermore, I would love to learn more about IT (Support Services) and Computer Programming, but I have poor math skills, in fact, algebra and division are difficult to do. What is IT and Computer Programming like in terms of mathematics? Are these difficult careers? I know that the two are a little different from Computer Science, which is more theoretical, similar to pure mathematics in a sense. Can someone who struggles at math pursue these kinds of careers? I'm willing to work extra hard to tackle the math bit, but I believe I might have a learning disability with math as well. I'm a gifted creative writer as well, but this isn't important when it comes to computers. I love to write essays, creative writing, think critically, be analytical, problem solve, which I think might help with this kind of career on some note. Does anyone have personal experiences with these careers, where math was a challenge? I originally wanted to be a Professor, Creative Writer, or a Research Librarian, but those jobs are difficult to live by, pay to pay, so to speak. I'd love to teach Philosophy, but the odds are slim, and road to a phD tenure and grad school is bloody tough, I have been told. Are there excellent books for beginners on these topics and fields? Any positive and constructive feedback would be most worthy and welcome -- it is good to look at both sides of the coin. Should I pursue this career route? Yes? No?

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Chef Quah Swee Then shows us how to catch a rabbit. More videos at his Facebook page.

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De-dimension, the graduation project of Design Academy Eindhoven student Jongha Choi, is a different take on flat-pack furniture. It's a bit more practical than his Cigarette Chair.

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"Sanctuary is the world I imagine when I play the piano–a fantasy forest that grows around me and my music. In this virtual world, I can create an intimate and secluded stage where I can overcome my anxiety by minimizing my awareness of the audience." Yurika Mulase is a pianist and an Interactive Telecommunications student at NYU.

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I ended relationship because of lack of sex and intimacy and I feel guilt about it. Am I being unreasonable?I firstly have to accept I will likely get flamed on this thread as I have posted before about this relationship and naturally people will assume I ignored the advice I received. It's been an on/off relationship for 6 years and she's ended it more times then I care to remember. However this time I have ended it. We've been back together about 4 months and in that period we've only had sex once and I don't think she enjoyed it. She's blamed the menopause and I accept that, but the lack of intimacy coupled with all that's happened before has made it even harder for me to be happy in the relationship. We see each other once a week to go for a country walk. She has an adult son with a disability and he comes with us. She drops me home and that's about it. Thing is when he goes to his respite care ( one weekend a month) she seems to find excuses not to see me. I think it's because she doesn't want to be intimate. I suspect that this is what happened again this weekend as there was a late cancellation of this weekend's walk. I reacted to that by telling her it's not working for me anymore for the reasons we've discussed ( we've talked about this stuff before) I feel bad about it though I don't know how hurt she will feel as it seems she mainly sees me as a friend. She has it tough as the sole carer for her adult son and her life is limited by it. She hasn't always been very kind to me and has ended it a few times herself but that doesn't mean I want to hurt her. Do you think it's acceptable to end a relationship in these circumstances? I haven't heard a word from her. I admit I texted it to her and not proud of that but that's because we've spoken face to face about it already and she doesn't really like confrontation and I was also disppointed in her cancelling planned date.

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What are your favorite hacks for beating anxious procrastination? How do you delay gratification, in favor of getting things done? I'm looking for anecdata and personal testimony about techniques you use; not so much app recommendations.Disclosure: I see both a therapist and a psychiatrist for CBT and medication in treatment of my anxiety, ADHD, depression. Anxious procrastination and inability to delay gratification are definitely their own separate issues stemming from their own separate sources, but they have enough overlap (namely: the "procrastination" part) that I'd like to work on them jointly, if that's a reasonable approach. I am no stranger to productivity hacks and apps (ranging from GTD; Pomodoro; Bullet Journaling; Apps like Lift aka Coach.me/Google Keep/Way of Life; the Tiny Habits program; Julia Cameron/The Artist's Way morning pages). But lately, I've been feeling like even when I tell myself to just "take that first step, because the first step is the hardest!" and "action precedes motivation!", the biggest thing that prevents me from starting something is anxiety over how to choose which thing to start first. Every time I think about things I'd like to do, or should do, I just think, "Well that's the one I kind of feel like doing right now, but is it really as important as this other thing?" So: How do you decide what is the priority, or descending order of priorities, when seemingly everything (other than obvious 'big priorities' like budgeting, paying bills, exercising, major chores like laundry) feels like the same level of priority? App recommendations are OK but at this point I've tried most of the major habit-tracking apps and haven't found one I really like yet, though, other than Lift/Coach.me. But even using Lift (or lists, in general) can make me more anxious. I co-organize a weekly Zen meditation group, so practicing mindfulness in my daily life - and not rushing through everything because I'm suddenly just more interested in the checkmarks than the activities themselves - is important to me. I've found a lot of success with meditation, especially dynamic meditation, but a lot of the time the anxiety is just too much and I find myself paralyzed. I find anxiety medication helps, too, but it's more important to me that I build the right skills and habits to both understand and overcome the sources of my anxiety. With my psychiatrist's oversight, I've tried increasing my anxiety med dosage and frequency, but too much can make me procrastinate for different reasons - like feeling too "chill" about it all to care. I also want to point out that I've built many excellent habits that have lasted for years years, and then I allow sudden major life change to derail one or more of those habits. The struggle to get back into the habit makes me feel like I'm starting over from scratch, and I let the anxiety of that demoralize me into not even trying to rebuild the habit, at times. Mostly, I'm just tired of how likely I am to be inconsistent as I am consistent.

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I potentially have the chance to buy a cheap plot of land within easy subway distance of downtown Philadelphia. Initially this appeared a golden way to own my own home at an affordable price. (Complications inside the fold).However I looked into the price of having a house built, I was horrified to discover that the cost appeared comparable to (perhaps even more than) buying a fancy new rowhouse ($300k-$400k). I also looked into prefab/kit homes and some "low-cost" initiatives (Philly's "100k home" project), but nothing seemed to run under 300k (plus the cost of the land). I'm be looking for 2000 ft2 or less, non-luxury finishings, on a footprint of about 18'x35'. Am I correct to conclude that it is impossible to build a non-luxury rowhouse for, say, 200k or less? I'd love Mefites to prove me wrong. If I'm wrong, how specifically do I go about having this built? Would it be cheaper to find a vacant/abandoned house and rehab it, rather than building new?

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What's wrong with my grill and how do I fix it? Propane grill, 2 years old, unused for a season.. suddenly won't supply enough propane to the flame elements to cook anything (or stay lit if all five heat elements are turned on).We've switched out the propane tanks, we've cleaned everything we can think of cleaning, but our propane grill just won't heat up. If we light one burner element, there's a small flame. If we light two, enough propane gets through to keep it burning, but at about the same heat that a tea light candle provides. If we try to turn on all five elements, they all turn on but sputter out almost immediately. There's just not enough fuel getting to the burners. We've tried leaving it burning as much as we can for hours. We've tried it over three consecutive weekends in hopes that it would somehow fix itself. It's not fixing itself. We've cleaned everything we can think of to clean. It's not rusty. We're in Southern California, so it hasn't rained much, but the grill has been safely covered when it's not been in use. We don't smell propane at any point when it's on, so we don't believe it's leaking. What could we be overlooking? What might need replacing?

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My SO asked for this for his birthday and I forgot the title. It's a book about a guy who takes a break from his (tech/math/physics??) career and does a lot of fly fishing. It has a MC Escher bird-to-fish print on the cover and may have been featured somewhere like BoingBoing. Any help?

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Using data compiled from the U.S. Census American Community Survey, Mark Evans has compiled hypnotic visualizations of commutes around the U.S. There are more in-depth details at his blog, I Like Big Bytes. The project is based on work by Alasdair Rae.

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I'll be honeymooning in Iceland soon, and we'll be doing lots of light hiking and general wandering around. I'd like to take a backpack, but there seem to be lots of options and I'm not sure what I'd want.- I'm rather out of shape. On bike rides I get a very sweaty back if wearing a backpack. That's not so bad when I have a shower waiting for me, but might get uncomfortable on long hikes followed by long drives. So breathable and light would be nice. Definitely not the monster-sized "backpacking through Europe" things I've seen. - I'm 6'6" tall. Smaller backpacks can be uncomfortable. - I'll be carrying maps, lots of water, and at times a jacket or sweatshirt, so it should be able to accomodate all of those. - It would be nice if it would work for future more generic backpack use (biking to and from work mostly, but also some domestic plane travel). I'd love both specific recommendations as well as advice on how to narrow down the 34,810 Amazon results for "hiking backpack".

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What are your favourite collections of short stories written by a single author?I like reading short fiction this way, because it's interesting to see what themes and ideas reoccur. Things I like: Preferred genres are fantasy/sci fi, but I will read anything if it's awesome. Not enough into horror to read a whole book of it. Awesome lady protagonists are important. Have at it!

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I have an iPhone 6S that hasn't gone through any sort of damage, all of a sudden I've needed to restart it/power cycle to get it to connect to LTE. What's the deal? WiFi works fine, but I'll either get No Service or 1x, reboot and I'm fine for the day. I have no idea what I need to do to get this working correctly, any ideas?

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Everything makes him think of a story.

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I'm looking for advice on how to follow up with a job lead in light of an upcoming promotion at my current job. Advice welcome!A few months ago, a mutual contact put me in touch with the managing partner at a small firm that occupies the same niche practice area as my current firm (it's a law firm, in the U.S., if that matters). They met with me for coffee and told me, essentially, that they had been thinking about hiring lately, but weren't sure if they were ready to pull the trigger because they want to be confident about having enough business to justify it, but they wanted to meet with me because there aren't a lot of people on the job market with my experience who could fit into their practice seamlessly like I could. Since then, I had a chat with the managing partner at my current firm, who told me I will make partner at the start of 2017. Honestly, that's part of why I want out: it feels like tying myself more firmly to this group of people than being an associate, and I don't have a positive image of that future in my mind. I followed up with the person at Prospective Employer at the time to thank them for meeting and to express interest should they decide to expand, but I'm wondering if I can use this new information to poke at them at some point this summer or later this year. Like, hey, here's this new information (that they want me to make partner here at the start of next year), and it seems material to my current status and job search, so I wanted to check in with you to see if you anticipate hiring anytime soon because if so I'd be super interested in coming to work with you? What do you all think? Good idea? Bad idea? How do I frame it?

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I'm looking into using a "Roth conversion ladder" to periodically convert some of my money from a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA, which I can then withdraw five years later in a tax-advantaged manner, despite being younger than the typical age to withdraw funds from IRAs. I have several questions about this.As I understand it, if I have a traditional IRA, I can convert any amount of money from it to be part of a Roth IRA instead. The amount is considered taxable income for the year in which the conversion is done. Moreover, I can rollback ("recharacterize") some or all of such a conversion up until October of the year following the conversion, so that the money is back in my traditional IRA and it doesn't count as taxable income. Finally, for any such amount that I do not rollback, I can withdraw that amount from my Roth without any tax liability, as long as I do so five or more years after the conversion, even if I'm not of the "normal" age to make withdraws. I have several questions about all of this: (1) Right? (2) Let's say I want to be in at most the 15% tax bracket for tax year 2016, so as to take advantage of reduced capital gains taxes. The cutoff for the 15% bracket is something like $37,000, so I want $37,000 or less in taxable income. A conversion like this for 2016 must be done in 2016, so at some point in 2016 I convert $37,000 or less. But I don't know how much less it should be until I actually do my 2016 taxes, which will be in 2017 (so that I can take into account other income and stuff like that). So at the time I have to make the conversion, I don't know how much I should convert. But -- and this is what I want to make sure of here -- I think that's where the recharacterization comes in? Specifically: It seems like I can just not worry about figuring out an exact conversion amount at the time of the conversion. I can instead just convert some ridiculous amount, let's say $1 bazillion, from traditional to Roth at some point in 2016. Then when figuring out my 2016 taxes in 2017, I now have precisely enough information to figure out what the conversion amount should have been in order to get me into the desired tax bracket. I can then recharacterize the vast majority of the 2016 $1 bazillion in April 2017, so that most of it is back in my traditional and only (say) $34,225.39 is in the Roth, thus keeping my 2016 taxable income in the 15% bracket but as close to the next higher bracket as possible. And now, come 2021, I have the ability to take out $34,225.39 from my Roth, without any tax liability, even if I'm younger than the normal Roth withdrawal age. I guess my question here is: Really? I can do that? (3) I can do this every year? I see that there are time limits for when you can convert from a IRA that you recharacterized back into, but if I'm reading it correctly, I can do it the year after the conversion, as opposed to the year after the recharacterization. So I can convert in 2016, recharacterize some of that in 2017, and convert in 2017 even though I recharacterized in 2017? (4) What happens to gains or losses that happen in the Roth between the time of the conversion and the time of the recharacterization? I understand that gains don't count towards what I can withdraw tax-free five years later, but I mean if I convert $50,000, which grows in the Roth to $52,000, and I then want to recharacterize it so that it counts as $20,000 for taxable income purposes, do I do so by moving $30,000 from my Roth to my traditional? $32,000? Some prorated amount in between?

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After a six-year absence, Toronto DIY-electro-rockers Holy Fuck return with a new album, Congrats. The video for the lead single, "Tom Tom," directed by Michael Leblanc, was filmed and cast on location in the Romanian village of Zarnesti. Congrats (released yesterday) can be streamed in its entirety on the band's Bandcamp page. Bonus links: The official video for the second single off the album, Xed Eyes. Holy Fuck previously on Metafilter.

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The latest video of a Falcon 9 rocket returning from the upper atmosphere. To be clear, it's just the first stage of the rocket and the video is a time lapse. But this was the most complicated landing yet, as the rocket was launching a commercial communications satellite, into geostationary orbit. So the first stage was coming back much faster than before and even SpaceX wasn't sure it could do it.

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I have been taking Vyvanse 30mg for about a year and a half for ADD. I had combined it with Celexa and then Cymbalta for depression. I tapered Cymbalta to later realize I really needed something for depression. The doctor put me on bupropion XL (generic Wellbutrin) and now I have been taking 300 mg for about a month.I feel is working well but I have some moments that my mind goes completely blank. I can't find the right words, lost on the middle of a conversation, or forgetting what I was doing 30 seconds before. It is not all the time, some other times I'm completely fine and normal. This suddenly happens and it really bothers me. For what I have read this is quite common side effect of this medication. Based on your experience, I would like to know if this will go away at some point and some recommendations to improve the situation that worked for you, such as supplement or exercise or any other activity.

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My nephew (who is American) is applying to Oxford and Cambridge to do (read?) English. I'm excited about the idea, but he's not able to go over to visit before he applies (and presumably does his interview.) Can you tell us more about what a tutorial/supervision is like?Just that, really. Interested to see what a Cambridge/Oxford tutorial/supervision is like for an undergraduate. Any specifics from the humanities in particular are helpful (we do know someone who did biology at Oxford, but presumably it would be quite different?) The more details/stories/anecdotes the better! Any other life as an undergrad at Oxford stories thrown in would also be useful, though I think right now he's thinking about what the actual classes would be like.

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Justin O'Beirne compares the 2010 and 2016 editions of Google Maps and finds a lack of balance — especially after looking at a map printed in the 1960s. O'Beirne used to run a blog called 41Latitude about maps and usability, and from 2011 to 2015 led Apple's cartography efforts. A version of this essay was also published on Quartz, and some may find it easier to read there. Previously.

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Veggen ("The Wall") is the first in a series of eight Norwegian advertisements that show us the tragic consequences of a miraculous discovery. Smash - lightly salted corn snacks coated with milk chocolate - is hugely popular in Norway. Their slogan is "Det skal godt gjøres å spise bare en" - "It would be hard to just eat one." 1. Veggen ("The Wall") 2. Perlekjede ("Pearl Necklace") 3. Nabo ("Neighbour") 4. Ludde (Ludde is the dog's name) 5. Flaggstang ("Flagpole") 6. Frokost ("Breakfast") 7. Tissen ("Willy") 8. Barnehage ("Kindergarten"/"Nursery") (YouTube playlist of all eight)

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