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I am currently living in the outskirts of Boston (Waltham area) and am able to commute to the city very readily. I am looking for a support group, of the type that is similar to AA, where individuals are in a collective environment and discuss their struggles with depression and other affective mood disorders. The only things I have been able to find are group sessions that are part of a doctor's treatment which cost money that I currently do not have.I am looking for something relatively cheap and easy to join. Anonymity is obviously an important component of it as well. I don't suffer from any addictions or have any kind of drug problems so I don't think AA would be especially appropriate under the circumstances. I merely want a semi-formal group atmosphere where people can talk about their problems so that hopefully some form of collective effervescence can help us cope with our mood disorders and how we are working on controlling them through therapy, medications, and talking about our everyday problems. Does anybody have any experience with any program similar to what I'm describing? If so, let me know or at the very least Private Message me for various outlets that you know about. The closest thing I have found is a Meetups but I feel that they are not as formal as what I'm looking for. An AA/NA type community and arrangement seems best but I am open to numerous options.

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Nicole Frýbortová refuses to ride her bicycle like a normal human being. (SLYT)

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I've had too many sweet red peppers go to waste because we don't use them that often (more on that inside). Should I freeze them? What are your favorite recipes that feature these lovely things?I use them for some stir fry dishes, some soups/stews, melitzanosalata, and briami (and on the odd occasion that we grill, definitely just char-grilled, mostly peeled, and served as a side, wow yum) – but for most things, they tend to add too much sweetness to the dish for our taste. And when we have to buy them from the supermarket instead of the greengrocer, we are forced to get a package of them, and that's when they end up going bad: after we've used the one or two we really needed. Aside from broiling in the oven, what are some other options when we have 4-5 large ones extra? I do love them, and hate to mistreat them in this way!

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We are working on our resumes, cover letters, and interview skills in college. What I can't help but feel frustrated and at times bewildered about is how the emphasis is always on assimilation, or to be like everyone else.The instructor said that a "fatal mistake" I made on my resume draft was that there was colour in it. All resumes, we were told, should be strictly black and white, nothing else. No images, no create fonts, nothing at all that could make your resume stand out. However, if there are innumerable other resumes applying to that position, wouldn't having a resume that was unique help your resume to be noticed? The point is to be noticed, is it not? In cover letters, dress codes, and interview skills an atmosphere of hostility towards creativity and differences exists. We're told that we have to "sell ourselves" when applying to a position; however, it seems to me that what we're really doing is assimilating ourselves to meet this abstract ideal of what the "perfect" candidate is based on these seemingly arbitrary requirements. Do employers really want this? Or is this hostility towards creativity and differences so prevalent in our society that this is simply a manifestation of it in job searches?

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Trying to track down a movie I hazily recall watching as a kid. Watched on USA Network's Kung Fu Theater in the 80s, so it's probably from the 70s, early 80s at latest. Our hero is a young swordsmen who at one point faces a pair of one-armed swordsman on a bridge. I think the final boss also used his hair as a weapon as a big surprise, but that also describes a dozen movies. Ring any bells?

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I recently had an interesting first coffee date with a girl. We discovered that we shared an interest in psychology and human behaviour and spent hours speaking about it. I'm thinking of inviting her to the movies next. I've found that the cartoon "Inside-out"(which explains the workings of human emotions) might be of interest to both of us. However, I wonder whether an invitation to watch a cartoon (even when "Inside-out" seems to have a serious message) might be seen as, to be frank, "unmanly". We are in our early-to-mid 20s.

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I have a new apartment. There are lovely big windows, but there aren't any curtains - and the rod is so flimsy that it likely can only support the lightest of linens. Unfortunately, there is a big orange streetlight directly outside, and that leads to sleepless nights. What color and material of curtain might mitigate this issue?I don't need it fully blocked out, but I'd like it toned down a little from "spotlight" levels - so really, I just want the best bang for the buck given my weight constraints.

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I have a pair of Calvin Klein suit pants that have a patch that's gone fuzzy on one hip/outer thigh. I think the velcro closure on my bag rubbed against it during a commute. It's not pilled, like a sweater, but fuzzy. Looking around, I have seen recommendations for how to deal with sweater pilling but not fuzzy pants. Are sweater de-pillers OK for this problem? Lint brush and sticky tape did nothing. Pants are a poly blend. Thanks in advance for any tips!

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I realized recently that I have a 401k from a previous job many years ago that I haven't rolled over. What should I do? I know YANML, but are there any legal issues here?I would like to rollover this account now and consolidate with an IRA through a different institution than the one my old company used for its 401k plan. I don't know the account number anymore and I think it was set up with my old work email. Who do I contact about this? The bank issuing the 401k? Should I reach out to HR at the company for help? If I call a major investment bank and tell them "I forgot my account number" are they going to be able to help me? I'm a little paranoid about these things, and I feel stupid for forgetting this. Are there any legal or tax problems I could run into now? Would this be better handled by paying a professional to do it for me?

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"Peek Boo!" [slTumblrVideo]

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Introducing "The XKCD Survey" - a search for weird correlations

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The Luxury Brooklyn Apartment Complex at the Site of a Former Prison Now a small group of community members and leaders are trying to halt the development, arguing that it sits on hallowed grounds. Perhaps, they say, the physical remains of inmates still lie buried on the property. Even if that isn't the case, they believe the earth attests to a racist history that the developers of this country have often dampened in order to keep the land profitable. Further related items of note: - Brooklyn Museum image of KCP in 1907 - THE KINGS COUNTY PENITENTIARY; Grave Charges Against the Keeper of the Prison. (nyt article from 1865, does not appear to be paywalled but i make no guarantees)

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Manuals Plus was going out of business. MeFi's own Jason Scott wanted to save its collection of 200,000 booklets before they were lost forever. He had three days.Introducing the Archive Corps The blow-by-blow account from Jason's blog: In Realtime: Saving 25,000 Manuals In Realtime: Prepping for the Transfer of 25,000 Manuals In Realtime: We are barely halfway done In Realtime: Day 2 Felt Like Week 4 In Realtime: It Is Done A Small Dark Detour In Realtime: Post-Mortem A Little Bit of the Manuals And the message? Digitize the Planet

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Cotton Mather's career is defined by two episodes of mass panic. In 1721 he found himself the target of public anger in Boston when he advocated for small pox inoculation after inoculating his own children on the advice of his West African slave, Onesimus. Three decades earlier, in 1692, he was one of the instigators and defenders of the Salem Witch Trials. For more on the latter, visit the comprehensive Salem Witch Trials Documentary Archive (previously).

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Is it wise to romantically/emotionally invest by dating someone knowing that they are currently not fully settled or stable in their life situation?This guy I met a couple of weeks ago has recently come out of a long term relationship (6 months ago) and is an expat who is unsure about where he wants to settle down eventually although he loves the city he is in currently. He is in his 30s and has a stable job but it involves a lot of travelling back and forth to his home country and he generally seems to be still trying to figure out what he wants to do next. He is lovely in every other way and says he wants to settle down soon although he comes across as being in a 'transition' phase in his life at the moment and whilst we enjoy spending time together and like each other, I am looking for a serious relationship and he doesn't seem to be in a position to offer that at the moment. Not sure if I should just move on or wait and see how things progress. I don't want to waste my time and invest if he is going to move away soon but on the other hand if there is a chance that things continue to progress well then maybe the other factors could fall into place. If someone is not available for anything serious because they have a lot of uncertainty and moving parts in their current life situation but then happened to meet and really like someone new, could they then become available or would the life circumstances still create a barrier and restrict them from going beyond a certain point? Thanks in advance

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I'm looking for a place where I can buy this style of whiskey glass. The glass is asymmetrical, with a heavy base that has several (I think five) smooth ridges on the bottom.I'm trying to replace an identical glass that was about 20 years old when it broke earlier this year, so the design has been around for a while. The one I'm trying to replace was most likely purchased locally in the Netherlands. According to the restaurant where this photo was taken (a few days ago, also in the Netherlands), they order these glasses in bulk from someplace in Italy.

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Here's a collection of Sesame Street "30 Dots" shorts, from the show's classic days. They build in an entertaining way, but whatever they're supposed to teach beats the heck out of me.

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Herschell Gordon Lewis is best known for being a legend of gory schlock horror, but his resume also included two children's films. Of the two, the 'best worst' is the earlier by one year: Jimmy the Boy Wonder, featuring a low-budget Land-of-Oz-with-the-numbers-filed-off, a bizarre villain named Mr. Fig and a lengthy sequence of poorly-dubbed possibly-European animation. The other, The Magic Land of Mother Goose (aka Santa Visits the Magic Land of Mother Goose - guess who never appears in the film?), was the result of Lewis being hired to shoot a vehicle for a magician entirely on a high school stage. Both films are available for purchase from Something Weird Video (parts of site NSFW) as downloads and DVD-Rs.

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Boyfriend ripped his favorite shirt. 1) What are your softest, most favorite men's casual cotton long sleeved button downs? 2) Is this rip beyond repair? (Probably duh, but maybe you have a magic solution?)He's lucked in the last few years because he got his button downs passed down from a friend who happens to be identical in sizing and style (why can't all clothing acquisition be this easy?). Where do you shop for lightweight cotton button downs with tasteful (maybe fun?) colors? His shirts are mostly madras and gingham, so this relatively colorful giant gingham pattern was different and looked really good on. Most importantly, this shirt was really soft and thin, almost gauzy as you can see in this totally not creepy photo. It seems this brand is an Urban Outfitters thing but their All-Son selection doesn't carry anything similar right now. Online or brick and mortar shops in the Bay Area (CA). Bonus points for East Bay, but will make the trek to SF if the store is amazeballs. Also... this rip is completely unrepairable right? Thanks!!!

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I'm on a lazy/convenient no-cooking kick and have been eating just sandwiches with deli meats and sliced veggies, and fruit. Assume you could not use the stove/oven nor have any other kitchen equipment (no blenders, microwave, etc, but just a knife, can opener). What are some meal ideas besides sandwiches? I'm not looking for snack ideas like nuts, crackers, etc. but actual meals. I am a meat-eater if that makes a difference and prefer to avoid a whole lot of canned foods because of BPA. (also a tofu eater)

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My job title is scaring off potential employers and I'm not sure what to do about it. Anywhere else the role I hold would be a executive level position that commands twice the salary I make (which is mid-level), but in my company I'm really more the equivalent a junior or senior contributor (plus some extras). How do I position my well-earned "executive" role so that hiring managers stop nixing me for junior-level positions because they think I'm expensive and/or overqualified?I'm the "creative director" at a small company. I've held this role for a few years now and while I don't have any managerial power, I've made a positive impact on my company and its product line and I wouldn't have been able to do that without taking on this position. Because my company is so, so small, and given where I actually sit in the hierarchy, I'm really more of a junior/senior designer, so that's what I've been applying for at bigger companies. Most of the time I'm sort of overqualified for the junior roles but not ready at all for the senior positions because I don't have the managerial experience, so I don't know how to position myself correctly. During interviews or chats with hiring managers I can say stuff like, "Yes, I hold the role of creative director but because my company is so small I'm really more like a junior or a senior designer. I love to learn and take direction, but since I've served as a director I'm also comfortable taking a project to completion by myself as needed." But somehow that never works when I put it in writing in a cover letter because it sounds like I'm dissing my company/job/self. Explaining that I'd really benefit from being a junior designer because my current mentors suck would be even more awkward. How do I navigate this without cheapening the work that I do or the company I currently work for?

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How does an introvert with few friends (and therefore no network) find a home for an abandoned cat? (work in San Jose, live in Gilroy, if it matters)This afternoon, someone walked into my office to let us know that someone had abandoned a cat outside our building. Sure enough, sitting on the walkway, was an empty litter box and a carrier with a cat inside. Of course I brought the kitty home. However, I'm an introvert with not much of a "network" and I have no idea how to get the word out that I have a very sweet cat who needs a home. I've emailed & left messages various rescues. My husband looked at the San Jose animal shelter website and reported that they will not take cats. My current cat & dog are both special needs and as much as I would like to just keep this kitty and add her to my menagerie, I can't. New cat is very sweet and purry and loves attention and I don't know if I can give her the love that s/he deserves and still take care of the other two. So, tl;dr- how does someone with no network get the word out that I need to rehome a cat? Here is the cat. Sorry for the poor pic- S/he was busy rubbing her/his face on everything in sight & would sit still for a pic.

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I'm looking for a book recommendation for someone who's already pretty familiar with vba and wants to go beyond the basics.A few years I bought John Walkenbach's Power Programming with VBA after seeing it recommended on a number of forums as a way to learn VBA. I've read through it and am looking for another more advanced book to use to improve my vba skills further. I've seen a lot of people recommend Professional Excel Development, but it looks like that book would be for people with more advanced vba skills than I have. So, I'm looking for a book that's more advanced than Walkenbach's Power Programming, but not quite as advanced as Professional Excel Development.

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Youtuber brusspup (previously 1, 2) has some cool science tricks you can do with liquids. Another favorite: T-rex illusion. Stick around for the reveal.

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Barnett believes the Constitution exists to secure inalienable property and contract rights for individuals. This may sound like a bland and inconsequential opinion, but if widely adopted by our courts and political systems it would prohibit or call into question basic governmental protections—minimum wages, food-safety regulations, child-labor laws—that most of us take for granted. For nearly a century now, a legal counterculture has insisted that the whole New Deal project was a big, unconstitutional error, and Barnett is a big part of that movement today.

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