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I'm looking for part-time jobs that I might not have heard of or know exist. I am sensitive to the environment I work in and I want to work with people who have other creative pursuits and have a part time job to make ends meet (or alone is fine too).I want an environment that treats people as capable and smart where I might occasionally learn new things (or, failing that, give me time to do as much reading and writing on the clock as possible). I don't consider myself to have any particular skills. I'm reasonably good at reading and writing and learning new things, but that doesn't feel particularly ~marketable~. I am willing to learn stuff for a job I'm excited about (although I'm burned out from doing formal education). I'm based in London in the UK. Looking for specific job title suggestions if possible.

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Trees and trains and rain.

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A website for women who have been discriminated against whilst they were pregnant or after having a baby. 54,000 UK women a year are forced out of their jobs due to pregnancy. This doesn't include the women who are demoted, harassed, aren't put forward for promotion, or those that are self employed. Pregnant Then Screwed is a place for these women to tell their story anonymously. While women in the UK may seem to have many rights to make them the envy of those elsewhere, accessing them is often far from straightforward and can lead to career destroying repercussions as well as health problems. Proving discrimination can be difficult and the site is also campaigning for some changes to make it a little easier.

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If you feed your pet commercial pet food, there's a good chance the fish in it came from slave labor. "In the past year, Thai Union has shipped more than 28 million pounds of seafood-based cat and dog food for some of the top brands sold in America including Iams, Meow Mix and Fancy Feast, according to United States Customs documents."

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I've lived in apartments for a long time, but I've always been very easily bothered by noise. My partner is not affected the way I am. Is it possible to train yourself to be more easygoing, like her, when it comes to the noise you inevitably encounter living in the city?We just moved into a new apartment and our neighbors make some noise, especially on the weekend. We do have a minor issue, in that our upstairs neighbor stomps around to the point that the ceiling shakes. I'm willing to believe that's the way the building is constructed (it's old), but he was up late tonight and it drove me nuts. The thing is, it's a minor issue. My girlfriend barely noticed, while I was pointing at the ceiling and saying "see, see?" I feel like a crazy person because I managed to take it personally, and even I know he probably has no idea he's making the noise. I'm sure I can suck it up and talk to him or leave a note (and maybe he'll put down rugs or something), but what gets me is that I know it will continue to bother me forever, no matter what changes. And we're new to the building, so unless he's taken up new stompin' habits, it's me who can't adapt to something that hasn't bothered anyone else. I've complained about the noise in every apartment my girlfriend and I have lived in together, and none of it ever bothered her. I've heard people say "some folks aren't cut out for apartment living," but I'm not exactly at the stage of my life where I can afford to live anywhere else. Practically speaking, it's been a while since noise actually woke me up in the night, and the only thing that ever keeps me from falling asleep is some sort of outrage at having my space violated, not the actual noise itself. I bought a white noise machine, which is great, to a degree (it certainly helps with the tinnitus I've had since childhood), but I can still perceive things above the noise, even if they're so faint I can barely tell they're there. I mean, I know I'm never going to be able to block literally every noise around me. I know the problem is with me. All I can think is that there must be a philosophical approach to all of this. Has anyone been able to learn to relax when it comes to noise in their living space? Is it possible to change your outlook on personal space? Or am I forever doomed to being really bothered when I hear a slight, innocent noise from a neighbor? All of this makes me feel incredibly precious, but that's where I'm coming from - please help me stop obsessing about my neighbors' noise and feeling like a crazy person for doing so.

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Over on Tumblr, Jolly Good imagines an origin for Spider-Man more in keeping with modern times which the artist behind the all the things blog captures in a couple of key scenes.

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I've had some hair waxed by a beautician three times and every time it has grown back immediately and stubbly as though it's been shaven. Infuriating!! Details within.I have a lot of hair on my neck and I've had it professionally waxed 3 times. But every time there is stubbly regrowth by about 24 hours later. Each time the beautician seemed to do a very thorough job and it hurt like hell as waxing always does. Why is it growing back as though it's been shaved??? I have had my legs waxed before as well as waxing them myself, and always the hair has taken weeks to grow back, LIKE IT'S MEANT TO! So it's not just ME. It's either something the beautician is doing or something particular about that part of my body...Does anyone have a clue why this hair on my neck is not responding to waxing the way my legs do? It's driving me crazy. I just want a smooth bald nape.

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Seeing as Yahoo seem to have stopped their avatar-making service, just wondering if anyone can recommend me a good substitute? I thought their avatars were so cute! Must allow me to use the avatar away from their site but happy for it to be labelled like Yahoo used to be. Thanks!

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Get your guit on. As chosen by the staff of Guitar Player. Rumble!

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On this date in 1940 (that's exactly 75 years ago, bud), a new Merrie Melodies cartoon premiered: "A Wild Hare"; and Bugs Bunny was officially 'born'. Warner Bros. had made previous cartoons with 'crazy rabbits' (or 'cwazy wabbits') before, but this one, directed by cartoon legend Tex Avery was the first one with the recognizable 'Bugs' character design and the first time Mel Blanc used Bugs' distinctive voice to say "What's up, doc?", as well as the first time Elmer Fudd, (voiced by Arthur Q. Bryan, NOT Blanc) said "Be vewy, vewy quiet, I'm hunting wabbits". Happy Birthday, Bugsy, you sure don't look 75 (though you always were grey haired [hared]) Warner Bros. has officially declared it would not make a big deal of cartoon characters' birthdays/anniversaries, but it wasn't that way for Bugs' 50th in 1990. Warning: among the collection of 'star studded celebrities' are a couple you may NOT want to see anymore We are still awaiting the announcement of the premiere date of another Bugs Bunny reboot series (on Warner/Turner's Boomerang network) currently in production titled "Wabbit" What could possibly go wrong?

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Within the mystery of the Facebook algorithms, is it possible for me have two friends that I can interact with, Liking, Commenting, wall posting etc, but not have them aware of each other, receiving no notification of the other's existence, no suggested friends etc?

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I had a blank check to sleep with a stranger on my business trip. I did it, and I feel horrible.I'm a woman. The person (a man) didn't end up being a stranger, but a person who is in a service role where I'm working. We had become chummy, and he expressed an interest. I was like, absolutely not, but here's the key - I did not say that to him. I hemmed and hawed and made plans for another male coworker to be present to deflect him. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Ugh. I know. My deflector ended up no-showing and this dude showed up and moved FAST. I thought, ok, husband won't be mad, maybe this will be fun, he is super hot, alright, and I went with it willingly. That's super important. He was pushy, yeah, but I didn't verbally or non verbally say "no" or "stop". It wasn't a good connection, but I was pleasant and gave no outward sign of distress. Now I feel like I felt a million years ago, with all those boys who didn't take no for an answer, like post date rape and stranger sexual assault feelings. This guy didn't do anything wrong, but I couldn't lock the deadbolts behind him and get in the shower fast enough. I feel filthy and like I cheated on my husband, despite the blank check (which i did not *ask* for, btw, it was just granted). I'm trying to self soothe, by drinking tea and trying to sleep (hah). That's not working. Due to time zone difference, everyone I could ask for help, including my husband, is fast asleep. Here is the question: how do you cope with the aftermath of a sexual encounter that left you feeling violated when you weren't actually assaulted? When it actually no shit is your fault?

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When I was younger, I somehow got the message that having acne, thin hair, tendency to gain weight, being emotional-- constituted some sort of moral failing. I spent years feeling like I had to apologize for my ugly existence. Now I'm learning that those aspects of my appearance were symptoms, not reflections of the fact that I was an all-around inferior person who didn't take good care of herself. I thought I'd be glad to get a diagnosis, but instead I'm upset and not sure where to go from here.I'm on the cusp of being diagnosed with Cushing's or PCOS. I feel down about myself. As the differential narrows, instead of experiencing relief, I find myself frustrated with how this situation serves to highlight the years I've passed, totally uncomfortable in my own body (see previous). Now, I've had a very good life overall. But it's weird to look back and realize how much I must have limited myself in various ways because of this internalized self-loathing. In addition, I don't feel very optimistic about treatment. After this diagnosis is finalized, then what? Going on estrogen/OCPs is going to only make me gain more weight, right? I find the idea of low-carb or "paleo" emotionally exhausting (I am not a fan of the "healthier-than-thou" undertones). If I instead have Cushing's, I guess the treatment would be different, so we'll have to see about that. Even as I'm waiting on the diagnoses, I'm getting very down on myself. The image PCOS/Cushing's conjures up-- the infertile, hirsute, balding, pimply, anxious, dysphoric female with ample abdominal fat-- is the antithesis of sexy. (Not that I care about being sexy, of course, but the fact that I had to nervously add this disclaimer speaks to my sentiments on that topic, right?) I feel like PCOS is basically my body's way of telling me, "you're too fat to function," even though I am not overweight. Why do I feel this way? What is the missing step in my thought process that I need so that I can be more positive about my diagnosis and this whole situation? My take on this is that this combination of suddenly being aware that my symptoms are real and have made such an impact on me over the past few years, plus the idea that treatment might not be completely effective even after the uphill climb ... makes me feel terrified that I might be "stuck" in this position such that I might instead have to work on actually confronting the self-loathing as opposed to side-stepping it via modern medicine. I would love to hear your guidance on how to approach this in a more mature and positive way. Anecdotes would also be appreciated.

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I am an idiot who cannot count to three or read a calendar. As a result, I completely missed the July window to buy international tickets for the Studio Ghibli Museum for a date in early October. I know I can buy through bridge.jpn, who will grab tickets for me from Lawson. However, they only sell October tickets starting from 1 September. Is this the earliest October tickets are available from Lawson?I ask because l-tike (click the yellow button) seems to indicate that tickets are available now (in July) for September, which makes me think October tickets will actually be on sale from 1 August. I'm a bit worried I'll try to order tickets on 1 September only to be told that locals snapped them all up the month before. If the tickets for October are available from Lawson sooner than 1 September, is there anywhere else I can buy them sooner?

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"Mossariums are simple, low maintenance and fun. They're durable and will last a long time. You can get moss from your backyard, from your favorite trips, or delivered in the mail. Here's all you need..." From Mefi's own jessamyn. [via mefi projects]

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"I was very much into Freud and Jung when I was writing those books," he says. "The whole point of Elric's soul-eating sword, Stormbringer, was addiction: to sex, to violence, to big, black, phallic swords, to drugs, to escape. That's why it went down so well in the rock'n'roll world." - Michael Moorcock at 75 on his work, autobiographical fantasy, and why he thinks Tolkien was a crypto-fascist.

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My 6 year old daughter asked me this today: "Mommy, [therapist] said the police are our friends. So if I get a ticket I wont go to jail right?"Some background My kids (3 girls - 3, 4 and 6) have been learning about occupations. Well, my 6 year old has been learning about occupations because it's part of her ABA therapy - she's on the autism spectrum. Her sisters naturally have been learning alongside her. Also - we're black in a neighborhood where we definitely stand out. Demographics are mostly upper middle class white/Indian/Asian (we live in a tech surburb). Anyways, that got me thinking. How do I explain this to them given the state of policing of blacks in the US? I definitely do not think of the police as my friends. I've never been in trouble with the law. However, given recent events, I'm really NOT ready to trust my life or the life of my kids to the police. How do I have "the talk" with them at a level they can comprehend? I do not want them to be afraid of the police but I do want to communicate that they cannot trust the police. This is extra hard given my daughter's diagnosis, since she is being taught to reach out to "safe adults" when in distress. Please help me before I up and repatriate our black behinds to Antartica! Oh - I told her and her sisters that i'd get back to them with an answer shortly.

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I have a three mile commute to work. On public transportation it takes 45-60 minutes. On a bike it's under 20, but I don't ride every day because biking hurts. Please help me get pointed in the right direction for cycling comfort!I am 31, male, fit, 5'6"/165 lbs, and a confident urban cyclist, but I can't seem to escape from saddle discomfort on any kind of bicycle. I have tried bikes from road to fully upright Dutch-style (and Hubway bike-share bikes), and I after some time (from 2-20 minutes, depending on the bike, the saddle, and what I'm wearing) I end up with painful stinging, sometimes followed by numbness, in my most sensitive area. More upright bikes seem better but it's highly dependent on the fit and saddle. Sometimes the stinging doesn't come until after riding, and it can last for a day or even several days if I really overdo it. The worst pain seems to come when I quickly spin my legs to get up hills. I try to stand up as much as possible and distribute my weight across the bike when I ride, which definitely helps, but can put stress on my wrists. A urologist I saw basically told me, "bikes are bad for men", which was not helpful. I have tried so many saddles I can't even keep track, including two weird noseless ones (ISM Sport and "Ergo, the Seat"). The noseless ones were some of the worst I've tried, and they also transferred so much weight to my wrists that I had pain there. Padded bike shorts don't seem to help much. I've also spent quite a lot of time tweaking saddle height and angle, but unscientifically. I currently own a Specialized Sirrus, "Small" size frame, but I'm willing to get a new bike. Every other aspect of the bike is secondary to not having pain. So, my questions are: 1. In a situation like this, is comfort actually achievable on a standard (non-recumbent) bike through fitting and saddle choice? 2. Where around Boston should I go to get a commuter-oriented fitting? The bike shops I've been in have all basically said "get a fitting." One tried to sell me a more expensive one-size-up version of the bike I already have and then get fitted on that. Most of the shops around here seem focused on racing/performance, so I'm not sure how well they would do with me. 3. If a regular bike isn't going to work for me, can a recumbent actually work for urban riding? What sort of recumbent might work? Where in the area can I try it? If you've gotten this far, I thank you, and I'm looking forward to your advice!

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I am currently searching for housing on Craigslist and have found some really good places and gotten good responses from them. The one thing that determined whether people responded was if I reached them on their cell phone or could text them. Those who permitted you to contact them via the craigslist-coded email almost never respondedIs there a way to search for housing, in say Boston or NYC, for rooms shared in such a way that it will seek out those listings where the preferred method of contacting the individual includes a phone number or is hidden behind a "Show Contact Info" link.

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I'll having a spell of PTSD triggers stress induced nausea and a lack of even being able to stand the sight of food without feeling sick. I'm also maybe getting a double whammy from restarting Paxil. What GF foods can you think of that I can use to put some calories into my body until such situation gets resolved?I have Celiac's so can't go for my comfort bland crackers. Right now only the smell of blueberries is tolerable. I've managed to get smoothies down that I got from the store and a few tablespoons of broth. But I'm worried about the 10lbs of weight I lost this week. I need to find ways to get calories into my system. Especially in public where the anxiety is triggering major dry heaving. What cheap GF snacks can I carry that would help? Normally I'd be saltines and toast and tiny bites of cheese but GF bread is still disgusting to me and I'm having a hard time with dairy. How do I make myself eat when I can't even think of any food that tastes good. I am setting an alarm to at least try to eat. Forcing myself to drink water even tho it makes me nauseated too. I have a doc appointment in two weeks to follow up the reason for going on Paxil again and can get an anti nausea med that works for me then. I have and am working through this in therapy and the PTSD incident that is causing this. The mental health stuff is covered. It's just PTSD and starting a new medication combined nausea from hell. Thanks again.

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At Home at the End of the World: The Long Defeat of Mike Mignola's Hellboy

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Help! Two of my dearest friends have movers coming in the morning, but they're both incredibly sick with the flu. Can anyone recommend a great housecleaning service that will help them out on short notice? They're in Harlem below 125th St., and the recommendations we've found so far don't cover their neighborhood. (Any other moving-while-terribly-ill advice appreciated, too—I'm half a country away or I'd be there doing it myself!)

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7 months ago I bought a Sony A7II DLSR camera. Though I knew there was a steep learning curve going in, I still haven't mastered the thing. I need some resources (hopefully a class) that will allow me to learn how to take non-grainy pics with this camera.To date I have purchased a guide book on Amazon and bought Gary Fong's visual guide to the camera features. They have been only slightly helpful. I am having problems getting the autofocus to work correctly every time and getting the auto ISO to produce non-grainy low light pictures. I could run the whole camera in automatic mode but I didn't buy this camera to do point and shoot. Nikon offers classes, if Sony does I can't find them. Please help.

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'I'm No Longer Afraid': 35 Women Tell Their Stories About Being Assaulted by Bill Cosby, and the Culture That Wouldn't Listen (trigger warning: sexual assault) SL longform New York Magazine

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Seminal post-modern choreographer Sally Gross has died at 81: "Because that's what we exist on, is the breath. It's the inhale and the exhale that guarantees us that we're living. And it's only because we're alive that we can even take on the idea of performing." In the early 1960s, while she was dancing with the Judson group, she began teaching a class in movement, largely for women, that met in her apartment. It continued for more than 40 years with some of the same participants. "I had done lots of things that I thought were really appropriate for people who were nondancers but wanted to dance," Ms. Gross recalled in 2001 about the genesis of the class. "Wanted to move, more than dancing. I think about myself the same way, as moving. Sitting, standing and lying down. Everybody at that point was probably in their 30s and they could do a great deal. I was there to push them. Many of them had had children and just needed to feel as good as their kids felt." A lifelong New Yorker, Gross was featured in not one or two but three documentaries in her later years. You can also see her in Kerouac's 1959 Pull My Daisy or here, sitting on a pile of mattresses with some of her friends. Paulson: That's life, those four things? Gross: Those four things. So, walking then becomes running if you do it a little faster. It becomes leaping if you take it off the floor. So that's the way I begin when I start working with people, whether it's a mixture of performers or not. And I do this with the dancers all the time who I work with. I do it with myself. Just yesterday, a woman who is a writer who knows a lot about movement said "I've been spending too much time in a chair, I need something to get me moving. What should I do?" And I said "Work with the Four Dignities." Because every change you make is a change, even the most subtle. So if you're sitting and you simply turn yourself to the left or the right, or you move an arm, you've made a change and you've moved a part of the body. So how do you go from lying down to sitting up? You don't have to do it quickly, you don't have to do it slowly. But then you could decide that you want to do it quicker and slower. You get the body flowing and the movement flowing, and then you can take it up on your feet. Then you can do the same activities lying, standing, sitting, and walking on your feet. So, if you say to somebody "Lie down" and they're standing up, they'll probably tip over. Well that's fine, that's lying down. That's where I begin everything.

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