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I'm contemplating ditching my current high-volume, low-cost approach to undergarment-buying (e.g., these Hanes cheapies, which stretch out after 6 months) for a low-volume, high-quality strategy. Are there durable stretch cotton boyshorts out there that wear like iron and are worth splurging on?Cotton-blend is fine, but no 100% nylon or microfiber or whatever nonbreathing plasticky fabrics they're making panties out of these days. Color's open, but sleek, minimalist styling somewhat preferred. No special size needed, but slightly more coverage/higher rise is better. What should I be looking at, Metafilter?

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The most optimistic people often struggle the hardest. They can't quite square what's going on in the world with their beliefs, and the disparity is alarming. [slnyt]

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Lorn has never been one to shy away from the darkness in his music. However, where as his previous release, Ask the Dust (Grooveshark) was bleak and mechanical in it's struggle with its demons, The Maze to Nowhere (Bandcamp) is melodic, fuzzy and at times even warm. If you've listened to Lorn's previous releases, 'warm' is generally not a word associated with his tunes. Whereas his previous effort worked with the bleakness of empty space, we find him filling in those cracks on this album with static, fuzz and ambient effects. The resulting product is a much more organic sounding beast, and man, does it sound great. From the Sputnik Music review of Lorn's first of ? parts in The Maze to Nowhere series of pay-what-you-want EPs on Bandcamp, which now includes Part 2 and Part 3, still with no end in sight. If you want some visuals with your music, here are the official videos for Ghosst(s) [previously*], Weight Me Down, Diamond, and a short clip for Tomorrow, from the earlier EP/album, Nothing Else (Grooveshark), which was released by Brainfeeder. More on Lorn: Discogs, and Ask the Dust page on Ninja Tune. He's also on Soundcloud, where he posted Certain Limbs, a compilation of songs to celebrate 1 million plays on Soundcloud. If you'd like to know more of of Lorn, here's some of Marcos Ortega in his own words, in a video interview he did in 2012, talking about his origins and work with the Brainfeeder crew, and an interview with Vice, also on his early days and the people who supported him. Bleep asked him about how his influences and style, and The Quietus digs deeper, to his earliest thoughts on music.

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La Vieille Dame et les Pigeons (The Old Woman and the Pigeons) by Sylvain Chomet (SLYT)

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No, nothing to do with taxes. I am a night auditor now, and the job is seriously activating my analytical streak. I'm pretty good at figuring out how things interact in our system and why they do what they do, but there is a vale I cannot penetrate, though there be wonders beyond it: what the $#&*# is a System Suspense Account?It's like magic, you see. It balances the General Ledger when something is wrong. It lurks inexplicably at the bottom of the hotel's G/L report, almost always the same seemingly random dollar amount in both columns. Occasionally it is not even there. And I do not want it to be magic, I want it to be a thing that I understand. And, maddeningly, the internet refuses to help me in my quest. Where does it come from? What determines how much money is in it on any given day? Is it even money? How does it fix the balance if it's off? Why is it occasionally not on the G/L report? Is it a thing in accounting in general, or just in some specific instances? Is there another name for it which might result in a few more explanatory and less abstruse google hits? Is there a Secret Accounting Cabal which guards this information against outsiders who do not bear the Sacred Mark? The System Suspense Account is like my little friend, faithfully guarding me against unbalanced audits. I like to know something about my friends. I am not sure why I have fixated so on this, but I have, and it's driving me bats. Does anyone, anyone know anything about this sort of thing? Pretty sure this is the silliest question I have ever asked.

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"As deep as my words moved people, if I'd not had him onstage with me I can't promise you that I would have been strong enough to make it through in the way I did. I wouldn't have been strong enough to resist the urge to compel people to do something bad, or approve of something violent. But that night, on that stage, a white man, the more privileged in American society, stood in solidarity, silently, stoically, quietly, staunchly, with his friend, as his friend neared physical breakdown because of the pain, and let him know: 'I'm there.' That's a shining example of what I as a man should do for a woman, what I as a straight man should do for gay people, it's what the tough kid should do to the kid who's getting bullied around by the fuckass tough kid, you know what I mean?" In The Guardian, Alexis Petridis interviews Killer Mike and El-P talking about Run the Jewels, their friendship and especially the show they did in Ferguson the night the grand jury declined to indict Darren Wilson for the murder of Michael Brown.

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I have the equivalent of 18 months' salary in hand and am planning to live on it as long as I can whilst pursuing my writing plans. How can I best manage my spending?A couple of events recently have meant I have in hand the equivalent of about 18 months' salary. I had some credit card debt, which I have paid off, and now don't have any debts except for my mortgage. My current full-time job ends next week. I have always done bits and pieces of writing and think this is my opportunity not to go back to full-time work but to try to write a book - and I don't underestimate the effort that goes into that. I am also hoping to do occasional part-time consultant work which will hopefully mean I can go on longer without looking for full-time work. I do realise that even if I succeed with writing I will probably need a proper job again eventually, but would like to put that off as long as possible. I am bad at managing money. I have put a lot of effort in the past into keeping records of what I spend, but I have never done anything with these accounts. I spend too much, eg on food and on books, especially when I feel low. I'm not good at self-control re money. I now really want to spend less in order to have more time not working. How can I work out what I "should" be spending? I don't want to be too thrifty as it's important to me to, for instance, spend money on family, visit museums and libraries in other towns and so on but I do want to spend less than I was spending as someone with a secure job and a decent income. I'm not looking for tips on saving money so much as more over-arching stuff on how I can draw the line between thrifty and extravagant. How do I set a budget for myself and is there a way of monitoring what I spend without tracking each purchase? Any tips on the practicalities of managing outgoings when living off capital would be helpful too. Most of my money is currently in a savings account so am I best to move a set amount of money from that to my current account each month, or to keep a specific balance in my current account and top it up from my savings account periodically? Friends and family have told me I should invest the money in order to get some interest, but I'm not sure whether this is worth it given I would need to access the money over time to live on. I'd also appreciate any advice on managing the effect of depression and anxiety on spending and money management. I'm in the UK, if that makes a difference to answers. Thanks for your help.

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In Code of the Woosters (PG Wodehouse), reference is made to a "tooth bottle," apparently containing liquor. Anyone have any idea what a "tooth bottle" might be?

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Bookfilter: I'm trying to locate a book I read as a child in the late 70's/early 80's. It was a (or in the style of) a Victorian melodrama, but written in a dry, humorous style. There were a few Tenniel-like illustrations here and there but it was mostly text. The little I remember is below the fold...The story begins with a young princess (of a Royal Family newly come to the throne due to either revolution or usurpation) discovering a little girl her own age whilst out on a walk. The little beggar girl is an orphan and the princess adopts her like a pet as they are similar in age. Beggar girl may have been called Cecilia. Of course, the beggar child is the last surviving member of the proper Royal Family, and this is apparent as she grows up as she is SO much more talented, pretty, intelligent etc etc than the current Princess. One of the illustrations (they are all line drawings in the style of John Tenniel) shows the Princess's attempt at a portrait (terrible), and then show's the "after" when Cecilia has completed the picture (awesomely). Of the rest of the plot, I don't remember much except for a scene where Cecilia is to be thrown to the lions. The lions possibly refuse to eat her due to her being amazingly royal or some such thing. Does this ring any bells?

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You might be a terrorist if... 1. you talk about individual liberties, or 32. you're frustrated with mainstream ideologies, or 59. you're a returning veteran, or 61. you believe in the right to bear arms -- according to the US Government.

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What are some cities / metro areas in the U.S. with a fair amount of software and tech companies besides the Bay Area, Seattle, and NYC? I'm looking more for lesser known hubs or places where there is a growing presence, cities that I may have not considered. Where are the jobs in 2015 and where will they be in ten years?I'm daydreaming of some options for relocating and I'm interested in some off the beaten path locations.

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Looking for parental controls for to set daily timers for specific websites.Trying to remove the temptation to linger at websites that suck up too much of my kids' time. Their schedules vary day to day, so an allotment timer is needed. Blocking social sites during specific hours of the day changes on the fly and is therefore too burdensome. Is it possible to have the following example in a Windows PC /wireless router environment? Computer A: Parent. Controls to timers and sites from here. Prefer to use web program, but download is fine. Computer B: Access to all content except 15 minutes of Facebook and 30 minutes of Google Plus during 7a.m. to 6p.m. I'm willing to make it 30 minutes of Facebook and 60 minutes of Google Plus a day, with no hours specified. Computer C: Access to all content. No internet access 5 days: 10p.m. to 6a.m. and 2 days: 1a.m. to 7a.m. Computers D-F: Unaffected What I've tried: Actiontec Router Parent Control, Microsoft Family Safety, Net Nanny, OpenDNS. Actiontec has some options, but they don't work. Blocks www.bing.com but not others like www.facebook.com nor URL keyword facebook. Windows Family Safety has no internet controls. OpenDNS affects all household devices. I don't see a way to limit access to certain computers. Net Nanny comes close, but I don't see a way to limit Kid B Computer to just 15 minutes of facebook a day during the hours of 7a.m. and 6p.m. While we appreciate anything can be circumvented, assume good faith and communication for all of us. I'm not looking for behavior modification advice. We're just trying to move the Doritos off the table and back into the cupboard. I'm willing to pay and have access to install on all devices. I have medium level ability and can get into the router, but don't have/want to create a server or some such.

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The story of The Anarchist Cookbook and William Powell, regretful author.

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Iconic Photographers Pose With Their Most Famous Photographs. The "Girl in Afghanistan", Sharbat Gula, was found and interviewed as an adult. "Tank Man", who faced down tanks in Tienanmen Square, has never been identified.

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I'm looking for someone -- or some service -- to help me prepare my application to be admitted to the New York State Bar. (I've already passed the bar exam itself.) I don't have blemishes, so-to-speak, that need to be explained, but my pre-law work history is complicated, and I lived in a million different places before law school but during the applicable period -- and I'm very busy right now -- so I'd like someone to help me carefully and precisely put the application together. I'd also like to check to be sure that there are no outstanding debts in my name that I'm unaware of and no unpaid parking tickets, etc., that I don't know about before the application goes in. I'm aware that there are attorneys who specialize in helping people with character and fitness issues to prepare for the interview -- but I'm looking for something different: help putting together the application itself. Does anyone have experience with someone that does this sort of thing? Throwaway email address: nybarquestion@yahoo.com

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I'm thinking of splurging on a new iPad...Which one?I currently own a iPad 3 with 16g of storage. It is wifi only. I've been eyeing the Air 2 and thinking of upgrading. I have to admit my current 16 g is not nearly enough and I don't store music and only special pictures. In fact to upgrade to iOS 8 I had to uninstall quite a few apps. I keep looking at the Air 2 and am considering going with 64g, but have mixed feelings about taking the next step and adding cellular ability. What have your experiences been???

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Japanese woman comes to America to search for buried treasure- but it's the fictional buried treasure in the movie "Fargo". She's come to North Dakota's "Siberia" to end her own life and the language barrier and our perceptions of Japanese 'normal' get in the way. "Death in the Snow" (The Guardian, 12 minutes, June 2003): A warning: this is a very sad, potentially upsetting story about suicide. It begins when a young woman from Japan comes to America to look for buried treasure, because she's convinced that the $1 million hidden in the movie Fargo is real, and because of language barriers and the like, no one can tell her that the movie is fake. Or so they thought. The woman isn't really there because of a movie. She's there to take her own life, and no one she meets can figure that out and get her help. It's a fascinating but incredibly sad story -- it's not for everyone.

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My father, 57 years old, recently had C3 C4 spinal surgery to correct spinal stenosis. As I understand it, there was a narrowing of his spinal cord which prevented spinal fluid and motorneurons from moving freely so before the surgery, he was experiencing loss of feeling in his hand, had an uneven gate, began to have trouble moving his legs and fingers, especially after periods of rest. He was told that some patients regain almost all of their previous ability, but that most experience an end to the decline and regain some percentage of their prior ability. He is very committed to regaining as much movement as he can. He's been doing physical therapy and stretching as prescribed. 5 months post surgery, he's still unable to sit for more than 15 minutes without then finding it hard to stand or walk. His gate is uneven, balance seems a bit better but is still an issue when he walks. Stretching seems to have helped. Sitting with his legs propped up or working while lying down improve his ability to stand. I'm interested in collecting any useful experience of post-spinal surgery recovery; techniques; exercises, etc.

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What's the commonly acceptable etiquette on reimbursing someone when you back out of a trip?Short Summary: A friend from work cancelled out of a ski trip and is now questioning my request to pay his half of the non-refundable hotel bill. Timeline: Mid March ski trip to Whistler booked end October last year. Friend gets new job and backs out of trip in early February due to workload. Cancelling the trip is completely understandable and not an issue as I'm meeting 15 other friends there from the UK so I won't be lonely. I immediately cancel his lift passes and try to downgrade room at hotel but not possible as single occupancy is now more expensive than the sale price we got in October for the 2 man room. I've made efforts to find a replacement for him on the trip but with no success as everyone who was planning going is already booked and those left can't afford it or get time off. Fast forward to this week, I mention that the hotel bill will hit my credit card this week (two weeks ahead of trip), so I'll be asking him for the balance once my credit card comes due next month. He expresses surprise at this request and says that had he known that I'd be asking for the balance, he would have asked for the time off from his new job or helped me find alternative cheaper accommodation. I'd previously advised him to mention the trip to his new employer prior to starting, but he decided not to do that. Moving hotels doesn't really work for me as we're all staying in the same hotel so moving isn't an option and the options he suggested were of a lower standard to the hotel we're staying in. Cancelling now would incur 100% loss of the hotel cost. Cheaper accommodation is currently only $100 cheaper for the 8 day trip for equivalent standard. Sums aren't insignificant so walking away doesn't feel right. Since I already have the lift ticket refund on the card, my exposure isn't as great as it could be, but is still currently $456 more than I'd bargained for. I'm prepared to split this 50:50 in the interest of harmony; although we're social, we're not close friends, but it seems a shame to ruin the friendship over this. Splitting it works out to be a $28.50/night premium over what I'd committed to, which I'll treat as my personal single occupancy supplement. Straw poll of friends tells me that I'm right in requesting payment of his share, but I want to make sure that I'm not living in an echo chamber with people just commiserating with me and telling me what I want to hear. In the past, I've reimbursed friends in full for cancelling on them and they've done the same for me, but is this just a British thing? Any links to etiquette articles would be helpful. I'm not planning on putting them in the email response I've drafted ("Look, the internet says you are wrong!"), but useful mentally to have the support. Bonus side dynamic: I was his boss until he quit last month. Shame to lose him, but it's a great job for him and no hard feelings apart from the gap in my organisation; he left on good terms and I'd hire him back tomorrow. This just strikes me as an oddity of social etiquette rather than something wrong with his personality.

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I've recently discovered Excel's Power View plugin and I'm naive enough to think it can solve a problem I have. I've watched this pie chart video (about halfway down). I can't make it do the 'partially shaded slices' thing in the video at 3:23. Help?Let's say there are Divisions. Divisions have Teams. Teams have Projects. Projects have a binary status - they're done or they're not. So I set up a table for each: DivisionID, DivisionName. TeamID, TeamName, DivisionID. ProjectID, ProjectName, TeamID, Status. Status is a 1 (complete) or 0 (ongoing). What I'd like it do do is make a pie chart with a colour for each Division. Inside those colours is a slice for each Team. The shading for each slice should show what proportion of that team's projects are complete. I seem to be able to do the colours and the slices. (It seems to know that each division has a different number of projects because the colours are different sizes [eg two Divisions have five teams, but the sizes taken up by their colour 'wedges' are very different.] I'm hoping this is because it knows the number of projects is somehow linked, but I really have no idea.) The next part - making each slice show the proportion of ongoing and completed projects - is witchcraft. I think this is because I have the last bit backwards. In the video, they click a Country that has Medals, and I guess this means each Medal has a Sport. I think to get the same result I'd need to click a Status. But this would mean that Statuses have Projects which have Teams with have Divisions and now my nose is bleeding. Thanks!

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Even after my anxiety has decreased significantly, creative activity of any kind still makes me extremely anxious. These things used to be very interesting and fulfilling, and now I can't even think about them on a regular basis without worrying excessively. How can I get rid of this?I started on Zoloft a while back, and it has helped me immensely. It's not 100% yet, but I definitely worry much less than I did a few months (or even weeks) ago. The decrease in anxiety has allowed me to start meditating every day and applying mindfulness whenever worries do arise. I was hoping that this would allow me to reclaim my interest in poetry, classical music, etc. For a while I was forcing myself to do something for an hour every day, but the anxiety associated with having that hanging over me every day and with not always doing exactly 60 minutes of focused work led me to drop it. For a couple of weeks now I haven't been doing any writing or composing at all. I am now able to recognize that there's no reason why I would need to regularly write or compose at this time. And I am considering the possibility that I need to work on self-cultivation, eliminating any residual anxiety, and just getting back to enjoying life before I start to "get back into it". But it's kind of frustrating that I can't, because I know that these are the things that I am most interested in and that I have found them fulfilling in the past; it's just that the immense amount of worry and mental preparation required to reach that point negates its value. So, my question is this: How can I get back to the point where creative activity is inherently fulfilling and doesn't cause anxiety? Thanks in advance.

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Scott Budnick walked away from his position as head of the production company that made the Hangover movies to run a prison-reform advocacy group. Budnick volunteers as a writing teacher at various prisons, focusing on youthful offenders who went behind bars before the age of 18. He also uses his Hollywood connections and natural drive ("I'm ADD to the fullest. I like going and going and going and getting shit done.") to lobby for prison and justice reform, including Proposition 47, which reclassified many petty theft and drug crimes to misdemeanors.

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Building the First Slavery Museum in America - David Amsden, The New York Times "From their weathered cypress frames, a dusty path, lined with hulking iron kettles that were used by slaves to boil sugar cane, leads to a grassy clearing dominated by a slave jail — an approach designed so that a visitor's most memorable glimpse of the white shutters and stately columns of the property's 220-year-old 'Big House' will come through the rusted bars of the squat, rectangular cell. A number of memorials also dot the grounds, including a series of angled granite walls engraved with the names of the 107,000 slaves who spent their lives in Louisiana before 1820. Inspired by Maya Lin's Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington, the memorial lists the names nonalphabetically to mirror the confusion and chaos that defined a slave's life." More photos of the Museum and grounds at Complex.com.

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I watched the film Calvary recently (highly recommended, by the way) and I've fallen head over heels in love with the Gaelic vocal from the track from the (Patrick Cassidy) score "Say Your Prayers". Where can I find more stuff like this?Unfortunately I can't find the exact song on its own on Youtube. The vocal in question starts around here (45:45 for mobile users) on this youtube of the whole soundtrack. Spotify link here. Google Play link here. The rest of the track, with its melancholy strings, is very nice, but it's that particular vocal which has really set my heart on fire for some reason. I can't stop listening to just that 20 seconds of the song, then skipping back and listening to the the 20 seconds again. That feels a bit...mad? And also like it will probably wear out its welcome soon, so help me find more things like this! Gaelic isn't essential at all (although it does add a certain beauty to my musically and linguistically uneducated ears), it's more just the general minor key (I think? I'm not a musical man) tone, the melody and the beautiful clear voice, with the fairly simple but powerful backing. Bonus question - does anyone who either speaks gaelic or has better Google fu than me know what an English translation of that particular vocal would be?

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Putin's Russia: Like a gangster running a crime syndicate, Putin muscles opponents and assassinates critics. Nonetheless, his bid in Ukraine may be reactionary to NATO edging closer to Russia's borders. As Dan Carlin notes, it's as if Russia began training Mexican soldiers. Meanwhile, everyone needs a hero.

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