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Notice that cute girl on campus? Like to know her better? Why not give her a hand?

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"It involved four international teams and an empty stadium, no ticket sales and yet the game was (open) for betting," Steans explains. "I sat and watched match fixers with a briefcase full of cash to pay the referees."

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Looking for a rail or underground park and ride station on the north side of London -- ideally near the M25. Difficuty: one where parking spaces are likely to be available in the middle of the day on a weekday.

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We are going to drive from Barrie, Ontario to Ottawa this upcoming weekend. Google Maps recommends driving via Toronto / the 401, but I'm wondering: would it be worthwhile taking Highway 7?The travel time difference is negligible (again, according to Google Maps, who gives both routes ~5 hours). Is Highway 7 pretty? Is it fun to drive? Are there sights to see? Places to eat? Or does it hold no particular advantage over the 401? (We're not from around here, hence our unfamiliarity with the area. Thanks, you guys!)

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Has anyone read any good books that have actually helped them get more done on a daily basis? I am procrastinating with many things that I need to do and the procrastination doesn't occur by doing nothing but rather by doing low priority tasks, or thinking, or even reading. If anyone has a system that they have used to be more productive, please share.

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I have a self deprecating sense of humour and I've come to realise that I can take it too far. I can sometimes play dumb and it gives the impression that I don't know what I'm doing/talking about. But at this point in my life/career, I do!! (in certain areas, I think). Help me change my wiring.Example. I was working on a project (a live event) with a couple collaborators, and coming into some disagreement with one of them. She was talking about marketing and publicity, to which my joking response was a loud, exaggerated whispered "I don't actually know the difference!" Laughter (score 1 for me). She went on to explain the difference and I TOTALLY KNEW THE DIFFERENCE (and also, we only needed publicity but I digress). Anyway, add a few more examples of this sort of thing that I do and the upshot is that I came across like I don't know what I'm doing, when in actuality we've done two other iterations of this project already that I essentially produced and directed myself while she stayed in the background during crunch time (to be clear, she's a friend-ish, I like her, we just clashed on a few points). On top of that, I've worked in a related field for over 15 years, 10 of those in a creative head of department capacity on multi-million dollar productions, and while there are some differences, I effing know what I'm talking about, or at the very least, I know what I don't know and how to find out. I think (SEE WHAT I DID THERE?) However! I am so hard wired to put myself down and defer to others, regardless of experience, that I think I do myself a disservice. It doesn't inspire others to have confidence in my ability, although in my particular day job I am liked and respected and work hard. It's just when I wade out into other areas where I might feel less sure about this that I put that front and centre, often in a joking way, but ultimately to my detriment. (I have some theories about having an inferiority complex due to having grown up in an intimidating, strict family and having "respect your elders unconditionally" drummed into me, and being a P.O.C. etc culture etc female etc but that's by the by.) How do I fix this? My dear partner was the first to point it out properly, and often reminds me that I need to curb it or find some other default mode of humour. He's a bit younger than me and earlier in his career, and he points out how far I've come in mine, and yet, I already have started to defer to him in more than a few instances because he's so confident in his (despite only really having started in the last couple years. He's also awesome and precocious and reminds me that he comes from white middle class privilege but that's by the by). I think I also do it to disarm and make other people feel smarter or in some way better? Like they don't have to prove themselves because there's already this other dingbat in the group. It's a less helpful version of being the class clown, maybe. Partner says I'm doing well to notice it after the fact at least, and I'm starting to notice on rare occasions when I'm saying something self-deprecating but I still can't stop myself. Are there any other exercises I can do to speed this along? It's like I put myself down and have to work twice as hard to get people's confidence back, it's just not efficient. Please help!

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This is a rug/blanket that's been hand-woven - I need some help identifying it. It's pretty large - over 6 feet by 3 roughly. Any help much appreciated.

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I feel like I need to skip two work team-building activities that are centered around guns and shooting because the idea makes me uncomfortable...I am the lone female at my job. My co-workers are all older, married men with children, and I am single and child-free. They are nice people, but I always feel like an outsider there, as I don't have much in common with them. I don't go to work expecting to make new friends or anything, but I want to be able to fit it enough to be respected at work. The team has two "team-building" activities planned: one is a day at a paintball course, and the other is a day at the gun shooting range. I am personally very uncomfortable around guns and around activities that make it seem like guns are fun. I witnessed a shooting where a friend lost a life, and in two other separate incidents I lost a dear friend and a cousin to guns, and I just can't imagine myself spending a day listening to people shoot guns and point guns at each other like it's no big deal. I know myself well enough to know that I would probably be very shaky and full of heavy thoughts and generally weird to be around if I were in that situation. So, I told my boss and my co-workers that I would not attend the the gun events, but I would join them for the lunch portion of the events. And, it seems that no one really understands my reasoning. They keep telling me that it's just a fun sport thing and they seem to be responding to me as if I am just trying to get a free day off of work or something. It kills me because I already feel unliked at work just because I am so different from my co-workers, and I don't know what to say or do now. Is it just me, or is this an odd choice of team-building?What would you do in this situation? How can I get my boss to realize that I am not trying to break up the team spirit by not attending? Am I required to attend this because it is during company hours?

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The GORUCK GR1 Field Pocket seems a great way to store a mirrorless camera and additional lens in an existing bag in a compact and secure way (as demonstrated in this blog post by Ben Brooks) – but I need to find an alternative.I am in the UK and these are too expensive to get shipped (and have a bit too prominent a US flag on them for somebody who isn't American). What decent alternatives are there for the Field Pocket, that will allow me to neatly store my mirrorless camera and another lens within my existing backpack? Thanks.

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Ikea migrated from product photography to digital rendering in V-Ray and Max so 75% of its catalog is virtual - down to the afternoon sunlight filtering through soft NORDIS curtains across SLÄTTEN floors near that framed BILD print resting against the BILLY bookcases...

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Asking for a friend... If you receive a job offer over the phone and want some additional time to consider the offer, what do you say?My friend (actually, I promise!) may receive a job offer over the phone. They interviewed for two positions and expect to hear from both potential employers within days of each other. How do you ask for time to consider an offer over the phone? This is in Australia.

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Can anyone help me find the song that plays from 0s to 30s and 1m30s to 2m10s in the aforelinked Oblivion video? I wasn't able to find it in the soundtrack.

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In July, Google updated Chrome on ios to allow Chromecast compatibility with some mobile websites. I'm yet to find such a website and was just wondering if anyone else has?I've downloaded all the apps which are available in the UK, and I know I can mirror any website through a laptop (even if its not perfect because its effectively running two identical streams at the same time which can make it a bit choppy).

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Four people need a satisfying meal in San Francisco Chinatown this Saturday evening -- where to go?Not seeking anything phenomenal, we don't want to stand in line, and one of speaks Cantonese.

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I'm reaching for a phrase for a short science fiction piece I'm working on. I'd like to know what a Classical-Latin-speaking character would say if they wanted to articulate a particular concept analogous to "I think therefore I am", but expressing instead a monstrous moral conclusion they've reached along the lines of I think therefore none may be / shall be.Automatic translations give me several results depending on which synonyms I throw at them, but I don't trust that any of these translations connote the same ideas about 'thinking' and 'being' that "cogito ergo sum" do, nor can I tell if they have the same Classical Latin (and philosophical) overtones. Ideally the phrase would follow the same elegant, punchy form: "Cogito ergo..." Happy to provide more context if necessary. Thanks in advance!

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I'm dealing with varying levels of resentment and bitchiness from people over my husband's job - the fact that to outsiders it seems glamorous/high status, and is well paid enough so I don't HAVE to work. It's getting me down because we move around all the time for his job so I don't really have a support network, just 'friends' who make sly nasty comments in emails/on my FB wall about my life. Any tips on dealing with the emotional/practical aspects of this welcome.My husband works in the film industry as an FX TD. He is fairly well paid (4 times more than I ever was, as a literacy teacher in prisons) and works on big budget films like Pirates of the Carribean/Narnia etc. I'm catching flack for this. The last time I met up with my childhood best friend in my hometown, it was an hour of her telling me how great her life was going (good! I'm glad!) while saying it 'didn't seem like you've been up to much' (despite the fact I got married, moved continents and travelled around Asia that year) while making sly comments about how she's 'a strong woman', 'I've always been independent, I don't need to rely on anybody' and 'I can look after myself' - as she thinks I'm sponging off my husband. It was hard for us to make this decision and I've given up a LOT (my home, my friends in London, anything that might resemble a middle class career) so we can make the best choices for us as a couple. He works 12-14hrs a day plus weekends so I do the flat hunting, furniture buying, food shopping, bill paying etc. I know it's not work but I'm not at the salon getting my nails done. It doesn't help that I'm unable to have children so my friend sees me as someone who doesn't need to be at home. I should mention here I've been dealing with untreated, excruciating endometriosis (now under control), cancer and depression so I've not always been able to work, but I don't want to disclose these things to her and am uncomfortable at being put in the position of explaining/defending my life to her. Recently another hometown friend got in contact. I'd stopped speaking to her at 17 when she became bitchy towards me and aforementioned friend, but figured, they'd made up and it's been 15 years, people change. Initially she was pleasant, but now every other week I wake up to find myself tagged in a bitchy conversation on facebook. Today was another. She mentioned a Courtney Love song and I lamented that she'd actually played at the venue not 50 metres from my house the previous week but I couldn't get tickets and it was a bummer. That sparked off a discussion about how I was being 'an obnoxious director's wife' and 'oh totes hilar, like you forgot he was famous and does all the effects for big films. Completely, Everydayanewday'. Let me stress he's one of 400 people working on FX and is IN NO WAY famous. Then it just degenerated into 'jokey' comments like 'you gave me ebola' (??) I've also had this with another friend of mine last year who was upset when I got married and also feels weird about his job but couldn't tell me that. I feel like my friends are dropping off, my friends are not happy when things go right for me - I spent the last couple of years with an abusive idiot doing good but breadline-paid work with disabled children. I have sat on the pavement and cried outside the bank. I have been scraping pennies together for 'value' bread my whole life, until I was 29. I didn't get a Mrs Degree. My parents are not rich. I feel like my friends are only my friends because they needed to feel better than me, who was barely getting by, with my shitty ex boyfriend. Now things are finally becoming more manageable (apart from my health) and it's like I've personally spited them. I feel like it's my fault because I don't know how to tell when someone genuinely likes me. I also have trouble with actually verbally responding to this stuff. I don't think I'm being obnoxious, but maybe I am? I never mention money/trips to anyone. They bring it up and imply nasty stuff and I am very polite and don't react to their digs because what else can I do? They work hard and don't earn as much money. How would you deal with this, practically and emotionally?

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I've grown very attached to the coffee that comes out of my moka pot/ bialetti pot every.single.morning for the last two years, to the point where I am planning on taking it with me on all of my travels this year. Please recommend a mini hot plate that I can purchase in Canada, to use with the moka pot.I use a 2-cup moka pot, so anything that's big enough for that pot and not much bigger will be great. Lightweight is best; and I'm willing to spend a little bit of money (say, up to 50 bucks) for this. Not interested in the electric version of moka expresso, though.

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V Martineau Illustration: The Miracle of Trees, Sciencia Illustrations, Levels Of Complexity, Plants, The Paper Birch Tree, Why The Sky Is Far Away vmartineu.tumblr.com via PopperFont

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There's a bike that I want to buy from a pawn shop on eBay for local pickup only. It's a screaming good deal, of the exact size and frame that I have been looking for. Obviously, living in Phoenix, I can't pick it up, and the pawn shop won't ship it. Any ideas (hopefully from a Brownsville native)?I was thinking about calling a local bike shop and seeing if they would pick it up and break it down and box it for me, but I'm not sure if local bike shops like when they get undersold by eBay! I'd be willing to pay for that, obviously, along with the cost of shipping. Any ideas? I was thinking that something like Taskrabbit might work, but it's not available in Brownsville.

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I am doing a creative book project entitled "36 Doors" The book involves doing 36 yoga poses in various and not necessarily famous doorways in the U.S. There are obvious spots (Jefferson Memorial, churches, etc.) along with more unexpected spots (Alice Water's Chez Panisse for examples) Any recommendations would be appreciated.

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I've only heard the song twice in my life. The second time I managed to slam a cassette tape into a tape recorder, capturing the 2nd half of the song. That was thirty years ago. Haven't figured it out since.Shazaming this won't work, nor will the Googling of any lyrics. I've been trying awhile. I tried to find it when Napster was brand new. I tracked down one of the old radio DJs that worked at the station this was recorded at. He didn't recognize it. I digitized the original cassette recording and uploaded it to YouTube: http://youtu.be/aBgsukkN5W4 Reddit took an initial stab at it, and came up empty handed. Perhaps you'll fare better? Facts: - This recording was made in 1984, but isn't necessarily the year of the song's release. - I lived in Canada, specifically Parksville, BC, on Vancouver Island. - International hits got a lot of playtime on Canadian radio, it could be a local (Vancouver) unknown band, or they could easily be from somewhere else. - The radio station that played this was CKLG (LG73)

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I have a very strong physical response to conflict and will tend to start crying almost immediately when in an argument with my boyfriend.I see it as an uncontrollable physical response to stress and not that big a deal. I will generally try to carry on with the discussion even when I have tears running down my face and don't feel it has any effect on my ability to argue rationally. I'm not sobbing or wailing or even yelling; even though the argument might be heated I feel very much in control of what I am thinking and saying. My boyfriend sees this differently and accuses me of either being manipulative (crying because I want to 'win' by making him feel bad) or hysterical and unable to argue rationally because I'm at the mercy of my emotions. Last night we had an argument, I started crying and he immediately said that I wasn't making sense (I was), that I was screaming (I was not) and that I wasn't in control of what I was saying (so offensive to me I don't even know where to start). When I pointed out that he was responding to his own feeling about emotional displays rather than what was actually happening he claimed that: "any psychiatrist (not a psychologist, as they are laughably unscientific) would tell you that as people become more emotional it becomes harder for their brain to act rationally and form well thought out arguments due to the way the human brain works. Read about the hundreds of physiological (real science) studies that show humans use two different parts of the brain for emotion and logic and the more one is accessed the harder it is to access the other at the same time". My instinct is that he is wrong to dismiss any argument that is not 100% rational and to claim that my physical response negates anything that comes out of my mouth but I don't have any proof, just my own experience of both crying and living in a society which considers the male/rational response to be in opposition to (and better than) a female/emotional one. He won't take this a valid argument however as I don't have scientific studies to back it up. I'd like to but I have no idea where to start. Look, I can barely put this down so that it makes sense. But I do feel that this issue underlies a lot of our arguments and I would like to have more information about it. I'm sorry, this is kind of all over the place. But am I wrong or is he? Or is the truth somewhere else completely?

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How do I balance after-work activities?Somehow in the past two months, I have managed to pack my after-work schedule extremely tightly. It's getting to be too much for me and I'm not sure how I can balance my schedule. Monday: Group - 7-9 Tuesday: Rehearsal - 7-9 Wednesday: Sports league - 7-8:30 Thursday: Free. Usually go to the gym on this day. Friday: Therapy A major contributing factor is that I need a full eight hours of sleep a night to be my most energetic self and that almost never happens. Ideally I should be in bed by 10:30 but I'm usually in bed between 11 to 11:30. It shouldn't make much of a difference but consistently getting 7.5 hours leaves me feeling sapped of energy and exhausted. If I did honestly try to get into bed at 10:30 every night, I feel like I'd be scrambling after getting home to brush my teeth, do bare minimum tidying up and hop into bed. All of these activities are really important to me. Is it possible to do all of these things and not be exhausted? Do people do that? If I do have to cut some of these activities out, how will I decide which and how many should go?

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I'm a dropbox pro user and they upgraded everyone to 1 TB of storage. I have plenty of stuff I could put in the cloud from external drives, but my laptop's hard drive is only a 256 GB SSD.I don't want to put my dropbox folder on an external drive, because there are some files I always want immediate access to on my laptop. So what are some ideas to take advantage of this space?

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What's better than reading a judge ruthlessly dismantling arguments against marriage equality? Hearing the judge's own voice as he makes lawyers arguing for Indiana's and Wisconsin's bans on same-sex marriage look like fools. Previously.

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