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Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance was one of "the" books of 70's, and has sold over 5 million copies since it was released in 1974. It's story of a narrator calling himself Phaedrus who explores the philosophical concept of quality while on a motorcycle journey with his son. It's author, Robert Pirsig, died today at age 88. Zen was Pirsig's first and most famous book. He wrote a sequel of sorts 17 years later called Lila: An Inquiry into Morals. Lila also takes place during a journey, this time on a riverboat. Both books make use of autobiographical material, most famously, Pirsig's metal breakdown and electroshock therapy. Previously on Metafilter.

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I am trying to rebuild my self-confidence and am seeking inspiration and stories from others who made a comeback after a long period of low self-confidence/self-esteem.I am not looking for help dissecting the source of my self-confidence drop off - that is something I am already working on with my therapist and psychiatrist, and with exercise as well. While I am making slow but steady improvement, my lack of confidence has adversely impacted my efforts to shift careers and search for jobs. It has also changed me from someone who used to dress well, groom herself well, read voraciously, etc. into someone who often feels like she doesn't deserve to do any of those things, or that it isn't worth the effort anymore. I don't like this. I want to love myself, feel confident, and project that confidence through my actions. Again, I'm not looking for prodding questions or advice as to the source of my low self-confidence the last few years. What I am interested to hear are personal stories from others who bounced back from a lengthy, protracted period of low self-confidence. What did you change and how did you make those changes? Did you have encouragement and support from others or do it completely alone? Bonus points if you are also someone who struggles with risk aversion or ADHD/anxiety.

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I started watching Chef's Table on the recommendation of one of the other questions here. Things for me lately have been very stressful, so I wanted something that would be engaging yet contemplative. I need further recommendations, now.I skipped around all three seasons and found myself at first only able to watch the episodes on Magnus Nilsson and Grant Achatz. Then, I watched the episode on Jeong Kwan. A cursory start of other episodes has me aggravated anytime I try to get into them. It is my mindset, admittedly, but the Very Aggressive Chef Approach is really getting on my last nerve. A lot of Chef's Table is like that? I don't know. I end up shutting it off. 1) Can anyone tell me from the 3 seasons if I am missing a good episode in the vein of the three I mentioned? 2) Can anyone let me in on any documentaries that are as informative yet gentle as the three episodes I mentioned? Thank you!

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I'm looking for fiction or non-fiction books about Wall Street during the 1930's. Anything that captures the vibe and culture of the era, specifically within Wall Street, in the period during and after the depression (in other words: not stuff about the stock market crash itself, but its aftermath). I don't know where to begin, and although googling has brought up a couple things I was hoping for some specific suggestions. Thanks!

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Wife is pregnant and has multiple gall stones. Should we still travel to Ponta Delgado?Situation: - Wife will be 25/26 weeks pregnant during the planned trip (one week, all in Ponta Delgado, flight from Boston) - She has been diagnosed with gall stones after some mild 'attacks' - Specialist recommends she wait until after birth to have surgery on gallbladder - Change to low-fat diet seems to have stopped aggravation of gallbladder (for now) - Specialist didn't have any particular concerns and declared us safe for travel - We both have adequate health care coverage for this trip Is Hospital do Divino Espírito Santo capable of emergency gallbladder surgery if needed? What are the risks to weigh to make this decision? Would the embassy have details about available health services, or is there another resource to consult? (thanks in advance)

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In the grim darkness of the far future there is only war. An interesting look at the early days of Warhammer 40K, before it forgot it was a satirical.

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It's the flip-side to the "retail apocalypse:" A siege of delivery trucks is threatening to choke cities with traffic. But not everyone agrees on what to do about it. "While truck traffic currently represents about 7 percent of urban traffic in American cities, it bears a disproportionate congestion cost of $28 billion, or about 17 percent of the total U.S. congestion costs, in wasted hours and gas. Cities, struggling to keep up with the deluge of delivery drivers, are seeing their curb space and streets overtaken by double-parked vehicles, to say nothing of the bonus pollution and roadwear produced thanks to a surfeit of Amazon Prime orders."

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I will be traveling for 8 days. I'm worried about leaving my cat alone as she is very attached to me...My daughter and I are going on a road trip for 8 days and she thinks I'm crazy for worrying. I can leave out food and water for the cat as she doesn't gorge herself so I'm not too worried about that....if I have someone check on her she will hide or hiss at the person as she really doesn't like anyone else. Does anyone have any advice? I'm new to the cat thing as this used to be my daughters cat....the cat became really attached to me(ow) lol when she moved away. I guess I'm just worried about her mental well being, I know they get lonely.

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Jacob Collier discusses harmony and music theory. The jazz wunderkind shows off his ridiculously precise perfect pitch by, among other things, singing the super-ultra-hyper-mega-meta lydian scale PERFECTLY.

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Buying our first house. Should our downpayment be large or small?My common-law partner and I are looking into buying a multi-unit house in Toronto. We'd like to live in one unit and have 1-2 rental units. I have steady gross income in the $80-90k range, and $60K in recent student debt that I am paying off really responsibly. Partner works freelance, makes $20-60K, and has zero debt and 180k in savings. We both have excellent credit. House price will be $600-625K, and rental income will be about $1000-1500 / month. It will need minor renovations, under $10K. We're both first-time homebuyers. We have previous superintendent experience, so we're confident about making the rental income. Would we be better off to (a) Make a 5% downpayment and pay the penalties? (b) Make a 10% or even 20% down payment to reduce our mortgage/penalties as much as possible? Anything else we should consider? Thank you!

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How fast can a bowler roll 12 consecutive strikes and achieve a perfect game? For Ben Ketola, the answer is 86.9 seconds.

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How to use only a custom dictionary in Word (or other word processor)?In Windows, using Microsoft Word, I want to be able to create and use a limited word processing dictionary (just 50 words or 500 words or whatever) and use only that dictionary: check spelling on the fly, flag unknown words, add flagged words to my dictionary. I do not want to use a standard dictionary in addition to my custom dictionary. Just my custom dictionary. What's the procedure? Add it as a new language? Is that possible? And if you can't do this in Microsoft Word (for Windows), is there a good free option that will work well on Windows 10?

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I purchased a new MacBook Pro last month--mid-level 13" model with the TouchBar FWIW--and it's had 3 or 4 kernel panics in the four weeks that I've had it. I've got the logs for one of those times at least. Is this machine a lemon? And if so, what's the best way to go about getting it replaced?

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After years of sharing a wall, saying goodbye to my Upper West Side neighbor:"Here's what I do know: She worked in radio for years and was a pioneer of sorts, being one of only a handful of female executives at her office in the 1980s. She loved WWD magazine and other fashion publications; her subscriptions showed up regularly at her doorstep, hand-delivered. (Weeks after S.'s death, I opened my door to see one in the middle of our landing right by the elevator—her subscription hadn't been cancelled yet—and my heart ached a little, seeing it just lie there; I grabbed it and propped it by her front door, even though I knew she wasn't there to read it.)"

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I am currently feeling quite upset with an in-law and biting my tongue to preserve my child's future relationship with that person. Where do you decide to draw the line in these things?I tend to be a direct communicator around issues of fairness. I also tend to enjoy authentic relationships. There are some big value differences happening, and areas of difference that inspire me to ask the sort of questions that cause grudges. How can I get my needs met without causing WW3? My ideal solution would be a heart to heart with the in law where they help me understand better why they do things a certain way. Super bonus would be insight in themselves about the negative impact they have caused but I am not holding my breath. Even acknowledging that they have played favorites would be a big help for my "fairness button." Or if this is all due to conservative values, a dialogue about that would help me understand and stop judging so much. I tend to value honesty over tact so for now I'm saying nothing at all. I don't even know if what I want to do can happen with tact, or if the process is even reasonable to consider when the family rules are all about superficiality and privacy. If context is needed, my mother has been helping with child care during my work hours and due to health problems may have to stop. My mother-in-law decided any help she offers will be in the form of taking my breastfed infant out of state for a month until I can have other arrangements in place. I'm pretty livid about it, and trying to determine if I am being reasonable, and whether it is fair to ever address the amount of help she offers us compared to her other adult children whom she provides childcare for regularly. To be clear, this is just one event. I'm asking for help to decide when a line is crossed to an extent that it warrants action and if it does, how to be diplomatic about it. And how to not hate yourself for swallowing your truth.

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Neighbor and I share a common driveway. It is shaped like a Y, the common driveway, and then each leg of Y leads to each house. We need to redo all of it. I simply don't have the money right now. Neighbor is flush with cash and says that if I could cover *my* portion in front of my house, he'll pay for the rest of the driveway.Should I do anything legally to protect myself? You are not my lawyer. Just so you have an idea about numbers, if I could afford it, the full cost for half the project would be about 22K; my neighbor is offering to bring my cost down to 12K, a number that I suppose I can take on.

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Tell me about a time when you decided to ask someone for help/input/advice instead of flying solo and how much easier/better your life was as a result. (Please.)Here's the deal: I am occasionally terrible at knowing when it's time to stop fruitlessly searching online for a solution to something and just ask someone who might already know. But rather than ask for advice on how to address this tendency (although if you have some, I'm all ears), I thought it would be more fun to instead ask the HiveMind to share their best stories about a time when asking for help, advice, or input paid off in a particularly awesome way that never would have happened if they had continued to try to lone wolf it. I am hoping that reading awesome success stories will help remind and inspire me to think outside the (search) box in the future. Thanks!

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By popular demand from my drinks thread, I'm seeking your suggestions for Arrested Development-themed dishes. They can either be foods directly referenced on the show (got a recipe for Hot Ham Water?), or ideas inspired by the show (maybe you've dreamed up a Never Nude Salad). Please share with me your tastiest Mayoneggs and all other twisted creations lurking in your brains. ;)P.S. If you'd like to see the final cocktail menu I decided on for my birthday party, here it is.

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My son (5 years old) and I had a great time reading through The Thrilling Adventures of Lovelace and Babbage: The (Mostly) True Story of the First Computer. Most of it went way over his head (and, to be fair, mine as well) but he enjoyed the heck out of it nonetheless. I'm looking for more graphic novels in this vein that I can read with my son.The book in question is (mostly) factual, informative, very funny and irreverent (while still respectful). It also has no overt sexual overtones, "hard" violence (though lots of bonking and crashing, which he loved), or swearing (except of the !$%#!! variety). I'm hoping to find more books like this. Bonus points if the book:features a character from a disenfranchised group in an empowering way (e.g. women, people of color, differently able, neurodiverse)is very funnylends itself to reading out loud, particularly many funny noisesteaches about history, science, or ideas in generalis more cartoonish in its depictions (e.g. not like Rex Morgan M.D.) I want to avoid books that are unhappy at all costs. I started reading A Series of Unfortunate Events and it was just... awful (more for me than for him, honestly). I also want to avoid books that are very scary or feature characters being awful to one another. Long shot: I'm especially interested in something that goes over the early history of electricity. I found They Changed the World but it looks like a very serious (and seriously drawn) treatment of the subject. That's a snoozer for sure.

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Scenes I Want To See In An RPG...

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Can you point me to resources on how to create a California LLC partnership?We will have things reviewed by an attorney before we file, but my partner and I would like to do as much research and planning as we can to make sure we understand our options and are as informed as possible. Blog posts, sites, books, and any other resources are welcome. Here is the state's resource page on the subject, which is about the extent of my knowledge at the moment. That page makes it seem as though the largest hurdle will be creating an operating agreement. My partner and I will be equal owners and managers in the business. Am I right in thinking that it is the operating agreement that would spell out explicit areas of control, how we make decisions, how to buy out the other if necessary, how to split profits, etc? Again, we *will* have pay an attorney to consult with us and review things before we file, so consider that advice given.

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Finally at long last, full-episodes of the classic masterpiece: Unsolved Mysteries are streaming on Amazon Prime. Join me... perhaps you may be able to help solve a mystery! Also relevant: follow Unsolved Mysteries People on Instagram

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Thanks to social media and the power of citizen scientists chasing the northern lights, a new feature was discovered recently. Nobody knew what this strange ribbon of purple light was, so ... it was called Steve. Also labeled a ProtonArc ( video) 7 Things to Know about "STEVE" Aurora Shots – Reality vs Expectation

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Sean Tejaratchi, better known as the mind behind LiarTownUSA (previously), has produced a book. He is pleased to announce that the publisher "has honored my desire to keep all the bad words and bird dicks and lunchbox tits and other improprieties. I was not asked to change a single thing." [Readers who wish to avoid the eyestraining retro white-on-black page design should acquire the appropriate bookmarklet.]

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I had a wisdom tooth removed today. They mentioned the risk of dry socket, and said to not: smoke (not worries), drink from a straw (easy enough), not eat seeded food that might get caught in teeth (also pretty easy), or spit - not spitting seems very, very hard, especially with my regular brushing and mouthwash routine. Does anyone have any advice for making sure my mouth heals optimally in the next week?

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