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Beautiful. NSFW imagery.

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Great American Eclipse of 2017. History of American total solar eclipses, from the 20th century, 19th century, even the 17th and 18th centuries. NASA's solar eclipse page, 2011-2020 Statistics for Solar Eclipses: (2000 BCE to 3000 CE) The last total solar eclipse to be seen from the United States mainland was in February, 1979. Previously on MeFi: March 2006 Solar Eclipse Photos, Africa, Europe and Asia

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I'm looking for music to fit into my "Big Happy" playlist. It's kind of a specific sound, at least it is to me... I like really big, synth-y, pop music that has big bursts of noise. Some examples that work for me...The Naked and the Famous: Young Blood Foster the People: Houdidni I'm from Barcelona: Always Spring (Not so synth-filled, but kind of big and happy.) Note: Lyrics don't matter as much as the sound.

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I just had a job interview for a job I really want that went really well. So well that I forgot to mention something kind of important: I started a part-time retail job between applying and hearing back about the interview (it was almost a month and I've been unemployed since May, so needed something to pay the bills) that I'd have to give notice at, but I'd hopefully be able to get shifts covered. I haven't had any direct e-mail contact with the person who interviewed me, only with the administrative assistant. They would want me to start ASAP. I'll probably be going in for a second interview sometime next week. How and when do I mention this? More important, how and when do I mention this in a way that isn't going to ruin my chances of getting this job?

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I am a woman in my late 30s embarking upon an LDR. We plan to be together about half the time. After about 2 weeks of separation, I find myself going out of my head with sexual frustration. I am back to my collegiate habits of masturbating multiple times a day. While this is fun (I get a chance to watch porn he doesn't like, etc.), I also find it a bit of a drag. For example, I haven't had to jerk off at work since my early 20s, and that's a time in my life I don't really miss. I've stepped up my exercise, which actually seems to make matters worse. I need to be "on" professionally, so I can't exercise to the point of physical exhaustion every day. We aren't that oversexed when we're together. 3-4x a week, and maybe 1x a week masturbating (for me). Opening up the relationship is not on the table. Yes, we have phone/Skype sex. Suggestions? Thank you.

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Do you like television? Touch my nose! You are banished!

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End the Tyranny of 24/7 Email — THIS Labor Day weekend, odds are you'll peek at your work email on your "day off" — and then feel guilty about it.

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I don't doubt characterising Orwell as a talented mediocrity will put noses out of joint. Not Orwell, surely! Orwell the tireless campaigner for social justice and economic equality; Orwell the prophetic voice, crying out in the wartime wilderness against the dangers of totalitarianism and the rise of the surveillance state; Orwell, who nobly took up arms in the cause of Spanish democracy, then, equally nobly, exposed the cause's subversion by Soviet realpolitik; Orwell, who lived in saintly penury and preached the solid virtues of homespun Englishness; Orwell, who died prematurely, his last gift to the people he so admired being a list of suspected Soviet agents he sent to MI5. For the BBC's Point of View series, Will Self tackles the cult of Orwell.

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If you're alone and you need a friend Someone to make you forget your problems Just come along baby Take my hand I'll be your lover tonight

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I'm a college junior who has had trouble making many friends, help?In my freshman year I didn't leave my room at all so I never met anyone through any means, but in my sophomore year I joined some groups, most of which I quit after a while through lack of interest but some of which I'm still a part of. Unfortunately I haven't met too many people outside of clubs, and almost all the people I've gotten close to are now studying abroad (a pretty large number of them are doing this) or have graduated this past spring. So now I'm sitting in my room, wondering what I can do next because I haven't met that one person who I would be sharing-secrets-close with. I'm sure I misplayed things by not doing anything freshman year, and there are a few new clubs that I want to try but I don't think I have the skill to get past their auditions. So what can I do at this point?

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Wilson recently calculated that the only way humanity could stave off a mass extinction crisis, as devastating as the one that killed the dinosaurs 65 million years ago, would be to set aside half the planet as permanently protected areas for the ten million other species. "Half Earth," in other words, as I began calling it—half for us, half for them. A Canadian take on the Half World idea. Or is it just anthropocentric arrogance?

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I wrote this question. I've been thinking a lot about my friendship with that guy, specifically how to proceed with it. Small blizzard under the fold.Things have been okay, and he's always willing to be clear and blunt about when I'm engaging too much. but I've been noticing that lately whenever we talk and he mentions something he does with another friend, I get upset. He got engaged after I wrote that last question (I'm also acquaintances with his fiancee), and there was an engagement party that was thrown for them which I also wasn't invited to. When he told me about that, I started crying. He has also all but told me that I'm not invited to the wedding (which he said he wanted to keep small, but still). (Yes, I am in therapy. Yes, I am trying to make friends via the usual avenues, but it's a slow process. I talked to this couple more than any of my other friends. Additionally, I live closest to them than I do to the rest of my friends/acquaintances-- we live in the same neighborhood, take gym classes at the local Y occasionally, and the guy half and I sometimes take the same trains to work since we both work in the same part of the city.) I'm tired of feeling sad when I talk to him. I'm also Facebook friends with them and I feel sad when I look at their profiles. I took a staycation recently, and I realized that I was most happiest and stress free when I wasn't running into them on the subway. The fact that I wasn't invited to the wedding also made me realize that I'm tired of not mattering to people. I want to not be a nothing friend. So, lately I've been thinking that maybe it would be best if I ended the friendship. I'm still trying to figure out whether or not I want to do this, but I'm trying to take some more time out in the hopes that maybe I'll figure it out. At the very least, I won't be so sad and anxious. I have some questions about how to do this, which I'd like to pose to you: -What should I do if I see either of them in the street or in the subway? It would be rude to keep walking and ignore them, but I'm afraid that if I start talking I'll feel sad, especially if they bring up the wedding. I also don't want to tell them so much about what's going on because if I do I'm afraid that they'll friend dump me, and I'm not sure if that's something I want yet. -Before, I had gotten into the habit of looking at their Facebook profiles a lot. I've unfollowed them, but I still put their names in the search bar. I want to stop doing this. Any pointers for stopping this habit? I was doing fine for a couple of days, but then the fiancee invited me to like her page (she's an artist) and I stupidly accepted, and then fell off the wagon. I'm considering blocking, but I'm not exactly sure how that works-- I know they wouldn't see my stuff, but would I see theirs? Would I still be able to look them up? Facebook's site doesn't seem to speak too much about that, and my leaving the site is not an option at this time. -How do I stop feeling so sad and confused about this? I get sad when I think of how things used to be and we used to talk all the time, but now we don't because that's not what he wants. Part of me doesn't want to end the friendship because he's a really nice guy and is willing to be clear about what he does/doesn't want. He also didn't freak out about the Asperger's, which is surprisingly hard to find in a friend. (Not sure if the fiancee knows, but she is also very nice.) I'm just really torn here and I expected to know the answer with time away, but it's just not helping. I know this is long, but since this is anonymous I wanted to give as much info as possible. Anything you can provide here would be much appreciated. Thank you.

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I'm working at PAX Prime all weekend (a big gaming convention) and I severely blistered the bottoms of my big toes while dancing at an after-party tonight. I still need to work 8-hour shifts tomorrow and Monday on my feet the entire time! What can I do tonight and in the morning to result in the least pain possible? I have Nike Free sneakers that I'll likely be wearing the next two days. Thanks!

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Vulfpeck (previously) was "conceived...as a German version of the Funk Brothers – session musicians who performed most of the instrumentals on the 1960s Motown records [previously]. The idea was to channel that era of the live rhythm section." On August 26th Vulfpeck released their fourth record, Fugue State (other three: Mit Peck, Vollmilch, My First Car). Vocalist Antwaun Stanley tells the story in 1612.

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How can I get better at organizing my ideas in writing? I want to be able to write essays, long-form blog posts, articles, etc. I want to be able to use in-depth writing as a tool to accomplish things, instead of just enduring it when it comes up. I'm interested in resources (classes? books?), techniques, and advice.A little background: I've always struggled with the process of writing (though not the elements of it - my standardized test scores in writing and language skills were, ironically, always perfect). I'm great at writing things like step-by-step instructions for how to do something, but I clam up as soon as I start working on anything abstract. I understand the idea of making an outline, but when I try to do it, I get stuck and frustrated. Sometimes thinking of questions that need to be answered helps me get prose out, but it doesn't help with structure. I'm totally happy when I'm editing other people's writing (even when I'm contributing full sentences to it), and I have a much easier time seeing and tweaking the structure of a piece when it's not my own. I just can't seem to take that ability to my own work. Making things more difficult, the process of writing makes me feel terrible, emotionally and physically. In college, writing for assignments was sometimes so painful and daunting that I'd have trouble breathing and sleeping. I'd originally thought I'd go back to school pretty soon after college. My terror of writing is the #1 thing that's kept me from doing it. I've not applied for jobs I'd probably have been good at because I was afraid they might require me to write things. I'm asking this question now because I'm working on the first ~3000 word writing assignment I've had since college (for a journal in my field that publishes both academics and non-academics), and it feels just as terrible as it ever did when I was in school. I really wish it didn't! I care about the subject I'm writing about, and I want to make a good argument. It's just that I can't, or I feel like I can't. It sucks! So even if I can't improve things this time around, I'd like to do something before I get to next time. Please help!

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Just 3 days before they would go into effect, Federal Judge Lee Yeakel struck down the admitting-privileges and ambulatory surgical center requirements of Texas's recently passed HB2 (remember the one with the filibuster?), finding that they placed an undue burden on women, especially those in the Rio Grande Valley and El Paso. Appointed to two different courts by George W. Bush (as both governor and president), this is not the first time Judge Yeakel has ruled against the bill. Last October, after declaring the admitting-privileges provision unconstitutional, the judge's decision was reversed by the 5th Circuit, to whom the state of Texas is appealing again. If the provisions are allowed to stand, there will be only 8 clinics that perform abortions in Texas, and only in the major metropolitan areas. Also of note in the ruling, "The court is dismayed with by the considerable efforts the state took to obscure Rue's level of involvement with the experts' contributions." Referring to Vincent Rue, who has been found to be coaching, and in some cases writing,, expert testimony to be given in support of these laws. Rue "originated the concept of post abortion syndrome." Previously, Previouslier, Previousliest

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Batman has been spotted on Japanese highways, or rather, someone dressed in a Dark Knight Rises style Batman suit and on a custom batcycle-like trike in the Chiba Prefecture, earning him the nickname Chibatman. He has been found and interviewed (Japanese without subtitles), and he even invited the interviewer back to his bat lair humble home. The 41 year-old Chibatman works as a welder, and he wears his Batman costume when he commutes to work, "because I want to see everyone smile."

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My kids rewatched A New Hope this week, and I ended up lost on Wookieepedia trying to find a broadly-definitive (by fans, not so much Lucas) take on droids like C3PO and R2D2. I understand slavery of sentients was eventually outlawed by the New Republic, but are droids emancipated? Can a droid be a Jedi (I saw the Skippy story)? Are droids AI or something else? How is Jar Jar Binks considered fully sentient in law, but not R2D2? Can a droid be murdered? What about copying a droid - is that like cloning a sentient being? Droids 101, please

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What is the ideal skincare regimen for an adult male?I am a relatively young adult white male. My skin is mostly normal as far as I know, but it often gets quite dry. I would like to know what things I should be doing to take THE BEST POSSIBLE care of my skin, including what specific products I should be buying (I'm definitely willing to spend more if it's worth it) and how exactly I should be using them. I understand the importance of proper sleep, hydration, and regular exercise. I don't smoke and don't drink anything dehydrating. I would like to know: MOISTURIZER - What specific moisturizer should I buy and when/how should I use it? Should I use a different one in the morning and at night? SUNBLOCK - What specific sunblock should I buy and when/how should I use it? - Do I always need to use sunblock on all sun-exposed parts of my body every day? What about Vitamin D? SHOWER - Is it essential to shower in cold water? I like taking long, hot showers, but I know that's supposed to dry out your skin. I guess I already know the answer to this... :( - What specific kind of soap should I be using? Should I use different soap for my face and my body? - Should I use some sort of implement, like a sponge, to apply soap to my face and/or body? Which specific one should I use? SHAVING - I shave every day; does my choice of products here matter with regard to the health/appearance of my skin? I currently use an electric foil razor and Barbasol shaving cream. READING - Are there any good books or other resources I should read on this subject? OTHER - Anything I've left out due to my lack of knowledge. Thank you!

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Attention MeFi Kiwis: I need to buy a replacement computer battery in Auckland. Can you recommend a reputable dealer?I'm looking for a replacement battery for my Dell Inspiron Mini 1018. I'm spending spring break in Auckland (Sept. 6-13) and would like to buy one there. Do you know of a good dealer, either brick and mortar or online? I found a good deal on Fishpond but they seem to have a bad reputation. All suggestions welcome!

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I have always been picky about where I study. I might be making this way more complicated than it has to be, but... help me decide where I should study for my boards (USMLE Step 1)!The USMLE Step 1 exam basically determines the rest of my career, and everybody in medicine in the US takes anywhere from 4-7 weeks off to study for the exam full-time. It's going to be super draining and stressful; the exam basically covers the first two years of med school, which is, needless to say, an insane volume of material. My schedule for studying will be more or less studying 6 days a week for 10-12 hours a day, with 1 day break / catchup if I fall behind schedule. (This is a previous AskMe that isn't about the same thing, but gives you an idea of how important and demanding this exam is.) I know that the general advice is to study where I have always best studied, but I'm not sure where that is. I have two (possibly three) places I could study, but both of them have drawbacks. Possibilities: 1) At school. I'm not a fan of my school environment. I find it isolating and lonely; whenever I return to school, I become unhappy and angsty. It's far from home, in a part of the country that doesn't have much in the way of diversity, and the microaggressions I have since experienced have made the place a stressful environment for me. My classmates are generally fine, but I find it incredibly stressful and irritating to listen to people (especially my roommate) nervously talk about how much they have or haven't studied, how other people are doing with their studying, who did well or poorly last year, and the like. I always feel sort of ... policed ... at school. I am an independent studier and usually get my thing done at my own pace. One positive aspect of studying at school is that there is an awesome gym that all students are given free membership to. There are gym classes and everything, which is amazing for my wellbeing and could help me study more effectively. 2) At home. I am generally happier at home (although I may be biased because when I'm home, I'm usually on break). My boyfriend is around! Yay! (I don't foresee any issues with that-- he is always supportive of me and respectful of my time). Food at home is better; I probably wouldn't have problems with keeping my food down because that has only ever happened when I was at school and promptly disappears when I leave my school environment. The main drawback is that my home environment can be somewhat chaotic-- sometimes my parents argue or yell at my little brother; my brother's piano practicing can also get loud if he's working on Beethoven or something. I have less privacy at home in some sense, and I don't have a nearby gym (I have one further away that I don't have membership to yet, and it would be very expensive for me to join). That said, I do have some space in my house that I could make entirely my own, and I can always run around the block for exercise or learn how to work out indoors... so that's not an impossibility. My parents could probably tone it down, and on the weekends when the household is more lively, I could probably just study at my boyfriend's place (which is very quiet). Third possibility that might not be a possibility: I could study at my undergraduate campus, which is about three hours from home. The main appeal for studying at my undergrad campus is that I can specifically envision where I would study best-- maybe this sounds neurotic, but I know the exact library, the exact spot where I could study. It was where I studied well all throughout undergrad, and I know I can get things done there. The problem with this plan is that I don't have housing there, and while I suppose I could sublease a place for a month or two after extensive digging on Craigslist, there's no guarantee because housing in that area is tight. I also wouldn't have a car, which limits where I could go / makes buying groceries potentially annoying. Plus, it would probably be stressful if I had to move into a new place right before hitting the books. There's a nice, new gym that my school gives out discounted alumni memberships to. It's close enough so that my family or boyfriend could visit me or I could go home for a weekend during a study break. ... I know this is all very specific information, but I need to decide on a place and register for my exam soon. I will probably "test drive" studying/focusing at home during Christmas break. Is there anything I should be considering or doing? Given this information above, does one location seem like a better option than the other? Thanks!

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I want queen cotton sheets with fun patterns to go under my boring grownup comforter. White or pale backgrounds, small repetitive prints. Where can I find them? I've been able to find isolated instances, but I want options! I currently have animal options in mind (e.g little elephants, whales, owls), or perhaps nice multi-color stripes. I might sacrifice my favorite niece or nephew for amazing octopuses or seahorses. Not kidding, I really am jealous of the babies and their magic crib sheets. Some examples of what I've already found are after the cut.These skipjack sheets at BB&B are a good example of the type of thing I'd like to find. Cute, but not actually baby-ish. The Company Store usually has a few decent options, but I don't totally love the current ones. Mostly, the prints are a bit big -- I might prefer prints that could be mistaken for polka dots from afar, but that's not a dealbreaker. Pottery Barn Teen has some that are okay, but I'm not in love. I would love something in this sort of print (not microfleece, of course, but I can't seem to find a cotton version at the moment). If the correct answer is to buy fabric and have sheets made by a sewing-competent friend or someone on Etsy or similar, since there are approximately a gazillion fun fabric prints, what do I need to know about picking the fabrics? Am I the only one, or should I be starting up my new business, www.whimsicalsheetsforall.com?

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I'm on a mission to find out what song this is. Heard on the HBO series Tell Me You Love Me at the very end of Season 1, Episode 8. Shazaam didn't recognized and I asked a gentleman at Hyped2Death.com and he didn't know. Also tried to decipher the lyrics, some are garbled. Singer is British I think? Thanks!You don't have to be rich [garbled] I've got a lot to give but it's not more in my heart I've got two legs but I don't seem to be able to walk I can put one foot in front of the other and before you know it I can talk And it drives me mad, though it's not that bad He's got a heart of gold he's as open as they come He's easy to read... So I told him, suck kid get yourself in line [garbled] And before you know it you'll be going on and growing on [garbled] Don't go changing, I like the way you are You're very, very special just the way you are You're already a star

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What's it called when someone accuses someone of pointing out an injustice as perpetrating that injustice by describing it? Is there a name for this rhetorical device? An example would be in Jon Stewart's recent segment about Ferguson where a news anchor was quoted as saying "You know who talks about race?! RACISTS."I've also encountered this before in anti-feminist rhetoric. I can't think of where, but I've come across people arguing things like "saying that women are culturally conditioned to be passive to men is saying that women are passive to men and that's sexist."

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Is there a proper English word to describe a person/culture/society which isn't only deceitful, but also sets up conditions to make others feel that they are breeching/ committing an offence against that which was lied about?What I'm thinking about is along the lines of some religions giving girls the idea that sex is bad, while putting them in situations where they are regularly harassed or are even raped. Hypocrite seems close, but not strong enough. If there isn't a word in English, is there a better fitting one in another language? Thanks!

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