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Whether you call it afroswing, afrowave, or afrobashment – it's the new sound of the UK.

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Have you tethered your goats? Might be a good idea as our slippery bovid friends are active escape artists. Even working goats like to go on the lam. No need for a West Point cadet to steal them, they are perfectly capable of taking themselves for a walk. Apparently, there was even a video game about the subject. So tether your goats. Or don't! They'll probably get loose anyways!

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Actress and cosplayer Chloe Dykstra has published a thoughtful essay on Medium about her abusive relationship with a man who went from being "a mildly successful podcaster to a powerhouse CEO of his own company". Most sources have gone ahead and identified Chris Hardwick, whose name has already been disappeared from his former site/brand Nerdist Industries. (trigger warning: emotional and sexual abuse)

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I'm looking for some dinner ideas for a week in a cabin with family (4 adults and 1 kid). There are some significant limitations: tiny kitchen and no electricity.There is a gas stove/oven, propane fridge, grill and fire pit. There will be a pretty good selection of pots, pans and utensils. As far as dietary restrictions, there will be one vegetarian, one mildly lactose intolerant person and two people who don't like spicy food. I love to cook but am used to making more complicated/adventurous meals than will work in this situation! I'm already planning tacos, build your own pizza, and spaghetti. Any ideas for anything simple but interesting that will work with our restrictions?

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I cannot use the "show in calendar" option when clicking on dates within emails on my iPhone. Can this be fixed?I have an iPhone 8 with iOS 11.4. I cannot use the "show in calendar" option when clicking on dates within emails. It is a close variation of a problem described (but not answered) here on an Apple forum. To quote from that question: -If I click on a date shown in an email, it gives me options to "Create Event", "Show in Calendar", or "Copy". When I click "Show in Calendar", the screen switches to the Calendar app, where it shows that date, but then immediately moves to today's date. If I switch back to the email, and perform the same function "Show in Calendar", it will then allow me to go straight to that date without switching back to today. My situation is actually a little worse in that the action described above in bold text (i.e., being able to use "show in calendar" when switching back to the email) doesn't work for me. I am never able to view a date on the calendar app for more than a split-second when clicking "show in calendar." It always swiftly reverts to today's date. Other potentially relevant information: - I have both a work email account and Gmail on the phone and the issue occurs with dates in emails in both. - I'm accessing the email messages from the standard Mail app and trying to open dates from email messages within the standard Calendar app. - The "create event" and "copy event" links do work when I click on dates within emails. - I don't recall precisely when the issue started, but the phone is about 6 months old and there was a time, maybe 3 months ago, when I didn't have this problem. Thanks in advance for any help.

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Goose Island wins lawsuit over infected Bourbon County original law-nerdier post here

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The McKenzie Tapes is a collection of live audio recordings from some of New York City area's most prominent music venues of the 1980s and 1990s. It spans mostly from 1985 to 1993, and includes shows played not only at Maxwell's, but also The Ritz, Irving Plaza, City Gardens, and more. The collection itself was recorded by David McKenzie, a Kearny, NJ-native and former Maxwell's employee. Artists include Wire, Sun Ra, Sonic Youth, Jonathan Richman, Fugazi, Superchunk, Butthole Surfers, Jesus Lizard, Palace Brothers, Bonnie Prince Billy, The Feelies, T-Model Ford, RL Burnside, Jon Spencer Blues Explosion, Boss Hog, the Pixies, Dinosaur Jr., Rollins Band, Husker Du, Poison Idea, Dag Nasty, Black Flag, Royal Trux, so much more ...

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Please help me write an email to fire my daughter's piano teacher. I'm a more than a little angry with him and I can't figure out if I want to let that come through in the email, or whether it's best to let it go.I was at the end of my pregnancy and sick with a horrible virus while my husband was sick with pneumonia over the last few piano lessons of this (school) year. Which means that my daughter who is seven didn't practice much, if at all, during that time - because she isn't super mature, not enough to practice piano without my help and without being told to. And then baby was born late pre-term and she and I spent 11 days in the NICU (I was not at home, I was boarding with baby. Baby is doing fantastic now) - and my husband was travelling back and forth to the hospital twice a day and holding down the fort at home. At the last lesson before her piano recital, piano teacher stopped the lesson and pulled my husband aside. Despite knowing our circumstances he said it was clear daughter had not been practicing and that she probably shouldn't attend the rehearsal. My husband said - 'No, she's been looking forward to this and she is GOING. TO. THE. RECITAL. SO PRACTICE WITH HER NOW'. This teacher is from England, and he then said in that stereotypical smarmy, cowardly tone, like straight out of a movie, 'Well, I guess the recital is back on, then.' That's just to paint a picture for you. I was pretty hormonal and vulnerable when I heard this, so much so that I cried and couldn't bring myself to even attend the recital because I was so upset/angry. And then, he spelled her name wrong on the program and, unbelievably, said her name wrong when introducing her. It's been a year that he's been teaching her. Furthermore, she's learned very little all year, maybe 7 quite easy pieces. So. I got an email from him asking whether I want a refund for the year's missed lessons, or whether we will add them to next September. There will be no next September with this asshat. My goal in writing him back is to get this out of my mind so that I never think of this person and this crappy experience again. I seriously want it exorcised; I have a beautiful new baby daughter, I am struggling a bit with a traumatic birth and a lot of rumination over various things. I really don't need something else to be sad and angry about. So would the best way to write back to him be to say sometime polite and non-confrontational (this would be the Canadian way) - 'Thanks but we won't be needing your services next year' - or to give him a bit of a piece of my mind? Not lose my shit, but just be quite frank with how deeply unimpressed I am with him? I'm not sure which will lend me better mental health. Thank you.

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I had an income tax mix-up and am wondering how/if a refund will be calculated.For 2015, I owed $3000, and have been making monthly installment payments. For 2016, I owed $0, but the IRS miscalculated my return and said I owed $1000. I filed an appeal, and they finally approved it and agreed that I owed $0 for 2016. However, my installment payments have been going towards both sums (plus their interest and fees) all this time. That is, my monthly installment has been going towards the principal and interest for years 2015 and 2016. However, as 2016 was wrongly charged, I think my total balance should be much less (e.g., payments should have been going towards the $2000 principal from 2015, rather than the $3000 for both years). Will they re-calculate the total owed, and credit the money I'd paid towards the 2016 tax owed to the 2015 balance? (Or am I misunderstanding this completely?) Thanks for any insight.

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I am starting a new gig, as a manager level engineer. I am well educated, have great related work experience, and feel very well qualified. I am also a single mom to a child with multiple disabilities. How to fend off discrimination?I am planning to work normal hours plus some extra hours. I didn't mention child at interview. I typically neglect his special needs but at some point it becomes obvious because time off for things, and me not totally freaking out. Discrimination is obvious despite me being more productive, competent, and communicative than most people. Tips on avoiding being sidelined before I start?

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"Historically, European nations have more developed welfare states, stronger unions, and less inequality, all of which are the products of more potent left-wing parties and labor movements that succeeded in reforming capitalism in the post–Second World War period. But this never happened here. The United States therefore needs a healthcare system that has universalism—and equity—built into its very foundation." Single-Payer Or Bust: By providing a single tier of coverage to all, with automatic enrollment, comprehensive benefits, and no cost-sharing, single-payer provides a distinct, egalitarian vision of universality. (Dissent)

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I have achieved my "dream job," and I'm basically happy with it. But I feel like all I do is work, eat and sleep. Anhedonic details within.My job is good; best job I've ever had and best compensation I've ever had. My usual day goes like this: Wake up, get ready [1hr] Commute to work on bus [1hr 30min] Work [8hr] Commute home [1hr 30min] Make dinner, eat, talk with bf [1hr 30min] Watch a TV episode [1hr] Read or do crossword in bed [30 min] Sleep [9hr] There is one deviation, which is that one night a week bf and I play trivia in a local bar. I basically feel like I do nothing but work and laze around! This is very possibly a result of spending 3 hours a day commuting on a bus. But I know from past experience that even with a short commute, I mostly dip around all evening. I tried to imagine my ideal life and I think it involves more socializing. For instance, I would love to meet up with someone for drinks once or twice a week after work, or see my family (who are across the country). But I have been here a year and still don't really have friends, plus "after work" is for me is nebulous due to commute. I feel a bit like bf and I are driving each other stir crazy (though we get along; there's just a palpable sense of cabin fever). A few weeks ago I was sick and stayed home cleaning the house all day and felt such a renewed sense of... my life belonging to me. I think it was not only choosing what to do and when but the sensation of having time and space to myself. Bf and I share what is basically a studio apartment, so even when we're doing separate activities we're in each other's faces. I've been pretty low and shortfused lately for no particular reason, maybe too much daily coffee and nightly wine. But I basically feel like I'm wasting my life. I've tried adding more hobbies in— learning math/physics during my commute, cooking more, reading things I've always wanted to read. But it all feels basically solitary and pointless. I'm honestly not sure whether I want to be alone or with people! It doesn't help that my career is so new and I'm still trying to prove myself; I don't know if/when I will really feel acualized at work. It's also the case that i don't have much in common with people at work except our shared interest in our field. I'm in the Bay Area, where everyone's addicted to hiking and kayaking and blah blah (it's fun and I do such things on occasion but I've never been really outdoorsy). I'm in tech and the "friends" that I do have through work mostly want to talk about like... Bitcoin, while I would rather talk about (pure) math or art films. So friend making has been slow going. I have been seeing a therapist occasionally but have mostly gotten the suggestion to do more hobbies and that type of thing. I guess I feel like hobbies pass the time but don't feel particularly meaningful; being part of a human community is meaningful. But I'm very bad at it. Every day feels so long, and like I have to be at least three different people throughout, and I feel like I'm capable of doing... one thing, max. (I'm also on low dose SSRI for anxiety and Wellbutrin for depression but they have only made me better at performing, not actually happier or more fulfilled.) For awhile I shifted my schedule so I could sit on the patio alone after work, reading with an aperitif. That made me happy, but I gradually became more aware of how sad it was that I was doing an essentially social activity (having pre-dinner drinks) alone. Yesterday at work I heard a commotion and looked out the window to see a bunch of people in nice clothes having a tipple and chatting in groups and I felt like crying. I just wished I was less anxious and alienated so I could have that too without always feeling like a dunce afterward. Being alone makes me melancholy and being with people makes me hate myself afterward. In the past I have been more than content to be alone; I'm not sure why I feel this way all of the sudden. Anyway, how do you make yourself feel like life is not a constant grind? How do you handle long days of going through the motions without profound alienation? Or do you just suck it up? How can I feel that my life is not an echo chamber for my own bullshit?

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What to do in this situation?What is the best way to move forward when you have developed strong feelings for someone after 2 dates? When you have know way of knowing if they feel the same and have in no way defined where the relationship is going, but you feel that an infatuation is developing? Is it better to postpone any physical stuff until you figure out where the relationship is going?

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How the Earliest Images of the Moon Were so Much Better than we Realised. MoonViews, the website of the Lunar Orbiter Image Recovery Project, is now finished as LOIRP has finished their mission and delivered the data to NASA. High-res pictures can be viewed here. Previously, 2009: "I could not morally get rid of this stuff." // That's no Moon. Or a McDonald's. WTF?

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Can anyone help me translate this document into English?

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/r/somnivexillology, for the study of flags that appear in dreams.

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My nephew is wanting to learn about producing content for Youtube, and is interested in an expensive online program called Jumpcut. Based on a cursory web search, this doesn't seem like a great idea. Thoughts?

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Me and the SO were watching Money for Nothing on Netflix, a make-junk-into-cool-stuff-(maybe. sometimes.) show, when an image from a small city in England showed a raised highway and behind it, a possibly HUGE white tent(?) thing with some kind of electrical or other metal towers sticking out at angles around in a circle.We rewound and stared at it and we tried to determine how big it was based on the close street lights and the ones on the raised highway, and also the near crane and the one further away... and then I thought well I'll ask Metafilter because someone will know. Money For Nothing S1:E13 on Netflix between 21:55 and 21:57. What is it, kind strangers? I hope it is not obvious or mundane, but I know that is a possibility. ALSO, no idea what category to put this in or what kinda tags to put on.

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I have a sprawling Sudanese family, and I'm hoping to build a family tree that covers my relatives going back at least four or five generations (which I'd guess encompasses several hundred people). It would serve as a memory aid for myself when interacting with relatives (I'm terrible with names) and as a digitized record that my relatives could access. Sadly, I haven't had much luck with the software I've tried – everything out there seems to be really clunky and Western-oriented. Requirements enclosed.Must-haves: Fairly intuitive UI Has an English UI Supports writing names in Arabic (e.g. احمد تاج الدين) Supports Arabic-style names - we don't have surnames, it's just a chain of names following your patriarchal lineage. e.g. Yusra (daugter of) Mohammed (son of) Ibrahim (son of) Musa and so on and so forth. Supports nicknames Can be posted to an easy-to-use website for my not-techo-savvy relatives to see Supports "messier" relationships, like marrying your cousin, divorce, polygamy, or marrying your brother's widow Supports photos Would-likes: Not a web app Supports Mac OS (but I will begrudgingly run it in Parallels if need be) An easy way for relatives to comment with suggestions/updates Automatically syncs/backs up An iPhone app, so that I can add people and information on-the-go Is actively maintained Supports estimated dates/date rangers for events like births and deaths Don't need/want: Record search, DNA features, or other ancestry features: Sudanese records are poorly digitized, and I fully expect to compile everything manually through conversations with relatives Super detailed fields: I'm limiting myself to collecting super basic information about each person for now. Other notes: I'd prefer not to use something clunky, but I am comfortable with more technical things like setting up a webserver, basic coding, or working on the command line. I'm happy to pay for quality software. I'm willing to give apps I've already dismissed another go. Thanks AskMeFi!

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My husband and I have a backyard for the first time and we want to make it a bit prettier without spending much money. We do not know a single thing about gardening or, like, land use? Questions and pictures inside!The backyard is terraced so the first level is a patio, the top level is grass (aspirationally), and the middle is kind of sloped and covered with landscaping fabric which I hate, mulch, and weeds. We want to make changes to the middle part. The backyard is behind the house which faces south and there are trees around so it doesn't get much sunlight. We live in Maryland right by Washington DC. The dirt is kind of clayish kind of soilish. Overview of the yard The middle section we want to modify Left of the stairs Right of the stairs Our priorities are: -Not spending a lot of money -We don't mind doing some upfront work but we'd like it to be low maintenance -Low skill level -Prettier than this, ideally some colorful flowers or something -Still accessible for a kid to play in and climb around on What I'd LIKE to do is pull up the landscape fabric, pull up the weeds, replace it all with mulch, and plant a row of marigolds (they're cheap but colorful, right?) along each side of the steps. I have some questions about this: 1) If I pull up the landscaping fabric and weeds will all the dirt wash down onto the patio? This is probably worst-case scenario. If I put mulch will that hold all the dirt in place? 2) Will marigolds grow okay in these circumstances? Is there something better (cheaper, prettier, hardier) that I should use? 3) If I go with this plan any tips on how to execute it as cheaply and easily as possible? Good sources for mulch? Will I need anything besides some gloves and a trowel? 4) Any other potential problems I'm not considering? 5) Is there anything I should think about that might be better? Thank you for your help and of course I am happy to answer any questions you have!

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Climate change is creating a new kind of grief, and we're completely unprepared for it. Quartz's Jeremy Deaton looks at the gathering psychological crises caused by environmental collapse.

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Grazers, active people, and graduates of invisalign/dental aligners, please help me cope with the changes. I'm on Day 10 and the struggle is real.I am on Day 10 (2 week trays), and while I'm going a good job of keeping them on 21-22 hours a day (including all the time it takes to brush, rinse, & floss), I feel like I'm either hungry all the time, or totally stuffed. I also feel very cranky and miss tasting stuff throughout the day. Before aligners: - slowly sip coffee (w/ cream, no sugar) for 1-2 hours - graze all day, small bits of things here and there, all day long - one large meal (dinner) w/ some grazing after until bedtime Now: - 30 mins for coffee in the morning - Two 15-20 minute snack periods during the day - 60 mins at night to go all out, cram everything possible into my face, leaving me stuffed and feeling sick I dislike feeling full. I'm also a pretty active person, and prefer exercising on an empty stomach (some days in the morning, some days in the evening). At night I'm also cramming non-water liquids in my face, which contributes to the making me feel sick to my stomach fullness during my nightly hourly binge. Clearly I need some help adjusting. is it bad to take them out more than 4x a day? What If I broke it up to 6-7x, provided I'm still keeping them on 21-22 hours? is it bad to brush/floss that many times? I'm struggling with also just missing tasting things throughout the day. My dentist told me it's safe to drink seltzer, but is there any wiggle room? Sugar-free vitamin water? Zevia (which is clear)? An electrolyte/Nuun tablet (not 100% clear, and does contain a small amount of sugar, but I dilute it to twice the amount of water). The first few days were fine, but now I find myself feeling cranky and tired and annoyed. If you are/were a grazer who successfully completed dental aligners/invisalign, please share with me your tips to adjust. Or tell me to suck it up, if that's really all one can do.

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A new zefrank documentary: "The giant anteater resembles a walking index finger with a mullet...and leg warmers." (SLYT, 7:24 mins, no CC)(NSFW language + about 2 seconds of NSFW footage)(note: is Buzzfeed content) zefrank previously, previously, previously.

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Ramadan nomnoms in 2018: It takes 350 chefs, 160 stewards and 450 supporting staff to prepare the iftar at Abu Dhabi's Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque. Syrian refugees celebrate Ramadan in Lebanon: "little things that we miss like the Ramadan-exclusive drink jalaab."Celebrity chef Vikas Khanna breaks his fast with the Muslim family who saved his life during the 1992 Mumbai riots: "When rioters visited their house... the family lied and said that Khanna too, was their son." Iftar street food at Mohammad Ali Road in Mumbai: melt-in-the-mouth tikkas, kebabs, rolls, and mithai. Ramzan in Kolkata: "during Sehri (pre-dawn meal) and in Iftar (sunset meal), the Zakaria street is at its liveliest." "they have gathered to make ma'amoul": a traditional shortbread pastry that is consumed across the Arab world during Eid brings together local Jordanians and refugees from Syria, Iraq, Yemen, Sudan and Somalia. Kids Explain Ramadan (from 2017): "if they don't be halal, you don't eat it" (previously Ramadan in Dearborn MI)

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"The Clinton Trump foundation is a criminal enterprise!" At least that's what the New York State Attorney General's office is suing him for. Meanwhile Trump made friends over the weekend in Singapore, much to Kim Jong Un's delight. They even made a video to commemorate the historic event. In this 'scaramucci's' episode of "as the Constitution spins in its un-marked grave" the writers propose a meeting between Trump and Putin, jailing kids who come across the border with their parents as a way to make a buck, and to find out more tune in to the latest episode!

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