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Bonfire of the Humanities. "Nobody goes to Timbuktu, right? Patrick Symmes did, to discover what happened when jihadi rebels set out to burn one of the world's finest collections of ancient manuscripts. Bouncing around by truck, boat, and boots, he got an intimate look at West ­Africa's most mythic locale." [Via] The Brave Sage of Timbuktu. "Abdel Kader Haidara had made it his life's work to document Mali's illustrious past. When the jihadists came, he led the rescue operation to save 350,000 manuscripts." The Crumbling Ancient Texts That May Hold Life-Saving Cures Previously: A story about a library on fire.

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I see that an electronic music course at a college is teaching Max/MSP. What is the relationship of using this program to learn electronic music versus using Ableton, Reason, Logic, ProTools, C-Base, or any of the other common, commercial programs people in the music business use? Is there any advantage for a student to take this Max/MSP academic electronic music course if his thing is making beats with Reason at this point?

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I haven't had a boyfriend since I was 16 and I'm 22 now. I'm dating this new guy for less than a month now, and though we both seem to want to make it work, I feel we have pretty different communication styles. We've also been through quite a lot during the past few weeks which we may need help getting over. I'm incredibly bad at dating, inexperienced in romantic relationships and honestly want this to work. What do I do?I really like him! From the little I know him, he's sweet, he's incredibly smart, he's patient, he's hard-working and dedicated, fun-loving and adventurous just like me. He also puts in lots of time and effort to try to see me more, whether it be for a quick coffee or a beer or anything...He texts me all the time and we're in constant communication. I really like that, as I value communication over most things in a relationship. However, we're both the same age and probably both immature with relationships. We've been on around 4-5 dates, and had some issues: I've been overly emotional every time we've hung out, either weeping about his being distant or getting angry at something that I've assumed he's doing or not doing. It's my bad - I'm emotional and intense in general, and even 1 beer really exacerbates that. I have basically decided to quit drinking in general for a while and especially on our dates. The dates are otherwise super fun, we can talk for hours and I love getting to know him more and more. We hung out recently and had a misunderstanding based on something relatively trivial, basically that I had to leave a lot earlier than I thought. I know he'd planned a really nice evening together, with dinner and all kinds of other fun things. It was sweet, but I live pretty far from him and had other commitments...I guess I estimated the time wrong. I told him I could stay longer, that I could make it work, but he kept saying "No, it's fine, you obviously need to be home for something, so it's fine." I apologized and asked him if he was OK with it, and he seemed incredibly defensive stating that he's 'fine' dozens of times. Then he opened up. He said he can't handle how emotional I am (with the crying, the angry for no apparent reason, etc) and that we're both young professionals, we should have fun and have no drama, just enjoy each other's company. He'd said this before, I'll admit but I did get emotional again during the third date and though we did have a lot of fun (and he asked me to come over the very next day)I did not do very good 'self checking' when it comes to my emotions. I conceded with everything he said. It's true that I overanalyzed everything he did and probably pre-judged him...just like guys often do to me. I said I was sorry, and he insisted he was fine. We talked/argued like this (no yelling of course, just talking) for almost 3 hours which we could've used making out. It was...depressing. I didn't realize how depressing it was for him, though, until I left him and got onto the bus home. He basically texted me saying I wished I'd said 'fuck it' to my other commitments, saw that he really wanted me there. Well, why didn't he articulate that to me instead of saying that I'm fine 100s of times? O_O if he'd actually said that, I'd have been turned on and probably done it. Kindness gets you way farther than defensive baiting, right? Anyway, he was angry and I tried to pacify him and we have set up two more dates. I think we like each other a lot and I really appreciate his getting over my emotional outbursts. I want to make it up to him. I feel like we need time apart to do that, though, if only not texting for a few days or something... I mean we just talked on the phone and he was cold, distant and made meanspirited jokes the whole time. And when I tried to call him out on it, asking how he's feeling, he insists he's over it and that I'm the one overanalyzing. I don't understand what to do. I want to help make this work because he's a sweetheart, we're compatible (it rarely happens that I feel connected and attracted to someone AND that they can handle my energy and intensity)...We just have really different communication styles and are probably immature in relationships. What can I do to help him get over it, to let the relationship thrive rather than rot too quickly? Our next two dates are alcohol-free and he keeps saying he really likes me and wants to see me again. There's no sex involved yet fwiw, and I appreciate him for taking his time with me even with the kissing. I can tell he doesn't want to screw this up either, he wants to give it a chance, but he doesn't maybe communicate his emotions very well and expects me to be a mind-reader, maybe. It sucks that we're having this much trouble in the first few weeks of us dating. But I've certainly learned a lot about myself during this process...hope we can make it work 'cause I know it'd be great. How can I help him open up and tell me how he's feeling rather than bottling it in? How do I stop overanalyzing and start having more fun? What can I do to curb my emotions? Overall, what are your thoughts on this? Thanks so much.

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Maybe working with a friend who turned out to be a little less than friend.A job opened up recently at my company for someone in a role within my department. I would see this person 3-4 times a week, and we would be working on deadlines together, i.e. a lot of communication and physically being in the same room. I recommended someone I know from about 5 years ago. We were pretty good friends (long distance Facebooky-friends for the last couple years), and I knew he was looking for a job. His interests aligned with the position, and I didn't think he was a perfect fit (lacked a couple of skills, easy to learn on the job though) but thought he might get the job. He came to stay with me and my fiance the night before the interview because he's from out of town (we're in our mid-to-late 20s, so this is not that unusual). On the first night he was staying with us, he made me very uncomfortable. It seemed like nerves, but he kept glancing at my breasts while talking to me. Also, despite the fact that I tipped him off to the job and we are letting him stay with us, he's been somewhat rude and unpleasant-- I think it's just his social awkwardness, but I wouldn't invite him to stay with me again. In fact, I don't really want to spend any time around him-- he's been acting very smug and sarcastic, different from how he was previously. He seems different than before and I think he's gone through a few life changes (i.e. used to be very Catholic, now is an atheist) that have maybe changed the way he acts around women. He's "on the market" now and I feel like he's viewing me as a sexual conquest (even though I'm obviously involved with someone) instead of a friend. I know neither of these are huge transgressions, they are just bad personality to my taste, but I am suddenly filled with dread imagining working with this person into the indefinite future. It turns out he is a competitive candidate, and they are considering him along with another candidate (who I would infinitely prefer both for professional and now personal reasons). How can I deal with this, practically and mentally? I'm very upset that I may have changed my work environment from a decent one to one where I am on edge. I feel very uncomfortable with this person now and like an idiot for helping him out. Any advice welcome.

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Need marriage counselling or couples therapy in Toronto. I'm not really sure how to go about finding and choosing someone. We're married 20 years and in our early fifties. Central T.O. would be great but we're not adverse to travelling further afield for somebody good. If you'd like to respond privately, please use joebrownsthrowawayemail@gmail.com (apologies to any Joe Browns out there)

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I'm running my first marathon in a few months and need your advices!I'll be running my first marathon in a few months. I've run a half-marathon before and have been training for several months using the Hal Higdon method (but mostly fast walking, not running). I believe that will be able to go the distance at a fast walking pace. I'm hoping I can meet the 6.5 hour maximum time, which is not at all a sure thing at this point. I also need some race day tips. Speed: - How do I get my speed up so I know I can walk/run the whole thing fast enough to meet the maximum time limit? - Are there any drawbacks to fast-walking rather than running? (Health-wise, etc.) - Other tips for just finishing (I don't really care about speed at this point.) Race day tips: - Things to remember on race day/ carry with me (Should I wear a backpack? A fanny pack? Bring protein bars? Drink espresso that morning?) - Anything else you think might help! Thank you all!

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American Football, the quintessential emo/math-rock band of the 90's, has announced their first two shows in 15 years. Formed in 1997 by the now-legendary Mike Kinsella (formerly of The One Up Downstairs (which was pre-American Football with Steve Lamos), Cap'n Jazz, Owen, and Joan of Arc), Steve Lamos (formerly of The Firebird Band, currently in The Geeze and DMS), and Steve Holmes (also in The Geese), American Football broke up soon after the release of their eponymous "American Football" album in 1999. On May 20th Polyvinyl Records is reissuing American Football with a second disk of live songs and demos. You can hear a song from it here. This news comes not too long after the release of Mike Kinsella's other band, Owls', new album "Two", which was released on March 25th, 2014. Owls features Mike's brother Tim Kinsella (also formerly of Cap'n Jazz but more recently in Make Believe), Victor Villareal and Sam Zurick (both of whom are in Ghosts and Vodka).

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VIPUKIRVES™ is a new Finnish axe, translates as "lever axe" in English.

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There's a video I'm trying to find - like a flash animation or maybe a youtube thing, from 5-ish ~ 10-ish years ago. All I remember is that it had like, geometric shapes that moved around, and the narration was a stream of consciousness thing, and the only part of the narration I remember is "this is why you drink." It was the kind of thing I'd expect to see on Boing Boing, maybe. Anyone have any idea at all what I might be talking about?

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I want to learn how to build something like this. Starting from nothing, what kind of skillset will I need to acquire?

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I'm tying to help a family member sell a bunch of stuff. He lives in rural Northern California and I don't particularly want to deal with ebay myself. What are my options?He's asked me to help him sell a bunch of stuff. Stuff includes but is not limited to: Musical instruments of mostly low to moderate value but possibly some higher Mixing equipment, speakers, monitors and other equipment of in some cases higher value Aging computer stuff Random "toys" like a full sized popcorn popper and other kitchen gadgets A large selection of DVDs (if it's worth selling them?) Maybe books? I could drive up to get them myself but I really don't want to deal with selling this stuff myself. I hate ebay and I'm very busy. It's worth it to him to lose money if someone else will deal with the whole process, ie: pick the stuff up, catalog it, sell it, and then take a percentage (or flat rate?) to do so. I see there are services that do this, but not in his rural location (Humboldt County, half hour from smallish town). Even if I can get a service or someone from craigslist (or mefi jobs?) or whatever to do this, how can I possibly vet this person? Thanks so much for your ideas on this,

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Hi All, My mom is going to be 6 months sober. She loves her AA coins and I would like to find a treasury box or display for her- something like etsy- really cute. She just loves rhinestones/crystals and bling. What creative things have people done to store/display their AA coins or what is something really nice I can do to celebrate her AA anniversary? i am a grad student, so not a lot of moolah. Any nice mantras/meditations or sayings I can put in a "coping jar". She lost her house and her dad this year. it;s been real hard for her not to drink and I am always trying to help her with counter triggers- so something positive to do when she has a trigger.

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That's right folks, Field of Dreams is 25 years old. W.P. Kinsella reflects on how his novel "Shoeless Joe" was adapted into the timeless baseball/father-son movie, including how he made peace with the studio changing the name of J.D. Salinger's character. Kevin Costner will headline a cast reunion, on Father's Day naturally. Obligatory Listicle The iconic field from the movie was retained in its Iowa cornfield, and is the subject of a heated zoning debate.

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The Value of a Sherpa Life - Grayson Schaffer reports on Friday's Everest avalanche that claimed the lives of 16 Sherpas in an instant. "And, yes" he says, "there is something that needs to be done about it." In the wake of this devastating tragedy, many Sherpas are threatening a strike and the government is mulling total closure for the upcoming season, which has 335 permits in the queue. Footage of the avalanche. Previously, in The Disposable Man: A Western History of Sherpas on Everest, Scaheffer spoke of the high risks, low pay and shocking mortality rate: "... no service industry in the world so frequently kills and maims its workers for the benefit of paying clients." National Geographic: Photographer of Sherpas: Everest Avalanche "Will Be Spoken of for Generations" WAPO: A closer look at the dangerous work that Everest's Sherpas undertake for Western climbers NYT: After Everest Disaster, Sherpas Contemplate Strike Previously on Mefi: World's highest fight

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Life Sentences: The Grammar of Clickbait

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The gutters in San Francisco's Buena Vista Park are made out of old headstones. Placed by the WPA program back in the late 1930s, the stones are said to be broken headstones and markers from unclaimed graves.

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Seeking coping strategies for dealing with the public on small and large scales during a major depressive episode. My old ways of dealing with a deep low like this are not compatible with the life I've built since the last time this happened, and I would like to keep that life together.Here's the basic situation: I've been dealing with some pretty severe depression for most of my life. The past few years have been one of my longest stretches without a major episode and in that time, I've been making my living in a way that demands pretty intense engagement with the public. I'm an actor, a comedian, a promoter and a reporter - there's barely a dollar I make without engaging with the public in some way. I got into counseling right away when some personal setbacks set me spiraling the way I used to. I've been here before, the condition runs in my family and I know what it feels like when depression pulls the point out of anything and everything. I've likened it to an athlete who knows he has a knee injury in the past - he knows what it feels like when his trick knee needs some rehab; I know what it feels like when my trick brain needs some care beyond me just tanking through things. Regenerating my Social Hit Points is really difficult right now. All I really want to do during a low is disengage from the world completely, hide in my room, watch superhero shows and cry a bunch. Eventually, I remember music exists and then the working out again starts to happen, then I start to remember there's a point to life and that mine's actually pretty fucking rad when I can stay out of my own way. But I'm not there yet and my professional obligations don't really leave me with a lot of time to get there in my own time. Dealing with the public is usually extremely easy for me; that's why so much of my work revolves around it. But lately, it's a huge problem. I've got an appointment with my counselor near the end of the week and we'll be covering some of this problem but between now and then, I've got rehearsals to go to, kids' shows to do, other shows to put up posters for (that is, repeatedly going into strangers' spaces and asking for a favor gaaaaaaah) and interviews to conduct. This episode is already screwing with my work: I barely got my last interview done / article filed in time, I spaced rehearsal completely this morning, gave a shitty performance last Monday and a mediocre one Friday, haven't been to open mic in weeks and am way behind on promoting anything. It won't always be this way but thinking about talking to anyone right now makes me want to shut down and vanish. Dr. Google doesn't really have much to offer me about this. I know my usual way out of an episode but my new life doesn't really work with my old coping strategies and I want this life to still be intact when I begin to recover. I hoping that this might sound familiar to some nodes of the hivemind, that some of you may have figured out good ways to handle the public (like, sometimes a whole lot of the public) when the idea of being seen by anyone or having to process hu-mon language sounds impossible, makes you wish you could teleport back into your sweat pants in the blink of an eye. My counselor and I are gonna figure out how to handle this long term. I need to handle the rest of this week first though. Any ideas are appreciated.

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Bought a large bag of unsalted corn chips and didn't realize it until I got home. Store won't take them back without a receipt which I don't have. Do you have an easy method for adding salt to unsalted chips? I'm not talking about pouring salt over the chips.

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I need to send some legal documents (a wage garnishment assignment from a spousal support court judgement) to the appropriate department at AirBnB. The garnishment is for one of their employees, my ex-husband. I am having trouble locating the appropriate contact at AirBnB. Does anyone have an email address or direct phone number for either the legal department or Accounts Payable?I have tried calling the corporate phone number, it goes to a voicemail box that is always full. The help lines go to a third-party help desk with no access to corporate contacts. I tried mailing the documents to the corporate address and got no response, though it was signed for. Ex-husband is refusing to provide info, surprise surprise. I do not have a lawyer, and I cannot afford one. I am also out of state for the moment, so hauling him back to court is not an option for the next several months. Please help! If I can find a contact at AirBnB I can get this process going. I've done this with his previous employer, so I know the drill. Thank you!

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After searching, I see this has come up on Ask MeFi before in regards to apartment situations. The difference here is that we own, as do our neighbors. We live in Chicago, and naturally the police are less than responsive about these sorts of matters. I have spoken to the vibrating bass vehicle owner himself, twice, which helps for a week or so at most. I am a quiet person and a homebody - also a stay-at-home mom to a toddler and impending baby. There is literally nowhere in the house I can go to escape it when it's at max volume.Additional background: we have a cordial but otherwise non-existent relationship with these neighbors. They are an older couple, perhaps in their upper 60s? He spends most days in his detached garage, adjacent to our backyard, with the music cranked from his car stereo. He's got a nice truck with fancy schmancy rims and a clearly advanced stereo system, in which he seems to take pride. He's actually playing some music that I find pretty great - mostly Motown - but ultimately it doesn't matter as the volume ranges from loud to absolutely outrageous. Bass aside, it is difficult to enjoy our backyard when he is going strong, because it is just that loud. But if I retreat indoors, its back to nebulous thrumming and vibrating. It can be hard to concentrate. I have hypothesized that he is somewhat hard of hearing, because I don't know how someone could sit in that garage right next to the car and not experience headaches. The most recent time I politely asked him to turn it down, in the midst of the Polar Vortex, he seemed somewhat flustered and perhaps offended, but kept it lower for a period of days till it drifted back up again. He also has a broken motorcycle that he will rev for hours straight in the summertime, creating both noise and exhaust issues, so I think it's safe to say that neither he nor his wife are disturbed by loud noise. None of our other immediate neighbors are home during the weekdays, so I think this is primarily my dilemma to attempt to solve or learn to ignore. Any advice would be appreciated!

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What James 'Blood' Ulmer record has a photo on the back of him and his band wearing African attire and looking tough? My boyfriend wistfully mentioned having owned it and I'd love to pick up a copy for his birthday.He thought it might have had "Jazz Is The Teacher (Funk is the Preacher)" on it, but this doesn't jive with anything I can find after scouring Discogs for a while, so I was hoping someone might know which record this is. I don't want to press for any further details and risk giving away the surprise.

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This is a souvenir tile my wife's parents bought in Holland 30-odd years ago. We'd like to work out where the picture comes from.

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Are there campgrounds in the DC area (within an hour) that allow alcohol and catering on site? Trying to plan a party for someone where everyone can spend the night and camp out if they have too much to drink.My only criteria: - Will allow a catering company to set up - Allows booze - Allows a campfire - Allows camping out - Less than an hour from DC It looks like every single campground prohibits alcohol - understandable. Is this one of those things people still do anyway if they're smart about it as long as they aren't obnoxious? Or do private campgrounds exist that allow this sort of thing? I've never planned a camping trip in my life so this is all new to me. A cabin is officially out - we've been back and forth on it and the idea has been scrapped for logistical and financial reasons (party is too big - about 20 people, too expensive, they are all reserved at this point, etc).

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we are having a sundae bar at our wedding. what is the best (cheapest) way to get very large quantities of candies and chocolates for a sundae bar for 175 people? We're willing to spend money on delicious, but not on packaging. We are willing to ship stuff, but not to pay extravagant fees to do so. We are willing to buy at Costco, but it seems like cheaper should exist somewhere? Also, what are your favourite sundae toppings that you would be excited to see at a sundae bar? Also, if you have any tips about how we should lay it out in a cute way, please feel free to inspire us. thank you!

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Five years into my field aaaannd I don't think it's for me... help?A bit of a long story but background details always helps in narrowing down advice. During university I interned at X Company in the automotive industry for 3 summers, then upon graduation I was hired on. Worked their for three years full time, but coming up on the fourth year I was pretty much muscled out of there for a number of reasons. 1. Someone had to be thrown under the bus and of course it's always the person at the bottom of the totem pole. 2. The company is super antiquated and many colleagues and mentors jumped ship and had warned me to do so too... so I did. During my time there I worked in international marketing, really a point person for all international teams to us as a resource and help roll out tools to team. Really had a high level point of view and had a variety of tasks to do day in and day out. So I was a jack of all trades and a master of none. Immediately as I started looking for a new job and was hired on at Company Y doing a snippet of what I used to do at my last company, event planning. Company Y is a totally different industry, the structure of their company hierarchy is totally different, their corporate culture is completely different. At first I was having a really hard time accepting all of this but as I continue to work here I've come to realize that its not just the company that is hard for me to deal with, it's the job. I'm in over my head. It's too demanding and too stressful and no one has patience with me. My boss and I do the same work and she does 4 times the amount of events I do. She really doesn't have patience with me. I've always been an overachiever but this whole company is made of over-overachievers that just want to make others feel inferior. I feel really lost and on top of that now I feel like I am under qualified for everything. I was hating myself, really beating myself up because I feel like I am underperforming though I am trying really hard and now I'm starting to really hate this job and I don't want to think like that. It's ruining my mental health. I've started to look for a new job in a new company and I am scared I am under qualified for everything now and that ultimately I will have the same experience I have now, everywhere. So hive, can you give me some tips? Have you been in a position like this? What did you do? Should I change fields? Career path? I just need some help. I've tried to look for mentors here at Company Y and professional organizations I participate outside of work but I can't find anyone. I do still plan on going back to school next year but with a wedding coming up I need to save money and such before I go back full-time. So last bit, some facts: -Yes I love marketing, but I feel like I have LOTS to learn. The end goal was to do strategic marketing but I am really doubting I can do it now. -My strengths lie in presentation-giving, public speaking, teaching, coming up with ideas, problem solving. I have considered going more into account management but I have no idea where to start with that. -Plan was to go back for my MBA.

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