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I want to do a découpage program with cut-up comic books at my library. Where should I look in Brooklyn or Manhattan for cheap used comics, and are there other sources I should be looking at? Is it worth it to get a random lot from eBay?I'll be using some damaged library discards, but I doubt I'll get enough in the next couple of weeks to get as much source material as I'd like. Is there any better value than getting a random lot off eBay? I don't necessarily want the most comics-pages-per-dollar; I'd rather get 10 Avengers/Spider-Man/Superman/Batman comics than 30 random obscure titles. (I'm all set for manga, probably -- Book-Off has a lot for $1.) I'd like to keep the total cost under $20.

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I received an unexpected $700. I want to use for super frivolous spending, and buy something that I wouldn't purchase within my normal budget. What should it be?Things I've considered: Hot air balloon ride (seems too far away to get to), iPad or Apple Watch (but I don't know why I necessarily need one if I have an iPhone already?), ridiculous formal dress (seems like bad price-per-use, but could be fun), some sort of crazy bicycling stuff. Other possibly relevant details: I live in DC right now. I'm visiting NYC for a day next week. My top hobbies are food and bicycling and travel. Other expensive things I've been into are scotch and wine, useful gadgets, newly released books (hardcovers! they are pricey!). I don't need furniture, and don't have time for fun classes right now. To get normal AskMe stuff out of the way: I have no credit card debt, I save money responsibly, I have a travel budget which I take advantage of, and I'm comfortable with the rate at which I'm paying off my student loans. And I am sure that I want to buy something very nice (or pay for some sort of fun experience) rather than saving/donating.

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My (current) boyfriend (fiancé!) proposed to me very recently and we've been letting our family and friends know at our own pace. I'm very fond of my ex-boyfriend and I want him to find out in the least weird or awkward way. What is that?To clarify, there's absolutely no "wish we were still dating" on my side, I can't speak for his, but I'd confidently guess it's the same. We broke up 18 months ago and it was very civil, we said we'd stay friends and actually managed it. We're not exactly close, but we speak more or less regularly and it's not weird or painful, it's nice and friendly. However, I do miss him (loooong relationship, long time to heal I guess) in non-romantic ways, and I'd guess that's mutual to a degree as well. Put it this way, if I was in a non-engaged way (as he is, although he's been dating someone for a while so I hear) and heard he was set to get hitched, there'd still be a pang. So how do I let him know in the most kind way possible? If you were him, how would you want to find out? Face-to-face (this is a rare thing for us but if it's right it's right), or by phone, or shit, through the grapevine so he doesn't have to process it there and then? I don't know. Help me, dear friends. for anyone who's worried, my dear beau is completely fine with whatever I choose to do, he's awesome like that

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I work at a small music school where we hold raffles at fairs for a big giveaway. We pick the winner fairly and proceed to contact others who participated by offering a free lesson. I'd like to contact non winners only after the winner has claimed their prize but it was suggested to contact everyone regardless if the winner claims prize. What's the best protocol when dealing with raffle giveaways?

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Thanks to an ordering snafu we're now the proud owners of a giant one-pound bag of gochugaru Korean red chili flakes instead of the small container we thought we were getting. What can we do with it beyond kimchi? I found a couple of interesting looking recipes on Google but I'd rather hear from MeFites because y'all are good at this kind of stuff. Assume no dietary restrictions, a high level of cooking skill, adventurous palates, and access to pretty much any additional ingredients. So. Much. Gochugaru.

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When did people start saying "a training" to mean "a training session/workshop/meeting/program/etc"? What dialect of English did training-as-a-noun originate in? How did it spread?

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Have you ever had your nose "packed" due to a nosebleed? How long did they leave the packing in? While the packing was in, did you have pain that was not manageable with Tylenol? What restrictions did you have after removal? (Could you have, for example, driven yourself home? How about driven a car for three hours?)

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I had an unexpectedly emotionally intimate experience with someone impossible about a month ago, and I can't seem to move past it. Help me process the aftermath?He lives across the country, and will continue to do so for years; he happened to be in town traveling. I'm locked into my life where I am. It's never going to be more than it was. We spent three days in bed. We were both surprised by the unusual ease and instant comfort we felt together - a first for us both, and neither of us is that young. The most important thing about it was tenderness, a sense of closeness. I felt fundamentally and immediately accepted by him, cared for, fully myself, and I know he felt the same. It just felt like home. I need to get over it. It's a little hard for me, though. I've been alone for a long time, now, mostly happily. After I broke up with my ex, four years ago, I've been content with ONS and casual dating here and there. Anyway, I haven't felt anything even close to this in over a decade, and haven't expected to. I'm not such a snowflake that there aren't a lot of men I could probably get along with well enough, but I can't help feeling this thing was special. I walked around like I was kicked in the stomach for two full weeks after he left. (It's less bad now.) We're connected on FB (at his insistence; I didn't want to go there). No contact between us other than a brief and heartfelt exchange, which amounted to a goodbye, shortly after he left, with the implicit understanding that this was a time-limited and otherwise impossible thing. (It is, by the way, no question about that.) In all, I've tried to take it as a kind of gift. But I notice (and am irrationally hurt, just a little) when he makes a new female friend, or likes a photo of another woman. I'm also, now, weirdly, a little angry at him? I stay away from posting at all - not sure why - but find myself commenting on other male friends' posts; I think (this is such a sick and embarrassing thing for a grown woman to do) in a bid to make him feel a little jealous. Dumb. I know I should at least unfollow him, but there's a stupid part of me that hopes that maybe something could still come out of this. I don't know how that would happen - I haven't contacted him directly since that last exchange (which I'd ended - his turn, right?), and he hasn't reached out to me. I'm not posting anything at all, anyway. And, christ, playing at stupid Facebook as a way of establishing contact is ridiculous and flimsy ground for anything real. Dumb. So. All this made me think I should at least try to open myself up more to men in general. I did go on a date. Meh. Everyone is meh, the men of the past decade have been meh. The idea of taking on the task of deliberately finding a connection that will approximate this beautiful thing that fell from the sky is daunting. Especially because, as I said, I'm not a spring chicken. How can I deal with this? Why am I angry at him? Should I try to date right now, or give myself a bit of time? Should I try to communicate with him again? Ok, I know the only answer to that can be no, so how do I find the wherewithal to unfollow him? This was the best thing to happen to me in so long.

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Harry Beck's original London Underground Tube Map was a design classic. The latest Transport For London version... Not so much.

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At work they are giving us new laptops to replace battered ancient ones. There are two choices: MacBook Air or Lenovo X1 Carbon. Which should I choose?Work is an almost-all PC/Windows environment, but they are implementing a "Virtual Desktop" system for all users so they say that you can use a Mac seamlessly to log into the Windows environment and work from there. All of the applications and stuff that I need to use for work are on Windows. I use all Apple at home. Both laptops come with 256G SSD and 8G of RAM. For me, the "pros" of the Apple are longer battery life and better non-work applications. The "cons" are that if I am somewhere where I can't get into the Virtual Desktop system and need to work natively, I will need to use MacOS applications, which would be a little painful in terms of going back and forth between MacOS and Win apps. The "pros" of the Lenovo are no native/non-native problem, slightly bigger screen, kind of looks more "professional" than an Air in my line of work (this last point is very subjective of course). The "cons" are probably that the non-work apps are not as good/fun as the MacOS apps. Anything else I should be thinking about? Thanks

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The Official State Amphibian of Kansas is the Barred Tiger Salamander. The Official State Firearm of Arizona is the Colt Single-Action Army Revolver. The Official State Carnivorous Plant of North Carolina is the Venus Flytrap. The Official State Artifact of California is the Chipped Stone Bear. Some state symbols make perfect sense: the state fruit of Georgia is the peach, the state sport of Hawaii is surfing, the state flavor of Vermont is maple. But why does Delaware even HAVE an Official State Macroinvertebrate? What legislative peculiarity of process led to the designation of Alabama's Official State Musical Drama? Was everybody drunk on the day they voted for Texas's Official State Cooking Implement? Some state symbols are so consistent they are almost universal; nearly every state that has designated an Official State Dance has chosen the square dance for the honor. (Exceptions include Hawaii, which is obviously the hula, and North Carolina, which picked clogging.) Almost everyone's Official State Beverage is milk, though Indiana decided to grab for the brass ring of boring beverages and honor water, and Ohio saluted brunch-goers everywhere by selecting tomato juice. Last but not least: The Official State Declamation of Tennessee is "I AM TENNESSEE." Just in case you had doubts.

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Reviews are mixed. Because you watched Tortoises Try Tiny Pancakes, you might also enjoy: Tiny Hamster Eating Tiny Pancakes Tiny Tortoise Eating Tiny Pancakes Is The Cutest (the view-stealing re-upload) Miniature Space presents: Mini Food Pancake 食べれるミニチュア ホットケーキ Kawaii Cooking presents: Tiny pancakes (Edible)

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OK, I realise this is pretty niche, but I may get a surprise. Can you help me find more intense music played on the nyckelharpa?Some 15 years ago Swedish folk band Ranarim played in Uruguay and they opened with this song. My love affair with this instrument I later learned was called "nyckelharpa" had begun. Now that I have a real chance to get one and take lessons in the near future this love has been rekindled. I'm listening to a lot of music on the nyckelharpa but most of what I find with a very basic search of "nyckelharpa" on YouTube is very "midsommary" or just "classical music". I enjoy that too, but Ranarim had something... like a hint of darkness in their overall lightness. There's something I can't quite explain that made their music more intense, and I'd like to see that instrument performing in different moods. Do you know of other bands like Ranarim or other musicians that use a darker (from barely dark to nightmare fuel) register on the nyckelharpa? Either solo musicians and bands, European folklore or rock/pop/etc. are welcome. PS: I tried searching "nyckelharpa metal" on YouTube... The only hits were unfortunate.

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real chill situations: fair trade dog bed. tomato plants coming in real good. you can put the pinot in the creek to keep it cold.

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I recently saw a men's jacket in a photo on the Ebay home page and I am wondering if anybody can help identify it.Here is an screenshot of the jacket in question: http://imgur.com/yzH9ELU Thanks for any ideas!

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10 Studies Proving GMOs are Harmful? Not if Science Matters.

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I recently took some disability-related work accomodations and time off. This pissed off a coworker of mine, who doesn't think I should get accomodations for a disability she doesn't think is that serious. Since then, she's been treating me badly at work and taking passive-aggressive action against me. What do I do?It's hard to really explain what - let's call her Abby - has been doing - basically a lot of undermining and just plain hostile behavior and negative side sniping. There have been a couple meetings to talk about the tension where Abby has talked about her frustrations, so I'm not making assumptions on the reasons for the hostility. Abby's not passing on information or collaborating, which I could deal with, but she's also...kind of directing me to do work she doesn't want to do in precisely the way she would do it and then complaining to my boss if I don't. She's telling me not to bother with certain items of my work, and then doing them herself, which makes my own reports of what I'm doing look worse. She consistently cc's my boss and even our head Big Boss on emails to me, complaining of really minor matters. She's not my supervisor, but she acts as though she feels that since I have had disability accomodations, that I need to 'make it up' to the organization somehow. I'm worried to complain to my boss, because the last time we talked about the fact that Abby had issues with me, my boss said it was part of my job to get along with them. But I'm also worried Abby is making my job harder and increasing the likelihood of me getting fired by making me look bad. What do I do?

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I was burgled on Tuesday while I was away all day. There is a high likelihood one of my neighbors was involved, and it is a certainty that other neighbors saw what was happening and did nothing about it. I've filed the police report, called the credit agencies, I'm checking Craigslist. But psychologically I am a mess--mainly, I can't convince myself to leave the house and get on with my life.There are a lot things going on in my head. First, I keep ruminating about everything I did wrong. I forgot to set the alarm, which would have alerted the police as soon as they broke in. I don't have serial numbers for big ticket items; I don't even have photos. I feel like such an idiot for all that, on top of stressing about the time and cost of replacement of everything. Second, I feel deeply betrayed and unsafe because of the likely involvement of my neighbors. I live on a block of rowhouses in a busy, supposedly close-knit community. Everyone knows everyone else's business. Given the entry and exit points of the burglary, the time it must have took (they went through everything), and the time of day it happened it is a certainty that at least one of my neighbors saw what happened and did nothing (and continue to do nothing). Given the irregularity of my schedule it also means whomever did this was keeping an eye on me. I have been hearing my immediate next-door neighbors were involved, but it's rumors and I don't even have their names because the house is the sort of house where people are constantly coming and going. So while I passed the information along to the police I don't know if anything will come of it. I'm a newcomer to the block so it's hard to not feel like an unwelcome outsider in light of this. I'm trying to move on, but I'm reminded every time I open a drawer and find it half-empty, or go to look for the can opener or another toothbrush head or use my deodorant (they even took used deodorant) and the thing I need is missing. I need to finish cleaning up my place but whenever I start I can't stop dwelling on what happened. I also need to go to work and check pawn shops and get on with my life, but when I try to leave the house I feel sick. It happened during the day so it doesn't feel like any time of the day is safe. I'm having trouble sleeping. I know it's all just stuff, but when you don't have a lot of money it's hard to brush it off. I'm better off than I was a few years ago, but I'm still on a precipice and they pretty much took everything that qualified as a luxury to me: from stockpiles of toiletries, to not-drugstore eyeshadow palettes, to the nice cat carrier, to the not-so-nice bike that I made nicer by kitting out as a commuter. I can't just move, as I have six months left in the leas. Prior to this I loved living here--it's the best place I've ever lived. I want to get back to feeling comfortable. I am not usually one to "let the terrorists win" but this is really getting me down. Obviously I should do therapy or something but, as I said, I don't want to leave the house. If you've had experience with a burglary what did you do to get over it? How did you move on and keep living in the same spot?

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While I enjoy Chobanis and other greek-style yogurt cups, they're little sugar bombs. And plain is a little too plain for me. Recommend me a brand of yogurt that is less sweet (lower sugar but not artificially sweetened) and comes in single-serve cups.I've tried enjoying plain yogurt, but I just can't do plain Greek-style, it's too strong and sour (brands so far: Cabot and store brand - does Fage plain taste different?) I've tried Noosa (cherry flavor) and it was delicious - until I stirred the fruit up off the bottom and then it was way too sweet. The first bite, though, where the flavor had just leeched off the fruit into the rest of the tub - Amazing!! This was what inspired the question, actually. I'm imagining some kind of yogurt that is just barely fruited. I bought a tub of Indian plain yogurt for cooking with and found it almost palatable (can enjoy one spoonful but not two), but of course it comes in cooking-sized tubs not snack-packs. I know I could buy a big tub and then put a bit in little tupperwares to bring along for lunch, but that's not ideal. Find me a brand with single-serve cups! I generally buy fruit flavors, not vanilla or honey because the one time I had it (Dannon vanilla) it was sweet and kind of flavorless. Note, I'm not talking about low-sugar or reduced-calorie products that add other sweeteners until they're just as sweet. So the questions - is there a flavor I should be buying that is less sugary? (i.e. for what brands is vanilla a good less-sweet choice?) - is there a brand or style that makes a plain that comes out sweeter than Greek or American plain? - is there a brand that makes fruity yogurts with way less flavoring, or a fruity stir-up that's more like fruit puree and less like jam? (small-batch whole-foods stuff is fine so long as I can buy it in Massachusetts)

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The Trials of Hannah Arendt by Corey Robin [The Nation] There's a history to the conflict over Eichmann in Jerusalem, and like all such histories, the changes in how we read and argue about the book tell us as much about ourselves, and our shifting preoccupations and politics, as they do about Eichmann or Arendt. What has remained constant, however, is the wrath and the rage that Eichmann has aroused. Other books are read, reviled, cast off, passed on. Eichmann is different. Its errors and flaws, real and imagined, have not consigned it to the dustbin of history; they are perennially retrieved and held up as evidence of the book's viciousness and its author's vice. An "evil book," the Anti-Defamation League said upon its publication, and so it remains. Friends and enemies, defenders and detractors—all have compared Arendt and her book to a criminal in the dock, her critics to prosecutors set on conviction. Previously. Previously. Related: Who's On Trial, Eichmann or Arendt? by Seyla Benhabib [The New York Times] Hannah Arendt's challenge to Adolf Eichmann by Judith Butler [The Guardian] The Hannah Arendt Papers [Library of Congress]

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I've been through a lot of changes lately and one of them has been losing 40 lbs. I love beer and socializing. And another change is being more social and putting myself out there. But the combination of eating less and weighing less has put a dent in my ability to deal with alcohol. I end up slightly more drunk and a lot more hungover How do I continue to enjoy the things I love without it affecting me so much?So I want the beer with less effect. I like strong Belgians and would like to mitigate the effects of alcohol, both at the time of drinking and the next morning, when I usually work out. Its ok to feel buzzed, but as I get older, I am less enamored of it. The other problem is that I drink anything quickly, so my 1 beer, 1 water strategy isn't as effective. And lately, since I dumped my TV, I've had to go to bars to watch my beloved Blackhawks in the playoffs, which sometimes go into triple OT. I read once that Jim Koch of the Boston Brewing Company mixes active yeast in yogurt and that it helps. One teaspoon of yeast for every beer he will drink. But I see skepticism of the chemistry. Does this work? Are there any other techniques?

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via NYT: "Each year, we put out a call for college application essays about money, work and social class. This year, we picked seven -- about pizza, parental sacrifice, prep school students, discrimination and deprivation."

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Medieval Reactions to modern situations. [SLTwitter, some illustrations may be NSFW] Title Tweet. [NSFW] "Best of" roundups: Mirror, BuzzFeed, Comedy Central, Neatorama. Bonus: The Toast explores the middle ages.

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Eddie Van Halen describes early experiments with guitars, electronics, and home wiring in the quest for his famous tone. "I'm poking around, and all of a sudden I touch this huge blue thing and my God, it was like being punched in the chest by Mike Tyson."

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But as the city transformed into an exceedingly safe and exceedingly expensive place to live over the past two decades, it's not only the crime and the pervasive decay that have fallen away, but the close proximity, creating a social commute that echoes and exacerbates a work commute that, at more than six hours a week, is the longest in the nation. People have always traveled to see their friends, of course, but rarely has it been so frequent or far to qualify as a commute The Social Commute: How the Big Schlep Is Changing the Way New Yorkers Live

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