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I'm moving. Many of my SF books can go away permanently. Who where how?Some are hardback firsts. Some are signed. Some are golden age. Some are collectable (for some value of collectable). Is it worth my time and effort to sell them? Failing that, is there an organization that wants them all? My local libraries book sales/giveaways don't feel like the answer. Basically the underlying question is "are used books worth anything currently?" Or. While I probably won't give away my original Dune or Heinleins, who should get my complete Alan Dean Foster, Andre Norton, and Robert Sheckley collections? Thanks.

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I know YANML, but might someone know if there's a statute in Wisconsin law that defines the time period by which someone might declare abandonment by their contractor?in my previous question, we argued with the contractor who agreed that we were not obligated to pay him for his cost overruns, he agreed to eat the costs and he chalked it up to a learning experience. We had a few more phone calls and emails with him and then in mid-April, he went AWOL - not returning our phone calls, texts or emails. We recently sent him a registered letter, which he was not available to receive, nor has he picked it up from the Post Office. The construction is nearly done, there are a few things we need to hire to finish: such as exterior caulking/staining and regrading the driveway. Fortunately, the work he did perform was excellent, it's just not quite finished. There is a bit left from the construction loan to finish his unfinished work, which the bank and the title company have agreed to pay out to us to complete the work. We just want to know if we can consider ourselves abandoned by him.

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I have the opportunity to help a local medical clinic address their policies and procedures for working with transgender patients, specifically the use of proper names and pronouns. This work may extend into other areas related to treatment of trans patients as I might end up serving on their board. Can you provide some resources and links to help?What resources and references can I use to help demonstrate how this is more than an administrative issue, that it directly relates to providing a space for trans patients to feel like they can actually receive medical care without being humiliated? Are there any papers and work instructions for large institutions that I can use as a reference for how to deal sensitively with discrepancies between computer-based systems that "force" a single name identifier, and the need to use a preferred name? Anything along these lines would be helpful.

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I'm looking for a more exciting way to track my budget than the pen/paper/envelope method. But I hate Excel and Mint/YNAB/Quicken seem like overkill for what I'm looking for. What are the best options for tracking monthly expenses tese days?I have a good general handle on my expenses, but I'd like to bump up my monthly savings, so I want to track my discretionary spending a bit more closely. I'm not interested in fussing with my credit cards or setting up a super complex thing, and frankly the hardcore fervor around YNAB and Mint turns me off a bit. I really just want a simple interface: customizable cateories for expenses and maybe a pie chart and a little warning that will let me know when I only have $8 left to spend on Starbucks this month in a way that's more exciting than the tried-and-true actual envelope method. Any suggestions? So far, TheBirdy and PearBudget, recommended in a few posts from several years ago, seem like what I'm going for, so if anyone has any specific knowledge about those (or suggestions for how I can do this easily for free!) I'd love them.

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I live in Montreal and am taking a 1-year sabbatical in the United States (North Carolina). My car will be coming with me. Can I insure the car in NC without importing it into the US?The car was originally bought in the US, so it is compliant with US standards (e.g. odometer and speedometer in miles and MPH). It was imported into Canada a couple years ago and currently has Quebec plates. I will be moving to NC for 1 year and bringing my car with me, and want to make sure that it is properly insured. As far as I can see I have 3 options: 1) Import the car back into the US, register in NC and get insurance for 1 year (paying high rates because I technically don't have continuous coverage), then import it back into Canada in a year, paying fees both ways. 2) Keep it registered in Canada and insure with a Canadian company. This apparently is very complicated due to confusing Canadian insurance regulations. 3) Keep it registered in Canada and insure with a US company. I assume this is impossible. I would really like to avoid #1 as it is complicated and expensive. Are 2 or 3 possible? Is there an alternative that I have overlooked? Any suggestions welcome! Thanks in advance!

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Double Genocide: Lithuania wants to erase its ugly history of Nazi collaboration - by accusing Jewish partisans who fought the Germans of war crimes. "After Lithuanians got independence," he told me, "we hoped that Lithuania would give us help." But it was not to be. In one of its very first independent actions, before even fully breaking free of Moscow, Lithuania's parliament formally exonerated several Lithuanian nationalists who had collaborated in the Holocaust and had been convicted by Soviet military courts after the war. The right-wing paramilitaries who had carried out the mass murder of Lithuania's Jews were now hailed as national heroes on account of their anti-Soviet bona fides.

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Cesena is a small town up in northern Italy, that until yesterday was pretty-well unknown to the world. That changed this morning when a guy called Fabio Zaffagini presented to the Internet his year long-project of getting one thousand musicians to gather in a field and play Foo Fighter's Learn To Fly, with the sole objective of convincing the band to go and do a show in their town. You have to watch it.

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Fourteen days and 12,000 miles of storm-chasing result in one beautiful video.

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I haven't told him yet and feel like a liar. I haven't told him for a reason, but want to tell him now. How should I tell him and how much should I go into detail?I own a flat with my brother, in a nice part of London and feel very lucky and grateful. It was given to us by our grandparents two years ago as a security because our parents have been very unlucky with money and not spent it in the best of ways. My brother was given 50,000 pounds for university as he would be an international student, and my dad took it, spent it all and is now in serious debt, so my brother never went to university. My mum practically lives in a slum with no electricity or water. They used to be rich and spent their money unwisely various times even though my grandparents helped them with money more than once. My grandparents bought my brother and I the flat to protect us. I used to help my parents by giving them both money, thousands, even though I don't have a well paid job and just recently started my life in the working world. This past year I have grown immensely and realised that I am not responsible for my parents well being and have to look out for myself, so I have stopped giving them money and have been a lot happier and no longer am I depressed. I love my life now, but am scared of revealing details about my family who have not treated me very well. On our first date, my guy told me he bought a flat with a mortgage but I didn't tell him about my place. I instead lied and said I am renting at a very cheap rate, because I didn't want to go into the details of my family with someone I barely know, or have him think I am from a rich family when in fact I am not. We have been dating for a couple of months now and I feel closer to him. He says I am happy and optimistic (which I am) but have melancholic eyes, and so I told him a few details that I struggled with recently, also due to family, not mentioned here. I have to tell him I own the flat now, what should I tell him though? I hope he doesn't feel like I was keeping something from him, I feel bad for lying. We aren't exclusive yet but we do like each other quite a bit, however still a lot to learn from each other. Should I say I own the flat and wait to tell him why it was given to my brother and I if our relationship goes deeper, or shall I be open and tell him everything I've written here? He already knows various situations that were tough for me, and there are many more to come and I don't want to treat him like a therapist telling him all the difficult times I've had. I know that it is unwise to go into too many details at the beginning stages of dating as it could drive them away. If it doesn't work out with him, I am also looking at how to tell future men I date. I know I am deserving of love, but I am scared of not being loved if they find out about my family's burdens which are endless and depressing and just a big weight. But if I say I own a flat, they will think I am rich which is deceiving. Thank you in advance.

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Brooklyn Pizzeria Juliana's Named #1 In The United States

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Who is the greatest person who has ever lived? Those ranking by deaths prevented have put forth Norman Borlaug (over 1 billion), Viktor Zhdanov (300 million), Haber and Bosch (2.7 billion, but then there's the war crimes thing), and, of course, Stanislav Petrov (everyone). Lists of the most important people are often decided by popular vote, with Gutenberg, Einstein, and Darwin generally doing well, but don't count yourself out. More recently, as Cass Sunstein entertainingly covers, there have also been quantitative attempts to measure the most important person., including, most recently, a detailed algorithm by a computer science professor and a Google engineer that tells us that the most important people are, in order: Jesus, Napoleon, Shakespeare, and Muhammed. Smithsonian magazine commissioned them to come up with a special list of the most important Americans. You can also play a historical importance version of the who's hotter game using their algorithm.

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I need help making this card. It seems simple but I'm having trouble and I'm on a very tight deadline (tonight if possible).About 2 months ago my uncle started experiencing mobility and speech issues that landed him in the E.R. where they found that he had a large tumor in his brain. At this point there's nothing to be done and he's in hospice with a "very limited" timeframe left (months at most). I've agonized over it for like a day and have kind of exhausted myself and need to get it done ASAP (read: tonight after work). There will likely be some warning for when he starts going downhill (a few days to a week, they're fairly sure it will be a gradual but rapid decline in function) but still. It's really irresponsible to wait longer. He has very simple tastes but something personal would make him happier which is why I'm making the card. He has developmental issues and has generally had a really hard life but has always managed to be happy about it. He likes things like balloons and stuffed animals and is pretty happy just watching movies/tv. He's fully aware of what's happening/his situation though. I want to draw something and put a message in it. I'm not a great artist but I've got a very cartoony style which I know he'll like. I need something to say. The best I can do is 'thinking of you'. What to draw is my hardest part right now. It seems like something generic but still personal might be good? Like me offering a hug or something. I might get him some balloons/flowers too but the card is most important. Because of his situation he'd probably be happy with just about anything, or even just to know that I am thinking about him. So this might not even matter and if that's your opinion it'd be good to hear it. Anything'll help really. Thanks.

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The TrueEarnings American Express card from Costco will be discontinued next year. What is the best credit card for me to use instead? I use a card for several thousand dollars of business expenses per month. The balance is paid monthly. I want rewards that I can cash out, or points I can redeem, NOT a credit to my statement, which is what the rewards for the new 'SimplyCash' business credit card from AmEx would do.

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I've recently been looking into trading financial markets (e.g. forex, shares, etc.) However, my conclusion is that it takes a very long time and a lot of effort to do it right. I could put this effort if need be, but would prefer to focus on my career at this point. I had the thought that it would be nice to find someone who has achieved a degree of success in trading to manage an account for me (i.e. division of labor). But where would one find such a person?I know that there are fairly successful traders out there, and I would hope they would want to manage money for a fee. However, actually finding such a trader turns out to be a significantly difficult task. Almost all the investment options I've seen are long-only, buy and hold-type strategies with occasional tweaking, usually with stocks. However, I'd like to use a more niche/trading-like strategy. I would probably prefer an index fund if I wanted to go long-only stocks fully invested all the time. For this part of my portfolio, I'd like to go for something that's more absolute return. I wouldn't mind things like stop losses or going to cash if no trading opportunities are available. Although I've got a fairly significant investment base, unfortunately I'm not a sophisticated investor yet. Are there other options in this case besides taking a passive investing approach or just trading yourself?

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Looking for recipes and meal ideas for hosting (usually a couple of people) for dinner on weeknights with a bit of a wow factor. Prep around or under 1 hour, vegetarian, reasonable clean up time are all helpful!Currently my go-to recipes while hosting are this Curry from Serious Eats, and this Spicy Mac and Cheese from Pioneer Woman. But what happens when I want to invite someone over for a third time? I have 2 young children, so kid-friendly is an added bonus, but they are pretty good eaters so it's not too hard to please them. I'm looking for food that scales well for 4-6 adults, plus the kids. I usually have about an hour after work before guests arrive, but don't mind prepping in advance or chatting over the stock pot if needed. Again, we have a vegetarian household, but I willing to tweak recipes if needed. Dairy, eggs, and all that are okay!

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Along the same line as this post that inquires about bath houses in Los Angeles, I'm looking for a place to get clean in The City!This weekend I'm visiting a friend in SF who lives near the Ingleside/Oceanview area and I'm going to want to bathe on Sunday morning. I can't take a shower at his place. The aforementioned Kabuki seems pretty nice, but I'm wondering what other places the Hive Mind can suggest! It can be a bath spa like Kabuki or just a simple place where I can take a shower. My only requirement is that I need a place that can supply a towel. I'm certain that I can Uber/Lyft to pretty much anywhere in The City on a Sunday morning. Thank you! :)

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The Role of Writers in a STEM Obsessed Society "As writers, it's easy to think of how we matter to literature classrooms, but what the appointment of writers-in-residence in hospitals, history classrooms, foreign language learning spaces, and cooking schools reminds us is that we are relevant wherever there is humanity—which is to say, wherever humans are with their stories. Writing is healing. Writing is art. Writing is learning. As such, writing across the disciplines matters. Many models of artist residencies depend upon the retreat model, wherein the artist sequesters herself away with a small community of other artists. While these models have value, especially when considering how solitude relates to the creative process, it's heartening to me to see more models catch on that value the place of the writer in society, rather than hidden away from it."

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My friend needs to teach AP/IB Economics soon. He's already fairly familiar with many concepts, but it has been years since he's done economics and he can't do the calculations or explain finer points anymore. What online course would you suggest? It should start soon and (ideally) be able to be gone though at his own pace. It a course is not available, what resource would you recommend? Thanks!

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Since it folds in three dimensions, we could store all of the world's current data—everyone's photos, every Facebook status update, all of Wikipedia, everything—using less than an ounce of DNA. And, with its propensity to replicate given the right conditions, millions of copies of DNA can be made in the lab in just a few hours. Such favorable traits make DNA an ideal candidate for storing lots of informations, for a long time, in a small space. But how stable is DNA? The Reed-Solomon method, long used to error-check data transmission and duplication, is now being explored as an adjunct to the long-term archiving of information encoded in DNA. A post by Alex Riley at the PBS Science blog NOVA/NEXT.

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I'm now working near Navy Yard in Southeast DC, and the extended commute from Northern Virginia is wearing thin on me. Outside of the area immediately near my office, I know nothing about what's going on in Southeast DC and Maryland. What neighborhoods should I be looking at?I am a middle-aged queer professional used to commuting in from the burbs. I'm fine with driving. I currently pay $1,500 a month for a 1BR near Tyson's, and really love the up-and-coming feel of the neighborhood and access to the Beltway and I-66. There's lots of new construction within walking distance of my office, but it seems a bit pricey to me. My impression of most of the Green Line-accessible neighborhoods on the southeast side of town is that they're in a bit of a "pre-gentrification" stage.

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I'm a dev for a SaaS application. Usually we handle client payments completely outside the application (invoices). We now have a client that will allow their users to "buy" the service in discrete chunks on their own timeline. I'm doing my own research, but I wanted to get the advice of the Green about how best to accomplish this.I'm thinking it's just a matter of integrating something like "Google Checkout", or Paypal, where I send them the amount, they popup a window where the user can pay, and they send me (to the client or my server?) a confirmation of payment. We use Java on the back-end and a standard web front-end. Ideally the user wouldn't have to jump through too many hoops to pay (creating accounts on the payment system, etc...) We only need to support Credit Cards (not bitcoins, e-checks, etc...) The easier to implement the better (we're on a timeline) Lower transaction fees are better, but can be balanced by other factors.

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"When we use the phrase, what we seem to be trying to say is that there should be a lot of room for intelligent disagreement around aesthetics – and that we don't feel comfortable about asserting the superiority of any one style or approach over any other. It implies an acute sensitivity to conflict and a fear of being rude or mean to others. However, by resorting to the phrase, what we actually do is unleash a stranger and more reckless situation: what we're in effect stating is that nothing is ever really more beautiful – or uglier – than anything else. This suggestion then has a way of implying that the whole subject is essentially trivial. After all, we'd never say that truths about the economy or justice were in the eyes of beholders only. We know that big things are at stake here – and over time, we've come to positions about the right and wrong way of approaching these topics, and are ready to discuss and defend our ideas. We wouldn't ever say that 'the treatment of the poor is just a subject best left entirely to the eyes of beholders' or 'the best way to raise children is in the eyes of beholders,' or 'the future of the environment is in the eyes of beholders.' We accept that there are dangers to arguing in aggressive and unfruitful ways; but we are confident that there are sensible and polite ways to advance through these tricky yet vital debates. The same should feel true around beauty."

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My sister had a baby. My brother and I are giving her a larger-than-normal for our family chunk of cash for her birthday. Please help me write a card that doesn't make me sound superior, or her obligated.I'm worried that giving cash could send a lot of different messages, that I want to avoid. Such as: * we make more money than you * this is all the help you're going to get * you can expect similar gifts in the future * we think cash is an appropriate gift in lieu of xyz * we want to control how you use this * we expect you to reciprocate in any way * we think you complain about money The message i want to send is that we love her very much, we expect having a baby can bring up surprising, unexpected expenses, so we want to give a bit of cushion here and there. Here's the message I have written in my head. Please give me suggestions: Sister, brother, and daughter, When you need some time alone, some quick food, some emergency baby supplies, or a date night movie, you can use this cash. If it survives 18 years you can give it to daughter to pay for college or for a horse or something. We wanted to be generous as soon as possible, because you never know when stuff might happen. Best wishes - brother and brother.

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My little queer family is driving down to the Wilmington, NC area from the DC area and we are looking for tips for places to stop every few hours (small kids) that are also "safe" for a very visibly queer family.We will leave in the morning and will need to stop every few hours so the little ones can wiggle around, which they like to do these days. We are looking for driving/directions tips (I have found a few previous posts about this) but also I am hoping for some guidance around places that will be relatively safe for us to stop as a family that is not gender-conforming or heteronormative. Thank you!

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What is the most recent piece of instrumental music from a film score that the general public could immediately identify upon hearing, and why is it the theme from Jurassic Park? (many) Details inside!Okay, the last part of my question is a tad facetious, but hear me out. I've had an off again on again discussion with several folks about film scores, and discussing why it is that, as best as I can tell, there hasn't been a major motion picture released in 20 or more years that had as part of its score a 'theme' (if you will) that has become ingrained in the collective cultural conscience in the same way that films from years past have. I feel as though Jurassic Park may be the most recent one, and that came out in 1993. Why is that? Think about films from the last 20 years that might be candidates here. I'm willing to listen to arguments for perhaps the Harry Potter films or the Lord of the Rings trilogy. Maybe Titanic,Gladiator, or 'Duel of the Fates' from The Phantom Menace, but I just don't think any of those occupy our consciences in the same way than nearly anything from the years prior. I think you could potentially pick out dozens of films from the 60s, 70s, 80s, and early 90s, hum or play a few bars from its theme, and people would know it immediately. And sure, John Williams may be responsible for a large portion of such music, but your Batmans, Back to the Futures, Godfathers, etc. were created by a variety of other composers, so I don't think the 'Well it's just John Williams' syndrome applies here either. So again, why is this the case? Why hasn't there been a piece from a film score in the last 20 years that's achieved the same status as Jaws, or Indiana Jones, or Batman, or so on? Obviously John Williams continues to write for and score films, as do Alan Silvestri, Danny Elfman, and Hans Zimmer - but nothing's really caught fire. To be clear, I'm not talking about a song from a film - so things like 'My Heart Will Go On', or 'Get Happy', or 'Let It Go' don't count. Lastly, allow me to posit a potential answer just to give some additional food for thought: is it possible that the current state of film scores is because they don't 'sell' in the same way on digital storefronts (iTunes, say) and aren't as easily marketable as a single like 'Let It Go' is? In this day and age, is the attraction of getting a song out in front of a film as a way to market the movie and potentially make beau coups of money outside of ticket sales so enticing that a film's score takes a backseat, in a way, to generating a hit single? Again, I'm not arguing that there aren't good scores still being written or that they're not important, nor do I believe anyone is telling John Williams 'Hey, maybe don't create a super recognizable theme like you used to okay?', but the cynic in me feels like there may be some correlation here. So, wrapping up, I'd be curious to hear the Hive Mind's thoughts on this subject. Is there a simpler answer I'm overlooking? Maybe enough time just hasn't passed yet? Some detail that might unequivocally refute my argument? Is it just that the concept of 'themes' is dead?

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