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Pet Shop Boys - "Go West" video [YouTube] - more about the music video at Wikipedia. Previously: WANTED: MACHO MEN WITH MUSTACHES, Pet Shop Boys (tag)

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It's time for me to get hearing aids. It isn't age-related but genetic. I am still relatively young, and I'm concerned about discrimination professionally and socially. Please provide advice and reassurance.I'm in a unique transition period in life in that I'm in a training program for a completely new career and am currently not employed while in school. At the same time, I've moved to a new city and don't have a lot of friends, and am not dating anyone. When I re-enter the workforce and the socializing/dating scene, I will do so with hearing aids. I know that there are hearing aids that fit all the way into the ear canal and cannot be seen, but I have no idea if those would be appropriate for my loss. I'm female, with long hair, but I do like to pull my hair out of the way at times. If I'm wearing any type other than the ones that go all the way in, they'll be noticeable. I'm kind of a quirky person, and haven't lived a very conventional life and there are already a number of things about me that are a really bad fit for mainstream culture. I feel like this is going to be yet another difference. I am concerned that no matter how non-ableist people want to believe themselves to be, that there will be a quick, subconscious, kneejerk reaction of exclusion and I will be passed over, either in the workforce or by men to date. Being passed over is already a concern to me due to other characteristics (one of which is being female entering IT) and it always has been. I was bullied as a kid for not fitting in, and have experienced being scapegoated as an adult, or simply being left out. I'm trying to work on being more aware of the importance of small talk in the workplace, and smiling and eye contact. I am very introverted and have scored significantly on several online tests for Aspergers. I hesitate to self-diagnose, but regardless of actual autism, materials written to help Aspies with social skills have strongly resonated with me. What I'm getting at here is, it's not just one thing with me that makes me different, it's a whole bunch of things and hearing aids are just going to add to that. What I would really like to do is rock the hearing aids with complete confidence and no apologies for who I am. However, I've learned that just because I may be okay with who I am does not mean others will be. When I have failed to play the game, I have certainly been informed of that failure, usually not in a nice way. Mefites with hearing aids, have you experienced covert, or even overt, discrimination due to having them? Is it better to just hide them? What can I expect?

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How can I find lists of wealthy individuals in my local area?A few people have told me that there are companies who will sell you lists of rich people in your area so you can hit them up for donations, grants, etc. I am well aware that there are organizations that can pair you up with donors, foundations and grants, but what I'm looking for is more specific. I'm looking for lists of wealthy individuals, and I've been told that these are available from marketing companies and the like. I have tried googling all sorts of things, but I mostly get national/international lists, or newspaper articles featuring specific rich people. I tried searching Ask Mefi but the results are mostly just people looking for funding in general. For what it's worth, I'm looking for data in Sonoma County, CA.

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Has there been one besides the comic "Kill Shakespeare"?I was thinking about "shared cinematic universes," in the vein of the recent Marvel movies. Seems like we've got something similar for: - Grimm's fairy tales (Grimm) - Storybook characters/Disney films (Once Upon a Time) - Universal monsters (coming soon) - Star Wars (coming soon) And I was thinking about all the great characters and plots from Shakespeare. Could they all exist in one story, or a series of stories? I searched Google and came up with the graphic novel series Kill Shakespeare which pits (some of?) the "good" characters -- Othello, Juliet, Hamlet -- against the "bad" ones -- Iago, Richard III, Lady Macbeth. Is there any other example? There are lots of interesting plots and interactions I'd like to see. Putting all the women together would make for a fun conversation. It would also be cool to see how the magical characters interact: Puck, Macbeth's witches, Prospero. It might be difficult when it comes to the histories, as Richard II and Henry IV and Henry VI couldn't all be king of England at the same time. But the ancient stories could co-exist with the 16th-century plays, since they "really" take place in Shakespeare's Renaissance; does anyone picture the characters of A Midsummer Night's Dream in ancient Athenian clothes? Anyway, does such an idea exist outside of the one comic? And can you think of interesting encounters between Shakespeare characters, liberated from their own plays?

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I'm looking for a service like Shoeboxed or MakeSpace, where I can get several decade's worth of my parents' financial records scanned/indexed and then sent back to me to go into a regular storage unit. Extra snowflake information about sibling's information security paranoia.My father passed away several years ago and my mom (who has a hard time with letting go of stuff or just getting organized) has finally decided that she wants to move all of the financial records out of the house into storage. He kept track of everything and the paperwork probably covers 30-40 years' worth of finances. The Good News - Mom rented a storage facility to move these files. The Bad news - her financial planner has advised that she get these items scanned/indexed so that they can easily access records if needed. Additional Bad news is that one of my siblings (who is the oldest and super over conscientious estate executor) has declared that "we can just get a scanner." In their mind, we can just scan the stuff and save it to a flash drive - said sibling has a Ron Swanson level of paranoia about storing any information on hard drive or online. Besides not wanting to spend my scarce free time scanning old financial documents, I've done enough OCR/digital indexing projects when I worked as an archivist to know how complicated a task this is. Just because you scan something doesn't mean you can find what you're looking for (okay OCR to full text, but we're talking about Financial Institutions and specific dates for the indexing) My mother has agreed to let me do an end run, where I'd find a service to scan/index her files and we'd send them off in boxes with the understanding that we get them back and then put them into storage. Does this type of service exist? Ideally I'd like something like Shoeboxed where I could send them my files in boxes. Or MakeSpace except they'd be taking digital images and do a container list for each page sent to storage.

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from NYMag: When the notorious cancer doctor Gil Lederman cadged an autograph from a dying George Harrison, the world was appalled. But as Lederman scrambles to salvage his reputation, the very nature of his experimental practice has come under attack.

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I have a clothing brand and am going to have a pop-up store at local markets. Most sellers are semi-hippies who put up a tent, put out a rack and sell. I'd like the presentation to match my target market. (Successful masculine men who enjoy beach environments). I am looking for suggestions on where to find Interior/Architectural DesignersThink of a 10 x 10 stand designed to look like a Porsche. An impressive design that will stand out to men. It's important that I stand out amongst the rest of the sellers. Presentation is everything. I am looking for suggestions as to who can help with both the interior design and architectural design. This includes ways to present the line without racks, how to enclose the space in a way that it feels warm and inviting, and what can be done to get maximum use of space with the minimum amount of energy expended (ease of setting up and taking down, ease of storage, etc). I've posted at local art and architecture schools. I also had the idea of trading product to a professionals. What other options do I have and where can I look?

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"Wladimir (Put Put Putin)" is the surprise winner of this year's Protestsongcontest. The contest, organised by Rabenhof Theater in Vienna, Austria showcases Austrian songs about environmental, social and political issues. "Wladimir" is at turns silly (the "put put" refers to the sound a chicken makes), tasteless and gory. It shows a worrying lack of commitment for a protest song. To Rammelhof, Merkel, Obama and Putin are all examples of the same despicable trend: the anaemic society longing to submit to strong leadership. Currently its Youtube counter shows 464.418 hits - a lot of them out of the Ukraine. The band "Rammelhof" (they fell in love with the name of a real village with 168 inhabitants in Lower Austria - presumably because "Rammel" means "booger") was only founded last December and has eight songs in its repertoire. They have threatened to produce more protest songs after this success. Check out the performances of the other participants - the quality is mixed but you can get some idea of what's good and what isn't by looking at the chart near the end of the article; it shows you the results of the jury votes. Super close runner up"Wiener Blond" is definitely worth a look. Here's the video of their song "Kaana Waas Warum" ("Nobody Knows Why" - a song about the aimlessness of the current young generation in a tanking economy)

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I love love and I hate most love songs. I feel that real love is incredibly beautiful in it's complexity yet knowledge of it's frailty. I want songs that express this sentiment without being cynical.

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I am working on an Alternate Reality Game that I am using for teaching MBA students. The game starts with a character cracking under pressure and taking a sudden trip somewhere "exotic" (to a North American) - like the South Pacific or Nepal. As part of the game, I would like to send students a letter postmarked from the exotic local from the character. How do I make this happen?The contents would be a computer-printed letter, and I would be able to supply the US-based addresses of the recipients. Ideally, I would send the Word document and the addresses and someone would take care of the rest. Initially, this would only involve about 10 letters, but I might need as many as 90 letters sent in the fall. I am willing to pay for this, but not sure who to ask or how to make this happen.

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I am looking for three things here: Positive depictions of older men as objects of romantic interest, positive depictions of older women as objects of romantic interest and positive depictions of relationships with a significant age difference, especially in songs and movies, though other media are welcome.You don't have to read the backstory to answer the question, but the following several paragraphs is the short version: Because I was molested as a child, it tends to bother me if I am attracted to someone who is older than me or younger than me by more than a few months. The first three guys I slept with were all born the same summer as me and were all within about 10 weeks of my exact age. That includes the ex-husband, whom I was with for 20-22 years -- so the vast majority of the sex I have had has been with someone very close to my exact age. During my divorce, I had romantic relationships with men who were as much as ~17 years older or ~13 years younger and I did manage to put down a lot of my baggage, but not all of it. This is about how I feel about my own feelings, not about how men behave towards me. I do not bat an eyelash at an older man finding me attractive. A man has to be like 30 or 35 years older than me before I get all judge-y and start going "Dude, what is wrong with you? You are old enough to be my father!" I honestly don't see anything wrong with a man who is, say, up to 20 years older than me hitting on me. But I still feel like I am doing something vaguely skeevy to think something like "Hubba hubba, silver fox!" However, the past few days, I have been thinking about older men that I have found attractive in the past and I have concluded that I am usually attracted because they are just very well-mannered and do a better job of treating me like a whole human being. In a nutshell, the older men who turn my head do so because they have savoir faire, not because they have gray hair. So I would really like to be able to put down the rest of that baggage and just enjoy feeling like "Wow -- sexy older man over there! Woot!" In support of that process, I am looking for positive depictions of older men as objects of romantic interest (regardless of the age of the partner/admirer). Also, I will be 50 in June. Although I am somewhat thick-skinned about the general societal messages that a woman past age 40 might as well join a nunnery because no one will ever want her again, unfortunately, I am acquainted with a man who is really talented at hurting my feelings and screwing with my head and one of the uglier things he has done is make me feel really shitty about my age. In this case, my usual position of "assholes gonna asshole" is not working as an antidote. Just realizing that a snake has bitten me (and having the occasional cry about it) is failing to adequately draw the venom from the wound. So I am also wanting positive depictions of older women as objects of romantic interest (again, regardless of the age of the partner/admirer). Last, I am old enough that it should be innocent good clean fun in most cases for me to feel like a pretty young thing because a man is older than me and giving me the once over. But, also, really, if a man is, call it, 30 years old, he's a grown-assed man and should be able to decide for himself if he really wants to pursue a woman however-many-years his senior. It shouldn't leave me feeling vaguely like I am doing something bad and wrong to accept the attentions of someone younger than me, just because they are younger. So I would like to put down more of that baggage too. Thus, I am also looking for positive depictions of relationships with a significant age difference, regardless of which person is older/younger, because this +/- 6 months emotional comfort zone is kind of on the narrow side. Some examples of things I like: The song "My Sharona" by The Knack . Sharona was 17, but I have seen an interview with her and I feel like her relationship to the 25 year old musician who wrote the tribute to her was not skeevy . The role Kim Basinger played in the movie "The Door in the Floor' in which having a relationship to a much younger man helps her move on from her kind of icky husband and their very dysfunctional marriage. Also, it depicts her as still looking good and as the one who was pursued and that they are basically both decent human being who are nice to each other (unlike, say, the song "Maggie May" by Rod Stewart which paints a picture of a neurotic older woman, desperate for attention and not all that pretty anymore, who goes after a younger man in a vain bid for validation and then is manipulative and toxic to him). Also, in "Waking Ned Devine," there is a really short scene in which a very pretty young woman admits that the recently deceased Ned Devine, who was quite old, was the father of her small child and that she slept with him because he just treated her so much better than most of the men who hit on her. It's really short and just a conversation, but it is something I really appreciated about the movie. Plus, I really liked the movie "Six Days, Seven Nights." (But, then, I think Harrison Ford is hot anyway.) Thank you!

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Reading this thread made me realize that I am completely unaware of the current state of SF/F. Who are some female SF/F authors from the last 15 years that you would recommend?I LOVE Melissa Scott and Sheri Tepper- I have both their entire works on my shelf, mostly in battered paperbacks. I have Ancillary Justice by Ann Leckie but haven't read it, although I'm excited to. Favorite authors are JG Ballard, Samuel Delany, Moorcock, Iain M Banks, Melissa Scott and Sheri Tepper. Aone of them are really current, although Delany and Banks and Tepper have released some of my favorite books of the past decade. Thanks!

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Now, never ask me about Wes Anderson again. Please. -Tony

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I have a small, one bedroom flat in London with no access to gas. I want to replace the existing (quite old) storage heater with something more efficient and effective. Which storage heater to choose? Would you have any hints, advice, comments? What should I consider when buying one? Have you got any positive experience with any modern electric storage heaters?At the moment I am reading about "Fischer Electric Storage Heaters", "THERMOSTORE 58" and Dimplex. But have no idea which one to choose. Have absolutely no experience with storage heaters. Appreciate any help!

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I'm no stranger to blow jobs, and I'm not bad at them by far, but I still want to know: what is the move that blows you/your partner's mind out of the water?

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So I have what must be a fairly common name, and I get mail for other people with my name fairly regularly because I got lucky and landed "firstname.lastname@gmail.com" a long time ago. This is usually not a big deal, but today I got a subscription confirmation email from a porn site that one of the other people with my name probably signed up for. Anybody have any idea what the etiquette here is, and how to maybe avoid this kind of annoyance in the future?I've been in touch previously with at least one person with my name and a very similar email address, and I don't think it's for them (their issue was mostly people forgetting they had a "d" in between their first name and last name in their email address). However, at least one of the people who share my name is really bad about remembering whatever their actual email address is. I still regularly get emails from people regarding social plans, a ton of emails from a car dealership where one of my name doppelgängers either signed up for a mailing list or bought a car (or both), and other similar junk. This person doesn't seem to know that they're using the wrong address when they give people their email or sign up for mailing lists (and now porn sites!). Should I just trash the subscription confirmation? It has a link in it to a page on their site that I would assume has some sensitive information (credit card for payment, etc.). Does this happen frequently to anyone else, and if so, what if anything is there to do about it? It's getting increasingly frustrating, and if this person is going to keep buying stuff and using the wrong email address, I'd like to figure out a way to avoid this kind of annoyance in the future.

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I'm thinking about going to law school... but there are special circumstances: public school and evening program. And federal civil service...I work in a legal-related federal government civil service job (though not as a paralegal) with a lot of security and not much more than 40 hours a week of work (no mandatory overtime.) I can't advance in my current job title but would need a promotion to another title. I have tenure, but a graduate degree would widen my career prospects substantially. With a law degree I would qualify for quite a few federal jobs on education alone that would be promotions from my current position and would have the advantage of civil service status in applying, though I don't have veteran status. I make about $60k/year and while I'll get step increases every other year, I don't have much potential for salary growth without a promotion. CUNY School of Law has announced that they're starting a part-time evening program and I'd qualify for in state tuition. I'd be able to keep my current job, substantially reducing the opportunity cost of going to law school. I'm aware that CUNY School of Law doesn't have the best reputation... but Fordham evening is insanely expensive and I don't think my undergrad qualifications (3.25 overall GPA and 3.7 major [philosophy] GPA ) at a US News top 50 University are good enough to get me a fellowship at a top law school. I am interested in law... I was thinking of going to law school in college before other things intervened and my interest has continued. I was also thinking of going to law school about five years ago, but didn't because the law market crashed and I didn't have a local public evening option then (or civil service tenure yet and still had career growth potential.) I have about 15k in undergrad loans still, which are managable on my current income and I'd potentially be eligible for public service loan repayment if I stayed in federal work... though I'm open to moving to the private sector. I'm not interested in the big law 80+ hour a week thing. Apologies that this is somewhat disjointed. You can ask questions of me if needed at lawschool@penguins.33mail.com.

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I have to choose between two librarian positions soon, and could use others' advice and experience. I have been an academic librarian for a number of years, married to an academic, and we have both received offers from the same two universities. This is great, because we get to finally live together full-time. But, the two librarian jobs and universities are quite different.Job One is a tenure-track librarian position at a large university. The area is nice, and my wife already has a condo in the city. The assigned subject areas are in line with my educational background, potential colleagues seem interesting and intelligent, and there is a very clear path to promotion/tenure. It appears to be a very supportive environment to someone starting out on this path. Salary is about what I make now, in a city with lower cost of living. The downside to this job as I see it: I have never imagined myself in a traditional academic librarian position, and am not attracted to the idea of researching and publishing in the library field. The job would include traditional professorial tasks (committees, publishing, speaking, etc.). These are all things with which I have little experience, and I am not sure I would enjoy any of them. That being said, it is possible that researching and more actively participating in the library field would be something I enjoy. Job Two is an untenured librarian position in the user experience department at a smaller university. It would use my background in a different way and I would be able to establish policy, work on catalog and website redesign and work with different populations that use the library. It would use my tech skills and other interests in a way I don't see Job One as being flexible enough to fulfill. Also, it is a smaller university and department, and that is the type of workplace at which I have the most experience. Potential downsides: I don't have experience in UX librarianship. There is not a clear path to promotion, and the pay is a little less than what I currently make. (My wife's salary would be higher, so our total take-home pay would still increase dramatically.) I wasn't able to meet any potential colleagues while we visited, and workplace politics are an unknown. The first job feels like a huge opportunity, and I'm feeling a bit guilty that I'm not more excited about it. There are so many people out there that would be overjoyed to receive this offer. The second job seems more exciting to me on the surface, but may prove less fulfilling/challenging over time. Both will involve my moving to another part of the US. I have some extended family in both cities, so we will not be isolated either way. Other considerations: My spouse has made it abundantly clear that this is my decision, as her career will flourish wherever we go. That being said, I cannot help but consider her professional aspirations. Her department at Job Two's institution is of a lower ranking; professionally, it would be a step down. But, life at Job Two University would be comfortable and we would be able to save more money each year to retire in a more desirable area. Hopefully some of you academic librarian types are willing to share experiences or point me to resources I have not yet found on my own (I've read blog posts on librarians leaving TT jobs, and librarians defending TT) -- experiences, thoughts, other considerations when mulling over big career decisions? Are we missing something? Can someone lend me a magic 8 ball? Thanks ahead of time. Throwaway: totenureornot@gmail.com

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I just found mold all over my luggage and need to replace it - grrr. Help me find a mold-free replacement. I've resolved the issue regarding mold for now, but mold could happen again and I'd like to find some luggage that I could toss in the laundry and clean if mold returns to the storage area. Things like rolling bags won't work (can't stick them in the washer) and leather bags (though lovely) won't work because they are harder to clean. Not afraid to go fancy, if I can clean them easily. Help me add more baggage to my life!

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I just read this comment, and thought this was AWESOME. But unfortunately, it kinda doesn't work. Does your city have an app (iOS preferable, but I can always get a cheap android phone to check it out), that has an AWESOME app for mass transit? Whats the app? "Real time tracker" is what I'm looking for (i think). It need not be awesome in terms of fonts, design, etc. I kinda just want it to be more than a list of schedules. A friend and I have a dispute resolution process for really important arguments ("No, I'm pretty sure le petit wayne has crazier sex than drake", "there is nothing harder in the world than a brick", "If you weren't jewish, and I wasn't muslim, I'm pretty sure I could eat way more pork than you", "i bet we would have been way more popular with the ladies if we drank as undergrads", "'ashes to ashes' by tears for fears is way better than by david bowie", "there is nothing wrong with listening to one song on repeat for 6 hours", "i bet if i was genghis khan, I'd have more kids than if you were genghis khan"). It involves some random number generator or die roll. So if we were arguing over say..."who would have been the 1976 strongest man of the year if we were alive?", I would give my arguments, he, his. We'd argue about it for a while. Then we would go and pick a random number from 1-6 each. Someone would roll a die. If my number came up first, then I would automatically be accepted as "the 1976 strongest man of the year". I think a better way to resolve these important disputes would be by seeing who can be closer to what time a bus ends up at a certain place. Or if its on time, or something like that. It would be pretty rad to have these things based that rather than rolling a die. So please hook us up with some awesome public transport apps that would help us out here. Sincerely, The best friend Tesla never had

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A radical plan for transplanting a head onto someone else's body is set to be announced. But is such ethically sensitive surgery even feasible? (SLNewScientist)

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"We don't want them to see diversity as a burden or a moral obligation. We want them to see it as a business imperative." UCLA's Bunche Center for African American Studies has released its 2015 Hollywood Diversity Report: Flipping The Script [PDF]. The Hollywood Reporter has the exclusive story (with lots of sidebars.)

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Looking for suggestions for lingerie stores that offer expert bra fittings in the San Francisco Bay Area, preferably on the Peninsula. Thanks.

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I'll be in Austin in mid-March (for SXSW). What places, shops, and things should I check out?Things I like: electronic music (with an emphasis on ambient, dub, techno, experimental stuff); art and design from the modernist era to the present; eating/cooking/exploring food (I'm pretty open-minded and adventurous, but I don't eat pork or beef, and I'm not really looking for a "fine dining" experience); video games; whisk(e)y and cocktails; cats; underground / counterculture art scenes; great independent businesses of all stripes; maker / hacker type stuff; gothy / Victorian / darkly antique things (not the "goth scene", but actual historical stuff that relates to the culture and aesthetics of death, and to the gloomier aspects of life). My hotel is near the intersection of I-35 and Highway 290. So where are the arcades, eateries, art galleries, curiosity shops, atmospheric old cemeteries, hackerspaces, cool hole-in-the-wall techno clubs, etc. that I should check out?

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I recently heard the Kronos Quartet play this piece ("The Beatitudes", Vladimir Martynov) live as their encore to a concert, and I was absolutely floored by it. Shaken and opened and all of the things that wonderful music does. If I liked this, what else will I like?My knowledge of modern classical music (is that even what you call it?) is not completely zero, but is scattered and haphazard, mostly consisting of bits and pieces that have entered my awareness through my involvement with dance. Other things I also love that vaguely remind me of this piece which may help your suggestions: minimalist Arvo Part, this Sigur Roos track, almost everything Olafur Arnalds has ever made, and Robert Moran's "Music from the Towers of the Moon". What else should I listen to? Looking for suggestions of specific pieces, but also composers, "genres", keywords, etc. Help me fill my brain and soul with things of pure beauty!

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