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I have a spare ticket from Seattle to Barcelona and know literally nobody who is willing to buy it. Airline won't refund me, so where can I sell this thing?I bought a pair of tickets for myself and a friend to Barcelona as a gift, but there have been...complications preventing him from joining me. One of those complications is that he's broke, and I would feel gross charging him for an intended gift anyway. I would prefer to not eat the $1100 round trip ticket to a vacation I'm now taking alone, but it seems creepy to sell a ticket on Craigslist or ebay and Ryanair only refunds taxes and fees unless the ticketholder is basically dead or dying. Is there some website or somewhere to sell flight tickets that I'm missing?

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Dungeons and Doggos! A brand new web comic about puppers playing tabletop rpg. The very first comic posted on June 30, 2017: "There is an ogre sleeping in the room. What do you do?" (via Tor.com)

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Since finding out about the concept of anomie (by Emile Durkheim), I have increasingly felt this applies to me. Anomie refers to basically lacking a sense of meaning in society - a sense that since there are so many ways of looking at the world, none of them are truly right or wrong. How can I go about remedying this?I'm looking for anecdotal evidence for how people figured out how to battle this feeling. I guess the fun-house feeling of modern society, coupled with the fact of constant, massive & unjustified suffering all over the globe, sort of do make life absurd. So amidst it all, how do people figure out what matters to them? Sorry if this question is little vague but still any specific pointers would be appreciated!

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You might disagree with how we approached it. You don't have to agree. You just have to understand why we approached it that way. The brief transition period between the elections and the arrival of the new administration is always a chaotic time. Outgoing staff tries to bring the incoming team up to date on the pressing issues, the looming crises, and the loose ends. But what if the new arrivals simply don't care?

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I'll be around this area during the day but will need to take time out for a conference call. Can anyone suggest a reasonably quiet place to do this but where it wouldn't be rude for me to have a call? I'm thinking of coffee shops or similar, but any suggestion is welcome. Many thanks in advance!

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Looking for delicious high protein ice cream recipe (for home 2qt ice cream machine). I have a friend in chemo who is losing weight at a terrifying pace. I've made ice cream a couple of times & it's a hit. I don't mess around,only the most delicious recipes from cooks illustrated, david levovitz, etc. everything high protein recipe I found on google appeared to sacrifice flavor. Not what I'm after.I'm thinking I could add some protein powder, or I'm open to high protein (& delicious) recipes that get protein from other sources. I don't really want to hear that protein won't help. This is moral support. This person is an athlete and cares about protein. Any recommendations for recipes that can accommodate protein powder? How much? No need to sacrifice fat, sugar, or flavor. Anyone who's been through chemo (as patient or supporter) have any tips? Thanks!

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I want to try to replicate this type of stitch, but unsure what kind it is!I have basic needlepoint skills, but I was hoping to try out this stitch. It's of a supernova, and here is the backstory, if you're interested. Specifically, I'm talking about each individual square. I'm looking for the name of this particular stitch, or if there is a site online that could teach me how to replicate it. I found this list, but I'm just not sure!

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On a shelf behind the bar was a small, green plastic elephant. It belonged to a local called Sedge. Whenever he had a pint, he'd drop the elephant into it. It was called the Sedgephant. This is not a good anecdote, but it is the sort of thing that happens in pubs. - Phil Savage from PC Gamer reviews a pub. A pub in the game Everybody's Gone To The Rapture.

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I am pulling out the insulation in the attic of my house and I have found seven men's shoes in the paper fluff insulation. (I assume that I'll find at least one more...) They are smooshed and dry, but I was just wondering if I should offer them on craigslist, try to make a million dollars on them on ebay, or trash them.They are probably garbage, but they're 100+ years old (the newspapers and receipts I've found in there are all from 1909) and they seem somewhat inherently valuable for that reason. Also, if anyone knows why there are so many shoes under the floorboards of my attic, do share. Thanks.

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"This July marks the 50th anniversary of the civil disturbance and unrest that erupted in Detroit. [...] As we planned our coverage, we wondered: What would it have been like to witness the summer of '67 with the tools and technologies of today?" As part of its anniversary coverage, on July 23 the Detroit Free Press began posting news reports from the time along with current-day perspective via three social media accounts: Detroit1967 (Facebook), @Detroit_1967 (Twitter), and @Detroit_1967 (Instagram), while the Detroit Historical Society has collected over 400 stories from Metro Detroit residents as part of its Detroit 1967 Oral and Written History Project. [Note: some of the Detroit Free Press links may contain autoplaying content.]

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Hi all, I'm looking at Discourse and wanting to see if there is some relatively easy to get a board running without paying for assistance.I think Discourse has the potential to be a very useful tool for internal communications and possibly end up replacing an outmoded listserv as well. I don't have a budget for this so I'm not able to pony up $99 for installation assistance. I think there are probably Bitnami or VMware virtual machines that contain Discourse available. While I have technical skills, put me on the command line and it gets ugly real quick. Is there a reasonably easy way to get a Discourse board up and running? I would pay a hosting fee if need be to make this more technically feasible or easier to do. My thought is if I can point people in my company at this board, its utility would become apparent, then I could point a DNS name at it and make it official. So, Discourse would initially be a test bed set up. Thanks for any tips or resources I could use to get this accomplished.

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I can only communicate through typing or writing. She can only communicate through speaking. Can this be reconciled?I can only communicate well through writing– text messages, facebook chat, email, whatever, I've grown up on the internet with forums and message boards, and never had many friends so 95% of my thinking has been done through my keyboard. My girlfriend of 6 1/2 years did not; she has trouble communicating through writing and she thinks best out loud, in the middle of a conversation. She relies on the back and forth, the sparring to get to an understanding. This has led to huge problems between us. I really have a difficult time doing that. I can't just say the first thing that comes to my mind. As soon as the first response comes to me, another thought comes and shoots it down. I don't want to say the wrong thing. This isn't an unfounded fear because I have said the wrong thing hundreds of times when I felt rushed and then there is a response that might be angry, or sad, or some other emotion that I feel I've caused because I did not perfectly express myself, because I know there was something I could have said that would have been a better thing to say. It takes me minutes to choose what to say and minutes more to gather up the courage to say it. I'm incredibly meek, passive, and she is the complete opposite. I am in therapy, I am on medication for depression and anxiety, I have improved a lot, but there is still this fundamental difference between us and I don't know how to deal with it. It seems that I'm the one in the wrong here; obviously it's not natural to not be able to express yourself verbally. I can't just say "this is me, deal with it, I'm going to embrace it". It really hurts our intimacy, and then its really difficult to talk about the lack of intimacy, because its such a vague problem, and there's so much inner judgment and every word she says feels like a judgment and its just a nightmare. How do I listen to the things she says without reacting? How can I listen to her (to me) fast-paced, heated style of back and forth without breaking down? How can I train myself to think faster and to trust my responses when I don't even know what I'm feeling 90% of the time? Thank you so much for any advice.

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My partner and I are trying to rent out our house. The tenants of the house next door have put up a sign in their window that I think is discouraging/will discourage people from renting our house. I don't know what to do about it.So, my partner and I are buying a new house and want to rent out our current house. The tenants of the other half of the duplex (i.e., our next door neighbors), who recently moved in, have a sign prominently displayed in their front window that says: Attention Burglars [Picture of a big gun] Please carry ID with you So we can notify Your next of kin I am very worried that this sign is going to scare off any prospective tenants, but I'm not sure what to do about it, and am afraid that if I ask them to take it down, they will react violently (all my interactions with them until now have been entirely pleasant, but they also have this horrible sign up in their window that is basically them threatening to kill people, so, you know). We are working with a property management company to find renters, if that's relevant. Also, I have never met the owner of the house next door, just the tenants (2 college-aged bros and their girlfriends and their three dogs). Also, this is the lowest-crime neighborhood in Philadelphia.

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My house is in Portland Oregon and in last winter the heating bills were crazy. I don't want to pay $200 plus a month to warm one person anymore. I have a mid-2000s electric furnace. I have the choice of installing a heat pump vs gas furnace. I have got a few estimates from contractors but still can't make a decision. I am mainly interested in the utilities savings of heat pump vs gas. Did you transition your heating from electric to heat or gas? How was the experience, did you notice significant energy savings? Maintenance cost differences?The advantage of heat pump from what I can see is that it has the versatility of cooling in summer. The disadvantage is that it still use electricity and I don't know if it will have significant savings over electric furnace to justify the installation cost (likely around $10k) The advantage of gas is that from what I heard natural gas is much cheaper here in Portland. Also I can install a gas stove which is a want. The initial installation cost is somewhat cheaper then heat pump, tempered by the need to connect my house to gas main. Also, I have already done a energy audit with a company and they didn't find any glaring problems with insulation of the house.

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I have a list of mostly household stuff that I want to offload onto my husband. Please, may I have some feedback on this list? Is it reasonable? Tips for discussing it with him?For context, I'm a SAHM of 2 under 2 (but actively working on career prospects). He works full-time at a physically demanding job (think landscaping/maintenance). Here's the list (bold are things he already does regularly & totally voluntarily, nonbold are things he doesn't do currently, or does randomly or only by request) ---------------------------- Take out trash (kitchen & diapers especially) whenever the bins are full Scan house for recycling on recycling days Take out trash and recycling on the proper days Bring in mail & packages Put clothes in a hamper if dirty, or fold & put away if clean Hang up towels in bathroom to dry and reuse if clean, or put in hamper if too dirty Give feedback on meals & help meal plan Make some meals Get toddler cleaned up & released after meals Help clean up & stash leftovers after meals Deal with car problems & maintenance (schedule appointments, take cars in, check fluids & tire pressure) Run errands Help out with kids at appointments Change some diapers Help with bathing kids Take toddler out to play in the yard a few times a week Feed cats once a day Help brush, pet, and play with cats Take care of thank yous & birthday presents etc for his side of the family Stay on top of own health & make any needed appointments Come up with & maintain own system for reminders, appointments, to dos, want-to-dos, etc ---------------------------- I included what he already does for context and to be fair. I'm probably forgetting a thing or two I'm sure. So my questions: 1. Is this a reasonable list or does it need changes or a different approach? 2. How do I bring it up without falling into that mom role ("here are your chores") or the manager role? 3. How do I acknowledge and express appreciation for his hard work without being condescending? I'm sorry if any part of this is super dumb and obvious... You guys are pretty amazing at this sort of thing, and I've definitely made progress in learning to communicate thanks to mefi, so TIA!

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How The Mummy did Sofia Boutella dirty

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We've talked about Justin Trudeau. We've talked about The West Wing Weekly. But have we talked about Justin Trudeau on The West Wing Weekly? [JT segment starts at 45:04] PS. Justin Trudeau is also in Rolling Stone this week.

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Help me expand on this menu for a taco party and think of awesome vegetarian options. Bonus round: suggest a visually impressive dessert.I am having a taco and lantern party in August for my 30th birthday. I am looking for some ideas of awesome vegetarian taco fillings. I am also looking for more interesting sides. I am also trying to think of a dessert that is visually impressive. I would especially love it if the dessert fit with the Mexican-ish menu, or used local seasonal fruit. I have considered a tres leches cake, or an assorted pie bar. I am also wondering how realistic it is to make and keep warm tortillas for ~20 people. Any tips, tricks, or trusted recipes would be greatly appreciated. Here's my menu so far: Melon and cilantro agua fresca assorted Mexican beers Jarritos Guacamole and chips Ceviche Homemade salsa (pineapple; watermelon and jicama, standard red, standard green) Fish tacos al pastor style with homemade corn tortillas Tacos carne asada with homemade flour tortillas Unknown vegetarian taco option Street corn Feta, mint, and watermelon salad Unknown dessert

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Does anyone have personal experience with Premier, Summit, or Hotpoint gas ranges? They don't seem to be reviewed by Sweethome or Consumer Reports.My gas range broke and I need a new one now. Premier, Hotpoint, and Summit seem to be the only brands making the height I'd prefer (under 41 inches) at a price under $1000. I'm wondering if these are decent manufacturers? I'm planning to do a full kitchen remodel at some point in the next 5 years, so I don't need this to last for all eternity or for it to be built for entertaining or advanced baked goods. I do need it to be reliable and not burn my building down. Thanks!

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Desperately seeking a digital asset management system for a small marketing department. Also, if you currently have a DAM or something like it, what does your workflow/taxonomy looks like? (Especially if you work at a college!)We're looking for a DAM, or DAM-like thing, so our 11-ish person marketing team can share and search for our digital assets (photos from photo shoots, brochures, eblasts, social graphics, flyers, etc.) more easily. We use a shared drive right now and it is just the pits. But there are a lot of options! And, frankly, we don't need anything fancy. The budget is tight right now, and what I'd REALLY like to avoid is over-paying for a DAM with all the bells and whistles where we only use like 10% of the features. So before I ran the gauntlet that is signing up for sales demos, I wanted to see if any wise and learned MeFites out there knew of any solutions that might fit the bill. Here's what we'd be looking for: Requirements: -#1 PRIORITY: Extremely easy to use and navigate. We've got some tech-shy folks in my department. -Not super expensive. -Cloud-based storage. -Tamper-resistant metadata/tags, because otherwise I will daily die of frustration when people start making up their own keywords all willy-nilly. -Accepts purchase orders. Yes, seriously. No, I don't like it either. Nice to haves: -A surplus of storage space. -Specifically geared for educational organizations, if such a thing exists. -Social sharing/integration capabilities. -Ability to make some fields required. ALSO! I am EXTREMELY interested in hearing about how other groups have set up/use their DAMs, because I've never really used one, and theory is always different from practice. I am excited to make a controlled vocabulary for tagging purposes (why yes, I am in library school, why do you ask?), but I'd like to see some real life use-cases before I get started. What does your workflow process look like? What does your folder structure look like? How do you add new content (folders by date, by subject, by type, etc.)? What types of tags do you use? Any pitfalls to avoid? Basically, I would like to avoid either over- or under-complicating things, especially since we may have multiple users adding content in. Thank you!

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I'm going on a week trip to Vancouver (2 nights) and Vancouver Island (5 nights) tomorrow with my partner and his family. We'll be in the car a bit I believe and it would be brilliant to have a few topical podcasts to download and listen to while we drive.We'd all be interested I suspect in hearing about the flora and fauna (particularly whales and bears), history, general society and the people who have lived there or live there now. All appreciate comedy too (even if it's nothing to do with the area, Canadian comedian recommendations would be welcome I reckon). Open to wider Canadian territory podcasts if you think they're particularly worth listening to as well. Equally if there's a local radio station we must tune into, please let me know. Tastes are wide and varied, everyone reasonably left/liberal politically . All music lovers but probably be better received if it skewed 'golden oldies'. We're all from the UK if that's pertinent.

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I've got about ten pounds of halibut that's been sitting in the freezer for quite a while--nearly two years! It's been frozen solid the whole time, so I'm not worried about safety, but I'm sure it's freezer-burned and well past it's peak. Looking for recipes that will make good use of it.I went on a fishing trip to Alaska a while ago and caught a huge halibut. I came home with a suitcase full of frozen fish. I gave a bunch away and ate delicious pan-fried halibut until I got sick of it. Then I forgot about the rest of it. Recently I re-discovered it and tried to pan fry some, but the results weren't great, so I'm looking for ways to use it that don't rely on the flavor and texture of the fish as much. Probably something like a highly spiced stew. I've got an oven, gas range, dutch oven, crockpot, rice cooker and all the standard kitchen gear (pots and pans, etc). I have no food allergies, or even food dislikes really. Strong preference for easy recipes with low prep time. Thank you!

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At long last: Good Burger: The Oral History.

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I love my Keen Owyhees. They're cool on hot days and I can throw them in the wash when they inevitably get odorous. I'm looking for something dressier, that can be worn without socks, that can either resist foot odor or are machine washable.

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I'm looking for a sewing pattern for a top/blouse I can make out of a lightweight woven cotton or linen. I have a pretty specific idea in mind: short-sleeved, pullover, boatneck or slightly rounded neckline, with gathered fabric above the bust where it meets the yoke. I've found a pattern that's pretty close but I would rather buy a Big 4 pattern if possible for reasons described inside.Reasons: 1. I'm a beginner/intermediate sewist and I've read that sometimes indie patterns require adjustments that may be beyond my skill set. 2. I'd rather have preprinted pattern pieces than fuss with printing and joining a PDF pattern, especially this one which is formatted for A4 paper and I'm in the U.S. 3. This pattern seems to have been designed as a maternity top; there are photos of not-pregnant women wearing the shirt and it looks lovely but I don't know if it incorporates more ease through the torso than I need. Has anyone seen a pattern like this, or has tips on finding one? (Keywords?) Or maybe you have used this specific pattern and can ease my concerns?

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