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I'm looking to buy some very specific bracelets (in bulk - say 100 bracelets). Cotton string, comes in various colours, with a rainbow thread wound around it. I'm in the UK.These are absolutely ubiquitous in Italy, especially in the summer - you can't throw a rock without hitting five street vendors hawking them. But I'm not in Italy and while I can find plenty of people selling them on Italian eBay, I'm unwilling to pay £5 for a set of 100 bracelets and then £20 shipping on top of that. Surely there must be somewhere online I can buy these that ships from the UK or otherwise doesn't charge me 4x the cost of the bracelets for shipping, but I have no idea what these would be called in the UK and the obvious direct-translation search terms are returning completely unrelated results. I want these specific ones. Help? (I cannot believe I'm wasting a question on this, but. Nostalgia.)

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I'm Poppy. In this video I'm going to talk about how happy I am. Kids react to Poppy. Poppy reacts to kids react to Poppy. Kids react to Poppy reacts to kids react to Poppy. I have such good news.

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I need to write Microsoft Word documents with tab characters in the text. Text files are so much easier to handle, and I've been grown accustomed to writing in markdown. Pandoc converts markdown to .docx very well--but converts all tabs to spaces! Is there anything I can do to write in a text file, then be able to convert to Word and back, while preserving the tab characters?In Pandoc, the "--preserve-tabs" option is close, butnot quite right, because that only preserves tabs when they are in code blocks. I've tried writing in CommonMark, and that keeps the tabs in the .docx files, but when converting back to .txt, replaces all tabs with spaces. Is there anything I can do? Thank you.

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My mom has a few months left and I'm going to visit her soon. She is a very difficult person and I cut my ties with her 4 years ago. My sister still cares deeply for my mom and I felt a lot of pressure from my sister to be nice and visit her. I stop talking to my sister now because she didn't want to talk to me when I'm upset. Some new insights into my situation or suggestion to improve my relationship with my sister is highly appreciated.Long story short. My mom was diagnosed with cancer about 8 years ago and now she only has a few months left. She is a very difficult person, i.e. verbally abusive, stubborn, irrational and worst of all, materialistic. I decided to cut all my ties with her 4 years ago and I have been living abroad away from home for 3 years now. Despite that, I still talk to her a few times a year on the phone or when I visit my family. My resentment towards her has increased a lot over the last few years because she is treating everybody like shit and I realized what an unhappy childhood I had. I was quite depressed the last few months because I lost my job and I was struggling to renew my permit. I'm really lucky that everything turned out well and I have a very good job now. I decided to visit my family for a week soon and I can imagine myself being very depressed during this period. My sister still cares deeply for my mom and I felt a lot of pressure from her to be nice to my mom and visit my mom. Any update about my mom upsets me because it reminds me of what a horrible person she is and I have to constantly remind my sister because she has a bad memory. My sister always make me feel guilty and selfish because I prioritize my own life and happiness. I don't think I can ever forgive my mom unless she acknowledge and appreciate my dad for taking care of her all these years (which even my sister think it's impossible until her last breath). I stop talking to my sister now because she didn't want to talk to me when I'm emotional or upset and she suggested that I should visit a psychiatrist. I don't feel the need to see a psychiatrist because I believe my anger and resentment will die with my mom. I've been wanting to write this post for a long time now but I'm not sure what exactly am I looking for. My mom has always been a very sensitive topic to me. I don't talk about it because she is a horrible person and I get a lot of pressure of being nice to her just because she is my mom. When I look back at my childhood, I realized it was an unhappy and unproductive one. I received little attention and love from my family (although I realized now that my dad truly love me in his own way). I have very few friends and activities outside of school. All I did was studying and preparing for exams. My mom groomed me to become the person she always wanted to be and live the life she always wanted to live, e.g. get a college degree, a job, a husband and a house. Getting a PhD is my life changer and it opens up the whole world to me. To me, she is as good as dead when she was diagnosed with cancer about 8 years ago. She gave up everything she enjoy doing and started pursuing materialistic goals. I think her biggest regret in life is not being able to buy more houses. During this period, my aunt had the same cancer and passed away within 1-2 years. It makes me realized that life is short and I should live my life to the fullest. Following my aunt's death, my mom created more family drama because she wanted my sister to inherit my aunt's apartment. She stopped talking to most of her siblings. Her relationship with my dad has always been very rocky. They lived separately for 1.5 years but eventually my mom had to move back because she was too sick to live alone. My dad has his flaws but he always take care of her eventhough she never appreciate him. He is having a caregiver burnout now and therefore, more reasons for me to go home. I decided I had enough of her and her drama when she forced me to sign a contract for a house she intended to buy and forced my dad to use his retirement fund to pay for part of the downpayment. We started talking again 3 years ago because I thought she has changed and she sounded like she really care about me. Not too long after, we got into another fight and I'm deeply hurt when she called me a prostitute. Who would call her own daughter a prostitute?! When she had a very bad infection in November and thought that she was going to die, I called her to ask how she was doing. When she found out that it was not a serious infection, she asked my sister to tell me not to call her anymore. At that point, I feel soooOOOoooo stupid that I even thought of seeing her and spending time with her. Now that she found out she only has a few months left, she called me to apologize for hurting my feelings. My initial reaction is anger. Does she even remember what she said to me in the past?! After she called me, I feel very sad maybe because I feel that she still doesn't care about me or my life. Now she is telling my sister that we bought a fruit tree together in my dad's hometown and she wishes to tell me that it is fruiting now. This never happen as far as I can remember and it really pisses me off because she was so rude and disrespectful to my uncles the last time we were there. I feel ashamed to admit that I'm looking forward to not having her in our lives anymore. I asked myself many times if I have any regret when that day finally come and the answer is always no (maybe it will be different when I become a mother in the future). I think I've done the best I can do so far.

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The scenario of the '71 movie The Andromeda Strain is marvelously illustrated. It uses sketches, diagrams, animations and multi-screen effects so as to better convey the complexity of the vision of Crichton's novel. The article gives backgroud to the scenario and includes a full copy.

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My tenant can suddenly no longer pay rent on the apartment I rent to him. This is not a temporary cash shortfall, and he is finding other housing. How can I navigate the end of this relationship in a humane way, while still making sure that I protect my family's interests? There are some complicating factors below.I have a condo in Washington DC that I have rented out to the same tenant for the past 4+ years. My tenant (Adam) has developmental delays and lives independently using an inheritance and by doing odd jobs around the neighborhood. While Adam signed the lease, most of my communication has been with his brother (Eric), who has power of attorney and was a trustee of Adam's inheritance. When Adam first started renting from me, his rent was paid by a lawyer from a trust. Two years ago, they let me know that the lawyer was untrustworthy, and that the rent would not be coming from his office anymore. I had no issues with this, and the rent continued to be paid promptly. I was not clear on if the trust was somehow dissolved, but it seems that it was. Over the past six months, Adam has had trouble paying his rent on time. Rent was generally coming about a month late after multiple reminders to both Adam and Eric. I didn't charge any late penalty, even though the lease allowed it, because up until this point Adam had been a very good, reliable tenant. Adam's lease was up in October, and he resigned for a year. I insisted that Adam set up an automatic payment at that time, which Eric told me he would help Adam to do. I have had increasing difficulty with on time payments even since then. Eric told me that he has not been able to get Adam to set up the auto payment, and he is two months behind. This morning, Eric called to tell me that he had to get police to do a welfare check on Adam, as he couldn't be reached. Apparently, though Adam won't confirm it, he gave his money to woman. All of his money that was meant to last the rest of his life. It certainly seems like he was taken advantage of in a callous and awful way, due to his developmental challenges and inability to make fully reasoned decisions. Eric told me that he will cover the two months' rent and that Adam will need to leave the apartment by March 1. This situation makes me so sad. I need advice about how to navigate the end of the lease. I want to be humane because Adam is a nice guy and has been a good tenant for most of the time that I've known him. However, he is leaving me in a tough situation, without any time to prepare the apartment and get a new tenant without a gap. Should I charge the lease break penalty (specified in the lease)? Should I find a way to give more time for Adam to find a new living situation, even though it would put a lot of financial pressure on me and my family? I know this is a business relationship, but the details of what happened to Adam make me heartsick. What would you do or recommend in this situation?

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So I'm finally at the point where all my usual coping and handling strategies for depression and anxiety don't work. I'm surprised I got all the way to 45 before that happened but there you go. Anyway I need to talk to someone. Maybe get medicated. And there's a crapload of life experience I'm gonna have to throw that shrink's way including childhood trauma. But having NO experience in mental health, I'm not exactly sure what I'm supposed to be looking for here. A psychiatrist? A psychologist? Specific talents or skills? I don't know what I don't know here. Is there some kind of decision tree someone's made up for this sort of thing?

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Joe is into Greg, who's secretly dating Nick. I am stuck in the middle of this triangle.We are all 20somethings who work for an organization that has regional meetings in the Bay Area. Nick and I live in San Francisco. Last year, we met Joe and Greg; we all became good friends. We did a group trip together and have a group text. When we first met, I didn't read anyone as gay or bi, though obviously that's meaningless. Nick and I were both dating women. Between the times we saw each other, Joe was harboring a huge crush on Greg. Joe also lives in the middle of nowhere and is pretty isolated. At the most recent meeting in November, Joe confessed his feelings to Greg. Greg rebuffed him, saying that there was someone else. Turns out that someone else was Nick. I found out when Nick and I were at a party, both drunk, and I made a lucky guess. Now I know, but Joe doesn't know. Our next regional meeting is coming up in a few weeks. Greg and Nick haven't told Joe that they're together. Joe is obsessing and heartbroken. I want to tell Joe about the relationship, because I think hiding it is bullshit, and I think the relationship will come out next time we're all together. But I also feel conflicted about outing them. I've told Greg and Nick to tell Joe, but they haven't. What's the right thing to do?

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yt-er kaptainkrisitan on Adapting the Unadaptable Watchmen.

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A good friend is having a birthday soon. I know that it would please him greatly to have his solid and long-standing interest in astrology recognised in the gift I give him. He's a property lawyer by day and his oft-derided interest plays an important role in his personal spiritual practice.This gift has to be physical, not digital. Not a print out of anything. Details: male, sun in Aries, moon in Libra, ascendant Sagittarius. Things that could work: * a physical object/tool that could let him model his regular planet movements; * a small sculpture, icon, old small print that could represent something meaningful within astrology for him. * an old, perhaps exquisite text that could have meaning for someone with his interests. Budget: @$200 Lead time: Just over 3 weeks, including delivery to Australia.

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Help me and my toddler prank my husband for April Fools Day.Since my son was born, we have been pranking my husband on April Fools Day. How does a baby prank an adult? Let's just say it involved diapers and baby food and leave it at that. Now that the whimsical lad is two, he can actually knowingly participate. But how? I'm asking way in advance, as I'm not against setting the stage weeks in advance for a good prank. Any suggestions for a mommy and me prank on good ol' dad that is in *good humor* (i.e. not mean)?

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It turns out the ongoing joke about the idiocy of Comic Sans is ableist.

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My timing belt/chain system needed replacing, but the mechanic is charging me for parts he installed while figuring this out. Am I liable for these or is it reasonable to ask him to uninstall them without a large increase in labor cost?A mechanic has been working on my 2006 Nissan Sentra for 2 weeks. He replaced the cam shaft sensor, crank shaft sensor and the ECM (computer). Finally he told me after all this it still wasn't running then came back and said the timing belt/chain system needed to be replaced because a tooth on the sprocket broke off. He is quoting me a total repair cost of $1200 ($500 labor and $700 parts) which seems unfair since from what i understood is that only the timing system needed replacing. Am I liable for all these other parts and labor during the diagnostic phase?

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The frameworks of liberal identity politics and "alt-right" white nationalism are proving curiously compatible. Jacobin's Shuja Haider explores the co-opting of progressive methods by the alt right.

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I've been a serious classic rock fan since before it was classic rock, and have always sought out lesser-known or more esoteric bands in the hopes of finding a hidden gem. Having been at it since I was teenager in the late 1980's, I thought by now I had heard of pretty much every band of the 1960s and 70s that was even the least bit successful or famous. Sparks had a #1 single in 1974, yet had never heard of them before a couple weeks ago. I've been listening to them a lot since then, and really like what I've heard so far. In fact, they kind of impress the hell out of me, which makes me wonder why they aren't better known. Please inform. gracias

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Are you bored staring at a blank wall all day? Stupid landlord won't let you hang pictures? Has life hidden your stud finder? It's okay, you don't need them anyway! Fall asleep beneath the disappointed gaze of this blue-eyed grey kitten. There's no way you *won't* lose weight with this fresh, hot pizza in a box placed strategically above your television. Nachos not for you? Enjoy your refined-palate lifestyle surrounded with locally-grown laughter and Pinterest-worthy paella decals . Still hungry? Not lactose intolerant? Jazz up your Wednesday dinner routine and impress your date with omnipresent cow's milk cheeses. And if that's not enough, you ungrateful monster, ruin your brain with this cloud of programming languages that may actually be used to create The Cloud OMG what is even real anymore.

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Are there any media representations of superhuman individuals where there is no built-in suspension of disbelief?It seems like in the (admittedly, limited) amount of superhero media I have consumed, there's no HOLY SHIT FREAKOUT when the existence of individuals who defy the laws of physics/gravity/reality is discovered. There may be real-life-ish consequences (mutant registrations, the aftermath of cleaning up after a superhero/villain fight), but there's no real "this individual goes against everything we have known about people since the beginning of time" and the crises that would necessarily follow from that. How would the the earthly adventures of Thor, a Norse god, affect the Roman Catholic church? Would scientists around the world have nervous breakdowns after learning that there exists a person who can actually fly? Would it be seen as a sign of the Apocalypse?

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I just got this Presto Multi-Cooker, intending to use it for frying small quantities of things, but I see it also claims to do SO MUCH MORE! So--- what are some awesome things I can make, now that I have this new toy?I was mainly planning to use to for, say, frying some tempura (since I cannot get decent tempura where I am, and sometimes the jones hits me) or maybe doing a batch of hot wings, but I've never had a cooking pot like this before, and am curious to know what else it might be able to do BETTER than, say, a crockpot or a regular boring old pot on the stove or in the oven. Do you have something like this, and what do you use it for? Thank you in advance for any ideas, recipes, suggestions!

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This question is about the equitable division of quesadillas. Please adjudicate our dispute.At dinnertime there are four quesadillas for the grownups, two for Spouse A and two for Spouse B. Spouse A eats two quesadillas and Spouse B eats one. Spouse B says the one remaining quesadilla is their property, and continues to be so through to lunchtime the next day, when they plan to eat it in its entirety. Spouse A says that the next day we return to a "clean slate" situation, re. quesadilla distribution, and therefore the remaining quesadilla should be shared. Metafilter, what is your verdict?

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Station 51000, a buoy, came unmoored in 2013. It's still reporting, and some Eddystone Light-hearted genius has hybridized the data with Moby Dick. ( Or possibly it isn't lost at all? NOAA still lists it with lat-long. )

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I have been on dissability from work so been a bit bored around the house. Had about 7 shots of Jack Daniels today and decided to take a walk and maybe get a cigarrete this afternoon. Anyway it was so cold I might as well have been sober. I took a shortcut across some train tracks and a cop pulled me over. I answered all his questions and even allowed him to search me if he wanted too (I had nothing to hide except a receipt from yesterday for jack daniels and a box of matches). Anyway cop let me go obviously. But, for the future what is the legality of a situation like this? I didn't do anything wrong but, cross a set of rail road tracks by a school. It's saturday so school is out anyway.

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The monk who saves manuscripts from ISIS "Rescuing the world's most precious antiquities from destruction is a painstaking project—and a Benedictine monk may seem like an unlikely person to lead the charge. But Father Columba Stewart is determined. Soft-spoken, dressed in flowing black robes, this 59-year-old American has spent the past 13 years roaming from the Balkans to the Middle East in an effort to save Christian and Islamic manuscripts threatened by wars, theft, weather—and, lately, the Islamic State."

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What's the best resource (or advice) for gambling in Atlantic City and PA?My boyfriend and I have been hitting the casinos various times since the fall. We mainly play the slots, and every so often video poker. I've read up on slots and know the general advice and myths, eg they're all pretty much based on random number generators, the odds are against you, casinos don't pump extra oxygen in, it doesn't matter where the slots are in the casino, it's a pretty much walk-away-when-you're-up game, etc. We also know about slot payback percentages and what casinos have high and low ones and that casinos cannot change odds due to laws. My boyfriend pretty much hates the PA casinos and believes them to not have an advantage since there is less competition than AC but slot payback stats say they're about the same. Comps do seem lower compared to AC though. We love the Borgata as they give out great comps (free buffet, slot play, comedy show) and usually will stay at Harrah's for the free room and spend our money at Borgata.) That being said, is there ANY strategy on slots or video poker, outside of walking away when you're up? Do different games have a better chance? Is it worth it to learn a table game instead? Is online gambling in moderation worth it (I seem to win more there than the physical casinos)? What's the best resource to learn about these things? We've both responsible with money.

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Enjoy the smile-inducing spectacle of this dog buying his own treats. Now watch this cat trying to help with taxes. [both videos ambient sound only]

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When Your Greatest Romance Is a Friendship "Is this your grandson?" people sometimes ask Austin when she's out with me. I love watching her vanity prick up, the way she serenely tilts her small white head and refurbishes her Southern accent to correct them. "No, honey. He's my friend." At this point, folks usually smile tightly and turn away, perhaps worried there is more than friendship going on between the old lady and the younger man seated at the bar or strolling through the supermarket, giggling like teenagers.

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