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This should be SO simple: is there a Safari extension that will replace a word or phrase with one of my choosing? Fake example: whenever the word "dog" occurs on a page, replace it with "fluffy happy beast" so I never have to see the word "dog" again. Searching the Safari Extensions hasn't yielded any results for me but surely this exists.Basically I want to censor the web but only for a handful of words that personally make me really bummed out, I don't want to block profanity or porn/nudity. I know this exists for other browsers and am looking only for a solution for Safari.

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Last year for my annual Halloween party I did a "make your own" macaroni and cheese bar, where I made a few pans of fancy mac and cheese and had a buffet of toppings available. It was a huge hit, and I'd like to do something similar this year. What are some other dishes I could do?The best things about the mac and cheese bar were: 1. I could prepare the huge dishes of mac and cheese ahead of time. 2. The toppings included chicken, meat, seafood, veggies etc., and took very little prep time. 3. People of varying diets could customize their dish. There will be pescatarians and vegetarians. 4. Once the food was out, I didn't have to do anything other than have fun. 5. It wasn't super expensive. I don't want to repeat the mac and cheese, plus a few of us are trying to eat a little healthier this year. I don't want anything that will keep me in the kitchen or keep the oven on throughout the party (so no "make your own pizza" bar). I'd like it to be healthy(ish) and it must work for the veggie/pescy folks. All I can think of is a taco bar, which could work, but I'd love to hear your other ideas!

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Brett Kavanaugh, nominee to the Supreme Court, faces more and more allegations of sexual assault. Michael Avenatti has entered the fray. Something's up with Deputy AG Rod Rosenstein. A UN General Assembly Meeting is this week, and Trump is set to chair a Security Council meeting. And among other things, the Trump administration seeks another tightening of immigration rules. Michael Avenatti tweeted last night with some very graphic details. By request, please do not include the most graphic details in this thread. Bloodless facts like dates, accusers, etc. are fine. The list of women accusing Kavanaugh is now up to four: Christine Blasey Ford, Deborah Ramirez, one unnamed client of Michael Avenatti, and another accusation being investigated by Montgomery County. As of now, Ford is set to testify in front of Congress on Thursday, but that could change at any time. Republicans are discussing how to interrogate her without looking bad. In the past week, Rosenstein was the center of a firestorm that started with a NYT story, Rosenstein Suggested He Secretly Record Trump and Discussed 25th Amendment. Further reporting has only made the story more uncertain and murky. Around 11:00 am, Axios and the Washington Post reported a rumor from White House officials, saying that Rosenstein had offered his verbal resignation. NBC quickly reported that was NOT the case, and Rosenstein had instead been summoned to a meeting at the White House. At the time of this writing, no one knows what's going on. Deputy AG Rosenstein is one of the key people keeping the Mueller investigation rolling, and firing him is one of the things Trump might do to stop that investigation (here's some discussion about the legal realities of that.) For that reason, Rosenstein being fired is one of the Moveon Rapid Response triggers. Everything else is still going on at the same damn time. Trump administration seeks to limit access to visas or residency for immigrants who use or are likely to use public assistance (Washington Post)

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What is this what stuff on my parent's plants?It's appearing on many of the leaves in the backyard, and in some plants only seems to develop on the tips of the leaves. Is it a fungus?

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I've met someone I'd like to get to know, but I'm not 100% over my last relationship. Also now sure how interested he is.Hey everyone. I went through a break up 6 months ago and I was totally heartbroken. My ex had asked me to move in with him but then emailed to break up and had a 'new' girlfriend within a week. I absolutely adored him and felt shattered for a long time. In the last week I've moved to a new country, have a new job & joined a social group. The evening I went the group was quite big so we formed lots of circles and I saw a guy in a different circle kept looking over at me. So I smiled and he came right over shook my hand & introduced himself. Turns out we had lots in common but he seemed shy/nervous. As the rest of the group talked I noticed he kept looking back at me even when others were talking. I think I must fancy him at least a bit because I touched him a couple of times and I never do this with guys I don't know! At the end of the night, we all said goodbye and he looked like he wanted to ask me out but everyone else was there so it would have been awkward. He added me on Facebook the next day but hasn't actually contacted me. On the one hand, I don't want to read too much into it (he did add other people from the event) and I know I am actively still healing from the last break up. On the other hand, I'd like to get to know him more. Should I wait to see at him at the next social event and see if he makes a move or should I contact him? Or do nothing and just enjoy my newfound developing sense of self sans guy for a while?

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Toddler T. has been asking about the Moon and stars and planets. I don't know enough, or have the right kind of knowledge, to talk about what we can see. Can you recommend good eyeball and backyard astronomy guides aimed at toddlers and small children? The books and other resources I can find are geared to about 7 and up, which is too old.

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"The Philadelphia Flyers have unearthed something amazing, and also possibly horrible they are now unleashing on the world. Meet Gritty."

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My son is not having a very good experience with school so far this year, and I think doing a long-term activity with him after school every day would help a little bit -- so that he has something fun to look forward to.He likes robots, science, drawing, craft projects, gaming, Star Wars, YouTube, board/card games, and reading, and I like craft projects, reading, photography, cosplay, and general geekery. (I don't mind drawing, but I'm not good at it.) I'm trying to think of something (indoors) that takes weeks or months (and results in something really cool at the end) that we can do a little at a time. I don't want to spend a ton of money. Also, we can't leave out any fragile/chewable/delicate things because cats, but I suppose we could work in the (unfinished) basement. I've seen this question.

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Imagining a scenario with income drying up and wondering if there's an ideal way to plan for that. There might not be a way to plan for a situation with no options, but I have very little familiarity with financial planning.Or more specifically - in the event of a recession, is it better to have your currently invested money in a: a) fixed annuity b) IRA c) savings account d) house e) converted into a priceless postage stamp you hide among your possessions for Audrey Hepburn to find? Thanks!

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The trend of Nice Media seems to be the sun-filled, hopeful answer to the negativity and division offered nearly everywhere else. No single video game series encapsulates that sense of safe, intentional and welcoming niceness like Animal Crossing, and it has been doing it for almost 20 years.

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We have a beloved tree in our backyard which may be sick or nearing the end of its natural lifespan. We'd like to take a berry and plant it in an open space in our yard where there used to be an apple tree about 15-20 years ago and grow a new tree. What I know about gardening you could fit in an acorn cap. How can we do this successfully?We live in my wife's childhood home, which her parents bought new around 1980 when she was about 10 years old. In the backyard is a tree which was part of the original landscaping. My wife calls it a "crabtree", and I think it may be a Malus coronaria, or something similar. My wife thinks its losing its leaves far too early and that spotting on them is a sign of sickness. It is still very leafy and is producing berries. Here are some pictures of the tree. As I said, we'd like to plant one of its berries and grow a new tree where another tree used to stand. How should I best go about this? Should I pick a ripe berry now and just plant it in the ground and mark the area to avoid mowing it? Should I pick a berry now and wait until next spring to plant it? If so, how should I store the berry over winter? Should I plant it in a pot first? Does the fact that the tree may be sick matter? How can I determine if its sick or nearing the end of its lifespan? How can I learn how to go about this? My wife has called a landscaping company to look at the tree and see what can be done for its health, but regardless we'd like to grow a new tree from it in the open area if we can. Thanks for your help, Mefites!

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This week is Sea Otter Awareness Week. A few things about otters floating around out there include the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service's Sea Otter Recovery Plan (pdf), the USGS California Sea Otter Surveys and Research page , complete with northern sea otter and southern sea otter colouring pages, the Oregon Zoo's 20-year-old rescued sea otter Eddie, and the Elkhorn Slough otter cams. Otters previously but by no means exhaustively: They Otter Just Give Up How to enrich your otter. You Ought'er watch Back where he otter be What are the young animals of America learning today? Tiny Goat Visits Ain't that cute? Otterly Adorable Otterly adorbs Otter Artist Squee! In Otter News Who better to host a nature show about animals than a Dogg? THIS OTTER CAN JUGGLE! Discourse on the otter Mother otter teaches baby to swim. (EWISOTT) Pictures of a Giant Otter Eating a Watermelon oh my gosh the end of this video :3 Ridiculous otterly Muppet Bloopers "Although sometimes, they're not the most enthusiastic students" An Otter Family Album

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Where can I buy ethically-produced Halloween candy that kids (and I) will still enjoy? And yeah, it's gotta be the good stuff. Preferably chocolate.* Looking for suggestions of both products and retailers (both online and bricks-and-mortar). *My mom gave out boxes of raisins. I am not going to be that person.

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I've been asked to create a new certification course to be used internationally. How do I calculate my consultancy fees?Hi, I've tried googling few different search terms but I think I'm missing the specific phrase/jargon that would get me the results I'm looking for. I've been tapped by a private organization to create a new certification course to be used internationally. I have no idea what standard practices are for calculating my fees on something like this. The course will probably be run multiple times a year and will require instructor training and periodic updates. I can calculate how much the organization will probably net when they run the course and can roughly estimate how often they will run it. I'm just not sure how to quantify my asking price. I'm not interested in royalties or getting a percentage of their earning. I'd really just like to get a lump sum or a series of payments based on delivery. How do I begin this process? 1. Do I just name an hourly fee and then estimate the hours required and work from there? 2. Do I try to estimate how much they will make from the course and name a percentage? 3. Is there some sort of industry rule of thumb for this sort of content creation? 4. Is there a set format for requesting payments? IE An advance, a payment at 50% completion and a final payment on delivery? Maybe I'm not even asking the right questions. Please let me know if there's a decent resource to point me in the right direction. Thanks!

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"3 friends try to have a conversation but can't stop looking stuff up." A stand-alone episode by Cazzie David. [previously]

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This was me. After a crazy year, I've met most of my half-sibs, tracked down the sperm donor, and he's coming to Boston to meet with all of us next month (!!). Where can six people go on a Saturday afternoon near Brookline and/or the Mass Pike to get to know each other that has some good gluten free options?Also for those curious, answers to initial questions were 1) No help at all, they only keep records for 10 years for non-regular-patients. 2) I did finally tell my mom and she did not know, is completely floored and confused but very supportive and we're both weirdly excited for this crazy new chapter of my life.

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"The idea of LETTERS LIVE is simple: we ask talented, inspiring and high-profile artists from various disciplines to read letters out loud to our audiences. LETTERS LIVE celebrates letter writing and the art of correspondence first and foremost." Personal favorites: Reply of the Zaporozhian Cossacks to Sultan Mehmed IV of the Ottoman Empire Richard Feynman to Arline PS - This is my favorite memo ever (very NSFW audio) Antoine Leiris to his wife's killers Dear Mama

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Self-solving Rubik's Cube

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While the number of opioid overdose deaths nationwide has doubled since 2008, the number of those victims who have become organ donors has quadrupled. Partially as a result of the newly available organs from overdose deaths, the list of people waiting for transplants — nearly 124,000 at its peak in 2014 — has begun to shrink for the first time, after 25 years of continuous growth.

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Unresponsive Firefox on Windows 10 machine. Can I recover bookmarks (or get them back, if I download a new version of Firefox)?Greetings all. All of a sudden, my Firefox browser won't work on my laptop; its unresponsive (running Windows 10). I click on the firefox icon and nothing happens. I use both Chrome and Firefox on my laptop but use Chrome for work related stuff and Firefox for personal stuff. I have (had) a lot of personal bookmarks saved under Firefox (sports sites, news, fitness, cooking, etc) and I would hate to have lost them. is there a way to recover these? OR, is there a way to download (launch) a new version of firefox without losing bookmarks? Any help would be appreciated! Thanks,

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I'm in my mid-30s, female, never given birth. I have rather recently felt a bit of pee come out sometimes when I have a big sneeze or cough really hard. What's up with that? Is this normal? I thought the pee-your-pants thing only really happened to women who had given birth, but apparently not....?Should I be worried, or is this just a normal "I'm getting older" thing? Does anyone have a suggestion for ways to make it stop? I presume kegals are the answer, but maybe there is something else I could be doing.

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Police have called off the three year investigation into the 'Croyden Cat Killer' as they believe they now know the answer. But some locals are not happy and want the hunt to continue (Video possibly nsfw, other links have potentially disturbing descriptions)

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I found two jobs I'd like to do at a British Embassy, but am unsure whether applying for both would hurt my application. Advice, especially from people who have used the UK government's online job system, would be appreciated.I'm applying for a job with a UK embassy in Asia, and other than the job I really want, there's also a job that's pretty much what I did before at another embassy, so I think I'd have a better shot. I'm qualified for the first job, too, according to the specifications, and I want to further my career, not stagnate, but obviously I also don't want to be unemployed. Both jobs have the same deadline, so I can't wait until I'm rejected from A to apply for B. Should I apply for both of these jobs, or will that look desperate? If I only apply for the slightly higher level job and don't get it, is it possible that they'll reach out and offer me the lower level one? My feeling is no, because my own government operates through a similar system and if you haven't applied for a job, you don't get it. But I'm also afraid of not being considered for the slightly higher level if I also apply for the lower level. (I've had a recent pattern of being shoe-horned into low-level, typically female jobs, due to some factors in my job history and because of living in a somewhat sexist society.) Does anyone here have any experience with (successfully) applying for jobs through their online system (fco.tal.net) and can give me some guidance here? Thank you for reading!

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Does your normal vaginal discharge (mucus, period blood) increase when pooping? Does it ever feel gurlgey or queefy?I often get increased discharge when pooping, but I think I just had my first bearing-down-caused-me-to-queef moment. I've never queefed before. I get super scared about health stuff and now I'm halfway convinced I have a fistula despite being in none of the risk categories for it

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I have recently realized that a lot of my anxiety stems from comparing myself to other people ALL THE TIME. This was recently triggered by a parents' event at my kids' school. How can I keep this from affecting my life?I have struggled a lot with anxiety over the years. I've never taken medication, but I have seen a few therapists. I did find CBT somewhat useful, but not the panacea I thought it would be. (And I hated arguing with myself all the time.) The short time I was able to do meditation did help. Mostly, I am just a functioning person who worries a lot. I've recently realized that most of my worries stem from comparison with other people -- their jobs/houses/lives, etc. I was recently at a parents' event at my kids' school and I was going mad in my head comparing everything about our children -- their speech (one of my kids has a language delay, and it's really obvious when around other kids), their clothes, their activities, their names, the streets they live on -- I was jealous of it all. An this wasn't a braggy affair -- these were just people I know telling me ordinary stuff about their lives in casual conversation. I left feeling depressed and absolutely ridiculous. I know you never know someone's life -- they are probably going through divorces, job losses, all sorts of worries of their own. I know my life is pretty darn good. But I just keep thinking -- if I had chosen this, done X, lived Y, gotten a job like that, everything would be great. Instead, I feel like an asshole all the time, and make myself miserable over nothing, but nothing I'm doing now is cutting through it. It makes even ordinary social events miserable for me. Kids' stuff in particular seems to trigger it. My partner is not like this at all and can't really understand. So, did anything you do/read/think about etc help you work through this? I'm open to any advice at all!

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