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Generally I can have cheese and yogurt in small amounts but not milk and cream, and I've had cheesecake in the recent past even after I became lactose intolerant to the aforementioned. I still feel terrible after 24 hrs. Do I have to seek medical attention?I shared this cheesecake with three other people and all of them are fine, so my guess is that its my lactose intolerance becoming stronger. I got sick saturday (11am?) morning and finally got myself to throw up at 8pm. I didn't turn on the light so all I saw was that the vomit was brown-ish. one of the cheesecakes was coffee flavored and I was also fed a brown powdery 'medicine' so i didn't think anything of it. all night last night i was still sweating and having full body aches. still have them but its lessened a bit. i had plain oatmeal and water this morning and was able to keep most of it down until just now, where i threw some of it up and there were flecks of bright red blood in the vomit. i didn't throw up much so there wasn't much blood either, more like 5-6 flecks on the bits of oatmeal, not swirling in the liquid. i did stick my finger down my throat to make myself puke. unfortunately i have no health insurance. so i guess my question is: do i have to seek medical attention? i've had food poisoning before and was able to ride it out but so far as i know i've never puked blood. thank you.

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I have an Iphone 5s that I'm using with Ting, a pay-as-you-go service that uses the Sprint network. So far, I'm very happy with the arrangement. In August, however, I'm planning a month-long visit to a location not covered by Sprint. According to local residents, AT&T provides the best coverage in the area.My question: should I buy a pre-paid phone from an AT&T affiliate, e.g. Cricket, to use during my visit, which I would deactivate after returning home? Or, would it be feasible, and not too expensive or risky, to switch my Iphone over to Cricket for a month and then switch it back after returning home?

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Each year two fireworks festivals are held at Suwa Lake in Nagano, Japan. The first, in August, is one of the largest in Japan. The second, in September, features a contest for the best new fireworks. Some of the effects are stunning: 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014. Bonus links: The Suwa Lake Fireworks' show's website (in Japanese). A thorough glossary of pyrotechnics terms [pdf] from the British Pyrotechnics Association. A slightly less thorough but non-PDF glossary. A great page showing how shells are designed to achieve various effects, such as cut stars, pumped comets, serpents, whistles, reports, and tourbillions.

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The world's tallest cow dies after a lifetime of Photoshop accusations

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I'm working on a piece of art that requires me to use aluminum foil as the primary canvas. I've been using craft acrylic paint (the ones sold in plastic bottles at most craft stores), but I'm wondering if I should upgrade to more professional grade artist acrylic (or oil?) paint. I'm a bit clueless about paint types so any advice is welcome.Ideally, cheaper is better, but im willing to sacrifice money for improved quality. The project in question is a live performance piece, so I'm somewhat less concerned about the final outcome and more concerned with how it will look in the process.

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The Grass Ceiling: How to Conquer Inequality in Women's Soccer [Atlantic link] An attorney who helped players file a gender-discrimination lawsuit over artificial turf in the World Cup proposes a way forward for the sport. I recognize that improving conditions for the most accomplished players in a single sport only addresses a small part of the challenges females face in gaining meaningful gender equality throughout athletics. And, of course, sports barriers make up just a fraction of the global challenges girls and women continue to confront. But there's an immediacy and universality to sports that suffuses athletic progress, however limited, with import and meaning. The "turf war" captured global attention because of the symbolism as well as the reality of a literally unequal playing field.

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I'm the co-founder of a developing food hub - any MeFites with experience or involvement with a food hub care to offer their thoughts or advice on best practices?I'm lucky enough to have a job that is awesome and allows me to be involved in the local food movement in all sorts of rad ways. One of the projects in currently involved in, as a co-founder and stakeholder, is a local food hub. Right now we're in the planning and development stages but we've got funding lined up so things need to be fleshed out as soon as we can manage. I'm looking for advice, thoughts, and best practices from fellow MeFites who have been involved in a food hub - it really doesn't matter to me if you run one, but from one, or are a producer working with one, I'd like to hear as much as I can! I've read up on the current research, studies, and statistics in the form of USDA guides and things from universities and the like but I'd like more personal thoughts, if anyone has any to offer. Thanks in advance!

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BBC: "A clampdown on "taxpayer-funded subsidies" for "higher earners" living in social housing is to be announced by the chancellor in Wednesday's Budget. Local authority and housing association tenants in England who earn more than £30,000 - or £40,000 in London - will have to pay up to the market rent, George Osborne will say. The move is expected to raise up to £250m a year by 2018-19. It is thought that this could affect 340,000 households." George Osborne said: "the Budget would "reward work over welfare" and allow people to keep more of the money they earned."

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But yes, definitely, I acknowledge that Joss Whedon, despite being one of my faves, is problematic and that in general yes Your Fave is Problematic. I'd even say that the particular idiosyncratic tics and hypocrisies and contradictions in Joss Whedon's brand of feminism bear examination, that if we can be mean enough to make a Hollywood in-joke out of parodying the characteristic style of Michael Bay and James Cameron someone by now should've done it to Joss Whedon.Someone did. It was Joss Whedon.

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I can't find how to have Google create a playlist using only my music on my phone. Does it still exist?Instant mixes used to be mixes based off of a starter song and your likes selected from your own music. I can find instant radios now which is nice I suppose, but I actually like the music I've purchased more than the music I haven't purchased. So, do instant mixes still exist? Or am I stuck with shuffle all? This is all on my Android moto x with google play music version 6.0.1945s.2039625 if it matters.

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There are numerous shorthand descriptions of various phenomena, like Rule 34 and Godwin's law and Sturgeon's law. Is there a shorthand term for the tendency of science fiction writers to ramp up sexual content over time? I know Heinlein did it over time. Niven did it in the Ringworld series. Simmons apparently did it. Now I find out that Herbert did it in the later Dune books. It seems to be a common phenomenon, but is there a specific name for it?

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I'm in Cardiff, Wales and hoping to watch the women's world cup final (soccer) live tonight at midnight, preferably at a pub or similar environment. Anyone know where it might be shown?

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YouTube user Merfish has recreated some popular TV show theme intros in the video game Grand Theft Auto V [NSFW]: The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Full House Arthur Family Matters

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So, I own a house. My three kids and I went away on vacation leaving my very needy dogs in the care of a housesitter. The housesitter was an acquaintance: a good friend of a good friend, but someone that I had only personally met a few times. I have non-obvious cameras in my house. Not in the private areas like the bathroom or bedrooms, but in public areas like the living room and kitchen. I, perhaps stupidly, did not tell the housesitter about these cameras and then, guiltily, reviewed the footage upon returning home. Now I don't know what to do.I don't want to be too specific because of anonymity, but let's assume that I witnessed at least one of the following: -Them stealing a few dollars from my change bowl -Them pouring themselves a drink from an expensive bottle of scotch -Them going through the drawers of my desk -Them sitting on my living room couch naked and masturbating -Them urinating in my kitchen sink -Them striking my dogs with a rolled up newspaper Where is the line at which their crime is greater than the crime I committed by spying on them. More importantly, where do you draw the line between: -forgetting about it -refusing further contact with this acquaintance without explaining yourself to the mutual friend. -bringing up the footage to the acquaintance/mutual friend -retaining a lawyer

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I'm starting a non tenure-track faculty position. The job is great on paper: well paid, good college, ideal location, low-ish teaching load with (theoretically) enough time for research. Problem is, I think the department is hostile and/or indifferent to me. Is it in my head? What do I do?I get the general feeling that no one in the department particularly wants me there, and that the department is sort of dysfunctional on the whole. - Went in last week to get my paperwork done with HR. Not many professors are around for the summer, but I e-mailed the chair and a couple of people saying I'd be on campus and it would be great to catch up. The chair met with me, and was polite but not particularly welcoming. No one else on campus took the time to talk. Everyone keeps their door shut. I come from a department that is very collegial... we pop in to one another's offices, and the new people are always being taken to lunches and drinks, so this disinterest is unnerving. - I was their second choice for the position. I basically got a "waitlist" e-mail after my interview saying they were going with someone else. I can't shake the feeling that this was a clear sign that they weren't thrilled about me in the first place. My interview itself wasn't the best experience -- I didn't connect with anyone, and a couple of people were downright rude. - Administratively, things are a mess. The staff are much more understaffed/inefficient than what I'm used to. No one ever reached out to me as a new hire, and I still don't have most of my stuff set up despite spending the whole day on campus running from office to office. This isn't a big deal, but it adds to the frustration. - There are very few young faculty in the department, and they seem buried to their necks in teaching while keeping up their research. The tenured faculty seem to have a chip on their shoulders about their Ivy degrees, but are completely inactive in research, and frankly, seem lazier than most tenured professors (they're all on a two month summer vacation!). Any way, end of rant -- should I start looking for other options and be ready to leave after a semester or two? Or give them the benefit of doubt and try to settle in -- and if so, what can I proactively do to make the best of the situation?

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Letter to My Son, by Ta-Nehisi Coates, July 4, 2015: "I came to understand that my country was a galaxy, and this galaxy stretched from the pandemonium of West Baltimore to the happy hunting grounds of Mr. Belvedere. I obsessed over the distance between that other sector of space and my own. I knew that my portion of the American galaxy, where bodies were enslaved by a tenacious gravity, was black and that the other, liberated portion was not... And I felt in this a cosmic injustice, a profound cruelty, which infused an abiding, irrepressible desire to unshackle my body and achieve the velocity of escape."

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In Hawkeye, narrative strategies like the in media res opening, the flashbacks, and the flashforwards are complimented by Fraction and Aja's use of motifs to thicken individual issues and stories. In #3, two different lists—the "nine terrible ideas" Clint has on the day the story takes place (featured in first-person captions), and a catalog of the trick arrows in Clint's quiver (featured in inset panels with labels like "Explosive-tip Arrow")—offer running commentaries on the dominant story. Sometimes Hawkeye's echoes and callbacks can be very on-the-nose, as in the small panels of Clint praising his boomerang arrow that appear early and late in the story. For The Comics Journal, Craig Fischer examines Matt Fraction/David Aja's Hawkeye. Warning: spoilers.

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Who was the anthropologist who suggested that multinational corporations are the highest life forms on Earth? Author William Gibson has recounted going to a lecture by a female anthropologist at the University of British Columbia in the late 70s. The anthropologist posited the idea that multinational corporations were the highest life form on Earth, which had a profound influence on Gibson's world view, and therefore on literature influenced by Gibson. Who was this anthropologist? I haven't been able to find out who she was.

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Is it worth asking for a discount on an item which dropped in price whilst shipping (and after the charge was made to my card)After this question I went ahead and ordered an awesome PC. It has arrived but whilst shipping the price dropped by about £200! (Was shipped the very last day it was at the higher price) Is it worth asking for a discount, or even some store credit? If so, how do I go about doing that? I'm in a good mind to send it back and just re-order another one but would prefer not to for obvious reasons. I believe within 14 days I can do just that anyway? (UK Sale). Help me overcome my buyer's remorse hivemind.

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Trying to find a song based on what I remember on the music video. Was sung by a woman, kind of melancholy sounding. Most notable part of the music video was a woman riding a horse and she had dramatically long hair that floated through the sky.Some other details about the music video is that either the horse and/or the woman had native american clothing or details to them. They were riding through expansive landscapes. At one point in the music video, the "camera" was drifting through her hair and suddenly ravens flew out. At the very end, the woman and the horse jumped off of a cliff into space, disintegrating in the process. Oddly enough, B. Fleischmann's song "Composure" sounds similar to this song I am trying to find.

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Wall o' text follows. All names have been changed.A retired co-worker, Ali, and I made plans to visit her at her house, 45 mins away. Plan was to go strawberry picking, then a bbq at her house that she and her husband would cook. Eventually decided to include another co-worker, Cora (who Ali is better friends with than me), and spouses. This was a few months in the making. Decided we'd come July 4. On Friday, during final confirmations, Ali said that she's not going berry picking after all. I thought that was strange, because I thought we'd agreed to do that altogether. Anyway... Last night my partner, Sam, was talking to his mom, Gail. He mentioned that we were going strawberry picking tomorrow. Gail asked if she could come. This would also mean she'd come to the bbq. Sam asked me, can Gail come tomorrow? I was thinking about Ali - would this be ok with her? In the back of my mind, I thought it was a little odd, for Sam to suggest bringing Gail to the bbq. I also thought, eh, it shouldn't be an issue. (Conflicted much?) Ali and Sam don't know each other. I thought it'd be strange for a stranger to the bbq to bring his mom. I shot a quick email to Ali - is it ok if Sam's mom comes to the bbq tomorrow? She'd like to go strawberry picking too. Ali wrote back this morning - "I'm sorry, but you'll have to take your mother-in-law strawberry picking some other time." I was a little surprised by that. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal, evidently it is. Ok. Shrug. This is what I get for trying to change things at the last minute, right? I told Sam that Ali said no. He immediately said, then I can't go. He found it deeply offensive that his mom wasn't welcome. Then he had another thought - that I shouldn't go too. I took offense to that. "You can't dictate what I can do," I said. He thought about it a bit more - he was hurt by Ali, so he wanted me to show my support in not going today. I really didn't like that request. I said I would consider it. I never said clearly, ok I'm not going to go. In my mind, Ali was in her right to say no. I was the one who should have said no to Sam's request, because this was just going to be Ali, Cora and I, and spouses, and my daughter, whom Ali met last year. I ended up going to Ali's house after strawberry picking (Ali and her husband were not there as mentioned above; that was the original plan; Cora and her husband went strawberry picking) and Sam was upset about me going to Ali's. As a result, he felt unsupported by me and felt like he wouldn't be able to rely on me in the same way for similar things in the future. He talked about how I made a choice, and that I chose Ali over him. I tried to impress upon him that it felt like he was taking something away from me that I was looking forward to. So, questions: 1. Was it ok to think that Ali should have made room for his mom? On the one hand, hosts should be able to say yes or no to whomever they want; on the other, what's the big deal with one more person, especially someone's parent? He found her non-inclusiveness really bizarre and unwelcome host behaviour. Was it? 2. He said that once he's invited, it's a shared event and that he could have a say in who could come. My view is, since it's Ali's house, she decides who can be there. Who's right here? (I don't even know if this is the right question) 3. Was his request of me to not go reasonable? On the one hand, I felt like he was controlling me in terms of what I could do and who I could see. He said that he rarely asks me to do specific things, and this one thing was really, really important to him. It was important to me too, to go, since I had a part in deciding the details with Ali and I had been looking forward to this, and to suddenly pull out? He said, what's more important, a co-worker whom you don't even see anymore and whom you don't know all that well, or your life partner? Yet I also think I'm important too (and the things I want to do). Note that his mom is really important to him and he said he's particularly sensitive around her feelings etc. (He said she was lonely and wanted to see him and our kid.) 4. Should I just have sucked it up, dealt with the social discomfort of calling Ali and saying, can't make it after all, yes, we were looking forward to it too, sorry the food you were going to make for us is going to waste, but you offended my partner and he doesn't want me to come (sorry if I offended you for making that request), maybe we can see each other another time? (and I could have gone with my daughter to see her on my own) i.e. I should have put my partner's needs ahead of mine, right? Was I selfish? Was Sam selfish? Details: me, female, mid thirties, Sam is early forties, been together for 5 years, living together 4, common-law. 1 kid, age 3.

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Road Trip AUS - usually when I roadtrip (in the US), I'll just stop for the day when; somewhere particularly nice turns up; I'm tired and reach the next motel. Is this style of roadtripping possible in AUS? From the research I've done so far, I'm not too sure, and I'm concerned about hassles involving pre-booking hotels to ensure a place to stay each night: for me, in a roadtrip, I'm looking for the freedom of not having to make daily schedules.Additional notes: 1) I'm currently travelling through SE Asia, considering next destinations, and this is my #1 choice - if I can work out this accommodation piece 2) This would be for 4 weeks, starting Weds 3) This would be in an intermediate car, which I can get at Europcar for $1000 AUD (unlimited km), which is my max. I'm guessing I could not get a camper within this range 4) This would be moving on almost every day - so at the most, I'd need 28 places to stay

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Fifteen miles from Vilnius, Lithuania, in the forest of Nemenčinė, a crumbling, underground Soviet Bunker contains Europe's most terrifying theme park: a KGB torture prison that's still operating on its visitors. The bullfrog-guard enters and gives us our orders: we will answer only in the affirmative or negative; dissent will be punished with beatings and solitary confinement; and we will forget all thoughts other than the glory of the socialist paradise in which we now live. We stand to attention for the Soviet anthem and hoisting of the red flag, and then down we go, into the freezing-cold bunker. For three hours, we are force-marched through icy, virtually pitch-black corridors, barked at (by canine and human alike), humiliated, interrogated, forced to sign false confessions to imagined crimes, shown propaganda, and taught to prepare for a nuclear attack by the imperialist pigs. A KGB doctor forces me to strip to the waist, in front of the other participants. "Jacket off! Shirt off! Strip to waist! Quick! Quick!" She sits me down on a stool, grabs a clump of cotton wool, douses it in alcohol, and sets it alight. This is then dropped in a glass jar and applied to my bare shoulders. The purpose of the museum is educational. "The young people, they don't understand what it was like," Vanagaite insists... "They think they could just overpower Soviet guards. We try to show them the reality." If you want to visit: "Tourists pay 120 LTL ($US 220) each to step back into 1984 as a temporary USSR citizen for 2.5 hours. On entry, all belongings, including money, cameras and phones, are handed over and under the watchful eye of guards and alsatians, tourists change into threadbare Soviet coats and are herded through the bunker... Before heading back into the real world, participants are treated to a shot of vodka."

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Would love suggested reading on the subject of compassion or the oneness of humankind or... anything that comes to mind when you read on. Please inspire me!My "career" (ie current job) centers around improving the experience of life for some of society's most vulnerable people. I work hard and carefully. I'm often in the company of very caring people. Through my work, I've developed patience and greater insight to our common human struggles. Additionally, I can't get through an episode of Chopped on Food Network without tearing up. For many people and animals, for art and music, my heart constantly breaks: for our triumphs and our losses, for our frailties and insecurities. I feel so much love and tenderness---AND YET. The degree to which I don't give a shit, sometimes, is a bit shameful and appalling to me. I'm OK living with duality, and I'm not aiming to be the perfect, most wonderful caring human, but I really would appreciate an enlightened perspective to bring me out of the cold shadows a bit. Common advice here on the green might speak to establishing and enforcing one's boundaries, cutting toxic people from one's life, and recognizing other people's responses as their trip, their problem, not mine. I've benefited from this type of advice, and then maybe I've taken it a bit far? Or, despite the fact that I'm the common denominator in my life, maybe I'm surrounded by assholes??--I wouldn't like to think so. I walk around with a dopey grin because (A) life is beautiful, (B) I'd rather radiate happiness than chronic resting bitchface, (C) who cares if people think I'm an idiot for my dopey grin? But good lord I have a dark sense of humor, can be really flip and insensitive, and can have such frigid indifference to people I find annoying. Things that have helped me tone down some undesirable characteristics: (1) Not overthinking them all the time. (2) Experiencing nature, eg a morning walk through the woods. (3) Thich Nhat Hanh's writings, and some others'. (4) Volunteering and the aforementioned career. (5) Psychedelics--- Years ago. We're all connected! (6) Mantras. (7) Role models. (8) Exercise and proper self-care go a long way but there are still off days. As an introverted person, sometimes I feel like I don't even have the energy to deal with people. So, I don't smile at the cute baby, but smile at inappropriate times, or I ignore people asking questions that are meant to be answered but are actually rhetorical. Ignoring people is mean. I want to be a better, kinder person, and I think I can inch my way there. Sorry for the length. I want to paint a picture of my situation. I'm not a sociopath, but maybe I didn't experience being loved and accepted in my formative years. Maybe I root for the underdog, having always felt like one, but also expect people to be as tough as I feel I am? I'm sure a good number of you can relate. What do you read for inspiration of the kind I seek? (Please don't say Jesus.) Thanks!

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How can I prevent my beloved cat Maya from scratching the new microfiber couch?My cat is mostly fond of scratching wood--we've surrendered the cheap garage-sale kitchen table to her claws--but she also has phases of scratching our microfiber couch and chair. She does have a sisal scratching post but never uses it, even with catnip encouragement. Clipping or Soft-Paws-ing is not an option, since she hates having her paws touched. How can I discourage her from scratching our microfiber upholstery? I thought that Sticky Paws would work, but they have a disclaimer that it might ruin microfiber. Are the various deterrent sprays safe to use on upholstery? Bonus points if you can recommend an affordable wooden scratching post. I'd like to keep it around $50 and it seems like most cat furniture is covered in carpet or sisal.

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