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'Moment' Is Having a Moment [New York Times] "What, exactly, is a cultural moment? How long does it last? Who participates in it? Who on earth gets to decide? Can you marshal literally anything that has happened in the last 10 years, or 10 months? What are the parameters? Is there a minimum Q rating? Who has to experience a thing, be aware of it, find satisfaction (or prestige) in discussing it? And how do we distinguish kairos from chronos — a moment from an ordinary shred of time? How do we distinguish a meaningful, fateful, crucial moment from all the other moments that fall all over the place like bread crumbs out of an overturned toaster?"

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Many people in a certain place facetiously trade pictures of Pepe the Frog, but have there been other facetious economic phenomena, joke stock bubbles, fake hyperinflation, things of that sort?Doesn't necessarily have to have comparable range and scale as those pictures.

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Meet the man behind the Tumblr that's putting dildos in Stephen Harper's hands.

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Larry Chung talks about and plays a 1934 Gibson L-5. Larry Chung is a Bay Area musician who demonstrates (mostly) classic (mostly) guitars. 1958 Fender Stratocaster 1937 Martin D-28 Huber Ron Block Truetone Banjo Huber Kalamazoo Banjo 1932 Rickenbacher A-22 Frying Pan 1917 Gibson Style O Artist 1938 Epiphone Electar Bourgeois Banjo Killer Martin SS D-35 13 1923 Vega Plectrum Tubaphone Banjo 1946 Rickenbacher Model B Huber VRB-75 Truetone Banjo Deering Eagle II Banjo 1941 Martin D-28 Huber Lancaster Truetone Banjo Huber Workhorse Banjo Huber VRB-3 Banjo Collings D2HA 1930s Arch Top Folk Art Guitar 1945 Martin 000-18 1935 Martin D-28 1957 Fender Stratocaster 1926 Martin 0-21 1930s Supro Electric Hawaiian 1963 Martin D-28 1913 Martin 0-45 1942 Martin D-28 Huber VRB-4 Banjo Gold Star GF-200 Banjo Matsuda Prototype CM 1 1939 Martin D-18 1983 Martin D-28V 1929 Martin 1-17P Plectrum Collings CJ35 1948 Gibson Ultratone Yamamoto Multiscale 12-String 2009 Jamie Wiens Loar F-5 Mandolin

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Charlie Hebdo editor says the paper is done with prophet Muhammad cartoons - Laurent Sourisseau, "Riss" ""We have drawn Muhammad to defend the principle that one can draw whatever they want. It is a bit strange though: we are expected to exercise a freedom of expression that no one dares to," " Are They Charlie?But as time went on, visceral reactions gave way to debate. It became acceptable to question the Charlie movement in polite society. Why did the killings unleash unprecedented emotion in a country that is no stranger to terror? What did the magazine stand for? What did proclaiming "Je suis Charlie" or "Je ne suis pas Charlie" mean? The books under review approach those questions from a wide range of perspectives. Six months on, we are not all Charlie Salman Rushdie: "We are living in the darkest time I have ever known." In the Wilderness About Charlie Hebdo Free Speech and "Those in Power" The right to criticize religious tenets held by a minority has again been aggressively challenged in public debate, following the attack on "Charlie Hebdo" in Paris. Jens-Martin Eriksen and Frederik Stjernfelt take issue with the argument that free speech is meant to be used against "those in power", not against minorities. Charlie Hebdo's Multi-Million-Dollar Pile of Tragedy Money In the space of a few months, a publication with a storied past but uncertain future, beset by dwindling revenues and readership, casting around for financial support, has been transformed into a cash cow. People who had scarcely heard of the paper now flaunt the ubiquitous "Je suis Charlie" badge. The post-massacre edition, No. 1178, sold some eight million copies, an increase of more than 13,000 percent over previous levels. Subscriptions have soared to more than 200,000 from about 10,000. Donations have multiplied, from Google, the French government, and sympathizers across the world. One Web site garnered close to $2 million through the contributions of 24,500 individuals. As a result, Charlie Hebdo, irreverent mocker of all forms of power, reportedly finds itself sitting on more than $33 million in cash, a once unthinkable sum. (The owners have put the figure lower, at roughly $18 million, from sales and donations.) Emmanuel Todd: the French thinker who won't toe the Charlie Hebdo line Qu'est-il arrivé à Emmanuel Todd? Les thèses avancées par Emmanuel Todd dans son livre Qui est Charlie? ont provoqué un tollé. Pourtant, elles ne sont pas toutes dénuées de vérité. Décryptage. Art Spiegelman, Notes from a First Amendment Absolutist, via Drawing the Undrawable

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Where are the comfy, cheapish shift dresses for ladies who are widest at the hips?I'm a short woman with a 32-inch bust, 28-inch waist, and 38-inch hips. I want some very basic, comfy, minimalist dresses, very much like this Gudrun Sjoden one. They would ideally have sleeves, and need to be a reasonable length/neckline for an office job that involves a lot of kneeling and squatting and picking up boxes. The key is that I don't want to be swimming in them, but I also don't want them to be too tight in the hips and too loose in the bust, which most non-fit-and-flare dresses are. I also have a lot of trouble finding anything in a simple style to begin with (and that isn't, like, some Urban Outfitters tank dress made of sheer polyester with armholes that go down to my natural waist). And when I do find them, they're like this Gudrun thing and cost freaking $118. I can do $118 in a pinch, but Buffalo Exchange is more my financial speed, and I'd like to own more than one! TL;DR: Pear-shaped women of Metafilter who love crew necks and black cotton, where do you shop? Where, in mercy's name, do you shop.

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I've been a digital/interactive project manager since 1997. Now I want to go through an 18 week immersion program in web development and jump the fence to become a developer. But I'm 45 years old. Am I too old to get hired?In almost 20 years as a project manager I've worked on any kind of web based project you can think of: back-end inventory systems, mobile sales tools, web site design, mobile web and iOS apps, games, etc. In July I quit my job - I just could not be a project manager anymore. I applied to The Flatiron School for an 18 week immersive course in web development. It's focused on Ruby on Rails but also covers html, javascript and CSS. I've started to do the pre-work (on line program teaching basics of ruby and front end programming) and I really love it. I feel like I may have found my calling. My only concern is this: at 45 years of age am I too old to land a junior programmer job? I have enough savings to cover the salary decrease for a couple of years but I don't want to invest 15k (tuition for the course) into a program that is not going to lead to a job because of age.

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How do you make friends with other women when you don't really have friends who are women?I'm a university-educated single cis-gendered, straight woman in my late 20s, living in a large city. For a whole bunch of reasons, I've never really been able to get my post-undergrad social life off the ground. I don't really meet new people in the general course of my life. I work for a very small company, and I have like one local friend, so I don't really have the chance to meet friends-of-friends. I know about all the general advice about meetups and interest groups, and I'm working on incorporating more of those into my life. My problem, though, is that I find it hard to make friends with other women, and I worry that I'm sending red flags because I don't have a lot of the markers of pre-established female friendship. This isn't making me terribly happy, because I have hobbies that mostly skew female and I've found that there's just some friendship needs that my guy friends can't fulfill. Because my once-pretty-vibrant social circle has dwindled so much over my 20s, I haven't really gotten the chance to do a lot of middle-class 20-something female rites of passage. I've never been a bridesmaid, I don't have female friends I can reliably hang out with or go out and do singles stuff with, and that gets hard to hide as someone gets to know me. I can hang out with someone one-on-one, or maybe with their group of friends once or twice, but I can't reciprocate and bring them into my group because I have no group. I suspect that all of this stuff kind of marks me as weird, or indicative of some deeper reason why I'd make a bad friend. I feel like guys can be more tolerant of someone having spent a lot of time being socially isolated, but other women seem to distance themselves from me once they realize I don't do much on the weekends. It's like a woman who's a loner isn't to be trusted or is necessarily shitty to other women. Some other potential complications: I'm a visible minority. Although I live in a very diverse city, most of the circles I'm in and hobbies I'm interested in are ones where no one looks like me. Also, I'm not thin. Sometimes I worry that other women don't see me as a potential part of their tribe because I'm not...frankly, white, or slightly overweight. In any case, it's hard for me to signal that I'm a-okay to women who seem to have very homogeneous groups of friends. How do I get around this? I don't think I'm going to have the sort of future that involves a spouse and children and whatnot, but I'd like to fill my life with more people and be a good friend to new people I enjoy spending time with.

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I was complaining to a friend about decreased ability to metabolize alcohol as I get older. He advised I look into poor MTHFR methylation as a possibility. I have searched and searched and all I can find is woo (causes everything from autism to bad vibes, here buy my book and your problems will be solved!). Was this advice of his purely woo?

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If you take Adam Parfrey's definition of a secret society as a social group that demands an oath of allegiance to join, and then consider that such societies include labor unions, business groups, rural/agrarian organizations, religious and occult organizations, sobriety groups, drinking groups, immigrants, anti-immigrant organizations, philosophy and science (including optometry) (previously), and groups for "persons of quality" who wanted to engage in "immoral acts." With that introduction, here is The Cyclopædia of Fraternities; a compilation of existing authentic information and the results of original investigation as to more than six hundred secret societies in the United States, written by Albert Clark Stevens and published in 1899, in full on Archive.org.

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I'm struggling to do something in a spreadsheet (I'm using Google Spreadsheets, but could use Mac Excel or Numbers if needed). I want to automatically fill one cell with the name of the calendar quarter (e.g. "Q3-2015") based on a user-entered date in another cell. To make it more complicated, the "quarters" don't begin/end on standard dates.Basically I'd like to be able to enter a transaction date, and then fill into the next cell which quarter that transaction occurred in. And in another column a running total of transactions for the quarter. This is for some household budgeting stuff, not mission critical finance (and not a super high volume of transactions). I could handle this manually, but I'd really prefer to automate it to minimize the chance of human error. So I'd like a sheet that looks something like this. For discussion, let's say for example that my "Q3" runs from July 20th through October 19th. And then Q4 is Oct 20-Jan 20, etc. I can define these ranges and their in one part of my sheet (I was thinking with a column for "begin," "end" and "name"). When I enter a date in column A, I'd like column B to be automatically filled in with the quarter name defined in that separate area. So, this is more than a simple lookup, because it's trying to find a row based on the date being between two other dates defined in their own cells. I could probably do this with a custom script, but I haven't really investigated the Google Apps scripting capabilities, and if I can do it without that I'd prefer it. Is this even possible? Any nudges in the right direction would be appreciated.

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I want to eat seafood by the water in Brooklyn. Where do I go? I'm talking non-fancy messes of crab and fried shrimp.My husband wants to go eat seafood tonight and is willing to drive or take the train a bit, but we don't really know where to go. He likes Clemente's a bunch, but doesn't want to go there; I figure there have to be plenty of neighborhood seafood places on the water we can reach but just don't know about. We're in Williamsburg so have access to all sorts of trains via the L. we Don't want anything fancy, just like the sort of place you'd find on City Island. Any suggestions?

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My wife brought home this flower, which looks sort of like a fuzzy ear of corn made out of cotton on some very spiky leaves. Any hints on what it is? I've used online resources to no avail.

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I am a Worrier who likes to think things through in advance - so what can I expect in my 30s?I will be 30 in the next couple of months and one characteristic I have recently learnt about myself is that I deal better with life events if I have thought about them happening in advance. Somehow makes me feel like I saw it coming anyway. Some recent examples of such things in my late twenties: - friends all getting married, and having kids if they were already married - parents being more visibly older and frail - dealing with wills and powers of attorney for older relatives - between my contemporaries and I at work we actually have some pretty serious responsibilities and our choices have an impact in the real world - keeping up with current and new music isn't something that just 'happens', so I have to make an effort Realising that these events were coming and just a part of the procession of getting older really helped me deal with them. So what can I expect in my 30s? I am sure there will be more of the above, but would be very interested in what specific events MeFites have experienced. I have read the classic buzzfeed style articles but am after some more specific things that happen to you, rather than observations. Relevant info - I am a married male living in london, professional job, currently no kids, do a variety of sports to stay physically active. (And yes I fully appreciate answer 1 could well be 'expect some unexpected things to happen' , I am also working on dealing with that, but would like to know some specific things as well!) Thanks in advance.

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Dr. Joel Phillips, of West Trenton, NJ, is the 33rd grand-prize winner of the annual Bulwer-Lytton Fiction Contest, which challenges writers to concoct the worst opening sentence of a hypothetical novel. (Or, to look at it another way, the best sentence in the genre of "bad opening sentences.") The full list of winners, runners-up, and dishonorable mentions. The winning entry: Seeing how the victim's body, or what remained of it, was wedged between the grill of the Peterbilt 389 and the bumper of the 2008 Cadillac Escalade EXT, officer "Dirk" Dirksen wondered why reporters always used the phrase "sandwiched" to describe such a scene since there was nothing appetizing about it, but still, he thought, they might have a point because some of this would probably end up on the front of his shirt. The Bulwer-Lytton Fiction Contest previously on Metafilter: 2014, 2011, 2010, 2008, 2005, 2004, 2003, 2002, 2001. Also previously, the shorter competition, the Lyttle Lyttons: 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012, 2009, 2004.

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I have a relationship that is going phenomenally, 6 months deep. We have the same values, we're excited to support what the other is doing, and we have compatible goals for our future.... but he never got a chance to date as a single person. How to proceed?This relationship is definitely the most satisfying and consistently supportive dynamic I have ever experienced. Both of us are committed to each other's goals, values, and development... plus we just have a fucking blast whenever we are together. So what's the problem? He spent his entire life, until 2 years ago, hiding an atheistic worldview from his devoutly religious family and community. The revelation that he not only was atheist, but also intended to find a partner and live outside of their religious community, was devastating to his family and shocked his mother to the point of physical symptoms. Much like when queer people come out of the closet for the first time, he had intended to have a period of open and free exploration of his new, secular life. Unfortunately, I messaged him about a week after he joined OkCupid, we met a week later, and very quickly lost interest in spending having dates with anyone else. Now its 6 months later, we're talking about the possibility of family some day, he's helping me host parties for my coworkers, I'm trying to learn Urdu to make the prospect of eventually meeting his mother easier... and he feels deeply conflicted about never having had a chance to know 'what's out there.' I want him to have as rich and deep a life experience as possible - but also, as someone who has been in a few different relationships, I recognize that our dynamic is very special, and am nervous about things that complicate it. He doesn't feel like an open relationship would work for him, since he wants the 'single' experience. I want to make sure that I am doing what's right by me, but not to the point where I make reconciliation improbable. What have other people tried in these kinds of situations? Hiatus with contact? Hiatus with no contact? Full Rumspringa? Boundaries or no boundaries? Personal routines and habits in place to remind ourselves of that person out there that we love? All ideas and anecdotes welcome.

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I'm three weeks post-op from a complete abdominal hysterectomy, perfomed at age 61, so I'm well past menopause. Everything is going very well. Here's my question. Since my ovaries are gone, and this hysto is not an artificially induced menopause, why am still having (extremely mild) hot flashes? I was so looking forward to a hot flash-free fall and winter, as I'm a lover of wool sweaters and down coats, and was looking forward to being cozy and not hot in these garments. Don't hot flashes need a signal from the ovaries to "spark?" Please note, they are only fleeting, and at most, mildly annoying, so I have that to be grateful for. I know you're not a doctor. But for the sake of this post, pretend, okay?

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I'm proposing to my fiancée this week at Burning Man, and my jeweler (a friend of mine) wasn't able to finish the ring before I left. He's going to have it finished by Sunday night, and suggested that we investigate options for mailing it. Is this doable? We've both done some research, and it seems like there *are* some options...Seems like there are two main options for USPS: Priority mail 'Hold for Delivery' and "General Delivery". Hold for Delivery is an official, normal option for mailing things. We could do a hold for delivery to the post office at Gerlach, just outside of the event. My concern there is the timing. Priority mail express is usually overnight, but USPS says "Packages can be picked up within 15 days depending on service selected (5 days for Priority Mail Express®)." For a package sent on Monday morning, it might not arrive until..when? Saturday? General Delivery sounds like it could work faster, and still require ID. But I'm not familiar with that option and can't find clear info about it, especially as to whether we can send it insured, requiring ID/signature, etc. Any help (or additional info) would be appreciated!

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Recovering the Mindset. Three interpretations of a single scene from Manhunter, Red Dragon and Hannibal, in a single edit. Creepy, bloody. Bon appétit.

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Seeking advice on how a 43-year-old man can change careers.My husband has a bachelor's degree in business. He earned the degree in his early-twenties and never got a "real" job after college. He stayed with what he has always done -- an outdoor booth selling retail items to tourists on weekends. He owns the booth/business and it has served him well and had made money and continues to make money to support us. I'm a nurse and was able to stay home with each of our kids on husband's income for one year with our first child and four years with our second. I have worked part-time and PRN over the years and have been full-time in name only for the last couple years. I work around 21 hours per week. Our jobs have allowed us to be home with our kids. We never had to use daycare or babysitters. On the other hand, since husband works every weekend, we don't go out much on weekends and husband missed out on the weekend activities like scout camping trips and get-togethers with friends. I feel like it has probably hampered our social lives a bit but you get used to it. Another thing that has hampered us, if you want to call it that, is perception. A lot of parents at our kids' schools are engineers and lawyers and pilots. When you're a tourist booth guy, it's probably looked down on. People always ask me, "can you make money at that?" We probably don't fit in because of our professions but I guess you get used to that, too. Husband never complains about his business. He never misses a day of work. Yesterday he voiced that he was getting tired of it. Years ago, when we were much younger, I encouraged him to go to law school. He's very bright and I was confident he could do it. He dismissed that idea. As he was graduating college, he went on a couple interviews to financial institutions that didn't go anywhere. At the end of his college program he had a college professor that told him he should seek voice lessons to do something about his voice. I am confident that this comment knocked the confidence right out of him. He never went on another job interview and he never went for voice lessons. His voice can tend to be a higher pitch at times but it always sounds masculine to me, maybe because I am used to it and have been around him for twenty years. I don't think his voice is a huge problem but I could see where it might not work if you wanted to be an Edward Jones financial-planner or something similar, and maybe it was higher than it is now twenty years ago. Husband is great at math. Calm, reasonable, laid-back, very smart --sees the big picture-- knows a lot about history, politics, not a know-it-all, not obnoxious in any way, witty, funny, not rigid in his thinking, open-minded, interested in science, especially in astronomy. He is good with people, especially when doing business with customers. Not very social in his real life. More introverted but definitely can hold a conversation and is funny and overall nice guy. Some more information: -I think his IQ is above average -fast learner, quick, knows how things work -responsible - never been arrested, never did drugs, doesn't smoke, would never drink if he was driving,very occasional drinker, on top of things, takes care of all of the bills, never late with bills, never misses a day of work, responsible parent. We are about to be mortgage free in two weeks -house will be paid off. -got all As in high school and college -likes to watch sports -- football, baseball, basketball, great card/poker player -has four days off during the week. He mostly takes care of the house and lawn, runs errands, picks up kids from school, takes them to music lessons during the week. Kids are in 7th and 9th grade presently. -normal weight, male-pattern baldness. Maybe he looks older because of balding, I'm not sure. He looks early-forties to me. I think he's very handsome. I mention baldness because reality shows that age and looks come into play with being hired. Now that he's 43 and has never had a real job, that could be a problem with trying to find a new job. I thought maybe he could go back to school at our local community college -- an apprenticeship to be an electrician or something. Electrician doesn't appeal to him. I am very confident that he could learn anything like this and be great at it and I'm not saying this because I'm his wife. I think he could be a great accountant. What are his chances of being hired at his age? I also have thought of him getting an entry-level job at Home Depot or somewhere similar and "working his way up the ladder" to some kind of management. Does that happen anymore? Could he get a job someplace like Home Depot when he's always been self-employed? Do you have any advice for this particular situation? Any ideas for career moves? I think he was always ready for a change but it never happened. There was never a good reason to leave a semi-lucrative business for the unknown. I'm thinking if he doesn't do something now, it might never happen, or maybe it's already too late. I thought this ten years ago and I thought it twenty years ago. Ten years ago we were caught up in taking care of the kids and the business worked for our life. Quitting the business now to get a minimum wage job forever would not be smart, since the business brings in a lot more than minimum wage, but getting an entry-level job with a possibility of advancement would be considered if realistic. Any advice or thoughts appreciated. Would letting the tourist booth go and making a career move be smart at his age? Could he be hired at his age somewhere or would going back to school be a better idea? Thank you.

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I am in mid 30s and not married with no children. I constantly get this question from random people I meet, co-workers, relatives -you get the picture (all married). It annoys me and quite literally ruins my day. What's the best way to answer it?It follows a question "do you have a partner?" or "so have you met anyone since we last talked?" I have tried saying something like "it's better to be single than in a bad relationship" but this probably sounds too defensive. I have tried being somewhat honest and said that it's hard to meet a single guy my age but then people would start pitying me. Like "Oh, I don't even know what to say. I am so glad I never had to go through that." Or they would say something like "I heard tinder is good". I even get "You know, time is running out. What's your game plan?". ALL of this just makes me feel depressed. I end up saying stuff like "Well, you know I will be fine if I don't meet anyone. I was never that into having kids so no big deal. Whatever happens, happens." *more pitying looks and sounds". The thing is, I don't want to share even that with the person asking. I am doing it out of politeness but I don't want to feel forced to share what I am not comfortable with. I really, really don't want to talk about my single status. I feel that there is so much more to me than that and frankly, it's not anybody's business. I think it's an invasion of privacy and I feel like I should choose to volunteer that info. Yet when faced with a direct question, what's the best way to answer it, without sounding rude, but making it known that I don't want to talk about it? I started avoiding women in general because men almost never ask me this. We talk about work and hobbies and I feel uplifted rather than intruded upon and reminded of something I already know too well.

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We are going to an event tonight in the Minnehaha Falls area (Minneapolis, Minnesota). Event details are pointing us to the bandshell near the restaurant Sea Salt. When I've searched for more info about the bandshell set-up, I get redirected to the Lake Harriet bandshell, even though I believe they're two separate venues. We would like to know whether or not we should schlep our chairs and blankets all the way from the car. If there is seating, we'd rather not haul our stuff, especially since it will be crowded. Any info/experience is awesome. Thank you!

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Does anyone remember a western where there is a scene in which a woman is holding a crying baby and they are surrounded by coyotes or wolves?The back story is that the woman had once been in a situation were she was holding a baby (maybe her own) and they were hiding from some dangerous people and she covers the babies mouth to stop the baby crying and the baby dies. Then there is a scene where she and a child she has adopted along their travels are surrounded by wolves or coyotes and the child keeps crying and she just says something like "you keep crying baby!" I can't remember what it was exactly but I was thinking about that scene and wishing I knew what movie it was and what the actual quote was. If anyone knows what movie this was let me know! There's a guy in the movie she's teamed up with as well and I think he turns up to save them from the solves/coyotes but I don't remember a whole lot of the movie. Thanks.

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I'm terrible about "setting the mood" for reading. I'd like to develop a ritual or create an environment (at home) that will invite me to ignore all other distractions, curl up with my books and read. So, how do you stage your home reading environment? Do you have pre-reading rituals to get you in the mood?Some environmental things I'm thinking about changing around, and why: - Lighting: what is the best type of bulb/wattage for reading? How should I arrange the lighting in my room? If it matters, I'm very nearsighted and only slightly farsighted. I wear gas permeable contact lenses and +1.0 reading glasses. Also, I do not use an e-reader. - Sound: when reading, I like to listen to hard bop or baroque chamber music (no headphones). I'm starting to wonder if my use or choice of music is eventually overstimulating to me (I find myself tiring of it more quickly than I would if I wasn't reading at the same time), and if I need to change it up or switch to white noise. Are there an studies on optimal "reading" music/sound (or absence of sound)? - Seating: I know the bedroom (and bed) are supposed to be for sleeping and sex only, and that's how I keep it. There is no TV or other electronics in my bedroom, and it's clutter-free. For this reason, I find the bedroom is the most comfortable place for me to read. I don't like to read on the couch or sitting upright in a chair. (I'm about to move to a bigger apartment, so I think the fact that I find the couch/living room too overwhelming for reading will change). I'm not reading books for work/career stuff (usually), so should I really find a better place to read or stick with the bed? - Bringing in the little things: using scented candles or reed diffusers, making a cup of hot tea, using my favorite blanket, taking occasional stretching breaks (maybe I should Pomodoro my reading sessions with some yoga breaks?) One thing that seems to work, so far, is the fact that I love the frames I chose for my reading glasses. So I like putting them on, which in turn makes me feel like it's "reading time." Only problem is I keep one pair of reading glasses in the drawer by my bed, and the other in my purse, so they can be a bit out of sight, out of mind. Maybe I need to find a way to store my reading glasses out in the open, that looks chic and not like clutter? I'm open to any suggestions and would love to hear what others do to set the mood for reading.

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I say "like" too much. When I'm speaking publicly or meeting a new person, I don't, but when someone is in my comfort zone I say "like" constantly. I even realized today that I even say "like" in my thoughts. As in, it is so deeply ingrained into my thought processes that I THINK in like. How can I strip "likes" from my speech?Some experts argue people who use "like" or "you know" or "do you know what I mean" all the time are being more thoughtful or are acknowledging objection while making a point. For me, "like" frequently stems from wanting to be accurate -- for example, if I'm recounting an earlier conversation, I might say, "...And she was like, 'Put the chairs over there'" even if she said different words when she told me to put the chairs away. I want to get her meaning across in a conversational way without claiming to directly quote her, and "like" serves that function. Do you know what I mean? (Look, I'm doing it again!) I want to train myself out of using "like" because even if it stems from a desire to be accurate, it's also a signifier in the U.S. for being immature, thoughtless and lower status. I want to keep on being thoughtful but without like saying like every time I open my mouth. Please help!

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