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I suck at feeding myself. Nothing sounds appealing to me. I don't have an appetite but I still feel physical hunger, and this is leading to some silly food habits that I'd like to change.It feels like there is a disconnect between how emotionally hungry I am and how physically hungry I am, and I don't realize exactly how physically hungry I am until I start eating, and then my drive for food gets stronger and I end up eating these ridiculous things (tomato sauce out of a jar, only celery and peanut butter for half of my meal, only raisins or olives for the other half of my meal; four servings of nuts or tofu in one sitting, or 1/3 of a watermelon in one hour) because they're around, just to get enough food in me. When I have bothered to cook, I can't leave some as leftovers. I'll just end up eating the entire thing, even if it's more than I would otherwise prefer to eat. In the recent past, I have made more of an effort to cook and did genuinely enjoy food. But for the past few months, I just don't feel emotionally hungry. Nothing appeals to me. I don't crave anything in particular. An average day would be: 1-2 hard boiled eggs, some broccoli or greens, two handfuls of nuts, a carrot, an apple, a banana, some yogurt, and a can of tuna. I *think* this is enough for somebody of my height and activity level, but tell me if it isn't: I am in my 20s, 5'4" and 120 +/- 3 lbs (have always been around this, though maybe I used to weigh a bit less), walk around 1-2 hours a day, exercise 3-6x a week (although lately it has been closer to 3 than to 6). I don't count calories but can estimate sometimes. Other things I eat are watermelon, berries, oatmeal (sometimes), nut butters (sometimes), raisins, all vegetables, fish (salmon, sardines, shrimp... everything), and avocados. I don't have dietary restrictions and eat everything, although I have a taste for food that also happens to be healthier or lighter. I don't drink alcohol or caffeine. I know all of this sounds reasonably healthy, but I have somehow managed to make this into a not-healthy thing. Or, at least, I am not terribly pleased with my eating habits. I'd like to reset my eating habits so that I can just eat normal meals and enjoy food again. I don't know where to begin. I live by myself, and cooking for one is not very fun. I also feel bloated and somewhat unattractive if I eat too much. "Binging" (eating more than I would cognitively prefer to in the moment) on foods like watermelon does serve the purpose of getting me to the number of calories I need per day and keeps me from passing out due, but binging isn't really a good feeling, even if I could surely do worse than binging on a food like watermelon. Other information: I don't like microwave meals. I don't like beans or rice. I can't afford to eat out more than 1x a week. Don't say "therapy."

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What program(s) do you use to create an iPad app tutorial?I've never done this before. My Googling has resulted in a somewhat hearty list of program options, but also some conflicting advice—some programs seem to do it all, and right from the iPad; but then I've also seen recommendations that one must first mirror the iPad to a computer and then use Camtasia, whatever, to do the actual recording. What do you recommend?

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Watch this little girl identify fonts.

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I would like to eat yesterday dinner's leftovers but they taste kind of weird. I experimented with making a vegan kale pesto (walnuts, nutritional yeast, garlic, lots of raw kale), and mixed it up with quinoa and white beans. Problem is, it tastes like a handful of cut grass, not in a good way, I think because there's so much uncooked kale in it. How do I make this edible for tonight's dinner? I don't mind cooking the kale pesto mix (in a dough?) but need to keep it vegan.

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"Feminism Has Conquered the Culture. Now Comes the Hard Part: A debate on this unprecedented opportunity" By Rebecca Traister and Judith Shulevitz

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Ken Burns' new film The Roosevelts is 14 hours long. Which hours should you watch? [vox.com] Documentary filmmaker Ken Burns's latest PBS opus, The Roosevelts: An Intimate History. If you'd rather stream, the entirety of the miniseries will be available on PBS.com, PBS member sites, and various PBS digital platforms. (It leaves streaming Friday, Sept. 26, so hurry.) It will also be rerun frequently on PBS and comes out on DVD/BLURAY Tuesday. So that's a whole host of ways to watch. But should you? This sucker, like many of Burns's most famous films, including The Civil War, Baseball, and The War, is really, really long. It's seven installments, of roughly two hours each, so you'll be devoting around 14 hours of your life to this thing. If you really, really like the Roosevelts, that's great, because this is a terrific screen biography of the famous family. But what if you're more Roosevelt-curious?

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"Imagine a job where about half of all the work is being done by people who are in training. That is, in fact, what happens in the world of biological and medical research." --- NPR reports [audio] on postdocs & the scientific workforce as part of a series on the funding crisis in biomedical research. The series also includes When Scientists Give Up [audio], and U.S. Science Suffering From Booms And Busts In Funding [audio].

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I'm getting married in Boston next month. We'd like to rent a karaoke machine instead of doing the standard DJ/dance thing. I know that many regard DoReMi Karaoke the best place in Boston, but I called them yesterday and they said their rental karaoke machines are out of order. They asked me to call back closer to the wedding date because they don't know how quickly they'll be getting them fixed, or even if they want to. Uh oh, I don't have any backup options! MeFi Bostonians, I need your help!There seem to be a couple of other karaoke options, according to some googling: Jin Karaoke Golden Leaf Karaoke Limelight Karaoke None of these places have very helpful webpages. I can call them to ask about rentals, but I am also very concerned about song selection. We would like: - a decent selection of songs in the English language, anything ranging from the classics, to musical theatre, to recent Top 40 hits. - an up-to-date selection of songs in Japanese, which will cover a lot of anime/video game opening and ending themes, but also have Japanese pop hits. We don't really care about the other languages. If none of these places work out, does MeFi have any experience with some of the websites that claim to do karaoke rentals in the area? Google searches turn up sketchy-looking pages like, Rent Karaoke Boston and KP Productions. If nothing pans out, how hard would it be to set up my own karaoke machine on my computer? Downloading a bunch of karaoke songs that work some software to display scrolling text/lyrics must exist. Most karaoke places seem to have their songs on some sort of CD/DVD format anyway. Can I buy these from somewhere? Extra difficulty level: Fiancee and I currently live in the United Kingdom, and we're not landing in Boston for on-site wedding preparations until the week before the wedding. So obviously, we can't visit these places ourselves to get an idea of what their song selection is like. We'd like to get the karaoke machine sorted beforehand, because we don't want to be SOL for the wedding itself.

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I've collected a small amount of music lately that I enjoy very much, but I'm at a loss how to categorize it and find similar music. I've found every label from "classically inspired textural post-rock", through "jazz fusion" to "contemporary classical" slapped on it. Can anyone help me put a finger on what these songs have in common?Here we go (a mix of YouTube and Spotify links): Coat-Hanger Kisses by Roger Doyle, a lovely piece, but I don't much care for his other work. Baleen Morning by Balmorhea, who have other, similar music that I'm currently investigating. Code 32, Goggle 2 and ludixio from Harmonia meets Zappa, even though it appears to be compositions by Roger Eno? Son of Mr. Green Genes by Frank Zappa. And Harmonia Ensemble's treatment of Zappa's Waka / Jawaka. And Gotan Project playing Zappa's Chunga's Revenge.

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What India Can Teach Silicon Valley About Its Gender Problem Author's link of sources

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This week, of course, provided a glorious example of how technology companies have normalized being indifferent to consent: Apple 'gifting' each user with a U2 album downloaded into iTunes. At least one of my friends reported that he had wireless synching of his phone disabled; Apple overrode his express preferences in order to add the album to his music collection. The expected 'surprise and delight' was really more like 'surprise and delete'. I suspect that the strong negative response (in some quarters, at least) had less to do with a dislike of U2 and everything to do with the album as a metonym for this widespread culture of nonconsensual behaviour in technology. Deb Chandra talks about the age of non-consensual technology. Betsy Haibel explains why companies engage in these practises Consent-challenging approaches offer potential competitive benefits. Deceptive links capture clicks - so the linking site gets paid. Harvesting of emails through automatic opt-in aids in marketing and lead generation. While the actual corporate gain from not allowing unsubscribes is likely minimal - users who want to opt out are generally not good conversion targets - individuals and departments with quotas to meet will cheer the artificial boost to their mailing list size.

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For London's Cabbies, Job Entails World's Hardest Geography Test

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"Let's note that I write this while experiencing psychosis, and that much of this has been written during a strain of psychosis known as Cotard's delusion , in which the patient believes that she is dead. What the writer's confused state means to either of us is not beside the point, because it is the point. The point is that I am in here, somewhere: cogito ergo sum." (via)

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"this obsession with testing and using test scores to punish students and teachers —that's the crisis"

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I feel really sad that this part of me (maybe most adults) gets so buried and don't know what steps to take to begin to rectify it? It doesn't help that I am prone to hideous depressions and typically work with wounded people (though sometimes approach this creatively). I am passionate about a very serious project.I have tried crafting.. it helps a tad. I'm generally ok with trying 'new' stuff and often attract (as friends) quite amusing/fun/thoughtful (but busy) people... I am still creative in certain respects, eg cooking or unusual ideas but want to reach the deeper buried riches.. I have tried to sit down and write from my imgaination... it doesn't work, it always ends up looking like a barely concealed reflection of my life. Improvisation (I've 'asked' on this before here) at acting school makes me dry up, though I enjoy it when I see it working with others. I was a very imaginative child (never one for running around much) but loved dressing up boxes (I dress in 'my own way' even now) making things and talking, talking talking. I still talk loads but it can veer to the dark if I'm in a certain place. So I'm going to try reading fairy tales... I'd like to spend more time round kids and am going to try and organise this.. but what else can I try??

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Do you have a goatee? What motivated you to grow one? Why a goatee and not some other style of facial hair? What are your cultural associations with such a look? Basically I just want to know what kind of thinking goes into the decision to grow a goatee.

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"Flight pricing is highly complex and opaque, so travelers often don't have the information they need to get the best deals on flights. Hopper provides insightful, data-driven research to help travelers make better decisions about where to go, and when to fly and buy. At Hopper, we use data sets comprising billions of flight prices to help travelers find the right destination for their budget and feel confident that they're getting the best possible deal." Also check out Explorer, Research and Tools for in-depth analysis and user-activated data application.

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My hair looks best when it has not been washed in two days or so. After that it looks greasy, freshly washed it is super-fluffy. How can I simulate or maximize the sweet spot of day two dirt?I have thick dark Caucasian hair. I'm male. I don't think I'm willing to go no-poo.

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If you live in the Boston area and would like to attend science, technology, math, or engineering lectures, you'll find Fred Hapgood's exhaustive and continually-updated list of Selected Lectures on Science and Engineering in the Boston Area very useful. (Here's his list of sources.) Perhaps you know of a list like this for lectures in your locality or field of preference?

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Radical Librarianship: how ninja librarians are ensuring patrons' electronic privacy "Who are your guys?" some radical librarian resources

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Started online dating. Having trouble processing a pair of dates I recently went on with someone – surely, it wasn't just me?I just started online dating (via OKCupid) a couple of weeks ago and I had incredibly low expectations for the very first date I went on. She came off a little wooden in her profile and in her messages, and she'd keep sending me messages and I'd be thinking, "oh my god, why are you still messaging me?", but I decided to go along with it anyway – hey, it was gonna be my! very! first! online date, so no shame in having a mulligan of it, I thought. I ended up going on a date with her, and looking back on it, I think to say that there were fireworks would be an understatement. It was like a goddamn atomic bomb – we definitely were attracted to each other, ended up spending four-plus hours together, losing track of time, and found out that we had so, so much in common. I ended up walking her home – she lives a block and half away from me, even – and I got a text from her five minutes I dropped her off. That's like the Platonic ideal of a first date, right? We texted intermittently over the next couple of days, and in the meantime, I was still kind of in shock that I was able to hit it off so well with a perfect stranger – seriously, it was like we'd known each other for years before we met, or that we were best friends separated in kindergarten or something. And so I got the butterflies like mad: I was thinking, hey, maybe there could possibly be something more to this – maybe something longer-term, and that that would be wonderful. Our first date was on Saturday, and we set up our second date for the following Thursday, the 4th. We went out for a beer in the neighborhood, then went on a walk and talked a bunch, then realized we were hungry and got some godawful pizza that I burned my mouth on, and went back to her place. We made some tea and snuggled up on the couch under a blanket, talking about everything and nothing in particular and fooling around here and there. Then we moved to her bedroom – I don't remember exactly how this happened, although we were both sober at the time – but one thing led to another and all of a sudden we started making out with our pants off. I was thinking, hey, cool, my first kiss! That was easy! And kind of nice! Even though it was a little awkward (first times and burnt mouth and all), she seemed to be having fun too, although I was a little too nervous to let her know that it was my first time. Anyhow, it was late and we were both really tired, so we ended up falling asleep, spooning and cuddling and she'd occasionally wake me up by making out with me in the middle of the night, which was super nice. We woke up in the morning next to each other with our limbs tangled up and holding hands. We had a bit of pillow talk, but we both had to get ready for work. She wanted to go out and get some coffee together, which I declined because I did not sleep well at all (I'm not used to sleeping with someone else!) and wanted to go home and take a nap. We parted ways effusively and told each other we'd be in touch. So I went home that morning with mixed feelings. I was thinking – wow, that was a lot of fun, but hopefully she doesn't think that I'm a bad kisser. I couldn't help but shake a vague feeling that my inexperience had just derailed everything. I tried to invite her to something a couple of days later, and she texted me back almost instantly, saying that her dad was visiting her from out of the country for the week and that she had to hang out with him, and asked for a rain check. I waited a week, then sent her a text asking how she was, and invited her to a fun activity this coming weekend. That was yesterday (Sunday) evening, and I haven't heard so much as a peep out of her since then, even though she's been active on OKC in the meantime (bad habit, I know.) It feels like she's trying to pull the patented fade-away (as Mr. Google would have it), and in that case, I'm feeling disappointed, hurt, and conflicted – I'm not sure if I should just write this off, after all that's happened, and after how promising things had seemed so early on. I'm not at all angry about the whole thing, but if it's indeed the case that she's in fact not interested, I just kind of wish that she could send me a message letting me know that she isn't feeling it anymore, or something like that – I mean, it's just crazy how we could've gone from that level of intimacy to, well, seemingly nothing, and in no time flat. Welp, that came out a little longer than I'd have liked for it to be. So here's a few questions I've been asking myself recently that I don't have good answers for. FYI, we're both in our mid-20s in SF and we were both a 96% match, if that matters any. 0) Should just I move on? Or hold out some hope and give it some more time? I mean, I'm not exactly hurting for dates, but the other dates I've gone on with people off of OKC have been... somewhat lackluster. I feel like our first date set an incredibly, unreasonably high bar that my first dates with other people in the future won't be able to consistently fulfill, if at all. 1) If she's in fact "pulling the fade", what in the world drives people to do this? It seems relatively common, or at least more common than I thought it'd be. Is it a fear of confrontation, immaturity, or something else? I just can't understand it. If we were only messaging back and forth on OKC, not having yet met up, sure, radio silence I can understand, but after a second date like that? And the chemistry and intimacy we had? What the heck? 2) If not after the first couple of dates, then when can I let myself get least somewhat emotionally invested? When am I allowed to have butterflies? I can't help but think I'm gonna end up with a bunch of trust issues after all this, and this surely won't be the first time it happens to me. 3) How can I communicate better so this kinda stuff doesn't happen in the future? Is that even possible?

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My partner frequently tells small lies. They also keep certain things secret, including behaviors they deem private. This is a lifelong strategy that long precedes me, and in many ways, has nothing to do with me, however, it drives me up the fucking wall.My partner omits stuff or outright fibs about stuff. Some of this is about topics they feel are private and not my business. For example, they have a long-time set of behaviors of secret eating, which they have acknowledged with me, but are not comfortable talking about in detail with me. But also they tell small lies to avoid taking responsibility for things they fear I'll be judgey about, or stuff that they've done that they think someone will be mad at them about. For example, a common thing is they tell people (including me) they didn't get a message because they feel bad that they didn't call back right away. They have said they would never lie about anything "big", like cheating on me or, I don't really know what else falls into that category, (which is part of why this is really upsetting). On one hand, you could frame it like no big deal: they don't bring up certain things that could cause discomfort, they tell small fibs about why they didn't return a phone call or whatever, no big deal right? Or maybe these things are none of my business? On the other I am often visited with a fairly deep suspicion and distrust, because I don't know where the lines are of what I'll be lied to about. And even if it is only about small things, it gives me a feeling that we're just not connecting - this person won't be upfront with me and that calls into question what kind of commitment they have to this relationship. I have thought about it, talked about it with my partner, my therapist, and close friends, and decided it's not a deal breaker. This is a thing we talk about and negotiate about. We have a lot of strengths as a couple and this person has actively responded to concerns I've brought up in the time we've been together, making changes to behaviors including this one. But I have faced the reality that although my partner is willing to work on this, and seems to be making some changes about this, they may never totally stop doing this. This seems like a pretty deeply ingrained behavior and although my partner cares very much about me and wants to do things to keep this relationship strong, they just may never be willing (or able?) to drop this all together. Again, I feel that there are so many strengths in our relationship, and I so enjoy being with this person, and feel cared for and loved by this person, I definitely want to stay together. So metafilter, can you help me understand and strategize about this? First of all, if you are someone who thinks it's OK to tell small "smoothing over" type of lies/fibs/untruths/whatever, can you help me understand this mind set or way of being? Can anyone suggest strategies for us to negotiate and talk about this as a couple? I feel like we hit a wall where I'm like, "Don't do that!" and partner is like, "OK, I will try not to do that!" and I'm like, "How do I know you're not doing that when I keep catching you doing it?!" This just becomes a sad circle and I wish I had better ideas about how to work with each other about it. So basically, insight about how to think about this in a way that has compassion for both of us, and also strategies for how to negotiate and works with this as a couple, would be really helpful.

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My foreign husband found his dream job in the US (already working in the US in a different job, not dependent on job for green card) and underwent a background check with hireright. Hireright completed its report and has said that his university has no record of his education. This is categorically not true.This is categorically not true, in fact we have provided transcripts and diplomas and also have been willing to send a report directly from World Education Services which provides education verification to US employers/universities about foreigners (my husband and his university are both in another country. In his university, the officials and other people who would deal with this stuff do not speak English). This is all happening very fresh so there's still a chance we can do something to set the record straight. We have been up late at night (because of time zones) trying to get a hold of someone in his university to help, but uhhh this country is not exactly known for great responsiveness on issues like this. Also we have directly shared the transcript/diploma (original language and certified translation into English) with the employer and offered to send them the World Education Services report but they say they want everything from HireRight. What do we do? There are lots of reports on-line that HireRight messes up people's job offers with this stuff so... :/

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I need to find a scarf that looks like this in the next week and a half. Any ideas?My boyfriend and I are attending a party where we'll switch off between being Number Six and Number Two from the Prisoner. Problem: It is apparently very difficult to find a scarf similar to the scarf Number Two wears for less than a hundred dollars. I don't have time to knit one myself, I tried ebay and was outbid by a bot, and scarves.com has surprisingly few knit scarves. It doesn't have to be perfect, but something with at least two of the colors and vertical stripes would be nice. My research has told me that this style is called a college scarf or an academic scarf in the UK, but I'm in the US and have a week and a half.

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The 2014 Festival of Bad Ad Hoc Hypotheses, or BAHFest, is a month away. If you're not sure what is in store, you can watch the entire festival (1 hr 32 min), or jump to the winning presentation: Tomer Ullman: The Crying Game (Q&A), or why babies are so annoying and the competitive advantage crying babies likely gave to warriors from times past. "I don't want to get too much into the technical details, so let's not." The other presentations from 2013: Cori McLean: Tasty Chicken, why everything tastes like chicken (Q&A) Jordan Smith: Super Humans, an evolutionary hypothesis on why neanderthals are not around today (Q&A) Dr. Edward Chung: Geographic Expression of Evolutionary Knack Relative to Understanding Lyme Endemicity (GEEK RULE) (Q&A) Stacy Farina: Fish are Dumb, for an evolutionary benefit (previously) (Q&A) Dr. Justin Werfel: Body Size, a fundamental new principal of animal sizes being relative to the body of land or water in which they inhabit (Q&A) If you're up on webcomics, you might already know that Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal inspired this event.

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