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On Monday, at the 2015 American Library Association Annual Conference, actress and author Sonia Manzano announced her retirement from the cast of Sesame Street, where she has played the role of Maria for more than 40 years. Manzano's upcoming memoir, Becoming Maria, explores her transformation from the daughter of an impoverished, chaotic Nuyorican family in the South Bronx to one of the most influential Latinas on television. In addition to her work as a widely-loved series regular, Manzano won 15 Daytime Emmy Awards for her writing contributions to the show, and was inducted into the Bronx Hall of Fame in 2005. Folks on Twitter are tagging memories and expressions of gratitude with #ThankYouMaria. Some of my favorite Maria clips: Maria buys shoes Maria and Luis get married Maria and Luis say hola cerrado y abierto the word is NO Maria has lunch with Oscar and healthy snacks with Cookie Monster Maria goes to the hospital Maria daydreams Maria has a baby (full episode) love in the Fix-It Shop (street scenes) As Charlie Chaplin: in the mirror, in the rain, at the art museum, trying to find the exit. Sesame Street previously.

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Is it really necessary to arrive three hours early when checking in for a domestic leg of an international flight?I'm departing for a trip to Iceland tomorrow, and the first leg of my fight is Milwaukee to Boston. I have a 4-hour layover in Boston, and then continue on to Reykjavik. This makes my Milwaukee-Boston leg part of an international trip, and the airline is advising me to arrive at the Milwaukee airport three hours early. That's 4:05 am for a 7:05 am flight. This seems excessive to me. If I were taking the same flight and my final destination had been Boston, the advice would be to arrive two hours early. What extra stuff am I going to have to go through that might take an hour? Isn't the only difference that they will need to see my passport when I check in? In short, I am looking for opinions as to whether it's really necessary to arrive three hours early for this flight.

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ValleyRecreational420 is a California prop 215 Patient who rolls out outrageous blunts

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"I cycled past this wall on the way to work for years. I noticed that graffiti painted within the red area was "buffed" with red paint. However, graffiti outside of the red area would be removed via pressure washing. This prompted the start of an experiment. Unlike other works, I was very uncertain as to what results it would yield. Below is what transpired over the course of a year." via

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Yesterday afternoon, while on the job, I was involved in a car accident. I was crossing an intersection when a car ran a red light and slammed into my front passenger side. My car went into a telephone pole. Thankfully there were no serious injuries to either parties however both cars were totaled. Witnesses called the police and a police report was filed. The investigator took the statement of one witness who watched the other car run the red light and hit me. I have a few questions about what happens next to make sure I am taking the right steps.I went to the hospital afterwards and the doctor told me I had a cervical sprain. I spoke to my employer and they said that I was eligible for worker's compensation. I filed a claim with my insurance company. Per my coverage, I have a $500 deductible and then they will go after the other insurance company. The police report will take 10 days to be complete and the adjustor is supposed to take a look at the car tomorrow. The car is sitting at the police tow lot which is approximately 70 miles away from where I live. The accident took place in New Jersey. I took a lot of pictures yesterday and have uploaded them to my insurance claim. What are the benefits of worker's compensation? Is there anything else I should be doing right now?

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Next Thursday I have a 515a flight (on American née US Air, so Terminal 1 is my point of departure) out of MSP. Assuming I'll go through security at around 400-415, it seems silly to stay at a hotel the night before. The airport is open 24 hours. What I'm curious about is if I can I go through security around midnight and try to catch a few ZZZs in the terminal? If not, can I sleep safely outside of security, or will local law enforcement tell me to move along?Is there some other place near the airport (aside from a hotel that I'd have to leave at 3:30) that might give me a place to rest beforehand? Are there other options I'm not thinking of? Thank you!

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I'm an east coaster who has been living in Minneapolis for five years. I'm thinking of moving to Philadelphia in a year or more. I haven't actually spent any time there in about ten years (when I did much hanging out with punks in collective houses in West Philly), so, talk to me about neighborhoods in philly?Things I like: density, walkability, but room for gardening. Bikes bikes bikes! Nearby commerce, restaurants and cafes in walking distance, grocery coops, small bookstores, farmer's markets, parks, transit convenience, established communities, neighbors of many ages and backgrounds. Demographically, me and sweetheart are a well-educated working-class couple in our early 30s. When we were younger we were hipsters in the way that most young people who live in cities are hipsters (you know what I'm getting at, right? "Other people are hipsters!" said everybody ever). Maybe we still are. Who knows. Basically, we're looking for the neighborhoods that have a lot of great stuff but without the breathless pace of gentrification and its accompanying woes. Chime in with your thoughts? Thanks!

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A short game sheds light on government policy, corporate America and why no one likes to be wrong. [SLNYT]

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"Science, Chance, and Emotion with Real Cosima": A Longreads profile of Cosima Herter, the show's science consultant and the inspiration for Orphan Black's character Cosima. Mostly not directly about the show, but probably contains some spoilers if you're not fully caught up through season three.

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Tired of seeing your friends' bands? Don't feel like going to that dinner party? Sick of social events? Too polite and/or timid to say "That won't be possible"? Worry no more --pull up your calendar and show your would-be host or hostess that you'd love to make it but you've just too busy. Amazingly busy. Fuck-off levels of busy.

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I'm looking for a back-up program or script that can be run without needing admin rights (to install, even). I have taken the unofficial duty of backing up work files for my workgroup, and I'm looking for something smarter than copying everything once a month. More details inside.First, this is all on Windows 7 machines, and I don't have admin rights to install programs. If there's a great, free app that needs to be installed, I can probably make a case to get IT folks to install it for me, but it has to be able to run by a non-admin. (And it has to be free, because IT doesn't like to manage licenses for software that hasn't been approved by higher-ups, but they're OK with people using Chrome or Firefox instead of IE, and other similar cases of beneficial freeware.) We have official IT back-ups, but that back-up scheme has lead to some accidental deletions becoming final, as the back-ups are over-written every so often. Our files are only 10-15 gb, so it's not huge spacefill to copy the directory once a month and keep a few months of files that way. But I realize this would all be much faster and use less space if I could only back up the new or modified files, but that requires something beyond my basic "copy everything" method. Also, by adding a new base folder, I often have trouble copying files due to path-length limits. I fix the offending files and folders, leaving a note in the original file directory about the original file name and I tell all my co-workers about this so there aren't any surprises, so sometimes I'm lucky and everything copies without an issue. Unfortunately, this last copy had 100+ files where the pathname exceeded the ~255 character limit, which I have to manually change. Because the native Windows "file name/path is too long to copy" dialog box only tells you one part of the file name path, I run Path Length Checker to find the offending files more quickly. In summary, I'd like: A free Windows-base program or script, that can be run without being installed (or is good enough to sway IT); will do a dumb complete backup when manually or automatically run, or will only backup the new and newly modified files, and can log the file path names that are too long to copy, or prompt the user to change them while copying. I also realize this might be a tall order, so I understand if this thing does not exist for free in any form.

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I'll be visiting the USA with lil ubu in spring. Already organised will be a week in Boston, a week on the road somewhere, possibly Colorado. For the third week, I have no idea and am looking for suggestions.Flights back to Australia are out of NYC (probably not heading back that way), Dallas Fort Worth or LAX. I realise this is a very open ended question, but USAians (and others) - do you have any ideas that would tick all the boxes of a 5yo boy?

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Harrison Scott Key, author of "The World's Largest Man" on the writing of memoirs

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In advance of Ian McKellen's new take on Sherlock Holmes being released later this month (trailer), The Guardian has published a nice set on infographics on Arthur Conan Doyle's most beloved detective.

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Hello Kitty Maternity Ward I've read that looking at cute cats have calming effects. I bet being surrounded by Hello Kitty could help you push your way through an easier labor!

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Polls indicate a real opportunity for the New Democratic Party (NDP) to prevail in the upcoming Canadian federal general election. What major changes to the business environment would this portend, thinking not so much of the formal election program but what an NDP cabinet and Commons majority would actually enact?I am interested in changes to the general business and investment tax and regulatory structure, as well as specifics such as the approach to foreign trade agreements, policy regarding the oil sands areas and hydrocarbon production and transportation more generally, potential nationalization of the securities regulatory regime (presently highly devolved to the provinces), and the attitude toward economic sanctions and to whether their might be a human rights overlay placed upon trade and investment relations with China. I am also interested in the extent to which there is a substantial base of business / business wealth support for the NDP which could affect its actions. Strong business constituencies back (for example) Labour in the UK and the Democrats in the US, and serve to counterbalance their trade union and more left-wing factions. Are there such counterbalances in the NDP, or is the NDP a more of a purist left-wing movement (like Green parties, for example).

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Night Physics is a webcomic (currently updating bi-monthly) on tumblr that is sometimes about anthropomorphic animals in a "tough-but-doomed little mountain town somewhere in the American Midwest" being asked what they dream about, and sometimes about some friends living in that town "as they try to navigate relationships, sexual ethics, suburban legends, ancient myths, haunted houses, and psychedelic wastelands--often all at the same time." The story begins when two friends consume exactly too much of a new drug and have revelatory visions about their lives - and afterward, one can't seem to stop having them.

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I'll be spending a long weekend in the East Village (NYC). Where should I park my car?I'm staying near the intersection of Avenue B and East 10th (corner of Tompkins Square Park). I'll need access to the car while I'm in NYC. I'm arriving on a Thursday afternoon and departing the following Monday morning. Convenience and safety matter the most. Cost is less of an issue (within reason!). Suggestions?

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After ten years it's time to retire my Ford F150 King Cab pickup. I'd like to buy something more environmentally kind. Complications: sharing this vehicle between myself and my 6'2" (still growing?) teen driver. AND need to accommodate my chronic illness. Energy(and time) nearly sapped. What should I testdrive? Special snowflake details inside.We need to be able to carry things like camping gear, work tools, or my lever harp, while providing leg room for both tall driver and back-seat passengers (multiple tall friends). I prefer to drive a taller vehicle, having spent two decades in them. Taller vehicles also make navigating South Florida's hurricane-season flooded roads less risky. I'm no longer doing lots of gardening/landscaping, so a truck isn't necessary any more. I'd like to spend no more than $25 K, but could go to $35K for the right vehicle. $40K could potentially happen, although I'd not admit that within hearing distance of a dealership. We have been able to eliminate several smaller SUVs and crossovers just by sitting in them. (Mazda seat designers-what were you thinking?) (We have also eliminated Honda's equivalent). (Husband has also taken an oath to Never Give Ford Another Dollar due to customer service issues, so that eliminates a lot of possibilites right there.) The Chevy Equinox (thanks old Askme on tall drivers!) fit our criteria very well. EXCEPT... One of the issues with my body (I have systemic lupus) is that the vibrations while driving a vehicle can cause discomfort in my hands and body. Discomfort leads to pain...pain leads to inflammation...inflammation leads to the dark side. I spend a LOT of time driving. And recovering after driving. The Equinox's regular performance, while not having horrible vibration, was immediately noticeable to me. I could feel it through the steering wheel strongly, and then through the seat. I can imagine myself finding reasons to avoid attending events because of how wearing driving this vehicle will be for me. This is obviously counterproductive. I tried a test-drive on the Chevy Traverse, and the difference in distress level to my body was immediately noticeable. I was much more comfortable. I could feel my body relaxing, rather than tensing. The ride was much smoother, fewer vibrations. The same distance drive in both vehicles felt much shorter in the Traverse. But ... I really don't NEED that much carrying capacity. And I'd prefer not to be burning that much fossil fuel to haul around empty space. Is a vehicle that will meet my needs as well as my sense of social responsibility some kind of unicorn? Do I need to rethink the tall vehicle concept and learn to drive a car again? (Would that even be a smoother ride in my price level? Husband says the difference in ride smoothness is largely due to the weight of the vehicle.) (Would a couple 6' plus teens even be able to ride comfortably in the back?) Going for a test drive is a major challenge to my energy levels, stress levels, and my calendar, so I'd like to do as few as possible. Your suggestions greatly appreciated!

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This is one of the strangest stories I've seen in some time. I have some idea how these people got their cat wedged into the scanner, but not why.

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While the ancient city of Herculaneum is experiencing something of a archaeological renaissance, the nearby site of ancient city of Pompeii is falling apart due to a cocktail of mismanagement, corruption, weather, neglect, and the decisions of the past. The Smithsonian provides an overview. While Pompeii has been in the news for landslides and structural collapses (and medical analyses of paintings of men's gentalia), Herculaneum's unique collection of antique scrolls made news this winter. In January, it was revealed that 3D Xrays could differentiate letters deep inside a coiled scroll found at Herculaneum. (Original article at Nature) Bonus links: A nice set of virtual tours of Herculaneum | You can see the ancient city of Pompeii via Google Street View

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Shared Prosperity, Common Wealth, National Equity and a Citizen's Dividend: Nirit Peled takes a look at social experiments in basic incomes for VPRO Tegenlicht, a Dutch public television documentary series. Starting with a German crowdfunded UBI chosen by raffle -- kind of like the opposite of Le Guin's Omelas (or Shirley Jackson's Lottery in reverse) -- the focus moves on to Albert Wenger who wants to disconnect work from income not only as automation progresses but to accelerate the process. Then it's on to Guy Standing who has conducted basic income experiments in India and Namibia (pdf) and is trying to get one off the ground in Groningen (Utrecht apparently is also a go). Finally, a stop in Alaska to ask some of its residents about their views on the state-owned Permanent Fund. This last part brings to mind the question: just what is wealth anyway? Wenger hints that in an information economy, wealth is knowledge, but in a recent book Why Information Grows: The Evolution of Order from Atoms to Economies, Cesar Hidalgo makes the connection explicit: Information, when understood in its broad meaning as physical order, is what our economy produces. It is the only thing we produce, whether we are biological cells or manufacturing plants... So it is the accumulation of information and of our ability to process information that defines the arrow of growth encompassing the physical, the biological, the social, and the economic, and which extends from the origin of the universe to our modern economy. It is the growth of information that unifies the emergence of life with the growth of economies, and the emergence of complexity with the origins of wealth. Yet the growth of information is uneven, not just in the universe but on our planet. It takes place in pockets with the capacity to beget and store information. Cities, firms, and teams are the embodiment of the pockets where our species accumulates the capacity to produce information. Of course, the capacity of these cities, firms, and teams to beget information is highly uneven. Some are able to produce packets of information that embody concepts begotten by science fiction. Others are not quite there. So by asking what information is and why it grows, we will be exploring not only the evolution of physical order but that of economic order as well. We will be connecting basic physical principles with information theory, and also with theories of social capital, economic sociology, theories of knowledge, and the empirics of industrial diversification and economic development. By asking why information grows, we will be asking about the evolution of prosperity, about rich and poor nations, about productive and unproductive teams, about the role of institutions in our capacity to to accumulate knowledge, and about the mechanisms that limit people's capacity to produce packets of physically embodied information. Or as Ramez Naam puts it in The Infinite Resource: "Wealth is pulling away from physical constraints. More and more, we're getting richer not by using more resources, but by using resources more intelligently." While that could be distilled into a trite 'work smarter, not harder' statement, it can also be expanded into the concept of a 'personbyte' as Hidalgo does: "the amount of knowledge that one person can reasonably know." Which gets to the idea of 'human capital' and its development. If seen as a resource to be exploited, this would obviously be dehumanizing, but what if labor was reclassified as an asset on the balance sheet rather than a liability? If value flows from people, then as a society -- both public and private -- we'd want to do everything we can to invest in our citizens for the nation to reach its full potential. So tying it all together, a Georgist interpretation of 'natural resources' that is expanded to include human knowledge (incl. public memory) should net one a citizen's dividend from a share of national equity as a particular form of basic income.

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So there's this guy I met at a mutual group hobby we've been going to which has been very enjoyable, but also awkward at the same time.We seem to have a really strong connection, and we've both expressed it to each other, pretty heartfelt. He's come off the bat and said it to me without provoking, and I to him. He's really sensitive and empathetic and I really like that. I think I have feelings for him, he's extremely, extremely, good looking (really specifically to me in my opinion and type, and we have a lot of similarities and common interests). I really enjoy him as a friend as well. He's genuinely a really good human being, and people routinely come up to him and are drawn to him because you can really feel that vibe coming off of him very strongly. I've really never met anyone like that, ever. Even though we have a strong connection and both have said it feels like we've known each other for decades and decades (though we only met a few months ago), I don't think he feels romantic feelings towards me. This is because he mentions other girls that walk by that he thinks are pretty and gives very lengthy stares to occasionally. The problem is that when we've recently spent one on one time just the two of us just hanging out, I've gotten really anxious around him. I know he picked up on it because he mentioned a handful of times that it seemed like I felt uncomfortable, and he would ask if I was having a good time to which I responded I was (even though I was feeling nervous). He put his head on my shoulder really sweetly, and it felt very calming and extremely soothing. We do talk about deep issues a lot and both have trouble with anxiety and depression, to which he said he's struggled with most only of his adult life. As have I, but more lifelong issue for me. It's feels unbelievable to finally meet someone in person who admits to having those same struggles, though he doesn't seem to show them at all or have trouble with them, outwardly. I, on the other hand, haven't been able to keep it under wraps quite as well at all. We do stare into each other's eyes quite intently while talking quite a bit, which makes it hard for me because I really feel such love for him, even just in a general human sense. I feel like I'm going to melt sometimes when I'm around him because he's such a kindhearted person, and I really value that, extremely. I find myself really wanting to kiss him. We've both said we don't make deep connections with people very easily and feel one with each other, but people seem to really be drawn to him in general (which if you met him you would totally understand, it's pretty undeniable). Me, not so much, but that's just been the way things have gone. Not a lot of drawing in of people going on for me as a whole in life, though I would really love that. I really admire that in him, and think it's so sweet. I've also really had a rough time in life as of late, and it's been with issues he hasn't gone through yet as he's 6 and 1/2 years younger than me. When we're out with a bunch of other friends of our mutual hobby I've usually been relatively okay because the focus isn't all on me, but this time where we've been on our own was difficult due to the stress I was feeling around him (though I generally feel really happy to spend time with him, especially when things go well and I don't clam up due to my already present difficulty in dealing with stress). I really think I made him uncomfortable, and I'm really anxious about making him feel that in general. So I feel like I am creating what I don't want, which I've done in the past and is a pattern I want to break with people. In the past this has pushed people away, and I don't want to do that because I really like him as a friend, paramountly. I don't have a lot of good friends, so it really does matter to me. I know I should focus on other things and people, and I am, but I just feel like an idiot from our last interaction. When I look into his eyes I overwhelmingly want to kiss him, and just feel this warmth inside and a bit from him, but I just think that's just part of his personality. He's been talking to a few girls and have told me stories about them and how he likes them (we're both single), so I'm pretty sure that's a red flag he's not into me more than a friend. He does flirt indirectly with me and another girl in the group a bit, but he's quite outgoing in his personality and sexually confident and it does read off of him. I also feel he really likes one of the other girls in the group better because he initiates flirting with her more directly, and a little more benign comments with me. I don't think it would work out in general because I seem to have a hard time with life and he seems to be well driven and doesn't outwardly show that he has any issues with dealing with his stated emotional problems. At least he doesn't when he's around people, he's quite a social butterfly and enjoys interacting with new people. Not in such an overtly extroverted way, but more a genuine interest in other people, a quality I also love. I also enjoy interacting with people (especially ones I don't know because I feel like I have a tendency to mess things up after I let someone get to know me, which I'm sure is a self fulfilling prophecy and I think I'm doing here again). This one is different because he means more, I don't even know if it's really just a romantic attraction, or more the fact that I really think he's such a beautiful and wonderful human being (I've told him that and he's told me, but I find myself wanting to say that more and more). That's the real draw, even though his looks are off the charts for me. I'm not that bad looking, but I think he's in a completely different class. He's had a lot of attention from girls but from what he's said they've seemed to be not so conventionally attractive (i.e missing some teeth). A bit hit and miss, but also a good amount of attractive women too. He's very humble though, another quality I really admire in a person. I do have a bit of a complex of not feeling good enough for anyone that is deep rooted in me, that once somebody really gets to know me they wouldn't want to anymore, or I'd make them uncomfortable in some way (I have a hard time telling people about that, it embarrasses me, and also makes me feel talking about it further perpetuates the problem and puts it out there in the universe, which is a reaction I want to change). So I think the stress pops up in mind and does it for me, so I won't get rejected way down the line. I've worked intensively on this problem myself and thought I had it licked, until someone I really care about comes along to show me I'm back at square one. Yes I've been in a ton of therapy with at least 4 different therapists, who haven't really been that helpful. It's really tiring. After out last interaction he's been a bit distant and quite short in texts, and I'm pretty good at picking up when I've made someone uncomfortable, which I hate doing (I don't say anything weird I just get noticeably uncomfortable and I know people feel it, especially him because he commented on the fact that he thought I felt uncomfortable. I also tend to lose my verbal momentum). He did invite me to go along with 2 another friends we've been hanging out with lately pretty heavily as a unit, but I think he was kind of doing it because he didn't want to leave me out and they probably would've asked about my whereabouts and to call and invite me. He usually does the arranging of hanging out. I don't think he's really thinking about it that much at all, and I'm know I'll see him again (at shared hobby for sure). I just feel bad knowing that I probably made him uncomfortable and for me that means doomsday for the potential of keeping that person in my life. People tend to disappear in the past when that's happened. No one likes to feel uncomfortable around someone else, I get it. I feel the same way, and I can't get my stupid brain to stop doing it. It's usually because I feel like they've hung out long enough with me and probably want to leave, and I'm not a good judge of what people are really feeling or thinking about me at times, if anything at all. So I'm leary of making a mountain out of a molehill, because it's probably and obviously more my issue than anyone else's, and I do own that. So after the ramble... Question! How do I get myself to stay calm and not clam up around certain people and especially around him? I don't want to make him feel off, and fighting feelings just makes them seem to pop up which is a dick thing for my brain to do, if you ask me. He's been real supportive with some of the other things I've been going through, but I also think he wants to just have people to go out with and do fun things with (which I really do too! He doesn't have a ton of core good friends either), but I feel like my recent peculiar demeanor makes him rethink that I'm someone to do that with. I've also had trouble enjoying things lately due to a lot of things I've been through in past years. I had taken anti depressants and had a real horrible and extreme reaction, that I don't think I could go on them again. I do like things to be light and fun, and mostly have no problem doing that with people. I really do extremely care about him as a person and really enjoy his company, so I'm not sure if it's really more than that for me. So I'm confused. If he found a girl and was going out with her I would want him to be happy, and I would be happy for him because he so deserves to be loved, and I'm shocked he's currently not. There is quite a large part of me that wants him to spend time with me and have that happen between him and I, but I don't think that would have much success in the long run. I've been alone for quite a while after a long relationship and nasty breakup, and that old feeling of not being good enough seems to come back up, even though I thought I had gotten through all of that. He didn't seem too involved in my break up story either when we've talked about it in the past. Am I making too much out of this? Is there a way to stop it and keep cool around someone you think is really awesome? Is it a crush, love, or just an intense liking of a friendship? We've known each other for a couple months and have hung out a small handful of times with other friends and recently one on one. I get the feeling he doesn't really want to initiate the one on one specifically again, and I don't really either because I'm afraid I'll get nervous of what to say and clam again. It's obviously more of a problem for me because it's in my head and also an old issue I deal with. Rejection has really had an effect on me in the past, I try not to let it mess with me as much now but I'm still quite sensitive and tender about it. I'm sure if our friendship continues, we will hang out just the two of us again down the line. How do I deal with this and get it under control? I've done a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy and other retraining brain modalities (emdr, dbt and stress/anxiety books). I'm currently on anti anxiety medication and have been for a long while which helps a lot, but doesn't help when I act like an idiot. I'm kinda afraid that I'm going to be all alone in my life because of it, which is not my preferred or desired outcome. I want to tell him and clear up that I just felt some anxiety because he knows I struggle with it as he's stated he has too. I think he would probably understand, but I don't want to put him off any more if I have done that. Again, I don't think he's thinking about it that much, but I know he felt it. I just don't know how much it bothered him if even that much. I feel really exposed and pretty vulnerable about it, but I'm afraid if I acknowledge it and bring it up I'm a bit scared I might make things worse. Then again if I don't tell him (in a tactful and light way), I'm afraid it will fester and come up again. If it did effect him negatively I don't want it to make him feel uncomfortable and effect the friendship we do seem to have been starting (that was off on a good foot), and effect our shared hobby. Any help or suggestions to keep my composure better around people and specifically him would be very much appreciated. I don't know if it's only specifically focused on him, because I've had this problem with people in general, and I've read that a good amount of other people in the world have experienced this type of behavior pattern. Thanks for listening.

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[Facebook-hosted] video of Yengo the baby wombat having a quick romp on the couch.

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Mark Kingwell: "Walking in a city is the greatest unpriced pleasure there is." Baudelaire on the flaneur

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