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We have an otherwise healthy kitty (about 3 years old) except for this issue with the fur on her back. She's basically licking herself to the point of creating sores on her back. How do we fix this?It's been going on for the better part of the year. We took her to the vet about 6 months ago. He gave her a couple shots and charged a bunch of money. It got marginally better for a short bit and then got worse again. That sort of expenditure isn't really in our budget if its not going to be effective. Picture one and two for reference. Things we've also tried with little to no success: Cone: She won't eat or drink and just hides under the couch miserably until we take it off of her. We're not interested in starving her. Vitamins: We've tried a couple (This and this). She eats the chewy one but not the hard one (we've tried pill pockets with no luck). Coconut Oil: We think she just licked herself more I've envisioned trying to put a kitty cape on her that covers from her neck to her tail so she can still use the bathroom, but can't get to her back. I'm not sure if it'll work. I don't think a thundershirt would reach far enough back. Help!

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I got one of these for my birthday: KitchenAid Ice Cream Maker Attachment and would like to actually use it. This is on it's way: Sweet Cream and Sugar Cones: 90 Recipes for Making Your Own Ice Cream and Frozen Treats from Bi-Rite Creamery But I would like to make something in it this weekend, so hit me with your favorite ice-cream recipe. Obviously, needs to work in the above.

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AM/FM - the story of London's pirate radio stations [via mefi projects] Back in the eighties when I should have been studying, I ran a magazine covering London's pirate radio stations and their battles to stay on the air and go legal. At amfm.org.uk you can read the stories of the 25 most important unlicensed stations of the eighties like Kiss-FM, Radio Jackie and DBC, listen to an audio history of London pirate radio from 1975-1990 and dig into all eighteen issues of TX Magazine.

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For the past couple of months, I have been angry (or at least irritable) almost all the time. Though I know many factors can cause this, I am fairly certain that my own anger is linked to trauma / PTSD. I have had plenty of bloodwork done and thoroughly discussed my meds (lithium, Zoloft, clonazepam, trazodone) with my doctor and pharmacist, so those factors can be ruled out. I am seeking your help for ways to lessen the anger or get breaks from it.I often feel angry even when there are no obvious triggers,but there are a few surefire triggers. Men are often quick to incur my wrath (I have had extensive sexual trauma, some recent, at the hands of men), but I also get extremely angry at anyone, including friends, who I think has a lot of unexamined privilege. I see myself struggling to afford food, and then I see these people in my life jetting off to Paris or spending lots of money on backpacks for kindergarteners, and I just lose it. I also have anger that is tied to PTSD triggers, such as people being loud, even if they are small children. The list of what makes me angry is far too long to include here, but you get the gist. I don't enjoy being this mad all the time, and I would love to find a way to stop it or at least have a break from it. I've thought of taking a vacation (it has been 4 years since I did) and see if that helps, but once again finances are a huge obstacle, I don't know of anyone who'd help me fund a getaway, and, since I lack a car, I can't even do something super short. I am getting better at avoiding things that I know will upset me, but certain things are unavoidable (like when I have to ride the bus, which always makes me angry) and there are also always surprises. Though I know that I will eventually move the energy through me and feel more like myself again, this time is super trying, especially when a brief errand almost invariably leaves me filled with rage. Partial list of things I have tried, with mixed results: art, music, screaming/ranting, writing, punching soft things, klonopin, meditation, exercise. Yes, I have thought of using the indignation I feel re: certain social causes as a springboard to start volunteering, but I want to be steadier in myself first. I encourage suggestions, especially from those of you who've experienced something similar. I would also like to kindly request that you refrain from giving advice that centers around making others happy; while that has its time and place, right now I feel like everybody wants something from me, and it would only make me crankier to think of trying to please/appease others. Thank you.

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Mac OS 10.9.4. Prior to upgrading, there was an option in the Activity Monitor where I could set the dock icon to show a color-coded pie chart, indicating how much system memory was in use. Now, it's gone, and I would like to get it back - or something similar, if available.When I right-click the icon -->Dock icon, only the following options are given: Show CPU Usage Show CPU History Show Network Usage Show Disk Activity Show Application icon Thanks to all in advance.

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Announced at the end of June, Emojli was billed as "the emoji-only network." One source called it worse than Yo. It launched yesterday with 70,000 names registered. The creators of the app Tom Scott (previously on Metafilter) and Matt Gray (who shows up frequently on Tom's YouTube channel) presented a talk: "Emojli: Behind the Scenes and Why You Should Never Build An App."

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I'm going to a conference/show/event in October, and I need a good way to present on-going education and new job history. Details inside? You bet.Background: I'm about to complete my master's (education/teaching) degree. Grades/Transcript will be out in January 2015, physical diploma in April 2015. I'm going to start a short (related) course that runs from September - December. Grades/transcript should be out in January 2015. I have a once a week (related!) job. My undergraduate degree is unrelated to my master's. My job history (except once a week job) is also unrelated (office work). I'm a dual national (US/UK with US accent) in the UK. Looking to start work in/after January 2015. Not uncommon my field to get hired 2-5 months in advance and I'm OK with this. -- Conference-show thing is likely to have potential employers. If I find an interested party, how should I present my education/work history to them? *CV? (Would be very, very short if it only covered anything related to my master's. Probably just "expected graduation date, volunteer work, new PT job") *Business card? (I don't have one, but I can get one. What should I write on it?) *Linkedin? (I have many rare names and one common name. Let's pretend my name is Mayhew Jupiter Dinkleberg-Jones. Would it be OK to join under MJ Jones? I have had stalkers in the past.) *Your suggestion here? (Keep in mind it will be in October and I won't have any grades by then. All I have now is a transcript that says I've passed all of my classes so far.) This should be done as cheaply as possible. Note: I'm OK with seeing my University career's office for CV help, but they want 3 hours (!). Wanted to wait until January because I'll have more time, all of my transcripts, and an idea of what's going on with my PT job.

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I'm looking for good examples of bipartisan politicians. Particularly, individuals (or a pair of leaders) known for consistently and effectively reaching across party lines throughout their career. Can be global, not just US, but they need to be well known to a global audience. (No cynical jokes please. Unless they're good, of course...)

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Invertebrate numbers nearly halve as human population doubles. The decline of birds might have something to do with this recent news that half the insects (and spiders, crustaceans, slugs, worms) are gone.

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I'm separated and my wife has the house and has to pay all expenses on the house including loan payments. I went through getting the loan adjusted once, which helped for a while, but now she's behind again. She isn't doing anything herself and hasn't asked for help, but my kids live there too, when they are not with me, But I'm having trouble getting motivated to help out this time. So I'm looking for someone who can deal with the banks to get a refinance.The first time it almost went into foreclosure. It had a reasonably high interest rate loan, so I tried to get a new loan for her, but because of the almost-foreclosure, and because this was right after the housing collapse, no loan came through. Finally I applied for a HARP loan adjustment, and got one (after a major battle). But the interest only went down a tiny amount (and it became an adjustable rate-- for this the bank got a reward payment from the government. What a taxpayer ripoff!) So, once again, years later she's falling behind again. My name is still on the house and I found out that somehow my credit rating is excellent, so I'm thinking of reapplying for loans again. The house is worth twice the value of the loan. Even the issuing bank has a program for adjusting loan payments (though I doubt they'll do it, given the battles I had with the HARP adjustment). The problem is that this time I'm just not motivated to deal with the banks again. She hasn't asked me to do it and she should really be doing it herself. And every time I start working on it, she invariably does or says something really mean or vindictive, and I lose motivation and just put it off. I'm thinking if I can get someone else to deal with the banks and paperwork, it will actually get done. So I need someone who can fill out the forms, deal with the banks, maybe know where it can be refinanced given our weird situation (which bureaucratic banks can't deal with). I'm not looking for someone who is a loan representative looking to make a commission on their particular loan. I want someone working for me, not for the bank! Does anyone know anyone, that has references, that would be good at doing this sort of thing? I'm not sure where to look.

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I am browsing cases in Canada, and noticed several cited "Unreported" cases. The "Unreported" have a year, last name and the general offense. No results when I try to search for them on canlii.org. The provincial court has told me they can't look it up without a first name. Can anyone advise on how I should proceed with my research?

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Ever wondered why your favourite movie star is now in straight-to-video hell? What the hell happened? is a series of articles about the career ups and (mostly) downs of contemporary actors, actresses and directors who were once Hollywood stars (but who stumbled at one point) or serious contenders for stardom (but who did not make it). While the articles are made of known material and rather-matter-of-fact ("...but it got terrible reviews and bombed at the box office"), they offer a singular perspective on what it takes to reach the A-list and stay on it. Kim Basinger * Tom Berenger * Michael Biehn * Thora Birch * Orlando Bloom * Matthew Broderick * Nicolas Cage * Neve Campbell * Jim Carrey * Phoebe Cates * Lacey Chabert * Chevy Chase * Kevin Costner * Geena Davis * Rebecca De Mornay * Matt Dillon * Kirsten Dunst * Colin Farrell * Linda Fiorentino * Bridget Fonda * Brendan Fraser * Mel Gibson * Cuba Gooding Jr. * Heather Graham * Melanie Griffith * Steve Guttenberg * Linda Hamilton * Daryl Hannah * Josh Hartnett * Katherine Heigl * Helen Hunt * Ashley Judd * Michael Keaton * Nicole Kidman * Val Kilmer * Jude Law * Martin Lawrence * Jennifer Jason Leigh * Lindsay Lohan * Ralph Macchio * Penelope Ann Miller * Demi Moore * Rick Moranis * Eddie Murphy * Mike Myers * Edward Norton * Jason Patric * Michelle Pfeiffer * Molly Ringwald * Kurt Russell * Rene Russo * Meg Ryan * Winona Ryder * Arnold Schwarzenegger * Steven Seagal * Elisabeth Shue * Alicia Silverstone * John Singleton * Christian Slater * Leelee Sobieski * Wesley Snipes * Mira Sorvino * Sylvester Stallone * Sharon Stone * Mena Suvari * Hillary Swank * Lea Thompson * Uma Thurman * John Travolta * Kathleen Turner * Jean-Claude Van Damme * Robin Williams * Debra Winger * Reese Witherspoon * Sean Young * Billy Zane * Renee Zellweger

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How do you shop for cheap 2.5 SATA SSD hard drives? I have had them fail suddenly and catastrophically within months. Right now you can get cheap (< $75) 120gb drives branded Sandisk, Kingston, and Mushkin. Is there any difference in terms of failure rates? Is there a particular controller to watch out for? Any other tips?

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We're looking for a color scanner with minimal extras -- we just want something that will allow us to scan documents and produce a PDF. We do not want a printer (as those often won't allow scanning if the ink runs out), we do not need wireless functionality, we're not going to use it for photos, and we prefer actual buttons to touch screens. Ideally, we'd like both a feeder and a flatbed option, but that's not required.Can anyone recommend something? Reliability and ease of use are more important than price.

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I am traveling to Mexico City for two weeks in in mid September, and would love some Mefite Advice on lesser known things to see and do! I am going to all of the main museums, but what are some smaller out of the way ones that are remarkable? Maybe you know the best market for cheap vintage textiles? The very best spot for a drink and people watching? Some relevant information: I am a woman traveling alone, and probably don't want to be anywhere real dodgy after dark, but I am also very comfortable with public transport and navigating new cities. I am staying in the Centro. I only know a tiny amount of Spanish. I like art, architecture, hole in the wall cafes, flea markets, and the kind of places that turn up on Atlas Obscura. I am not so much for the nightlife, but I do like music and the quieter sort of bars. My budget is small, but I can make exceptions for really amazing things. Thanks!

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The situation that prompted one of my first questions on AskMe is unfortunately still relevant. Logistics have improved, my depression is....eh. I'm 25 now and have been out of undergrad for over a year. This is my resume . Ignore the crappy formatting, but... tell me, if you will: 1) What I should be doing and 2) how to get there 3) the fastest way to make decent pocket money right now. I'm very lucky to still be living with my parents and to have their support, so there aren't any huge expenses to deal with, but there IS debt to be paid. No more long-winded, wordy sob stories. I just need a (decent) job. Help, hivemind?

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It's as if every child under age 5 in the United States has seen it. Four times. The New York Times Magazine explores the world of unboxing videos and boggles at the appeal of DisneyCollector, an anonymous and seemingly independent female toy 'reviewer' who may be earning over seven figures. Are the videos' popularity connected to ASMR?

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How do I get access in order to change this light bulb? This is located in a shower stall. I tried turning the glass covering to the left but that doesn't seem to do anything. And if I try to rotate the outer white part to the left if feels like I'm going to break it.

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Here's a run-down of just a few of the publishing platforms I've heard of recently. Some of them are blog-like and others are book-like. Some are for technical writing and others are more general. I haven't had time to try very many of them, so I'm curious what anybody else might think of them before I jump into using one(s) of them. Are there others like these? What are the differences among them? Vellum Hi Medium woop.ie GitBook LeanPub PressBooks

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My husband and I live in Houston, TX and both work long hours. In addition, I'm 9 months into a 2.5 year MBA program. Can you recommend your favorite online or local services to increase our quality of life?Long hours at the office and school means we don't have time anymore for the little things: getting my hair done, grocery shopping, cleaning, planning flights, you name it. We are willing to pay for online or local services that will make our lives easier and give us more quality time together. Please be creative (i.e., we've already looked into house cleaning)! More Background: We live in an apartment in the heart of downtown Houston, TX. We are in our early 30's, and do not have children. I enjoy working out, cooking, and just being with my husband when I have time. Help me make time for the things I love!

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How can our organization stop people from feeling simultaneously guilty and oversubscribed?I'm a member of a newly formed activist group on campus. Here is a thing that happens nearly every week: I get ready to go to our meeting. I have a vague sense of how busy the upcoming week is, and an even vaguer sense of how much time I have to commit to group activities. Say this week it's 10 hours. I go to our meeting, and various projects are proposed (tabling, research, etc.). I volunteer my time for those projects until it seems like I've committed to approximately 10 hours of work, and then I stop raising my hand. However, projects keep being proposed, and other activists keep volunteering for them, and soon it seems like the person sitting next to me is volunteering *way* more time than me - say, 20 hours - and they are feeling overwhelmed. "Can't someone please help me out with this?" they plead. I feel guilty, so I raise my hand and volunteer an extra two hours of my time, which isn't quite enough, but is still more than I meant to commit - so I leave the meeting feeling simultaneously guilty (because I know my friend is taking on more than her fair share of the burden) and stressed out (because I'm taking on more than I intended to.) If this continues to happen, the negative feelings ratchet upward, and soon I start avoiding meetings, either because I'm doing too much and I'm burning out, or I'm doing too little and going to meetings makes me feel guilty. The problem isn't so much that the work is distributed unevenly, which seems inevitable, but that people are, for various reasons, feeling obligated to do more work than they want to do -- there's an absence of both clarity and control. I have some ideas about how to solve this problem, but it seems to me that this must be a problem that plagues every single group that depends on people volunteering their time, and I'm curious about what kind of accepted solutions are out there. I'm planning to present on the topic next week, and ideally I'd like to discuss suggest multiple possible approaches. 1. Is there a keyword or phrase that is used to describe this problem that I could use to do some research on it? I think it'd be cool to mix in some management "theory" along with practical suggestions. 2. Do you have solutions to this problem that can work for groups without an established hierarchy/leadership? I'd be particularly interested in solutions that worked for groups like Occupy. Thanks so much!

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A New Yorker Faces His Phobia, One Stroke at a Time [New York Times] With Intensive Swim Lessons, a Man Attacks His Fear of Water "Traumatized by childhood incidents, Attis Clopton was deathly afraid of water, so he attacked his phobia by enrolling in a program of swimming lessons."

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Next week I have my final interview for a caseworker position with ODSP (Ontario Disability Support Program). If they want to hire me, I'll have a tough choice to make - and it's even tougher because I don't know anyone who works for the program (or even in similar programs). Can you give me some idea about what it's like to work there, or in similar positions?Some background: I am currently employed by a small not-for-profit agency in a job that has a lot of great perks - plenty of vacation and personal time, great co-workers, fantastic clients, a lot of autonomy in my role, flexible hours, and an amazing reputation in the community. The negatives are that the pay is awful (and hasn't increased in many years), there's no chance for advancement because it's such a small agency, and there's no way I'll ever be able to afford to retire on this salary. I will need to leave this job at some point in the future, for all the reasons noted, but it's not urgent that I get out immediately. I could stay there for another year or two without suffering. I really enjoy the good parts of my job. That said, there are seldom any job openings of interest in my community and most of them pay poorly. I think that the good things about ODSP are the salary (starting at 1.75 times what I currently make), the normal business hours, not being reliant on funding applications coming through in order to keep the job, the possibility of being able to retire someday, and ....what else? I've worked for plenty of big for-profit companies, the kinds that have pensions and HR departments, so I know what that environment is like (almost the opposite of where I am now) and I suspect that ODSP is more like those jobs than the small, friendly place where I'm currently employed. I imagine I'd be essentially chained to a desk, have little autonomy, have little personal time/vacation time, and ... what else? I will ask questions at the interview but I know that they're not going to grumble at me and tell me all the positives/negatives of the position - so I'm looking for some real info from anyone who's worked for ODSP or similar ministry/government positions. Please tell me ANYTHING you think I should know. Some starting points: 1. How big of a culture shock would it likely be for me to move into a job at ODSP (or similar) after several years working in a small, not-for-profit? 2. What are the perks/drawbacks of working for ODSP (or similar)? 3. Is there still job security in a job like this? It's unionized, but I've heard some rumblings about working for the government not being as secure and stable as it was in the past. 4. Is there a chance of advancement from a caseworker job with ODSP? Can you move around/upward? 5. Bonus: They've asked me to bring my references to the interview and stated that they must include my current supervisor. My current supervisor has no idea I'm looking, let alone interviewing, for jobs. I would prefer that she not know until I've decided what I want to do. Any advice? Throwaway email: zeeveebee@gmail.com

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I am in the UK and have a UK amazon account. My recipient is in the US. How should I send her books? The books are available on the US website - can I save money and shipping by having them sent from the US? if so how can I do that from my UK amazon account? Thanks, I fail at googling this!

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Most cheap non-rechargeable AA Batteries (typically from China) go flat very quickly. About 15 years ago, typical batteries seemed to last about 4 times longer (my subjective opinion). I want long lasting batteries, what is a good type, what should I look for, what terminology "alkaline?". Thank you.

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