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I worked as a part time nanny for the first half of this year, but I stupidly accepted being paid under the table. How do I pay taxes now?I have W2s for other positions and that's no problem, I don't know what to do with this other significant chunk of income when filling though. Am I going to have to contact the family I worked for? I'd really like to avoid it, but if it's a must I will... I live in Illinois.

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Is there some general music forum where I might ask things like "Suggest me some music that sounds desert-themed" or "What are some good songs with lyrics that aren't about love and dancing?" or "Suggest some songs that include a violin solo."It's easy to find "music similar to [artist]" or "music belonging to [genre]" but more often I find that what I'm looking for will be a single track from some album, or a handful of tracks from a movie/game/etc. Where do I go for this? Is there some gigantic music forum I'm not aware of where people could reliably answer such questions?

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Birgitta Jónsdóttir May Be Iceland's Next Prime Minister - "Poetry told Birgitta that she is alive. The internet taught her that she belongs in this world. The crisis showed her that she has a role to play, and politics showed her that everything needs to change." (Jónsdóttir, WikiLeaks & Iceland, previously) She has never been mild, but her solitude radicalizes her. "I want to be the mosquito in the tent," she says, "so they cannot get any sleep." Stubbornly, Birgitta follows the Pirate Party guidelines: horizontal leadership, power rotation, liquid democracy. She votes in Parliament according to the majority will collected on the Píratar web platform. Birgitta is a captain with no title or privileges. Yet she leads. With only three parliamentarians, Pirates have surged into first place for the next legislative elections. (With 38 percent of voter intention, they are ahead of both traditional parties combined.) "People are really fed up," she comments. Birgitta could become prime minister. She rolls her big eyes and says, "That is my worst nightmare." Birgitta isn't a rebel but a hacker. Complaining and pointing fingers is a waste of time. She has a goal, a plan: Birgitta wants democracy to work again. Being in charge is the price to pay. Yet she imposes her conditions: She wants her hands free. If in power, Birgitta's action plan is clear: apply the new constitution; implement IMMI to make Iceland a safe haven for freedom of expression and data; hold a proper debate on joining the European Union, followed by a referendum; conduct a six-month policy assessment of every ministry; and turn the recommendation into a government plan. After that, Birgitta would step down to force new elections to have this plan supported across the board. A true pirate, she would leave her seat as soon as she is done. Power destroys souls. It has worn her out already. "NSA recording device," reads another sticker on the back of her laptop. "I couldn't care less about them spying on me," Birgitta says. "Actually, no, I hope they are listening to me and that I make them change their minds." also btw... -The miraculous story of Iceland -The Complete Sagas of Icelanders -What lies ahead for Iceland in 2016? -Iceland's recovery: myths and reality -Forget Icesave, Iceland's Next Scare Is the Pirate Party -Hacking Politics: An In-Depth Look At Iceland's Pirate Party -Iceland central bank preparing new weapons to fight capital rush -The Pirate Party Is Now More Popular in Iceland than the Government -Pirate Party Support Exceeds 40 Percent - The pirate party favors a universal basic income and may very well be the first country to adopt it as policy

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Someone on Facebook told our thirteen year-old niece that he knows her IP address and plans to break in and assault her. Is there any way that even a sophisticated hacker could get this from play on one of the Facebook games? Dad says he contacted local police who told him there is nothing they can do and we've asked him to call our state police.

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Thinking a lot lately about love and connectedness. I posted previously about being single, now I'm looking for ways to create more love and connectedness - for myself and others. Not in a romantic sense, but in the sense of friendship and community. I'm somewhat shy and socially awkward, and cautious with people I don't know well, so this is a bit of a hurdle for me. I'm reading books and online material on the subject but it isn't always easy to translate that into everyday practice. What are examples of things that help create connection, help people feel loved and welcome? Books, online material, personal anecdotes welcome.

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triplets+toddler -- multitasking

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As an alternative to a label maker, I'm planning to buy labels I can hand-write on. What do you think of this idea, and which labels would you recommend? Criteria: assorted sizes down to about a half-inch in height (so I can label shelves), writeable, available easily.Why don't I just want a label-maker? Because I'm trying to avoid the cost of tape, which is apparently how they get you.

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I've got the chance to run a fun, whimsical sort of D&D adventure for a friend of mine. Yay! She's a bit of a science/math geek, and very fond of The Phantom Tollbooth by Norton Juster. So I was trying to think of fun, whimsical science and math jokes and references I could slip in to a sort of 'journey with sights along the way' in the style of TPT.For example, I thought at some point she could explore a fractal dungeon, where the main design of a center room is repeated into tinier and tinier configurations around the edges, eventually too small to enter. And being a Discworld fan, I thought the mysterious monster "The Shadowing Lemma" ("that only exists in two dimensions, and eats mathematicians") could make an appearance somewhere. (I'd use a Shadow Mastiff as the D&D equivalent monster.) What are some other fun and quirky and interesting math/science concepts that could make an appearance in a fantasy world? She's played the game plenty, and likes the exploration/fantasy/storytelling/puzzle-solving aspect of the game more than raw combat and power. We're playing 3.5 D&D if it matters, and her character is level 12. Thank you in advance for any suggestions! :)

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Burt's Bees discontinued my favorite product, that I'd been using for at least 10 years. Can you please help me find a likeness or very similar alternative to their citrus facial scrub?The product seems to still be available on a few online retail sites, but for 4x (at best) the price, and a total fade-out is inevitable. I'd really like to not pay $30 for a small jar, but I really loved this product. My skin is very dry, but sensitive and acne prone. Using this in the shower used to really help calm my face down, plus get rid of the dryness. I'm not that familiar with the skincare industry, but here are the ingredients. Is there anything like it around? Has anyone else used this Burt's Bees face scrub, and found something similar?

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Haitian President Michel Martelly will leave office today and hand control over to a provisional government (warning: very graphic image in the link). In the face of massive protests against widespread fraud and irregularities in the election process, the January runoff election was cancelled after second place candidate Jude Celestin refused to participate in an election which he believed was rigged in favor of Martelly's chosen successor, Jovenel Moise. This leaves Haiti without a president. Martelly leaves office 30 years to the day since the end of former dictator Baby Doc's rule.

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I am feeling torn between my life as it is and my life as I think it could have been and wondering whether it is even possible to change tracks at this point, and how I would go about it if it is.I once planned to be a classical musician. I have a B.A. in music. I am not good at any instruments but am a very good singer, which is the thing I have done professionally part time, in my old city. I struggled after college and I ended up...going to law school because it seemed like a structured path I wanted to "do something meaningful." That actually worked out, and I have been working in my chosen career path in the legal profession for the past 2 years. I have done very little music since I started my job and moved to a new city because I wanted to get on my feet with work. But I find myself plotting my escape. I can't just quit now, but I think, maybe 5 years and go be a musician? 10 years if I can make it? Maybe there is a middle road where I can somehow do both things seriously without being exhausted? (There are many pros and cons about my current career but I deleted everything I wrote about that because I want to focus on the feasibility of the hypothetical scenario where I quit to do music.) Pros of trying to be a classical musician again: Not spending 50 hours a week in an environment that sometimes seems tailor made to feed into my depression. Ability to focus without constant distractions. I decided to start playing viola again and am taking lessons--I played as a kid, never worked hard enough to get past an intermediate level--and have been brought to tears thinking, "I can't believe I gave this up." My work ethic and ability to concentrate and get things done has improved astronomically in recent years due to improvements in my mental health treatment. I don't want to have kids, probably don't want to get married, so I legitimately could spend most of my spare time on music. I am NOT happy with it as "just" a hobby--I don't enjoy anything unless I'm serious about it. Cons and concerns of changing course: I feel like I couldn't leave my job unless/until I have the skills to do it, I am "too old" to learn to play viola at a professional level (I'm 30, but classical music is a special beast) and the fact that I spend so much time at my job means I won't have enough time/energy to ever get to a point where I can leave. My impression is there are not many professional opportunities for singing in my current city, and unless you are into opera (I'm not) it's near impossible to make it a full-time career anyway no matter where you are. I don't really want to move again and uproot my life. Currently, I have a good salary and benefits (about $50,000), and though that's not a lot for a lawyer with over $100,000 in student loans, I can do PAYE and my school actually pays that for me because I am in public service. If I do this for 10 years I will be debt free. I'm also afraid of floundering without the structure of my current job and losing the great professional community I'm a part of now. Any advice? If it's possible...how can I do it? Any words of wisdom very much appreciated.

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The top 10 similarities between the Super Bowl and Puppy Bowl THE CHEATING CONTROVERSY N.F.L. fans and Patriots alike are all still reeling from last year's Deflategate scandal. Even though its players are innocent, adorable dogs, the Puppy Bowl is not free of scandal. Toporoff warns, "I think you'll see, with one of the chew toys, there's an issue. We had to stop down the game, and the ref had to investigate a bit." THE PRODUCTION The Super Bowl is shot over about four hours. The Puppy Bowl is shot over two full days. On the first day, a collection of kittens perform in the kitty halftime show. In this case, perform means sit and stare at the camera, or completely ignore it, along with the spinning feathers, catnip-filled toys, and laser devices set to encourage them to do anything at all... Animal Planet: Starting lineup SB Nation: The ultimate Fantasy Puppy Bowl guide, to help you dominate your friends at picking puppies Animal Planet's Annual Event Supports An Important Cause Pet adoption resources Puppy Bowl previously 1, 2

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My husband and I live in New England and we want to move to a warmer location. We are in the brainstorming stage. We'd love to hear of places that tick our boxes.Me: 30, RN Him: 38, Union pipefitter He will transfer to the local UA outfit of wherever we move. Things we want: - WARM! We are okay with hot and muggy, we are okay with torrential rain. (Please take our word on this - he spent two years in east Africa and I spent 10 hot months in Thailand). We do not want winter temps below the 50s, maaaaybe 40's. - Walkable: we will both have cars but I want to be within walking distance of some shops and amenities. I don't mind driving to the grocery store but I want to run some errands on foot. - Affordable: We can afford ~$1500/month in rent for a 1 or 2 bedroom. - Liberal: We are from VT. We love Bernie and kale and riding our bikes and going to farmers markets. I want that that liberal arts progressive college coffee shop feeling. OK, I get that we aren't going to find Brattleboro or Burlington or Montpelier VT in Florida or Arkansas, but I want to get as close as we can. Ideally: - Dog parks nearby. - Trails and hiking nearby. Don't want: - extremely small towns or extremely large cities, lets's keep the population between 5,000-1 million. We are open to anywhere in the USA. We have both roadtripped through the southwest and loved the scenery but didn't stumble on any places that check our boxes. Neither of us have spent much time in the south but if you know of any cool places please let us know.

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Enjoy this animated webcomic about Mozart's early exploits ... up to age nine, along with those of his sister Nannerl.

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My wife lost her car key in a restaurant parking lot last night. I'm home near DC with two kids (2 & 7) while she attends a conference outside Philadelphia. How do we get her home tonight?Dealership in Media, PA is closed on Sunday. Car is a 2015 Camaro. She still has the fob. Car has On Star. Remote start yes, but not drive-able without actual key in slot. Can a locksmith make a replacement key for such a new car? Could a courier service get the spare there cheaper? I can drop the kids with grandparents or aunts, though I worry they'll be a nightmare after a weekend without Mom. Is it reasonable to drive the spare set up to her myself, 150 miles? She's required to attend the second half of the seminar today, but will go re-scour the parking lot and check with nearby stores' losts-and-found at lunch so I'm posting this question while I wait to hear more. Tanks.

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"Demaryius Thomas has just sent his mother a picture of the most unlikely Super Bowl ticket of all, the one intended for her, and now Katina Smith has a few days to decide whether she's prepared to take it."

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Feminist Lindy West writes in The Guardian about how she's experienced years of extreme online harassment from a misogynist blogger and his minions, and about why she's not particularly happy to see them receive the same treatment.

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My single radiator heats the main living areas from one side and the bedrooms from the other. At night it gets down into the 30s/40s. Is there a way I could safely heat just the bedrooms at night? Diagram inside. +----------------------------------------+---------------+ | | | | | | | | bed | | | | | | | | | | | +----+----------+ | thermostat | | | | +--> ++ | | | ++ +----------+ | | | | | | | | | +-+ | | | | | Radiator +++ | | | | | | | +----+----------+ | | | | | | | | bed | | | | | | | +----------------------------------------+---------------+ I'd need some way of blocking off the outward-facing face of the radiator, and some way of getting the thermostat to respond to air on the other side of the wall? Other data points: We rent. We have a toddler who is still in a sleep sack, not in blankets.

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I'm from the US and living in Europe at the moment. I'm used to being able to buy hydrogen peroxide at the local CVS at home, but here it can only be bought in a pharmacy. When I bought some the other day, the clerk seemed to be saying that I could only buy a limited quantity, and gave rather specific instructions for diluting it. Now I'm nervous about using it because I don't want any skin injury or anything from using it. Can someone give me some guidance?Normally in the US I keep a bottle of hydrogen peroxide on hand, mostly for taking blood stains out of clothes (works great!), and the occasional small cut, etc. Recently, I had a guest at a party dump a whole glass of red wine on a table cloth, and after washing, a noticeable mark remains on the cloth. The most promising stain-removal option I found online involves a mix of hydrogen peroxide and dishwashing liquid, which is why I went out to buy some. In the US, I never considered the hydrogen peroxide you pick up at the drug store to be any kind of potentially harmful substance, but the attitude of the pharmacy staff made it seem like I was doing something really out of the ordinary by trying to buy some for personal use. (BTW, I'm not fluent in the language, just enough to get by, basically.) First, she brought out one very small bottle (just about 100ml), and when I asked for more, she said she could only sell me a maximum of two bottles (and she rang them up separately on separate registers). She also asked me what I was using it for. Whens he handed it to me, she said I should use 15ml in a glass of water. These instructions are also written on the bottle. Now, because of language difficulties or cultural differences, she may not have understood me when I said I wanted to use it for cleaning, or perhaps I didn't understand her answer. But after searching online, I'm not clear whether what I've bought is a "normal" strength concentration. Or alternatively, could it be that the concentration will be 3% after diluting it as instructed? In any case, I just thought I'd double check just to be safe. [PS, not too worried about ruining the tablecloth -- the wine stain, if I can't get it out, takes care of that.]

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Dan Hicks, Bay Area music icon, dies at age 74. Last night Clare Wasserman announced that her husband, musician Dan Hicks, had succumbed to liver cancer. Hicks, along with his ever-changing band The Hot Licks, started in the same 60s San Francisco psychedelic rock scene that birthed Jefferson Airplane and The Grateful Dead but followed a separate path with an acoustic sound that incorporated Western Swing, Hot Club of France, jazz and folk. Here's the classic Hot Licks from 1972 performing "By Hook or by Crook" and "Shorty Falls in Love". A more recent performance at Jorma Kaukonen's Fur Peace Ranch of "The Piano Has Been Drinking". And finally his signature song, "How Can I Miss You When You Won't Go Away?".

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I'm looking for a scifi book where two alien species live on the same planet, with different speeds of living (it is not Fire Upon the Deep).A friend who is into "hard scifi" recommended a book, and I am trying to remember the name. It is not Fire Upon the Deep, but my mental connection may be screwing up my recollection. In any case, can you name any SciFi books that have two species living on the same planet, having two different lifecycle speeds: fast and slow? Perhaps this planet is just a "moon". It may be a longish short story. It is probably by a brand name author. I do remember looking up the book the day of, so, final criteria: it has a wiki page :)

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For pretty terrible (and irrelevant) reasons, I haven't filed my taxes in (I think) 5 years. Now I really really need to do them, but I don't know how to start and I get panicky just thinking about the insurmountable piles of paperwork, potential money owing, and even criminal charges. I'm in QC, Canada. If anyone else has dealt with late filing or voluntary disclosure in Quebec, please help!I was a student for 3 of those 5 years, but earned money working full time over the last 3 years. I have T4s from the previous 2 years, and my employers made deductions, but I was freelance before that. I'm not sure if I made the low income cutoff or not. I don't have tax receipts from university either. My papers are not exactly organized. Researching online, it seems I need to make a voluntary disclosure to the CRA, which requires (or benefits from) consulting a tax lawyer. Though I'm not living in poverty, money is tight and I'm worried about the cost. Will a lawyer actually make sense of all my taxes and paperwork, or would I need an accountant in addition if I can't organize my taxes on my own? (i can't). I would love someone to just make it all go away. Do I need a tax lawyer? If so, how do I find a good, cheap one? Thanks

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I spend a lot of time thinking about and feeling inadequate, especially about my appearance. What helps to make this better? And what might help me to feel less angry about it all?I'm in my late 20s and I feel really undesirable a lot of the time. I am a little bit overweight, blotchy skin, frizzy hair... etc etc. When I go out with friends to bars or club nobody ever EVER hits on me or tries to pick me up (except occasionally for older men in their 50s or 60s). I remember reading somewhere that women who are unattractive (and, I think, women who are older), just end up becoming invisible. People don't really see you. That's how I feel a lot of the time. The majority of my relationship experience has been with people who have seen me as a bit of a stop-gap and as good enough for now. It's been almost two years since my last relationship ended and for a large chunk of that time, I've been looking for another relationship. Several people I know, mostly acquaintances, have also been single for months within this timeframe but it seems like all of them, within two months of deciding they want to date, are in healthy long-term potential relationships. They are attractive, skinny, long straight haired, clear skinned women. I am very much not. I want to stop comparing myself to other women. I want to stop being so angry with this society that puts women's appearance at such a premium. I've read this previous post and found it helpful. At the moment, I've started running and meditating, which are good. But what next? What help's with this simmering resentment underlaid with all this inadequacy?

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Classic Era Warner Bros outakes, 1936-46. The breakdowns of 1941 part 1, part 2 The breakdowns of 1946. 1944

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I recently got a great offer from my company for a paid sabbatical of one month. Their conditions are to use it on a personal project of some sort and give a presentation afterwards. I. E. "Don't stay at home and watch TV."I'm in Germany, gay, single. Love hiking, biking, traveling etc, so my nnitial ideas so far are to do another alp crossing hike (did one last summer) , a bike ride along the Danube as far south as I can go, or a 4 week Spanish crash course in Barcelona. I'm not rich, so traveling to Australia or new Zealand us probably not an option, but the US would be. (flights are cheap, and heard some nice things about the Pacific Crest or Appalachian trail.) What would you do with a month of free time if you were me?

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