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My 11 year old daughter suffered two stress fractures in the top of her foot back in May. It is now late July and she is still in a lot of pain and still on crutches, unable to bear any weight, even in a boot. The orthopedic says it is because she needs physical therapy and that she should be healed by now.Her pain has not changed at all. She still cannot bear any weight. She has missed girl scout camp and a trip to see her dad due to all of this. She is motivated to feel better. Everything that I have heard about a stress fracture is that you let the pain tell you when it is healed. She is still in pain. I take her swimming as often as I can to try and keep the area loose. She is a kid and could have re-injured. I'm bringing her to our primary care physician this afternoon for more direction. I need to know what to ask for and what to expect. What is your experience? Should I make her push through the pain, without a follow up MRI, and trust the doctor that she 'should' be healed? Or do I continue to treat her as if it is still fractured, and risk her starting back to school on crutches? On a side note, she takes a long time to get teeth in. She lost her front four and finally got them all in 2 years later. I mention this in case it is an indicator of slow bone development? Might be a reach? For those of you who are curious as to how it happened- she was the victim of a hug gone wrong. Yes, that is right, she's been on crutches all summer because of a hug. A friend of hers (who is a foot shorter than she is), picked her up, swung her around, lost balance, and then landed on her at school, bending her foot backward. That's the kind of luck this poor child has.

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Winter is coming... and I need an indoor sport to play. What sport can you recommend that is not fitness-as-sport (so weightlifting is out), not gear-heavy (hockey is out), not done totally solo (speed skating is out; interactive one-on-one competition like squash is OK), and works up a sweat (range shooting is out)?I think quickly and have good reflexes. I am not strong and have below average coordination. The ideal sport would use my strengths and help improve my weaknesses. Other considerations: I am a bad swimmer. I am young enough to take some bruising, but I don't want to get any concussions. I did not grow up athletic, so sports that people often start as teens and adults would be great (basketball is out). Price: Helicopter racing is out of my range, but it doesn't have to be as cheap as running. I know many martial arts probably meet the requirements. I would prefer ones that avoid blows to the head and don't have much skin-to-skin or skin-to-mat contact. Indoor sports I have enjoyed: tennis, box lacrosse Indoor sports I have not enjoyed: volleyball, dodgeball

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The gals at Anglo-Filles have an entertaining (and epicly long) talk about the history of Dracula and vampires as characters and symbols throughout the ages and throughout fiction - topics discussed include Varney The Vampire, The Vienna Vampire Scare, Where Does Sunlight Killing Vampires Come From, The Secret Spanish Dracula, and Jonathan Harker As An Abuse Survivor.

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In Anti-Surveillance Camouflage for Your Face, technology reporter Robinson Meyer details an experiment in which he tried actually going about his day to day life in downtown Washington DC while wearing CV Dazzle, (previously on MeFi) makeup and hairstyles to confuse facial recognition software. The technique is inspired by the old naval technique of dazzle camouflage, which sought not to conceal a ship, but to confuse viewers as to its size and heading. Similarly, CV Dazzle aims to confuse software by making your face look less like a face and more like a confusing collection of shapes. This proves to have unanticipated effects on how Robinson is perceived by humans as well, leading to insights about how our appearance signals our privilege and place in the social hierarchy, and how that can overlap or conflict with the digital wakes we leave.

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How to build concentration and learn to meditateHi mefites, For those of you who are into meditation or have long concentration spans, how would you recommend building up and getting into a concentration/meditation habit? I have about 20 minutes I can dedicate to this every day. Are there any resources that I could look at to figure out my own programme or look at ones that are tried and tested for other people? Thanks!

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What kind of car insurance do I really need? I feel like I'm spending too much and possibly overdoing it. I'm with Progressive now but don't have any particular loyalty. This is in Wisconsin.- I have an 11 year old car that's paid off. It's a BMW 3-series so they consider it a "sportscar" which is ridiculous considering how I drive but I doubt I can do anything about that. - I do not have the money to replace the car, not even a downpayment for a replacement - I wouldn't bother to fix cosmetic damage on it, I plan to drive it into the ground - I drive about 4000 miles a year, mostly in the city - My last speeding ticket was in 2008 in a different state - My only accident was in 2009 and I was not at fault - I park on the street in a safe neighborhood, but... it's in the same zipcode as one of the most crime-ridden neighborhoods in the city. I got massively dinged for that when I moved. Are there any companies that are more granular in their rating system? - I'm 39, female, and technically still married (which should bring down my rates), but I am the only driver and I will be divorced in the next few months. Do I have to change my marital status when that happens? I'm in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I'm on a really tight budget but I don't know if that means I should get more insurance in case something catastrophic happens, or less, so I save in payments.

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I'm going to the UK and Italy for 5 months for work and am having trouble getting the banking situation worked out.My wife and I are very excited to be about to embark on a 5-month stint in Europe, spending August and September in London and October through December in Italy. I'll be working for my employer's London office the whole time, getting paid in pounds sterling. I think we need both - A pounds-denominated bank account into which I can deposit my pay, and - Some kind of credit card that will help us minimize the extra cost of being paid in pounds and spending in pounds while we're in London and in Euros while we're in Italy All we have now is our US bank accounts (through Wells Fargo, which doesn't seem to have a European presence at all) and credit card. It seems that because we won't be UK residents given that we're only in the UK for 2 months, the major UK banks won't offer us UK bank accounts, so I believe we have to get a pounds-denominated account that's located somewhere other than the UK. I've read past questions (including this one) but haven't had any luck (even with ABN AMRO, who that user went with) finding any account like that that doesn't have a large minimum required balance, which we're not going to be able to meet. Does anyone have any idea where normal people who don't qualify for the wealthy-individual type expat services (like this or this) can get an account to deposit pounds into? I'm hoping that whoever is able to offer me that kind of account can also help out with getting a credit card that I can pay in pounds but will charge minimal fees when we use it in Italy. Any ideas on that front? (I know there are US-based credit cards that offer low-fee international transactions but that would require converting my payment back into dollars which I'd rather not have to do more than necessary.) Thanks everyone!

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So I recently completed a project, and was sharing the news with people on Facebook - but Facebook blocked the link to my website because it was apparently on some spammy/malware blacklist. I did some investigation, and my site comes up clean on every security scan thing I tried, except McAfee SiteAdvisor. It seems likely that it's a false positive, possibly due to my shared hosting. If there's a legitimate security issue, though, I'd like to find out what it is so I can fix it - but I don't know how I can do that.My website does have a Wordpress blog and a forum, so security issues are not out of the question, but I've not noticed anything suspicious in my investigations, and as I said the site comes up clean in every other scan I've tried so there isn't a lot of info I can glean from other reports. I have filed a request for review in McAfee's system, but are there other steps I can take? I have also heard that even after getting a site un-blacklisted by McAfee, Facebook will keep a link blocked and there's a separate process you need to go through with them in order to unblock things. I am less concerned about Facebook than the actual security of my site, though if anyone has advice on expediting this process and avoiding this sort of problem in the future I'd appreciate it.

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I'm looking for good Japanese songs or artists that will teach me new, useful words or phrases so that I can improve. I read articles in Japanese too, but words seem to 'stick' better when I am listening to a song and going over the kanji and hiragana at the same time. Details inside.By useful, I mean words/phrases that I can use in everyday life, not songs with lyrics like "The sword of liiiiight will vanquish the daaaarknessss" (although I like those songs too). In other words, I'm looking for reasonably intelligent lyrics - hopefully with a catchy melody as well. Also, I would say that I'm at a semi-advanced level of proficiency and can speak conversationally just fine. So, I'm looking for songs that might feature lyrics that deal with a bit more difficult subject matter, or introduce words/phrases/idioms that I might not know. (SO NO AKB48!!!) Classics, popular songs, little known songs, it doesn't matter. Any type of music - upbeat, sad, uplifting, setsunai, emotional, rockin', etc. - is welcome. I'll give some examples of artists I like so you can get an idea of what I like: Mr. Children, Bump of Chicken, Utada Hikaru, X Japan, Oda Kazumasa, Hirai Ken, B'z, Spitz, Moriyama Naotaro, Kotoko, Funky Monkey Babys, Ikimono Gakari. I'm forgetting some others. Oh well. Anyhow, I'm looking forward to "hearing" what you all come up with! Hyuk hyuk. PS: Songs from the artists that I listed above would be much appreciated as well.

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In a sixth floor walk-up on New York City's Lower East Side, you'll find The Troll Museum. Run by a woman in elf ears named Reverend Jen Miller, along with her pet chihuahua, Reverend Jen Jr., it's dedicated to her admitted obsession with vintage Troll Dolls and memorabilia. Admission is free, however there is a suggested donation of $3000. Here's an interview and here's a taste of the Rev Jen's guided tour. Unfortunately due to operating costs (the museum is in her living room and she's having trouble making rent), the Troll Museum may be closing soon.

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I'm going to London! Help me find fun things to do. I like comics, small indie concerts, clothes, outdoor markets, vintage stuff, handmade stuff, food, knitting, and going on walks.I'll be in London, UK for nine weekdays in August. No "see the London Eye!" please; I'll be seeing the standard tourist sites on weekends with relatives. I'll be on my own in London the rest of the time, and I'm looking for activities to fill my mornings/afternoons/evenings. I know about directories like Time Out London; the sheer amount of information tends to get overwhelming. I'm looking for specific recommendations here. Thank you, Internet!

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Where Restaurant Reservations Come From: Why did the practice develop? In the startup terms of our day, what problem did the institution of restaurant reservations solve? Well, the answer boils down to... sex and propriety.

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What are the main teeth whitening methods? What are the pros and Cons of each? I found some groupons for "take home whitening" which seems like they just sell you a kit, and I found some for "chair side" whitening (~$100), where they use a gel and LED light? and there are also just over the counter ones. I searched ask mefi, but the last question about this that I found was from 2009, I wonder if the treatments are newer or better now?

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Warmish in late November, good for walking, inexpensive. Somewhere in South America?I'm thinking of taking a trip in late November or early December. I'm female, American, 30, and will likely be alone. I speak Spanish well (aside from not knowing much slang), have gotten by in Italy, and could probably function in a Portuguese-speaking country. The best trip I've taken was a week alone in Amsterdam. I stayed in a hostel and picked one or two things to see per day, then set out on foot and stopped by anything that looked interesting on the way. I'd be happy to go back there, but I'm looking for options that might be cheaper and/or warmer. Seasonal affective disorder hits me every winter so it would be nice to be able to wear sandals and capris, even if the ocean isn't warm enough to swim in. Beach access would be a plus but is not a strict requirement. I might only be able to stay a few days, so this is probably not the time to fly to Australia from the east-coast US (DC metro area). Things I like: - art museums; favorite is modern, least favorite is portrait galleries - street markets - ruins and old houses/churches that are open to the public - architecture in general; I'm currently very interested in buying and renovating a house - gardens and arboretums (arboreta?) - antiques - pedestrian-friendly with lots of casual/street food sprinkled among points of interest Things to avoid: - hewing to a timetable and constantly checking public transportation schedules - massive, tightly packed crowds (hello panic attacks) - camping; I need daily access to modern indoor plumbing That said, carrying all my stuff in a backpack the whole time would be fine. I'm interested in something like Mayan or Aztec ruins but not sure how to handle transportation to remote locations or arranging tour guides (if necessary) as a single traveler. Joining a tour group for a day would be fine, but I don't want to be stuck with a group of strangers for my whole trip. Thanks!

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So long story short, my macbook's screen cracked out of warranty and I don't want to fork up the money to fix it. I am planning on nabbing a laptop from Costco, but their selection is... sparse, to say the least. Help me nab the best one!Although I would like another Mac, I'd like to try out a cheap PC this time around since I'd like to try something new. So, I'm thinking of getting a computer from Costco, since their return policy is so good; I haven't used Windows for a long time, so I figure that if I can't get used to it I can just return the computer and purchase another Mac. I am hoping to keep whatever computer I buy, however. I'm not too confident with picking out a Windows laptop, and could use some help. It seems like they don't have much of a selection, but there's a number that are currently being discounted. I would buy from the site as it has a larger selection, but it seems like most computers would take at least two weeks to ship and I need a computer now. (If you see a computer on the site that is heads above the rest in terms of quality/price, let me know and I might wait for it). Here is a list of the laptops available through their website: http://www.costco.com/all-laptops.html Based on what I could purchase in-store, it seems like the 3 best choices are an HP15-RO53CL, an HP Pavillion 15-N243CL, and a Toshiba L-55. All of them are around the $600-$700 range. I'm not sure which others are in the store - these are the ones I remember seeing. There's no way to search for other in-store laptops on the site, unfortunately. These are all 15-inch screens. The only requirements I have are that the screen is 13-15 inches (preferably 15), and that the battery life is halfway decent - at least 5 or so hours. Anything else (price, make, processor, hard drive size, etc.) isn't as important - I'm planning on upgrading to an SSD in any case. Oh, it would be nice if the computer is discounted. Please only give Costco options, since I can't find a return policy as good as theirs and want to have a decent amount of time to preview the OS. Thanks in advance!

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What literary novels or films could you recommend that can help a male to feel a bit of what it might be like for a wife to be cheated on by her husband? Something where the reader or audience really empathise with the wife/girlfriend, and feel some of her emotions? Thank you.

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I got a pair of blueberry bushes recently. They were potted and intended for ground planting, but I was unable to plant them. I was out of town for a week and a half and they went about that long with little or no water. When I returned, the leaves were brown and crispy and the soil was bone-dry. I put them in the ground and watered them copiously every day, but it's been a few days and they seem no better. Is there anything I can do to revive them, or am I out of luck?

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I'm a full-time public librarian, and I'm always in public - no off-desk time. I really like the customer service aspects of the job, but find it hard to complete other tasks in a timely manner. What productivity tools or other strategies can I use, given that the interruptions are inevitable (and even desirable in some cases)?Assume that "carve out some off-desk time" is not an option. Our building is too small for the necessary office space, and coming in before opening/staying late is not something I'm allowed to do. I have trouble with prioritization and distraction generally, so this is challenging. Add to that the fact that my non-customer service tasks are widely varying and of comparative non-urgency - it's hard to stay focused and accomplish things. The best thing that has worked for me so far is a simplified version of the Autofocus technique - a single long, long paper to-do list that is reviewed frequently. It's not perfect, but it's the closest thing I've come to something useful. Organizing tasks by their nature or priority has not worked well - I spend more time reorganizing than I do getting things done. One particular type of task I could use help with is more efficient prep and teardown for events. I run different events for all ages, most require gathering and putting away lots of different supplies, and it just seems to take me forever. Part of it is better organization of stored supplies, I'm sure, but I just generally find it extremely hard to gather and put away things a long list of things when interrupted frequently. (If early ed or elementary school teachers know what I'm talking about, please chime in. :) ) Any thoughts, tips, or mind tricks you might have are welcome. Thanks!

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I'm underpaid after a year in my first job after Grad school. I've done great work and my boss is happy, but she won't put me up for a raise. I am in the process of looking for a new job and have an interview, but I'd prefer to stay at this one if she would take my request seriously. What's the best course of action? Snowflakes inside.I started at my company 1 year ago fresh out of an engineering masters degree program that directly relates to my job. I was offered a salary of X and negotiated up to X + 2,000, although they told me at the time that they "generally don't negotiate." In the year I have been working I have made substantial contributions to multiple projects and taken on a lot of independent responsibilities that were not necessarily in the scope of my position, but more suited to the next level up. At the end of last year I received a 1.5% raise, along with everyone else. In the past few months I found out that my colleagues at exactly the same level, most of whom were hired with 1-2 years of industry experience and without advanced degrees, are paid 7-10 thousand dollars more than me, one of whom told me he didn't even negotiate! HR told me also that  they are in the process of doing a recalibration of some people's salaries to better reflect market rates, but they wouldn't tell me if my salary was being recalibrated or when any raises would be given. For the first year I could understand my being paid a little less as somewhat of a trial period, but after I've proven myself I would expect to be brought up to market standards. At my mid-year review (also close to my 1 year anniversary with the company) my boss talked to me about how happy she is with my work and how she'd like to put me up for a promotion at the end of the year. I thought it would be a good time to talk about salary and asked if it would be possible to talk about a raise, considering what I had accomplished in the year. She told me that she didn't think anyone would go for it as raises are mostly given at the end of the year in line with more formal review processes. I got the sense she didn't want to rock the boat with her superiors. I dropped the subject. I'm not too excited about being put up for a promotion, as the promotion process is very bureaucratic and requires a lot of higher up people to agree and approve it. I'd like just a raise because it seems simpler and would mostly just bring my low salary in line with the industry as a whole.  I'm still very upset by it and submitted my resume to some other jobs and am getting a positive response. The skill set I've developed at my current job is very desirable in my geographic area and is hard to train for. I'm interviewing for another position in a week, and I would be willing to work for this other company. However, I really like my job, my projects and my co-workers. I don't want to leave, and I'm pretty sure my boss doesn't want me to leave either, as having to hire and train a new person would set the project timelines back considerably, and I don't think it's even on her radar that I would think of leaving, as we have a very positive and friendly relationship.   How do I communicate to my boss that I find my salary unacceptable, that I have other options than the  status quo, and that she needs to figure out how to make this work if she wants to retain me? Hopefully without coming off as very disloyal or bitchy. Alternately, should I just talk to HR since they have already admitted that they are looking into how some people at my site are significantly underpaid?

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Trying to figure out how to begin a career change at 39, when I don't even know what I want to do next. Feeling really adrift and stuck right now – how do I start making a move?I've been working as an instructional designer and project lead at a large consulting firm for over a decade now. I hate the corporate environment, I'm so done with all the needless stress, I'm frustrated at how much of my life I'm spending on things that feel like they REALLY don't matter, and I think if I could do anything in the world I would end up doing something with kids. Back in the mid-2000s, I tried to "escape" my corporate instructional design/project management work by going to grad school in linguistics in the hopes of launching a new career in academics, but while I was competent enough, enjoyed my classes (if I could be a student forever, that'd be swell), and mostly liked teaching undergrads for my assistantship, ultimately I had to face the fact that I just wasn't passionate enough about the field to make it through my dissertation, the job search, or the publish-or-perish approach to a long and steady career. I collected my MS as my fabulous parting prize (so now I've got MS degrees in instructional design AND linguistics ... wooh.) and returned to my old corporate company with the intent of just doing it for a few years while I figured out what I wanted to do next. That was two years ago and I don't see an end in sight. Once I admitted to myself that I didn't want to be a linguistics professor I sought guidance at my university's career center, but they seemed bemused at working with a graduate student rather than an undergrad just trying to pick a major – they directed me to the US Government Big Book o' Jobs and washed their hands of me. I've also tried taking a "Choosing a career path" course at a community college, but that mainly consisted of taking a number of personality tests that told me that in general, I'd do well in a teaching, counseling, or writing field. I don't disagree with that, but I don't know how to explore my options here – right now I feel like all I have are very basic, kindergarten-level ideas of what jobs are available. If I were honest with myself, I'm not even sure if I want to change fields completely or just try to find a different instructional design job – I don't HATE instructional design work, but right now it's so tangled up with all of the things I do hate about my job that I'd love to get away from all of it. After sort of jumping into things with that linguistics jaunt, I'm feeling a little gun-shy of making another move without being pretty darned sure, but I haven't the foggiest idea how the heck one becomes sure. So now I'm feeling stuck and frustrated – I know what I'm doing now is making me miserable, but I don't know how to start figuring out what to do next. I hear about people all the time making drastic career changes for fields that suit them better, and I want that to be me – but how the heck do you DO that? What would YOU do as your first step? There's GOT to be a way out of where I am right now ... right?

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You Are Now Entering the Demented Kingdom of William T. Vollmann: [The New Republic] Home to goddesses, dreams, and a dangerously uncorrupted literary mind.

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We have developed a prototype for non-invasive blood glucose measurement and have problems finding funding. What are the alternatives?The problems are: 1. This field is very controversial. Many people have failed. 2. We are currently EU based but we can also partly move to the US (I am a US citizen) and incorporate there. (I know this is bad) 3. Medical devices are out of favor with the VC crowd. The good things are: 1. University associated company with high class scientists (professors) 2. Several patents and peer-reviewed publications. 3. Working first generation prototype exists. It blows my mind that we can not get funding. I was told now to look into Kickstarter and Crowd funding options. I am not sure if we are eligible for kickstarter due to the medical nature of the project. How promising is funding with a company like Wefunder? It costs quite a bit to get a decent listing there. I am sure it is worth it - IF you get funded. My questions are: 1. Can anyone recommend Wefunder or similiar websites? 2. Are there other options to raise money?

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I do not have any student loans with Nelnet. And yet, I receive telephone calls from the Student Assistance Corporation (evil wrongdoers, as supported on the internet) several times a week. Help me make it stop!I have registered my number with the National Do Not Call Registry. Also, I have reviewed my loans in the National Student Loan Data System and confirmed that I have no Nelnet loans. I have received nothing in writing, including no bills. I continue to get calls from a variety of "Student Assistance Co." numbers, which I do not answer (but report), but this morning's 8 a.m. phone call has pushed me over the edge. What are other options for ending these calls?

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I can't take the sheer vitriol and hate on the posts about Israel/Palestine anymore, and am looking for a Firefox extension or Greasemonkey script that will allow me to just block a post which has a specific word or words. I use Facebook Fluff Buster for FB, but am unaware of a global one, or one for Metafilter specifically. Help!

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David Simon runs into Governor Martin O'Malley on the Acela. O'Malley, current governor of Maryland and former mayor of Baltimore, was one of the inspirations for Tommy Carcetti, the ambitious Baltimore politician in Simon's series The Wire. O'Malley hates this connection, and has let Simon know. Still, both Simon and O'Malley were able to put aside differences and share a beer and a photo. Simon and O'Malley talked about the recent spat between the White House and the governor over immigration, their mutual like of The Pouges, and some other off the record topics. In the comments on his blog, Simon discusses the use of off the record sources. Though Simon has a rather jaundiced view of O'Malley, he also mentions two issues where he's proud of him: the death penalty and gay rights. O'Malley is mulling a presidential run, but would have to contend not only with the Hillary Clinton, but also Tommy Carcetti. At they parted, O'Malley suggested both of them suffer from Irish Alzheimer's. As the governor explained, "That's where you..." "...only remember the grudges," Simon finished.

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