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I travel a lot and I often wonder if you know your plane is going down is there anything you can do to save yourself. For example, could you turn the spare liferaft into a parachute? Or would it be better to try to move to the back? Assume the plane can't be saved. What would mcgiver do?

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Should I become a personal trainer, and if so, how?I have never been an athletic, fit person, ever in my entire life - but am the fittest (and thinnest) I've ever been, at 35. Lost a lot of weight (on my own, almost entirely through getting in shape slowly over more than a year), kept it off for more than a year. I'm really proud of the way I've achieved my changes - without deprivation, without cutting out foods, starting VERY slow and incrementally increasing challenges, through and back up from injuries, modifying as needed, and by making myself strong and fit - as opposed to just "skinny." I used to be obese, and now complete strangers are coming up to me in the park and asking me about my workouts. It's kind of weird for me but also a really neat feeling. I learned to love exercise, challenging myself, try new things, feel much more confident, and all the usual stuff people with similar stories tell. The weightless is nice - but it's almost the least of it, and I've gained so much more. While I've come a long way and learned a lot, I obviously know I have a whole lot yet to learn and don't know much about this line of work. I'm well aware that I will never be in a position to train elite athletes, but I think I have a lot of personal experience and motivation to work with, and to help others. I'm also well aware that personal training isn't financially lucrative for the vast majority of people. I'm fortunate enough to be in a position where I would not have to worry about solely relying on that income. What are the major downsides that I'm unaware of? What challenges could I face? What's the best certification path to take if I wanted to go into training "normal people" like myself? Is it necessary that I work for a gym, or can I go it alone? And if so, what kind of path should I take?

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I'm looking for a lasagna recipe that doesn't have cheese. I'm sure I can probably just leave the cheese off and have it come out fine but I want the recipe to be a little more filling and have the leftovers last longer than if I did that.I'm not looking for any special versions of the lasagna where I have to replace the noodles with zucchini or anything. I am also not interested in vegan cheeses or grinding up nuts to make a cheese substitute, unless I can just slice up tofu and use that and have it come out good? Meat/sauce/wheat noodles are fine as is. Help me replace the fourth major ingredient of cheese with something that will still make it resemble a lasagna somewhat. If you have a more unique version of lasagna (like I saw one that included olives but it had cheese) I am interested in that as well, so long as it has no dairy. I love most veggies so any recipes that add in veggies to the meat and carbfest that is lasagna would be great, again so long as it can still pass for a lasagna. Thanks in advance, I know you guys always have great ideas when it comes to recipes.

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People who have low body fat due to anorexia, disease, etc., look visibly unhealthy. People such as body builders and actors who have low body fat look healthy. I guess I can understand that "little amount of fat over large amount of muscle" looks healthy while "little amount of fat over little amount of muscle" looks unhealthy, but since people generally don't lift weights with their faces, necks, etc., it would seem that their faces would look the same, but that's not the case. What causes the unhealthiness of anorexic/disease/etc. weight-loss to be apparent in the face and neck?

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"I love you so much, I want to carry you around all day in my pocket" . Emily Bernard writes about being the mother of brown-skinned daughters after Ferguson. "For this black mother, the trick is to provide my children safety without suffocation, and prepare them for the fight while also reminding them that the world is a good place, where it's good to get angry and good to hope." This is one of the curated responses to Ta-Nehisi Coates book, Between the World and Me (previously).

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Around 1996 I bought a dress from a mall store (Express or similar). It was short-sleeved, ankle-length, comprised of two or more layers of sheer, silky, solid-colored pastel fabric, and the style was that you would knot or tie up the top layer to reveal some of the bottom layer underneath. I can't seem to find a picture of it anywhere online - can anyone find an image of one of these dresses?

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I'm planning an internet/app/social media free week, and could use some advice on the best way to do this. Specifically because some of the items I want to work during my internet break require online tools. Also, my phone doesn't work well without data; making this extra special snowflake-y.I know there are tools I can use to filter out internet use on the desk top, so only "allowed" sites are accessible, and every thing is blocked. I could use a recommendation for what you like, but I know they exist already so I'm not too worried about that part. I'm on a mac running Yosemite. What really has me stuck though is what to do about my phone. I have an iphone 5s. I could turn off data, but I get really poor reception in my home. And so I end up using wifi for calls and text data. Part of what I want to use my internet free time is catching up on some long overdue calls, so this is important. (I don't have a landline) I'm not sure what I can do that would keep that function on, but also turn off the majority of other apps. And yes, this is where it gets interesting/stupid. I may have to use google docs on my phone as well, which needs a data connection. I would love some suggestions how to accomplish this. Willpower is pretty much out of the equation - I know I will not succeed if I rely on trusting myself. Just one tiny peek at facebook and I'm ruined.

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I have never been a PC gamer...until now. I have a new gaming laptop that has a GTX970M with 6GB RAM, but only an i7 4710HQ (2.5/3.5Ghz). The only "game" I have for now is X-Plane 10. This is actually very processor-intensive and hardly uses my graphics card at all (about 1.8GB of VRAM according to in-game tools), even with the graphics-driven settings maxed-out. Are there any current games out there that will melt my GPU but leave my processor alone, comparatively-speaking?I am not too concerned about game content, and as long as I can shoot for 30fps I will be happy. I simply just want to take serious advantage of my GPU, but with a higher-end graphics card but upper-mid-range processor (compared to overclocked desktop CPUs, anyway), I am wondering if there are any games that can put my disproportionate hardware through its paces. I also have nearly 400GBs of SSD, so I am not worried about game sizes, either. I have a very nice cooling pad under the laptop, so heat for extended periods of time is not a concern, really, either.

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Six people have been stabbed at Jerusalem's Pride Parade following threats from both a Haredi man just released from prison for a similar knife attack at the 2005 Jersusalem Pride parade, and from Lehava, a right-wing Jewish supremacy organization that also held a protest away from the LGBTQ parade route. These knife attacks are unfortunately not the first time LGBTQ Jews have been killed by other Jews; there was a gun attack on the Tel Aviv LGBTQ youth center in 2009 (previously). It appears the suspect struck both female and male marchers randomly, after breaking through the police and volunteer security line. Plainclothes and uniformed police subdued him almost immediately, with civilian parade attendees helping the wounded until medics arrived. Two people have life-threatening injuries, and the remaining four are expected to recover fully. More links (trigger warning for video and stills of actual attack): Joe.My.God. Ha'aretz general coverage BBC general coverage Ha'aretz on suspect's previous threats Failed Messiah - do read the comments if you have a strong stomach and want to understand the attacker's background

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Strongly overcome with the desire to compile a playlist that discuss and highlight emotional labor and when it's unequal. Can you help?When I was answering this other AskMeFi Question, I realized that one of my favorite songs, Jolin Tsai's "The Greatest Artist" consisted of lyrics that directly discussed unequal emotional labor. There are particular lyrics that stick out to me from this song: "He loves you, [for being] easy-going; loves you, [for your] convenience/ Yeah, you dare to be angry but don't dare to voice it" "Wake up, don't be a philanthropist anymore/[because] you actually don't love him that much" "You need to learn how to give up your unwillingness [to see other women take away the boyfriend], and renounce your maternal instinct [the tendency to give and sacrifice]" In the spirit of the amazing emotional labor discussions that have taken place this month, does anyone have songs that they would recommend? I'm looking for those that fit the following criteria: - catchy, great songs (doesn't have to be pop) - discusses themes of emotional labor that were discussed in the thread - discusses unequal relationship dynamics - something you would feel strongly enough to put into a 'calling out emotional labor' playlist

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I need to reach out to an employment lawyer regarding a recent discrimination-related incident at my workplace. I have the lawyer's contact information. What next?I have been provided contact information for an employment lawyer by a friend of a friend. I have never communicated with a lawyer before and am slightly intimidated and am not sure how best to handle the initial email requesting a consultation. What do I need to say in this first email to get the conversation started?

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I am taking an impromptu solo vacation in Italy, three weeks starting Sunday when I land in Milan from NYC. Help me plan a brilliant, immersive trip! Where would you go in my place?Of the three weeks, I am reserving four or five days in Venice to do the Biennale. The rest is wide open. I will have a rental car when needed and take trains otherwise. I will stay at AirBnBs. I speak Italian pretty well. The cities I've been to before are Rome, Milan, Torino and Trieste, but never as a tourist. I would like to revisit Rome and Milan. I am interested in art and design. If I can throw in a few days of swimming somewhere lovely that would be amazing but not required. Recs for places to see, eat, mingle with the locals, dance, shop, all welcome.

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When did the phrase "Garbage People/Person" become popular?At first I thought the phrase came from Jason Manztoukas on How Did This Get Made? but after the incredible line in the new season of Bojack Horseman, and in a recent Mefi thread I'm wondering if I've missed Garbage People all this time or if its fun new slang and I'm just old. Have folks seen it elsewhere? When did people start using it on Mefi?

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Why are some albums missing from an artist's collection on streaming media services like Spotify, BeatsApple Music, etc.? For example, Nitzer Ebb's discography is missing Showtime, and Throwing Muses seems to not include Hunkpapa and the first Throwing Muses (reissued as In a Doghouse). While I'm sure the vague handwavy answer is "because contracts", I'd love to know the detailed rationale. Bonus points if any one actually worked in the sausage factory that hammered out some of the contracts.

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A standoff between Greenpeace and Shell Oil is happening right now high above the Willamette River in Portland, Ore. Yesterday, using mountaineering equipment, thirteen protestors lowered themselves down from the magestically large St. Johns Bridge in a bid to prevent the passage of Shell's icebreaking ship MSV Fennica, which had been undergoing repairs in Portland and was scheduled to depart to assist Shell's oil drilling activities in the Arctic. The protesters have supplies to stay awhile. For now, the ship has turned around and a judge has ruled that Greenpeace will be charged $2500 for every hour the protest continues.

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I'm moving. Many of my SF books can go away permanently. Who where how?Some are hardback firsts. Some are signed. Some are golden age. Some are collectable (for some value of collectable). Is it worth my time and effort to sell them? Failing that, is there an organization that wants them all? My local libraries book sales/giveaways don't feel like the answer. Basically the underlying question is "are used books worth anything currently?" Or. While I probably won't give away my original Dune or Heinleins, who should get my complete Alan Dean Foster, Andre Norton, and Robert Sheckley collections? Thanks.

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I know YANML, but might someone know if there's a statute in Wisconsin law that defines the time period by which someone might declare abandonment by their contractor?in my previous question, we argued with the contractor who agreed that we were not obligated to pay him for his cost overruns, he agreed to eat the costs and he chalked it up to a learning experience. We had a few more phone calls and emails with him and then in mid-April, he went AWOL - not returning our phone calls, texts or emails. We recently sent him a registered letter, which he was not available to receive, nor has he picked it up from the Post Office. The construction is nearly done, there are a few things we need to hire to finish: such as exterior caulking/staining and regrading the driveway. Fortunately, the work he did perform was excellent, it's just not quite finished. There is a bit left from the construction loan to finish his unfinished work, which the bank and the title company have agreed to pay out to us to complete the work. We just want to know if we can consider ourselves abandoned by him.

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I have the opportunity to help a local medical clinic address their policies and procedures for working with transgender patients, specifically the use of proper names and pronouns. This work may extend into other areas related to treatment of trans patients as I might end up serving on their board. Can you provide some resources and links to help?What resources and references can I use to help demonstrate how this is more than an administrative issue, that it directly relates to providing a space for trans patients to feel like they can actually receive medical care without being humiliated? Are there any papers and work instructions for large institutions that I can use as a reference for how to deal sensitively with discrepancies between computer-based systems that "force" a single name identifier, and the need to use a preferred name? Anything along these lines would be helpful.

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I'm looking for a more exciting way to track my budget than the pen/paper/envelope method. But I hate Excel and Mint/YNAB/Quicken seem like overkill for what I'm looking for. What are the best options for tracking monthly expenses tese days?I have a good general handle on my expenses, but I'd like to bump up my monthly savings, so I want to track my discretionary spending a bit more closely. I'm not interested in fussing with my credit cards or setting up a super complex thing, and frankly the hardcore fervor around YNAB and Mint turns me off a bit. I really just want a simple interface: customizable cateories for expenses and maybe a pie chart and a little warning that will let me know when I only have $8 left to spend on Starbucks this month in a way that's more exciting than the tried-and-true actual envelope method. Any suggestions? So far, TheBirdy and PearBudget, recommended in a few posts from several years ago, seem like what I'm going for, so if anyone has any specific knowledge about those (or suggestions for how I can do this easily for free!) I'd love them.

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I live in Montreal and am taking a 1-year sabbatical in the United States (North Carolina). My car will be coming with me. Can I insure the car in NC without importing it into the US?The car was originally bought in the US, so it is compliant with US standards (e.g. odometer and speedometer in miles and MPH). It was imported into Canada a couple years ago and currently has Quebec plates. I will be moving to NC for 1 year and bringing my car with me, and want to make sure that it is properly insured. As far as I can see I have 3 options: 1) Import the car back into the US, register in NC and get insurance for 1 year (paying high rates because I technically don't have continuous coverage), then import it back into Canada in a year, paying fees both ways. 2) Keep it registered in Canada and insure with a Canadian company. This apparently is very complicated due to confusing Canadian insurance regulations. 3) Keep it registered in Canada and insure with a US company. I assume this is impossible. I would really like to avoid #1 as it is complicated and expensive. Are 2 or 3 possible? Is there an alternative that I have overlooked? Any suggestions welcome! Thanks in advance!

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Double Genocide: Lithuania wants to erase its ugly history of Nazi collaboration - by accusing Jewish partisans who fought the Germans of war crimes. "After Lithuanians got independence," he told me, "we hoped that Lithuania would give us help." But it was not to be. In one of its very first independent actions, before even fully breaking free of Moscow, Lithuania's parliament formally exonerated several Lithuanian nationalists who had collaborated in the Holocaust and had been convicted by Soviet military courts after the war. The right-wing paramilitaries who had carried out the mass murder of Lithuania's Jews were now hailed as national heroes on account of their anti-Soviet bona fides.

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Cesena is a small town up in northern Italy, that until yesterday was pretty-well unknown to the world. That changed this morning when a guy called Fabio Zaffagini presented to the Internet his year long-project of getting one thousand musicians to gather in a field and play Foo Fighter's Learn To Fly, with the sole objective of convincing the band to go and do a show in their town. You have to watch it.

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Fourteen days and 12,000 miles of storm-chasing result in one beautiful video.

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I haven't told him yet and feel like a liar. I haven't told him for a reason, but want to tell him now. How should I tell him and how much should I go into detail?I own a flat with my brother, in a nice part of London and feel very lucky and grateful. It was given to us by our grandparents two years ago as a security because our parents have been very unlucky with money and not spent it in the best of ways. My brother was given 50,000 pounds for university as he would be an international student, and my dad took it, spent it all and is now in serious debt, so my brother never went to university. My mum practically lives in a slum with no electricity or water. They used to be rich and spent their money unwisely various times even though my grandparents helped them with money more than once. My grandparents bought my brother and I the flat to protect us. I used to help my parents by giving them both money, thousands, even though I don't have a well paid job and just recently started my life in the working world. This past year I have grown immensely and realised that I am not responsible for my parents well being and have to look out for myself, so I have stopped giving them money and have been a lot happier and no longer am I depressed. I love my life now, but am scared of revealing details about my family who have not treated me very well. On our first date, my guy told me he bought a flat with a mortgage but I didn't tell him about my place. I instead lied and said I am renting at a very cheap rate, because I didn't want to go into the details of my family with someone I barely know, or have him think I am from a rich family when in fact I am not. We have been dating for a couple of months now and I feel closer to him. He says I am happy and optimistic (which I am) but have melancholic eyes, and so I told him a few details that I struggled with recently, also due to family, not mentioned here. I have to tell him I own the flat now, what should I tell him though? I hope he doesn't feel like I was keeping something from him, I feel bad for lying. We aren't exclusive yet but we do like each other quite a bit, however still a lot to learn from each other. Should I say I own the flat and wait to tell him why it was given to my brother and I if our relationship goes deeper, or shall I be open and tell him everything I've written here? He already knows various situations that were tough for me, and there are many more to come and I don't want to treat him like a therapist telling him all the difficult times I've had. I know that it is unwise to go into too many details at the beginning stages of dating as it could drive them away. If it doesn't work out with him, I am also looking at how to tell future men I date. I know I am deserving of love, but I am scared of not being loved if they find out about my family's burdens which are endless and depressing and just a big weight. But if I say I own a flat, they will think I am rich which is deceiving. Thank you in advance.

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Brooklyn Pizzeria Juliana's Named #1 In The United States

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