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TV, movie, and book suggestions for a Daria fanI love Daria and am dismayed that I am just about done viewing the series. I found it to be smart, funny, and poignant, the last of which really surprised me. I appreciated its focus on life lessons and really appreciated that overall it never ventured into vulgarity. I'm really going to miss Daria and Jane and am looking for tv, movie, book, and graphic novel recommendations that might ease the transition. Ideally it would have a female protagonist or a good amount of female characters. Thank you!

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How did you learn to feel comfortable in your body after trauma? (Possible trigger warning)I am currently seeing a psychologist to discuss sexual trauma that occurred when I was an adolescent and how this has played into intense self-esteem and fear of intimacy issues. I don't feel comfortable in my body, I find it unpleasant to touch and I am particularly sensitive to others touching me. (I can be hugged/touched by people I trust and get enjoyment out of this). Talking really helps, and I'm definitely seeing the value in this but I am looking to see if there are any practical and perhaps more physical things I may be able to start doing to help me begin to love and feel comfortable in my body. I have been doing very tiny things, such as lying in my bed and placing my hands on my stomach and just sitting with it to see how I go - It is uncomfortable and slightly weird but I'm getting better. I've also been making an effort to wear really bright and (by my definition) pretty clothes to make me appreciate how I look in some form (can't appreciate my body, but I can appreciate what I'm wearing). I know there is such thing as trauma sensitive yoga and I intend to investigate this further but I would love to hear from individuals who went through a similar experience and who put things in place to learn how to combat this. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

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Long story short, my wife and I are separating and I may try to find work and live in the US (I'm currently in Canada and a Canadian citizen). I'm trying to hear from others who have shared custody of their children where their ex- lives in another country. My situation is across the US/Canada border but I'm interesting in hearing other experiences as well.Both of my children (6, 2) were born in Canada and have Canadian citizenship. My so-to-be ex and I are splitting amicably and I'm hoping to figure out a way to maintain as much of a presence in their lives as possible while living across the border. How have others worked out schedules (when the children stayed where), schools, day care, and other logistics? Am I fooling myself to think it might be possible to make this work?

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The NYT calculates the probability of pregnancy using 15 common birth control methods, for up to 10 years of both "typical" and "perfect" use. Protip: the graphs do slidey comparison things on mouseover!

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I'd like some recommendations for books to get my 6 year old girl who has a vast interior life I only rarely get glimpses of.I'm gone a lot because of work. My wife is not a big reader, though I am and so is our daughter. My wife suggested I start sending her books as a way of staying in touch. I love this idea. However, I don't really have an idea what she likes or will be drawn to. I know she's got a lot going on inside, because every now and then she'll let some comment fall that is wholly beyond my baffled, paternal experience. We went camping recently, and amid a mild conversation about art she exclaimed "Everything is art! You are art! This [stamping the ground] is art!" I'm at a loss. While I'm astonished and pleased at this, I'm also slightly worried about her becoming Sylvia Plath. Anyway, I remember books were such a formative part of my childhood, and it seems like they will be for her, too. Please help me pick some books that sparked an interest in you or someone you love, for this someone that I love. PS, while I am deeply interested in science, she seems more interested in medicine. And zombies. And cake pops.

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My father is, and always has been, a loving, decent, supportive, honorable person. He's also always been crotchety, unworldly, domineering, and set in his ways. Is there a way to encourage him--without preaching and without being strident--to reflect on the ways his attitudes sometimes cross the border from "Sh*t My Dad Says" into less defensibly hateful/ignorant territory?Some examples of what I mean, in more-or-less chronological order of how long I've noticed them. Some of these may be more benign/everyday than others, but I'm trying to list as wide a range of examples as I can think of: - He regularly uses the word "beaner"--especially to refer to landscapers--and he seems to take pleasure in using it. (He's careful not to use it in front of the people it actually refers to.) - He becomes noticeably cagey and irritable whenever he's in a non-majority-white environment. He avoids cities that are known for having large black populations, and overcautions me about safety whenever I visit them--usually avoiding the topic of race for as long as he can manage but he'll always end up saying something like "you know, [Town X] is a predominantly black town, so be careful. Not that I mean anything racial by that." (Er...come again, dad? O_o ) Related examples: I lived in Oakland for six years; when he visited he commented, offhandedly, that the town is "80% black." (Actual percentage: 28%) When I was 24 I did a web site for a black photography exhibit on the South Side of Chicago; when I mentioned this to him he basically tried to forbid me from going to the gallery opening because he was convinced it was too dangerous. - He has little patience for TV roundtable discussions about the black community ("yeah, you've all been suffering for millions of years...") Whenever he watches college football he makes jokes about how black players have probably never "seen a classroom." (N.B. He doesn't express this in explicitly racial terms and it doesn't seem consciously racially motivated, but it's noticeable that he never makes these jokes about white players.) - When I told him anecdotes about being an Anglophone white dude in Korea he responded that "Koreans are white"--the idea being (I guess??) that anything that isn't black is white. When he visited me in Japan he kept commenting, with apparent surprise, that Japanese people "don't look Oriental." - Due to a series of ridiculous coincidences worthy of a Norman Lear sitcom, we had to walk through long stretches of the San Francisco Gay Pride Parade to get to a baseball game during his last visit. His first reaction was to mutter something about believing in individual expression and complain that "you never see a parade for the Marines"; later in the day he said something about how if he saw the "queers" coming through his neighborhood dressed like that he'd "mow them down with an M-16" (weird that his brain kept going to the military); then, that night, when we saw some parade stragglers on the train, he said that they were "what's wrong with this country today: too much freedom, not enough discipline," and asked me if I thought it was "normal behavior" (it wasn't clear if "it" referred to non-heteronormative sexuality or to the parade itself.) I tried to argue that the parade is as much a party as an advocacy event--that it's meant as a celebration of diversity and a momentary questioning of dualistic gender roles (forget the exact wording I used), that there are people in the LGBT community who would agree that it's too ostentatious, and that nobody was saying he had to like it--but none of this really seemed to sink in. (We were, admittedly, both pretty tired by the time this conversation wound down.) For the most part these comments of his don't come across as elements of a deliberately thought-out political philosophy or belief system, and with the exception of the M-16 comment I'm not sure any of it really falls outside what a lot of people of his age and background (73, grew up in conservative Western Pennsylvania, although he did live in Chicago for 40 years) would feel about these topics. So despite the inflammatory thread title I don't think my dad is a "bigot," at least not in the sense that he would understand that term. It's more a case of him having had little social contact with people different from him, never having had any reason to think about what it feels like to live outside mainstream society, and reacting out of emotion to things that are unfamiliar to him, than of him literally "believing" this stuff. Still, it's depressing to me, because I've always known my dad to be a caring and good-hearted guy--way more empathetic than any of his relatives. Yet he seems viscerally resentful of any discussion of minority experience, and he keeps coming back to these attitudes even though he's never seemed particularly invested in them. I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with anything similar with a loved one, and if there's a good way to illustrate that you can be a bigot without "being" a bigot--or to nudge his thinking, gently, about how some of the ideas he expresses can come across as hateful and paranoid even though he, personally, doesn't believe anything hateful or paranoid about them. At times it seems like he really wants to understand the other viewpoint, but at the same time he's so reflexively uncomfortable about it all that the whole thing feels beyond my diplomatic skills. The "structural inequality" argument seems too abstract to get the point across, and everything else seems too accusatory... Any thoughts, as we head into this season of family togetherness? :-)

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I'm interested in teaching high school students mathematics through a tutoring agency. I have the required experience in mathematics, but very little in teaching. This doesn't seem to be a massive problem for many tutoring agencies, but I want to know: do you have any specific tips/advice about teaching mathematics? And more broadly, any advice about applying for and going to work for a tutoring agency?I'm a big fan of maths, and very interested in teaching it. I don't simply like it because 'there's only one right answer' etc, I like it for a frajillion reasons: the beauty of elegant proofs, the fun of problem solving, and the fact that it underlies the functioning of the universe as we know it. Heck, I do maths in my spare time. I make lame maths jokes. I am ready to accept that I am a fully-fledged maths nerd. I understand that enjoying maths is not the same as being capable to teach it. I have gone through much of the high school maths syllabus (I am in Australia) and understand how to teach it from first principles. Anything you can give me that would help me more ably engagingly teach mathematics to potential future students would be much appreciated.

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What are your favorite super-involved, day-long recipes?I absolutely love cooking big, elaborate meals on weekends. Killing a Sunday cooking a complex dish is one of my favorite things in the world - nice roasts, interesting braises, that kind of thing. Unfortunately, I'm running out of ideas. What are some great big, involved recipes that I should try? For reference for the kinds of things I'm looking for, last weekend I made this bo ssam, and the weekend before that I braised and oven-grilled pigs feet, then made soup dumplings with the collagen-ey broth left behind from the braising. Weird or esoteric ingredients are fine - I'm based in NYC so I can get a hold of most things with a little notice. Equipment should be limited to anything you'd find in a well-appointed American kitchen, though I'm not adverse to buying new equipment if I can find it online and its under fifty bucks or so.

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How have you reconciled differing sex drives?I am looking for stories and anecdotes about how you (and your partner) have reconciled your seemingly incompatible sex drives. As the person with the lower drive, what has helped you to compromise and have more sex with your partner? As the person with the higher drive, what have you done to better deal with and accept a frequency lower than you'd prefer? Tips on communicating about this issue, things that have improved the situation, mental hacks for accepting the state of things, all are welcome. If things worked out, and how; or if things didn't, and at what point you realized it was a losing battle. Thanks!

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I am doing some pre-cooking for tomorrow, and hit a snag. The recipe I used for dressing was one loaf of cubed sourdough bread, some sauteed-in-butter celery/onion/green apple, fresh parsley, thyme, salt and pepper, and baked with turkey broth and eggs. The result is a dressing slightly too tangy and without much interest. Hoping you can help.As it stands, the sourdough bread just kind of overpowers the dish and the tart apples add to the tartness. The dressing isn't a sold baked mass and needs more time, so I can fold in some new ingredient- but what? Raisins might be too sweet. Sauteed mushrooms, maybe? That doesn't sound appealing to me, for some reason. I have cranberries on hand, but we already have cranberry sauce. Pecans? Eh. I am thinking diced dried figs for sweetness (but not too much) and toasted pine nuts -? Any suggestions are so appreciated. Thanks, and Happy Thanksgiving Eve!

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I'm the frontman for a band and I recently had a come-to-Jesus moment using in-ear monitors for the first time, as opposed to monitor wedges. But some of the pitfalls scare me and I'm interested in your experiences.We're a five piece powerpop band playing pretty small stages but we are LOUD onstage -- two guitars, Hammond organ, drums, bass, all in a small space. My voice is at its best when I'm not oversinging and as a result I usually end up with the gain on my vocal channel cranked and my monitors absolutely blazing. It's a recipe for feedback and it's very rare that I can really hear myself, which means I'm often off pitch. I recently tried IEMs and HOLY SHIT I CAN HEAR MYSELF. I was pretty much an instant convert. However as the frontman I really need to be able to interact with the audience properly -- that's a big thing for us -- and there is that weird isolation effect going on. I've been experimenting with ambient mics but it hasn't really helped me feel less of a douche -- I'm just wondering what other people's experiences have been and if it's something I'll just get over. FWIW I am using a Shure PSM300 system, with no problems.

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I find it very hard to cope with extramarital attractions that are cropping up several years into my marriage. What gives?I started my current long term relationship when I was in a very bad place in my twenties - depression and substance abuse issues, mess of family and health troubles etc. Due to this, my libido was really low, let's say displaced, for a decade. We lived together and were busy with grad school, several international moves, then we married and had a kid, bought a house, settled down. Our marriage is going strong and I admire and love my partner, whom I believe to be an exceptional human being and an extremely good fit for me. We make a great team and he is my best friend. But recently I feel like I'm surrounded by men I find attractive, and I'm sorry to say, I love it. It brightens my days and brings me joy to flirt even with strangers (I had never enjoyed this before). I try to channel these energies into other fields like music, art, I exercise a lot, I keep busy. But I feel like this flirty persona is the real 'me' that after all these years of difficulties and stress, I've finally found. I've grown into my skin, and to discover men find me sexually attractive - and vice versa - is such a thrill. It's like a whole different world - like somebody switched me from mono to stereo, or from black and white to color vision. I wouldn't want to go back to being blind to all this. But it's also putting me in uncomfortable spots and sometimes advances are hard to resist. Ultimately, it fills me with dread to imagine that I'll be in a marriage for the rest of my life, and that I'll never have another man. I know - this seems like something that should have come up much earlier, like before getting married, but back then I was never strongly interested in other men in a sexual way and assumed it would just stay like that...but now, oh boy. I didn't even know women could feel that way, I thought that was reserved for guys! I feel like I'm resisting a constant barrage of temptations, every.fucking.day. And what to do about it? All the answers I find when I research this start with the assumption that my marriage is somehow deficient - that it's missing something deeper. But after some consideration, I don't think it is. I think we're doing great as a couple and both of us are happy individually, too. We have great sex, communication, respect, etc. It's just...sometimes I feel like I need more than this one man, in a purely physical sense. I realize that putting it out there in the cold daylight like this makes me sound like a total asshole, but there it is. Have you dealt with this? How did you get through it? I understand, therapy, etc., but I'd love to hear how you personally dealt, or deal, with being in a monogamous relationship, and having an active libido and strong physical cravings for other people. Is it just always a struggle? How did you turn it into something that works for you long term? Or is everybody else just having affairs right and left and not telling me about it?

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MeFi Kitty Experts . . . I come to you: I have extensively googled and asked friends and family, but I want to hear your own stories and experiences. Today, at the local animal shelter, I met the most amazing 3 yr old male (neutered) kitty. I want to know if he is a good match for my 10 year old (also neutered) male kitty. This is a ten-year commitment and I want to get it right.6 months ago, we lost our beloved female kitty. She and the 10yr old male got along great . . . they had been together for about 8 years. Existing kitty is a Siamese/Tabby mix. He is playful and vocal and seeks out attention. I love on him when I am home, but am typically gone about 10-14 hours per day. I went to the shelter seeking another older female, but instead met this awesome young male who totally stole my heart. I am ready to bring him home, but for the part of me that somehow believes that two males (both neutered) cannot successfully co-habitate. Tell me your stories and prove me wrong, MeFi . . . can two male kitties live together without dominance and territorial issues? Is this a good match or should I keep looking for a female companion for my boy?

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Is there something I can do to help any future victims of a rapist I failed to accuse in my youth? I'm haunted. I was a 20 yo small town kid, he was a very famous playwright, had a very famous girlfriend, etc. I was a little drunk and alone with him at his free fancy housing at our local college. He was very handsome, but even more charming. We had been flirting for a couple weeks. Jesus, I was the ultimate townie mark. And I feel like this already puts me so close to the line of calling him out I'm a little scared. I certainly can't afford an attorney...ever. I fully intended to have sex with him. When I realized he had no plan for protection...I offered oral sex. Jesus... I was so young. He just flipped me over, pinned me down, and raped my ass. After pleading..um, pain!and no! and even less safe AIDS DUDE! and instead of trying to reason, which was clearly failing...just decided to start screaming super loud, he shoved me out his door and called me a silly little girl. Good times. Unfortunately, this took a hell of a lot longer to happen than it takes to tell. It was brutal and obviously rape while it was happening...and stunning in it's violence. I've spent a great deal of time thinking about how I feel about what happened, how women, jesus...I was just a girl, really...are treated if they...realize the situation is dire too late. I'm not even that small...I was so completely physically trapped so rapidly it was shocking. Just...no chance of escape. Fully pinned. Pretty much no chance I'd end up on the good side of any equation that put me on a witness stand. I was a poor waitress in a small town, he is a very, very big deal. So I just...wanted nothing to do with it. Live and learn, eh? Now I'm feeling so insanely responsible for every possible potential thing he likely did to any/every next woman...I can't sleep at night. I am completely beside myself. I failed. I know it. It was the 90's. It was soooo scary. I've googled to see if his name shows up with the word rape, but ...only in his movies. Jesus. While incomprehensible, I understand that there is a statute of limitations. I'm way beyond it. Because, dude, get over it!? Riiight. It's bullshit. If I'd stabbed him afterwards, WHICH WOULD HAVE BEEN SUPER AWESOME I'd still be on the hook for it 20 years later. He isn't. Mostly, seeing all these women finally come out against that big famous dude lately, I'm feeling really bitter about not only my weakness as a kid, but also wondering if there are 20 other women who want to pull the trigger on pressing charges, and all they need is another woman to say "yep. He does that." I can't come out now, without totally getting sued, right? I'm just...done here, until rape allegations come out from someone else, right? True facts: -it's been 17 years -I cannot afford an attorney -I was drunk. I wanted to have sex with him. -game over. right? I just can't sleep with the guilt of it. So, is there something helpful I can do? Therapy is not, in my circumstance, a helpful suggestion. Been there, with a brilliant person, done...some of that.

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What is the song in my head?Details I remember: No earlier than 90s, could be 2000s. Alt or rock/pop. It got radio air time, probably on a top 40 or other mainstream station. It was probably from an already established band. The only part that I remember is toward the end there is a pause and then one thin sounding piano (could be a really plinky guitar) comes in and one very high pitched, male vocalist sings a verse along the lines of "and then it's there for a minute" (or "then you're gone in a moment" or... I just don't know). The ending is pretty melancholy sounding, with very minimalist instruments and vocals. Please help, it's killing me.

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I have a 15 gig iPhone of the previous generation, and the Safari web browser has had some interesting quirks of late. When I've left websites with logins unattended for more than, say, thirty seconds, I automatically get logged out (even when I've clicked the "keep me logged in" box on the login page). More recently, the cache has "forgotten" the URLs for websites I frequent. I've set "never" to the Block Cookies option in settings. What can I do to get Safari to keep me logged in and to cache/remember the sites I visit?

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Next weekend I'll be performing in a holiday concert with my chorus. This will involve, including rehearsal and performance time, roughly 11-12 hours (over the course of two days) of standing almost completely still, with my hands at my sides, on a very hard marble church floor.In previous years, my feet have ached terribly by the end of the performances from standing still on such a hard floor with little chance to move around. The ache starts in my feet and creeps up my legs into my knees and eventually my back and shoulders. I've tried wearing blue gel inserts in my dress shoes (cheap ones I bought at a pharmacy), and they help a little bit, but not much. I'm looking for things I can wear (better inserts? Special shoes?) or do (exercises? postures?) that will prevent or minimize the damage before it occurs. My sore tootsies thank you.

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I need elegant but relatively uncomplicated cookie recipes (yes, just cookies: I don't have any cupcake tins at present; not inspired right now to bake a pie or cake, either - however I am open to sweet bread loaves like chocolate pumpkin bread*) that I can make with what I *already* have in the pantry/fridge, and can whip up either tonight or tomorrow morning before Thanksgiving festivities. Pantry contents inside.*BUT I've already done chocolate pumpkin bread and would like to do something new. What I have in my pantry and my fridge (that is relevant for baking, anyway): PANTRY - White flour, whole wheat flour, bread flour, cornmeal - Baking powder, baking soda - White granular sugar, and light brown sugar - Walnuts (shelled) - about a cup's worth - Semi-sweet chocolate chips - Shredded coconut - 2 cans of pumpkin - Some left over, still fresh, high quality imported balsalmic vinegars (maybe a 1/4 cup left of blackberry ginger balsalmic vinegar; 2 cups straight balsalmic vinegar, 1/2 cup mango white balsalmic vinegar) - High end (and some low end) olive oil, grapeseed oil, coconut oil, sesame oil, vegetable oil - Shortening - Rose water (unopened bottle) - Lavender blossoms, dried for culinary use - Fresh cardamom pods - All the other standard baking spices (cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice, apple and pie spice mixes) and wide variety of others that might be unexpected but pleasant in a cookie (saffron? smoked paprika?) - Vanilla bean pods - Vanilla extract, orange extract, almond extract, peppermint extract - Cream of tartar - Cinnamon sticks - 1 can Sweetened condensed milk - Sea salt (ground) - French grey sea salt (coarse) - Whole peppercorns - Half of a standard size container of Nutella - Black, green, and herbal teas - Pretzel sticks - Quick oats (no slow oats that I could find tonight...) - Golden raisins - Pumpkin seeds - Sunflower seeds - Flax seeds - Wheat germ - Vanilla protein powder - Half a bottle of leftover Merlot from last evening, that I would consider donating to the baking cause if it was warranted - Jameson Irish whiskey, bourbon (the good stuff), Frangelico, Grand Marnier, Campari, cognac (spiced), creme de menthe (clear, not green) - Grenadine, simple syrup, bitters FRIDGE: - 1/2 dozen eggs - Half and half - Flax seed milk (unflavored/unsweetened) - Unsalted butter - Margarine - Almond butter - Natural peanut butter - 1 15 oz container of whole milk ricotta cheese - About 4 limes and 4 lemons - New, unopened jar of quality apricot jam - Several fresh macintosh apples - Jalapeno peppers - A lot of aged cheeses TOOLS/ETC AT MY DISPOSAL - A conventional oven with cookie sheets, bread pans, a pie/cake pan - Halogen stove top - Cast iron skillet - Kitchenaid mixer with the three standard attachments - Parchment paper/aluminum foil - All the standard kitchen knives/cutting boards/general kitchen tools - A food thermometer - Zesters, graters - Silicone 'brush' for brushing on melted butter, egg washes, etc - A stovetop smoker - A mid-size Cuisnart food processor TOOLS/INGREDIENTS I *DO NOT* HAVE: - Confectioners sugar, cream cheese, or most things you can make frosting with (so frosting is out, unless someone knows how to make great non-sloppy frosting with what I have... is there a ricotta hack for this???) - Given the above, also not in a position to make any whipped cream by hand - White wine or champagne - only very dry and bold red wines, and some homebrew IPAs (plus the abovementioned liquor/liqueurs) - I *don't* have a flour sifter but I know a few ways to DIY this with success - A food scale - An outdoor grill (I live in an apartment) - A blender (yes, I know, I know, but the last one broke and I haven't replaced it yet - only the food processor for now) I'm open to all suggestions, but I've already decided I don't want to do any lemon ricotta cookies. One because I don't have what I need to make the glaze, and two because I just don't want to do any lemon-dominant cookies. Would LOVE good ricotta (or shortening-instead-of-butter) based cookies that go beyond citrus. (Oh, and no food allergies to speak of. My sister hates nuts but I'll make sure hers don't have 'em). Thank you!

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Here is a video you might want to watch. It is a video of a Shih Tzu in a teddy bear costume walking on a treadmill. Which is why you might want to watch it. (SLYT)

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I am trying to remember the name of a mystery series I ran across recently and my google-fu is failing. All I can remember about it is that it was a mystery series, it was available on DVD in the U.S. (my local library has copies), and there were multiple seasons. Can you help me figure out what it might be?Here's everything I can remember about the series. It's not much to go on, and so far I haven't been able to find anything that looks right by googling. --mystery series with several seasons (at least 4, perhaps as many as 6 or 7?) --I think it was a BBC production, but I am not sure -- IIRC the DVDs were labeled "series #" rather than "season #" --historical; I had the impression, reading the back of one of the DVD cases, that the characters may have interacted with Arthur Conan Doyle (or possibly Sherlock?) --I don't think they were "cosy" but I could be wrong --I think the series is recent-ish, early 2000s or late 90s at the absolute oldest --the main character was a man, and I think he may have been rich, or at least well-off enough to have a house with a housekeeper and/or other staff. I ran across a couple DVDs of the series at a branch of my county library. They didn't have the first series, and I didn't have time to look for it in the catalog. I foolishly thought I'd remember the name, but no such luck. Suggestions, Mefites? Bonus question: can you recommend some series similar in overall *tone* to the Brother Cadfael, Miss Marple, and Foyle's War series? My family (2 40-ish adults, one pre-teen boy) has really enjoyed watching those together, and we would love more suggestions in that vein. (N.B.: though David Suchet does a fine job as Poirot, none of us have really liked those mysteries; also not the Midsomer Murders series because those too often have some troublesome content, e.g., references to incest, child abuse, etc.)

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The Secret Life of a Crime Scene Cleaner (via) If the places we inhabit are like lungs, rhythmically drawing us in and breathing us out, Sandra Pankhurst's job as founder of Specializing Trauma Cleaning (STC) Services Pty Ltd. leads her somewhere in between — homes with the lights still on where death, sickness and madness have abruptly abbreviated lives.

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Is there any way to get free calling and texting on wifi but through a carrier when wifi isn't available (using the same number)?I currently have a Google voice number (that now has free calling thanks to 2.4 update!) But it only works through wifi. But I don't want to get a whole new number to be able to call/text outside of wifi ranges. Is there any way to forward texts and calls somehow to use Google Hangouts when I can, and to use the carrier otherwise (to save on texting and calling charges when wifi is available)? Is there any way to do this? Kind of like porting my Google voice number to a normal carrier, but still being able to use Google voice with that same number...Ting.com had some discussion about this, but I couldn't find any details.

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Whales Aren't Keen on Being Flayed Alive By Gulls by Ed Yong (National Geographic Phenomena). Previous report from 2 years ago (Ed Yong). Abstract cited in article: Change in southern right whale breathing behavior in response to gull attacks, Marine Biology, November 2014.

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Our almost-three-year-old loves Peter Gabriel's "Sledgehammer" video (AKA "the fruit video"). Any suggestions for fun visually-creative videos?She also likes A-ha's "Take On Me," the B-52's "Love Shack," and OK-Go's "Here It Goes Again." As you might be able to tell by the songs, I am a geezer, but we're open to more modern stuff, too.

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My workout music is centered around Public Image Limited's Metal Box ("Poptones," "Swan Lake," "Memories") and the first four tracks on The Walker Brothers' Nite Flights ("Shutout," "Fat Mama Kick," "Nite Flights," "The Electrician" ) What else am I missing when it comes to intense, propulsive jams?

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