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I can hear water running behind / below my kitchen sink, but nothing is on. Also, nothing is wet.I live in an older apartment building. I am on the top floor. While I was at work, some service guys were in my apartment earlier today to install kitchen cabinets. Since I got home from work, I have been hearing this running water sound in the kitchen behind and below the sink. There is no water running anywhere in my apartment. I do not have a washing machine. The sound was not previously present in the three weeks I've lived here. I ran my hands below / around the sink and sink area; nothing is wet. It doesn't sound like something is getting wet - just the rushing water. Is this a call-an-after-hours-plumber emergency, or can this be chill until Monday (besides, like, noise)? I don't want this to be flooding anyone's apartment or something.

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Is there anything like Bandsintown or Pollstar for touring/visiting authors?When I read something I like by a living author, I'd like to know whether/when they'll be appearing somewhere within a few hours' driving distance (which for me means a handful of college towns, a handful of mid-sized cities, and two or three towns of a million or more, all in the Midwest). It'd also be nifty to be able to say, I'll be in town X on the Y day of this month; wonder if any good authors will be in town that day? So I'd like to find an app or website that pulls author appearances into one centralized place (ideally RSS-able), so that I can: -Search for an author to see where they'll be stopping off -Search towns to see which authors are coming, and to where -Search individual venues to see who they're booking I know I can check online for these things the long and tedious way (looking up individual authors' or publishers' Facebook and webpages, scouring individual online arts weeklies)—having them all searchable and browseable in one place a la Bandsintown or Pollstar is what I'm after.

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Superego's Mark McConville (previously: 1, 2, 3, 4) is making some very specific Top 50 lists: Top 50 Nastiest Black Diamond Ski Runs in the World Top 50 Retired Price Is Right Games Top 50 Canadian Ghost Towns Top 50 Vape Flavors in America for 2015 [h/t]

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Asking for a friend: he fell off a motorscooter while riding it and fell on my left side. The main injury was "AC separation" [a type of shoulder separation -- damage to the acromioclavicular joint -- which is _not_ the same thing as shoulder _dislocation_], type 3;means that surgery is optional but worth considering. Is there some other choices beside surgery, or doing nothing?I am in Austin, Texas. I fell off a motorscooter while riding it and fell on my left side. The main injury was "AC separation" [a type of shoulder separation -- damage to the acromioclavicular joint -- which is _not_ the same thing as shoulder _dislocation_], type 3; the "type 3" part means that surgery is optional but worth considering. Without surgery, the injury heals with the clavicle in the wrong position on the shoulder end, which results in a potentially-large permanent bump, but it is reportedly tolerable for many people. I don`t want this permanent bump, especially since it is bothering me very much already, and I also don`t want the bone to stay in the position it is now in: I`ve seen my recent left-shoulder X-rays, and they look wrong and scary. I visited an orthopedic surgeon last week, and he explained the severity of the injury to me and gave me some facts about surgery. I wasn`t very comfortable with him, partly because he made me feel rushed [I ask a _lot_ of questions]. I didn`t really want to have him do my surgery. I went for a second opinion to another orthopedic surgeon today, and I felt much more comfortable: he answered all the questions I asked him without making me feel bad for asking so many of them. His bio also inspires a lot more confidence: he has a long track record as a US Army surgeon, for example. As of now, I`m leaning towards having him do the surgery for me. He says the probability of complications is 10% and the probability of success is 80%. Another thing that`s nicer about this second surgeon is that he says he can try to do this work "arthroscopically", i.e. with 2 or 3 smaller-than-otherwise incisions into my body. The first surgeon told me that the surgery would definitely result in a long [2 ... 3 inches] scar, but the second surgeon said that he would only use that technique if the less-invasive technique would prove problematic at surgery time [paraphrasing, i.e. not his exact words]. Even though I went to the second surgeon with lots of prepared questions and he didn`t rush me, I forgot to ask one question: is there a third choice? That is, besides: * get the surgery, the bump will be gone because the bone will be back where it should be [or at least much closer] but there will be scars, plus there are always potentially complications from surgery * _don`t_ get the surgery, just let it heal "naturally" and tolerate the bump and the bone position ... is there a _third_ choice that`s worth considering? For example, is there anything a chiropractor can do about this which is effective? By the way: either of the existing two choices involve lots of physical therapy afterwards.

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Do recipes for moist cakes make your skin clammy? Did that article about hardscrabble pugilists leave you nauseated? Do you feel super-embarrassed (YT) when you have to say completely innocent words like onus or cunning or bean curd out loud? Or even in writing? If so, you are far from alone! Word aversion, or logomisia, is an extremely common phenomenon that affects up to one in five (links to PDF) of us, and it's extremely contagious. The ever-titillating Language Log has researched word aversion extensively for years (and their work on this topic was mentioned here previously in a broader conversation about the utility of disgust) but there are as many private lists of personal taboo words as there are people. Dancing around them can, in fact, be a daily social crisis for some people with autism, and the people who love them.

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whitehouse.org was a frequently savage rebuke to the steady stream of nonsense issuing from the executive branch of the US government a few years back. The site seemed to flounder in the late days of the Bush Administration, but their note on Katrina stands tall as one of the most incisive criticisms of failure put to pixels.

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I teach college-level courses in a historical humanities field. My research and teaching both swim in a time period where the conceptualization of "consent," as we understand it today, was not in play. So I have to teach a lot of documents, images, novels, poems, and plays that... well, to be honest .... feature rape as a matter of course - often, in fact, as a comedic convention or as an important didactic touchstone. I teach a lot of works that also features graphic violence - again as part of a conventional, generic trope. And I teach a lot of radical political philosophy from [historical humanities field]. Do I need to include a trigger warning on my syllabus? If so, what does that look like? Do the graphic violence and/or radical politics also warrant a similar warning? And if so, what does that look like?Other versions of my questions: If you are a professor who has taught this kind of course, where the historical-contextual conventions do not align with the sensibilities of our own cultural moment, what have you done to prepare students for encountering the material you present in your class? If you are the kind of student who might have been shocked by encountering narratives or rape, violence, or radical political beliefs - what do you wish your professor(s) might have done to prepare you for such encounters early in the semester or on the syllabus?

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What do super successful DJs actually do? How do people like Calvin Harris earn millions of dollars?I just read that Calvin Harris earned tens of millions of dollars last year. In my day, a DJ played the music of other artists. So how do DJs earn so much money nowadays if they are playing the music of other artists? I feel old for asking this question.

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‎ A developer structurally damaged my house and after lengthy attempts to get him to fix it I contacted my homeowner's insurance company (allstate, if it's relevant) . They are willing to cover it. An engineer and contractor came out with the insurance company adjuster and I recently got the engineer's report and the contractors estimate. Now what?   Is there any difference between using my own contractors vs the insurance company recommended ones? What if their cost is higher, or lower?  Do I have to have exactly the work in the estimate done or can it be altered?   How does that affect the total amount? I would  consider doing easy pieces like painting myself and ‎using the savings to have the contractor do other work. If additional damage is found, how is that handled? ‎ This work will require permits and drawings stamped by an engineer, who deals with that?   ‎ Any other general info about the process is very welcome , including personal experiences. Other possibly relevant info:  I assume because they expect to recover the money from the developer's insurance, the adjuster has added work to the scope that I wouldn't have thought to ask for. Most makes sense, some I don't understand. ‎ Only the building was damaged, not any of my belongings.‎ I have a mortgage. ‎ The bulk of the repairs are most easily accessible from the developer's property.  I am comfortable working with contractors and formal estimates. I'm going to ask the adjuster these questions but want to gather as much information before that as I can. ‎ ‎

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I'm going to be giving a reading for a friend's wedding at a conservative Catholic church in Michigan this fall. I'm an areligious southern woman who never dresses up, but is built for Pinup Girl Clothing. Please help me find something that is classy, not frumpy, to wear. Measurements, etc. inside.I'm mid-40's and just in menopause. So I've put on weight, but I still have proportions that can make me look sexualized just by getting properly fitted dresses. I'd like to avoid this without looking matronly. (A-line anything is right out) I'm 5'4" and my measurements are 38" 27.5" 40". I have long brown hair, pale to medium sallow skin tone and pale blue eyes. The wedding has fall colors - rust and gold and will be in the daytime. TIA!

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Jaime Prater grew up in the Jesus People U.S.A. commune in Chicago. He set out to make a documentary about the religion, and in the process uncovered widespread sexual abuse of children in the group.

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"Good fresh goat cheese is a special and important thing. It should be moist and creamy, without a hint of graininess. Its flavor should be clean and fresh, mouthwateringly tangy but not astringent, lemony but also milky and balanced. An unaged cheese has nowhere to hide its faults." Beyond Chevre: 10 Essential Goat Milk Cheeses to Know and Love - by Liz Thorpe at Serious Eats "Unfortunately there's a lot of faulty, gluey goat cheese out there, metallic and sour without any nuance. And that stuff, I suspect, is what turns people off goat milk cheese entirely. But there are a lot of goat cheeses out there to try besides chèvre." More cheese articles in Serious Eats's cheese category, "All About Cheese". Just if you're not too busy, if you've got the time.

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What is the best scholarly, annotated, edition of the Koran? I am trying to find something in English similar to the Oxford Annotated Bible. I am not a Muslim, and I have little background to date, so an edition that assumes very little in terms of prior knowledge would be ideal for me.

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Just as the title says, the last 3 days I've come home to a new, smelly brown paint job on my wall. No new diet, no new anything, just simply - she's started sharting. I've watched her go in the morning today but still, new paint job after work. What could be causing this?I know dogs are good at hiding when they are sick, but she isn't giving any signs of distress. Her poop was a bit on the runny side after work, but nothing that was out of the ordinary. No new diet, no new stressors, pretty much the same routine as the past 2 years. I get up, she gets left out, she goes back to bed, she gets left out again when my fiancee gets up in a half hour, she gets fed, she gets left out while fiancee is getting ready, she goes in the crate with an antler. No significant wear on the antler or anything that would lead me to believe she's inhaling that thing. She does chew on the plastic tray under her crate and that usually has decent pieces bitten out of it but I'm not missing any significant chunks that would lead me to believe she's doing anything more then chewing it and spitting it out. She also sleeps in her crate and is very comfortable in it, only time she barks in it is when either of us leave in the morning and she hears the garage door going up. I'm getting rid of the plastic tray next Costco run since she does chew it but she's been chewing it for going on a year now. She's pooped in her crate before, but she was usually sick and it was only once or twice before. I'm at a loss and trying not to lose my temper, but it's really gross to be scrubbing poop off the walls 3 days in a row. What could be causing the sudden sharting of my dog?

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A Republican Facebook friend recently made a post about the dangers of unionization, pointing to the decline of the US auto industry as an example. Is my friend right or wrong in saying that "the unions killed Detroit"? What books, articles, or research should I read on the topic so that the next time the topic comes up, I can make an informed contribution to the conversation?

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Waaay back I ran across it and now I can't find it again. Google is failing me. Can you help? It was humorous in nature pointing out all the major flaws and whatnot. Link would be ideal! Thanks!

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OK, so we've got another baby in our house. She's six months actually. And my wife is run ragged. We're both scaling back our household ambitions massively to get through the day. We've read lots on the subject and we've actually been through this once before - but it's SO hard. Well, at least it is for us. How was it or is it for you? Please share.I remember this from when our other daughter was young, who is four now. We seem to have babies who are never off the breast (they LOVE the milk). They get really fat from it (don't worry, I'm not saying this pejoratively, I think it's a good thing to see a chunky baby, just not a chunky toddler or child) and if our six month old is anything like our four year old girl, soon shed the fat and maintain a healthy weight in short order. I guess I'm looking for anecdotal stories from you guys - how was it/how is it for you having a baby? Anyway - back to having a baby. It's hard, really hard. And whilst other parents give us the wry knowing look about sleepless nights - I'm finding it hard to gauge just how hard having a baby is on average and how much is my wife and I SOMEHOW making nurturing babies who don't particularly want to be put down, definitely don't want to do much sleeping on their own without waking up and screaming to be slung... My wife is considering stopping breast feeding our baby daughter and starting her on formula because she is at her wits end from being the only one who can satisfy our hungry, demanding, lovely daughter. We've tried a bit of baby rice but our baby doesn't really seem able to cope with it yet and just sicks it up. We really don't want to go down the formula route but it seems like the only option to preserve my wife's sanity. Don't get the wrong idea, she doesn't have postpartum depression, but I think another month or two of this, and she might be on her way. I'm worried because my wife's mental health is being affected - she can't get ANYTHING done with our four year old daughter needing attention and our baby being unputdownable. I'll get home from work at 5 o'clock and my wife will hand me the baby and that will be the FIRST chance all day she's had to empty the dishwasher or make even the simplest of meals. Despite how we feel at the moment, we're not hopeless people. We're actually quite capable and level headed. But God, having a baby is both wonderful and incredibly hard. Isn't it?? I KNOW some parents in our position would be considering at this point starting the process off all over again and trying for another child. Not so with us. We purposefully waited years before having a second child because it was so hard with our first. Some parents in our position are doing amazing things like taking in foster children or volunteering at soup kitchens alongside the children. That's unimaginable for us. We feel a bit pathetic. Why do we find it so hard? Is it so hard for everyone? I'd love to hear a wide range of feedback on this subject. Thank you. P.S. Sorry this question is disjointed.

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I'm looking for any wisdom or caution about navigating individual plans in NYC.I'm looking at going on an ACA insurance via the New York Healthcare marketplace. I'm looking at Gold and Platinum options from insurers that my primary care physician accepts. I'm leaning towards Health Republic but I'd never heard of them before starting this process. Their coverage seems on par with/better than companies I've heard of (United etc.) but the premiums are quite a bit less. I know everyone's situation is different, but I'm hoping there are some New Yorkers out there who have gotten insurance via the exchange and can offer any recommendation at all. I don't have any major health concerns (knock wood)—basically I'm hoping for the sort of insurance I've had when insured through jobs at big companies--no referrals necessary, $10 or less for generic drugs, $35ish for specialists, and if I need some kind of emergency care I can be fairly certain I'm covered. (And if anyone can speak for/against Oscar I'm very curious about them.)

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A brief history on Spats, a mostly obsolete fashion accessory

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My company is looking to create an online training resource for customers and sales reps. It would need to host videos, WebEx-like training sessions, and have a searchable document database. I know there are a number of services that provide each of these individually, but I'm having trouble finding an all-in-one solution.We're looking to setup a portal for our vendors to avoid costly personal training as many of our vendors are in remote areas. This would include presentations, training videos, and documents (sales sheets, spec sheets, ect). Ideally, we'd like a password protected option with login info (so we can see if the logins are being shared in an unauthorized fashion) and a somewhat robust permissions system. Basically, we want a KhanAcademy/Udemy/Coursera, but for business. Am I dreaming that there is some platform out there that has these features?

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A group of friends is having a talent show tomorrow night. The ostensible purpose is to celebrate the marriage and relocation of a couple in the group, so ideally the acts should somehow relate to marriage and/or California (but if you have a great idea that's not related to either of those things, we can be flexible). Can you help us think of a talent that would require minimal time and effort?The others in the group are all pretty talented singers and musicians, so I think there will be a lot of musical acts. I can sing well enough in a group, but I'm definitely not confident enough to sing in front of everyone. I thought about doing a dramatic reading about something involving California (maybe something from a John Steinbeck novel?), but I don't know of a good passage for that. Or if there are any good readings about marriage, that could work too. My husband plays the drums, so we were thinking about doing some beat poetry, but I'm not sure I can write enough to make it a decent act since the show is tomorrow night. What can we do that's easy to put together, as stress-free as possible (recognizing that public performance isn't either of our forte) and isn't too likely to embarrass us?

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Can a Novelist Be Too Productive? by Stephen King [New York Times] [Op-Ed] "No one in his or her right mind would argue that quantity guarantees quality, but to suggest that quantity never produces quality strikes me as snobbish, inane and demonstrably untrue."

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In many ways my life is comically bad, and yet it is immeasurably better than the lives of most people in the course of human history. So how can I stop dwelling on the negative, and feel a sense of gratitude?In many ways my life is comically bad, and yet it is immeasurably better than the lives of most people in the course of human history. So how can I stop dwelling on the negative, and feel a sense of gratitude? I may never have friends, a fulfilling job, or ever experience romance in my life, but I have a wealth of books, tv, videogames (and porn!) at my fingertips. I am food-secure and have a roof over my head. If I were to suddenly get cancer or experience some other calamity, I know that I would look back on these days with nostalgia and wish I had been able to appreciate them more. - What are your best, non-bullshit tips for cultivating gratitude? - What are the best, non-bullshit websites or books for cultivating gratitude? - Is cultivating gratitude in the face of continued failure even possible? Or is it like asking someone who has lost their child to just "snap out of it" and "smell the roses"?

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If she gets along well with our current pups, Mr. Fig and I will be adopting a 10-yr old very small chihuahua with no teeth. I'm good with what to feed her, but not so good on treats/extras. Do any Mefites own toothless pups, and/or have advice?Our other 2 dogs get things like Bully sticks, dental chews, sometimes compressed rawhide on a regular basis. I'm guessing those will be out for her? I did get some softer jerky-type chews...If anyone has specific suggestions, I am all ears! How about things like popcorn? Raw veggies? There are a lot of plush toys in the Fig house now, will she be able to play with them as long as tug-of-war doesn't get too rambunctious? Are there any toys I should look for? Is there any specific care I should be doing for her gums? Here is her little bio. If everything goes well (keep your fingers crossed!), I will post more pics. Thanks in advance!

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Why does the kitty try to murder us on the stairs?I know, cats. But we are catsitting my sister's utterly delightful kitty while she is traveling, and Hoover has a thing where, if we go down steps and she is there, too, we usually have to do a little dance: 1. Human edges towards the first step. 2. She sits next to the stairs and doesn't move. 3. Human edges a little more towards the edge of the first step. 4. She looks at the human, but doesn't move. 5. Cautiously, human puts one foot on the first step. Human asks if she is trying to kill us today. 6. She trills, but looks vastly more interested in staring at the blank space over the human's shoulder. In fact, Hoover may begin to groom herself. 7. Reassured that she does not mean to kill today, the human lifts the other foot and starts to swing it forward to put it down on the second ste -- 8. OH MY GOD OH MY GOD KITTY DEPLOY!!!!!!! KITTY YOU MUST CUT THE HUMAN OFF!!!!!! RUN OVER HER FEET!!!! BUMP INTO HER ANKLES!!!!! SOMETIMES ALMOST RUN INTO THE WALL BECAUSE YOU MUST, YOU MUST BEAT THE HUMAN DOWN THE STAIRS!!!!!! 9. KITTY, YOU HAVE WON A GREAT VICTORY BY BEATING THE HUMAN DOWN THE STAIRS!!!! She is particularly intense about this in the morning, where we go from the top floor of home down to the basement to feed her. And while she does it, her tail is straight up with a 90 degree bend at the very tip, and she is trilling while her tiny legs work frantically down the very steep stairs in our house, so I'm guessing it's friendly? At each landing, she wants to repeat this. Do other people's cats do this? And what is going through Hoover's/their delightful tiny walnut-sized cat brains when they do? I have not yet asked my sister whether Hoover does this at home, but plan to.

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