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I'm going on a ladies' weekend next week. We have a woman who doesn't eat red meat, and an egg allergy. I need a luxurious hangover type breakfast that doesn't have eggs! I'd intended to make an overnight type casserole (bread soaked in egg overnight, with ham and cheese) but that so doesn't work. She does eat turkey bacon. Any ideas? I'm a great cook but not experienced with the no egg thing.

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When I first got my rescue dog, Huggy, mefi was very helpful in assisting me as a newbie dog owner. Thanks! I've had her now for almost two years, and it's been wonderful. Until yesterday, I would have said the one thing I was sure of in her training was that she was responsive to the recall command. And she always has been, until she wasn't and the consequences could have been dire. Is there anything further I can do to strengthen it, or is she simply doomed to life on a leash?One of the pieces of advice I got when I adopted her was to start with and reinforce her recall command. I hired a trainer who worked with us both for the first year (positive training methods), and until yesterday she has never failed to respond. It took me six months to be sure enough to take her regularly to the dog park, and for the last six months we take twice a week off-leash walks on a country trail (dogs allowed off-leash) with a friend of mine and her pack of three dogs. Both at the dog park and along the trail, she has always come to me when I called. Unfortunately, yesterday some older women were feeding the wild boar along the trail (Hong Kong wildlife) and Huggy took off after two full grown boar with babies and charged up the mountain after them. She not only didn't respond to her recall command, she acted as though she couldn't hear me at all. Luckily for everyone, she got trapped in the vines before she "caught" them and got herself killed. (She's a big dog, but the smaller of the two boar was at least double her size.) I had to haul her back down the mountain and both of us are a little bit stiff today, but it could have been so much worse. My instinct is to leave her on leash for the rest of her natural life, and now I'm wondering if she's really safe at the dog park either. I'm planning to start working on it intensively again, but I'm wondering if anyone has any tips they could share which could help avoid a similar situation. (When I was first training her in recall, I started in low-stimulation environments and moved on to working with her where there were more and more distractions around. Once she understood the point of the game, she has never failed or even really delayed in returning to me. She's generally a very good dog.) Thoughts from more experienced dog owners? obligatory picture

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Do French speakers still say enchanté(e) on first meeting or is it outmoded? What are possible (more) casual alternatives?Hello, I'm being introduced to a good friend's current person tomorrow, we'll probably be talking a mix of English and French and while I can read French fine I've hardly spoken it to an actual "native speaker" in ages. What do you say just after names are exchanged these days, is enchantée appropriate or is it odd? Demographic: forty-odd, liberal, queer. Prefer to avoid sounding gender-specific or flirtatious. Merci buckets!

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My partner drinks a lot of lattes. I'm looking for a way to make lattes at home to cut down on cost, but am not sure the best way to go about it that's a) inexpensive and b) efficient.They worked at a coffee shop for a year, so assume they have the experience to make lattes. They drink lattes for the taste, because caffeine does absolutely nothing for them, if that makes a difference in anything (I did not work on a coffee shop for a year, and can't even drink it, so I understand pretty much nothing). We've looked into getting an espresso machine before, but they're pretty expensive. I've seen some less expensive ones but they don't have great reviews. I know you can make lattes with a hand frother and a French press, but I'm not sure how efficient that would be for daily use (my partner has expressed frustration at the extra time/difficulty of heating milk on the stove without burning it). I'd really love to get them some sort of latte-making set-up for Christmas, but can't afford a fancy espresso machine right now. But is that my best bet for decent, daily lattes? Should I just hold out and save up, or are there other alternatives? Does anyone have experience using a different machine or system regularly?

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I've had iron deficiency for many years (not anemia apparently - I have a normal red blood cell count, although they are small) and have lately been going through All Of The Tests to find out why, with no answers yet. Anything else I should be thinking about or asking my doctors about?At-home poop test showed no bleeding, endoscopy and colonoscopy came back with nothing showing a cause for iron deficiency. Celiac blood test was negative. Next week I'm having a capsule endoscopy done to check out my small intestine. Other info: I eat pretty well, mostly paleo-ish, have really light (almost nonexistent) periods and a big fibroid that's non-symptomatic, GERD, and have been a regular Prilosec user for over ten years, although I'd weaned to half a dose until I got put back on a full dose for two months to deal with mild esophagitis they found during the endoscopy. (I feel like the Prilosec could be partially to blame but all my docs say Nope! It doesn't do that!) Anyway, do you know about iron deficiency? I have a suspicion that the capsule endoscopy may also turn up nothing and so, then what? My GI doc says there's usually a reason why someone would have low iron. Is there anything else I should be thinking about as a wanting-to-be-helpful patient? Also, I'm balancing between feeling curious about all the tests and anxious about trying to find out what's wrong with me, so there's that layer too. Thanks everyone!

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Acai, one of many Guitar Hero experts on YouTube, flawlessly plays an arrangement of "Steamed Hams", A.K.A. the "Skinner and The Superintent" portion of "22 Short Films About Springfield". (A piano arrangement.)

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We utter the first syllables of a sentence while taking a leap of faith that we'll be able to choose the right words en route and formulate phrases adequately as the words tumble out of our mouths and bring us to an intersection in our thoughts that demands our next move. This puts an upper bound on complexity. But written text, which can be more deliberately planned out and revised, is able to transcend this. Linguist Julie Sedivy on the rise (and eventual fall?) of sentence complexity in written and oral languages.

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My sister has requested cruelty free makeup for Christmas, and I'm at a loss.... I know I can just google "cruelty free brands" but can you recommend a great one that is also organic, sustainable, maybe that donates to a good cause, etc? And even better - recommend a nice palate or collection from said brand, that would make a good Christmas gift?I'd rather stay away from the big, well known brands. So even if it turns out Maybelline or Clinique or whatever ticks all those boxes, that won't work for me. I'd really like to find a small, woman owned company that is putting out lovely, organic makeup in a nice presentation. Maybe off etsy, or the like?

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Last night I added some vegetables (broccoli and green peppers) and canned tuna to a jar of commercial pasta sauce, heated the whole lot until the vegetables were thoroughly cooked, ate half, put the remaining half into a loosely covered container about an hour later, and then forgot to put the container into the fridge (grrr!). It was sitting out for about 8 hours in total. Is this safe to eat?

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Planet P Project is a science-fiction-inspired one-man band and an album by Tony Carey. Their debut album [46m] featured known single, Why Me. Planet P Project previously.

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I am looking for a cheap, decent red wine as a stable for our liquor cabinet. Give me your best recommendations of bottles between $0-$10!We don't drink often now that Baby Kitty exists, but it would be good to have some stable bottles of wine in the house. We really liked Brancott Sauvignon Blanc and used to get it for $6 a bottle. Then they entered into a partnership with Marriott hotels, and now the same bottle is $14. Jerks. We would love something similar for a red (and a new replacement white). We tend to prefer dry over sweet. We are partial to Cotes du Rhones and Cabernet Sauvignons. For whites, we generally like Australian Sauvignon Blancs and Pouilly Fuisse. What are your favorite bottles that are relatively inexpensive, ideally between $6 and $10?

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Around this time of the year, the New York subway system offers rides on its "Holiday Nostalgia" train, which consists of eight restored cars from the 1930s, complete with vintage subway advertising and riders who show up in appropriate costumes. Lots of pictures. Transit Museum info page. More pictures! Video! Pix and video at the late Gothamist.

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Fernando Pessoa was a Portuguese wrter with nearly 80 different literary alter egos or "heteronyms". Each of which had a biography, psychology, politics, religion, physical description; the main characters being interconnected and with their own horoscopes "I'm the empty stage where various actors act out various plays," he once wrote and "a drama divided into people instead of into acts". "I'm beginning to know myself. I don't exist," he writes in one poem. "I'm the gap between what I'd like to be and what others have made of me. . . . That's me. Period. His occult interests led him to a correspondence and friendship with Aleister Crowley who enlisted him in faking his suicide. (Previously).

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I'll be in Seattle with 10-20 of my coworkers for my birthday. Party suggestions?Here are the party parameters: - It is Sunday evening in January - We are looking for dinner and drinks/entertainment - Dinner should be $50 USD for food + 1 drink as this is what we can expense. Party afterward will be on our own dime - We are staying near the convention centre so we would want something within 5 mile radius or less for easy walk or car sharing - Food should be tasty but not too fussy - We will likely have at least one vegetarian in party - For the party afterwards, we can lean towards dive bars, private kareoke, tiki bar, cabaret - basically anything walking the line between trashy fun and awesome - We should be able to change the number of attendees fairly flexibly ... ie, if I reserve for 15 it should be ok if I bring a few more or less - We can't be out too too late ... should be back at hotel by midnight. - We will probably go for tipsy but not smashed

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UC Berkeley professor Stuart Russell and the Future of Life Institute have created an eerie viral video titled "Slaughterbots" that depicts a future in which humans develop small, hand-sized drones that are programmed to identify and eliminate designated targets. In the video above, the technology is initially developed with the intention of combating crime and terrorism, but the drones are taken over by an unknown forces who use the powerful weapons to murder a group of senators and college students. UC Berkeley professor's eerie lethal drone video goes viral [Warning: graphic violence]

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A good friend of mine is spiraling (aren't we all in the US) and I'm at a loss as to help him. Mostly looking for practical actions but "headspace shifts" also acceptable.So, J is in a bad place, though better than last year. He quit his extremely abusive relationship with alcohol in January, started eating healthier, started the process of seeking medical attention for some long running health problems which alcoholism and serious depression were blocking him from addressing, and generally feels as if he's in a better headspace than last year (yes he is). I've been a supportive cheerleader, helping with making appointments, covering bills like groceries when depression ate his head and subsequently low level retail job, just being there when needed...but now it's getting harder. Here's a personality sketch: J is an intelligent person who dropped out of HS at 16, never saw value in the GED or college, travelled extensively instead, excellent baker and general people person when he's not crashing, excellent musician, lots of critical reasoning and general brain skills though not much formal maths etc. Depression really has done a number on his life, especially when 3ish years ago some scene politicking essentially locked him out of the community he had been a part of for nearly 17 years--we're talking childhood friends that moved here (seattle) together no longer return his calls. This obviously was crushing to any sense of motivation or forward thinking and he now is functionally a shut in who really only leaves the house to come to mine and bake, chill, make perfume, smoke weed. He lost his cafe job late last year because the drinking, general depression and health problems all worsened after the election and he no call no showed for a week. This is bad in a "small town" environment like Seattle, which he knows and contributes to his depression about finding work. Bills are getting paid because he manages a house with tenants, but only the necessities like electric, once a month groceries, etc. We are both in our mid 30s and he has the very accurate feeling that time is running shorter to get sorted for the rest of his life, so working a 'survival job' where you come home exhausted seems wasteful of time that could be spent building that life. However, just hanging around staring at the internet and spinning in circles is driving him batty--he is a driven person with no direction and seemingly no substantial options. Therapy is extremely difficult for him to approach due to childhood trauma relative to therapist shopping and other abusive parent situations. I am a college instructor in the Humanities so I'm not the best at giving advice to someone without formal education. Like, I did this because I didn't see any other way of being safe in this bonkers capitalist culture except to go into tech (no thanks). This is a shitty city to be broke in but he left the Midwest/southern central for Good Reasons, so moving far away to cheap rent is out, and moving within the PNW is just a lateral move with less housing security. He needs a job, I suppose yes, just to eat... but needs to be pointed in a direction to clamber out of this hole too. It's so hard watching someone you care about start to get together at the very bottom level, address enormous systemic problems like alcoholism, but then not know where to go from their new, better baseline. He has so much mental energy that is spent on self destructive thoughts and into willpower to not direct this energy into active self destructive behavior, rather than onto productive life makin stuff (he is aware of this). He needs a place to point this mental energy that goes somewhere, isn't just spinning wheels. In ancient cultures we shipped the men off to war and returned them to a life in politics, religion, social work. Now you rat race and die, and the irritation I have with this structure precludes any practical advice I can give. So, hivemind? tldr: mid 30s buddy is getting his life together after life changing shit, both good (no more booze) and horrible (no more community or direction). What next steps can he take to have something like a normally comfortable life in this capitalist hell dystopia we all live in? Help me help him so we don't have to depress each other about this anymore.

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My father has a 2nd generation ipad mini that he cannot use because he has forgotten the password, and Apple customer support has been no assistance. Please help me help him use his device.A few years ago I bought my dad (mid-80's, not very tech savvy any more, losing memory, etc.) an Ipad mini. I think it is a 2nd generation. Over the past year or so, he has forgotten his password. When trying to use apple customer service to get access to the ipad, they request his credit card number. It turns out that the credit card he used to set up the security of the ipad has since expired, and he has a new one with a different number. He has spent countless hours on the phone with Apple, and each call always ends up with the Apple people stating they will call him back, given him a reference number and he never hears from them. When he calls back he has to start a square one. I live in LA an he lives in MA. He made a rare visit to LA last year and I went with him to the Apple store, and again they put us on the phone with national support and we got the same run-around. As a result, my dad has not been able to use his ipad, it is now a $300 hockey puck. He doesn't have any information on it he wants to retrieve, he just wants to look at emails and maybe face book using the Ipad. I'm going to be in MA for a few days over the Thanksgiving holiday and I want to try again to help him get this Ipad working. How do I do this? Can I take it to an unauthorized repair place and have them unlock it? Forget Apple, they have been useless in this process. I would rather not have to replace the ipad, since it is still functional.

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UK comedian Michael Dapaah, better known under his pseudonym Big Shaq, has become an unlikely grime music icon with his simple ode to men who never take off their coats: Man's Not Hot. Recently Dappah sat down with Genius to explain the song. See also the Genius page for annotated lyrics. And here's the original viral freestyle.

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This is Ruchie Freier, a 52-year-old Hasidic Jewish grandmother who has blazed a trail in her insular religious community with so much determination that the male authorities have simply had to make room. Eleven years ago, she became one of the first Hasidic female lawyers in Brooklyn,and last November, she was elected as a judge to civil court. She has done so not by breaking the strict religious rules that govern ultra-Orthodox women's lives, but by obeying them so scrupulously that there are limited grounds for objection.

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I took hormonal birth control pills briefly a dozen years ago and stopped because they gave me migraines. Am I crazy to now consider a hormonal IUD?I've had Paraguard IUDs continuously for more than a decade, with two interludes to have kids. I'm about two weeks postpartum with my second and last child, and starting to think about my birth control options going forward. My experience with the Paraguard was fine, but my periods did get heavier on it – not unmanageably so, but annoying at times. I'm now tempted to try a hormonal IUD, either the Mirena or Kyleena, for the lighter and/or nonexistent period factor, but am nervous about the potential effects of the hormones, and if I can expect a similar experience to being on the pill. My understanding is that they should affect me less and/or differently than the pill, since the IUD's hormones are localized, but if you were in a similar situation and went forward with a hormonal IUD, I would appreciate hearing your experience, good or bad. I know YANMD, and I've already discussed it with my OB, but would like to hear other anecdotes. Thank you!

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This thing must have been for a phone at one point. What I don't understand is the space below. It looks like some kind of speaker grille but I can't figure out what it would have been for. There's a big hollow space behind the grille but there's no obvious way to open it. Maybe the previous owners screwed the shelf on in such a way that prevents it from being opened? If I were to access that space, can anyone think of something useful / interesting that could be done with it? Thanks!

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I migrated my photos from Apple Photos to Google Photos and hate it. I can't migrate back, so now my photos are in multiple places. All I want is 1) all my photos in one place where 2) I can share to Facebook and 3) I can upload to Shutterfly. My next step is to hire a teenager, but I am hoping I don't have to.1. In 2016 I switched from an iPhone to an Android, after many many years entirely in the Apple ecosystem. I moved 10+ years of photos over to Google Photos. 2. I then learned that you can't share photos (only links to photos) from GPhotos to facebook. And that it won't play with Shutterfly at all. 3. Now I have an iPhone again, and I am trying to migrate my photos back to APhotos. My import failed with 10,000+ "Can't get metadata" errors. After some playing around with it, I have determined that I could import my photos ONE BY ONE, but with more than 10,000, that just isn't possible. 4. So I have 2003-2016 photos on Gphotos, and late 2016-2017 photos on Aphotos. This is a problem for me. Am I understanding something wrong? Is Gphotos more useful than I am finding it to be? Can I get my photos to Aphotos somehow? Is there a Third Option (as in, should I buy some software and dump it all in there?) I am completely incapable of fixing this on my own.

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Day 303: it's turkey time, and Republicans are putting tax and spending cuts on the table, which many are finding an unpalatable centrepiece. CBO estimates suggest that poor Americans' gooses in particular will be cooked if the bill passes, with households earning under $50,000 increasingly worse off. Republican senators have stated, on the record, that major donors will not be inviting them back for a second helping of support if the tax cut bill fails. The House bill has been served but the Senate bill is still in the oven, and preparing it will involve two opposed groups coming together with a shared purpose, and also some way of massaging the figures so they won't increase the deficit. [This is a catch-all US politics thread; Roy Moore kiddie fiddling talk goes here] The bill cuts corporate tax to 20% while plugging a few flagrant loopholes (such as the Section 199 tax break for manufacturing, that in practice is exceptionally broad), and collapses income tax brackets down from 7 to 4. Because it's easier (read: possible) to pass the bill if it can be massaged to be revenue neutral, the individual tax cuts expire and a bunch of services are permanently cut, so most Americans end up being worse off overall, the very poorest in particular. (Trump, however, does very well from this emolument.) In addition, the individual mandate (aka the thing in Obamacare that keeps the insurance pools stable) will be junked if it passes. Also going on in US politics: fallout from Al Franken's 1996 USO tour where sexual harassment was tolerated (and photographed) continues, Doug Jones has pulled even with sexual predator Roy Moore in the polls, turning what was seen as a cakewalk for Moore into a real chance for a Democrat win in one of the least Democrat-friendly states in the country, the media noticed that Donald Trump Jr. has inadvertently suggested that Jared Kushner gave false testimony, and House Democrats have introduced a bill to impeach President Trump (just to remind people that there are Democrats who'd like to impeach Trump). @ashleyfeinberg: only three more days until we find out how trump's gonna manage to make the turkey pardon about race war

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Where can I find underrepresented or up-and-coming games that I can post onto my YouTube channel that thousands of others aren't already playing?Gaming on YouTube is the most saturated genre on YouTube. However, I have a YT channel that is suddenly gaining traction, so I would like to expand on the "games" that I play. But, I don't want to waste time with games that are already played by thousands of people because those videos won't be noticed or seen by people who aren't already party of my community due to said saturation and competing against substantially larger creators. So, where can I find games that are underrepresented on YouTube, or perhaps up-and-coming games that no one really knows about yet? Better still, how about indie games? When I search this out on the Google machine, I don't get any results that are any good; it's all stuff that is already popular. And I know that a lot of up-and-coming games are usually sent to people who have a gigantic following on YT already. Note: This question isn't about how to make it big on YT. I already have a solid community there with lots of support, but the "game" I exclusively play is very niche and my support base, while gaining traction, has very little to go until it is maxed out. The only way to get bigger is for me to diversify my content until I am at the point where game publishers are seeking me out. My reasons for wanting to get bigger are moot.

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Are my online dating expectations reasonable, or should I try being more open/giving people more chances?Almost-39, straight woman here. I've online dated off-and-on over recent years and I've gotten frustrated by two types of men (seemingly the only types I encounter that are interested): 1. a guy who immediately wants to get physical (sex) without spending much time getting to know me (by 2nd date) or 2. a guy who immediately wants to get emotionally intimate and seems to want an insta-girlfriend. (also usually by 2nd date) Here are some recent examples: Last night I went out for the second time with a guy (our first date was under 2 hours, talking at a bar). I thought he seemed nice, smart and interesting- wasn't necessarily feeling huge sparks at date 1, but that's fine. On date two, we talked a bit and then he mentioned that "37 questions to make you fall in love" thing published in the NY Times a while back. He wanted to try asking each other the questions- I said sure. However, when we got to the second level of "deeper" questions- specifically, "What is the worst memory of your life"? I said I wasn't quite comfortable answering that- I wasn't really in the mood for a sad topic. He seemed disappointed and said, "Maybe I can answer and then you'd feel comfortable answering." Honestly, I didn't want to hear about his sad memory either, on a second date! So he moved on to another question, also too personal for me. I told him that I prefer to get to know someone better before talking about these types of things. He seemed disappointed and asked me what I needed to know about him before opening up more. I now feel uncomfortable... Scenario 2: Starting chatting with another guy online. We moved to text. This morning I texted that I was making breakfast and he wrote back, "I would kiss and rub up against you as you were cooking." Ewww. We've never met in person. These are just two examples but honestly they are pretty representative of who I have met; the fast-moving physical type is more common though. I don't really feel comfortable putting my profile here for critique. I tend to date/meet younger men, but not always. Is this just an online dating thing? Am I being too uptight? Or am I not giving these guys enough chances? I've dated a fair amount, but essentially have never been in a long-term relationship. It just never seems to work out. Happy to answer other questions. Thanks!

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