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Our honeymoon is going to be next August, we want to go someplace in Asia, but we'd like to go a bit off the beaten track -- here's our criteria: We're experienced budget-conscious travelers, so we absolutely do not want to stay in an all inclusive or do any sorted of hand-held, heavily scripted vacation like that. While we met on the backpacker trail, I think for our honeymoon that we'd prefer not to go to backpacker/party hot-spots like Phuket, unless its very easy to avoid the crowds of obnoxious backpackers. We don't mind 'rainy-season' locations as long as it's the sort of rainy-season where you get a storm for an hour in the afternoon and its mostly sunny the rest of the time. We're more 'culture and food' travelers, but we'd also like some time on the beach at some point. We'd like to get up close with some elephants, ideally at some place where they treat them humanely. I think we'd just like to rent a house via airbnb for two weeks somewhere and visit attractions near there, rather than switch from hotel to hotel around the country -- we'd rather not spend alot of time on buses and trains, if possible Neither one of us has ever been to Asia, so we're open to going pretty much anywhere from India to Korea -- we're also fairly immune to culture shock, so even places that are way off the beaten track are fine, as long as its possible to get around with english and a phrase book.

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So there are a bajillion shirts with variations of "X in the streets/Y in the sheets" where X and Y might rhyme and are related and it's funny. What was the original one? Where did this start?

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Trying to remember this scene: There's some TV show or movie where a white person says, "Hey, you, Slumdog Millionaire!" to address an Indian man whose name he should know but can't remember. Or maybe he's talking to his colleague and says, "Ugh, you know, Slumdog Millionaire in the accounting department." Does anyone remember what this is from?

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After lots of burnt out strings and fadded bulbs last year, the time has come to replace the Christmas lights for my tree; which ones should I buy? I am CRAZY about lights. It's my family's tradition to put so many on, the tree glows like a small star. Think 4000 bulbs on a 5 1/2' tree. This is serious business. Requirements inside.Requirements: Small, multicolor bulbs with bright, rich colors! 50 or 100 bulb strings with plugs on both ends High enough quality they'll last a few years Preferably ordered online with reasonable shipping or available in person in San Francisco/Oakland. I'd might be willing to go LED, but all the ones I've seen look dull, dim, and sad.

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Please recommend me works based on the lives and works of stage magicians. I want to learn about how they started their careers and how they changed as it went on.The recent FFP on James Randi's work made me realize how I've always liked stage magic and magician shows despite well, never actually been to one before. On the TV/movies/YT I've seen street magic done but TBH, I have terrible hand-eye coordination and slight of hand tricks don't work out well for me. However, I want to learn about the lives of stage magicians, illusionists, and/or mentalists from books, movies, and articles. I have watched the BBC documentary on James Randi linked, The Prestige (odd ending, really?), Now You See Me (2013), Zatanna, and I think there were some YA books with this theme but not well-written. I don't mind non-fiction or fictional works but I do want the focus to be on stage magicians working for entertainment vs fantasy magic. Autobiography and biographies would be great. I don't need a summary of each work but a simple reason why it relates would fine. Thanks.

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I want to purchase a small memorial at Pike Place Market for two relatives who have died recently but I'm severely limited in character space. Please help me choose a message.Pike Place Market is selling charms as part of a fundraising effort that you can write a message on. They'll be hung from a fence as part of the new entryway to the Market that will be built in a few years. My cousin (also my best friend) died unexpectedly earlier this year, and her father died unexpectedly a few years ago. I used to go to the Market with her all the time and I want to buy a charm to memorialize them. Their names are Natasha (also went by Tasha) and Mikal. My character limits are 8 on the first line, 9 on the second, and 8 on the third. The best I've come up with is "Miss you/Natasha/& Mikal", but I thought I'd see if you guys had any ideas. Thanks!

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An unexplained user profile called 'matt' showed up in C:\Users on my Windows 7 laptop today. What does this mean and should I be worried?I've got a pretty old (3+ years) laptop running Windows 7 with my profile (main, administrative account) and a guest account for, well, guests. The guest account sometimes gets used by me to quickly check my e-mail or for visiting friends that want to browse the web. Once in a while I'll go into C:\Users and clear the desktop from my main account or transfer files (photos saved by friends, etc). Today I noticed a new user profile titled 'matt'. There's nothing in this user's folder, unlike my profile and the Guest account. It says it was created on Sunday. It doesn't appear in my list of profiles accessed via the control panel (the ones that appear at startup) and I don't know anyone named Matt/Matthew. I've never taken my laptop to a shop for repairs. It's never even been out of my flat in something like two years. All of my security software is up to date. What does this new user profile mean? How could it have been created? What can I do?

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I'm wondering if Patreon is suitable for writers. If it is, what are some technical best practices to maximize engagement (and not fail miserably)? Or maybe there is a better platform than Patreon. Either way, besides creating good content in the first place, how can a writer "optimize" Patreon?Taking a look at Patreon, it seems to be best-suited for web comic creators and YouTube video creators. I could not find a lot of longform writing, either fiction or reportage (the two kinds of writing I am most interested in). Is Patreon really suited for longform writing? I have two ideas: use Patreon to fund a serialized novel OR support the freelance reporting I do. If Patreon (or another crowdfunding site) is suitable for these sorts of projects, what are some best practices? My thinking is that I would have to have a reasonably nice-looking dedicated website to send people to, but other than that. Basically, if anyone else is successful at using Patreon or another crowdfunding site, it would be great to hear your hints about how to maximize it!

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I have a 2006 Honda Pilot with 150,000 miles. I have a problem with the headlights.On the normal headlight setting both inside and outside headlights light up, but the passenger side lowbeam is dim. When I set it to high beams, the driver's side is correct, but on the passenger side, both headlights go dark. Anyone have any tips on what to start troubleshooting?

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Oil and conflict in Nigeria's Niger Delta region: Between the barrel and the trigger. In the most recent issue of The Extractive Industries and Society, Cyril Obi examines the "resource curse" explanation for the "failure" of African states: poverty, corruption and violent conflict. In Nigeria's Niger Delta ethnic minority region, inter-ethnic tensions preceded the discovery of oil and its eventual emergence as the main source of national revenue. The advent of oil from the 1970s as the chief national revenue earner, becoming an object of inter and intra-ethnic as well as factional struggles for access to power, contributed to the deepening of pre-existing cleavages and contestations, rather than creating them.

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I am trying to figure out the best way to name my recently deceased mother on her gravestone. I would like my father's name to be included but I would also like to be respectful of my step-father and of my mother's marriage to him.Let's pretend that these were my mother's names: - First name: "Dorothy"; - Middle name: "Joan" - Maiden name (name before marriage), duration, 28 years: "Anderson" - Name of first husband (divorced), duration 38 years: "Brown" - Name of last husband who is still living, duration 13 years: "Clark" My father's name, Brown, is the name of all my mother's children and grandchildren and also the name by which she went during 29 of the 42 years that she lived in the community in which she is buried. My mother and father divorced. My step-father, Mr Clark, was (and sadly is again) a widower and will be buried with his first wife (the mother of his children) in a different community. One of my siblings has suggested just using her final married name "Clark". I would like my father's name "Brown", to be included but I would also like to be respectful of my step-father, "Clark" and of my mother's marriage to him. What is the precedent for including names from past marriages (is it generally considered appropriate) and how can it tastefully be done? (undecided about whether we need to include her maiden name). thank you

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I (in the US) am going to mail a small gift to a friend of mine currently residing in South Korea. Having already unsuccessfully attempted to mail her a postcard a couple of months ago, I want to make sure my package doesn't vanish in the postal abyss since it is going to cost a double-digit number of dollars to mail. How do I properly address it and fill out the address on the customs form properly?She has given me her address in Hangul, which obviously isn't going to fly with the US Postal Service either on the package itself or on the customs form. She also gave me a romanized form of it when I tried to send her a postcard, and I thought that it would be okay because everything I read on the internet said that Korea Post can cope perfectly well with romanized addresses in a wide variety of formats, but after that postcard got lost in the mail, we both became (hopefully understandably) wary. Her address (in Hangul) is of the form (with anonymized parts underlined): X도 Y시 Z구 이웃12-3 아파트단지이름 A동 1층 123호 123-456 Through judicious application of Google I managed to find some addressing guidelines for Korea from the Universal Postal Union, and between that and this Wikipedia article I think she and I managed to piece together a romanization of the address as given above: A-dong, 1-cheung, 123-ho Apartment Complex Name 12-3 Neighborhood Name Z-gu, Y-si X-do, SEOUL 123-456 REPUBLIC OF KOREA (for comparison, the romanization she came up with before was: Apartment 123, Level 1, Building A / Apartment Complex Name / 12 Neighborhood Name, Z-gu, Y-si / X-do 123-456 / SOUTH KOREA — in retrospect perhaps the 12 Neighborhood Name was part of the problem, since it's 12-3 in the new one) She is not in Seoul, but the UPU guidelines I linked above say that Korea Post recommends putting "SEOUL" in the address on any mail destined for South Korea to make sure it doesn't accidentally go to North Korea, and it will be delivered correctly as long as the postcode is correct. How close to correct is this romanization? I can neither speak nor read Korean so I can only make semi-educated guesses based on the knowledge I've gleaned and the automatic Hangul romanization Google Translate provides. Also, it remains unclear to me which parts of this go in the "address" field on the customs form (I'm pretty sure I'll be using PS Form 2976, Customs Declaration CN 22 for this) and which parts go in "city" and "province" (I at least know that 123-456 is the postcode). I know that X-do is the province, but I also know that Korean addresses can have at least two additional levels of sub-provinces and this appears to have one (Z-gu), so I'm unsure about which of these should go in "province" on the customs form. I'm pretty sure Y-si is the city, but do I just write "X-do" in the "province" field, or do I need to write "Z-gu, X-do", or something else entirely?

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The harsh environments of our neighboring planets will require proper attire, with 3D-printed, biological fashions that, in the words of the designer Neri Oxman, "blur the boundary between the environment and ourselves." Oxman's other recent work explores similar lines of utility with her organic, post-industrial aesthetic: some of it disturbing and some sublime.

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Where can I get an endpeg to put on a kit-built Martin guitar that currently has none?My uncle built a beautiful Martin guitar in a smaller size -- maybe 000? -- from a kit. My parents brought it out to us and one of my sons plays it now, and it fits him better than the full-size Yamaha he was playing before. Hurray! However, the guitar lacks an endpeg to hook a strap to, and The Boy's guitar teacher suggested that buying & installing one is easy. I don't mind taking a drill to the guitar *gulp* but I am frustrated because I can't find one of these for sale online that isn't also a jack for an electrified acoustic. Any pointers to relevant products, and anecdotes for/against me doing this myself, are very much appreciated!

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After causing some serious angst among the good people of Minnesota (cf. the cri de coeur of ex-Gopher and Mefi's own Linda Holmes) with its own unique Thanksgiving recipe suggestions for each of the 50 nifty United States (previously), the agents provocatuer of the New York Times are back at it again, this time leaning on the Google data team to find out which unusual regional recipes really are the favorites of each state: Behold, the Snickers Salad Belt.

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Tell me about the energy dynamics of non-deciduous alpine trees. How do saplings stay alive when continuously covered by snow all winter?I have an advanced degree in the life sciences but have never taken a botany class. My knowledge of plant physiology is basically limited to the steps of photosynthesis, the composition of a chloroplast, that xylem and phloem are a thing, and what little I've learned from trying not to kill succulents indoors. But I've been skiing up here in Colorado and looking at the conifers (subalpine firs, I think) up above 9-10,000 feet. Already this season the smaller ones are starting to be covered with snow, and in many places I assume trees under a few feet tall will be completely submerged from now until March or April. I want to know about how that works, so I guess I want to know about how trees work! What are the energetics of this, on a single-organism level? How dependent are conifers on photosynthesis during the winter? Could they live in the dark for months? What's the 101 on tree metabolism, anyhow? I feel shockingly ignorant and I'm not sure how to start finding answers to my questions.

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I am traveling for work. Just lost a filling. Suspect I need at least a temp to get me through as I don't get home til next Tuesday. Anyone got a rec for a dentist who will take a helpless American and hopefully not charge in the thousands? And if there's anyt unique about the process of going to a dentist in Australua that would help too.

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I've been out of a relationship for over a month and I'm running into trouble reconciling with the single status. It doesn't help that the ex seems to be moving along well. How do I reconcile with the feeling that I'm completely isolated?I understand that life goes on but I feel like for me it's not going on fast enough. I still feel this sense of isolation and remove from society. I've been going out, engaging in hobbies, going to therapy, and reconnecting with old friends and trying to move on. But I cannot shake off this sense that I may never find someone to share my life with. It doesn't help that the management in my building demanded I give up my pet cat or face penalties. I'm dreading the idea of going to an empty home and I feel tired enough to not want to go out every night (I think people feel the same - everyone can only go out so much). I'm trying not to melt into self-pity but sometimes that happens. I kick myself for feeling so needy. How can I stop feeling like this "singleness" may be a forever thing and not just a phase? If it helps, I'm 33 and live in DC.

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Sometimes, mostly due to work circumstances, I'm using Twitter via their website rather than an app on my phone. But when I try to post a link to a news article or blog post, I find that Twitter isn't automatically shortening the URL. Do they not do this any more?I've found these, but it's definitely not happening for me the way they say it should (maybe they're old and out of date?): https://support.twitter.com/articles/78124-posting-links-in-a-tweet# https://support.twitter.com/articles/109623-about-twitter-s-link-service-http-t-co#

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My nephews, 8 and 11, have fallen in love with Call of Duty. Their mother isn't happy with their new love affair, but their neighborhood friends have an older brother so, what's done is done. I would like to get them one or two games for Christmas that are not quite so violent, or at least not so much realistic violence.The boys share a PlayStation 3 as their gaming system. They love Call of Duty, they've enjoyed James Bond -- I think Golden Eye. They also play Skylanders, but the 11-year old is outgrowing that, and his younger brother is less interested in it as his brother's interest wanes. They tried Little Big Planet, but ended up returning it. They've started finishing the LEGO games too quickly to get much enjoyment out of them. They love Minecraft and Pokemon, but they play Pokemon mostly on their DS. I'd like to get them a couple of games that could meet the following criteria (and I know almost nothing about these kind of games): - Little to no human/human violence -- prefer no realistic violence - Allows them to play together and with one or two other friends - Not too frustrating for the 8-year old. They really do have to share gaming time, so it should be a game they can play together. - The 8-year old is a slow reader, so prefer a game that doesn't have too much text-based instruction. From reading AskMe, I wonder about Portal 2. That sounds great for my older nephew, but I worry about the younger one. Dragon Age 2 looks very neat, but it sounds very adult -- maybe too adult for them and possibly too hard for their PS3 to manage the graphics. I've thought about Skyrim, but I worry that it's too involved and adult for them as well.

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Carbon monoxide canary is a rousing live performance from the trad singing, carbon monoxide campaigning canary, Tommy McAnairey. Features excerpts from two of Tommy's most celebrated songs, 'The Ballad of Uncle Pat (Stone Dead In Three Minutes Flat)' and 'Any Fuel Can Harm'. The serious part : this is part of Bord Gais campaign to make people aware of the dangers of carbon monoxide.

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We want a remote starter for a 2009 Honda Civic. I feel completely out of my element, and frankly don't care to learn all about them. I just want someone to tell me what to get. So which one should I get, and where in the Cleveland, OH area can we get it installed?Bonus questions: Is this the sort of thing where a national chain (e.g., Best Buy) can take care of it? I don't really know how to tell a reputable installer from a fly-by-night installer, or even whether I should care. I can't think of any features that we particularly want - we just want it to start the car from 50-ish feet away. Anything else just seems unnecessary. Since we don't need any special features, less expensive is better, but if there is a reason not to go below a certain price point / quality I'd like to know that too.

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Have a question about ice cream? Ask The Ice Cream Informant. With finds like New Orleans Ice Cream Co. Café au Lait & Beignets, Blue Bell Birthday Cake and Talenti Gelato Sea Salt Caramel. The Rankings Ben & Jerry's Pumpkin Cheesecake (Limited Batch) This year, even more than others, it seems Americans have become obsessed with the thought of pumpkin. What previously seemed to have only been a phase has turned into an all-out epidemic. Companies across the country have packed pumpkin flavoring into absolutely everything with the hopes of increased revenue. As a part of the craze myself, I've been pretty impressed thus far with the Fall flavor releases. Companies like Graeter's use a simple, pumpkin-puree base, while Turkey Hill takes another approach with a swirl of cinnamon graham cracker to impersonate pie crust. Ben & Jerry's strays from the beaten path completely with their limited batch Pumpkin Cheesecake. Steve's Review of Blue Bell Mardi Gras King Cake (Seasonal, Gulf Coast Exclusive) Wow! Mardi Gras season down here in Cajun country doesn't start until January 6th, but I was pleased to pass by my local Walmart and notice that Blue Bell has gotten a jump start on those festivities by releasing Mardi Gras King Cake, a flavor exclusive to the Gulf Coast region, stretching from the Florida panhandle to east Texas. Blue Bell says that this is a Cinnamon ice cream with pastry pieces, candy sparkles, and a cream cheese swirl, which by my reckoning hits the major King Cake ingredients, and since I always enjoy a good King Cake, I plunged the spoon in eagerly. What's the difference between ice cream, frozen yogurt, and all the others?

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I need some "punishments" to help a friend beat procrastination. Some snowflakes below.A friend of mine (no, really!) has a hard time beating procrastination and what he usually does is to publicly ask one of his friends to come up with some creative "punishment" that he will have to carry out if he fails to meet a specific deadline: If I don't finish [specific task] by [specific time and date] I will do whatever [friend] tells me to do Now it's my turn to come up with something that will scare him out of procrastination, but I'm having a hard time thinking of something good. Help me! Harm to his person and/or material possessions are completely out of the question. He's more of an extravert, so I fear the usual public shaming will not suffice. Physical exhaustion might do it, but I need something creative and scary but not actually harmful. Unfortunately, he's recently wiped almost all his Facebook archives and I can't see what others have suggested. I could ask, but I have 24 hours to issue a challenge. (In retrospect, I've never had to think of a punishment of any kind to anyone in my whole life.)

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What should a couple in their early 30s do in New York City on Thanksgiving Day?Wife and I did New York at Thanksgiving last year. We're taking the train from Boston to the city again this year. Arriving at noon on Wednesday. Departing on Saturday afternoon. We're looking for suggestions on a couple of things to do on Thursday. (We're going to the parade and yes I know it's touristy and cheesy, but eff that... it's fun and I feel 5-years old again.) After the parade we're looking for... 1. A chill place to have Thanksgiving lunch. (Is there a bar or other relaxed environment to consume all the traditional Thanksgiving cuisine?) 2. Any site we should see, event we should attend, or bar we should drink in during the afternoon hours? 3. ...anything else you'd recommend that can be found on Thanksgiving Day? Details: - We're staying in Williamsburg within a stones throw south of the Williamsburg Bridge, but we'll travel anywhere and know our way around the city very well. - We like anything... and while we're anti-tourists, we're not full-on hipsters. - We're in our early 30s, no kids.

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