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I am preparing to take some old batteries to the recycling center. Some corrosion from the batteries got on several other items, how to dispose of these? Also, does anyone know of a charity in Berkeley that needs old sheets?1. I had a box of batteries that got corroded. I have put the batteries in a bag and plan to bring them to the recycling center, but what should I do with the box? It has corrosion on it too. 2. What should I do with the TV remote control that had a battery corrode inside it? It has corrosion on it. How should it be disposed of? 3. I have a garbage bag full of old sheets. These are flat sheets for twin and full sized beds. It looks like thrift stores don't want these, but sometimes animal shelters do? I live in Berkeley, and checked several animal shelters, and none of them need sheets. Does anybody know a place in Berkeley that might want sheets? Thank you.

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I didn't expect to have a profound reckoning with my relationship to my own lesbianism and womanhood. I didn't expect to make friends I hope to keep for a long, long time. I didn't expect that spending a few days with a couple thousand lesbians on a floating hotel/casino/mall/amusement park would push me to radically reconsider the future I'd been carefully and painstakingly planning for myself. Shannon Keating went on an Olivia cruise, run since 1990 by the legendary lesbian record company and didn't expect much beyond having a good time. It ended up overturning her entire life.

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This is a song about potatoes.

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A Garfield-licensed restaurant has opened in Toronto. My first question was direct, "Why Garfield?" "First of all, my partner and I... were in love with Garfield at a young age, the brand lives with us," Mazri said. "There was relevance. I mean the cat was hungry; he loved eating. It made sense to create a food concept around Garfield. You can call it destiny." Writer Sarah Hagi, known for her love of Garfield the comic strip cat, investigates and reviews a new Toronto restaurant for Food & Wine. The restaurant boasts official Garfield licensing, specially developed sauces, and oddly recyclable food containers.

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Author Ada Palmer on writing, pain, and teamwork.

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Nintendo Life: Tetris Creator Alexey Pajitnov On Tetris 99, Tetris Comics And His Favourite Tetris Piece

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As part of an exhibition in a library, we would like to provide a way for visitors to quickly and easily access a manually curated list of the books the library holds on a particular topic. Ideally we would save the permalinks to each of about 10 holdings to a list in an online service and then provide a QR code going to that list. What service or app should I be looking at for this?Pinterest is almost perfect. I can create a board for each topic, populate it with items from the library (their catalogue even has a "share to Pinterest" link) and link to the board with a QR code. But the user gets prompted to sign in or sign up, which I don't want them to have to do. I can manually create a webpage with these items, but I would rather not if there's an existing service that would work. I am happy to pay for this, but the end users of my list shouldn't have to pay or even register

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I LOVED this behind-the-scenes documentary of Eugene Lee Yang's coming-out dance video and especially appreciated the discussion mid-video about the trickiness of getting people engaged in such a personal project as well as doing all the outside logistical work in addition to the creative work. What are some other sources (writing, video, audio, anything) of other creatives talking about similar matters, especially those from marginalised communities?

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We have a side-by-side, two-story duplex (i.e. semi-detached home). Our wonderful neighbors need to move out of state and are closing on the house. Hail damage means we're replacing our collective roof. They also need⁠—as part of closing⁠—to replace the gutters. We're not replacing ours which means we will be mismatched. We have a party-wall agreement that forbids this. What to do?We adore our neighbors and are sad to see them leave. We've collaborated on exterior projects before now e.g. staining trim and painting to preserve the aesthetics of the house. There is a party-wall agreement that we've never needed to refer to, which restricts doing exterior work without the other's consent and doing repairs which don't match. A recent hail storm damaged our roofs on both sides which we will replace together. ($4,300 deductible, sigh.) Their gutters were also cosmetically damaged⁠—not visible from the ground. They are soon to close on their sale. The damage has been mentioned to the buyers and they have been obliged to put into their closing agreement that they will replace the roof and gutters before closing. They can't delay closing because they will lose their new home on which they have a contingent offer. We don't want them to replace the gutters because they won't match exactly (and therefore it's a breach of the party-wall agreement). We could replace ours too but (a) at a $2,500 cost and (b) new gutters won't match the trim exactly because they're pre-painted so aren't ideal unless essential. Our neighbors are stuck. They either break the party-wall agreement and keep the closing agreement (and keep new home); or they break the closing agreement and lose the deal and new house. They have to choose the former of course. Given there is no structural or visible damage to the gutters AND that the buyers have seen the party-wall agreement, I can't believe they really want the new gutters if there is going to be a mismatch. Our neighbors have asked their realtor to explain the situation to the buyers (and said they would give buyers the cash instead). Apparently the buyers insist they want to proceed. Maybe it's true. But I am skeptical. Do they really understand that (a) the existing gutters are fine; (b) they're going to mismatch our side; and (c) they're forcing something that is in breach of the party-wall agreement. (Allegedly they work in real estate.) I don't want to do anything to jeopardize our neighbors move, but nor do I want a mismatched house, new neighbors regretting a decision when they move in, starting off on the wrong foot with them. I want the buyers to agree to taking the cash and leaving the gutters alone. If they genuinely don't want to then it is what it is—but I'm doubtful anyone would want that. I think I should call the realtor (or email or mail) to explain my concerns. Is that the right approach? I'm thinking something in writing is better but they will start work in two days. (My take is that they should never have put something in the closing agreement if it breached the agreement, until they had our consent. Although I wouldn't mention that.) My goal is to have her convince the buyer's realtor that this is a bad idea, assuming there is a realtor. I don't want her to present us as difficult neighbors (we're not!!) and jeopardize the sale. FWIW, it's a relatively high-end, 12-year old house, in a desirable part of CO. Relevant clauses from party-wall agreement: No Unit Owner shall make any material modifications to the exterior of a Unit (including roofs) without first obtaining the prior written consent of the other Unit Owner. In connection with any Repair Work or modifications to the exterior portions of any Unit, the Owner thereof shall replace any finish or other materials removed with similar materials of at least the same quality, such that there is no reasonably observable difference between that portion of the exterior which was repaired or modified and the remaining portions of the exterior.

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I'm trying to connect an old Sony 8mm camcorder to my shiny new TV and need to know how to make them be friends.The camcorder in question is a Sony CCD-V3 from 1986. A PDF of the manual, if you so desire, is here. The camcorder has 1 video out and 1 (combined?) audio out as well as an RFU DC out which I have never heard of (picture of outputs). My Sony X690E TV has an assortment of HDMI inputs as well as these component inputs (picture of TV inputs). I have this random cable I found in the camcorder case but am unsure if it is of any use currently (picture of random cable). Can you tell me how to put stuff together to make movies appear on my TV screen? I presume I will need to buy some new stuff to do this. Some kinda component-to-HDMI cable? Some kinda converter? That's where you come in! Please be explicit in your directions, for I am audio-visually ignorant. Thanks in advance for helping me figure out how I can relive my most embarrassing childhood moments in vivid 1986 video.

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I'm trying to plan a Summer 2020 trip. I am thinking of incorporating a couple amazing festivals in our travels. (Inspired by a Reddit post on Bloemencorso Zundert) Assume there's nowhere in the world we don't want to visit but that a 12 year old will be with us. What are some incredible annual events we could go see?We love history. Not interested in music/drinking festivals.

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There is a guy at work that I am attracted to and whose body language says he is interested in me too. Awkwardly, I am in the process of getting divorced. I'd like to respond to his signs of interest but am highly unsure how to do so (among other things).I am female, early 30s. My husband and I are separating after 2+ years of marriage (no kids) because we have come to the realisation that we got married before really understanding ourselves and each other; ultimately, we want very different things in life. The process of coming to that realisation was sudden and hard, but now I have pretty much accepted that this is for the best. On my co-worker, M: I have known him for just under 8 months. We worked quite closely together in the first few months, from which I formed a pretty good opinion of him - smart guy, funny - and we got along well as colleagues and semi-friends. By which I mean that we knew some not-so-superficial stuff about each other: our prior professional experiences, what was going on in our personal lives - he was recently single; I was happily (or so I thought) married) - but nothing really deep. That all changed after one conversation we had over dinner one day. It was just the two of us, on a business trip, and I had thought it would be like all other work dinners with colleagues: you have some chitchat, talk about work stuff maybe, and get to know each other a little better. However, the conversation really flowed and just kept going deeper and deeper (he talked about his childhood and his family, I talked about my growing up, we found out we were both about the same age and we both loved animals, he mentioned how he very much wanted to be married with kids and a dog but had no idea why he wasn't, we talked about places we'd traveled to and our experiences of those ...); it was so effortless. By the end of the dinner it felt like there was now this strong emotional connection between us that hadn't been there before. I remember thinking, "What the **** just happened here?" After dinner, we went back to our individual hotel rooms; nothing else happened that night. Since then, I have noticed that his body language to me is different. His face lights up when he sees me (not always, but often enough), he smiles a lot (with his eyes) when we talk, and I've seen many of the other signs that body language experts say indicate that a guy is attracted to you. I am not the greatest at romantic relationships (have pretty much nil dating/relationship experience aside from my marriage that is now ending) but I guess some things you just can't fail to pick up on, whether it's gut feel or instinct or whatchamaycallit. M has also shared what I'd consider further personal information with me (that I consider he needn't have), whether it be about what his mom & sister think about this job (that it's too stressful and he should quit, look for another role) or his holiday plans (travelling alone to see friends). Shortly after The Conversation, unbeknownst to M (or anyone else at work), my marriage is breaking down. My marriage was already not in a good place before The Conversation, but for it to be deteriorating so rapidly is very traumatic - I am crying a lot everyday and have even started therapy. During this time, because of what I am going through, I largely put a lid on myself and my emotions when interacting with M, especially as I feel very unsure about how I should be interacting with him so I default to "professional and friendly" mode as I had been before The Conversation. I also consciously close myself off from responding to his more "personal" sharing (eg: to mom & sister's opinion that he should look for a less stressful role - I'd say a light, "Oh no! That bad??"; to holiday plans - I'd say, "That sounds nice!"). 1.5 months after The Conversation, my marriage is over. Suddenly I find myself single again (still married only in the eyes of the law - until the divorce process is finalised), and that I am now free to respond to M if I so wish to. M now knows I am going through a divorce (when I told him 2 weeks ago, he said he was very sorry to hear that). Since then, his body language signals are still present, though he has been very occupied with several projects that I am not involved on, so we have not had much F2F contact. Much as I would like to explore what I think is a really promising connection with M, I am: a) Confused about what happened during the Conversation/M's behaviour after. M generally comes across as a pretty private person (no active social media presence), an introvert (but pretty well-adjusted one), though not shy, so it feels like someone like this would be quite selective about whom they chose to share information about themselves with. Why did he share all those pretty personal stuff with me (which I reciprocated)? Or am I over-reacting in considering those things pretty personal because to the average person, they really aren't? The body language signals - are those subconscious or conscious? Should I be concerned at all about M's behaviour because by all accounts, I was married when this whole spark began? b) Highly unsure about what is the right way to indicate my interest. Do I start flirting with him? If you were M, how would you feel if your female colleague, whom you're attracted to but has been acting somewhat distant towards you, suddenly starts "coming on" to you (especially now that you know she's fresh from a marriage that has ended)?

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Sewers, (I mean seamstresses, not pootubes), I have lost weight due to thyroid meds and I'm thinking about doing stuff with my many t-shirts that now expose great expanses of my bra. But I have in my mind that one needs an overlocker to sew stretchy fabric, and I don't think I'm ready to buy something that I have to find storage for, that I might use once a year. I've been looking up stuff on the internet but there's too much info, and I'm not sure what applies. So question is, can I use a regular sewing machine to sew t-shirt material, and do I need to change the foot (I have several) and is there anything else I need to know or find out. Thank you very much in advance.

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I am having the carpet torn out of one room and replaced with 3/4" hardwood plank flooring. The carpet has a considerable amount of dog urine damage. One person has told me that the installer should paint the plywood subfloor with Kilz primer first to contain the urine odor.Does this seem necessary? Has anyone heard of urine odor coming through the flooring from the subfloor? Neither Carpet Exchange nor the installer has ever mentioned anything like this to me.

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I have an Android 6.0 tablet that I really want to use for reading and notetaking. I have a dedicated Google account so the tablet can use Drive/Docs, a dedicated Dropbox account, Kindle, Scribd, Pocket, the library app Libby, and, very occasionally, the browser. My Amazon account has two-factor sign in. If those are the only Android apps I use on the tablet, what should I be thinking about/worrying about? Are some of those apps more vector-of-contagioney than others (i.e. the browser)? And would an Android antivirus program help?The device is special (it's an e-ink device made for note taking), I really want to use it, and there aren't currently comparable devices with more updated Android OSs -- so please know that "just buy a more current Android" isn't useful for me. I'm more interested in harm reduction tips and/or understanding the security issues I might face. Thank you!

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I can't get it to install on my brand new Dell Windows 10 beast!I have a brand new high-end Dell gaming machine running Windows 10. I also like that I can use CCleaner to truly delete/erase files so the future dictatorship or teen children don't pry. When I download CCleander now, it will run the installer, or at least start it, then it just disappears. I've looked all over the net for a solution. Now, I would be happy with any trustworthy product that does the same thing.

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I just dropped $300 on an eyeglasses prescription. I'm feeling ripped off (though I know that's pretty standard). I'd like to order a spare online, but I have bifocals AND a prism. Is buying online a bad idea? How do I know the company (Zenni, Warby Parker, whatever) got the prescription correct, besides the obvious and trying them on? I know a ton of people do this, but how do you actually get it right? Especially with bifocals?I asked the optometrist's office to send my prescription, and they did without a problem, but didn't include pupillary distance so I have to get that, too. And I feel weird about walking in and asking them to check the Rx to make sure it's correct. If it matters, this is the difference between my two prescriptions. Apparently I now have an astigmatism. New: Sphere +0.50, cyl power -0.25, axis 085, add +.75, prism 1[superscript triangle] 1n Old: Sphere +0.50, cyl power [none], axis [none], add +.75, horizontal prism 3.00 BI, vertical prism 0.50 BD, add +0.50

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I'm looking for more examples of drafts of speeches or letters or press releases prepared in advance of some operation/event, in case of failure.Eg the D-day and moon landing drafts described in this article

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As human teardrops dry, salt and other substances in the teardrop bunch together and crystalize in intricate, snowflake-like shapes (Discover Magazine). Do the tears caused by onions look the same as those provoked by sadness? Photographers Rose-Lynn Fisher (Smithsonian) and Maurice Mikkers (Medium) have both explored the composition of the three types of tears: basal (ever-present fluid that protects the eye), reflex (triggered by an irritant), and psychic (triggered by emotions). The verdict: they all look different but not because of the type of tears. "There are many factors that determine the look of each tear image," says Fisher (New Yorker), "including the viscosity of the tear, the chemistry of the weeper, the settings of the microscope, and the way I process the images afterwards,"

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I'm a mostly infrequent drinker -- 1-2 glasses of wine or cocktails with friends; I'll go weeks and weeks without any alcohol at all. This past weekend, due to a packed social schedule, I drank 2 cocktails on Friday, a half of a bottle of wine on Saturday and a ~lot~ on Sunday. Today (Tues) I got walloped by a long-lasting wave of "EVERYTHING IS DOOMED" anxiety. I recently cut out coffee because it was making me anxious. Could a high number of drinks have the same effect? If you have anxiety, how does alcohol affect you?Monday I felt normal hungover - lethargic, droopy, headache-y. It's today that has felt like a horror show! Most resources I see online are for more frequent drinkers and/or alcoholics. I think I have a pretty healthy relationship with alcohol and this past weekend's alcohol consumption was very unusual for me (and won't happen again, if this wave of terrible anxiety was caused by it)! I have low-level anxiety that I take medication for but I've noticed it getting way better when I quit coffee and exercise regularly. I'm in my mid-30's. Basically I'd like personal stories if you've had similar experiences.

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The Skatune Network Presents: The Impression That I Get, Except It Changes Genre Every 15 Seconds

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Are there benches at the top of Mohegan Bluffs on Block Island? If some people want to wait at the top while other people climb down, is there a waiting place?

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I've been asked to moderate a panel at an upcoming conference on environmental policymaking. I've attended many of these conferences as an audience member, but I've never been a presenter or a moderator. Any advice from people who've done this job in the past?I know the subject matter pretty well (and will be studying up beforehand), so that side of things shouldn't be a problem. I'm also not looking to get too creative with the format; the usual shape of these things is for the moderator to introduce the topic and the panelists, followed by 10-ish minutes per speaker for a presentation, and then discussion/Q&A for the remaining half-hour or so. Moderator asks at least the first question before going to the audience, and steps in with more if the crowd runs out. Off the top of my head, three things I need to prepare for are the public-speaking aspect of the task; asking questions that facilitate discussion (I'm a reporter so I'm no stranger to interviews, but I'm used to them being one-on-one rather than with a group, and for my own benefit rather than an audience's); and ways to sidestep/cut off any argument or diatribe that might derail things (unlikely, I hope, but that's what a moderator's for). But I also don't know what I don't know, so other advice is more than welcome.

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A young friend has shared that their high school aged brother has been increasingly angry recently, and their parents seem to be in denial. Any resources for a slightly older sibling to help scoop this young man back from the abyss of toxicity? Or at least to keep herself safe? Examples include rants of bigoted tropes "why isn't there white history month," "why no straight pride month," including a refusal to listen to sibling's explanations/refutations, calling sibling a SJW, etc. My friend is worried about him becoming reinforced in these opinions. Troubled sibling is on the autism spectrum. Both young people live at home and are financially dependent on parents while in school. Neither parent believes this young man needs counseling. One parent seems to have a possible mental health issue themselves, with the other parent being in denial about that as well. My young friend lives at home in part to shield the brother from this parent's erratic behavior. I seem to remember previous posts mentioning resources she could point her brother toward, so she's not lecturing him, and getting his anger pointed at her. Alternately, sources for keeping herself stable until she's independent are also welcome.

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I bought some Oral-B Essential Floss that claims to be mint-flavored. That's a lie, all I can taste is pickles. This is putting a slight damper on my flossing routine, but mostly it sends me to bed every night thinking, 'why pickles?!?'. Do you have this floss, and can you taste the pickles? Does anyone know how artificial mint flavor could end up coming across as a freshly opened jar of dill pickles?For the sake of science, I ran some tests: 1. I got a second pack (from a different country!) in case there was some sort of pickle accident in my local grocer, alas I ended up with yet more picklefloss. 2. My spouse tried it, tasted pickles. 3. Pickle flavor remains regardless of whether or not actual, non-floss pickles are part of my diet.

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