posted about 11 hours ago on metafilter
Is Britney Spears Ready To Stand On Her Own? by Serge F. Kovaleski and Joe Coscarelli [The New York Times] For years, the life of one of the world's most successful pop stars has been controlled by a court-approved conservatorship, designed for people who cannot take care of themselves. There has been some debate in California over whether court-appointed lawyers do enough to advocate the rights of those under conservatorship. Just last year, the state's Senate Committee on Judiciary noted in a report: "In theory the court-appointed counsel should be arguing on the proposed conservatee's behalf for a less-restrictive alternative to conservatorship whenever possible." Mr. Ingham has been awarded more than $2 million in fees for his work on Ms. Spears's behalf since 2008. This is in addition to the $6.9 million paid from the estate to the conservators and other lawyers who have helped manage Ms. Spears's affairs under the current arrangement. Ms. Spears has never publicly questioned any of these payments, but critics of the process have. "As long as she is bringing in so much money and as long as the lawyers and conservators are getting paid, there is little incentive to end it," said Elaine Renoire, president of the National Association to Stop Guardian Abuse, an advocacy group. "Usually, the conservatorship just keeps going unless the conservatee makes a fuss or the family does."

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they moved the lighthouse. The Gay Head lighthouse dates to 1796, has been the scene of horrific wrecks, and is in the major motion picture Jaws.

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posted about 12 hours ago on metafilter
"This is the most important question you, as a Briton, will face for a generation. This report offers you 27 great reasons to vote 'Leave' on June 23 – whether you're a staunch socialist or an ardent capitalist, a liberal or a nationalist, there's sure to be a reason which resonates with you..."

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Please give me recommendations for cooking classes, wine tasting and bartending classes in the Boston metro area.I'd like to spend some time picking up the basics of cooking, making drinks, and appreciating wine and cheese. I live in Somerville and have no trouble getting to Cambridge and Boston. The ideal class would be stand alone, during a weekday evening or weekend. Not necessarily interested in courses with a degree unless they've been extraordinary. I've taken the beginning bartending class at The Boston Shaker in Davis Sq. and loved it. I know of classes offered by The Barbara Lynch foundation, but have never taken any. I'm trying to get into a class by Shisho Kitchen in Somerville. Seeking other recommendations :)

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posted about 13 hours ago on metafilter
My lovely husband has a dream of owning a foosball table and covering it with stickers. He's amassed the sticker collection. Help me find the foosball table ?I know nothing about foosball. I'm willing to spend up to $1000 but only if it's a wicked nice table. The price range on these things is incredible, I'm seeing $200 all the way to $7,000 plus. What should I be looking for in a foosball table ?

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"There is no reason on earth why Prince Charming cannot walk through our front door!" Bonus: I've curated the classic album, Lenny and Squiggy Present Lenny and the Squigtones, from individual youtube posts, onto a single playlist.

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Gore, Guts, & the Grotesque :: The Acid Trip Art of Alex Jenkins

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I really love Italo Calvino's novels, stories and nonfiction. I'm planning a trip to Europe and was wondering if there is any kind of museum or historic site devoted to him (I was imagining something like the Hemingway Museum). Is there a place that would be especially good to visit for a Calvino fan? I've googled a bit but all I can find is his grave in Castiglione della Pescaia.

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posted about 14 hours ago on metafilter
Midnight Oil have today confirmed they will reform for a series of shows both in Australia and overseas in 2017. This will be the band's first shows since 2009 and their first tour since breaking up in 2002. A refresher: Beds Are Burning - Power and the Passion - The Dead Heart - Bus to Bondi - When the Generals Talk

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I am interested in taking a Caribbean cruise but not spending every penny that I have. As such, I am wondering how much it realistically costs to do a cruise, on a line like Carnival or Royal Caribbean, if I do it "middle of the road" in terms of extras. In other words, I would do a lot of the free stuff, but pay for some extras--occasional non-included meals, drinks, and fun. Do you have any thoughts about what it realistically would cost to do, for example a 5-day cruise? How to maximize fun on a budget? Other tips?

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posted about 15 hours ago on metafilter
My spouse has got it rough, and I'm arguably the strongest pillar in his support network. Lately, though, I'm finding myself completely emotionally destroyed after offering him the support I've promised him. I need coping mechanisms to maintain my own emotional stability while still remaining supportive to my sweetheart.Thanks in advance for your advice.

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I told her I didn't want to continue our date because she had been dishonest, and given that honesty is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, this was clearly not a good start. After a pause, thick with the tension between us, I took some of the hostility out of my voice. "Look, humor is really important to me, and you're funny," I told her. "Be honest next time, and you will find you the right guy. It's not me." I told her I was going to leave and got up from the table. That's when the cameras came out. In front of them, a shiny-faced man dressed in a suit approached me with an extended microphone. It was John Quiñones, and he told me that I was on ABC's What Would You Do?

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It is never too early to start thinking about your own death and the deaths of those you love. I don't mean thinking about death in obsessive loops, fretting that your husband has been crushed in a horrific car accident, or that your plane will catch fire and plummet from the sky. But rational interaction, that ends with you realizing that you will survive the worst, whatever the worst may be. Accepting death doesn't mean that you won't be devastated when someone you love dies. It means you will be able to focus on your grief, unburdened by bigger existential questions like "Why do people die?" and "Why is this happening to me?" Death isn't happening to you. Death is happening to us all.It's never too early to start thinking about your own death

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My parents live in San Diego. This year is their 50th wedding anniversary. My idea, since they love music, is to find a concert or show that they could enjoy together.All my searches have given me music that doesn't match their interests. None of us children are able to travel to visit and throw a party in their honor, which would be an ideal gift. They enjoy folk music and 50's era rock and love to dance- they are in a group that does ballroom dancing socials. Can you recommend any particular venues, resources or specific events that might fit their interests?

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Desperately trying to find a techno / EDM song from the early 90's - all I can remember is a lyric that sounds something like: "skinny bumblebee", but kind of drawn out, like "ski-i-i-innnny bumblebee". High BPM dance song. Had it on a mix tape which is now lost to the sands of time.

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"This is not about Patricia Hearst. It is about me and the peculiar vacuum in which I grew up, a vacuum in which the Hearsts could be quite literally king of the hill." Joan Didion's notes for a never written story about the Patricia Hearst trial.

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posted about 15 hours ago on metafilter
Dubstep and animals pooping (SLYT)

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posted about 16 hours ago on metafilter
***links contain pictures of wasps and bees*** "Despite the fear they sometimes evoke, wasps are extremely beneficial to humans. Nearly every pest insect on Earth is preyed upon by a wasp species, either for food or as a host for its parasitic larvae. Wasps are so adept at controlling pest populations that the agriculture industry now regularly deploys them to protect crops." "Save The Bees!' has become a familiar rallying cry to most of us since the discovery that bee populations all over the world are disappearing. Our attitudes towards bees have radically changed in the space of a few years, with slogans, organizations, legislation, and websites galore popping up to try to help protect them. But what about the wasps? Do they need protecting too? How important are wasps in the scheme of things? What happens to bees when we use poisons to kill wasps? Neonicotinnoids, the pesticides that are killing the bees are also used in most wasp poison, and they have long term effects on mammals birds and fish as well. Humans may also be significantly effected by these pesticides. Something to think about before you blast a big dose of wasp spray on a nest of paper wasps, especially since non chemical control is relatively easy.

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I'm looking for a couples counselor in the Honolulu area who isn't a big proponent of anything religious/"Eastern"/mystical/etc. Degrees from accredited universities are preferred. I've already checked the Psychology Today website without much luck.Off-board suggestions can be sent to [email protected] Thanks in advance!

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posted about 17 hours ago on metafilter
Brahmins, shamans, priests, ascetics, monks, holy kings - all of them have some kind of taboo or another that prohibits sex or the tastiest food items. Jesus, Buddha, and Moses all had intense experiences of deprivation and self-denial before spiritual zeniths. My question is - why is that those individuals considered the most spiritually powerful are also taxed with the most prohibitions or expected to have undergone difficult and costly experiences?Is it a costly signal of cooperative intent or trustworthiness? Not necessarily: Among the Barama River Carib, if you wanted to become an evil shadow-person-ninja (kanaima), you consumed nothing except white mushrooms and rain water captured in leaves. Looking for theory for psychology, cognitive science, anthro, religious studies, sociology, philosophy, and anything else! Thanks, MeFi!

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There's one for sale on Craigslist for $20. Anyone used one? Know where I can get the Potassium chlorate "solid oxygen" pellets?I would use it primarily for bicycle frames - fillet brazing thin-wall steel tubing. I've used Oxy-MAPP torches in the past and found them underpowered for the job, but with a full-size Oxy-Acetlyne rig I rarely use more than a #1 tip. I can't find much info online, and they apparently haven't been made since the 80s. I would love testimonials/reviews from anybody who's tried one.

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Are there any concerns I should have about my daughter doing a lot of rock climbing in terms of possible impacts on her physical development and growth?My soon-to-be 8-year-old daughter loves indoor rock climbing and has been doing it a lot. I like the sport - it's a lot of fun, great for building arm and hand strength, and also has a good mental component to it. Plus I really like the staff and climbers who we interact at rock climbing gyms. So I've been very supportive of her interest in this activity. I consider it to be quite safe (again please note that I'm just talking about indoor rock climbing, not outdoor), and my concern is not about acute injuries, although I do realize such things can potentially happen. Rather, my concern is that if she sticks with this on a somewhat intensive basis for a long time, are there any potential negative impacts I'm not aware of on her development and growth, such as her bones or joints or tendons? Could she be at risk of developing any chronic injuries from climbing a lot (as opposed to falling or some other type of acute injury) that might plague her later? I know that for some sports there are guidelines about the maximum amount or type of activity children should do. For example, children shouldn't throw too many fast balls and or any/many curve balls lest they damage their developing arms. I don't know whether there are any such guidelines for indoor rock climbing.

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He broke up with me. I'm not bitter, but I am in pain. I'm looking for fiction or non-fiction books about starting again from nothing. I have When Things Fall Apart and I've ordered a used copy of Eat, Pray, Love. What else can I read that will help me get to the other side of this?

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The Department of Justice has notified North Carolina that it is in violation of Title IX and has given it until Monday to confirm it will not implement or enforce HB2.

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posted about 17 hours ago on metafilter
Bad bun, bad bun, whatchoo gonna do?

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