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One hundred years ago today began the Battle of Cambrai. On November 20th, 1917, the British army launched the first massed tank attack in history. Nearly five hundred vehicles, accompanied by air power, poison gas, and swarms of infantry, slammed into German lines before the northern French city of Cambrai. The first day saw serious territorial gains, in Western Front terms. Hindenburg was grudgingly impressed. But the British failed to exploit their success, the Germans recovered from the shock, then counterattacked successfully. Nearly 100,000 people were casualties on both sides combined. Eleven months later there would be another battle on the same site. Twenty-three years later the Germans, having absorbed Cambrai's lessons about mechanized warfare, would return with massed tanks of their own. One report from 1918. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle published his account in 1923. A British veteran remembers his experience. One video account, with quizzes. A British documentary (missing some audio; sorry). Gamed digitally in Battlefield 1 and by old-fashioned SPI tabletop wargaming. One tank-centric site. Perhaps we overstate the importance of tanks at Cambrai. Previously, a good note from ghostinthemachine.

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Cory Arcangel (previously) describes his artwork/Super Mario Bros ROM hack "Super Mario Clouds" as "an old Mario Brothers cartridge which I modified to erase everything but the clouds." Except, as Patrick LeMieux discovers when reverse-engineering the ROM, "Arcangel's ROM hack does not actually contain Nintendo's ROM". There was no erasure. This video documents Patrick's analysis of Arcangel's ROM and his own attempt to erase "everything but the clouds".

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Ever since my mom became ill, I have been having a really hard time keeping in touch with her. I need to be strong and be there for her, but I subconsciously avoid calling or interacting in general. How can I get over the sadness and go back to being a loving daughter?My mom (who lives in another country) had a stroke and has been bed-bound for almost three years now. While at first I dedicated my time to helping her and being there for her emotionally, once I returned to my own home things changed drastically. Things were a little traumatic for us at first. She was in a coma for a month, I took three months of leave from work to take care of her (which was the most stressful period of my life), and in the end she miraculously recovered but could never walk again and she needs a lot of assistance. Now I feel like I am grieving her, only she is actually alive. I can't really describe it, but there is this wall of sadness that makes me want to avoid talking to her. She used to be super active and had a million things going on. We used to be very close and I used to enjoy nurturing and even spoiling her a little with gifts and care packages (she deserves it - she has always been loving and dedicated). We would have long conversations about a million things, at least weekly. Now I can barely make myself pick up the phone to call. I feel horribly guilty about this. It has been a couple of years now, so it's not like things got easier with time. She hasn't complained, but I can tell she is confused and misses me. Besides the sadness, I just feel terrible telling her about my life, because it's like listing all the things she can't participate in since she can't even get out of bed. Sometimes when I make myself call, we have nothing to talk about and it brakes my heart. Now I'm getting ready to have a baby, and I feel even worse because I know she wishes she could be involved. I do have two sisters who continue to pamper her and are much better at it than I am. I can tell they are also a little mystified by my withdrawal but they have been kind enough not to say anything and have been supportive and encouraging, which makes me feel even guiltier. I can't burden my sisters with my own feelings because my family are quite "stiff-upper-lip" so I'm not sure they would understand, plus they have enough on their plate as it is. I would really appreciate tips on getting over the sadness and coming up with conversation topics that will make engage her. I know I need to be there for her, and I want to prioritize her feelings over mine, but so far I haven't been able to. I want to take care of her, and I hate myself a little for leaving her hanging when she needs support. I want to send her little packages and gifts again, but I somehow they feel like pity presents now. It's like everything I would like to do for her has a veneer of sadness and I can't get over it so I end up doing nothing and neglecting her. I appreciate any tips on changing my mentality or practical strategies to make the interactions less sad, or to learn to ignore the sadness and do what I have to do. Thank you.

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Are there sites that are like those meal train websites (to help those with severe illness or mourning) but which help organise hangout times? Or a way to customise those sites for those purposes?I am currently going through an immensely difficult time right now and the thing I'm finding most helpful at the moment is time with people, especially staying with friends for the night. I've gotten a bunch of offers, but it can be overwhelming to figure out where to go when especially when I'm very low. I was thinking of those websites where you can sign up to deliver meals to those in need and I was wondering if there's a way to adapt them to say "ok you can stay at my house on X to Y date". Or a preexisting site exactly for this? Or some other method?

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I am looking for a bath caddy with specific features.I am upping my bath game and I am on the hunt for a bath caddy with a candle holder and a book stand. The candle holder should fit a standard household candle, like this one. The book holder should have something to keep the book open, like this one (although I would prefer one with a clip, like a recipe book holder). Bonus: wine glass holder Needs to be available online in the UK, and my budget is under £30. Help me live in the bath this winter!

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I had flown to the Balkans in late July 2017 to learn about blood feuds, or the ancient oaths of vendetta sworn between warring families and passed on from one generation to the next. The killing is concentrated in northern Albania—in the rural, often unreachable villages of the Accursed Mountains, and in the modern city of Shkodër, one of the oldest municipalities in southeastern Europe. Here, justice works like this: When a man is murdered, his family avenges his death by similarly executing either the killer himself or a male member of his clan. Sometimes, after a killing has been successfully vindicated, the feud is settled. Other times, the head of the family that initiated the feud, while admitting both sides are now ostensibly "equal," nonetheless chooses to perpetuate the cycle by killing a second male from the avenging family.

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During WWII, the United States and New Zealand conducted secret tests of a "tsunami bomb" designed to destroy coastal cities by using underwater blasts to trigger massive tidal waves. The tests were carried out in waters around New Caledonia and Auckland during the Second World War and showed that the weapon was feasible and a series of 10 large offshore blasts could potentially create a 33-foot tsunami capable of inundating a small city. The top secret operation, code-named "Project Seal", tested the doomsday device as a possible rival to the nuclear bomb. About 3,700 bombs were exploded during the tests, first in New Caledonia and later at Whangaparaoa Peninsula, near Auckland. The plans came to light during research by a New Zealand author and film-maker, Ray Waru, who examined military files buried in the national archives. Read the relevant extract from Ray Waru's book - Secrets & Treasures: Our stories told through the objects at Archives New Zealand (Random House) This year the previously secret restricted file from Archives New Zealand has been made available to view online - The Final Report of Project "Seal" (1950)

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Recently I have met one guy I really enjoyed sharing the intimacy with him, he's a new grad but unemployed for 6 months. although I was not that interested in his looks but I guess I liked his character ( tsk tsk). On our second date he offer to take me somewhere , we did and ate @ a bar, when asking for check , he explained explicitly to the waitress which is his which is mine. I got so upset so I cut off the rest of the plan and asked to go home. Despite I was so upset but I really liked him I guess. My angry fade away when we reach out my house , we parked @ a park Then we start talking ( he didn't notice I was upset ) then we end up making out (very passionately ). We decide to make it real so we were discussing should we book an Airbnb next time , I said yes then he asked : you wanna do half -half? I was still drawing in the after-make-out kindness so I said yes even though I start feeling upset again. But the day after the more I think the more weird I felt. I felt cheap so o text him bad told him: I understand he's unemployeed I don't care where we go nor how fancy it could be but I would like to see that when you offer me something it should be well planned , I can bring food or anything ro equivalent your effort or money but I am not comfortable paying half everytime we go out , if so letz just be friendz or not seeing each other at all. My actually question is : How to explain to dates split bills makes me uncomfortable, and why it makes me uncomfortable? Background: Been in Canada for 4 years. I am a single child raised by a lot of attentions and love, come from a country where most guys are usually/normal(comfortable) paying everthing for the girls ( no matter it's short term or long term). Experiences: previously I had 2-years old horribly-ended abusive relationship ( which I always offer 50/50 during the whole time or more just to be with him.) After that I have dated ppl but all of them are always willing to pay. Right now I am @ my early 20s with savings and a affordable-lifestyle earning . Due to the horrible LTR I realize I will start having server trust issue if I get into relationships, so protentially I would choose not to expose myself to a certain person to a certain level of intamcy which will grows me dependent on him. I am seeing different people from time to time, despite my cautious of being taking advance of, I am still genuine and caring to each single person I've seen, for my real close friend I have no problem paying extra or pick up the check, I always buying small surprise for them ( roses, grocery etc.) or help them when the time needed. I really appreciate Friendz who helped me walk through the rough, very rough time. However I found out that I have zero tolerance for sharing the bills with my dates, especially on the first 1-3 dates. I get extremely offended ( but not showing on my face ) if they asked to split for a simple $40 dinner I will not see them again. I panned things well and I have had offered many times to my dates and made sure every pieces of the detail of the plan made through without him to worry where to go next where to eat whether it's closed, etc. Cause I believe in effort not staging, offer what you can give, if you have no money for restaurant letz do picnic with simple sandwiches and beer costs $10 max. I am not expecting nor looking forward to participate in an activity which you offered initially but still need half of my effort to complete eventually. I find it really cheap, I feels like being taking advantaged. The splitting bill probably not a profound scenario to use as an example for my feelings above but it's the most direct and recent situation I been through and I feel it related to this case.

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My 4 year old son has become transfixed on a particular toy he wants. Problem is, I can't find it. Can you?While at the park a month or so ago, my son bumped into a friend with a transformer which he has decided he wants for christmas. Despite many distractions, he has remained steadfast that he wants this transformer, and only this transformer. Only problem is, I can't seem to google it. It was a flying transformer of some kind, but one particular attribute that stands out is that it has multiple small plastic transparent flames sprouting out of various points. For all I know this was a knock off of transformers, but it looked reasonably genuine (based on my close to non-existent transformers knowledge) Help me please!

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This past April a massive 80-foot steel kraken was purposefully sunk into the Caribbean Sea on top of a decorated WW2 ship. The former Navy fuel barge and its monstrous passenger were placed underwater in order to jumpstart a new coral ecosystem, while also serving as a cutting-edge education center for marine researchers and local students from the surrounding British Virgin Islands. The project is titled the BVI Art Reef, and aims to use sculptures like the porous kraken as a base to grow transplanted coral. There's a teaser trailer for an upcoming documentary, and lots more photos on Facebook.

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I'm trying to decide whether to make one last attempt at contacting a person I admire, or to let it go and move on. I'm a little concerned about seeming intrusive since I discovered the person through an older blog and only found contact information indirectly.I discovered this person via their blog (personal journal style, with few to no comments, and non-commercial). It struck me how much we had in common; I realize that may not be as rare or as meaningful as I think, but in some ways it seemed downright uncanny. After a thorough reading, I came away really admiring this person. A while ago I left a comment on a newer blog post, hoping to get in touch. The blog had been dormant for a few months at that point and still is; I'm almost certain my comment was not seen. I also was able to find this person indirectly via Facebook search. It's definitely the same person, and an active account with a lot of public posts. I eventually sent a brief private message referencing the blog. I have no way of knowing whether it was rejected (meaning I can't contact the person again), ignored, or went unnoticed. Although I'm wordy and socially awkward, I think I have a good handle on how not to be creepy, intrusive, or annoying. I would like to know if it's okay to make one more attempt to contact this person. I was thinking of sending another short message along with perhaps a friend request. Is this fine, or too much? I'm thinking about it three different ways: a)Stop worrying and go for it! No matter what happens, you'll be glad you tried. This is somewhat normal and you're overthinking it. You're going to be respectful, so it's not a real imposition on the other person, who can easily ignore you. b)This is just too much of a stretch. It's two ships passing in the night. Appreciate what you've learned, and move on. c)This is too much of a burden on the other person! There's no way to know whether you'll come across as intrusive. Unfortunately, you can't prove you have good intentions, are non-creepy, won't be annoying, and are not dangerously different than who you present yourself to be. What am I missing here, if anything? What do you suggest I say, if I say something again? How can I get over it if I decide not to do this, or if nothing comes of it? I speak of "moving on" because I suspect my admiration for this person represents something I'm missing in my own life, so I'm wondering how to identify exactly what that means to me and how to cope with it. NB: By all appearances, we are both women. There is no chance of romantic attraction. We are both in our twenties.

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Charles Manson, the mass murderer and cultural icon, has died. (NYT link) He was convicted of the murders of 9 people, most famously Sharon Tate (wife of Roman Polanski, the movie director). However, Manson was not physically present for any of the killings, which were carried out by his followers, known as the "Manson family." From the obituary: To the end of his life, Mr. Manson denied having ordered the Tate-LaBianca murders. Nor, as he replied to a question he was often asked, did he feel remorse, in any case. He said as much in 1986 in a prison interview with the television journalist Charlie Rose. "So you didn't care?" Mr. Rose asked, invoking Ms. Tate and her unborn child. "Care?" Mr. Manson replied. He added, "What the hell does that mean, 'care'?"

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I love reading about other people learning to cook! Both in cooking schools and at home. Looking for more recommendations!I really enjoy reading about other people learning to cook. I find it interesting and inspiring, and I like being reminded of why I should be doing a better job of cooking regularly. I like memoirs about people attending cooking school, but I'm also looking for more books about people learning how to cook at home. I've really enjoyed pretty much everything by Michael Ruhlman, "The Sharper Your Knife The Less You Cry" and "The Kitchen Counter Cooking School" by Kathleen Flinn (especially the latter), and a short piece Mark Bittman wrote for Kindle called "Cooking Solves Everything". I also enjoyed the spirit and feel of Tamar Adlar's "An Everlasting Meal". Books about why one should cook are also interesting. What should I read next? Thanks!

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I am probably going to apply for graduate school in the spring in the sciences. People who have a graduate degree in the sciences, how did you find your advising professor?I will be applying in food science for a masters. I plan on doing a project for two different professors in my major this year to get my feet wet in research. I do not yet know what my "calling" is and I am not sure if I should be seeking someone in a specialty or if I should be shaping what I want to do based on available grant money. So, here are some questions I have: 1. How did you find your professor and area of research? What sent you down the path towards that person in the first place? 2. Which came first, the desire for a specific project or grant money for research that determined what you researched and who advised you? 3. How specific did you get in your specialty before you applied for grad school? 4. Say I find someone who is taking graduate students in an area I find interesting, how the heck do I let them know I am interested in being a graduate student with them without looking like an ass-kissing fool? 5. I am applying to the school I am currently attending but I am a transfer student applying after a year here. That means I don't know tons of people yet. How can I accelerate getting acquainted without, again, looking like an ass-kissing fool? 6. How do I approach someone not at my school? Is it normal to apply for graduate school without contacting the professor doing the research you are interested in? Are you really applying to a department rather than to a specific project/ area of research? So many questions. Argh.

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Is it in poor taste for non-Jews to play/sing the Adam Sandler Chanukah song?

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I'm going to London between Christmas and New Year's, to meet another of my children, and hopefully catch some sights. I have maybe 6 days max in the city and some logistics questions. Both of us are decent travelers in Asia.1. Which neighbourhood in London should we target for an air bnb? We just need a warm child-friendly room in a house with a kitchen for breakfasts. 2. Raincoat/parka enough or do I need an umbrella as well? I always lose the damn things. 3. What kind of footwear is needed? Will sneakers with thick wool socks suffice, or do I need proper winter boots? 4. From London, how difficult and long is it to get to Hampshire and/or Bath for a day trip to see the Jane Austen sights? Would this be a time consuming nightmare, or an easy side trip? 5. We will be doing a lot of the British Museum and the Christmas Fair, meh on Harry Potter (child is ambivalent), and hopefully outdoor ice skating, Kew and Harrods toy store. Is there anything else that would make this amazing for a curious morbid nerdy 6 year old?

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Cuphead and the Racist Spectre of Fleischer Animation [Unwinable] "When asked in a Rolling Stone interview about the unfortunate associations of Cuphead's 1930s aesthetic, lead inking artist for the game, Maja Moldenhauer replies: "It's just visuals and that's about it. Anything else happening in that era we're not versed in it." But these visuals are weighed down by the history that brought them into being, despite the developers best efforts at stripping them of the more overt caricatures that are rife in cartoons for most of the first half of the 20th century. By sanitizing its source material and presenting only the ostensibly inoffensive bits, Studio MDHR ignores the context and history of the aesthetic it so faithfully replicates. Playing as a black person, ever aware of the way we have historically been, and continue to be, depicted in all kinds of media, I don't quite have that luxury. Instead, I see a game that's haunted by ghosts; not those confined to its macabre boss fights, but the specter of black culture, appropriated first by the minstrel set then by the Fleischers, Disney and others -twisted into the caricatures that have helped define American cartoons for the better part of a century." • Pickaninnies and Pixels: On Race, Racism, and Cuphead at E3 [Not Your Mama's Gamer] [Contains Autoplay Video] "I say all of this to say that while I recognize that the cel shaded beauty and style of Cuphead is new to games and something to be appreciated, seeing the trailer for the game this week elicited a visceral reaction in me. It made me feel physically ill. I got queasy and my head swam a bit. It was one of those moments when you are sure that your blood pressure has shot up 20 or 30 points, a true WTF moment. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. I kept waiting for the next boss to be a thick-lipped, black-faced, spittle-dripping caricature of an African American man (probably holding aloft a terrified, screaming, blonde, Caucasian woman just to show what a threat he actually was). And looking back at the trailer for the game that was shown at last year's E3 we see that the devil who is after the souls of our heroes (Cuphead and Mugman) is strangely reminiscent of caricature (NB that this year's trailer devil was grayscale, so the color is unclear, with less pronounced lips). The jazzy score with the almost tribal undertones calls to mind not only the savage portrayal of men of the African diaspora, but also the savage sexualization of its women. " • Cuphead: creating a game that looks like a 1930s cartoon [The Verge] "But the most striking thing about the game is how it looks. It's a game that tries to capture the surreality inherent in cartoons from the '30s, like Betty Boop or Steamboat Willie. Enemies in the game include a towering cigar with a sinister grin, and a giant carrot with psychic powers. There are also plenty of sight gags, like a fish going fishing, or a coin who doesn't trust banks. And, of course, the main character in Cuphead is, well, a guy a with a cup for a head. Capturing that style — and doing it in a way that both looked and felt authentic — required a lot of work. It meant utilizing most of the same techniques that gave early Disney and Fleischer Studios cartoons their distinct look. The backgrounds in the game consist of watercolor paintings, while every frame of animation was hand-drawn on paper, before being inked and ultimately inserted into the game. The only part of the process that was digital was the coloring. "When we did our tests at the beginning, we hand-painted each cell and then we colored it digitally, and we did a comparison," explains Moldenhauer. "There really was no difference. So that's why we took the easy path."" • 'Cuphead': Why 1930s Animation Continues to Grip Contemporary Culture [Rolling Stone] "But if you take a step back, you can find traces of Cuphead's distinct style across a wide swath popular culture. The game's aesthetic roots have been springing up for years in everything from children's cartoons like Adventure Time and Ren and Stimpy to the latest Jay-Z music video, offering major studios and indie animators alike a boundless, surrealist palette – one that never quite reached its full potential back in the 1930s. Created by Canadian development Studio MDHR, Cuphead draws its influence directly from the animated shorts of Fleischer Studios, which introduced the world to Betty Boop. Fleischer's style is defined by "rubber hose" animation, where animators drew characters with no joints to save time and effort, and Rotoscoping, a method for illustrating cartoons in which every line is constantly wiggling and waving. " • How Cuphead nailed the look and feel of classic 1930s cartoons [Gamasutra] "Another key to capturing the feel of the classic Depression-era toons was exacting recreations of the technical imperfects of the era. "If you go back and study old film—not just cartoons, any old film from the period—nothing was perfect," Moldenhauer says. "It's nothing like the digital crispness we're used to." "We studied the line weights, how the thickness of the tapers would change from frame to frame on all of the old cartoons," he adds. "We mimicked that to the best of our ability." Focusing was imperfect as well in classic films, so everything in Cuphead is slightly blurred.But, aside from just the art inspiration, there was another element from that era that the team implemented in Cuphead. Moldenhauer mentioned how film used to have a lot of noise and scratches on it. Fittingly, Cuphead has on-screen noise and for such effects, it literally borrows from film. "It's actually scanned from film, it's not digital ... the dust and the hairs and all of that noise is like, real life stuff," Moldenhauer says. The details didn't stop there, however. They recreated old typefaces, and also designed custom fonts based on lettering from 1930s comics, as well as animation and film title cards." • Cuphead's Animation Process and Philosophy [YouTube] [28:18] "For those enthralled by its art style, a keynote behind Cuphead's animation process has now released on the official Games Developers Conference (GDC) YouTube channel. Despite taking place back at GDC 17 in February, the session has now been made available to the public. Hosted by an animator at StudioMDHR, Jake Clark, the talk covers how the concepts behind Cuphead's bosses evolved into fully animated characters. Running just short of half an hour, Clark explains how a simple idea progresses, while exploring both the artistic philosophies and technical feats overcome during development. For those interested in visual arts or any form of design, the talk is worth a watch simply for the artist's breakdown of Cuphead's animation process." [via: Windows Central] • Cuphead: The Admirable Lunacy of Hand-Animating a Video Game in 2017 [Select/All] "It was personal preference, but later as we were studying what makes those cartoons click to us, I think there's two major things. The one side is that this was pre–Hayes code, before people knew that they should maybe make cartoons a little more catered toward children. There's a bit of a creepier, surreal vibe. The cartoons just stood out as — something was always a little bit off and they weren't packaged up in some neat, perfect story. The other side of it is, back then, the artists didn't know that you could get away with animating everything on the twos — which means you draw every second frame — the frames are held longer, so everything was drawn on the ones — which means 24 drawings per second of animation — which adds quite a bit more life to it. Almost more real. I think those two things are the main themes that caught our eye, even when we were kids. We didn't know why we loved it, but, I think, now that we've studied it, those are the main reasons." • Betty Boop Snow White 1933 HD Fletcher Studios [YouTube] "Snow-White, also known as Betty Boop in Snow-White, is a film in the Betty Boop series from Max Fleischer's Fleischer Studios directed in 1933. Dave Fleischer was credited as director, although virtually all the animation was done by Roland Crandall. Crandall received the opportunity to make Snow-White on his own as a reward for his several years of devotion to the Fleischer studio, and the resulting film is considered both his masterwork and an important milestone of The Golden Age of American animation. Snow-White took Crandall six months to complete."

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We get our landline phone service from Cox as an internet based phone service. I'd like to record calls on this line. What is the best way of doing this?The service from Cox is an internet based service, but in most respects it works like the old style copper wire landline it replaced--the cable from Cox runs into a (literally) black box, the phone line plugs into a different port on that same box, and out comes our dial tone. I'm sure I could record calls using a regular microphone that physically attaches to the phone. This seems a little antiquated but might still be the best option. If so, is there a favorite product? Possibly there's something that listens on the line itself, like a phone, except it records. Seems plausible. What I'd really like is something that listens on the computer network and records a sound file for each conversation to one of our computers. I don't know if this is possible. I imagine this is a solved problem--people work from home all the time and for some of you recording calls is mandatory. Looking for what "just works" here at the end of 2017

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All the windows in my apartment can only be opened a little bit at the top (like this). How do I vent the kitchen when cooking?Currently, food smells will linger for days after cooking, even when I keep the window open (plus prop open the door to the hallway, or open another window) for hours. There is a vent fan above the stove, but it just expels air back into the room. In fact, there are no fans to the outside in the entire apartment, even in the bathroom. Window fans won't fit into the sliver of open window. Any ideas for how to vent the kitchen? Note: I'm not looking for ways to neutralize the odor, like sprays/air purifiers/baking soda/boiling vinegar.

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Oh hey look a book question. After a bunch of depressing non-fiction (pretty much everything from this previous Ask) it's time to lighten the mood with Kim Stanley Robinson's mammoth Green Earth. Anything else in this vein, perhaps a little more thriller-ly, but most certainly science-ly?Assume I've read everything up until about 2010 and have then been lost in the woods in the dark and with all my senses deafened, including my eyes. What are the latest hard-hitting, modern-science technothrillers? Amazon's "you might also like" algorithms seem to have lost the plot, and lists online reference way too much old stuff for my liking, plus I figure people like talking about books that they have read and enjoyed in their various niche genres, plus Metafilter has not steered (storn?) me wrong before, so I'd love to hear your recommendations! One example I have found that may be indicative (along with Green Earth) of what I'm after.

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A neighbor's garage door remote is opening my garage door. I have tried SO MANY things to fix it. Please help!My neighbor's remote control will open my door. I am not just guessing that this is what's happening, we have tested it. My two controllers do not open his door, even if I go very close to it. We both have LiftMasters, I have an older one and he has brand new one. Mine is Model 1145, not sure about his model but it was installed this year. I have remotes with dip switches in them. If I change the code in one of the remotes, then reprogram the ceiling unit to recognize it, my other remote will no longer work (suggesting that I have successfully changed the code, and also that the ceiling unit is only recognizing one code at a time). However even though I have changed the codes several times my neighbor's opener will still open our garage door. Some LiftMasters have a feature where you hold down the learn button to make it forget all the old codes. Holding down the button is supposed to make the light next to the learn button go out, indicating the codes have been wiped. In our unit holding down the button does not make the light go out. The manual for our unit also does not mention this memory-wiping feature, and my experience with trying to reprogram it suggests that it is only remembering one code at a time (because whenever I change the code in one remote and reprogram, the other remote stops working). I think it is just an old model that is only supposed to retain one code. I thought maybe our opener was only recognizing a subset of the nine dip switches in our controller, and that maybe I was not actually changing the core subcode that was being recognized (and that would also be part of the code in the neighbor's controller), so I tried changing the dip switches in the middle of the row just to be sure. I also tried changing just the first and last of the nine dip switches and noticed that changing either will make the opener stop working, suggesting that the ceiling unit is using the whole nine-switch code not a smaller subcode. My neighbor has very kindly offered to let me reprogram all of his openers to try fix the problem later this week if I still can't figure it out, but after all the things I have tried I just don't understand why his opener is still able to open my door, so I am not really even sure reprogramming his controllers will work. Does anyone have any ideas?

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Planning a getaway to SE Asia this Spring. Not experienced with international travel. How do I begin?Including travel time (flying out of the PNW, USA), this should be a quick 7 day trip. I'm vegetarian, partner is not. We'd like to experience culture, rather than a resort-style experience, and we don't have a gazillion dollars to spend. Since travel will cut the trip down to about 4-5 days of actual vacationing, we would like a little variety in how we spend those days, but we are not looking to do All of The Things. Here's what interests us: -Food -Festivals -Museums (history/art) -Sightseeing/nature -Guided tours -Beach -City life In a way, we're so easy-going that this should be so easy to plan. OTOH, we literally don't know what to do: book a flight to some city, and a nearby hotel, and go from there? I'm happy to wing it. My partner will have major anxiety if we don't have a rock solid itinerary with contingency plans; for example, how will we get from the airport to our hotel? "You can probably catch a taxi" is too loosey-goosey for my partner's peace of mind! I've looked at some guided tour packages and considered going through a travel agent, but I think planning can be accomplished without all that. I was leaning toward Thailand only because I've heard it's easy to find vegetarian Thai food. More than anything, we just want a new experience together. SE Asia is a huge region neither of us have explored. Thank you for any pointers you may have! It's very appreciated!

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I'm going on a ladies' weekend next week. We have a woman who doesn't eat red meat, and an egg allergy. I need a luxurious hangover type breakfast that doesn't have eggs! I'd intended to make an overnight type casserole (bread soaked in egg overnight, with ham and cheese) but that so doesn't work. She does eat turkey bacon. Any ideas? I'm a great cook but not experienced with the no egg thing.

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When I first got my rescue dog, Huggy, mefi was very helpful in assisting me as a newbie dog owner. Thanks! I've had her now for almost two years, and it's been wonderful. Until yesterday, I would have said the one thing I was sure of in her training was that she was responsive to the recall command. And she always has been, until she wasn't and the consequences could have been dire. Is there anything further I can do to strengthen it, or is she simply doomed to life on a leash?One of the pieces of advice I got when I adopted her was to start with and reinforce her recall command. I hired a trainer who worked with us both for the first year (positive training methods), and until yesterday she has never failed to respond. It took me six months to be sure enough to take her regularly to the dog park, and for the last six months we take twice a week off-leash walks on a country trail (dogs allowed off-leash) with a friend of mine and her pack of three dogs. Both at the dog park and along the trail, she has always come to me when I called. Unfortunately, yesterday some older women were feeding the wild boar along the trail (Hong Kong wildlife) and Huggy took off after two full grown boar with babies and charged up the mountain after them. She not only didn't respond to her recall command, she acted as though she couldn't hear me at all. Luckily for everyone, she got trapped in the vines before she "caught" them and got herself killed. (She's a big dog, but the smaller of the two boar was at least double her size.) I had to haul her back down the mountain and both of us are a little bit stiff today, but it could have been so much worse. My instinct is to leave her on leash for the rest of her natural life, and now I'm wondering if she's really safe at the dog park either. I'm planning to start working on it intensively again, but I'm wondering if anyone has any tips they could share which could help avoid a similar situation. (When I was first training her in recall, I started in low-stimulation environments and moved on to working with her where there were more and more distractions around. Once she understood the point of the game, she has never failed or even really delayed in returning to me. She's generally a very good dog.) Thoughts from more experienced dog owners? obligatory picture

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Do French speakers still say enchanté(e) on first meeting or is it outmoded? What are possible (more) casual alternatives?Hello, I'm being introduced to a good friend's current person tomorrow, we'll probably be talking a mix of English and French and while I can read French fine I've hardly spoken it to an actual "native speaker" in ages. What do you say just after names are exchanged these days, is enchantée appropriate or is it odd? Demographic: forty-odd, liberal, queer. Prefer to avoid sounding gender-specific or flirtatious. Merci buckets!

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