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I like dark and/or intriguing television shows. I like shows with interesting characters and long pay offs. What I do not like are any sudden scenes with violence against women or children. I have access to all counties of Netflix but no other streaming services. What can I watch?I am burning through Netflix catching up on things I have missed. I enjoyed Orphan Black, Utopia, Hannibal, Downtown Abbey, etc. I am not put off with the violence in Hannibal because it doesn't revolve around sexual violence of women/children. I was enjoying Battlestar Galactica until they threw in an episode where a cylon was going to be raped. I don't want to watch children's shows. I have a hard time watching just seasons of comedies (not dense enough plots to hold my interest). I don't really enjoy English mysteries. I don't really enjoy twee or Dr. Who. I want darkness and intrigue. I just don't want sexual violence. Can you think of any shows that fall under this? Or if you can recommend shows and specifically point out episodes with such violence I can skip that would be ok too?

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I'm looking for vegetarian high protein / paleo foods that are easy to carry while on the go. Snowflakes inside...I already eat high protein bars, but am looking for other foods that might work. I've tried veggie beef jerky but it tastes awful. Are there "protein shots" like Clif bar shot bloks? Is there protein goo? Some super easy way to get protein throughout the day that doesn't need refrigeration? I carry almonds around with me, but am looking for other options. I've tried mixing up protein powder and water every day but I keep forgetting the bottles and they get icky fast. I'm also curious about easy to find snack foods (at convenience stores or fast food restaurants) for a (lacto-, ovo- eating) vegetarian who wants to eat a lot of protein. Basically, where is it easy to find cheese, eggs, nuts, and protein-enhanced foods?

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Watch Jim Henson's colorful animation of jazz drummer Chico Hamilton's piece, "Drums West".

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At what point in the process can a prospective employer get my actual salary amount from my soon-to-be-previous employer?The gloom of the global recession is starting to lift from my preferred industry (technology) and I'm reaching a point where I can move from the employed-but-underpaid portion of my career back into reasonably-compensated territory. The part of the USA where I live is very boom and bust technology wise; it's finally booming again and there is starting to be more demand for my tech skill set. Most of my colleagues are either still employed, changed careers entirely, or moved out of state. The last thing an internal recruiter just told me was that they've got to do a background credit check on me as a condition of employment. Not a big deal, I know my score and it's not stellar but it's not terrible. I'm on the white hat side of things and have no criminal background here or close extended family. But when they had asked me for a salary number at my current job, I bumped it up a couple of thousand. As in, if I log in and print out a "compensation statement" it shows A, but I told the recruiter A+4k. When I've read advice on salary talks in the past, "they" say to include base salary, bonuses (I've gotten none), and the amount the employer pays on my behalf for health insurance, life insurance, 401k match (which is about 2,100 this year), and a few other benefits (for example I get a several-drink Starbucks card or "gold pass first run" pair of movie tickets every month or so for work I do towards one of our 5% focus projects) which is how I got to 4k+. So my question is this; would the credit check show my salary? I've heard rumour that big payroll processing companies also allow companies to "peek" or find out the information that way, but I can't find the cites for it. I'm assuming I won't get a salary offer after the credit check, but they wouldn't crank it back just because they think I lied, would they?

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Problem: every time I buy a quart of milk, it spoils before I can use more than a few tablespoons. Goal: be able to drink coffee at home on the weekends without wasting a gallon of milk a month. Solution: ?????I live alone. I work long hours, and as such rarely eat breakfast at home. But on weekends, I like to get up early and drink coffee while I write. I take my coffee with milk, but since I only use milk in my coffee, I very quickly end up with lots of spoiled milk. Lately I've been getting up on the weekends and driving to a coffee shop, but it's cutting into my weekend writing schedule (once I'm dressed and out of the house, I tend to come up with a million other things to do besides write). Help me come up with a solution to my milk problem! Axiomatic: I take my coffee with milk. It has to be milk, not non-dairy creamer. I'm also pretty grossed out by the prospect of powdered milk. All other bets are off. Think as deeply outside the box as you want, anything from frozen milk cubes to canned/condensed milk to a way to somehow use up a quart of milk a week despite almost never being home.

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Looking for somewhere online that sells cheap wine by the box. Anyone recommend a good website?I've realised that I can save money by bulk buying coffee. A crate (6x1kg) works out at about half the price of Sainsbury's. Now I'm trying to do the same with my wine. My tastes are on the basic side, Jacob's Creek and Banrock Station. The problem I have is that most sites I've looked at will do a nice deal on a case of bottles of fine wine. But it still doesn't work out any better value than the 2 for £10 deal at my local offie, and I'm not a wine buff at all. Box wine seems the way to go, but even then the 2.25L boxes most supermarkets sell only save about £1 per bottle and no further discount for bulk orders. Surely there's a site that lets me order a lot of boxes to get the price right down? Disclaimer: large order is to last a long time...this does not count as evidence of a drink problem!

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"When do women in Ireland get to say 'no'? Today we find out that the answer is 'never', not really – not if a man has other ideas and the state decides to enforce his use of a woman's body." [Warning: may be triggering.] New Statesman, "Violation after violation: why did Ireland force a woman on hunger strike to bear her rapist's child?" Critical Legal Thinking: "An Island of Saints and Sadists: Abortion in Ireland" by Irish writer William Wall: People often ask me why I write such dark books. You're such a sunny person, they say. I say: Look around you, what kind of a country do you think you're living in? Here is a tale of the island of Saints and Sadists. A recent abortion rights protest yesterday in the city centre of Dublin drew between 1,500 and 2,000 supporters, including Doctors for Choice Ireland (Twitter / Facebook). The protesters in Dublin were joined by similar coordinated protests held in London, Berlin, and Auckland, New Zealand. More about the death of Savita Halappanavar and The Eighth Amendment of the Constitution of Ireland. Hat-tip Previously: Ireland's Protection of Life During Pregnancy Act 2013

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On Thanksgiving Wednesday, we'll arrive at the Philadelphia airport, probably at terminal F (US Airways) at 8:15 in the morning. We leave 80 minutes later, probably from terminal B (US Airways, again). No checked luggage, pre-cleared for customs, just pick up bags and run. Given Thanksgiving craziness and picking up the shuttle to C-16 so we stay inside security, is this still doable? When does it become Thanksgiving hectic?Never been in the US during Thanksgiving, have no idea what to expect in re: connection time.

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I'm looking for bulk sources of lactobacilli to use in fermenting vegetables, specifically L. plantarum, L. mesenteroides, and P. acidilactici -- help me science?Caldwell's veg starter is sold out all over the place, not to mention spendy when you're looking to do gallons and gallons... According to this site: Caldwell's use their own unique, scientifically-developed starter culture that makes the fermentation process more reliable, and produces consistent and beneficial results. It contains three bacteria specifically suited for fermenting vegetables: L. plantarum, L. mesenteroides, and P. acidilactici*. So why not find and mix my own? (Well, assuming some kind of Food Safe Bacteria-R-Us exists?) Help? Thanks!

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My husband and I are expecting a baby in December and we've realized it's time to get serious about getting furniture for the nursery. We're specifically looking for a great rocking chair, but we're also looking for recommendations for cribs, dressers, strollers, car seats, etc.Basically, we're looking for a great rocking chair for our nursery. I like the look of a glider rather than a traditional rocker. I love something like this. My husband is a bigger guy (6'3") so we need something on the bigger side. My in-laws have offered to buy us the rocking chair for the nursery, but I'm not sure exactly how much they're thinking about spending. I'm guessing probably under $400. But for an amazing chair, we may be willing to kick in extra. People of Mefi, do you have any amazing chair recommendations for us? Bonus points for recommendations for cribs, dressers, strollers, or car seats that you've loved.

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Today, there are new brewers in London diving straight in at the deep end, creating beers with wild yeasts, aggressive hops and whisky barrel ageing. Some of them are exceptional. Many are indifferent, and some are plain bad. Some of these cocky rebels could learn a thing or two from the bland brands they rail against: just as Picasso proved he was a master of painting human figures before he evolved into his unique abstract style, any new brewer should prove they can brew a fault-free, balanced lager or pale ale before they earn the right to tackle the hard stuff. Pete Brown: in defence of bland lagers.

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I'm preparing an assignment for college freshmen in a public speaking class that involves analyzing speeches, particularly looking at how ethical the speaker is (i.e. Did she fairly represent the content of her cited sources? Do his arguments make sense, or does he use fallacious reasoning to lead his audience to false conclusions?) My colleagues and I are still floating several possible angles, but now we are searching for speeches that most reasonable people would consider unethical or dishonest in some key ways. It could be in one section, or it could be a flaw present through the entire speech. Ideally, the speeches we use will have video or audio available, as well as transcripts. What unethical speeches do you know of that we might consider? Thanks, gang!

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Hüsker Dü's landmark double LP hits its third decade this summer. "Nobody was prepared for Hüsker Dü's Zen Arcade. It didn't sound like any other album slapped with the "punk" tag. It didn't even sound like any other music being made in 1984. Zen Arcade was a double album released in an era when two-record sets were reserved for bloated and pointless live records or even more bloated and pointless "artistic statements" put out by artists with way too much creative freedom. Plus, it's a concept album — the hoariest of '70s music shackles. But Zen Arcade was different — a punk-based double album that wasn't very punk at times. It wasn't very focused either, moving from folk and pop to jazz and classic rock." - diffuser.fm The sky's the limit on this chartered trip away. 1. Something I Learned Today 2. Broken Home, Broken Heart 3. Never Talking to You Again 4. Chartered Trips 5. Dreams Reoccurring 6. Indecision Time 7. Hare Krsna 8. Beyond the Threshold 9. Pride 10. I'll Never Forget You 11. The Biggest Lie 12. What's Going On 13. Masochism World 14. Standing by the Sea 15. Somewhere 16. One Step at a Time 17. Pink Turns to Blue 18. Newest Industry 19. Monday Will Never Be the Same 20. Whatever 21. The Tooth Fairy and the Princess 22. Turn on the News 23. Reoccurring Dreams Now and Zen: The greatest album of them all, Hüsker Dü's Zen Arcade, turns 30 "Suddenly there it was, on a rack up front. It was called Zen Arcade, whatever that heck that meant. I picked it up and, hey, what's this, it's a double album! As a teenage punk rocker weaned on Black Flag and Minor Threat, with a rather one-dimensional appreciation for music, the very weight of the thing, together with the heady title and the washed-over, almost Impressionist cover art was intimidating. It seemed so arty and grown-up. It also made me curious. What was this strange record?" Previously, Salon's Patrick "Ask the Pilot" Smith's thoughts on the LP's 20th anniversary: "Zen Arcade is best savored not as a CD but in the old, cardboard-and-vinyl format. Each of its four sides is a distinct chapter with its own temperature and architecture, and each flip of the licorice seems a perfectly placed respite. Even more than London Calling or Sandinista! — the Clash's multiside megaprojects — Zen Arcade sets the mark for the most brilliantly arranged opus of all time. The scourge of most double LPs, back when there was such a thing, is they went on for too long — padded with live cuts, covers and extras. But here, each and every song belongs exactly in its place, a flawless complement to those on either side. Zen Arcade can haughtily claim par with the likes of London Calling in the pantheon of classic two-record sets that aren't bogged down by their own overreaching ambition or conceit."

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I'm moving my approximately 900 books to a new apartment and will be combining them with my fiancee's books. I need tips for organization.I'm going to "shelfread" the collection and update my LibraryThing so that it matches what I have. (I've found there are some errors, e.g. books I've sold, but still have listed) But I'm at the point in size (and my memory capacity) where I can't always easily find books that I can tell from LibraryThing that I have. I think I need a more rigid organization system to keep things organized. Any tips? Ideally, I'd buy enough large spaced shelves to shelve everything in LC order, but that's not really in the budget, though I hope to buy enough additional shelving to get everything single shelved and not crammed together. But, they'll have to be organized by size to some extent at least because some of the existing shelving is small. I suppose I could mark in LibraryThing which shelf things go on? How should I mark this in the books? I'm thinking bookmarks with the shelf codes written on them? Does this seem like a reasonable system?

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This week I am trying to ID a folk song from Sweden. Google, Musipedia and Baidu (the book is a Chinese music book) all are of no help. The title of the song is the title of this question. Here is a youtube link to the song. Thanks for your help!

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My ex-husband hates me. I mean, REALLY hates me. I left him 4 years ago after years of emotional and verbal abuse, and he still has not once looked me in the eye or spoken directly to me since then. We have a 10-year-old daughter together and the divorce agreement says we should split her medical costs (doctor visits and prescription meds) 50/50. I emailed him to ask him to pay his share ($30) from a recent appointment and he emailed back saying that because he had taken her to get her hair cut, he should not have to pay. He then sent me pictures (!) of some over-the-counter cough drops he'd purchased for our daughter and demanded that I reimburse him for them, saying that if I refused I would "set a dangerous and vitriolic (sic) precedent in our relationship." What should I do?My policy up until now has been "the less contact, the better." I do not care about "winning," or about the money. I'll be happy to pay for every cent of my kid's care forever and ever amen to avoid having to tangle with him. On the other hand, he is a terrible bully, and I know from bitter experience that if he thinks he can get away with this, it won't stop there. Next will be emails saying things like "I've decided not to drop kiddo off at noon like I said I would, I'm keeping her until 6 instead," or, "I know I said in the agreement that I'd pay for piano lessons, but I've decided not to" (which would punish not me, of course, but our kid). I fear if I don't nip this in the bud forcefully and right now, it'll only get worse. Is it worth it to ask a court to clarify the agreement for him, hoping that he will realize that I will respond if he tries to pull this kind of nonsense? It is a pretty minor thing -- only $30 -- but I fear it's a harbinger of things to come. In the past when I haven't stood up to him, it's escalated and I've found myself in bad situations. Or am I just kicking a hornet's nest over $30? Maybe I should wait until it escalates and THEN take him to court? What would you do? A major concern if I did take him to court would be how his anger over it would affect our daughter. Honestly, I don't think it could get worse. She knows he hates me; he makes no bones about it. But he's nice to her because he sees her as a victim (of me). It really doesn't matter what I do or don't do, I think. My actual behavior seems to have no bearing at all on how he acts or how angry he is. I'm categorizing this as human relations instead of law because it's more about dealing with him than with whether or not the court would find him in contempt. Thanks.

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Women in India face a whole host of period taboos such as sleeping apart from their husbands, not washing their hair, not touching jars of pickled foods, and not making cheese curd. Most women are too embarrassed to be seen purchasing sanitary napkins or even watching commercials for them. Napkin manufacturer, Whisper, has launched a campaign by addressing the taboo subject head on. So, go ahead and touch the pickle! See also This prior post on Indian Sanitary Napkins

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I have been reflecting on my very recent experience in a house-share from which I am now, blessedly, removed. Specifically, I am doing some reflection on my issues with the noise level, and trying to figure out, for my own future reference, whether the noise levels in the house were reasonable or unreasonable. I would love the hive mind to weigh in about whether the following noise in a shared house is okay or not, as I am obviously not the most dispassionate judge at this point.Exacerbating the noise situation were: first of all, my bedroom door did not shut properly due to the fact that a thick cable plugged from the living room into my room wall, so all common-area noise sounded louder than it should have in my room in particular; second, the house was small, so we were all rather close together; and third, from what I could gather the noise-blocking insulation in the house was general quite poor, so we all could hear more than would be ideal. With that in mind, I would be interested in the collective hive-mind's opinion on how reasonable or unreasonable the following are, in a shared house: 1. My housemate daily watching the TV on very loud volume in the living room (which adjoins my bedroom, and, as I mentioned above, my door didn't completely shut so all noise from the common areas filtered clearly into my room - plus, the house was small, so the TV was maybe 10 feet from my bed). This happened on various occasions - from, say, 5-7pm, 10pm-midnight, and 2-3am. On each of these occasions, he turned down the volume when I came out and asked, but it was definitely still very audible, even when I shut my bedroom door as much as possible (and my bedroom door was shut as much as possible for the following things too). 2. The same housemate (an aspiring musician) playing the guitar and singing loudly in the living room from 2-3am. 3. The same housemate (who is unemployed, so whose hours are very irregular) returning home drunk at 3am, slamming the door and talking loudly, and then passing out in the living room and snoring loudly all night. 4. The same housemate playing his guitar loudly in his own room with the door open for 11 hours on a Saturday - say, from 8am-6pm (he's claustrophobic so he never shuts his door, even to sleep). If it matters, he played the same set of 4 chords over and over again for 11 hours. 5. The same housemate listening to loud music in his own room (with the door open) for several hours in the evening. 6. The same housemate coming home loudly (door slamming, etc.) and then listening to loud music in the living room at 2.30 am. He turned it down but not off when I came out of my room to tell him he'd woken me up. 7. Another housemate masturbating loudly in his own room. 8. Another housemate screaming curses loudly from his own room at various intervals throughout the day and night (possibly over the phone at his estranged ex-partner, or possibly at a video-game). Are all of these acceptable in a shared house? Is none of them acceptable? Are some of them acceptable - if so, which ones? For reference, when I am in a shared house, I only listen to music with headphones and I make phone calls either outside or in my room with my door shut (well, as fully as possible) and with a very low volume voice. The above situations all strike me to varying degrees as disrespectful of one's housemates (if one hasn't gotten the okay in advance), and unreasonable to foist upon people who have to get up at 6.30 am for work/school. It seems to me that the presumption should be that a house is more quiet than this, and a house this loud should be specified in the advertisement as a particularly loud place (rather than not mentioned at all, and something that a new housemate only realizes upon arrival after having paid deposit/rent). Am I wrong here? Also, if I had stayed, what would have been a reasonable compromise to suggest to these housemates? It seemed to me that the living room noise was at least half of my broader problem with the noise, so I was thinking of asking the one housemate who consistently made noise in the living room (items 1-4 above) if he would swap rooms with me (our rooms were similar size and niceness, but mine adjoined the living room and his was in a quieter part of the house). Would this have been a fair request? What else should I have done here? I realize that this house-share is (thankfully!) over, but I travel a lot for research for about a month at a time, and usually stay in cheap houses which I can't see in advance (I have to arrange the housing before I arrive, so I have a place to stay), so I'm trying to ensure that this doesn't happen again to me in the future.

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Seeking options for Hawaii on the cheap or nominations for alternate holiday destinations for our 10-year wedding anniversary.Husby and I will celebrate 10 years next May. We want to take a big trip and are beginning our brainstorming now. I have never been to Hawaii and would love to go. Husband has been several times more than a decade ago (more like two decades ago) while in school for and working as a merchant mariner. He is convinced it is too pricey, crowded and annoying (though beautiful). I am convinced we can find a way to do Hawaii "our way," but I am open to other options. For our one-year anniversary (which also served as out honeymoon) we spent three weeks traveling all around French Polynesia by boat. I'd like something of that caliber. Things we like: the beach hiking nature seclusion and privacy from tourists quirky towns with interesting restaurants/shops scuba diving and/or snorkeling kayaking/paddleboarding local food, local beer and local booze exploring cities on foot Places we have already been and loved: Berlin Nantes, France San Juan, PR Osa Peninsula, Costa Rica French Polynesia Palawan, Philippines Our MO is to spend a night or two in a really, REALLY nice place or a bigger city and have a nice dinner and drinks, then seek out seclusion. (The exception here being the major European cities, of course.) We are not opposed to beach huts without AC, but in the case of Costa Rica we were so secluded there was really nothing to do and we were almost bored. Husby is interested in Belize which I'm open to but I do want to be able to spend a day or two shopping/exploring a neat little city before setting off for the hinterlands. I think we are also open to Europe as long as there is water/beach, as we are hot weather people. I was considering Greece? Is it safe these days? We'd love to go back to Puerto Rico (either Vieques or Rincon) but we were just there and were hoping to make this trip really special.

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The butt-shakingly over the top video for Nicki Minaj's Anaconda (Previously) was released recently and while there's been discussion if it re-claims the twerk or refuses the male gaze, video artist Jeff Osborne has put the song into its 90s "Baby's Got Back" pop culture context with appearances by Jessica Rabbit, Beavis And Butthead, and more. (all videos quite NSFW) BONUS: Nicki and Drake have a conversation.

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What Should A 4-Year-Old Know? "She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always OK to paint the sky orange and give cats six legs. He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he couldn't care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he'll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud." (ht sonika on FB for this)

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A client wants to do some interstitial ads and I've built the creative, a simple JPEG which they want to appear on mobile devices, with the ability for the userto close the ad, of course. What's the next step in creating this, if we're using Google DFP? It seems as though I need another piece of software to produce the code calls for DFP, but I'm not clear on how or what (while suspecting it's something simple I'm missing) that is. Talk slowly so I can absorb it all, thanks.

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In the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries it became possible to believe in the existence of life on other planets on scientific grounds. Once the Earth was no longer the center of the universe according to Copernicus, once Galileo had aimed his telescope at the Moon and found it a rough globe with mountains and seas, the assumption of life on other planets became much less far-fetched. In general there were no actual differences between Earth and Venus, since both planets orbited the Sun, were of similar size, and possessed mountains and an atmosphere. If there is life on Earth, one may ponder why it could not also exist on Venus. In the extraterrestrial life debate of the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, the Moon, our closest celestial body, was the prime candidate for life on other worlds, although a number of scientists and scholars also speculated about life on Venus and on other planets, both within our solar system and beyond its frontiers. Venusians: the Planet Venus in the 18th-Century Extraterrestrial Life Debate (PDF), from The Journal of Astronomical Data (JAD) Volume 19, somewhat via NPR and their mention of amateur astronomer Thomas Dick's estimations of the populations of the other planets in our solar system (Archive.org online view of Celestial scenery, or, The Wonders of the planetary system displayed, 1845).

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The Shadow Syllabus: Writer and professor Sonya Huber offers some bullshit-free advice for her college students.

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"Each of us is born uniquely and dies uniquely. I think of dying as a final adventure with a predictably abrupt end. I know when it's time to leave and I do not find it scary." Gillian Bennett, whose last words are captured in her eloquent farewell website, has died. (Trigger warning for suicide.) The 84-year-old was diagnosed with dementia three years ago. A native of Christchurch, New Zealand, she had a lengthy career as a psychotherapist in several different countries. She ended her life with "her husband of 60 years by her side." (Last link contains a video interview with her husband.)

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