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My brother and his wife both have dementia and are currently living in a memory care home and need notes from home. We have been asked by their therapist to send daily email to them so they won't feel they are forgotten (live out of state.) I've been trying to find a site that would offer a daily riddle, story, joke, puzzle, etc to send them along with my letter and 'haven't been able to find anything geared towards the patients themselves. The therapist prints out our email and puts them in a binder for their coffee table so they can refer to it and just know its there. Thank you.

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I'm part of a group of middle-aged male librarians that get together periodically to talk shop, eat meat, and drink in DC. We're out of touch on the current restaurant explosion, have some specific requirements, and need your help, hivemind.We're looking for something with: 1. A reasonable amount of parking nearby (free ideally, but not required) - street or otherwise. 2. Not a heavy amount of foodie / new restaurant scene hype. More comfortable and low key than hip / flashy. 3. Good meat dishes of some kind - type of cuisine is irrelevant, as long as the quality is high. 4. Good beer on tap, decent pours on mixed drinks. Places in the close-in suburbs (e.g. Silver Spring, Arlington) are also of interest. Despite being a bunch of professional researchers, we've pretty much failed to help ourselves in this case. Any suggestions will be much appreciated!

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Halloween is not good for the teeth of trick-or-treaters. There's a plethora of candy, and kids will eat candy they wouldn't normally eat, because hey, it's there. What's a parent to do? Offer cash for candy, with the help of a local dentist. Halloween Candy Buyback, complete with zip-code dentist search, the website for the movement that has expanded from it's quiet start in 2005 with a single dentist in Wisconsin. Now, thousands of dentists across the U.S. buy back tons of candy at a dollar a pound, then send the candy with toothbrushes and toothpaste to Operation Gratitude to be added into care packages for active U.S. Military. If you're having trouble getting a younger child to part with their candy, there's the Switch Witch, who will take a pile of candy and switch it for a special switch gift. And if you want to start at the source, you can always make your own candy with one of the various sugar substitutes, or go with a teal pumpkin and avoid the candy all-together.

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I've heard that boarding cats away from home for a time will encourage them to become friendly toward each other when they return. Looking for whether that's true/common, how long to board and other particulars.I've been trying for 5 months to integrate a sweetheart stray boy cat with my two girl cats, but one of them isn't having it. They live in separate rooms, but she chases and lunges at him on the rare occasions when she sees him. My cat sitter recommends boarding all three at a local vet for a while (perhaps a few days). She's experienced and heard of others experiencing cats who hated each other suddenly becoming friendly immediately after a move or being boarded. I find nothing about this online and wonder if anyone here has had that experience? It's an investment in money (mine) and stress (the cats), so I'm hoping to learn more about whether it really works, how long they should be boarded and under what conditions (within sight of each other, etc). Many thanks in advance!

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My mom is in the Boston area, has an uninsulated exterior wall that is under a roof and needs to put something up. Can she just nail up the insulation or should this be handled differently.One of the rooms in the house was gutted, with plywood tacked up to cover where the external doors were and the insulation on the walls removed. There is no second floor over this part of the house. The kitchen used to open onto to this space, there is now a piece of plasterboard where the door used to be. (My mom is on her third contractor, this mess was made by her first one.) She needs to put up insulation this weekend and has a the non-fiberglass version of the roll up stuff, with an metallic paperish coating on one side. Given that the space this would be put up in is completely protected from the elements, can she simply tack this stuff up around the outside of the plasterboard and surrounding area to insulate it, or is more work needed? If she can tack it up, how effective will it be? And finally, which side faces outward? If this stuff should only be used on the inside even with the protection from the elements, how should she put it up, what health risks does she face, etc.? This all will be torn off come spring when this contractor (hopefully) actually finishes the room. So it doesn't have to look at all nice, just function.

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My mom needs to break her lease in New Albany. They just bought a new house. I know about tenants right in Chicago, but not in Ohio. Can any one help me with advice. Is there a residential landlord and tenant ordinance? Is there a tenant's union? thanks

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ISO Python IDE. Edit code on one side of the screen. Run code on other. That's it.I'm new - so new - to programming, and have only been playing around in R since July. Trying to pick up Python, and I really, really miss Rstudio, the IDE I'd been using. So I went looking for a Python IDE, and while there are a lot of favorites out there, the out of the box learning curve on them seems to be much steeper. That's where you come in. Can you recommend me a Python IDE that acts like Rstudio, in the sense that you open it up and without having to tinker with any settings, you have a window in which you edit code and a window in which you can run that code (and, optionally, a window or sidebar that shows you your files/projects)? This questions feels like it should be easy, but I have looked at this massive list of options on Wikipedia and this question on StackOverflow and all the discussion of feature sets are just way over my head right now. I just want to edit code and run code next to each other in a reasonably stable environment. That's it.

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I'm looking for recommendations for fun, entertaining, beautiful and immersive FPS games for the PC. Age is mostly immaterial, as long as they're graphically rich, but the one big caveat is that I really don't like horror or bloody violence.It seems like most of the big FPS titles involve either nerve-shredding terror or grisly violence or both. Are there any titles that involve exploration around epic locations, with a bit of light combat and puzzle solving thrown in? Survival horror is absolutely out - I can barely watch playthroughs on Youtube - and any game where you have to dispatch people in unpleasant ways with knives and whatnot don't really do it for me. I don't mind a bit of shooting - the last game in this genre I enjoyed was the very first Far Cry, but it got far too frightening in the later levels to the point where I really wasn't enjoying it. I read this question and the answers skewed to puzzle-driven games. These are fine, but doesn't anyone make a great spy simulator? Or first person bank heist game? It doesn't have to be a long, grinding quest that takes forever, although I love the idea of exploring big, lovingly assembled environments like Skyrim and GTA, they seem too open-ended to me (having only watched, not played them). Also Minecraft is out - I don't want to compete with my 10 year old. With thanks in advance.

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Spaceship Two lit its engine for a test flight then experienced an anomaly. Reports from the field indicate at least one dead. A news conference is scheduled for 2pm.

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Starwars.com used to have free printable star wars masks. Of course I waited last minute to pull a costume together under the assumption that I would print a Chewbacca mask like I have done in the past. Is there a way to retrieve this pdf?

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Pornhub Comments Replace Horror Poster Taglines

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Ecto-1 and the Working Cadillac - While a lucrative business for Caddy in the 50s, 60s, and 70s, these professional vehicles weren't all that common. In 1959, just 2102 chassis were made, the lion's share going to the Miller-Meteor company in Ohio. Divided again between ambulance, limousine, dual-purpose and the odd flower car or two, not many more than several hundred Futura Duplexes were made in total. - A history of the Ecto-1, chariot of the gods Ghostbusters.

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Circa 2010 I saw a video of a talk on dangers of twitter and hacktivism. The man giving this presentation gave an example of a tweet that angered hacktivists. One of them doxxed the twitter user and found out his/her address. A flash mob of angry people showed up at the doorstep. But the wrong address had been used. Then someone died (the homeowner? someone in the crowd? I can't recall.)The speaker emphasized that this scenario was fictional, but its constituent phenomena are real. He said it was only a matter of time before it came true. Does anyone have a link to this video?

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You might know the Monster Mash, but how much do you know about the original artist, Bobby "Boris" Pickett? The article includes a link to the official website of The MoNsTeR mAsH, a revenant from Web 1.0 Not ready to stop mashing? Here's a bunch of covers! (cribbed from Wikipedia) Beach Boys Boris Karloff Bonzo Dog Doo-Dah Band Luis "Vivi" Hernandez - "El Monstruo," a Spanish cover Vincent Price Bad Manners Ill Repute The Big O Murphy's Law Alvin and the Chipmunks Misfits Kidz Bop Mannheim Steamroller Zombina and the Skeletones Bruce Springsteen CrabCorps - from the Silver Linings Playbook soundtrack

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Sea levels are rising, the land is sinking. It's going to become a big problem for some cities on the US East Coast, so in Boston people are thinking the unthinkable - copying Venice and Amsterdam, and becoming a city of canals. The Urban Land Institute brought together over 70 experts from varying disciplines and gave them the task of starting the discussion of how the city of Boston could adapt itself to a potential 7 foot sea level rise by the year 2100. The result was The Urban Implictions of Living with Water (pdf). Other coverage: * With climate change, Boston's future could be filled with gondolas * Venice on the Charles (Boston Globe, possible paywall)

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I have a well-funded local public library. Whenever I go to look for books, the ones that are supposed to be there (according to the online catalog) are not on the shelf. This goes for about half of the books I look for. What gives?I have asked the librarians and they can't find them either. There's no particular pattern to these books--they are not new or popular, though. I'm at the point where I always put a book on hold before I come in for it, which feels like a waste of library resources, but I'm tired of spending hours in the library looking for books that aren't there. Why does this happen? Are there any ways it can be prevented? (I have not had this issue with libraries in other areas.)

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So wait, there's a band with Jim Jarmusch on keys and a bunch of experimental Horror film directors that released a record in the early 80s of spooky surf-funk and you're NOT listening to it today? Get on it y'all. It's the story of The Del-Byzanteens. via LucSante.com's page of uncollected pieces by the great NYC writer and low-life. (previously)

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Disclaimer: The facts are taken from the journal "Taste, Taboo, Trash: The Story of Ramsay Brothers" by Kartik Nair. I personally declare that the journal is only used as a reference & no intentions copying the content for any benefits, it's only to spread the knowledge regarding the working ways of Ramsay brothers. Translation of last sentence: We have an audience in places where even the train doesn't stop.

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I'm trying to help my parents transfer their photos from their iPhones & iPads to their PC, which runs Windows 8. I want the photos to be transferred and then deleted from their devices (each device has a few thousand photos, so manual deletion is not a realistic option). If this is your setup, what's the best solution you have found?I've been using the built in Windows photo library software but we can change to something else if it's a better option. Note: they don't want to pay for cloud storage.

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Around the time of the Occupy protests, I read an article that described a concept like "Subsumed State" or "Shadow State" or something. I thought it was by Mike Konczal, but I can't find it his archives and I'm pretty sure he was referring to someone else's ideas about this.The basic idea was that in the US, there are various structures set up that mask what is essentially welfare or government spending. These are large intermediary bureaucracies (the Subsumed State?) that siphon money into private corporate hands or simply create extra layers of management. So for example, instead of our government directly subsidizing universities at a level that allows them to educate people for free, they instead create/condone the student loan system, but then in the end the government pays off those student loans anyway. Or instead of just having nationalized healthcare, we pay all these intermediary insurance agencies which create large bureaucratic (and capitalist) structures between people receiving subsidized medical care and the government which is doing the subsidizing. I took this to suggest that we are basically trying to hide the fact that we do have certain socialist spending policies, but as a country people are so afraid of that, that we have to set up these enormous intermediary structures that obscure that fact and also enrich the corporations which mostly occupy that intermediary space. It's also possible I'm misremembering the specifics of the concept. Anyhow, does this ring any bells? Any idea where I could look to read more on this idea?

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I'm a fledging dietitian ready to spread my wings. Please help me think of names for a future nutrition counseling practice and blog!I am finally (!) finishing up my M.S. coursework and dietetic internship, and thinking ahead to starting my own practice when I pass my RD licensing exam. I'm looking forward to working with individuals in a motivational interviewing, client-centered approach. A lot of my past experience has been working with women with eating disorders, and I believe wholeheartedly in an "all foods fit" nutrition philosophy, as well as a Health at Every Size model. I would also love to maintain a blog where I can share healthy recipes, answer questions, and write about different topics, as well as offering nutrition counseling over Skype or email. I'm into vegetables, fermentation (sauerkraut, kombucha, kefir), pickling, composting, soaking, whole foods, DIY, intuitive eating, simple foods, running outside, lifting weights, CSAs, body positivity and acceptance, plant strong/nutrient dense eating (but not necessarily vegan and or vegetarian), evidence-based practice. I'm not into diets, food restriction, calories, artificial sweeteners, low-fat, negative body talk. Ideally I would have one name for both blog and practice, but I am open to having two! The best I have come up with so far is "Verdant Nutrition" - I love the sound of verdant, and its connotations of abundance, lushness, richness. I also love the word "nourish", but I think it sounds weird with verdant. Not looking for too much hippiness or woo, I prefer more concise elegant names. This is not at all my forte, and I appreciate all help!

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I have conflicting contractor opinions about whether I need to dig a dry well or get a new water softener. Can people who know a lot about water softeners or have recently purchased one help?I talked to a septic company about digging me a drywell because currently, my water softener drains to my septic tank, which isn't good for it. The septic guy suggested getting a new water softener, which he said would need much less salt than an old one, and not need backwashing, eliminating the need for a dry well, which saves me a lot of money. I had a guy who specializes in wells and filtration systems come out because my water has been super sulfurous and rusty looking. He says that our current water softener is fine and there is no point to replacing it because water softeners that don't need backwashing don't work, so we actually do need to get a dry well dug. I know nothing about this stuff. I don't even really know what backwashing means. Anyone have any idea what should be done here?

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I have a Google Calendar set up for different home maintenance tasks that benefit from being scheduled out (i.e., things that aren't necessarily visible, like "mow the lawn"). It's been just a few months since I moved in to my house and I haven't filled out the list as much as I'd like. What's on your home maintenance calendars that I might not be thinking about?Right now, the list just has ticklers for cleaning the compressor coils on the fridge, cleaning the range hood filters, baking soda and vinegar to keep the drains clear, citrus peels to keep the disposals fresh, and a couple of other odds and ends. I know as well that people advise changing your smoke detector batteries when changing your clocks. And we have a water filter system in our house that needs to be changed every once in a while (and is long overdue). I'm sure I should be changing my furnace filter, and I know my alarm company recommends I take the system off line once a month, trigger an alarm to make sure the panel is working, and then bring it back on line. Obviously, we're mowing / raking the lawn and things like that when we see it--but I wonder what I might be overlooking in terms of periodic preventative maintenance that calendar scheduling might be good for. Are there good habit you've gotten into with your house? I.e., check fuses every month, clean bathroom ventilation fans every quarter, flush the ice maker line weekly, check the sump pump every other month, etc. Annual stuff is good too, but it's easier to remember "turn off sprinklers in the fall" than the bi-weekly stuff.

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Can anyone help me with a spot of French translation? I'm subletting in Paris and I suspect my neighbours are not keen on the idea.They left this note: http://m.imgur.com/s4tdRp9 and I unfortunately can't even read the writing let alone translate it... Prison? Police? Any help would be appreciated.

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You are not my vet. However, I have seen a regular vet and a veterinary oncologist and now have some difficult choices to make and I would be very grateful for first hand accounts from people who have tried metronomic chemotherapy with their pet (especially cats) or other people's pets (if you're a vet or if you're close to someone who has gone through this sort of thing before). I am seeking advice and real-life experiences to supplement any advice regular vets or oncologists may give me.Sorry--this is rather long but I am at my wit's end. I fee so alone and so full of guilt and worry. I have a wonderful cat whose "official" name is Dorje, but we call him George. George is a domestic shorthair orange tabbyish fellow. Neutered when he was young. He has been with me for 14 years. He was perhaps a year old when he showed up on my doorstep so it's probable that he is closer to 15 or even 16. I have never had children. I am almost 40. For me, this cat and and my other cat are like my children. I love them intensely. George also happens to be the nicest, gentlest, sweetest animal I've ever known. Not a mean bone is his body, really. He never scratches or bites. He just loves. Back in May of this year I was petting him and noticed a very small, bone-hard bump on his head, almost on his forehead. It concerned me, but he'd had a couple of benign bumps and moles over the years, so I wasn't immediately concerned. However, the area started to spread out a bit. It became soft and squishy and more diffuse so I took him to the vet 2-3 weeks after I first noticed it. It had been a while since I had taken him to a vet for a check up so I went to the vet that was closest to where I live. There is an animal hospital close to my house that takes walk-ins and has weekend hours so my boyfriend and I took him in in early June. The vet who saw him that day suggested that they run his blood work and aspirate some cells from the area and send them off for cytology. The results: lab work was all normal but the thing on his head was "probable soft tissue sarcoma" with "possible bony involvement." I was given a referral to a veterinary oncologist. The fluid they drew from his little lump magically made the squishy lump virtually disappear for a couple weeks but then it started to puff up again. I took George to see the oncologist (in July) who explained that the placement of the tumor on his head would make it impossible to remove by surgery alone ($3k-4k). She said that surgery plus a month of radiation (another $4k-5k) would be advised and would likely extend his life another few years. At the time she had also presented metronomic chemotherapy as an option, but discouraged me from going that route, because, although cheaper, would not be likely to cure the disease and could damage his kidneys. I make about $35k/yr. My credit sucks so Care Credit was not an option. There were other incidental tests and things that would be necessary. I just didn't have $10k. I have been trying to save. Begging for help from others. Hoping I could beat the disease before it got too bad to treat. In retrospect, I should have tried metronomic chemotherapy much sooner. It may have prolonged his life and made him feel better but until about a week ago he was feeling FINE. At least as far as I could tell. I know cats are very stoic, but George was (and still is) eating and drinking. He was cuddly and happy and playful. The tumor continued to grow, which concerned me. I've cried myself to sleep over it many nights. But I really thought I would somehow be able to come of with the money for the "best" treatment. In the last week, things have taken a very rapid turn for the worse. Toward the end of last week I noticed that his balance was way off. He was falling off the bed, stumbling a bit. His back legs seemed week. Also, he stopped looking at me. He stopped grooming me and my other cat (usually one of his favorite activities) and would just stare into space. He has become withdrawn, which is not like him at all. I suspected that this horrible cancer was growing into his ears, throwing off his balance, and possibly his eyes. His vision seemed affected. I took him to the regular vet on Wednesday and saw a very nice doctor. Much more seemingly compassionate than the first vet I saw at that clinic. She tested his urine for infection. She ran his blood work again. He has lost 3 lbs since August and was dehydrated (she gave him sub-q fluids). She suspected kidney problems, but the blood work came back fine. I was sent home with a few doses of buprenorphine and an appetite stimulant. She also said he seems to have gone blind. This happened in a matter of days. Last week he could follow my finger with his eyes. Now, he can evidently sense light but can't really focus. I am unsure if this is the sole source of his depression and disorientation, or if the tumor is causing him pain, or if cancer in his brain is causing other neurological problems...all probably impossible to know for sure without an MRI or host of other expensive testing. Curiously, he seemed to have much more energy after getting the fluids and pain meds at the vet. He has been pacing the apartment a lot, which is distressing to watch, but to some extent I think he's trying to make sure he knows where everything is. After the last vet visit he was charging around, much more steady on his feet... I'm going back to see her tomorrow to have some x-rays done to see if his skull looks normal or if there's some very obvious damage. Maybe the soft tissue sarcoma is getting into his brain? Maybe it's not a soft tissue sarcoma at all. Maybe it's been in his bones all along. I never had a biopsy done. The oncologist didn't think it was necessary. Soooo, after all of that, what I'm wondering is this: Does it make any sense to try the metronomic chemotherapy at this point? Has anyone ever known it to make an animal FEEL better and/or reverse damage already done? I plan to ask the doctors but I trust vets like I trust car mechanics, you know? I hate to say that. I know there are so many wonderful vets out there and I don't begrudge them wanting to make money at a profession they studied and trained extensively for, but I want to do what's best for George, not what's best for the vet's bottom line. I don't want to make him suffer needlessly but I also don't want to give up on him because, honestly, I would trade my life for his if I could. The guilt I feel about this is enormous and I love him so much, so dearly, that euthanizing him is going to break my brain. I will do what needs to be done, but I'm already in pieces. I love him with my soul. He deserves to feel good or he deserves to be let go if feeling good again just isn't in the cards. I just don't want to give up if there's anything I can do. Advice from anyone who has been through similar stuff or knows someone who has is very much appreciated. Please be gentle, though. I am very fragile right now. Metronomic Chemotherapy, for the uninitiated, is not the same as chemotherapy that people get. It is not a large, sickening dose. It is small dose, that is given in the form of a pill at home every day. Knee-jerk reactions are not helpful. If you don't know what metronomic chemotherapy is, please look it up before telling me I'm crazy to even consider it. I am interested in it as a palliative measure. I want to extend George's life but quality of life is just as important to me. He is depressed right now. Part of this may be that he's adjusting to blindness. If you've had a cat that went blind and temporarily went off his/her food and water at first, I'd like to know. I know he can adjust to being blind, but he shouldn't have to endure pain and confusion. He puts his head against the wall or other surfaces, which makes me think he hurts. I don't want him to hurt. Is there any way the metronomic chemo could make him stop hurting and/or shrink this awful tumor? Has anyone ever experienced a positive change from it like that before? My heart is breaking. Please help me with what to expect if you've been there. If you have questions that I don't answer right away (I will try to) or you'd rather share your story privately you can email me at a.mellifera@gmail.com

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