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My father in law blew up at me in an extreme way a few weeks ago. My husband wishes for his father and I to eventually reconcile, but I would like an apology first.Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married 4. His parents had been helping us renovate our new place, and unfortunately witnessed us having a fight. On the evening this happened, nobody acknowledged it and we went for dinner together afterwards where everyone acted tired but normal. The following day FIL was very rude and snippy with me. He had an abscess on his tooth and was taking painkillers for this the day before and day-of. I approached him about an hour after he arrived to ask if he could perhaps do the decorating he was taking care of in a different way. He responded by shouting at me that if that was what I wanted, he would just change into his normal clothes and go home. I was so taken aback that I quietly went to get my husband and asked him to work out with his father which option was best for this project. Later I tried to explain to my husband that FIL had shouted at me and that I would like him to tell him this was not ok, and ask for an apology. Husband refused and I got very frustrated. At the end of that day the decorating FIL was working on turned out badly, and I was frustrated and asked if we'd have to start over again as per my original request. He replied angrily that this was indeed the case, and I swore about it annoyed that we had wasted a day, being that we were very short on time to get the work finished. FIL then flew into a rage, his face a shade of purple while he yelled at me about how much of a terrible time that he and everyone else was having because of me. He then changed his story to be that he was angry because I had called his son a 'f*cking idiot' the day before. I did not remember this but realised quickly that he had been quietly seething since seeing us have a fight. He dragged my husband into things, and when I asked my husband to stand up for me he would not. I eventually became so upset that I shouted at FIL to leave and not to come back when I was there. When I said 'how dare you speak to me like this in my home', he replied 'well I just did, didn't I?!' I left the house and did not return for an hour. By the time I came back FIL was leaving, and I was very upset that my husband had not come to find me or stood up for me to his father. He told me that after I left, his father gave him a hug and apologised 'if this jeopardised his [my husband's] relationship with [veids].' The backstory to the original fight between myself and my husband was that we had been working flat out at our place for weeks to get it ready. A new appliance had arrived and I was keeping it boxed so it would not be damaged. Husband kept picking it up and taking it out of the box, and eventually on the third try asked if he should stop doing it because I was getting fidgety about him touchign it. He agreed to leave it alone. When his parents were around, he then started screaming that the appliance was smashed. I went to look and shouted that it was not broken, but he kept screaming and protesting. Eventually I pointed out that the thing he was upset about was a part of the design, and evidently I did call him a f*cking idiot because it was an entirely avoidable situation, but he had been pestering all day about it. MIL has sided with FIL despite not being there to witness what happened. This is the second time in 4 years of marriage that his father has stepped in and nearly broken up our relationship. The first occasion was after my husband went to be assessed for a behavioural disorder which they did not believe that he had. Since then they have both been hostile towards me in both overt and passive-aggressive ways. I kept in contact with them during this time for the sake of my husband. Husband is still talking to his parents, but stated retrospectively that he would take my side and that they did not have a right to try to take over. Do I try to salvage anything here or accept that the relationship with my mother and father in law is not something I can fix now? FIL has stated that he regrets the way he said it but fully stands by everything he said to me that day.

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MALKOVICH, MALKOVICH, MALKOVICH: HOMAGE TO PHOTOGRAPHIC MASTERS by Sandro

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I have just arrived in Syracuse, NY, in anticipation of an interview tomorrow morning, to find a literal black cloud over the city and to be greeted by the receptionist at my hotel telling me, "Don't move to Syracuse. It's the worst." I want to turn my first impression of this place around. Can you recommend a great, happy-making restaurant for me to go to this evening?My interview is at Upstate Medical University, and since I'm about to go drive there to check it out, suggestions that are easily reachable from there are particularly appreciated. I don't particularly care about the style of restaurant; just tell me what you like!

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Texting can be a real pain in the neck (and what to do about it)

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What is the current day etiquette around maintaining and removing connections on LinkedIn?I regularly clean up my LinkedIn connections. Someone I removed a while back just wrote me asking why since they'd done a small project for me 5 years ago and I'd left a recommendation. Since its impersonally done (for a bunch of reasons including the fact that I don't want to cross 500), I sent back a non committal "Oh it must be LinkedIn because it happened to me too" which it had. A recommender had removed me from their connections recently thus I "lost" their recommendation. It stung for a moment, then I shrugged and carried on. I would certainly never dream of asking them why. But now this person wrote back saying (whining) that they need it for a project, the money hadn't been that good so they want the recommendation back (!!) they saw I removed them etc etc which I did not reply. Now they've sent another request to link. I'm embarrassed for them because I would never follow up to ask why someone removed me from their connections or work history from years ago. And honestly, I would not work with this person again. I gave them a recommendation to help them on their way but now its been 5 years and I'd prefer they carried on with their professional life on their own. But at the same time I don't want to be an asshole so am putting this Ask out on what is teh best way to manage this kind of awkward.

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Now that I've finally figured out that "tenure-track professor in the humanities" isn't actually a real job that exists in 2014, I'd appreciate help figuring out what job possibilities might be a good match for my strengths, weaknesses, and priorities.I am a woman in my late 20s, and I am beginning what I hope will be my last year of my PhD in the humanities. The process has clarified for me that I almost certainly don't want to go into academia (or, it has clarified for me that my advisor was the last generation for which a tenure-track humanities academic job actually existed - one or the other...). I have spent much of the past year coming to grips with leaving academia, and in recent months I have been trying to brainstorm specific alternate career paths. There is one that I am very much leaning towards, but before making the jump, I wanted to crowdsource other possibilities that I might not have thought of. I thought I would lay out my personal strengths and weaknesses, as I see them and in no particular order (and likely I have forgotten to add significant things), and then I thought I would list, also in no particular order, my priorities for a job/career. STRENGTHS: 1. I read extremely quickly, am able quickly to grasp the strengths and weaknesses of an argument that I am reading, and I write quickly and well. 2. I am generally good at insightful analysis, and I love grappling with the various factors of a situation and the challenge of drawing a best-fit line and an argument/recommendation that justifies it. 2. I am an extrovert, and I enjoy working with people and I am good at it. I have heard from several people independently that people intuitively like and trust me very quickly upon meeting me. I have done some teaching, and have received positive feedback from my students, especially in terms of my role in facilitating seminar discussion. I am used to working on my own (being a PhD student in the humanities), but I believe I could work well as part of a team, especially if everyone on the team had clearly defined complementary areas of work. 3. I am generally confident (not cocky, but confident), and I feel comfortable navigating new situations. I have spent time living abroad, and I enjoy interacting with people who are culturally etc. unlike me, and I do not find this threatening. 4. I am generally able to avoid taking criticism personally. 5. I have a good memory. 5. I generally am able to remain calm in emergencies and other high-pressure situations. 6. I think I generally am able to see both big-picture and detail in a given situation (maybe through all of my historian training). 7. I have been in a couple mostly-male boys'-club environments, and I handled it well. I wouldn't mind going into a career that were either dominated by men or had a testosterone-driven feel to it. 8. My dissertation is in modern history, and is a topic that intersects with policy, law, religion, etc. I'm not sure whether this has any relevance outside the academic world. 9. I have multiple degrees (undergraduate and graduate) from what are generally considered to be among the most famous/prestigious universities in the world. I have gotten excellent grades in all of my degrees. I have won a variety of scholarships, fellowships, academic prizes, grants, etc. 10. I am an American citizen, so I have the right to work in the US, and English is my native language. LIMITATIONS: 1. I want a job that involves working with people, ideally in a way that makes me feel like I am impacting those people's lives for the good. One of the most difficult parts of my PhD has been the loneliness and isolation, which has really depressed me. Although I loved undergrad and master's, I realized during my PhD that I definitely don't enjoy sitting in a library reading for 8 hours a day and then going home to write by myself for another 5. 2. I have a general intolerance of piles of paperwork and bureaucracy (although I can deal with it if need be). 3. Along with that, I have a low tolerance for boredom (although I can deal with it if need be). 4. I have been so focused on academia that I have not held any internships, and I don't have any other connections to the "real world". My degrees are all in the humanities. 5. I like having some degree of autonomy and agency in my work, and I don't simply want to be a company's yesman/propaganda artist. 6. I do not know any modern foreign languages to the degree of verbal fluency that one would need to know them in order to work in them. I also do not hold citizenship or work permits in any other country besides the US. 7. I do not yet have any publications, although it is not impossible I will have one or two in a year's time. PRIORITIES: 1. Having been burned in academia, I have zero interest entering a field where the jobs are scarce and unstable, especially if this involves taking on debt and/or more schooling to do so. I want a job that is grown-up, stable, and can provide a home for me for a long while. 2. As I mentioned above, I am looking for a job ideally where I get to work with people (ideally in a way that leaves me with confidence that I am impacting those people's lives for the good, and/or maybe involving collegial teamwork). 3. Really important to me is a job that I find interesting. It doesn't necessarily have to be interesting in an academic/intellectual way, but it needs to have new problems, and space for my analysis. I would prefer something too with a fair amount of interesting new things, and as little mundane and bureaucratic as possible. 4. I also want a job where I can exercise judgement and agency. 5. Also important to me is that the job is well-paying. This was not at all important to me five years ago, but it has really grown in importance as I have remained broke and have watched friends be able to afford to get married, buy apartments, start a family, etc. I will be starting all of this eight or so years behind everyone, and I would really like to be able to afford to do all of these things in the next few years. Also, I have been having an extremely allergic reaction to the DWYL ideology, and I have reached the point where I believe I should be decently compensated for my labor - in actual money, rather than in prestige, degrees, free pizza, warm fluffy feels of altruism, or any other denominations of counterfeit currency grad students are paid in. I'm sure I have missed some key things above, and I am happy to clarify anything in the comments. I'd love anyone to weigh in on what careers they think might be a good fit. I'd also love to hear from anyone who has ideas about what careers *wouldn't* be a good fit, as narrowing things down would be helpful too. Are there any jobs where a humanities PhD would be an asset? I would be willing to go back to school if need be, but wouldn't want to do it unless I were virtually certain that there would be a good job waiting at the end of it. And just to clarify, I have less than zero interest in adjuncting, and I am also very disinclined at this point to sink 3-5 years more in postdocs and VAPs and the like, all for a shot at rolling the dice at a tenure-track job half a decade down the line. My preferred plan would be to exit academia immediately post-PhD, and start investing in something more stable (or at least, more well-paying).

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Back in possibly the mid-to late 80's, or early 90's at the latest, I caught a bit of a program on television about a choral piece of classical music, which at the time was being billed as sung by (faulty memory may apply here) the largest choral ensemble ever assembled. It's also possible that it was the combination of symphonic musicians + chorus equalled the largest group assembled for a piece of choral music.The piece of music was by a (then) contemporary composer, who I believe was conducting his own composition he'd written for this massive gathering of voices. I seem to recall him being interviewed on the TV special that was broadcasting the show. Probably PBS? Seems like a PBS sort of thing. My memory is also that it was pretty powerful and awesome. Help me track it down?

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R.I.P., the Vincent Price of podcasts Lawrence Santoro (old but useful site), writer, director, and actor, passed this July. But he might be best known for his work as a podcaster, most notably through his Tales to Terrify. Other writers and podcasters mourned, while the District of Wonders (previously) observed a week of radio silence. To get a sense of the richness and scope of Santoro's audio work, check out the more than 130 Tales to Terrify shows in their archives. Or combine his writing and audio performance by listening to the heartbreaking, NSFW, and powerful "Little Girl Down the Way".

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Alex Ross on The Classical Cloud. Here is a link to the Ionarts website mentioned in the article. (There are a lot of previously's for Alex Ross - you're on your own.)

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Prof is really young and he blushed when I said something a bit extreme.I am in a grad program where all my courses are seminars with 11 people. One of my profs is really young (and obviously new to teaching) and the class has a really safe, welcoming and laid back vibe which I really appreciate. Last class we were discussing a subject which I have some (stupid) opinions on. No one else in the class was saying anything, so I just voiced my (stupid and judgmental) opinion on the text we were talking about ( I probably don't understand it correctly, but at the time there seemed to be hypocrisies in the text which I chose to point out), and this caused the prof to intensely blush. I am a formerly extremely shy person who in the past few years has stopped being shy but does not know how to be a proper extrovert yet. The prof's laid back vibe also contributes to breezy talk. But I feel bad for saying something so stupid and also for making the prof embarrassed. I have to email him today anyways for a question about the readings. Would it be appropriate to apologize or say that I take back what I said or is this a situation where he's already forgotten what was said and drawing attention to it is being self absorbed and petty? should I just try to be better going forward or would an acknowledgement be appreciated. Normally, in a large class I wouldn't be worrying about this. But since it's a seminar class I have to be more mindful.

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I need the projectiles to be heavy enough to be easily thrown 10 yards. I'm planning building broadcloth pouches, but I don't know what to fill them with. I need something cheap and heavy, but not rocks. Any ideas?This is for a show, the audience is throwing the projectiles. I don't want people to get hurt from ricochet. Also, no glitter. They have to weigh enough to pierce cheap paper from 10 yards away. I was thinking beads, but they might be too light. Running out of ideas. Help!

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Sentenced in a Swedish court, Gottfrid Svartholm Warg gets extradited to Denmark to stand trial for another case of system intrusion. Mefi's Own, Jacob Applebaum has some choice words after his testimony in the Danish court. the Swedish security services conducted the initial technical forensics(pdf), focusing on whether or nor the Windows Firewall was present (as opposed to enabled), yet when the Danish Police conducted their own forensic analysis, they found over 500 trojans installed, a fact to which the presiding judge replied "I don't know about Trojans" aside from the Swedish security services inability to perform a trivial virus-scan & a post-swartholm-extradition financial aid from Sweden to Cambodia of $33 553 944 (2011 - $25 445 074). but there's also an observation of skewed data after the swedish trial. although Gottfrid, has gone on the record as to who did what and when on said lab-device, the Danish police has yet to investigate. The company Gottfrid stands accused of hacking also has an interesting background pertaining to a certain country's clandestine services. This trial has everything, even alleged coercion of witnesses! obligatory wikileaks link of documents relating to the alleged cambodian extradition corruption charge levelled by the defense.

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I would really like to be paperless. As soon as I receive them, I'd like non-junk mail and documents to be digitized, then shredded.Currently, what I do is open the envelopes, decide how important the document inside is, then take pictures of the pages, then shred the documents. Later, I sort the photos into a specific album, then off-load them from my phone into iPhoto, then from there to a folder. This is onerous enough that I can't do it under pressure, and mail piles up on our coffee table. Other flaws: - No OCR, so these photos have to be searched visually instead of by typing in text. - I rarely get around to labeling them, making that search even harder. Things I'd like to avoid: - I used to have a Fujitsu ScanSnap, but it was really finicky and, eventually, the feeder broke. If the suggested approach involves scanning, I'd prefer it to be iPhone-based. - I don't want my documents locked up in some proprietary storage service, especially those that are subscription-based. I see some older AskMes, but I'd like to know what's working for MeFites right now.

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SIMILO. "2065. The entire planet is hit by the effects of climate change. One of the few places that remain habitable is Antarctica, where corporations have built private cities. Hebe and Ciro get back together again. She is looking for love. He is searching for his own identity." [NSFW, Via]

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"This country, when it was ever known on the global stage under the union, was associated with tragedy, in terrible events like Lockerbie and Dunblane; it's now synonymous with real people power. Forget Bannockburn or the Scottish Enlightenment, the Scots have just reinvented and re-established the idea of true democracy. This—one more—glorious failure might also, paradoxically, be their finest hour." Novelist Irvine Welsh on Scottish independence (SLGuardian) Previously: For fifteen hours, we hold sovereignty in our hands

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"Okay, the old man in the tavern tells you, 'Many years ago the powerful sage known as Mefi's own Lore collected much wisdom about the sundry monsters of which the elders taught of us in the Monster Manual. Lore's annotations to the work came in the form of the comic series Speak With Monsters. They were once thought lost forever with the fall of Bad Gods and following the trail the mighty JHarris blazed previously four winters past will lead only to woe. But Lore has shared them again in the distant library of Google Plus for seekers after wisdom and gold.' He then falls over with a knife in his back. What do you do?" It is "The Incomplete Series" because while originally slated to run for 150 installments, it ended after roughly half that. For your easy reference: Carrion Crawler Blink Marmaduke Centaur Chimera Cockatrice Displacer Beast Doppleganger Djinni Efreeti Elemntal (Fire Elemental) Ettin Flightless Bird Leech, Giant Ghost Spider, Giant Spider Gnoll Dragon, Green Dragon (Draco Chlorinus Nauseous Respiratorus) Halfling Griffon Harpy Hell Hound Herd Animal Hobgoblin Ki-Rin Kobold Lamia Medusa Merman Mimic Ankheg Minotaur Mind Flayer Beholder Bulette Men, Berserker Dinosaur, Ceratosaurus Demogorgon Dryad Ear Seeker Ant, Giant Leprechaun Invisible Stalker Golem, Iron Manticore Rakshasa Peryton Umber Hulk Xorn Mummy Ogre Mage (Japanese Ogre) Orc Pixie Owlbear Pseudo-Dragon Quasit Roper Purple Worm Rot Grub Rust Monster Sahuagin Shambling Mound Skeleton Succubus Shrieker Troll Trapper Troglodyte Unicorn Vampire Will-O-(the)-Wisp

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9 conversations from a pop-up photo studio in San Diego

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Do you use a casual drawing app or program that constrains your choices in a good way? Tell me about it.Two years of playing DrawSomething has rekindled some interest in artistic pursuits that I thought long-gone. I think part of the appeal is that unlike any other digital art program or app I've played with, DrawSomething gives me a very limited palette and set of tools to play with. I tend to overthink things even more when creating something than I do in everyday life, so I find this small menu of choices very freeing, in a way that really encourages goofing around creatively. But lately I've been wishing I had something similar I could just use for playing around on my Nexus 5 or iPad, no game required. I've tried Autodesk's SketchBookPro and there are just way, way too many options. Can you recommend something closer to what I'm looking for?

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My mother is 90-years-old and lives alone. We worry when she doesn't pick up for the phone or we haven't heard from her for a couple of days. She is actively-opposed to any sort of regular check-ins by phone or e-mail to us, and she also does not want to use any type of monitoring service for the elderly (such as Lifeline) She does, however, use e-mail and her computer on a daily basis. Is there any software I can install that would send out e-mail alerts to us when she has (or hasn't) used her computer in x amount of hours? I would, of course, ask her permission to do this, and I am fairly sure she would be okay with it. (Don't ask me what exactly the difference is between this and Lifeline, I think it has to do with the stigma of aging that a service like Lifeline implies, something she is quite sensitive about.)

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I used to use Truecrypt to encrypt little enclosures so I wouldn't have to worry about my files so much when I, say, put them on a USB stick or backed them up to the cloud. There was a whole... thing with Truecrypt and now it's hard to say if I should use it anymore. Is there another program that's going to work well for this purpose?Some factors: -I am on Windows 8.1, but not Pro, so I don't have Bitlocker. I could upgrade but I'd rather not spend the money if possible. -I am not interested in encrypting whole drives, just little virtual drives I can keep my files in. -Ease of use is a bonus, I don't need maximum features. This is just to avoid identity thieves and script kiddies, not the NSA. Actually looking at the last one above, maybe I should just track down an old version of Truecrypt? Or is there something better now? I saw this question but it doesn't have much information on alternatives, have any developed?

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On Friday, 32 guards who were employees of the Florida Department of Corrections were fired; all were accused of being associated with the deaths of inmates at four state prisons. "The union representing the state's corrections officers, however, says Crews' firing of low-level staff is a diversion to turn attention away from the real culprits responsible for fostering the prison system's culture of brutality: the department's wardens, regional directors and top leadership." In June, the ACLU of Florida, Florida Justice Institute, Amnesty International, the Florida Council of Churches, and the Florida Conference of NAACP Branches wrote a letter to Attorney General Eric Holder regarding the 2012 death of Darren Rainey, a mentally ill prisoner who was left unattended in a closet sized shower stall for two hours while "being blasted with scalding hot water with temperatures that were later measured as high as 180 degrees, Mr. Rainey was found dead – his skin separated from his body." "I can't take it no more, I'm sorry. I won't do it again,'' he screamed over and over, according to a grievance complaint from a fellow inmate. Read more here: http://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/miami-dade/article1964620.html#storylink=cp The Florida Department of Law Enforcement is currently looking at 82 prisoner deaths where inmates died of something other than a natural cause. 11 guards were fired and arrested last week for alleged brutality against prisoners. On August 20, Florida Depart of Corrections Secretary Mike crews "announced a series of system-wide reforms designed to improve transparency and provide better training in the handling of mentally ill inmates."

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Ten years ago today saw the English launch of a quirky Japanese puzzler, a sleeper hit that would go down as one of the most endearing, original, and gleefully weird gaming stories of the 2000s: Katamari Damacy. Its fever-dream plot has the record-scratching, Freddie Mercury-esque King of All Cosmos destroy the stars in a drunken fugue, and you, the diminutive Prince, must restore them with the Katamari -- a magical sticky ball that snowballs through cluttered environments, rolling up paperclips, flowerpots, cows, buses, houses, skyscrapers, and continents into new constellations. It also boasts one of the most infectiously joyous soundtracks of all time -- an eccentric, richly produced, and incredibly catchy blend of funk, salsa, bossa nova, experimental electronica, J-Pop, swing, lounge, bamboo flute, hair metal, buoyant parade music, soaring children's choirs, Macintalk fanfares, and the finest theme song this side of Super Mario Bros. Called a consumerist critique by sculptor-turned-developer Keita Takahashi (who after one sequel moved on to Glitch, the supremely odd Noby Noby Boy, and playground design), the series has inspired much celebration and thought [2, 3] on its way from budget bin to MoMA exhibit. Look inside for essays, artwork, comics, lyrics, more music, hopes, dreams... my, the internet really is full of things. Interview: The Melancholy Of Keita Takahashi: "After the press conference, one of GameCity's organizers drove Takahashi to the local art store where he filled his basket with crayons, stickers, pens, sheaths of paper and, of course, a coat hanger. Then they took a taxi to this room, and closed the door behind him. It's hard to shake the feeling its precisely this sort of largely directionless creativity, free from the constraints of financial targets, demographics and brand-building that has brought Takahashi to this unlikely nook on the other side of his world." Keita Takahashi at the GDC and a write-up of his lecture Essays How games like Katamari help us deal with consumerism and the wealth gap: "Set to a backdrop of bright Japanese pop, Katamari Damacy cheerfully depicts a kind of snowballing addiction to acquisition that literally uproots the earth itself." my, earth really is full of things: "there is a sobering loneliness to this game. in the game's climactic scene, the player is asked to create the earth's moon. to create a large enough sphere, the player has to roll up everything on the earth's surface - cities, continents, clouds. eventually the player assembles a ball which contains everything that comprises the human sphere. that ball, essentially the player (the 1 cm-tall prince that has been marked as the protagonist has disappeared long ago), has literally become the earth, and the vast and featureless ocean that stretches around it is the enormous empty cosmos which for its hugeness has contains far less of interest to the human being than the smallest things on the earth's surface." Chaos in the Cosmos: The Play of Contradictions in the Music of Katamari Damacy: "At first glance, Katamari Damacy (Namco, 2004) is a simple and cheery video game. Yet the game is full of thematic complexities and complications, which raise a number of ethical and aesthetic problems, including the relationships between childhood and terror, father and son, and digital and analog; furthermore, the complexities governing each of these pairs are cleverly underscored by the game's music." Notes On SuperFlat and Its Expression in Videogames and related PDF thesis Ota-Kings, Brat Princes and Copied Cousins: Katamari in Context: "Through a situated analysis of Katamari and its sequel We Love Katamari (Namco, 2005) I want to explore contemporary Japanese games design and its relationship to 'SuperFlat', the familiar '-ism' encapsulating the art and culture of the Tokyo Pop contemporary art movement. While the convergence of art and gaming at work in my case study transcends a certain hierarchy of cultural value, critical opposition to Takashi Murakami and his peers in the contemporary art community echoes the more widespread opposition to videogames as a new artistic medium." GAMER THEORY - Analog: On Katamari Damacy: "This is the reckless act of creation with which Katamari Damacy begins — the King's destruction of the mythic heaven of the old Gods, and the project of replacing it by commanding the transformation of a human, analog movement into an airless matrix of machine code. This is the new labor of Sisyphus." The Prince of Objects: Katamari and Ontology: "What's interesting is that [Level of Detail] normally applies to things that are far away from the player or from the camera. In the case of Katamari, LOD applies to a case where an object is no longer on a scale you care about anymore. What we're seeing here is a case of a Latourian black box appearing in a game. Yes, we can and do appreciate the individual elements of a park, but at some level we close that box and begin to refer to the park as an object in and of itself. What was inside the park no longer exists, and is subsumed by the "park" object." Box Art Review: "Imagine being a kid seeing this for the first time on the shelf. The metropolis in the distance looking miniscule next to a giant ball made up of a baseball stadium, an octopus, a ferris wheel, an airplane, and—my personal favorite—a blue whale, all heading toward those cows, so utterly (sorry) helpless. What the box art does is convey what so many self-serious videogames forget to: a true feeling of awe and possibility. When was the last time box art—not a demo walkthrough, not an alt-rock laden YouTube trailer, but the actual box art—got you hyped to play a game?" A Clump of Parody: "Even the art style of Katamarii is very reminiscent of the pop art of Takashi Murakami. Murakami, who was really frustrated with the art market in Japan, decided to create art in a way that was relevant to the pop culture of Japan. Anime and Manga have huge cult followings in Asia and in the West, although they are largely ignored by the art world because they are "low art." What Murakami did was blur the line between high art and low art. He makes art in the style of Manga and Anime, but crosses into the threshold of the high art world. " Metaphor: Katamari Damacy and Capitalism and Overconsumption: "Katamari Damacy, developed and published by Namco, is a sublime work of persuasion because it masquerades as a video game while sabotaging the mainstream; it is so effective that it's work as a metaphor goes undetected by the many who play it." Katamari Damacy as Artwork: "Cleaning the scene up by rolling the katamari over can be seen as an act of subvert to "the culture of consumption and even the value of other video games" (Sino). It is because most of the video games nowadays, as a culture interface, reflected the real world's favor of capitalism and/or consumerism. Classical examples are SimCity, Age of Empires, and their inspired variants, where player starts with a small plain area, develops into a large place that contains a large amount of artifacts. The "more to less" direction of Katamari Damacy is the opposite of the mainstream "less to more" progress. On the other hand, picking up objects by the katamari is also a metaphor of consuming the materials around us." Honorable Mention in Horror: Touch My Katamari Music Wikipedia: Music of the Katamari Damacy series A quick guide to the tracks of the first soundtrack Complete soundtracks: Katamari Damacy - We Love Katamari - Me and My Katamari (Disc 2) - Beautiful Katamari - Katamari Forever - Touch My Katamari English song lyrics The Katamari Fan Album, including remixes and instrumental tracks from the original game The recent rap remix project Katamari Da-Emcee on Soundcloud (previously) Ask MetaFilter: I want more music in Katamari Damacy's groove... Odds 'n' Ends TVTROPES All the whimsical item descriptions from the first game and a complete dialogue transcript The official Katamari webcomic, from Buttersafe creators Ray Castro and Alex Culang, will be available online through this October with a December print run; there's also a TVTropes page. An adorable Katamari wedding 2D Flash Katamari (previously), plus a Javascript code for playing the game with any website (previously; generally only works as a clickable bookmarklet, not pasted in the URL bar) Gameplay footage of the cancelled Katamari Online project The original Katamari Damacy gameplay patent Inspired-by ads: a playful ad from Travelers and a darker one from Doctors Without Borders

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One of the most amazing feats in chess history just happened, and no one noticed. Caruana started the tournament with a win, then another. Then another. And another. And another. At the halfway mark, when each player had faced all five of his opponents exactly once, Caruana was 5–0–0. To you and me, going unbeaten and undrawn in five straight tournament games sounds impressive. But to chess aficionados, Caruana's performance is nigh on miraculous.

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Questions about legal proceedings for parenting time in an unusual 'divorce'.So, I have been co-parenting with a best (female) friend for the last ~4+ years. Two years ago, we added a (male) friend to our family as the parent of two new children, because she and I wanted to have more children. While originally we brought him on as a new co-parent, it morphed into a triad relationship. Just this week, they told me they wanted to leave me and be the two of them. This is an enormous shock and I'm trying to just focus on logistics to cope. In the 72 hours that I've known, I've made a new budget, picked out an apartment, made to-do lists, and started shifting through belongings to choose what to donate and what to later pack. I also saw a lawyer. (YANML!) This was just a consultation; no paperwork was signed. I told them I had done so, and they said it was "very aggressive"; 'ex-husband' said he was "shocked and appalled" that I would do that. Now, they have had lawyers for other child custody cases. I thought I should be as educated as them on the details so spoke to someone. But again, nothing has to go forward; I didn't actually hire her. Last night we had a visitation schedule discussion. I am taking my bio-child, they theirs, and the bio-child we share in common will have to switch homes. The agreement gives me less time than shared-bio-child than I would like, but it does solve lots of issues like childcare, his PT appointments, transportation, ect. Logically it makes perfect sense and the pockets of time I wouldn't see him is 2-3 hours just 2 days a week. He's only a year old so I'm sure the schedule will change as his needs change. That schedule also has room for me visiting them with bio-child twice a week, so that we have dinner together, the kids see each other, and I see them. While we have a day-to-day there is room for flexibility. With my friend and co-wife, I have basically no concern about that flexibility and fairness. I know that we'd feel completely comfortable coming over to each other homes, leaving kids with each other on a night out or if we're sick, having holidays together and even going on trips. We said so last night. I am 99% fine with her proposal, which is just to write this all down and have it notarized. With the ex-husband, I am not as sure. That also leaves out the question of child support. They think I would end up paying it, since shared-bio-child would be at their house more often than not. (I make more than her, less than him, and far less than them together.) I again would be fine with her and I not paying anything to each other and splitting special costs like trips to the zoo. I am not as sure about the ex-husband. I WANT to think that everything will be fine, but: *My default emotional state is to want to be nice above all, and sometimes I give or give up too much for fear of hurting their feelings. (I was very, very hurt by their reaction to my consultation.) *He can be very passive-aggressive and critical *Now I feel like I don't 'really' know him; I wouldn't think that he'd just spontaneously decide to leave me, but he has. *I don't want to be unfair to the bio-child, whether I owe them money for him or whether I'd get money and I'd put that into a savings account for him. Money for me is going to be much more tight since it is just me instead of two incomes as they have. Because of that, I am torn between hiring the lawyer and having it go to the system - as kindly as possible, and with that already-approved schedule (although the lawyer thought I could get a lot more time than that) - or just having visitation notarized and dropping everything else. My beginning reaction is to just trust them and not bother with the lawyer. But since my reaction was also to trust that they wanted to stay with me, and we were a family - at least a family that wouldn't just leave without trying to resolve things - then maybe that instinct isn't sure enough. I have a history of abuse. I don't want to give in as I always do if it's going to hurt me and my children. On the other hand, I don't want things to become confrontational. I know it would extremely upset them if I did hire a lawyer. I would appreciate your feedback ("lawyer or no lawyer"), and pros and cons I haven't thought of. If you have any associated advice about good logistical steps to take, or tips on dealing with the emotional fallout, or about how to be a great single parent, I would also really appreciate that.

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Need tips on how a household of 20-somethings can eat decently on a very small budget. Two large guys who eat like large guys, one average-size girl. They are trying to lose weight and get healthier. Difficulty: she needs to avoid gluten and dairy, and limit carbs somewhat (so they can't do rice and beans every night.)They like fruits, veggies and salads but have trouble affording them. They get food stamps but not a ton and have a small amount of cash to spend. I don't live in the area, so I don't know where the cheap groceries are. Here are a list of stores they DON'T have nearby, so far as I can tell: No Aldi No Costco No Trader Joe's No ethnic markets (at least as far as Google will tell me) They DO have Super One, Cub Foods and Walmart. There's a Sam's Club 20 miles away. And maybe there are other cheap stores that Google is not showing me. So where should they shop, what should they buy, and what can they make with it?

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