posted about 10 hours ago on metafilter
I'll be travelling to Prague for work later this week and will have all day Saturday to explore. Please recommend things to do.I'm sure I'll be back at some point so I'd rather have a leisurely day exploring, ideally take in a few things on and off the beaten track. Please also recommend somewhere a local person would go to have a nice meal and a couple of cafes for people watching. I'll be walking/using public transport - as far as I can tell my hotel is quite central and near the old town. I'd prefer not to be completely shattered at the end of the day - my flight leaves at 8.15pm and is long enough for a short nap but I'll then pick up a car and have to drive 120 miles the other end. Thanks!

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Is there a short quiz or activity whose results I can plot over time to gauge how "alert" I am?I have trouble quitting what I'm doing and going to sleep, and hence I probably don't get enough sleep. I lost weight when I discovered a "scientific" way to watch my progress, it just really clicked for me, and I would like to do something similar for sleep. Something where I note the previous night's bedtime and then the results of some sort of "first thing of the day" activity, in the hopes I can get my motivation from that. I know the benefits of sleeping enough but a tool like this would provide me the motivation to actually turn off and go to bed.

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A friend of mine is remodeling an older home in the midwest. Masons opened up a wall and found these mystery items. The bottle has a shiny residue inside; the stopper is rubber which is completely hardened and cracked. The third thing is glass, and a mystery. Does anyone here know what they are? (Bonus points if you have any idea why they might have been put inside a wall.)

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Everyday Sigils: A tumblr where you can commission magical sigils and symbols to deal with everyday trials, from the mundane to the sadly common.

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My girlfriend's 5-year-old daughter has been having a really hard time.She (the child) has been having increasingly frequent meltdowns that culminate in physically attacking my GF for extended periods. Hitting, biting, hair-pulling, etc. Granted she is a small child, but having been on the receiving end of her lashing out, I know she can inflict physical pain. And the accompanying invective is especially hurtful to my GF, who is an amazing mom but struggles with self-confidence. When my GF tries to comfort her child or walk away or physically separate herself the child becomes angrier and more agitated, e.g. if the child is put in her room she will throw anything she can lift-like a wire trashcan-at the door. (Though I am often around, I don't live with them, and it's often just the two of them in their house). My GF is seeking professional help for this, but in the meantime it's extremely hard on both of them, and I am looking for tips on how to help calm a child who is totally flipping out, beyond "normal" tantruming. (For instance, one thing that has sometimes "worked" has been for my GF to turn the physicality toward play, with tickling, chasing, etc). Note : We are not interested in any kind of reward/punishment or any approach that assumes the child is choosing to behave badly/seeking attention/manipulating. I know those approaches work for some kids, but we don't think they're helpful for this kid. At the same time, we don't want it to be ok for the child to communicate in this way in the long term. (My GF has experienced long-term trauma, from early childhood on, and part of what's so difficult for her is the sense that she is perpetuating that with her daughter). We recognize that strategies for not getting to the point of explosion are what's needed, and feedback on that would be helpful, too. The child is easily frustrated and often her explosions are triggered by what seem to us adults to be trivial difficulties. It's worth noting that so far this behaviour has only happened in the home. The child is generally fine in social situations and has done well in kindergarten. Bonus question: I've been checking out the Plan B/ collaborative problem solving approach as promulgated by Dr. Ross Greene. Experiences with that? Feel free to memail me with private responses and thanks so much!

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I want to paint a beach ball to look like Jupiter. It will spend the vast majority of its time deflated in a waterproof container in the middle of the woods. Periodically it will be taken out, inflated, looked at for a minute or two, and then put back. Is there some kind of paint or painting style that will keep the paint from cracking and peeling after repeated inflation and deflation?

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What are your favorite slow cooker recipes that (a) rely on fresher ingredients instead of canned or frozen, and (b) are practical for single-person portions? Difficulty level: no beef or pork.I'd like to use my slow cooker more. However, so many slow cooker recipes are just "dump some canned and frozen things into a pot". The results tend to be bland, not to mention very high in sodium. The one killer app I've found so far is cooking dried beans—I may never buy canned beans again. But what else can I do with my slow cooker? Note that I prefer healthy things: vegetables, lean poultry or seafood, whole grains, and not too much added fat or sugar. I don't mind a bit of additional prep work, such as browning meat. I'm also okay with harder-to-find ingredients—I'm a pretty adventurous and resourceful eater. I'm really just looking for healthy, flavorful recipes that exploit the strength of the slow cooker: the ability to develop deep, rich, complex flavors by simmering all day long. Any cuisine or type of dish is fair game. Brown rice dishes? Turkey or chicken chili? Vegetable stews? Soups? Indian dishes? Slow-cooker doro wot? Pollo guisado? What you got?

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A good friend has a drug problem (pain pills & xanax). He has been taking Subutex for a few weeks now and will be crashing at my place temporarily. How do I best help him through this? Tips, tricks, advice... things I should expect?Snowflakes... questions at the end if you want to skip it: Friend is in his mid-30s & struggling to find his place in the world after a divorce and leaving a career path. He's quite intelligent and presents a front of high self-esteem, but it's actually quite low. He likes structure & routine, but will absolutely deny that. He also needs to feel in control and, it seems to me, a loss of control leads to his anxiety and drug use. This is not his first time through this. He quit pain pills several years ago with the help of Suboxone and the depression & anxiety (more than the physical detox, though he's not looking forward to that, either) that followed was pretty rough. He managed to stay away from pain pills (mostly) for the next few years but relapsed this winter. He has occasional issues with Xanax but was clean from last June until Dec/Jan. Though he hasn't said as much, it seems the anxiety of having to quit again, once he discovered just a bit of dependence/withdrawal, made him use even more. An opportunity came up to travel abroad and visit family. He's seeing if he can acclimate to the culture and, if so, he'll get a job & move there. He is hoping for a fresh start. He started the Subutex a couple days into his trip. I assume he has also weened himself off of the Xanax - he took a bunch with him, but from what I could tell it was not enough to cover what he was regularly using & definitely not enough if there was a binge. We've not known each other long (18 months) but we became quite close (nonromantic) quickly. As he started using again, he started distancing himself from me. I knew not to push and to let him be. Still, I found opportunities to remind him that I was there and of the choices he would have made just a few months before. I made it clear that I still cared about & believed in him, but that I did not care for or trust the drugs. I gave him his space. Just before he left, he asked for help in his way. (Not directly, but it was clear by coming to me and opening up.) He'll be back for a bit (a couple weeks to a couple months) while he figures out his next step (likely moving, probably abroad). I offered him a place to stay. His local family is no longer an option - he's been there a year and I'm sure they've seen signs of his drug use (he hasn't said as much, but...). His other friends aren't an option for me. Not the ones that would have a room or couch for him, anyway. Not for someone in recovery. He is not in a formal program and isn't the sort to seek that out. He is underemployed & without insurance. I'd suggest therapy (for the anxiety and underlying issues) through county services, but it takes a couple weeks to get in for an initial consult. So... now I have to figure out how to help but not enable and how to make my home a safe haven for both of us. 1) He very much likes his independence. How do I balance his need for freedom and control with my desire for information? 2) What sorts of conditions, if any, do I make on him for staying here? 3) He has an unfilled prescription for Xanax. (The Subutex doc gave him one, but he had just had another script filled). If he gets it filled, do I have him give them to me to dole out as prescribed/needed? We have had this arrangement before (on his request), so it would not seem odd. Should I do the same with the Subutex? Do I make this an offer or condition? 4) I know Subutex helps with the physical withdrawal, but what can I expect with the mental component? 5) I don't know his plans with the Subutex. The timing of the appointment and the expense may force him to quit cold turkey. (He could only get a prescription for a month and the earliest he can get an appointment would be 5 weeks after he started, possibly 6 weeks.) I know it's best to taper slowly, but that just might not be an option if he couldn't pace out what he had. All the advice I've read is geared towards the individual going through it, not the folks on the sidelines. How can I help him if he goes cold turkey? 6) I am considering getting him a book on addiction/abuse/recovery (current contender). He's not a reader and he's not in therapy, but he is a "do-er" and likes talking psych subjects on occasion. This seems like something he may pick up & flip through on restless nights and may provide some support. I don't want him to think I'm making recovery a theme or that I'm going to be on his case about it (see independence & control), but I do want him to know I will be supportive & understanding. I'd also like him to have some additional tools in his toolbox. Is this too much or too intrusive? 7) What am I not thinking about? I really do appreciate any/all help & advice here. I've seen addiction & recovery before, but never with someone so close. I know it's up to him. I know I can't "fix" him (though, man, if I could just snap my fingers and make this all better!). I just want to provide a safe & comfortable environment so that he can keep climbing up out of this hole. Being anonymous, I can understand not wanting to be oh so public with this. If you would rather reach out via email you can: [email protected]

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posted about 13 hours ago on metafilter
So... This is a tick, right?Found this in my hair this morning. No idea where it came from. I havent left downtown seattle for a couple of weeks. Its a tick, right? What should my follow up be?

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Replace my Panasonic PT-AX200U.Desired: - HDMI, etc. - high definition. - throw size: 11' by 5.5" (144" diag in that configuration) - originally purchased at Projector People - audio 'out' as passthrough (is this a thing that exists)? Bonus round: what's the best way to calibrate it (keystoning, position, color, etc.). In the past, I used an Avia disc.

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They haven't forgotten. For 70 years, the Dutch have come to a verdant U.S. cemetery outside this small village to care for the graves of Americans killed in World War II. On Sunday, they came again, bearing Memorial Day bouquets for men and women they never knew, but whose 8,300 headstones the people of the Netherlands have adopted as their own.

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The 2015 Eurovision Song Contest winner has now been crowned (previously), but the real stars of the contest were the fabulous and entertaining International Sign interpreters. For the first time ever, viewers of the 2015 Eurovision Song Contest had the option to watch the entire contest with International Sign (IS) interpretation. A team of interpreters, almost all of them Deaf themselves, spent months extracting key themes from each song and creating recorded interpretations to be incorporated into the live broadcasts. The resulting performances, including hosting duties handled by Sandra Schügerl and Georg Marsh, are often more entertaining than the original, and have a lot to offer even hearing audiences. However, team leader Delil Yilmaz differentiates their work from that of interpreter Tommy Krångh (previously), whose gestures could "produce visual overload" for Deaf viewers. Watch the full IS recordings of the first semifinal, second semifinal, and Grand Final, or check out individual performances: Camilla Abelgren-Michaelsen -- Albania -- Belarus -- Czech Republic -- Denmark -- Germany -- Latvia -- Poland Jonas Akanno -- Belgium -- Finland Xiaoshu Alice Hu -- Australia -- Georgia -- Lithuania -- Moldova -- Netherlands -- San Marino -- Serbia -- Slovenia Ragna Huse -- Armenia -- Hungary -- Iceland -- Malta -- Portugal -- Russia -- Spain Karin Lang -- Austria -- Estonia -- Greece -- Ireland -- Montenegro -- Norway -- Switzerland Delil Yilmaz -- Azerbaijan -- Conchita Medley -- Cyprus -- France -- FYR Macedonia -- Israel -- Italy -- Rise Like a Phoenix, Part I and Part 2 -- Romania -- Sweden -- United Kingdom

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I'd like to take a certificate course course in Sustainable Farming and Foods. My employer, a non-profit, lacks the funds. How do I make this happen?I'm lucky enough to be a part of some really great initiatives through my non-profit job at a sheltered workshop (which is great work as it is). Currently I manage a greenhouse and market garden for my employer (BEST JOB EVER!) but I'm also a Farmers' Market Manager on a military base (newly established, also as a result of my current job). In the near future, I'll be helping to develop a sustainable food shed for our military base, I'll be working on some controlled environment agriculture initiatives, and most awesome, I'll be in charge of the development of a 600 acre veterans to farmers training farm. Did I mention my job is awesome?! Funny thing is, I have no degree and have been invited to participate and tasked with these responsibilities simply because of my research and grant writing skills and enthusiasm. I'd like to bulk up my skills and understanding of what's going to be necessary or the best practice for the things I'll soon be a part of. This, I'd like to get some sort of certificate in sustainable agriculture and food systems, or something of the like. UMass Amherst Stockbridge had an AWESOME certificate course in Sustainable Food and Farming that I am dying to take but I know other institutions offer something similar. My questions: Has anyone ever taken a certificate course like this? Further, I work at a non-profit so funding this is gonna be rough. The UMass certificate is $6000+ - my employer can't fund this. Are there funding sources - scholarships, grants, etc - for non-profit employee professional development? My google-fu is failing. I work with a lot of professionals and I've been asked more than once what my educational background is. I'd like to be able to answer this wig something that directly pertains to the work I'm doing and beyond that, it would obviously help me and the work in doing and and have done seem more, I don't know, reliable, if that's the right word? Any help would be great! Thanks in advance, MeFites! (Forgive errors, typed on phone!)

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It instantly hits your eyes haloed in a corona of potency—structured so soundly as to seem staged, this forceful frieze of physical dominance. The Victor yells, the Loser displays himself vanquished, and the Watchers are all caught in that moment. The kinetic poetry of moving bodies, momentarily frozen, such is the stuff of the best sports photos—this has that. It's widely recognized today as one of the greatest photographs in sports history, but Neil Leifer's masterpiece, capturing the climax of the fight 50 years ago today between Muhammad Ali (then Cassius Clay) and Sony Liston hardly made a stir at the time it was snapped.

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I have a copper IUD (Paraguard) that was inserted about 1 month ago. I've been feeling absolutely terrible this past month. Pain, anxiety, discomfort - every day. I think I want to ask my doctor to remove the IUD, but I'm nervous for a few reasons (maybe because of my overall increased anxiety?) Any tips?I got a Paraguard inserted about a month ago. Was SUPER excited about it! Thought we'd be best friends! But I think it might not be right for me. Here is what happened: - Insertion was great! Mild discomfort, but I felt awesome! Yay IUD! - 1 hour after insertion I was in the worst pain I've ever felt - doubled over, difficulty walking, sweating, delirious, shouting with pain. I'd say it was about a 9 maybe 10 on the pain scale. - I called my doc who said to take Motrin and that the pain was normal. That once the Motrin kicked in I'd feel better. - The extreme pain lasted a few hours and diminished to a 5-6 on the pain scale for the next few days. After those first few days were over, this is what I've experienced: - Some amount of pain every day. Some days are better (2-3) some days are worse (5-6). I've been taking Motrin at the max recommended dosage every day. - Sharp pains in my lower back. Pains radiating out to my legs. Aches in my hips, thighs. - Bloating - pants are tight - Anxiety and depression - I've had ongoing problems with anxiety, but the past month it's at least doubled - Lethargy - I normally love running around, but aside from working, most days I want to just curl in a ball and watch TV - An occasional feeling like I need to push something out of my uterus (barf) or a weird twinge like the start of a UTI I have my followup appointment in a week or so and I think my increased anxiety is making me doubt what to expect and what I should ask for. Here's what I'm nervous about: - Should I call and say that instead of a regular followup appointment I want to schedule a removal? - Or should I go to the regular followup and hear what my doc has to say? (I mean I would anyway, but...) And then possibly schedule another appointment for removal? - I'm scared my doc will suggest I give it another month or two. If she says I should - should I? Should I insist on having it removed asap? - I'm scared of the pain on removal - the day of insertion ended up being pretty yucky. I know AskMe is not my doctor (I wish!), but I already have my followup appointment scheduled, I'm just having anxiety about the above items and am wondering how insistent (if at all) I should be to have it removed. Honestly, a lot of it is that I don't want to be a wimp about this pain. Any tips?

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Americans try Dutch sweets. Some are received very well, others ... not so much. Some commentary at 24 Oranges.

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posted about 16 hours ago on metafilter
I am moving from second tiny studio into my third tiny studio at the end of the month. One thing I have learned is that I am definitely not into having a full-size bed in my studio.So, tiny-apartment dwellers, how did you find a solution to this? Do you have a fold-out couch? A daybed? If you have a daybed, do you remove the sheets every day and then put them back on before you sleep? I like the idea of a couch-sized bed, but I could see myself getting really annoyed with this process; but I don't really want to sit on the sheets I sleep on in my street clothes, nor do I want guests sitting on my sheets and pillows. Fold-out couches are rarely comfortable, and the Western interpretation of a futon is blasphemy to me after having slept on actual futons for the better part of my childhood. The daybed also doesn't seem very conducive to having, um... gentlemen or lady callers. I would just get a futon (the Japanese kind) but there's nowhere to put it during the day, which basically brings me back to square one and isn't saving me any space. How do you maximize convenience when you have an apartment the size of a coffin and a bed the size of a crib and you're an adult?

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posted about 18 hours ago on metafilter
I am in charge of making dessert for an informal lunch for 50-60 people this weekend. I'm looking for delicious dessert recipes that are ideally not too labor-intensive. I am abroad and don't have access to boxed cake mixes, but otherwise have most normal ingredients (except peanut butter and blueberries). If it's something I can make the day before, even better! Thanks for your recipes.

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posted about 19 hours ago on metafilter
On The Beautiful and Tragic Weirdness of Sonic Adventure

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posted about 20 hours ago on metafilter
"The world authorities have run out of ammunition as rates remain stuck at zero. They have no margin for error as economy falters" (Telegraph) - HSBC chief global economist Steven King (not that one): "The world economy's titanic problem" (CNN Money's summary) - China's slowed growth could tip the balance - King recommends international co-ordination to combat global deflation

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I don't know if this is a life stage thing or a terrible personality flaw or what, but I find myself feeling contemptuous of others' relationships, even though it's 100% none of my business. I want to stop this.My question is similar to this one, except it's more specific to my judgments of others' relationships. For example, for a long time I felt very judgey of my in-law's new marriage (which started from an affair that reeks of classic midlife crisis). After this event, I started to realize that I felt negatively not only towards my stepmother-in-law, but also towards the relationships of many friends and even acquaintances. I feel especially contemptuous when the relationships are relatively new. I don't have issues with others' longstanding relationships (e.g. relationships that existed before I met the acquaintance). For example, when my best friend began her new relationship, I was pretty ho-hum about it. I didn't say much, since I knew it wasn't my business, but I didn't feel particularly happy for her, and also felt disappointment and contempt towards the new relationship, even though I knew the guy she was dating and knew he was a good person. These feelings roughly, but do not always, correlate with whether I think the relationship itself is a good match or not (which is, again none of my business). In the above example, I knew that my friend was getting into a relationship simply because she didn't want to be alone in grad school, and that the match itself wasn't ideal (it ended up not working out for the reasons I predicted earlier, as confirmed by my friend). Another example: when my roommate got into a new relationship, I also felt similar antipathy towards the whole thing-- I was vaguely glad that she was happy in the moment, but I also felt uneasy about her relationship because I sensed that the guy didn't take her seriously and she entered the relationship because she felt very insecure about herself. (She later confirmed this to me herself, so I wasn't totally off on that, either.) I don't experience the same antipathy towards relationships of more distant friends, although sometimes I do wonder, "what could their connection possibly be?" I wish I didn't have to feel so negatively about others' relationships; it's a waste of energy and I feel like an awful person for having these judgments. I wish I could be neutral or apathetic towards others' relationships, but I'm not. I am not sure where these judginess is coming from; I don't think I'm prone to jealousy, and I'm not threatened by any of these relationships. For what it's worth, I'm in my own very happy, loving and stable relationship of nearly 10 years. I have loner tendencies, constantly feel like an observer, and suffer from bouts of existential loneliness. I am also very personable, sensitive, accommodating, caring. I don't think people know that I have these thoughts since I keep them to myself. I think I am pretty good at reading people and understanding their motives; my friends frequently reach out to me when they want relationship advice or to sort out their feelings on something. Although intellectually I understand that I will never truly know another person's reality, and thus I should refrain from judgement, I am obviously super judgey. One hypothesis I can offer is that it might be possible that I think that my feelings about other people and social situations are "always right" (because, well, I have a pretty good track record of being "right" about these things) so it's "okay" for me to make these judgments, but it's really not. I want to stop being like this. Thanks for your help!

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posted about 20 hours ago on metafilter
I want to do some computer learning/practicing/programming. I'd prefer to do so away from the distractions of home. I'd like some place with good views, minimal distractions, all in the San Diego area. A Zen garden with WIFI would be the ideal place. Starbucks is too busy, and the local library is also. Any suggestions?

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posted about 21 hours ago on metafilter
"For those who love books, but don't have enough time for reading. Here are the best books you can read in under an hour each." 24 books to read in under an hour (infographic) by Piotr Kowalczyk at Ebook Friendly. (via Electric Literature) Previously: What to read when pressed for time

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posted about 22 hours ago on metafilter
I'm looking for a sans-serif typeface that pairs well with Monotype's Bembo Book (specimen pages). Can you recommend one?

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posted about 23 hours ago on metafilter
I'm a Canadian who got a job in the US and is moving to New York. I need to open an account at an American bank. What's a good American bank? Any to avoid? Is there a difference or are they all the same? (Alas, for those tempted to say TD, it actually confers no advantages to those from Toronto OR the Dominion.)

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