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Where can I find Mongolian BBQ in NYC, or nearby to NYC? (By Mongolian BBQ, I mean pick your ingredients, cooked on a big flat grill, all you can eat.)

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After the scandal that came out in the aftermath of the Sochi Winter Games, where it was revealed that the Russian anti-doping agency had, under orders from the Russian government, engaged in egregious tampering of anti-doping testing, the World Anti-Doping Agency (WADA) had been deliberating on how to properly sanction Russia. Today, they announced their decision - for the next four years, including the next Summer and Winter Games and the next World Cup, Russia will be banned from competing in all major sporting competitions. (SLBBC) This ban is specifically targeting Russia - in the case of individual Russian athletes who can pass WADA testing, they will be allowed to compete under a neutral flag. For those interested in what acts the Russian government did to have WADA drop the hammer (including, most notibly, the use of a cutaway in a wall to transfer clean urine samples in what must be the most literal "glory hole" ever), Netflix has a documentary on the whole affair called Icarus.

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Imagine you are making a game. The game board is made up of 56 square tiles randomly drawn and placed in an 7x8 grid by each player in turn. Each tile represents a room and the grid is a house, and each tile has at least one door up to a maximum of four doors, one on each side. Tiles can be placed anywhere on the grid - they don't have to be played adjacent to a tile already on the grid. The goal is to place tiles so they lead to a specific spot of the grid's outside edge Is there some accessible way to use math to figure out what combination of doored cards is best for minimizing dead ends, or is this ridiculous and if I knew even the barest shred of math I would know not to ask such foolishness?Basically can math tell me that ten 4-doored cards, ten 3-doored cards, fifteen 2-doored cards with doors on opposing sides, and fifteen 2-doored cards with doors on intersecting edges, and six 1-doored cards (For example) would make the most navigable 7x8 grid? Or maybe this is old hat for gaming people and some lovely nerd somewhere has made a tool where you punch in your parameters and spits out an answer?

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I have a couple of stamp kits from Yellow Owl Workshop, and love them for card making and crafts. I would love to get more stamps like them (aesthetically) but it's been hard to find rubber stamps that fit the bill. Help me, MeFi!What I like about the Yellow Owl Workshop stamps is that they have a hand-drawn quality, the subjects are kind of whimsical and goofy, and they work well in a variety of colors and applications. They also don't look out of place with my messy handwriting and crafts. Most of the stamps and stamp kits I've seen are too refined, the artwork is either too cutesy whimsical (think scrap booking) or designed or wedding place cards. I want stamps that kids might like but also won't seem weird if I make a birthday card for fun loving adults. I would love to find more rubber stamps that have similar qualities. Especially if they have trains or other non-automobile transportation theme. (You know, for kids.) Thanks y'all!

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Search and recovery operations are ongoing after a volcanic eruption on White Island (also known as Whakaari) in New Zealand. Every burn unit in the country is at capacity treating the victims, who included tourists and guides visiting the normally uninhabited island. Authorities announced, then walked back, a criminal investigation.

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What are some good Birding tools for kids? Apps, instruments, books...My 10 year old son has been excited about birds lately. We have a big bird feeder that gets a good cross section of the birds here in Southern Illinois. My 10 year old has taken to writing down names and drawing in his notebook. I'd like to encourage this further by getting him some resources to help him along. He has an android tablet so Android apps would be cool. He loves books so if there are any good bird resources that might be palatable to a 10 year old that would be awesome. I was also looking at binoculars, but things seem very expensive. If anyone has any experience with things they know are quality and work on kids that would be awesome!

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Susan D'Agostino recently interviewd Barbara Liskov, looking back at her work as a computer scientist with a mathematics background, working in the late 1960s when computing power had outpaced the abilities of programmers. Her response was data abstraction (Medium), as used in the CLU programming language (Wikipedia) that she and her students at MIT developed between 1974 and 1975, when AI was in its infancy. The Architect of Modern Algorithms. Barbara Liskov pioneered the modern approach to writing code. She warns that the challenges facing computer science today can't be overcome with good design alone. (Quanta Magazine) Bonus links: Barbara Liskov, professor at MIT, presented an IT-history-based keynote at QCon, called "The Power of Abstraction", and Graham Lee has collected all documents referenced in the talk in his post (archived). In 2008, Liskov was the second woman to receive the Turing Award (Wikipedia), after Frances Elizabeth ("Fran") Allen (Wikipedia), who was recognized in 2006 for pioneering contributions to the theory and practice of optimizing compiler techniques that laid the foundation for modern optimizing compilers and automatic parallel execution.

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My demanding but usually(?) OK boss tends to accuse people of incompetence when she's feeling stressed. Specifically, she says things which are either highly personal and completely subjective or objectively untrue (e.g., accusing us of not doing things we have already done). Attempts to ask for details, or remind her that we are indeed doing X thing, are met with accusations of defensiveness and inability to take direction. Is there a way to handle this that makes me look both appropriately deferential and yet not a push-over? And preferably heads off the shouting?My current boss is a massive improvement over the people I have previously worked for, in that she is not generally outright racist/sexist/gross, respects our personal lives and PTO, and is an expert in her field. All this to say, I've spent most of my life working under people way worse than her, and am not prepared to quit in the (very) near future. She does however have a way of expressing stress and dissatisfaction that I find extremely hard to deal with. Particularly in moments of high tension (deadlines, interdepartmental conflicts, end-of-year closing), she corners one for a seemingly anodine discussion, then follows up with the real purpose of the interaction, which is an angry accusation that X projet is going off the rails (despite evidence and project reports to the contrary) or that the employee in question is underperforming, disengaged, hostile, not up to whatever task has been assigned. The general format is: BOSS: "OK so please send the report by tomorrow. By the way, how is the [chocolate teapot] project going?" ME: "Well I received quotes yesterday from three teapot designers, I think we should go with--" BOSS: "That's not what I'm asking. I can see on your face that you don't even know what I'm talking about. This is bad. You need to pull your act together because people are starting to wonder if you're even really getting anywhere on this." ME: "Oh. Well. I mean we're on track to deliver by the deadline and I just had a meeting with Cynthia to decide--" BOSS: "You need to stop being so defensive and listen to me. You don't get it. I am VERY concerned. There are a lot of problems here. You always do this. Do you know what I'm talking about?" ME: "Well to be honest...no...can you give an examp--?" BOSS: "You're completely in the background! I answered Bill's question about handles when YOU should have been there with the info! I can't do your job for you! Do you have any idea how unpleasant it is to have to do this?! You need to SHAPE UP." The opposite also happens: Boss will indeed try to jump in during a conversation to answer a question before I can respond. However, when I beat her to the punch, she also does not like it--this will be followed up, as it was today, with her shouting (and I do mean shouting) down the phone at me about how I "don't know how to have a a conversation, you're always cutting people off and getting nasty, do you have any idea how unpleasant that is!" (For the record, the rest of the time her only real performance complaint about me is that I'm too retiring and don't assert myself enough.) And so on and so on until you're dismissed to go stew back at your desk, none the wiser as to what actual, concrete shit has gone so terribly wrong. If you bring it up later when she's cooled down ("sooo about Tuesday, how can we avoid that?"), she brushes it off. I could maybe, maybe tolerate this in one-on-one meetings, but lately she is DOING IT IN FRONT OF MY COWORKERS, which is a whole other ball game. I'm not the only one it happens to, but whoever gets this treatment in the weekly staff meeting is shunned for 48 hours as the object of the boss's disfavor. Note that is is not occasioned by any concrete fuck-up one could point to (a missed deadline, an unhappy exec, a rejected proposal)--it's always about some nebulous source of general dissatisfaction. She walked out in the middle of my co-worker's un-thrilling but perfectly standard presentation the other week, saying as she shut the door, "this is incomprehensible crap and you need to work on it." We sat there stunned, and an intern told me later the incident stressed him out so much he didn't sleep that night, because HE had a presentation the following week. (Luckily for him it was cancelled.) Sometimes the basic elements of these critiques are legitimate, but they are consistently couched in such hostile, dismissive language that more than one person (again, myself included) has left these interviews convinced they're going to be fired. Or ready to quit, which at least one person has. I'm at my wits' end here. Meekly sitting there and taking it doesn't work--you're a milquetoast and are you even LISTENING to her? Saying you aren't sure what she's talking about is worse--can't you listen to criticism and stop being so arrogant? Offering ways to do it differently in the future is also a no-go--she's "not interested in excuses". Currently I just sort of sit there and go "alright", "okay", "I see", and immediately change the subject once she seems to have exhausted herself, but it's a suboptimal solution because I'm still letting myself sit there and be berated for things I either haven't done or which genuinely, really aren't that big a deal. I also have no clue how to effectively respond to this in front of the rest of the team without seeming either like a fool or wildly insubordinate. For the record, we are both cis women, my performance reviews are consistently good, other co-workers give positive feedback on work I deliver, I received a bonus for 2018 and expect (touch wood) to do so again. So if I truly am wildly incompetent she's got a funny way of showing it. I left my last position due to severe verbal and psychological abuse and, while that issue was also department-wide, I'm beginning to think I must be the problem here. Should I just start playing the Lotto? Thanks in advance.

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What media have you consumed that has made you feel better about body image in the context of unintentional weight loss, other people's reaction, and your own feelings about it?I have feelings about my body and body image, for which I am already in therapy. I have fluctuated almost 50 pounds downwards over time, in a mostly healthy way but almost entirely due to lack of appetite (and some exercise) caused by my currently-disabling mental health. I was reasonably happy about how I looked before, but do feel better now and have been getting more clothing that actually fits. So now, I get comments on how I look now with the implicit reference being before, e.g. "whatever you're doing is working" (after I explain why I cannot have gluten - luckily this part is over), "well, you look great!" (after explaining how I am not great - this from a good friend), etc. Because of this, even well-meaning compliments start to make me feel bad internally because I take them as having this implication. I've gotten these comments and had this reaction both when I was physically quite ill, and now when I am mentally unwell and physically quite good. As a bonus, I am a queer woman and have gender feelings about the way I'm perceived at various times. My usual reaction to the comments is some kind of eye roll and/or a chewing-out and/or a serious, emotional conversation, but the internal reaction to genuine compliments is problematic. So, what have you read/watched/listened to that has touched on this stuff? I've read and watched Shrill, and read various Roxanne Gay stuff, but it's pretty heavy. A warning for particularly difficult stuff would be appreciated, though please don't hesitate to recommend it anyway. Give me your best fodder for healthy fuck the patriarchy feelings.

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I got a good deal on a nice receiver and am trying to convert my home theater setup. I used to use a soundbar and kinda liked it. Now, however, I accidentally have an apartment with 4 ceiling surround-sound speakers, and want to still incorporate my soundbar. Should I buy an attenuator?I have two issues: 1) It might be nice to keep the soundbar involved. It saves me ~$100 buying new R+L speakers, and I'll still have it if I move away. The soundbar also powers a subwoofer (which has no other input), and has a further out for two satellites. So, bonus if I can keep soundbar involved. 2) But, R+L speaker-wire outputs from receiver are powered, and if they go into the soundbar R+L inputs, that will probably Be Bad. Can't put a powered output into another amplifier, right? There is an unpowered subwoofer out on the receiver, but no unpowered R+L. Should I try to buy an attenuator ("L-pad" or ?) to route Receiver_RL -> Soundbar_RL? What value attenuation is appropriate? Or should I just toss the soundbar+subwoofer, as things not worthy of my sophistication?

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What are effective structures / arrangements to set up a joint venture between a one-person design/development firm and a large company with the goal of developing and releasing a SaaS product?Some background: I'm a solo designer/developer and have created an early prototype of a B2B SaaS application intended for a niche market. A former colleague at a relatively large company is familiar with my experience and with the prototype and has expressed interest in turning the application into a joint venture between my one-person company and his company. In the case of a joint venture I could continue leading the design and development of the product, while the partnering company would provide content, marketing, and sales. I'm debating whether to pursue the joint venture or continue as the sole developer and am trying to think through joint venture options before coming to a final decision. My questions: - What are suggested arrangements for such a joint venture? - What are the possible incentive options (e.g., payment for development, royalty and/or licensing fees, on-going maintenance fees, etc.) - What pitfalls should I look out for as the "smaller" partner in the joint venture? - Can you share any suggestions or lessons learned from a similar experience?

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He smiles as he shows it to me. "At that time it was very easy to lie, because the Internet was not invented." So that first formal communication to Nintendo was a lie? "Yeah," he laughs, "of course." The Lie That Helped Build Nintendo by Joe Skrebels

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In 1965, [Gordon] Moore wrote that the number of components in a dense integrated circuit (i.e., transistors, resistors, diodes, or capacitors) had been doubling with every year of research, and he predicted that this would continue for another decade. Later on in 1975, he revised his prediction to the doubling occurring every two years. Today's animation comes to us from DataGrapha, and it compares the predictions of Moore's Law with data from actual computer chip innovations occurring between 1971 to 2019. Visualizing Moore's Law in Action (1971-2019) Moore's Law previously

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How can my daughter become a Radio City Rockette?I was talking to my 11-year-old daughter yesterday and she said, somewhat out of the blue, that she wants to become a Rockette. Um...OK...well, uh, let's go for it. Apparently she must have done some research on the topic because she claims there's a required height range, and she is projected by her pediatrician to be solidly within that range. Currently some "related" activities she does are dance, musical theater, and vocal lessons. I wouldn't say she does any of these things super intensely, as in pre-professional training intensity or as a competitive pursuit, but she does spend a lot of hours each week in some of these activities and has done many performances. More specifically, she's been doing musical theater for about four years and has been in over a dozen productions. She has a lot of passion for dance in particular. She dances about 10 hours per week and does a wide variety of types of dance. Her favorite, and the one she's probably most advanced at, is tap, but she also likes jazz, hip hop, and others. She's not a big ballet fan. I wouldn't call her naturally athletic in the way one can see athleticism in a ball sport athlete, but she looks graceful and has what I would consider to be somewhat of a traditional ballerina presentation. So becoming a rockette doesn't seem like a totally crazy aspiration (emphasis on aspiration though of course). She's seen a huge amount of professional musical theater, so I think she has a pretty good sense for an 11-year-old of what happens on the stage during professional performances (but of course not all the preparation and backstage stuff). My parenting philosophy has been for her to have a broad range of experiences and to let her just enjoy doing what she's doing and not try to nudge her to get involved in any kind of competitive or professional dance or musical theater. I haven't seen any point in turning what she enjoys doing into such a pursuit since it seems unneeded and also risks taking the joy out of things and thus sapping her interest and enthusiasm. It could also over tax her body as well. However, she's at an age where she thinks a little bit more about what's next, so I don't think she'd be opposed to stepping up the training intensity level if she enjoys it and if it's part of the process of helping her reach a goal. Obviously it's not my own goal for her to specifically be a Rockette. However, if she wants to pursue an education and a career in that general area, such as musical theater, I'm fine with that. I want to support her in what she wants to pursue, and if she has fun pursuing this goal, then I think there's no harm in enjoying that journey regardless of what destination she arrives at. Needless to say, her education, in a broad sense rather than just a narrow academic sense, is very important to me, so I wouldn't be in favor of doing anything in this pursuit that is an unfavorable trade-off vis-a-vis her education. Based on what I've described, are there any suggestions you have for her to do anything beyond what she's already doing, whether it be about intensity, or types of activities or training, or types of teachers or people to try to work with, and anything else she should be thinking about or doing? In case it's relevant information, we are located in Southern California (where there is obviously a big pool of amazingly talented professionals who are potential teachers and mentors). Obviously I know everything in life these days is super competitive, and kids start specializing in things at a young age, so I'm under no illusion that she has much chance of actually becoming a Rockette. But that's not the point! The point is for her to follow her dream and enjoy and benefit from the process of doing so. Thank you.

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Every morning I go for a walk at a nearby estuary nature reserve. I pick up the rubbish that blows in or is washed up. This stuff is too dirty to recycle and at the moment the only place I can dispose of it is the municipal garbage. Is there a way I can bind this rubbish into bricks, or lump it together somehow so that even if it DOES end up as landfill, it at least won't spread around into the surrounding ecosystem again?I've already checked with the local organisations I can find, the people who regularly do cleanups of this kind, and they say "at the moment the best thing is to put it in the garbage, no other solution available". I can't wash this rubbish so it becomes recyclable - apart from time constraints, I live in Cape Town, South Africa, and water is a limited resource. I already mash my own clean, dry non-recyclable waste into ecobricks (ram everything into plastic bottles which hopefully gets used in building projects by the organisations that use ecobricks) but this stuff is extremely dirty and wet. As in, covered in sulfurous, greasy muck, so any ecobricking I do with it probably won't get accepted by the ecobrick people. What are my alternatives to just dumping this stuff in the garbage? Is there a substance I can use to bind it together, that is 1)not harmful in itself and won't break down over time 2) can be done without special equipment 3)hopefully not expensive? I'm thinking if this stuff is bound together somehow, at least all these freaky little tiny bits of plastic I'm picking up won't degrade into even smaller freaky bits of plastic and spread merrily about again. What I'm picking up is everything from plastic drink bottles (those I can re-purpose into ecobricks so not so much of a problem), polystyrene cups and containers, plastic and foil packets of all sizes, plastic bottle caps, and random tiny scraps and bits of plastic so worn down who knows what it used to be. (I already know that what I'm doing is futile and that the only answer is activism and getting legislative level change to force the people who produce the waste to not produce it, and to force them to help with cleaning it up so please don't try to discourage me from continuing to pick up the horrible stuff in our beautiful nature reserve, I'm going to go on doing it anyway.)

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I am already doing some various light exercises, but I would also like to add one, and only one, thing focused on balance. I am an uncoordinated and overweight woman in my upper 50s, in case that matters.

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My female colleague recently confronted my male colleague to see if he makes more than her and to chastise him for it.Not that I really need to take a side here, but I'm kind of baffled as to whether this is appropriate or not. I like both these people but I find this crosses the line into disrespectful work behaviour. While I agree that there should be pay equity in the workplace, I find directly confronting a colleague about it ro be crossing some kind of line to the point where it's not really about equity, it's just about an ego battle. This makes me quite uncomfortable because I don't want to appear anti-feminist. However, I just can't see myself trusting the judgment of someone who would do this. I was friends with this person but I'm thinking maybe I should have a strictly professional relationship going forward. Am I overreacting ?

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Hi all, is there an app or similar thing that would allow me to run a small library of sorts?Hi all, is there an app or similar thing that would allow me to run a small library of sorts? I have a collection of books related to my work as a therapist and clinical supervisor that I would like to give my supervisees and other colleagues access to, but I'd like to actually keep track of them somehow instead of just lending them out here and there. My hope is to find something where I could potentially scan the book with my phone and check it out to a person. The books were given to me by my mentor and I think she would love to see them used like this, but I want to figure out the best way to do that to preserve the collection. Some of them are expensive or difficult to find and it's a valuable collection in terms of the knowledge in it. Thanks for any ideas!

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I just moved into a new home and realized one of the trees has been sprinkled with a white powder. My initial thought was fungus but it looks deliberately sprinkled on the trunk base, plants, and even the fence nearby. It does not appear anywhere else in the yard. Could it be crematorium ashes of the previous owner? Any way to test if it's human cremains? [Detail pic]

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"Hi, welcome to Under a Rock with Tig Notaro. I'm Tig Notaro. I'm a comedian and I don't follow pop culture. I don't watch a lot of TV or movies. So I have a really hard time recognizing famous people. And on this show I interview famous people to try and figure out who they are. Please welcome... this person." Guests so far: James Van Der Beek Julie Bowen Wyclef Jean Melissa Joan Hart Wolfgang Puck Glenn Howerton Lena Headey Kaley Cuoco Rich Eisen Tony Shalhoub After his appearance on her show, Rich Eisen interviewed Tig on his show. Paste magazine's review: We Wanna Visit Under a Rock with Tig Notaro Every Week

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This is a question my teenage daughter asked, and it is driving me crazy because I can't find enough synonyms for what she means. Quite simply, if you use the words cold, warm and hot as the formula, what word represents the middle between light and heavy? Middleweight just seems so basic. The English language has words for so many things, but the concept of an in-between weight is something that escapes me... Any walking Thesauruses out there?

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A friend and I were looking at the group photo of NATO leaders at the recent London summit. My friend remarked that Queen Elizabeth II was being impinged upon by Boris Johnson's boorish manspreading, and she pointed to a guy on the far right of the front row as an example of how not to manspread. Since then, we've been trying to figure out who that guy is. I've searched for every NATO member country's leader and have come up empty. Who is that man on the far right of the front row?

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A review of 36 years of data on pods of killer whales in the Pacific Northwest has found that "grandmothers who were no longer able to reproduce had the biggest beneficial impact on the survival chances of their grand-offspring." Press release, paper. Previously.

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What OCR program to use on a PDF, to make it searchable, while retaining the format?I don't mind a reasonable subscription fee if that is what it takes, no-fee preferred of course. This is for an Appeals Court filing, where the Record on Appeal needs to be searchable, but otherwise match the input PDF formatting. I have more than a thousand pages in PDF format. There are some JPEG exhibits included in there, and some of those images are of text documents. The First Department Court Clerk, said, "run the whole thing through OCR, if it's a JPEG exhibit and won't OCR, then don't worry about it, but do run OCR on the whole thing". I think the result they want is you can highlight letters and words, and I guess search for words and phrases in the resulting PDF format. Some attorneys deliberately mess with you, by printing and re-scanning their filings (maybe with a tiny tilt) to defeat searching. I need, as much as possible, to make the text searchable, this kind of filing is, after all, 100% 12 point Times New Roman, double spaced, so maybe not too impossible? I don't mind breaking it up into 50 page chunks, or whatever, but I don't want the program to choke on a JPEG that it can't resolve. Just pass that page through, and move on. A fast, idiot-proof OCR is what I need. Have a looming deadline, so no time to experiment.

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My sister is in her 20's and has been depressed her entire life. She's gone through pscyhologists, psychiatrists, inpatient treatment, shock therapy, etc without real benefit. Her emotions are extremely volatile and while she has some good days, they are few and far between. She'll ask me for help quite frequently, sometimes in anger and sometimes in tears, and I really don't know what to say anymore. Saying "it'll get better" for the thousandth time doesn't really mean much anymore.It doesn't help that I also have deep issues with depression; I only have so much energy in me to begin with.

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