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So, I set up a Zoom Meeting (ZM), and sent out the ZM (room) ID at that time. This went out to thousands of people. It now occurs to me that I need a Webinar to handle the likely number of attendees (my ZM license only allows 300, we may have over 500)....Given that the ZM ID is out there now so I can't change it to a new link/different room ID - how can I "force" people to a Webinar when they log into my ZM? Like, can I put the Webinar link somewhere that forces an attendee to go there? Am I screwed? Is there any way to do this? I am the owner of the account so have all the admin access. Thanks for your help.

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At one point earlier in the pandemic, with an earlier strain, there was a rule of thumb about contagion that you had to have x minutes of being in the same presence as a contagious person before you could get it. Has that rule of thumb remained available at all or been updated for strains/substrains such as Omicron and BA.4?

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My ~4 year old golden retriever is pretty good on walks but can be very obstinate if I choose a different route. We'll sometimes get to the end of the sidewalk and she'll refuse to move because I want to take a left and she wants to take the route she's used to. More worrisome this decision doesn't happen until she gets in the street and sits down refusing to move in the direction we're going. I've tried a number of methods to no avail. This is actually a safety problem when it involves stopping in the street.She's healthy, has no issues and enjoys walks. My biggest concern is of course when she's in the street, sits down and gives me the look of, "this is not the route." There's been other times, less frequently but increasing in frequency, where she gets distracted by a smell and decides to stop and sniff for -- way too long -- and refuse to move. I will let her wander and explore but sometimes it is a concern of safety and frankly I need her to be obedient in these situations. When she does things that are clear safety issues, like sit in the street, which is rare as she usually stops at the end of the sidewalk, I will literally have to grab her by the collar and drag her to get her moving. She'll eventually move if I tug hard and start walking but I don't want to hurt her or make her associate walks with something negative. When I say "tug hard" I mean it ends up dragging her for a bit and it doesn't happen every walk but if she's in the street I can't just let her sit there. Here's what I've tried: 1. One of those chest collar things so it doesn't tug at her neck. She doesn't like this as much and prefers a collar and leash. It also doesn't impact her behavior. I gave this about 6 weeks. 2. When appropriate, such as perhaps at the end of the sidewalk and when no one is around, I have dropped the leash and kept walking turn around, tell her to come then turn my back and keep walking. The idea being trying not to give her attention or coo her name, etc. She just sits there while I do this. 3. I tried treats to reward if she stops, then goes the direction I want to go. Sometimes combined with (2). This does not improve things. She'll come a little ways and then stop and sit again. Sometimes we'll go the direction she wants to go to get her walking, then I'll turn around and start walking the way I wanted to go and this sometimes works. I walk her about 12 miles a day total, split over 3 walks. So 5 miles in the morning before it gets warm, a couple miles after lunch if it isn't too warm, and 5 miles at night after it cools down. If she's tired or doesn't want to walk I can usually tell that behavior as she'll be half hearted walking out the door and stop at the end in the yard. To reiterate: I live in a quiet neighborhood and she knows the other walkers who are friendly and older, so there's no crowded city walks. She definitely knows exactly where we usually go and simply does not seem to want to deviate and sometimes can lead to dangerous situations. I can't or don't want the same monotonous walk 3 times a day, 5-7 days a week. If we pick a new route and do that then that will be her "new" route she won't deviate from, but really she needs to take my lead. I do not mind if she sniffs around poles or otherwise does normal dog exploration. She's a great dog and otherwise obedient and well-behaved. There's a neighborhood park we pass and she's basically Princess Di when she goes there and the 4-5 year olds swarm her (she loves it).

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The author of Thousand Year Old Vampire made something even weirder than that "Wow! What the fuck! If we're playing this at a table in person, we are faking being on the radio. Playing it in person is the fakiest way to play it. Damnnn."

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Years ago we used to play a dice game. We had a long, rectangular, felt-lined box that would sit on a tabletop, kind of like a home version of a craps table. It was just a piece of plywood with like 2x4s for rails with some green felt tacked on to fancy it up. I'd like to buy a similar box for some nostalgic birthday fun, but can't seem to find anything online. Does what I am describing make sense, and, if so, isn't there someone out there that will sell me one?

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I was given a foil shaver for my 16th birthday and it didn't work worth a damn. Ten years later I tried a more expensive model and it didn't work a lot better. I've spent the 25 years since trying to come to terms with needing a razor and the best solution I've found is shaving only twice a week. But now I have to shave every day. It looks like electric razors has advanced a bit maybe?I have tried every variation on a blade from 7 blade monstrosities to Merkur safety razors with a badger hair brush, even learned how to use a cuthroat razor. Tried every combination of blade, face prep, cream, etc etc etc. I still have shaving. I hate dealing with facial hair enough that I've considered laser hair removal, but it's pricey and a long way from guaranteeing I won't have to touch a razor again. My problem with blades is razor burn and ingrown hairs. Best case I'm raw for the next day or two. (Or poorly shaven. Or both.) I also get the best shave by far in the shower, which is a criminal waste of water. My beard is thick, coarse, curly, and tends to lie flat against the skin. Foil shavers always missed a ton. And if it missed it one day, it was too long to pick up the next day. I'd always have to use a blade anyway. Now a confluence of things mean I have to shave every day. I'd like something that works as well as electrics seem to in their advertisements, but a little more comfortable (and less water waste) than blades. Can I get that from an electric (if so, which one)? Or should I just stick with the blades and quit complaining? (I've read The Wirecutter's reviews, but they don't really compare electric against blades, just other electrics.) (And no, I can't grow a beard right now for the same reasons I have to shave every day.)

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I'm a mid-30s guy who wants to feel more stylish (not necessarily fashionable) but without breaking the bank or radically changing my overall style.I'm average height, I have shapely legs, short and not muscular arms, and a husky midsection I've always been very self-conscious about (but have recently decided to love my body the way it is and accept that it won't significantly change in the near future). I also hate shopping for clothes and picking out outfits so I pretty much wear the same thing every day, regardless of season: a button down shirt with the sleeves rolled up (gingham/check and tucked in when going to work, flannel/corduroy and untucked in a more casual context; sometimes I wear tshirts in summer but I get really worried about my gut being too prominent), belted black, gray, or navy jeans, and dark brown Clarks. Photos: https://ibb.co/PN4Q3Nb https://ibb.co/jZGfLBt https://ibb.co/6Y5YrFV https://ibb.co/kcr8V1H I'm alright with this but I want to feel cooler, more stylish, and more confident in my clothes. Sometimes I worry I'm starting to veer toward the classic dad look which I don't like. Plus I used to buy almost everything at Uniqlo but in recent years I've really struggled to find anything I like there. What I'm looking for: 1. Ideas for items of clothing, outerwear, or footwear that build on this basic framework but push it in a more attractive or creative direction. 2. Stores, brands, websites to look out for and tips for shopping there (I absolutely hate shopping for clothes and returning clothes that end up not fitting). Made to measure is great as long as we're not talking hundreds of dollars for a shirt. 3. Other adjustments to my look that may not currently be obvious to me. Please be nice. Problems: 1. I have a lot of trouble finding fashion inspiration because people I see on the street or in pictures who have the kind of style I'm looking for are almost always way skinnier than me and look way better. People whose style I like who aren't skinnier tend to dress more conservatively than I prefer. 2. Off the rack shirts are extremely hit or miss for me: larges are almost always too large, mediums are either just right or too tight. My neck is quite thick and my arms are too short to make this a reliable process. Also slim fit and the like never fit me so my shirts are always pretty boxy looking. 3. I've started buying most of my shirts made to measure through Indochino, but even there it's bizarrely hit or miss: if I order 5 shirts with the same set of measurements, I tend to look and feel good in one or two of them, mediocre in another two, and slightly uncomfortable in the last one. Also I want more casual shirts and their casual options are generally terrible. 4. I'm open to developing a more seasonal wardrobe but it's been so hard to assemble a satisfying week-to-week wardrobe that doing four versions of it seems almost intolerably difficult. But I'm open to being persuaded.

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We are an adventurous eating and cooking lacto-ovo family of four. We shop frequently at a Korean international market in the DC area (Lotte). We are not obsessed with "authenticity" but want to know more about flavors history/courses, meals.We already love making a variety of Vietnamese and Thai inspired meals and soups and several one pot meals involving Tteokbokki and variations. We make and love japchae. We also like using gojuchang, gojugaru, and ssamjang in various ways. Can you recommend a print (not website or Kindle) cookbook that might push our Korean cooking? Very interested in non kimchi pickling of veg.

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Hugo and Nebula Award winning writer Mary Robinette Kowal offers various writing tips on her TikTok such as why "Show, Don't Tell makes her cranky", "Show, Don't Tell, Part 2", "'Write What You Know' Isn't What You Think", and "How To Start Writing". She also has one of the most eloquent examples of Ask vs Guess Culture. She also has a cat that "talks" via pre-recorded sayings attached to buttons.

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Can you give me examples of songs where the lyrics reference what is happening in the music?I'm thinking of songs like: Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen -> "The fourth, the fifth, The minor fall, the major lift" -or- Regulate by Warren G -> "The rhythm is the bass and the bass is the treble." What other examples come to mind?

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While preparing to write a play based on Wallace Stegner's Pulitzer-winning novel Angle of Repose, Sands Hall learned that Stegner plagiarized from the writing of Mary Hallock Foote (who was also an accomplished illustrator.) Later, Hall wrote a play about the situation called Fair Use.

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The prompt answers to someone else's recent "weird thing my mother used to say" question has given me hope that Mefites might be able to answer a question that has gnawed at me for decades. Tired or nonplussed or just lost in thought, my mother would often say, "oy, oy Misheldye !" usually following it by, "the way he walked, you'd think he was a gawk." She was never able to explain where the phrase originated.If I asked her she'd say, "I don't know; My Uncle Eddie used to say it." That dates it to ca 1930 on western Long Island. Flash forward to about 1967 and my brother overheard one of his high school teachers use it in conversation with another teacher. So I know the phrase is not restricted to my own family. Spelling on "Misheldye" is 100% guesswork, of course. Has anyone else heard this? Can you shine some light on its origin? Was it from a radio show or comic strip? A popular movie? Some other faddish catch phrase? I have Googled every part of this sentence without turning up a single reference.

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Ed Simon of Belt Magazine: The Rise of Pennsylvania's Everyday Left — Candidates like John Fetterman and Summer Lee are charting a more progressive future for Democrats Conventional pundits have focused largely on Fetterman's appearance when trying to explain his success. Wallace implied that it was the unconventionality of Fetterman that would turn off the mythic moderate voters of the Keystone State, that they couldn't abide the tattoos and the gym shorts, as if the election of Donald Trump hadn't demonstrated that none of the rules which the DC class hold sacrosanct regarding propriety, appearance, or language weren't defunct. David A. Graham writes in The Atlantic that "Fetterman looks like he was hacked together from spare parts in an oil-streaked Pittsburgh chopper garage," which is funny, but only part of the reason for the candidate's surprising success. The article does an adequate job of explaining the psychic differences between Fetterman and his opponent, Representative Connor Lamb, the moderate former prosecutor and veteran who seems like he was designed in a McKinsey laboratory. But Graham's too-clever-by-half conclusion regarding Fetterman's appeal, that his "success comes in part because many voters are attracted to candidates more by 'vibes' than by detailed policy platforms," does little to explain his broad support. The answer is actually much simpler: most Pennsylvania Democrats agree with Fetterman's policy positions—by a margin of more than thirty points, given the results of Tuesday's election. [...] In this respect, Fetterman is a welcome sign of things to come. Another comes from Pennsylvania's 12th Congressional District, where Summer Lee pulled out a historic victory in the primary, all but ensuring that she'll the first Black woman ever sent to Congress from Pennsylvania, joining recent left-wing stalwarts like Ilhan Omar, Ayanna Presley, and Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. Lee will replace the reliably Democratic (though annoyingly conservative) Mike Doyle, who held office in an otherwise reliably liberal district, another sign that the future of the Democrats is to the left, where they might actually win, and then when they do, where they might actually govern. [...] More than a decade ago, that Levi's ad intoned, "Maybe the world breaks on purpose, so that we can have work to do"—a sentiment of the early Obama years that's gauzy and mythopoeic. But after Trump, it would be foolish to believe that the world breaks just so we can keep our hands busy—it breaks because certain people and interests benefit from breaking it. What this new left rising from Western Pennsylvania suggests is that there might just be a type of elected official who not only notices that the world is broken, but wants to join with residents to build something new.

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I am female, in a relationship (unmarried), who recently turned 39 years old, and I am not sure if I should have children or not. Suddenly, being almost 40 years old I feel this pressure of not having any children - and torn whether I'm physically too old to handle a child in terms of energy; and also torn feeling like I'm still not mentally/emotionally ready for a child. Overall, there is a sense of not feeling strongly either way, but wondering in the end —whether might regret not having children.I know it's all a personal decision, no one can tell me what to do, because it's my life and my choice etc. etc. etc.— but I just feel like the question is so overwhelming and filled with pressure because of my fertility age. After looking on the internet for some answers, I decided to call a reproductive endocrinologist to see if I could get a consult. However, the patient liaison said on the phone that if I wasn't trying to conceive, I should first seek out my OBGYN and get some lab tests. For age 39 years old, if you are trying to conceive for six months and are having issues, come see them. And anyone who is 40 years old and trying for three months, should also then come see them. Else where I've read on the internet, that at 39 years old, I should definitely go see a reproductive endocrinologist and get a consult to see how I am doing physically/fertility-wise. I've already had my annual physical with my general internist (physician) this year where I got a lot of my baseline labs. And I've had my annual OBGYN physical with a nurse practitioner a couple of months ago. I'm kinda not so sure with meeting with the OBGYN practice again, since they never seemed to bring up my reproductive health even during my annual physical (and I've been seeing them for roughly 5 years). Seems to me now looking back, someone should have mentioned my overall reproductive health at some point. But I guess, for what it's worth, at least I have a general base line idea of my health at this point. Having suddenly realized my fertility age, and acknowledging that this is something I need to be educated on... I am just confused on where to go, and who to go, and what I should be asking. After trying to look at past questions here, I'm wondering for specific advice on: 1.) How I can find the right type of doctor to ask these questions? (i.e. should this be through my insurance? should I get a referral through my general practitioner? should I search for an OBGYN? Or head straight to a reproductive endocrinologist?) 2.) What kind of lab tests should I ask for? 3.) What kind of information do I need to know? Thanks so much in advance for any advice.

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The Annihilation of Florida: An Overlooked National Tragedy. Jeff VanderMeer: 'A state that had been among the wildest outside of Alaska or Montana asks its citizens to passively watch as the nonhuman world is liquidated...'

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item label is a revenge based company located in maryland. We created item label to show up and embarrass our enemies. Item Label are the creators of Peepy, Moley, Donuts, Sucklet, Homie, and the rest of the gang. Peepy has a posse

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My spouse and I (we are both queer) haven't had sex for a couple years. We talk about it occasionally, we both say that we want to want to have sex - but neither of us is particularly interested in making it happen right now. I guess my question is, are we doomed or can that be ok?Neither myself nor my spouse identifies as asexual; we both had high sex drives as teenagers. We met in our 20s, and used to have sex regularly (every time we saw each other at first, tapering off to a few times a week, then a few times a month, then dropping dramatically when one of us was pregnant and never recovering). We love each other very much; we get along well, we have good communication, and we are a good team. We are affectionate with each other, but in non-sexual ways (hugs, cuddles, sometimes a little kissing, never making out or anything overtly sexual). Overall, our relationship is good, but life generally is stressful. We have young children and we don't have much time to ourselves, either individually or as a couple. It's possible that this is temporary, but it's been several years now. I masturbate regularly, my spouse does not. I definitely want to want to have sex, but I just don't really have the energy to actually want to have sex, and i definitely don't have the energy/desire to initiate it. My spouse says that they feel the same way, and I believe them. At the moment, neither of us is at all interested in an open relationship, and I think that's unlikely to change. We are both on SSRIs which may be contributing to the lack of sex drive, though I've been on SSRIs since before we met (my spouse has been on them for a few years, I don't remember when they started relative to the lack of sex). My spouse seems to be very much still attracted to me; I am still attracted to my spouse but not quite as much so as I was when we met, in part because of changes to their gender presentation. I guess my worry is that since neither of us is asexual, some day this is going to blow up somehow - that one of us will meet someone and desire them and cheat or something. Is it possible for two allosexual people to be in a happily low or no sex relationship? Do we need to work to make sex part of our relationship again?

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Christian Cooper who was bird-watching in Central Park in 2020 when Karen Amy Cooper (no relation) saw him and called 911 frantically reporting that "an African-American man is threatening me and my dog," now has his own show on National Geographic called "Extraordinary Birder" George Floyd was murdered by Minneapolis police later that day.

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For the life of me, I have never heard this phrase anywhere else. Just going phonetical here, but "Has your sufficiency been suphonsiphied? (Just guessing on the ph instead of f thing) I guess that meant kind of meant "have you had enough to eat?" or, "Have you had enough?" She was from Winnipeg. late of a farm from Lundar, with people in Gimli. Anyone else heard this?

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Is there an inexpensive music player device (think: $35 iPod) that will let me create a playlist (maybe 24 hours' worth of MP3 files), connect it to a power source and an amp, and play that playlist forever? I know I could do it with a phone; I'm looking for something else (maybe that uses less power and isn't WiFi or cellular enabled).This would be for playing ambient sound that is always on. I have two use cases in my head: 1) enrichment for captive animals, and 2) a daily sound cycle to give a human (e.g. me) a sense of the passage of time and/or mood modification.

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What is it like to be a teenager right now?At this point in my life, I know and interact with very few humans under the age of 30—let alone 20. My sense is that the lives of teens now are radically different from my own teen years in the early 2000s, and sociologists, cognitive scientists, and techno-futurists all outline the huge chasm opening up between older generations and young people—a gap that's bigger than the typical "teens are like a different species!" stuff. Exponential tech, exponential climate change, etc., are all seeming to accelerate these differences. So, tell me about your life as a teen, or about the teens in your life. How are you/they handling the turmoil of our times, and all this dang technology? What are the biggest differences that you see between your life and those who are older/younger? Or any other relevant anecdotes or perspectives. If possible, I'd love to know what country or geographical area you're in, too.

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Suggestions for microphone suitable for a deep voice that may end up in zoom interviews, podcasts, or audiobooks. With thanks to all.

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I cannot even begin how to work this conundrum, please help me with a testing plan for sample distribution with a minimum of participants.I am working on a plan for product testing. Everything was all fine and good, we had 6 products and 60 participants, and an incomplete block design where each participant tested 3 products and each product had a total of 30 participants testing them. We even had a plan drawn up grouping the products into bundles of 3 products so that the products were evenly distributed (i.e., no two products were grouped together more often than others). Well, there was a client meeting this morning and now we have 7 products to test. Preferably the same number of participants, as that was what we'd budgeted and been approved for. Here is my question: what is the minimum number of participants I can have testing these 7 products and still have 30 participants test each one in an incomplete block design? Preferably we would still have all participants testing only 3 products, not some testing 4 and some testing 3. I was not the one who came up with the original design and that person has left for the weekend already. I need an answer so I can send in a recruitment request by the end of today. Help!

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The plot/ a plot involves a small-town/rural wife running off and having an affair and being forced to return to her husband for reasons I cannot recall. The scene in particular is her arriving home to what is maybe a farmhouse setting, devastated, while the husband quietly, and without seeming judgment, unpacks her suitcase. Is this something really obvious? I want to say this is 1930s/1940s time-wise, but I'm not sure the film/movie whatever was actually made in the 1930s/1940s. Ringing any bells for you?

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Her baseball journey has just begun. Stay tuned [MLB.com] Kelsie Whitmore makes history [MLB.com] Stats Twitter

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