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How hard is it, really, to do your own newborn photography for baby announcements?I'm 32 weeks pregnant, and have been contacting a number of photographers for a newborn portrait session, haven't heard back from anyone yet. At (8) weeks away from my due date and still nothing booked, I am seriously wondering whether I've already missed my window for finding a professional photographer whose portfolios of baby portraits I like, and offers a relatively affordable package for my needs - a handful of digital photos to put in a baby announcement. I would be perfectly happy having the baby announcement done by them too if possible. I've been using google to find photographers who do babies, and there are a ton in my city, but most are pretty darn expensive, outright saying they expect new parents to spend a minimum of $1000-$1500 on the sitting fees and selection of photographs... I don't want to spend that, I don't need a wedding album's worth of professionally shot newborn photos, I just want some professional shots in a certain style for a baby announcement card -- husband in his firefighter gear with baby in costume as well. But I'm not going to the opposite end of the spectrum and do Sears or Walmart, they don't do a good enough job - I don't like the way they look. I'd rather do it myself if it comes to that. I am a decent photographer, with a good dSLR camera and tripod, would likely be happy with my own work - just don't know if I'd have the energy to do this and do the post-work touchups done in timely fashion. My mother is better than I am, she teaches high school art, photography and digital art (photoshop). I just don't know whether I can count on her to come take photos and do the finishing work and announcement cards for me in a decent timeframe - she can be a terrible procrastinator. But maybe if I plan for it, I can do it if need be. I'm just wondering, if it comes down to it, how hard is it to do newborn photography? Did you do your own? What tips/tricks can you offer? (On preview, did find this post but it's very old.) Or am I crazy for thinking it might be at all possible to pull this portrait session off myself while postpartum?

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Jack Monroe on being the face of austerity cooking, mental health, & coming out as transgender. Jack Monroe on the Blue, previously.

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There are dozens of UK shave clubs out there, with nobody seeming to have clambered to the top. Anybody have any recommendations?For reference: I normally use the latest Gillette safety razor at the time of purchase (currently on the Proglide Flexball). I shave quickly and hurriedly in the morning, so a 'proper' razor is out unless I want a death of a thousand cuts. I'm also fairly hirsute, so to be clean-shaven I need to shave every day. (In practice I tend to shave about 4-6 times a week as I'm running late). Not that fussed about anything other than razors.

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2012 infinity. Got lug nuts off, but tire won't budge. How do I get the tire off?

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I have a date tonight in NYC. I want to look dapper as hell. Please help a non-New-Yorker figure out how to make this happen a) today and b) ideally on the cheap.This is more or less the look I'm going for. Assume I'm starting from scratch. Where should I shop? I'm roughly the same body type as the person in the photo, though perhaps a bit more hourglassy.

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I have seen text written for differently-abled kids with a very low level of reading ability, where each word had a symbol over it. For example, "good" might have a thumbs-up or a smiley face over it; "see" might have an eye with an arrow, or something. I've searched but google is failing me. Does anyone know of any online facility to generate text like this?Reason being, I want to write a letter to a friend - I know that his carer will read it to him, but I'd love there to be bits of it that he can read or understand himself.

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My dad died. I have so much to do in the aftermath of his passing... but I just don't want to do anything. I've always been a procrastinator, but never to this degree. Please help me come up with a game plan.My dad died last week after a 7 month battle with cancer. I moved back home to be with him and was there with him through 7 months of chemo, radiation, his final illness and his passing. I'm actually ok - crying a few times a day, but overall feeling sort of blah - not happy, not sad, randomly forgetful and making lots of stupid mistakes. Dad's last few weeks were immensely hard and physically and emotionally exhausting for us as well as for him. Now that it's over, it's hard to believe I don't have to worry anymore or be constantly prepared for a crisis. I feel pretty empty, grateful dad isn't suffering anymore but also depressed that he isn't here for a hug or a joke or an in-depth discussion about Game of Thrones. I also feel intensely hungry and lazy. I am finding the amount of stuff I have to do now that my dad has passed to be overwhelming. I need a game plan - how to get stuff done when I am clearly not functioning properly. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and how did you manage to snap out of it and start being productive again? Apart from the lesser admin, my main task is deciding what to do with dad's place and his stuff, and the thought of losing his home feels almost like losing him a second time. Financially, I can't really stay in it. I have to either sell it or rent it out. I have to decide what I'll do with all his things. Getting rid of his lovingly collected library feels like another betrayal, but I just don't know where I am going to keep his hundreds of books. I also have to deal with inevitable family fallout as my dad's will has some instructions in it which are pissing certain members of my family off. I have come under a lot of pressure to revert those decisions or otherwise go against my dad's wishes. I will NOT, but I am extremely non-confrontational, AND I feel I am not firing on all cylinders since my dad left us, so it's very hard to deal with pushy relatives putting me under pressure. They seem to expect me to be fully functional and keep asking me about my plans and if I've done this yet or that yet - they don't seem to understand that while they've lost a distant relative that they saw once a year, I've lost my DAD. My dad would be the first person to tell me to pull my finger out and get cracking. I know I need to DO stuff - deal with relatives, deal with the house - but I just find it so difficult. I don't want to do anything except sit in his armchair and noodle around on the internet.

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>lookDarkness moves differently underground.>exit is a dark, uneasy story by Jessica Hayworth, told in text adventure format and illustration. (* Contains a reference to suicide by jumping in front of a train.)

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A few months ago I took a new job in a new field for me. Because I can't cope with my boss and her management style, I have decided to give notice tomorrow. I cannot stay, but the thought of actually telling her tomorrow that I am resigning, and then having to ride out the next two weeks in the office, has me breaking out in a cold sweat even now. How do I do this?Two additional complications: 1) my boss states that I have been doing a great job and seems to be thrilled with my performance, and 2) this coming Friday we are launching a big project that I have been working on since I came aboard. These factors, plus the other issues I have with her management, are making me so wary of tomorrow that I have been feeling sick all day. As you might have gathered, I am a conflict averse and anxious person. In previous jobs, these personality traits have not been a problem - I have found it easy to get along with both peers and superiors, and I have never had any problems in any workplace. With my current job, however, my anxiety is through the roof. I find myself coughing nearly to the point of throwing up. I am crying in the mornings, going off to quietly cry in the bathrooms, and, most embarrassingly, could not prevent myself from crying in front of my co-workers last week. I have been meditating and exercising, and I have seen my doctor to up my anti-depressants, but these have not not improved anything. I work in a small office, with 2 co-workers and my boss, who is in and out. We had another person working remotely, her last day was this past Friday. My co-workers are very sympathetic - they were shielded from much direct interaction with the boss by our former co-worker, but also have some similar experiences and are stressed out, but not to the degree that I am. My jobs is to supervise several small businesses that my boss owns. Each is failing and struggling in its own way, including one she launched a few weeks ago, and one we will launch this coming Friday. She wants each business to be my top priority, and she wants them all to be either opened or revamped simultaneously. However, she does not communicate what she has planned or what she wants, but is then frustrated when no business is moving forward in the direction she desires. One of the ways in which her frustration manifests itself is to then throw up an arbitrary deadline that we then scramble to meet in a half-assed fashion. This leads to further frustration on her part and more arbitrary deadlines. It also leads to 12+ hour days and working on weekends. All of this is also very stressful for her, I don't doubt, but the stress manifests itself in her shouting or barking at me, telling me that I should "know everything," and not letting me complete a sentence when I am trying to update her on progress in any area. Instead, she interrupts me and starts to shout about lack of communication or how incompetent people are. Most of this is not directed at me personally, but at the individual business managers, but I am now at the point were I dread giving her updates or status reports. When I speak with a business manager about a situation and work with them to have achieve a resolution, I am wary about reporting on the situation, because more likely then not she will interrupt me halfway through, call the manager herself and start shouting at them for minutes at a time. Then, her bile seemingly spent, she will end the phone call on an upbeat note, while I am wishing myself to the bottom of the ocean. Not surprisingly, there is a lot of turnover at the businesses she owns. Yesterday I had a 13-hour day supporting a pre-launch event ahead of opening day for one of new businesses. She was very pleased with how it went, and kept telling me how I was "a rock" through this whole process and how grateful she was for the work that I have been doing. But these feelings of gratitude did not stop her from snapping at me and talking to me like a dog when issues that I have been asking about for weeks arose again right before the event. At that point, she finally gave me the information I needed so I could address and resolve the problem. Then afterwards she was grateful and effusive in her thanks, but I don't need thanks, I just need a boss who can act professionally and provide leadership at all times, not just when she is in a good mood. I have "coaching" meetings with my boss' spouse, where I am told I need to "manage up" and praise my boss when she does not fly off the handle. That is not a skill that I have, and one I don't think I can manage to learn in this environment, when I feel like I am working with an angry chaos bomb. I really feel like this job would be a great opportunity for a better, stronger person who could distance themselves from this chaos emotionally and not take it so personally. I have been trying so hard to make myself into that better person. But all I do is wake up in the middle of the night with endless to-do lists in my head and cry a lot. I have lost 10+ pounds since I began here because I am too busy and too nervous to eat. I feel disgusted with myself that I am squandering this chance, but I cannot continue like this. Since I can go back to my previous work without much problem, that is what I plan to do. But all of the above makes me dread announcing that I am leaving. When my former co-worker, whose last day was this past Friday, announced she was leaving, the reaction of my boss and her spouse was not good, and there were a lot of uncomfortable meetings and lunches about this person choosing to leave and what a terrible betrayal this is. This despite the fact that my co-worker gave several weeks notice. How do I gird my loins to weather this kind of behavior? Especially with this new business launching soon, my boss will take this very personally and she will view it as coming from out of the blue. I just want to blame my departure on this position not being a good fit for me, but I fear she will want to drill down on my specific reasons for leaving, and I don't want to get into either her behavior or my extreme reactions to it. How do I exit as gracefully as possible with what remains for my nerves intact?

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My bedroom is roughly 12' x 10', pictured here. There are only 2 50W bullet lights, kind of like these and pictured as circles on the diagram, and there is no electrical box in the ceiling and no way to install anything else (rental, thick concrete walls and ceilings, asbestos). It is dim AF. Please help.I have a Magnarp floor lamp next to my bed which is nice for ambiance. The vast majority of time, dim mood lighting is fine. But occasionally I'd like actual light to clean or read or do projects, and these 50W bullets aren't cutting it. All the wall sconces I've seen are pretty ugly. Cords are right out, so I want something that will fit into the current electrical boxes. Suggestions? My bedroom is minimalist and Asian, so I don't want to replace the Magnarp with some industrial 3-light jobbie. The current bullet sconces are, at least, unobtrusive. Lighting designers of MeFi, I thank you!

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I'm interested in becoming an Amazon merchant that uses order fulfillment processing by Amazon, but I have some questions about how to make it profitable.I have about $10k to invest and was thinking about becoming an Amazon merchant. I want to use the fulfillment by Amazon service as I have no warehouse space, but I'm having trouble making the numbers work so that it's profitable. By the time I add up all of the fees for the products that I've pretend sourced from potential wholesalers so far, I always seem to arrive at a sales price that is significantly higher than what competitors are offering the product for on Amazon. So what are the potential competitors doing differently to be able to offer a lower price for the product? Is it just economies of scale and sourcing directly from the manufacturer instead of the wholesaler? And would it still be possible for a small fish like me to compete successfully in the marketplace if I have just a few products listed for sale? Are there any good online resources available about how this is done in 2016? Thanks in advance for your insights.

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Is there any way to get an RSS feed for the German language 'Topthemen' ("Top Topics") that the wire-service AFP publishes on their website?I've found that these short articles with simple vocabulary and grammar are pretty good for my German, so I'd like to add them as an RSS feed to my reader to keep me in the daily habit of reading a little German. I've seen that AFP shut down their own RSS feed close to ten years ago, so I'm not expecting much, but it would be great if anyone knows any German newspaper that offers a straight feed of the AFP. Ideally it would preserve the original headlines and text as it comes from the wire service, and ideally it would only show the top ten stories or so per day (i.e. the 'Topthemen'), but beggars can't be choosers. I see, for example, that Yahoo publishes all the German-language AFP articles (e.g. this one from today), but I don't see a way to get any RSS feed, let alone an RSS feed of just the AFP. Any help appreciated!

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This is doing quite well on the SE side of my house in Northern Virginia. Some are over 6ft/2m tall. What is it?

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At the top of the world a climate disaster is unfolding that will impact the lives of more than 1 billion people.

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I'm anti Facebook for all of the normal reasons: ethics, privacy, security, waste of time, as well as some special snowflake reasons below. But I like social media (hence, my MetaFilter membership). I'm feeling the FB pressure and have had a couple of specific "Damn, I wish I were on FB events" happen recently. But Facebook has been, and remains a really bad idea, right?Snowflakes: Ten years ago, most of my close friends would have agreed with me: corporate-controlled social media with no privacy protections is bad and should be avoided for ethical, privacy, security and financial reasons. I am not anti social media: my close friends and I have run mailman mailing list since 2000. It was really great in 2000 but since 2010 or so... it's been dying. And now, ~16 years later, they are all on the FB. In terms of peer pressure: a few years ago my friends made a fake FB account for me with a fake name but using an email address I control. Hahaha! It's been unused since though I still get the bounced email messages. The number of phone conversations I've had that start "Oh, right, you aren't on FB so you probably don't know ____" has reached amusing levels. I feel like one of Teh Olds: to me, FB is really creepy: friends of friends often know more about my relatives than I do. One of my inlaws is one of those "live blog my life" Facebook people so any time he comes to visit, I imagine the entire thing is documented (and I've had friends randomly confirm this, like "nice new couch!" or similar). Snowden help me! From what I've written so far, it's clear: not being on FB is the right choice for me, clearly. But recently, some events have happened that make me wonder: * my niece was in an accident and I only heard about it because her mom posted on FB while I happened to be chatting on the phone with my buddy who is also on FB. Yes, I probably would have heard about it eventually, but it seems like for many people, FB = first responder 911 now. * I completely missed my high school reunion because the school can't find me (in spite of me being the first hit if you google FirstName LastName) and I talked on the telephone with a classmate and felt pretty sad about missing it and just realizing that she has connections with some high school friends from that time that I don't. Additional snowflakes: * Our family had a prior stalking experience (both cyber and IRL) after which we decided that public social media account for us were not a good idea. Last problem was 5 years ago. Maybe it's OK now? * I'm a teacher, and really don't feel it's appropriate to have social media contacts with students. Can I not do that or am I going to have to decline invites from 100+ students a semester? * Next time I re-enter the USA, and they demand my Facebook papers I mean passwords, and I say "I don't have a facebooky" - will I get jailed and beaten, or just jailed, or just beaten? * Suppose I created an account. After doing that, is there any way out? I'm really interested in the MetaFilter member's view of Facebook - has it enhanced or hurt your life? Would you do it again? If you didn't have an account now, would you start one now? If you maintain multiple social spheres (work, school, tech-savvy friends, luddite relatives...) how do you manage it?

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I live on the east coast and it's been very hot. I am worried about my cat in this heat - being covered in fur must suck right now. How can I help him be more comfortable?He has water bowls in two spots in the apartment that I keep refreshing and I've been putting ice cubes in from time to time which he seems to like. I brushed him this morning to get extra hair off of him. He's about five years old and he's in good health but the heat has made him (understandably) pretty quiet and uninclined to run around and play the way he would normally. He spends most of his day in my bedroom, who is where the AC unit is located and is thus the coolest room in my apartment. Is there anything I can do to make him more comfortable? I'd give him a bath if it didn't mean getting my limbs sliced up and bitten... I just worry. He's my little buddy and he looks so miserable in this heat. Any suggestions would be very welcome. Thanks!

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For the past month or so, I've had a range of different sore spots on my tongue, that feel like little cuts or raw patches. I'll have a sore spot for a few days in one spot (e.g. back left side of my tongue), all will be well for a few days, and then a few days or a week later I'll have another sore spot in a different location. What gives?Always on the edges of my tongue, never on the top plane. So far, it's been back left of my tongue, back right, the under-tongue frenulum, and (now) the tip of my tongue). No bumps, no sores, nothing herpetic or canker sore-esque that I can tell. These are not extremely painful but I definitely feel them when I talk. What gives? I don't smoke/chew anything noxious, am a vegetarian, I do think I clench my teeth when I sleep. Vitamin deficiencies?

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Female, 33, white. The last 5-6 times I've washed my hair it seems like there's an unusually large amount of hair coming out when I wash it, and when I brush it while blow-drying it afterward. Details, possibly relevant info, below.My hair (dirty blond, very straight) is such that I only typically need to wash it on weekends. I use shampoo, no conditioner, and blow it dry. The last 5 or so times I've washed it, there has definitely been more hair coming out while washing, while brushing it afterward, and while drying it. It also seems like I'm finding more hairs on me during the day (though now I'm super paranoid so this could just be confirmation bias). My main questions are how do I tell if I'm actually actively losing my hair, and what do I do about it? I have decent health insurance and my plan doesn't require me to have a referral to a specialist if I need to go see someone. (If so, what type of doctor?) Possibly relevant information: 1) I've been growing my hair out for the last year and a half or so. I always used to wear it short (chin-length in front, cut high in the back) but I haven't cut it since January of 2015. It's now long enough that when I push it behind my shoulders, it will generally stay there. So it's possible that I'm just not used to seeing so much hair in my brush because I was accustomed to short hair for so long (it hasn't been this long in at least ten years) but it definitely feels like there was a sudden jump in the amount of hair in my brush. 2) I haven't changed my shampoo for the last couple years (Herbal Essences Honey I'm Strong). No conditioner, no hair gel or spray or any other product. The last two times I've washed my hair I've used Neutrogena T/Gel dandruff shampoo (which I usually use maybe once every other month) because it seems like my scalp flakiness has been extra bad recently. 3) Speaking of flakiness, I've been having an issue with seriously dry skin on and off over the last year +. I have been meaning to go to a dermatologist about it. I've had very mild scalp flakiness for as long as I can remember but it definitely is considerably worse lately, and it does seem to roughly coincide with when I started noticing extra hair coming out. 4) Because of my longer hair, I've started wearing it in a ponytail or a claw-style hair clip 2-3 days a week. 5) I do blowdry my hair when I wash it. Now that it's longer I think I need to learn how to properly blowdry long hair, I used to be able to just run the brush through it several times while aiming the hairdryer at it on high, and it took about five minutes. I think I probably need a diffuser, and to spend some time on youtube looking up "how to blowdry long hair". I've been blowdrying my hair for at least two years so this is not a new development. 6) I was going to say I haven't been under any unusual stress or anything lately but that's kind of not true. I recently had a terrible bout of Irritable Bowel Syndrome that caused me to be really depressed and miss a fair amount of work. I basically ate nothing but rice and cereal for a month and am only now slowly getting back into my normal patterns of eating. So maybe I'm missing some essential vitamin or something? (I've barely eaten a vegetable for six weeks, it's no good.) After washing it tonight (only dried it a little this time, will mostly let it dry on its own), I suddenly went from "huh, that's weird" to "omfg I'm losing my hair what the hell do I do PANIC". I honestly haven't googled it because I'm one of those people who gets convinced I have cancer every time I look up something that might be wrong with me. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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My wife and I are in the process of buying an apartment on the upper west side in Manhattan and would like to have it painted just after we close (in a couple weeks) and before we move in. Neither of us have ever hired painters before - she's painted herself, and I've just never painted. Some help would be welcome!A couple questions: (1) The place is about 1000 square feet, 2 bedroom 2 bath. What should we expect to pay? And do we buy the paint ourselves and just pay for labor or do we do everything through the painters? (2) About how long will the job take? We're thinking a few days, but is that right? And will we be able to schedule it in advance to occur pretty precisely after our closing? (3) Very open to recommendations for painters who work in the area. Anyone you've used and can recommend, we'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

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My former landlord is past due on returning my security deposit. I reminded her after the legal deadline and told her to get it to me in the next week. Now the week is past and I have questions about suing her in small claims court. Several questions inside.I texted her this morning and told her that I would be filing suit tomorrow. She (predictably) told me the check is in the mail. I told her I'll believe it when I see it and that I would be open to settling if she pays me what she owes me. She has a long history of trying to avoid financial obligations and was generally a terrible landlord (a precipitating factor in moving was that she claimed she would make repairs after a heater exploded above my ceiling and left several large cracks, then gave me the runaround for months), so I'm not disposed to give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm pretty sure she was trying to screw me on this. I am pretty shy and she repeatedly took advantage of the fact that I was unwilling to rock the boat as a tenant, so she probably thought I would be unwilling to sue. She's said via text that she planned to pay me the full amount, so there's no question about whether I damaged the apartment. The week deadline between reminding her and suing is admittedly short, but if she had mailed me the check by Wednesday it would have certainly gotten here in time. Plus, in total, it's now been almost eight weeks since I moved out, so it isn't like she hasn't had plenty of time. She's clearly solvent, by the way, so this isn't a matter of her being unable to pay. This is in Maryland. I've never done anything like this before so I have a bunch of questions about what my next steps should be. 1) I usually paid rent to an LLC operated by the landlord, but I'm pretty sure that my security deposit was made out to her personally. Do I sue her, the LLC, or both? 2)She had me send rent checks to a post office box, but public records show the address of her LLC is a private house that I'm sure is hers. I would prefer having her served by a sheriff at her house rather than at the PO Box through certified mail. Is there any reason why I shouldn't do this? 3)If I understand correctly, the law says that I can sue for three times the cost of the security deposit. The total amount would still be within small claims court limits. Is there any reason not to seek the maximum amount? 4)I think it's likely that she'll be willing to settle. Of course I'll ask for the full deposit, interest, and court costs, but is it inappropriate to ask for damages over that amount? I have no direct monetary damages but it has cost me time and meant I have to tighten my belt for the month. Do I say something like, "Given the substantial inconvenience this has caused me, I'd like $200 above the other money you owe me if you'd like to settle the case"? 4a) Whether or not it's appropriate to ask for additional damages -- if she actually does send me a check for the amount of the security deposit, it will now no longer cover what she owes me. How do I go about getting the remainder? If I want to settle, do I just say, "Thank you for the $xxx. You now owe me $xxx for legal fees and damages. Mail me a check for that amount and I'll drop the suit." Or do I wait for her to make a settlement offer? 5)Do I even have to settle? If she offered the deposit, interest, and court costs but not damages, would I stand to lose at all by going through with the suit? I have a flexible work schedule that gives me several weekdays off, so it would cause no great additional inconvenience to actually go before a judge. If there was no possible downside and I would be nearly certain to collect the deposit, interest, and court costs regardless of what I did, I'm disposed to pursue it in search of additional damages even if it's uncertain that I would actually get any. 6)The most important evidence I have is a chain of text messages with her. We communicated entirely over text so it's all pretty clearly laid out there. Is there anything special I have to do to present and validate the messages in court? Thanks for any help!

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The first of a seven-part longish read article series from the Christian Science Monitor: How the push for gay rights is reshaping religious liberty in America As gay rights rapidly expand, some religious conservatives worry that their ability to live their public lives according to their faith is being swept away. A florist caught between faith and financial ruin When a florist was forced to choose between a beloved customer, who is gay, and following her Christian convictions, she made a decision that changed lives and, perhaps, how the law will see such cases in the future. Behind legal fight over religious liberty, a question of conscience The religious right of conscience was once a powerful legal idea. But when weighed against the right for equal treatment in recent gay rights cases, it has consistently lost ground. In Mississippi gay rights battle, both sides feel they are losing When Mississippi passed a law defending religious liberties, it felt like overkill to LGBT residents who have virtually no protections anyway. But religious conservatives say they are trying to hold back a tide. Is wedding photography art? A wrinkle in religious liberty debate. Can refusing to take wedding pictures for a gay couple be a free speech issue, not just a question of religious freedom? So far, courts are saying 'no.' For those on front lines of religious liberty battle, a very human cost Conservative Christians who have gone to court rather than serve gay clients against their religious convictions have lost their cases, and in some instances, much more. A push to help gay couples find wedding joy – without rejection Gay couples worry about rejection when they search for wedding vendors. A new suite of businesses is growing to serve them – and head off conflict.

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I just won an auction and I think the seller increased the shipping price, but I have no proof. How can I find the old version of the listing?I'm pretty sure they've increased the price of shipping since I won because I was comparing auction + shipping for this item to a nearly identical "buy it now" item. I bid on this one because my top bid would have made the entire purchase cheaper than the buy it now one plus that shipping- now that's not the case. When I view browser caches of the listing they show the page as it is now, with the auction ended and the shipping price increase (by around ten bucks, so kind of a big deal). The seller also has another item listed, exactly the same as mine (they've used the same photos), with a lower shipping rate. Naturally that just increases my suspicions. I'd like to be able to pull up the old listing if possible to make my case; is that possible in some way I haven't discovered?

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My boyfriend and I are traveling to Guadeloupe Nov 18-21, flying into Pointe-a-Pitre at 6:30pm on the 18th. Any suggestions on where to stay, where to explore, where to eat etc? We're not into fancy B&Bs and resorts, we like DIY adventure (without nonetheless 'roughing it' backpacker style). Budget for housing is $50-75/night. We'll have a car. Thanks for any and all recs!

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Crappy nostalgia-filter! Trying to remember the name these weird, powdery little diet candy tablets that were briefly sold during the 1990s. They were profoundly strange and I've never seen anything like them before or since. Everything I can remember under the fold.- These would have been sold at some point during the 90's. - I purchased them at a ShopRite in South Jersey (USA). - They were sold in little flip-top paper/cardboard boxes, possibly with cellophane on part of them. - They were clearly marketed towards dieters, people watching their calories, etc. - They came in MANY different flavors, and some packages were possibly "assorted". The flavors were meant to mimic desserts and/or "indulgent" foods - e.g. "Key Lime Pie", "Chocolate Brownie", "Cheesecake", etc. - The tablets themselves were powdery and made, I am assuming, of mostly just inert starches and sugar alcohols. - I BELIEVE they were meant to be dissolved in the mouth, so you'd just get a "taste" of the dessert that they were flavored like. - They were sold on a big cardboard display-case on an endcap. - I believe they had some cringe-inducing name meant to convey that they were "indulgent", yet guilt-free, e.g. "Sweet Nothings", "Sweet Temptations", "etc. Anybody remember these? I'm assuming they no longer exist, but even some photos would be nice to help me recall their special, crappy deliciousness.

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We have a spot on our wall where a doorbell used to be mounted. We no longer have the doorbell, but the electrical box is still there and the wires are still in place. I currently have it covered with a painted blank plate but I'm wondering if there are any other creative ways we could cover this and make it less conspicuous.I believe that it would be against code to actually patch the drywall here since there are still wires in the box. And also I don't want to completely eliminate the option of putting in a new door bell in the future, so even if it were allowed it's probably not a great option. I'd just like to make this thing blend in a little better. I think a plate like I have is pretty much the standard solution, but I'm hoping someone will have another bright idea.

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