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Is a lens fitting a requirement in California? If so, how much does one typically cost?I recently moved to California from Pennsylvania. I need to re-stock my supply of contact lenses, so I made an appointment with a local office and gave them my insurance information. My current policy provides for an exam and materials for a $30 co-pay. When I went to the office, I was told there would be an additional fee of $130 for lens "fitting." I've worn contacts for over 10 years, and I know how to put them in, but I was told (condescendingly) that the fitting is a legal requirement in the state. I ended up walking out, but before I make my next appointment, I'd like to know if this could possibly be true. Thank, MeFi!

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Skyharbor has recently released their new song, Patience. The animation is by Jess Cope and she has been developing a reputation for doing fantastically creative work with other brilliant musicians.

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"I can't remember where I was the first time I saw the KXVO Pumpkin Dance several years ago, or who sent it to me, but I remember the feeling: that I would one day show this video to my children, and their children after them. It effortlessly combined so many facets of contemporary pop culture: the Ghostbusters theme song, an inane costume, dancing so bad that it's good, and — perhaps most important of all — it ran on a local TV station in Omaha, Nebraska." -The Story Behind the Greatest Halloween Video Ever in the History of the Internet

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Can I use whey to replace soured milk for fried chicken?So normally, when I fry chicken (in a sort of American Southern style), I sour some milk (with lemon) and soak the pieces for >24hrs. Then I cover the pieces with flour and spices, and fry. This makes the chicken nice and juicy once fried, and the time really does make a difference. Our kitchen also, fairly regularly, produces litres of excess whey from making cheese. Can I use this for soaking the chicken? Will the results be similar? Does whey go off any earlier than the milk from which it was produced? I'm particularly asking for personal experience, as I can probably do an A/B - but I'd love to avoid the hassle and potential waste of chicken.

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Pseudopod 401: The Lighthouse Keeper's Wife Be careful what you wish for, and be careful of things with labels you can't read. Written by Dave Beynon and read by Wilson Fowlie.

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The Rock is a Bond movie. Galaxy Quest is a Star Trek movie. What other movies 'fit' into series, but not on purpose?

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Some 70s television programming for your Halloween viewing pleasure: The Paul Lynde Halloween Special with KISS (1976) PSA: Halloween Safety Educational Film Part 1 (1977) The Muppet Show Halloween Special with Vincent Price (1976) PSA: Halloween Safety Educational Film Part 2 (1977) Dr. Seuss Presents Halloween Is Grinch Night (1977) COMMERCIAL BREAK: Woolworth And Woolco Halloween Commercial (1977) The Fat Albert Halloween Special (1977) PSA: Trick or Treat for UNICEF with Sammy Davis, jr. Bugs Bunny Howl-Oween Special (1974)

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Crap! I dropped the tablet to my (fairly) new Asus Padfone X face down on the tile in the kitchen. Where do I find the parts to replace the pieces?The tablet still works, but the glass is majorly cracked and just barely holding with the screen protector and scotch tape around the edges. Local computer folks will replace it for me, but they can't seem to source the glass screen replacement for the X version of the Padfone. Since this is the US version and a fairly new release, am I stuck going back to AT&T to get it fixed? What broke is the glass screen for the tablet that the phone slides into, not the phone itself. I can find phone screens, but not tablet screens.

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I was talking about the HK protests recently, and it seems like, much like Occupy/other movements, that there's not much expectation or plan for an endgame, at least in public discussion.The police and authorities hope that, if they wait long enough, the protesters will just evaporate eventually. I know there are books on protesting; are there any guides on protest endgames, from anyone with practical experience ending such things? I'm a total neophyte in this area so entry-level stuff would be interesting to me as well.

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Lately, it seems like my friends has been ignoring me. I would like constructive advice to deal with being ignored.I'm a newbie to AskMeFi, although I've been 'lurking' for years. My first question, here goes. It seems like lately, I've kind of lost my social touch, or been doing something wrong. It's been a big downer. A few disclaimers: -I'm unemployed, so that may or may not adjust the level of frustration I've been having. -I'm deaf, so my socialization options are a bit more limited than normal, which makes the situation a bit worse. Note: all friends mentioned here are deaf, as well. I'm from the middle of the country (USA). -I have mild social anxiety. -Me and all mentioned friends are in our late 20s-early 30s. When I was at university, I didn't have a big social life, but it was decent. As I'm getting older, it seems to be harder and harder to make new friends and/or expand my social circle. What makes it worse is, I feel like my current "friends circle" is kind of ignoring me. Here's several examples. Person A: I wanted to get together with this person, as he had already moved away to California. We weren't close when we were both at the university, but lately we've been talking more on Facebook/text/scattered instances in person. He was visiting in town for our university's Homecoming. We saw each other at a bar, and he suggested we get together sometime this week. Sure! I videotexted him on Tuesday night, suggesting we get together. He replied quickly saying he wasn't able to see my videotext, but asked how I was doing. I tried to help him troubleshoot the videotext viewing issue, but he stopped responding. I assumed he fell asleep. Wednesday afternoon, I texted him to follow up and see if he was able to view my videotext. He said yes, and suggested we do coffee or something. I asked when he was available/what time, and again, no response (he fell silent right after I responded to his suggestion). I haven't contacted him since then, as I don't want to bother him. No follow up on his part, and he's updated his Facebook/Instagram since then. Person B: I've known her since 2006, and she has always been friendly. We got together several times, and say hi to each other, as well as text very occasionally (she's not the best with text responses). She suggested back in August that we "get together sometime." Well, it's now almost November, and it hasn't worked out. After a hiatus of her not responding to texts, when we saw each other in person at Homecoming, she suggested I "glide" her (it's an app designed for the deaf, where we send videos to each other). I did, suggested we get together soon. No response, but the video was viewed. Now, I found out that she invited my roommate (and many others, many people I know) to a Halloween party, but she didn't even invite me. That really hurt. I thought we were good friends. Person C: I used to go barhopping with her last year (in 2013), and we were actually pretty close. We exchanged secrets, chatted about alot of things, and so forth. I really enjoyed her company. However, after she moved in a new apartment with her boyfriend, things changed. She is now almost non-responsive on text, and I usually feel like a bad guy, having to keep texting her to get her response (she explicitly gave me permission to 'bother' her if she didn't respond to texts), and we haven't gotten together at all. It really sucks, because she's a great person, and can be genuinely fun, but I feel like, in a way, she's written off our friendship, and I don't want to come across as needy. However, she did invite me to her boyfriend's surprise birthday party back in September, but other than that, nothing. Nada. So, the problems being presented are what I'm having issues with, along with a fear of asserting myself with my friends/following up. I was told in the past I was too needy, came across as too needy, so I really have been taking extra care to dial back my interactions and to not come across as needy. However, lately, it's been very hard. I do have several core friends who I'm comfortable with and know are true to me, but I really want to expand my friends circle. It's kind of a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" situation when it comes to non-responsive texters. Should I follow up? How long? How often? And, what's really niggling at me is, if he really wanted to get together with me, he would've made the effort. And he didn't. I don't know if that's irrational thinking or not - I mean, people are flakes, but the immediate responses and immediate silence with Person A was a bit... weird. This leads me to another difficulty. I have a HARD time making conversations. I really don't know what to say. I feel like my interests are unique/different compared to others. For example, I hate sports. They bore me to death. Sports, unfortunately, is one of the biggest conversational topics in my social circle. I do have good conversations, but only with my core, close friends. My core, close friends are often busy, which is why I want to expand, but I'm finding it hard to do so. I feel like almost nobody really wants to talk to me, or interact with me - I'm the "boring one" or whatever. I rarely get invitations. I REALLY don't know what I'm doing wrong here. I've been trying to do all the "right" things, but it seems to get me nowhere. It's even harder, being deaf, because socializing with hearing people really is hard, given the communication and cultural barriers. I also have had a generally hard year, being unemployed, facing changes in my family, etc... but to keep this topic at point, I want to focus on friends/social interactions. So, to keep this to the point, I am seeking constructive feedback/advice on the following: -How to make new friends, and how to hold good conversations with people -How to cope better with being ignored/non-responsive people: also, how to follow up with them without seeming annoying/needy (which hopefully, I've been doing well with) -How to make myself more attractive socially I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. I really am not. All I know is, it sucks being lonely. Are my expectations too high? Am I expecting too much out of my 'friends'? Are they just plain jerks? I've been hurt quite a few times in the past, which makes it a bit harder for me at times. Many thanks, I hope this wasn't too open-ended and too 'much' especially for my first post. I appreciate all the help and feedback I can get!

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I currently pay one full week's pay each month, $600, toward my current student loan balance of $97,000+. Though I usually just pay it and try to move on, I know it will follow me to my death and if I can't be rid of it I hope some of you can provide some kind of advice or coping strategies. I have read through a fair number of related questions.I am a mid-40s female, legally single (I think? 6 years living with a fellow, in Illinois), no kids. I make about $45k as an office manager and have had this job for almost 5 years (started at $32k). It is my SO's house. I don't pay rent but I pay a share of expenses. He makes good money as a programmer and pays the majority of upkeep on the house. No plans to marry, but even moreso to be sure he doesn't somehow become liable for this debt. In 1992, I got a BA. In 2006(ish), I got an MA (Creative Writing - pretty useless). Suffice it to say I took out some loans as an undergrad, then lots more as a grad student. Through these years and beyond, I had many years of crappy temp/low wage jobs, and not doing much of anything about these loans because I couldn't. I never went into default, mostly through forbearance. Today I have a balance of over $97,000 in student loan debt - through Sallie Mae though just recently I began paying to a new thing called Navient. My loans are in two chunks, with a fixed rate of 5.38%. I have to look into it further, but it looks like my payments just went to $1,000 per month. The $600 I currently pay is one full week's take home pay. Right around 25% of my take home income. It's like being an indentured servant. It's like one fourth of all my working hours are to pay into this black hole that I have no illusions will get paid off or even shrink really, in my lifetime. I thought the $600 was covering new interest, but if so, it was barely so. I also believe the $600 was offered as income-sensitive repayment with some understanding that amount would go up. Do I have any options at all, of getting out from under this? I believe there's a thing where if I pay on time for 20 years straight the rest will be forgiven? But in the last five years (paying $500/month for some of it, and $600/month the past year or so), I have had to skip 1-2 months per year due to medical or other bills, so I don't even know if that 20 years starts over every time that happens. I don't know if I get credit toward that 20 years if my payments are considered income sensitive. Can someone point me to some resources? Should I find a lawyer and what could they even do? Or maybe you have an anecdote about living with debt, some way you manage to get through the day knowing you will never be able to build much of a savings or any kind of retirement. (I do put in a very, very modest amount to the company simple IRA plan, but not even the 3% that the company would match. I don't even know if these kinds of plans are worthwhile anymore, or if that's just another black hole.) I suspect some of you have little to no sympathy, as I was a grownup when I took these loans. Maybe you think since I make a decent wage with relatively few expenses, I should suck it up, live like a frugal monk and just pay it. The trouble is, that's still probably 10+ years of living a seriously frugal existence while working a job that has in the past year become much more stressful than it used to be. All ideas or coping strategies welcome. Apologies for length.

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I'm looking for some resources for my experiences. The best term I've come up with is brainwashing. My therapists do not know of any, but had experience with working with it to an extent. Any recommendations will be screened through my therapist first because this stuff is intense. To try and give to give some idea of what I'm talking about because brainwashing is a nebulous term used by movies in a military kind of way: this is not quite that. I was sexually abused for years starting at a very young age. Part of this used extensive grooming to the point where I feel it was chorographed. There were repetitive punishments for not following signals. These signals controled physical movements and emotional expression(smile when I do things, relax your shoulders when in pain). These were dictated by my abuser and I absorbed much if it. Most of my interaction with him was dictated even things like greeting him at the door. I don't want to make a throwaway email but I'll contact the mods to respond to any questions. My therapists are competent people I've worked with for years. I'm going to stay safe and screen any resources through my therapists. I am not going to go and read anything on my own without their explicit permission. Thank you.

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Who's the actress that played the "It's a Fact" girl on the Kids In the Hall TV show?

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My iPhone 5S has a ton of stuff in "Other" storage (iTunes screenshot); I don't even have disk space to do the latest iOS update. I see this is a common problem, surely some of you have a solution?In particular, I see there are some paid software or app options (like PhoneClean- seems to have decent reviews). I would be interested to hear what you can recommend that will help solve this! Need more disk space for baby pictures, showtunes, etc.

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On October 29, the Slovakian company AeroMobil began flight-testing their Aeromobil 3.0 flying car.

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When you bring a four-year-old to the Big Apple, things get weird.

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Over the last two years, I abandoned many of my commitments due to not being able to cope with anxiety and depression. Now that I'm receiving treatment and my symptoms have almost entirely disappeared, I feel the need to reach out to some people I may have let down. What is the best way to reach out to them and apologize for letting them down, and for practically disappearing for months or years? Or should I even bother?For example, I was chair of a committee at my church. I could barely function in this capacity due to anxiety, and I even tried to resign. However, they all encouraged me to stick around, so I did. Ultimately, I dropped the ball on a number of things, stopped coming to meetings, resigned via email, and then blocked all communication from them. I stopped going to church altogether. This happened with several things I was involved in, and now that I have my head about me, I feel terrible. I want to reach out to some of them, apologize, and give some explanation. I'm not sure how appropriate this is, though. Should I just stop at an apology? Or should I mention my mental health & treatment?

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Can you recommend a good accountant in Adelaide? In particular, one who may have experience with foreign income and owning a small business.I need to find an accountant in Adelaide, and twice previously I've simply picked people who were nearby but was pretty disappointed with the results. I work in Uganda and need to discuss the tax implications of that, and also part-own a small business. I'm hoping I can find someone who knows what they're talking about, can answer a few questions about foreign income and small businesses, and can take care of my slightly complicated tax from last year. Can you recommend anyone?

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Homestar Runner returns for Halloween 2014

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When lobbyist Richard Berman gave a speech to the Western Energy Alliance, he was seeking to raise millions from energy companies for his Big Green Radicals campaign attacking groups like the Sierra Club and NRDC. What he didn't know was that one of the executives in the room would be so offended that he would secretly record the talk and hand it to the New York Times. The transcript (pdf) reveals Berman's strategies for creating non-profit groups to influence public debate and policy. Berman, christened "Dr. Evil" by both friends and enemies, and his firm have been behind corporate-funded non-profit groups such as The Center for Consumer Freedom, The Center for Union Facts, and The Employment Policies Institute, organizations formed to counter anti-smoking campaigns and legislation, fight unionization, and argue against increases to the minimum wage. The speech tells energy executives that they, as summarized by the Times, "must be willing to exploit emotions like fear, greed and anger and turn it against the environmental groups. And major corporations secretly financing such a campaign should not worry about offending the general public because "you can either win ugly or lose pretty," he said." A hallmark of his campaigns is the lack of transparency: "People always ask me one question all the time: 'How do I know that I won't be found out as a supporter of what you're doing?' " Mr. Berman told the crowd. "We run all of this stuff through nonprofit organizations that are insulated from having to disclose donors. There is total anonymity. People don't know who supports us." A particularly salient bit from the transcript of Berman's speech (the first five or so pages, before his associate starts up, are particularly interesting): We're reframing this debate so it's not just about going up to $10.10 [the minimum wage], there's some other things that people need to think about. You want to get people to say, one of my north stars is to get people to say, "You know, I never thought of it that way before." Because, if you can get people to say that, here's what you get: instead of getting the 'he said, she said debate,' what you will get with the factual debate, often times, you're going to get into people get overwhelmed by the science and 'I don't know who to believe.' But, if you get enough on your side you get people into a position of pralysis about the issue. We're not experts and so you don't want them trying to be experts. But if you put enough information out there and say, "Well, it could go to $10.10 but ou could also lose a lot of jobs, the Congressional Budget Office says you can lose a lot of jobs." And again, we got a lot of ads on this thing. You get in people's minds a tie. They don't know who is right. And you get all ties because the tie basically ensures the status quo. People are not prepared to get aggressive and in moving one way or another. I'll take a tie any day if I'm trying to preserve the status quo.

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My friend does not understand what is wrong with street harassment and I am looking for some resources to direct him towards that may help enlighten him.I'm not so up on this dimension of feminism. I'm also a man, and I feel like on this particular issue we are SO oblivious because there's simply no lived experience that we can relate to (for the most part). My friend has commented beneath a post of mine. To save energy, I'll just reproduce it in full here: I know this comment will no doubt blow up in my face, but I don't see anything wrong here. All I see is flirting. Just because she isn't interested doesn't inherently make it bad. No one is grabbing her or touching her. Yes the guy walking next to her for 5mins is creepy, but she could just say 'go away'. There's no rule that says you can't flirt with people in a public place and have to save it for clubs and bars. Just because they suck at flirting doesn't mean it's harassment. If a guy she thought was hot flirted with her in a way that she liked, all of a sudden it would become 'romantic' and 'spontaneous' rather than 'street harassment'. There's your double standards. I am not going to try to explain this myself (because I don't feel qualified enough) or get sucked into a lengthy debate. What I would like, please, is some resource(s) I can direct him to - everything from academic literature to popular blogs - to do that job for me. He's a thoughtful guy and a good friend, and (without seeming condescending) I feel as though this perhaps a bit of a blind spot for him. I'm not trying to convert him. I want him to make up his own mind. I would, however, like to give him every chance to see this issue the way I see it. Thanks a lot :-)

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I'd like to take a trip to Torres del Paine (Patagonia) to hike the W. And/or see other scenic sites nearby. I want to save money by booking my own accommodation and not having a guide. Suggestions wanted.I will have 7 - 10 days in Patagonia to hike and see beautiful things. One of the things I'm thinking of is hiking the W. I'm having trouble figuring out how to plan the trip. I can't seem to figure out which places (refugios, I guess) to stay in at each stop, if I want to camp what I should bring, and so forth. I'd prefer to book separately to save money. If there's an inexpensive tour, though, I'd be open to it. This site looks good and has a good price (under $500), but there's no way to book it; you have to send in their request form and no one responds. If you've been before, how did you plan your trip? Exactly (with links) where did you book? Did you have to call them? Could you book online? I'd like the simplest way of booking that doesn't cost thousands of dollars. Suggestions for how to set up the itinerary would also be appreciated!

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Here And There Along The Echo is "a guide to the Echo River for drifters and pilgrims" by the Bureau of Secret Tourism and Cardboard Computer, the creators of magical realist adventure game Kentucky Route Zero. Call (270) 301-5797 or download the "dialing software" and hear about historic sites along the Echo River, learn about the river's flora and fauna, or just get help identifying unfamiliar sounds.

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I have a problem fixing a toilet seat, I hope someone here could help.So I bought a bidet toilet seat (Brondell S1000.) It's great! But... the seat cracked. The seat itself is two pieces, either glued together or snapped, and it's hollow. It needs to be hollow for the heating element and seating sensor. Here's what the crack looks like. So I called the manufacturer, and got a replacement. No problem. But I'm wondering about fixing the cracked one. My plan is to see if I can separate the top and bottom, push the cracked area back out, superglue the cracked area, reassemble, then fill the hollow with... something? I'd need something structural, so the crack won't push back in. Something lightweight, and since I'd need to inject it into the reassembled seat, something that expands. I thought about injecting mortar with a piping bag, but that's probably a little heavy. Expanding foam? I don't know if it would be strong enough, and I understand the foam could shrink back after awhile. Some sort of casting resin? I know nothing about these products. Any other ideas?

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Under my current health insurance, I am being forced to switch to a more expensive ACA compliant health insurance plan ...I would be paying hundreds more per month than before. Based on last year's ACA application, I am eligible for a heavily subsidized new health plan with much better service, but I would have to enroll my kids in Medicaid. However, because I have a complicated tax situation, my AGI is actually much lower than my actual income. I can afford to pay more for the insurance, but would be paying a lot more for less benefits. Are there any downsides to enrolling the kids in Medicare with the new plan? Would it have any impact on my credit or future financial credibility in any way? I don't have strong feelings about taking "government assistance," although I feel a little uneasy about it. Would there be any reason that I should be wary of taking the Medicaid benefits? Should I just stay with my current plan and pay more? Any other options that I might not be thinking of?

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