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I'm happy with the native music player on the iPhone, except for 1 or 2 points. First, the shuffle all songs mode works poorly. With it I keep getting the same songs played over and over again, and many songs seem to never come up. So I'd like a player with a super shuffler! Also, as I use the player mostly in the car, one with a simpler interface would be nice that can be easily fat-thumbed and where the titles and song info is large and easily seen ("car mode"). Any suggestions?

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I have a lot of time on my hands, a love of cooking, and a girlfriend I would like to impress! Any ideas for a home-cooked romantic dinner, given that I have a LOT of time?My stage manager girlfriend is just finishing her final show of the busy season and it has been entirely too long since we have been on a date. I was originally just planning a regular night of eating out at a nice place and then going for drinks or a movie, but I thought this would be a good opportunity to really work on my ability to make something impressive. I am currently unemployed but sitting on an adequate pile of money, so I have basically unlimited time and effort to put into this. I find the process of cooking carefully to be very gratifying - even the fiddly stuff that takes hours. I have spent more than one afternoon monitoring the temperature of a pot of warm water to sous-vide sans sous-vide machine. There is a market that has fresh, local pork/beef available to me three days of the week, so I would like to take advantage and use those meats over chicken or seafood.

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30 Bisexual Women Discuss Their Long-Term Relationships With Men. Even though more people self-identify as bisexual than gay and lesbian, there is a widespread belief that those who identify as bi are either in a transitional stage or are lying to themselves or others.

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In the fall I'm going to Guatemala for about 10 days. I plan on spending 5 days in Antigua and 5 days at Lake Atitlan. I think I have my lodging settled in San Marcos La Laguna, and I'm hoping you'll have recommendations for a clean, reasonably quiet inn/posada/BandB in a lively and safe but not too rambunctious neighborhood in Antigua.English speaking staff and wifi is a plus. Good breakfast and hot showers would be grand. My budget is in the US$65 per night range. And, if you want to toss in recommendations for cafes or restaurants or things to do in both Antigua and in and around Lake Atitlan, that would be awesome.

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Short version: help me find a decent dermatologist in the greater Baltimore area.This previous question details how I acquired a mysterious condition (eventually revealed to be body lice plus an allergic reaction to their bites) in the Caribbean, and how three dermatologists (including one MD/PhD) failed to correctly diagnose it even though I kept saying I felt like something was biting me. I finally found some actual bugs on me and got a correct diagnosis from a fourth doctor, who prescribed some things for me that cleared it all up in a week — too bad for me that it took six months of itching to get to that point. I am disinclined to continue seeing any of the doctors who misdiagnosed me, and though I have since been going to Johns Hopkins University Medical Center, I don't like the fact that one sees someone different every time, so one never really develops a relationship. I am seriously prone to skin cancer so need regular examinations. I am looking for a doctor in Baltimore, or near the I95 corridor from Baltimore up to Havre de Grace. He or she should really know his or her stuff, and pay attention to details. Any recommendations, hive (pardon the dermatological pun) mind?

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I'm looking for a little case, the kind that attaches to the strap of your bag, to hold my phone, subway card, and work ID, because I'm tired of digging around in my bag for those things. Something like this, but a little more stylish.The case should: -attach easily to a bag strap, for easy access -have a phone compartment and a separate small compartment for cards -(preferably) lack velcro (long hair + velcro = bad) -be non-ugly -be able to hold a Moto X I don't know how to Google for this kind of thing. Any ideas for beautiful phone-bag-attachy sleeves or how to look for them?

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DakhaBrakha electrifying vocal harmonies, beats and funky basslines. Mixing traditional Ukrainian folk music with outside influences, they create a sound they call 'ethno-chaos'. Regardless of what you call it, their sound seems to reflect the mixture of hope and chaos in Ukraine. They look like they are going to be very serious, but they have a great sense of humour (cf. Take Away Show). Although they don't make their shows explicitly political, the band were involved in the Euromaidan protests, playing music and even making borscht for the protesters. They are a product of the Dakh theatre (previously, Euromaidan footage), and have been touring internationally for the past few years. Press reports of their recent gig at the WOMAD music festival say that the crowd was ecstatic, seemingly unexpected by the band. There is some footage of the crowd reaction on their (public) Facebook page. Beautiful videos: Karpatsky Rap YT Vimeo Nad Dameam YT Vimeo Take Away Show (a couple of live tunes played to a nonplussed Kyiv audience) YT Vimeo Take Away Show Outtakes Vimeo Youtube channel Youtube playlist All the albums are available to listen to on Bandcamp and most are available on iTunes Na Mezhi (album) available on their website Live concerts: Roskilde 2013 YT Washington 2014 YT mp4 NB. The hats are not traditional Ukrainian head wear. They made them because 'they thought they would look good'.

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Thesis is the latest Long Player by R&B singer and songwriter King avriel. Linked is an interview with her and a soundcloud stream of her new album.

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Bad day? week? month? Try the foster kitten cams. Currently eighteen different kittencams are available on one page.

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I am taking on a new role which will require me to be conversant in SEO. Our SEO product manager likes to obfuscate things so no one can pin him down. It is my job to pin him down and call bullshit. I have no idea what schema.org is or what this canonical stuff is all about. Can anyone recommend a great book / site where I can get up to speed on all things SEO? I don't have a lot of time to spend so brevity is key.

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The Adobe Illustrator Story. Watch the Illustrator story unfold, from its beginning as Adobe's first software product, to its role in the digital publishing revolution, to becoming an essential tool for designers worldwide

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This is my first ever question on metafilter, and it probably sounds absurd. I recently got a relatively-high-paying job away from home, and I'm only 23. Maybe it's because I'm lonely, but only time I feel good about myself or feel like I'm worth anything is when I help others.A few months ago, I had a surplus of several thousand dollars. At this point, I've lent/spent/given so much away that I barely have anything. I'm not in danger of going under, but I worked myself half to death last week to scrounge up extra cash for a friend who was in danger of getting evicted by no fault of her own. She didn't even ask -- I offered, and I've never done anything like that for her before. People keep telling me this is a dangerous path to stay on and I understand where they're coming from. But I feel so guilty about not helping friends out of tight spots, and it feels wrong in my gut when I have more than I need and keep it when others are struggling. Any advice?

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Why Everybody Hates 'Garden State' in 2014. "When they burst forth in 2004, simply being non-masculine was a bit of a political gesture. It imagined itself as a refusal to play the game of (party) politics. But now it literally looks like guys standing around thinking. Watching any of those films, we're right to ask ourselves: Why was this supposed to mean anything to us? The culture has shifted since 2004." See also, "In Defense of Garden State."

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What is the most excellent Linux-friendly laptop I can buy?What is the most excellent* laptop I can put Linux** on without too much hassle***? I know this was asked recently, but I'm not particular about a track-nipple. I can cast the net wider. Let's assume money is no object. Am I on the right lines with the Lenovo Thinkpad X240 or X1 Carbon 2014? * Excellent? I would like as many of these things as possible, but no one is a deal-breaker: - Retina-ballpark pixel density - Lots of storage. I have a baby. All the photos. - Battery life north of 6 hours - SSD for some if not all of the storage - Stupid RAM - Lightweightness. I know with the spec I'm after, MacBook Air-like thinness is probably out, but thin and light is still desirable - Power - Sezziness. Understated. Black all over would suit. You know. Thinkpad-like. - Great keyboard for much typing - I don't need or want a touchscreen, but I wouldn't rule one out if the laptop is otherwise fabulous. * Linux? Not to derail myself, but unless someone tells me otherwise it's going to be Ubuntu. If you have a strong feeling that I can do better, learn me up please :) *** Hassle? I'm in the UK, where my pre-installed options extend to the Dell XPS 13 Developer edition and no further. I don't mind tweaking things for a few hours, but I am not yet a Linux hobbyist. Writing my own device drivers isn't an option. Thank you. I love you.

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Asked someone out. He said yes. I live far away and he planned to come visit soon after. He couldn't come ultimately (as he was busy getting ready for a trip). He was appropriately apologetic and nice about it (and I understood.. but know historically I have been too understanding too often, but first cock up, not a big deal). He said he'd make it up to me on his return. I last asked how he was getting on with sorting things out for his hols and when he was going. I didn't hear back for 4 days (today) he goes tomorrow.I am not the worlds biggest texter, I'd hate it if he was constantly contacting and wanting to know my every move. I appreciate he's busy.. but I do think this is a bit dick-ish after just meeting someone and letting them down. I have a dire track record with the 'wrong ones' have avoided all this for several yrs due to this and am an anxious attachment type. I think I should wait to text until just before he leaves? (I do like him.. or thought I did).. But now feel I am fading into game playing territory which I don't really like the thought of. Sorry for the blow by blow posts on this.. it's just been a big thing for me to take any kind of chance. I'd love to hear from some guys, friend said "they are different with texts". True???? Is there anything in a kiss in one text and not the next? I can't imagine men think loads about that going by my male friends...

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I've had a truly awful year, and in April my much beloved pet died suddenly leaving me completely devastated with guilt and grief. Among the things I no longer seem to be able to do is answer the innocuous "How are you?" question from acquaintances and colleagues. Any suggestions?It has been three and a half months since the death of my pet, so even if people know, most assume I'm over the loss by now. But I'm not. Not even close. I am trying to do what I can, but my heart is broken. Obviously I know "how are you?" is not a real question but just saying, "fine, thanks" feels like I'm betraying my relationship. On the other hand, I certainly don't want to burden people or make them feel uncomfortable by detailing my actual state of mind. Any suggestions about what to say? Ideally, I'd like something quick and snappy that acknowledges the loss. Or should I just resign myself to giving the standard response? In the past when things haven't been going well, I didn't mind giving the standard response because I didn't have the sense that I was letting anyone else down or trivializing a relationship, but this feels different. I'm sure this is a common issue for grieving people, but this is my first major loss.

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Dr Google always thinks it's cancer, except when it's lupus. So how do you find reliable health information online? The (US) National Institute on Aging has some good rules of thumb, and the National Library of Medicine has a simple tutorial. Many of us, though, might prefer a list of general trustworthy resources. Here are some of my favorites, including some Australian and UK resources that American MeFites might not know. For general health information or the "exhaustive list" approach, your friendly government often provides an excellent starting point (and you may find that after scratching the surface, others' governments are just as helpful): US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Health Direct Australia Better Health Channel (state of Victoria, Australia) UK's NHS Medline Plus (US National Library of Medicine) If it *is* cancer, the government is again here to help you: Cancer Australia US National Cancer Institute And there are plenty of nonprofits that want to help Cancer Help UK Macmillan Cancer Support American Cancer Society Finally, if you want to replace Dr. Google in the most literal sense, Patient.co.uk (a private company) has a symptom checker that provides top 10, red-flagged (needing urgent attention), and most common diagnoses for your symptom profile, age group, sex and global region of residency.

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Simon and Martina, of the joint blog Eat Your Kimchi, are a married Canadian couple that moved to South Korea in 2008. They have a YouTube series called "TL;DR" in which readers can submit questions about living in Korea, and they will answer them to the best of their ability. In short: "You ask questions. We make videos answering them!" Here's a couple: The Threat of North Korea, Korean Food Etiquette. Korean vs. North American Beauty Standards Bullying in South Korea Five Things You Should Not Do in Korea Korea vs. Japan Teenage Pregnancy in South Korea Pet Culture in Korea How We Got our Scottish Fold Kitten in Korea What do Korean Students think of North American Music Videos? Korean Products We Can't Live Without How We Became Full-Time YouTubers YouTube listing here.

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Cracked interviews a NK escapee, an ambassador to NK's grandson, and a journalist covering NK. Want more, without any humor (Cracked is pretty restrained for their piece)? BBC on the people smuggling industry, Yeonmi Park on growing up in North Korea, the Guardian on an ordinary day in Pyongyang, Al-jazeera explains how the Kims rule with an iron fist and some recent photographs of ordinary people in North Korea.

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I'm in the final couple of months before submitting my dissertation, writing up frantically, and have just found out that someone I know has switched topics to my topic and actually submitted their dissertation. How do I cope with this and get on with my work? Snowflakes inside.I started my PhD five years ago and have struggled with depression throughout the process, taking longer than many others in my field to complete. I'm now managing my depression okay and, until last week, I felt I was on track to submit on time for my latest (extended) deadline. I then found out that a guy I started the PhD programme with -- with whom I have had a few conversations about my work -- switched to the same topic as me a year ago and has submitted already. I have been very unproductive and anxious since. I have 2 questions - What should I, practically speaking, do to address the impact of this? I've asked if I can see his dissertation so that I can cite him in my own writing and therefore not look like I'm ignoring other people's research in the area / plagiarising him. But I don't know how extensive the overlap is, yet, and am wondering if I would need to do a major reworking of my own approach etc if there is substantive overlap or if I can get away with acknowledging his work and any similarities to mine without removing the overlap. Is that enough? Would I risk failing the degree, because there is no original contribution to the field in my work, unless I do the substantive reworking? The project is in the humanities and has no empirical aspects; we are basically both commenting on the same literature, along similar lines. - How do I manage this emotionally? I'm angry with him, unable to focus on writing because of anxiety about the potential overlap, angry with myself for falling behind, and generally very upset. I don't want to burn bridges with a future colleague and I want to get this set of feelings out of the way so that I can work properly. Any advice on how to interact with him courteously, calm myself down, and go back to being productive? I'm also aware that the fact that he finished first may have a bearing on the possibility of publishing my own dissertation but I don't really care a lot about that because I have other research projects that I want to do next in any case. Not being able to publish from the thesis would be a bummer but I can cope with that -- my main aim is just to pass the degree.

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What are some novels featuring imperfect but sympathetically-portrayed mothers?I recently read Rainbow Rowell's Landline, which I think I enjoyed largely because the protagonist was likeable despite her imperfect decisions. In particular, I appreciated that she clearly had a loving relationship with her kids but still had issues with them. Mefites, can you recommend other books with this dynamic? Where the protagonists (or other major characters) are mothers who are maybe ambivalent about having children but wind up raising them all right? Or who make bad parenting decisions sometimes but still seem like fundamentally decent people? I guess maybe I'm asking for the fictional equivalent of some of the mothers from this post on the blue, but more like the mom who gave her kids Oreos for lunch and less like the one who doesn't love her kid at all. Thanks!

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Only a handful of all the animal species on earth can be tamed, but that doesn't stop a homesick girl of 15 from trying

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World War 3 Illustrated is "an anthology series with a left-wing political focus." More Horror Than Hope: The Comic Art of World War 3 Illustrated a little more WW3 Illustrated

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A friend and I are curious about acquiring a home/hobby laserccutter and would like some recommendations.Hi peeps, for some time I have been bitten by the making bug and instead of a 3D printer, I want a laser cutter suitable for home and hobbyist, as is my friend. What are some good models or trustworthy review sites? We are not looking to build one ourselves. We're interested in machines that can cut and engrave and ship or are locatediin Canada. TIA!

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Is going with USAA significantly better or worse than using a local mortgage broker who sells our mortgage to another bank? Will USAA allow us to close on time, if the closing is 5 weeks out?We use USAA for banking, but saw their mortgage area has negative reviews if we search for it online. We just figured that most people only bother to leave a review if they have a bad experience, but our realtor and another realtor have also mentioned specifically how hard USAA is to work with for closing. We love USAA's customer service generally, but also want the mortgage to happen smoothly and on time (very important). Our other option is via a local mortgage broker, who presumably sells the mortgage to another bank after he arranges it? He seems helpful and friendly, and says he can match USAA's rate, but we were worried about customer service if needed after the mortgage is made. Which option is better?

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