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A collection of photographs and words celebrating the complexities of motherhood and fatherhood (via Kottke).

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I work for a person who is very high-profile and influential in our fairly small, competitive, sometimes dysfunctional field. I like my job and boss a lot, but I'd like to start exploring new opportunities for a variety of reasons. I'm concerned that others n my field (including folks involved in the hiring process at other organizations) may warn him I'm looking for a new job in order to curry favor. I've heard rumors that this has happened before. How should I manage my job hunt with that in mind?I've had this role for a few years, and like it, but there's no opportunity for further advancement and I feel like I might be ready for a change. I'd like to start exploring new opportunities. However, my generally wonderful boss is well known for valuing loyalty (to a fault), and I'm concerned that other people in our field may tip him off that I'm looking. Similarly, it's possible that folks may not want to hire me out of concerns that my boss will be upset about me being "poached." Intellectually my boss would absolutely understand why I would look for a new role. However, I'm concerned that it would at least temporarily damage our working relationship if he were to find out. Also, I'm concerned that I might not find a position that I like more than my current role and may want to stay. I think that would be difficult if he found out I was looking for other opportunities. Does anyone have any tips for how to navigate this? Are there things you would do if you were me? Should I try to address it somehow during the interview process? If so, how? I worry that addressing it increases the likelihood that folks won't consider me because they don't want to damage their relationship with my current boss, but maybe I'm wrong? Should I just stop worrying about it? I'm also generally open to hearing anecdotes from folks who navigated similar situations. I've job-hunted before in this field without many issues, but I've never worked for someone so high-profile and concerned with loyalty. I'm keeping the field intentionally vague, but if it helps, this is a non-profit operating in a currently trendy field in a large City in the US. I don't have a union, and our organization is too small to have an HR person.

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To the Last Man was a 2008 gay pornographic western (title taken from the 1921 novel by Zane Grey) with a budget of about US $200,000. Dan Cardone wrote about working as a grip on the production, which featured numerous action sequences, real guns and live ammunition, and the deaths of all but one of the characters (YT death montage, CW: one shirtless dude, many graphic and ridiculous murders, 144p -- does not contain any actual porn). In working on an insanely ambitious shoot like this, you develop a very keen sense of appreciation for what absolutely every person does on a fully crewed film. It gives the even the most lowly of production assistants a god-like stature. For example, normally being a PA means you don't have to fetch the leading actor's water bottle, so you can concentrate on getting other actors to wardrobe. But on this shoot, when you do finally make it to the wardrobe department, you discover there is no wardrobe department. YOU are the wardrobe department. Not only that, the wardrobe department is located in the back of a small van, which also contains every piece of other equipment for the shoot. People are dashing in and out barking, "Where's my tripod?", and all the models have dumped their dirty clothes in the middle of the cramped space. That key prop isn't there for the next scene, the one you weren't aware they were shooting, because they changed the schedule and nobody told you, and can you please move those cars, they're in shot, and by the way, can you get into costume yourself, we need you as an extra. This was the first set I had been on that featured three directors, and hopefully the last. One director was there to primarily film the sex scenes, which he did effectively and economically. The other two directors handled what is called in porn-lingo 'B-Roll', i.e. everything non sexual. Which on this film was substantial. The plot for To The Last Man involves two ranches populated entirely by horny men who have random sex and feud over water, as they are in the middle of a crippling drought. Which is why we filmed in Arizona during thunderstorm season. [...] It's amazing no one got killed, or seriously injured. There was horse riding, there were fight scenes of rocky escarpments, there were drownings. When the real guns and live ammunition came out for a scene I thought, "That's it, I'm going back to the truck". Fortunately, one of the models was also a fully qualified nurse, so that saved money, time and also lives. Plus, he was sexy, so it was win/win. I was the first to go down with dehydration and exhaustion. Others soon followed, no doubt inspired by my strong work ethic.Found via Tumblr (CW: partial nudity, the same ridiculous graphic murders plus extra ones, GIFs).

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Story with a happier ending and a lot of hard-case humor on Radio NZ this morning, essentially two mates went off the rails big time and discovered yoghurt-making in jail while viewing a Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall show. That's it really but well worth reading to the end about the yoghurt mafia.

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I'm trying to upload my manuscript to KDP's system - the paperback edition rather than the e-book - using Microsoft Word on a Mac. But it keeps on getting rejected as "failed manuscript upload". I've checked all the formatting as carefully as I can against KDP's instructions, and the only issue that I'm still unsure about is the page margins. The book's intended as US paperback size (6" x 9") and comes in at about 180 pages. I've selected the correct page size accordingly, but I find KDP's instructions of which margins to choose very confusing. Could anyone out there who's successfully published a 6" x 9" paperback via KDP tell me what inside, outside and gutter margins they used, please? If these should turn out to be the same as mine, then that's one more issue I can rule out. Many thanks.PS: Failing this, can anyone recommend a good self-publishing consultant who's familiar with the KDP software? I think I only need an hour or so's help, but I'm very happy to pay a pro for their time if that's what it takes.

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A second very light sampling of communities holding Pride events for the first time this year: Aniwa, MI; Emporia, KS; Lincoln, NE; St Clair County, MI [photo essay]; Hamilton, OH; Isle Of Man

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My boyfriend has developed Hashimoto's, alongside hypothyroidism - looking for non-woo resources (online or a book is ok) and reasonably well supported treatment guidelines.It seems like the only real standard treatment is synthroid. His dose has just been increased, I gather it will take a good while until he feels some improvements. Oh, Canadian resources would be most helpful. It seems like in the US and some other places, T3 supplements or natural sources of T4 are used, and sometimes low dose naltrexone (why, for what??), but it seems really implausible that a Canadian doc would go with those ideas. Asking because there is no end of stuff online, and I don't have the bandwidth to cut through it. (Bf doesn't either.) In communities people talk about diets (carnivore, gluten-free, paleo...), and naturopaths and supplements (vitamin D?)... It seems like many are not getting the relief they would like from the standard treatment, basically, like the autoimmune component (inflammation?) isn't being addressed and it affects their quality of life - is there anything really for Hashimoto's that isn't simply treating hypothyroidism? TIA Ah also - resources particular to people with mood disorders (and treated with lithium and other mood stabilizers) would be really great. But even a straightforward ELI5 no bullshit guide would be so welcome.

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American citizen living overseas for over six years would like to move home in a couple years. I tried and failed to get a copy of my credit report. How do I view and revive my credit standing at home while living thousands of miles away?I'm an American who has lived out of the country for 6.5 years, and I've been researching what I need to do to move home in the next few years. I just read up on tips for US expats to maintain one's credit while living abroad, and it seems I have basically done everything wrong: closed my US bank account, credit card, didn't maintain a US address, etc. Unfortunately my credit was at best "iffy" when I left the US. I don't recall what my score was though. Yeah, I should have read this before I left to take a job overseas. Now I'm wondering what my options are. I had a moment of panic earlier where I thought I'd never be able to go home. I thought I'd try something constructive instead like asking the green for advice. My question: as someone who lives out of the country, what are my options to a) review my credit situation and b) improve it? Caveat: while I've been away, I have gotten married and changed my surname. I've updated my name everywhere including passport and social security card. I tried to request my free credit report (https://www.annualcreditreport.com/) but it didn't work. I'm wondering if the name mismatch is preventing me from accessing info. Should I get a secured credit card? I'm happy to do so and use it X% while paying on time. But does this work? Are there legit services, banks or accountants who could help me sort this out? I think my first step needs to be getting a copy of my credit report. I'd like to be in a position to successfully rent a decent apartment in NYC with my (non-American) husband when we move over, and perhaps even get a mortgage sometime later. For what it's worth, I have family who can provide me with an address in the US. I work for a US employer. I am up-to-date on all of my taxes. Additional caveat / pandemic wrinkle: I live in Australia, which continues to have a travel ban, and I cannot physically go to the USA for the time being It likely doesn't matter, but I have excellent credit in Australia, a high limit credit card, and own a car plus a house here. Thank you, I appreciate any advice the hive mind has for me.

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I've been working on de-cluttering and organizing my mother's kitchen. There are all kinds of bakeware, utensils and other accessories to sort through that's been acquired over the last 40+ years. What is the rule of thumb when it comes to keeping and tossing this type of stuff?I know that any non-stick pans with scratches, a rusty egg-beater, etc. should be tossed... but what else should I be keeping in mind? I'm not sure if I've been using the right search terms, but I can't find much advice online that goes more into depth than what I've already suspected. I'm not in a hurry to get rid of things, because there are quite a few pieces of things in her kitchen that I'd probably just keep for myself if I could (I secretly love CorningWare!). So I'm mostly working on figuring out what is *actual* junk/unsafe to use, and then going from there! For example, there are a few pieces of aluminum bakeware (loaf pan, cake pan, muffin tin, etc.) and they look oxidized and I don't know if they should be kept? There are also a few loaf pans and cookie sheets, for example, that you can tell have just been "well used." Tossing/replacing them isn't a big deal, but I'm not sure if there's no harm to keep them. But when is it time to toss stuff? I assume that glass bakeware and stuff like CorningWare (glass-ceramic) be kept pretty much forever, unless there are chips or cracks. What should I be tossing from an old kitchen and what should we keep?

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Tech wizards of Mefi, Mr. Bluesky is at his wit's end. He did the following (see inside) to a Dell laptop running WIndows 10 and now he can no longer login to his machine. We have googled and googled, many people seem to have had this problem but all the solutions we found assume you can log into windows (he can't) and other attempts outlined below have been similarly stymied. Any recommendations would be most welcome! Details below.Here's Mr. Bluesky's description of what happened: To diagnose a slow boot up, msconfig was set to diagnostic boot. During the reboot, the machine no longer recognized the pin and the pin could not be re-set. There was only one login possibility, via the Microsoft (outlook.com) password. I changed the password on a second computer, and the Microsoft account on that second computer shows the first computer as a registered device. Nevertheless, the first no login computer does not recognize the Microsoft (outlook) password. None of the diagnostic options, safe boot types, etc, can be performed, as they all require a password which the first computer does not recognize. Seems like problem that is impossible to solve.

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Anheuser-Busch contributed more than $35,000 to 29 legislators it described as anti-LGBTQ+ between 2015 and 2020. "You can't turn your logo rainbow on social media, call yourself an ally, and then turn around and make donations that fuel hate," Lentz said in a statement. "There are really no excuses, and companies like Anheuser-Busch need to own up to what they've done."

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Britney Spears Quietly Pushed for Years to End Her Conservatorship "Her father and others involved in the conservatorship maintained that it was a smooth-running machine that had rescued her from a low point and benefited Spears, and that she could move to end it whenever she wanted. All the while, she stayed largely silent on the subject in public. But now, confidential court records obtained by The New York Times reveal that Spears, 39, expressed serious opposition to the conservatorship earlier and more often than had previously been known, and said that it restricted everything from whom she dated to the color of her kitchen cabinets." "On Wednesday, Spears is scheduled to address the Los Angeles court directly — a rare move she requested on an expedited basis. It is unclear whether her remarks will be made in public, but her relationship with her father is expected to be a central topic." Original article from the NYT, link posted here is a reprint from Yahoo News. The podcast Even the Rich did a series on Britney awhile back: Part 1: A Girl Named Lucky Part 2: Circus Part 3: Stronger Part 4: Vox's Constance Grady on Britney's Legal Battle (article posted again here). Previous Free Britney on Metafilter here, here, and here.

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35 year old always heavy but currently fat ciswoman here, looking for perspective and probably also some permission to cut my visit to my parents wayyyyy short after my father staged an intervention over my weight. have been battling truly crippling depression since the start of the pandemic. Despite this, I managed to land a respectable position in my academic field, complete my graduate degree, publish writing, move cross country, adopt and care for a senior hospice dog, help said dog die; what I'm saying is there are things I am very proud of myself for managing to do despite my very real and pervasive mental illness. I continue to try to manage the depression and am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist, am on meds. I am doing the very best I can. I was looking forward to spending my summer break away from school with my parents in Florida. I imagined it to be a healing experience. I drove two days to be here. The last time my parents saw me, my mother commented on my weight gain, I shut her down, she apologized, we moved on. But today, my father, with whom I have always tried to be close/approval I have craved, sat me down intervention style to tell me that he and my mom are very upset and concerned by my weight, that it means I'm terribly unhealthy, demanded to know whether or now I'm "working on it," etc. etc. I was so shocked and just basically assured him that yes I'm working very hard on it, which he expressed disbelief over as I have gained weight since I saw them last in December. I've been crying on and off for hours and really just want to go home. I am trying to heal and I don't see how I can if I feel uncomfortable in my skin. I am very proud of how hard I worked to get to a place where I love my body at any size. I don't want to feel guilty for one of the actually good things I have managed to do for my mental well being. A friend suggested that I am being rash, and that their generation (early baby-boomers) was just raised to be fatphobic and they don't know any better. On an intellectual level I know this is valid, but I am just so so shaken up by this (I had a panic attack for the first time in years earlier) over this that I don't see how I can stay. For context, I have gone from a size 16 to a size 18. I am noticeably bigger, but I like the way I look and am healthy. So do I stay and try to get past it? Or is it okay to go? It's probably obvious, but there is a lot of trauma in my childhood history, which I have tried my best to get over as they are getting older. Going will cause a lot of drama and I don't even know how to approach that conversation. Staying will be really hard. How do I get unstuck here?

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Like many recent humanities PhDs, I find myself overwhelmed at how ill-qualified I am for jobs outside academia, yet there are very few jobs within academia. What skills should I try to build over the next couple of years? General career ideas also welcome. (Many more details below the fold)I'm lucky to be transitioning from being a teaching workhorse into a temporary but well funded position that will provide me with a fair bit of "free" time (that ostensibly is for producing scholarship). Plan A is to keep writing, publishing, and applying to tenure jobs, but as anyone in academia knows, there is a good chance I will never get a job. I'm fine with that honestly - but I'm worried about my alternate career prospects. So my plan is to also start building a Plan B resume, but I'm not sure what that should entail. I've searched Metafilter, and there are a number of posts from PhDs seeking career advice, but they've generally got hard skills. Whereas I can only really claim to have soft skills. I don't have any quantitative research skills. I don't have expert knowledge in any computer programs, cannot code, and am generally tech adverse (though I'd happily learn a program if I needed to). I also can't claim to have all the skills that I imagine most people assume history PhDs have - I'm a slow reader, for example. And none of my language skills approach the fluency I'd imagine most jobs would require. Basically what I've got: classroom management, writing, editing, ability to analyze large amounts of information, archival research, experience collecting oral history. Please believe me what I say the topic of my research is very unlikely to help me get any jobs in the US. Lastly, I am not particularly detail oriented. There are two prongs to this question - first, what entry-level jobs might I be able to get? And two, what skills will I need on my resume to be competitive? This last point is key for me, as a lot of "alt-ac" job advice I've seen will just suggest a career, but how one gets most careers is not intuitive to me. For example, a lot of people suggest "museums" but all the museum jobs I've seen either require years of experience or want a background in the specific topic/geography of the museum (and I don't specialize in American history, so that strikes me from the running from most museums in the US). I'm open to most career suggestions, except consulting or anything super corporate. A lot of people suggest high school teaching to academics, but while I enjoy teaching college students, it's the motivated kids that make it fun, and I'm not particularly skilled at getting the unmotivated ones to care. Which I image would be a bigger problem K-12 (though feel free to tell me I'm wrong- my mom and many of her friends taught elementary school, so my sense of the job might be skewed). I don't care much about money, but I'd like to be at least lower-middle class. I'm more motivated to find work that is at least somewhat interesting - I find joy in learning new things, but I'm not picky about what I'm learning. The worst type of job for me would be one where every day is more or less the same. I'm happy to work independently or collectively, and a blend would be ideal. I don't mind working long-hours, but some work/life balance is preferred. I have been in school for so much of my life that I'm not keen to get another degree, but I'm not adverse to doing a short program that more or less guarantees you'll land a job. Jobs I'd love but appear to be impossibly hard to get: museums, archives, libraries, and journalism/media. I've also somewhat soured on the idea of publishing, since it seems like you really need to be able to read fast. To sum up (sorry this is so long), what are some practical jobs that might hire a 30-something with no professional experience, and what skills/computer programs should I try to acquire to be more competitive? Or what volunteer activities might I do to gain experience? Thanks in advance - Metafilter contains such a wealth of experience.

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From the "be careful what you wish for" files: journalist Lee O. Sanderlin suggested a penalty for coming in last in the fantasy football league he participated in - 24 hours in a Waffle House. Which was a lark - up until he wound up being the one sentenced to Waffle Hell. His league commissioner made him a deal - for every waffle consumed, an hour would be removed from his required time to serve. And so, with the rules set, he live tweeted his time in the Waffle House, and his struggles with the restaurant's namesake foodstuff. Ultimately, he managed to down 9 waffles, resulting in a total of 15 hours in the Waffle House. Extended stays in a Waffle House previously on the Blue.

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The goal is to create a free short, interactive training course that graduate students could complete asynchronously online or on a mobile phone in areas with limited or low bandwidth. However, the EdTech world is enormous! I'm not quite sure what resources are commonly used for self-authoring interactive, short online courses.I know about MOOC platforms like Coursera, but I don't think random individuals can just self-author those courses. I can spend up to $500 per year for a service (potentially a little more for the perfect product). Moodle seems to be one option - I've never used it before and don't know anything about how to get started with it. I would like to be able to include slides, audio, images, links, downloadable PDFs, discussion forums. Must be something users can access on a smartphone. Ideally there would be some fun features to encourage a little more interactivity. This would be part of a pilot research project so it's also important to be able to test knowledge with quizzes and pre- and post-test evaluations and be able to manage/export all of that sort of data.

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I'm fully vaccinated. I spent a hell of a long day in airports Sunday. I woke up Monday with a fever, chills, relatively severe soreness in every muscle and joint and all of my skin. I feel completely back to normal, happy and healthy today. I'm going to get tested tomorrow, but is there any chance it will actually show positive if in fact I did have a lil 24-hour bout with COVID?Just curious about the mechanism of these things, I don't have any plans to go out anywhere.

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I quit working out and got into bad habits at the start of COVID. Now, practically every part of my body is stiff and painful. What medical professional(s) do I need to see, and can I go back to high-intensity exercise eventually?I know I need physical therapy badly if I want to go back to boxing and HIIT and all the high-impact high-intensity exercise that I truly need as a primary pillar of my self-care. Issues/tightness/weakness: -hip mobility gone -rocklike calves -achy knees (resulting from the hip and calf issues, I'm sure) -tight, painful pecs/neck -severely restricted movement in right shoulder If it sounds like I spent the whole pandemic either in a chair or lying on my back holding my Nintendo Switch above my face, that is true. Unfortunately, it's also resulted in the following: -very weak/tight wrists -thumbs on fire -stiff/inflexible fingers and hands -sore elbows (although I imagine this will go away when I can actually use my wrists to support things again) Do I need to see different specialists for these issues? Or can I just go straight to PT and say, "please stretch me like a rubber band"? (I'm on my own health insurance for the first time and I don't know, I'm sorry if this is a really basic question.) I really hope it's not too late for me to recover, some of this stuff has been bothering me since before the pandemic and I want to fix it now, in my late 20s, before things get worse. Personal experiences with PT helping these kinds of injuries are also welcome, I'm so scared that I'll never truly be able to do things I've always wanted to do like learn to play the guitar, go hiking long distances, or even return to my pre-pandemic fitness level. Thanks all.

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posted about 16 hours ago on metafilter
Is there a good unbiased clearinghouse/site to answer all my home solar questions?We've been getting door-to-door salesdroids through the neighborhood lately, all hyping their company's solar panel offerings. Having an unobstructed south-facing roof, solar has always seemed a natural thing to at least think about doing. But... Skimming through the various companies' websites and brochures, I'm inundated and confused by references to various technologies employed in the different offerings. For all I know, they're selling the same damned panel, and just skewing the wording of the details to make them sound unique. It sure would be nice if there was a single, regularly-updated, website that acted as an unbiased information clearinghouse for all things solar. So...Does such a beast exist?

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posted about 18 hours ago on metafilter
Hardliner Ebrahim Raisi elected Iran's new president. Who is him? In continuity with Trump policies, after 6 rounds of talks the US refused to remove Iran sanctions. US government also seized the .com domain of Iran's Press TV and two other media outlets. Internet users can still visit Press TV using the Iranian domain.

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I need to have 2 pairs of headphones playing from my android pixel 3a phone at the same time. The phone only allows for 1 pair to connect. How do we make this work? This is for 2 of us to be jogging and listening to the same audio. Microphone isn't important, and we have headphones already. Alternately, one of us could use a wired set of headphones and the other bluetooth, if there's a way to do that. I'm happy to purchase an adapter, but it needs to be useable when jogging with the phone in a pocket. Thanks!

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posted about 18 hours ago on metafilter
In what is hoped to become a model for other historic sites, the descendants of enslaved persons at James Madison's estate, Montpelier, will be co-equals in sharing governing power and responsibility for the site.

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posted about 19 hours ago on metafilter
Usually when a tornado comes through, the path of destruction is more haphazard. It can sometimes look like the vortex drops down and picks up one house but leaves the neighbor's untouched, or will tear a roof off here but not there. This wasn't like that. Everything around as far as the eye could see to the east and to the west, was flattened. Flatter than hammered shit. Mentioned in the above piece: Deadline in Disaster, about the staff of the Joplin Globe newspaper in the aftermath of the tornado.

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posted about 20 hours ago on metafilter
The potassium in a banana includes potassium-40, and 11% of the time potassium-40 decays, it emits gamma radiation. Does that mean I could create an x-ray image using unexposed film and a bunch of bananas? How many would I need?

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Along with many other now-vaccinated stir crazy US families, we are traveling this summer - and the prices for rental cars are wildly expensive. I know there are various pandemic-related reasons for the cost, but does anyone have an estimate as to when the prices may subside, or what indicators there might be for prices dropping closer to pre-pandemic prices?Basically, I'm planning to either a) make a decision to accept that renting a car will cost more than actually flying to our destination and stop stressing about it or b) put in a little time monitoring car prices through the summer. Or, if you know other ways to reduce the cost of a week long car rental in August this year, I'd love to know! (If useful to know, we'll be in the US West, in and around Denver CO.).

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