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My previously-cooperative Camelbak suddenly gave me intense friction burns. What did I do wrong?I'm trying to train for a marathon in a hot and humid climate, and the method I've settled on to avoid risking dehydration on longer runs is to wear a Camelbak. I took it on two runs -- 7 miles and 15 miles -- and it seemed to work beautifully, with no ill effects. Then I took it out a third time on an 8-mile run, and out of nowhere, at the end of the run, I found myself with downright impressive friction burns down my sides and -- worst of all -- down the undersides of my arms, apparently from rubbing against the straps. I have to emphasize that this wasn't mild irritation -- the marks down my arms 30 minutes after the run were an ugly red and yellow, and while I may be a wuss, I'm not that much of a wuss, and the pain as I tried to take a shower, put on a shirt, and sleep in bed that night was pretty damn intense. I don't think I did anything differently on the third run. The fit felt about as tight and the Camelbak didn't seem to bounce around more than usual (something I'm sensitive to, as I hate that feeling). I wore the same sort of quick-dry tee (not a tank-top) as I did on the prior runs. If this had happened the first time out, I'd probably have just blown a raspberry and decided that I wasn't meant to wear a Camelbak while running. If it had just been minor chafing I might have shrugged and maybe tried some vaseline next time or something. But two delightful runs followed by OH MY GOD THE PAIN makes me think I might have done something wrong the third time out. And I really want to make this work because it's the only good way I've found to run more an hour here without unpleasantness. (Stashing water along the route is not an option.) Any ideas? Too tight? Not tight enough? How do I avoid this happening again?

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His Career Will Be Absolutely Fine: On Telling People About Being Molested People who have no vested interest in your father's job, other than as citizens of a country where he pays taxes, will suddenly be very interested in your father figure's job. Your sister's friend will say, "She's going to ruin your dad's career." You're not even sure she knows what he does. Other things people will say. "These are very serious accusations. This kind of thing can ruin a person's career." "You should be very careful what you say because stuff like this can end a person's career." "You know this could hurt his career?" It will hurt you, because none of these people give a shit about your career. A devastating and beautifully written article.

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I really like Moves but it's just been sold to Facebook. Because of this I would like to replace Moves.What I like about moves automatic tracking of activity, nice graphical representation of activity and locations during the day, quick activity tracking and comparison (steps per day / week / month) and self competition (best day per month etc), ability to export data What I don't care about sharing my information on social media What I definitely don't want advertising or an ad supported model. I don't mind paying a reasonable amount (up to £5 a month) for this. What other things I've looked at Pedometer++ - nice simple step counting app with nice graphics but no location tracking and reporting OpenPaths - I've had an open paths account for a couple of years - good location data, with good privacy controls but no activity tracking

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Supposedly verified real names battled it out in a fight to win the title of Name of the Year. Link.

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I have family visiting and the idea came up of renting a cabin/cottage/etc. for one night in some pleasant natural spot in northern California, in or near woods and ideally near running water, where we could do a little light hiking and generally chill out. This would have to be tomorrow night (Friday 4/25). We should have planned this a long time ago, but my family doesn't do that. Where should I be looking, both in terms of possible regions and specific websites? Some specs: ideally no more than about 2 hours drive from San Francisco; four people; want seclusion, i.e. not a B&B or the like; willing to pay up to about $400 for the night.

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I have some items to return to Nordstrom. My personal Nordstrom shopper quit a few weeks ago. I don't want to return the things if it means she's somehow on the hook for the return.These are items she found for me, so she would definitely be getting a commission on them otherwise. But if commissions for returns are docked from the next paycheck (which Google suggests), and she has received her final paycheck, can I return the items without worrying about Nordstrom going after her?

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Wells: I am very much obliged to you, Mr Stalin, for agreeing to see me. I was in the United States recently. I had a long conversation with President Roosevelt and tried to ascertain what his leading ideas were. Now I have come to ask you what you are doing to change the world . . . Stalin: Not so very much.

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My girlfriend (25) and I (cis male, 26) have been dating for about a year and a half, are pretty sure that this is the real deal, and are ready to move in with each other. We're trying to decide if I should move into her apartment with her and her flatmates, or if we should move in to our own apartment together. Lots of extra details below!First of all, I work and am taking graduate classes part time, and she is just about to start her fourth and final year of medical school. She currently has four flatmates (all women, and three of whom are also in medical school); she splits the master bedroom with a fourth roommate. Because my girlfriend splits a room, she and I have spent almost the entirety of every weekend at my place for the past year and a half. It just so happens that my flatmate is moving out this summer, and my girlfriend's roommate is also moving out this summer. As things stand, I will need to find another flatmate, and she will need to find another roommate to share the master bedroom with. However, we had already been discussing moving in together in the future, and we both feel ready to make the move this summer. We have two choices: either I could move into the other spot in the master bedroom that her roommate is vacating, or we could find our own apartment together. At first, we had discussed the possibility of me moving into the master bedroom and it was something that we both thought would work out. My girlfriend also started discussing the possibility of me moving in with her flatmates, and they seemed to think it was a good idea. However, I discussed the situation with some of my coworkers, and they expressed concern at the idea of me moving into an already established apartment. Admittedly, my coworkers are at different stages in their lives, so the fact that they balked at the idea of me moving into this situation isn't exactly a surprise. Still, hearing their concerns made me consider some of the drawbacks of moving to my girlfriend's place: -I'm nervous about feeling like others will be involved in our relationship. I'm particularly nervous about potentially getting into disagreements with my girlfriend in front of her flatmates, though we rarely do -I'm worried that I won't feel "at home" for a year - that I'll feel like I'm essentially visiting for an extended amount of time -I'm worried about the potential of subletters during the year - there will be times when some of the flatmates will be away for a few months, and they may try to find subletters for their rooms Things to consider: -This would be for a maximum of a year - everyone will be graduating from med school and going their separate ways -It would be easier (and cheaper) for me to move into her apartment, especially considering that we may leave our current city depending on where she is placed for residency at the end of the year -In fact, moving into our own apartment together now would be barely affordable for us, but is doable -My girlfriend's flatmates don't want to see her leave -My girlfriend loves her flatmates and would love to spend her final year of med school with them, but would be willing to move in together to our own apartment should that be what we decide is best for us -I get along great with all of her flatmates -More importantly, my girlfriend's flatmates all get along great with me, and have all expressed comfort at the idea of me moving in So, Mefites, have any of you ever lived in this kind of situation? Have you lived, as part of a couple, with other flatmates? More importantly, has your first "living together" experience been similar - essentially, have you learned to live with a SO while sharing a space with other flatmates? Will we be able to survive a year in this situation? Or are my coworkers correct, and will we be spending the year navigating a minefield?

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I want to make my good friend a fancy list of 20 things I really like about her. If I made such a list and gave it to her would that be nice and thoughtful or kinda creepy and overwrought?So two weeks ago I was at a pretty low point personally and my best friend, who I have known for almost 20 years now (since middle school) randomly gave me a small gift and made time for me despite her super crazy schedule. She did not know I was feeling down - this is just how she is and is why we are such good friends. Since then, I have been exceptionally grateful to have her as my friend (well I always was but that just drove the point home) and I want to do something nice in return. I was thinking of making a list of 20 or so things that I really like about her and handwriting it on cardstock or some such with some hand-drawn embellishments. But would that be too much? I know none of you know me, her, or our friendship but I don't want to seem over emotional. On the other hand I was bought up in a house where emotions aren't expressed so I have trouble navigating sometimes. We are both heterosexual females for whatever that is worth. So internet strangers... if you got one of these, nice and thoughtful or creepy and too much?

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Happy Sad Songs and Sad Happy Songs, by the Gregory Brothers [SLYT] Song list from the video: 0:07 - Happy 0:30 - Dark Horse 1:02 - All of Me 1:24 - Dream On 1:40 - Empire State of Mind 2:03 - Radioactive 2:25 - Stay 2:51 - Let It Go 3:21 - My Funny Valentine 3:36 - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 3:48 - Eleanor Rigby 4:02 - More Happy Bonus Song: Wrecking Ball Country Version Major-Minor/Happy-Sad conversions previously featured on the Blue.

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We're hoping to drive to Yosemite tomorrow night, will be arriving at the South gate around 11pm. I've been searching the website for the gate hours, but can't find any. Will we be able to get in at the South gate (or any other gates) that late?

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Okay. So as a really unnecessarily complicated gift to a friend leading up to the fifth anniversary of their losing their faith and going atheist I conceptualized seven weeks of mixtapes. 60 minutes each. Each with songs entirely about a specific deadly sin. Possibly NSFW specifics inside.This one I wanted to be lust, but there are too many songs about that. So I am looking for songs about blowjobs, from a givers perspective. Preferably male. I only know of one song off hand, but I am sure there are many more in queercore and gay bounce music I am unaware of.

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Volume 1 So there you are, having sex, on top of a guy, and you're probably naked, and that's, you know, that's great. But now you're wondering how to move around up there. Well, this one time I had sex once, and I was on top. I would get tired and fall across the body of the woman I was plowing love into. I got a cramp and, trying to get off, dug my elbows into her rib cage, which made her scream in pain. I thought that was an orgasm, so then I orgasmed, and then it was over. I blew it big time there. Just don't do that. AND Volume 2.

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I've installed a new theme on two sites, followed the same instructions for both, but on one the Revolution Slider doesn't seem to be working properly. On my beta site, the text on the slider looks nice and pretty, flying in and properly sized. On the alpha site, the text isn't looking right at all. Any Wordpress/coding heads have any ideas why this is happening?I believe I followed the same instructions to install both, and even tried to go from scratch on the alpha site to ensure I didn't miss a step, but the problem remains. (I'm assuming I missed SOMETHING, but no idea what).

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A huge column of Russian armored vehicles moving towards the borders of Ukraine (possible NSFW.) Via r/

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Perhaps you've seen a shorter version of Heineken's commercial "The Odyssey" on television. If you haven't seen the full-length piece, or if you haven't watched closely, you may not realize that the lead role is played by 20 different men, each "legendary" in his own way. Heineken has created an interactive version of the short advertising film, allowing you to click on each non-actor to see his casting interview. (Or you can just let it play and watch each man in his turn.) [total time ~48m] TL;DW version of the casting interviews [2m10s]

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I need an online calculator that will allow me to enter everything my child eats for the day (or week, if possible) and return a list of micronutrients her diet is deficient in, along with suggestions for foods that are particularly rich in those micronutrients. All the data I need is in self.com but collating it into the format I'm after is too time consuming to do on a regular basis, and I don't want to re-invent the wheel if I don't need to. I've searched, obviously, but the Googles, they do nothing!My seven-year-old daughter was diagnosed with fructose malabsorption disorder last August. While we're thrilled to have an answer and a solution to her lifetime of digestive misery, the dietary restrictions involved in managing this disorder are extreme. We are working closely with her doctors and we are learning which foods are acceptable and unacceptable, so we don't need suggestions on specific foods, but the ongoing balancing of her diet is a challenge, especially with a picky seven-year-old. We also want to start teaching her how to watch her own nutrients and give her choices about meet her nutritional needs. What I am looking for is one simple front-end source that will let me plug in what she's eating now and identify major nutritional holes, with suggestions of what I can use to plug those holes and still have a prayer of not throwing her digestion off. Nutrition apps like MyFitnessPal seem to only let me track 3 or 4 nutrients at a time. My hope is that by giving her a list of foods to choose from, she can gain a better understanding and sense of control, and might be more willing to try new things.

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Mr. Kitty and I got into the Paris Marathon for 2015 (yay!) We decided to make it a long vacation. We plan on spending 3 weeks in France - the first week will be mostly adjusting to time difference, marathon running, and recovery. The second week actually exploring Paris, and the third week....is a giant question markI lived in Paris for a little while for work, so am familiar with the tourist trap awful stuff, and the neat - must do's while in Paris. However, I didn't really explore outside the city much. Where should we spend the third week of our French trip? Some rules: 1.) Has to have a Marriott (I travel extensively for work and will be using my points for our hotel stays) 2.) Has to be in France (we decided against country hopping for this trip) 3.) The Marathon is in April - if that impacts any recommendations Thanks for any input!

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Friend's quality of life has been ruined by a drunk driver. She can't do any of the stuff she used to do and she's in a lot of pain. This is her new normal -- she will never be her old self again. I feel sad and helpless about it. Is there anything at all I can do for her? Specifics below.A loved one was hit by a car about a year ago. We all hoped she would get back to "normal" but it's not happening. Her range of motion is still very limited and she suffers a great deal of pain. Basically, the accident severely damaged her back and neck. (See my previous question here. Obviously, back then I didn't know this would be permanent.) Turning and bending her body is hard and even just sitting upright for a long time can become difficult. It appears this is her new "normal." Honestly, it breaks my heart. I am teary just typing this question. It's so hard to see someone I love struggle so much. Things she used to love to do -- bike riding, skiing, swimming, going to see plays, traveling and so many other things are either out of the question entirely or extremely hard for her. She will basically never work full time again. Her office has been very understanding and has let her work part-time from home, but she was once a very important person at her company of 20+ years and that is slipping away too. (Infuriatingly, what happened was 0% her fault. Some guy who had been drinking plowed through a solid red while she was crossing the street on her bike. We think police handled it poorly. So there is of course an element of outrage and injustice surrounding the whole thing too.) The thing that kills me is I don't know how I can help. I tried to visit her and bring dinner and hang out because I know she is stuck at home a lot of the time, but now I have moved to the other side of the country and can't see her. I know she has been fighting hard to not let this situation caused her to become depressed. She still wakes up every morning and gets dressed and tries to live her life, but I know it's really hard. She can't really do very much. All I want is to make her feel better and I can't. I sent her an email and tried to express to her how much I care about her and miss her, but I know she really doesn't want pity and I don't know if she really wants to talk about how hard the situation is. I think it's easier if we still talk about normal things and be normal, even though she does offer updates about what doctors are saying or how her legal case is proceeding. So, sorry for being so long, but basically does anyone have ideas on how I could make her life even 1% better or even 1% happier or give her 1% better quality of life? I feel so helpless and I feel so upset. All I want is to make it better and I can't. I can't give her her life back. It's hard to know that all the things she planned to do now that her kids had moved out and she had more time with her husband will never happen. Like I said, I don't think she wants pity and she already has a cleaning lady, for instance, that makes her life a bit easier. Is there anything I can do for her at all? I believe she is in physical therapy but it isn't helping. She's tried alternative therapies. And I don't think she actually needs money anyway. If there was something I could do to make her life easier, or better or make her feel more loved, I would like to try to do something. Honestly, words don't express how shitty about feel about the whole thing. Is there anything at all I can do? Thanks.

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You've heard of dog and horse shows, but are you familiar with rabbit shows?  Rabbit Fever is a coming-of-age story that follows six competitors as they strive to win the top title at the National American Rabbit Convention - an event that draws more than 20,000 rabbits in one building, the largest mass of rabbits in the world. While adult members of the rabbit habit compete for BEST IN SHOW, the teenage enthusiasts quest for an even more coveted honor in the rabbit community - Rabbit King and Queen!

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I'm a rookie member of the Providence Grays, a vintage baseball team. This season, we are having a difficult time finding a source of wool that we can use for our baseball trousers. Can anyone help me find a source?I've asked around in a few of my circles that might have been likely (re-enactors, fabric oriented archaeologists), but haven't had any luck. So, I'm turning to AskMe. When I asked for specifics from the guy who's been dealing with uniform issues, this is what I was told: We need a durable wool. That can be accomplished with some combination of a tight weave and heavy weight. A good heavy weight would be greater than 14oz I think. Don't know about the weave. It needs to stand up to sliding multiple times during 35 games for at least 3 years. Previous sources have dried up for various reasons, and none were ideal from what I can tell from the tales of ripped out seats after just a few games. We had a line on a slightly less than ideal wool earlier this month, but the provider wouldn't offer samples before we bought in bulk, so the deal was off. If it's not clear from context, we're looking for a heavy weave wool fabric which we will then use to make our trousers. We're also looking for it to come in in a somewhat specific shade of gray, although there's wiggle room there. We're OK for other parts of the uniform at this time.

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"Maybe I am extra aware of it because I am currently visiting with my parents, and they have a tendency to shout to each other between floors, and I have a tendency to regress, and suddenly, just as when I was a teenager, all I want is to have some space of my own, where I can read, and think, in private."

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Please explain to me how adults manage the clothing that they have worn but is not soiled enough to go into the laundry. I need some sort of system, as throwing them on the chair is probably not acceptable at my age.I have plenty of closet space, but not much drawer space. I do not do the laundry, so I don't just want to put everything in the hamper after each wearing. I am willing to throw some money at the problem if there is some organizing solution that I need. Right now I just sort of pile them on the reading chair. Should I hang them up? Get special bins? My wife's system is to turn the clothes inside out, hang them on a hanger in a separate part of the closet for 24 hours, then turn them right side out and hang them back in with the other clothes but with the hanger facing the wrong way. This is way too much work for me, as I'm pretty lazy.

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I'm setting up a new set of image gallery web pages for a site recently redesigned with Twitter Bootstrap framework. Based on past experience I'm concerned about possible server load issues, but since this is new tech now maybe I'm just paranoid? Full explanation inside...Web site is for a yearly convention/social event that people come to from around the world. Lasts over a weekend, and each day we post a gallery of pictures from the previous day, anywhere from 200 to 800 pictures per day. The previous version of the site, created around 5 or 6 years ago, used Gallery2. The first year we used it, we allowed the "slideshow" option, and on the last day of the event, we had so many server hits using the slideshow that our webhost shut us down for a couple hours. Our most-viewed day of the year, and our site was offline. I can't have that happen again, so I never again allowed the slideshow view in the Gallery2 software. In January I redesigned the site using Bootstrap to allow for mobile responsiveness (our #1 browser is iPhone) and it's been extremely well received. Only thing I haven't finished yet is the photo galleries. I think I've settled on using this "Bootstrap Image gallery" package. It doesn't auto-create thumbnails and it doesn't auto-paginate, which I would love, but I think I can get around that. My concern is about how many images to include per page, and whether the slideshow view could possibly cause the same server load issues we had before. It would be awesome if I could just have one page of images per day, but when there are 600+ pictures, that's a helluva lot of thumbnails. So far I've only tested with a page of just under 200 images, and I must say I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly it loaded on my iPhone over LTE (not WiFi). (Our webhost now uses Google Page Speed Optimization tools.) The full size images range in file size from 60KB to 120KB, with the average probably somewhere around 80-90KB. Other possible concern - In order to avoid having to manually create the links to all the images, I've come up with a way in PHP to scan a folder and create them automatically. But that means the server is going to have to work to scan the folders every time someone loads the page. I thought maybe I could run that once on the server then copy/paste from the resulting page source, to create a static file, but the page speed optimizations add a piece of code to each image link so I'd have to remove those manually, which defeats the "not manually editing hundreds of links" purpose. In short, when a few hundred thousand people in one day try to view hundreds of pictures through this Bootstrap slideshow, is this going to make our webhost freak out again, or will this be OK, given the new technology today and that this collection of CSS and scripts is much smaller than the previous one? I'm not fully tech-savvy, this is a side project not my actual job so I'm not as fully up to speed with these kinds of issues as I could be, so that's why I'm reaching out to you folks. Thanks for any advice, and if I haven't explained things well let me know and I'll try to clarify.

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A facebook thread (In a group) was deleted by the moderator. I understand that the internet records everything and it is archived somewhere. How can I look at it?

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