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What can I do for my dog who's itching and scratching herself to the point of bleeding?I'll try to do bullet points because her history up until now is a bit lengthy. - Rescued from a shelter Feb. 14, 2017 - 2 y.o. female, formerly wild, some sort of pitt/staffordshire terrier mix (according to shelter) - Several bald spots when we got her, shelter says the skin scrape was negative and it was from a prior flea allergy already treated. Shelter photos: http://imgur.com/a/GoxrD - Heartworm positive, was in Bad shape when we got her (constantly throwing up and struggling to breathe). Started with steroids and antibiotics to control her acute illness. Now undergoing pulse treatment with doxycycline. Vet put her on a regimen of 1 month on doxy, 2 months off, to be done 4 times in total, so she'll spend 4 months on doxy over the course of a year. She was on for the month of April, will start again in July. Also on a preventative flea med (Heartgard I think). - Moved to a new house on April 1 (big fenced in yard vs. small strip of grass out back at the townhouse I lived in before) - Treated the bald spots with Vetericyn at advice of the vet and all of the hair grew right back with no further issues A few weeks ago we started noticing that she was itching a lot more. She's always been a bit anxious and licked her skin more than she should, but this was different. She'd itch her back and scratch until her fur fell out. We clipped her nails really short and got her medicated hot spot shampoo. We tried Vetericyn on the spots and it didn't help. Neither did the special medicated shampoo. It eventually got so bad she had scrapes and scabs all over her face by her eyes and in her ears. My husband took her to the vet, who just said they didn't know what it was, took a skin scrape, and said try benadryl. I was very unimpressed. Of course Benadryl didn't work either, nor did Chlor-Trimeton. We changed her food to see if it was a food allergy. She eats Diamond Naturals now, and gets sick less, but it didn't help her skin. She almost never goes outside and rarely goes on the grass when she does. We got her little doggy socks and a shirt. She pulls the socks off but tolerates the shirt. All that's served to do is redirect her scratching to places she Can get, like her ears and face. We wash her blankets and swap them out for fresh ones daily. I simply don't know what else to do. She's miserable and it makes my heart hurt to see her scratch until she's crying with pain, but she can't stop scratching. Her skin is red and irritated. She licks and gnaws at herself incessantly. We just don't know why this has happened so suddenly and seemingly out of nowhere. The best we can figure is that the doxycycline was holding it at bay. Any ideas or suggestions would be so greatly appreciated. This is a photo of her feeling good and normal that I took on April 20, which was only about a month ago: http://imgur.com/p1F9oE2 This is her tonight: http://imgur.com/a/GZ4w4

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One of my closest friends committed suicide, and left a shit storm for me to deal with. My emotions are a wreck. Can you help me navigate them?I own a house on a piece of property with a cottage on it, which I've rented out for several years. Ann started renting it a couple of years ago, and almost immediately she and I became great friends. We spoke to each other at least once a day, often many times. Texted all the time. Shared coffee and wine, played with each other's dogs, took care of each other's lives. We left our doors unlocked and walked in uninvited we were that close to each other. Last week she went out of town, as she regularly does, and I took care of her dog and two cats, as I regularly do. She was supposed to come home Monday afternoon, but Monday at 3 a.m. I got a text from a close friend of hers who I know telling me she had taken her own life while out of town. Ann had sent an email to this friend with instructions ... for dealing with all the details of her life. Some of these involved me taking care of the pets, and because I am the owner of the cottage where she was living, dealing with that mostly fell to me too. Ann was a dear, dear friend, and I spent all of Monday distraught, sobbing, lost. Tuesday two of her other friends came to the cottage and boxed up her things. Wednesday I asked my housekeepers to clean the cottage instead of my house. What a shit storm. The place is so filthy I'm going to need to replace the carpet, curtains, rugs, blinds, mattress, curtains and couch. I need to refinish the floors and wood doors. I knew, from being close enough to her, that she was a shitty housekeeper, and that there was damage occurring (cat urine, dog scratches). But I trusted that she'd take care of (and pay for) all the cleaning and damage, and that it wouldn't fall on me. Well, it fell on me. My housekeepers were so appalled at the filth that they increased their rate significantly. After over five hours today, they'd cleaned only the kitchen. Five hours spent by two people means it took them ten hours to clean the kitchen, in a cottage. The place is a disaster. The place is full of boxes and Ann's crap everywhere. I've got a dog and two cats to take care of until they're re-homed (the dog goes Saturday, the cats mid-June). My 13-year-old daughter is distraught at the loss of the dog, and I'm distraught at the loss of my dear friend. And yet I want to wring her neck for not saying good-bye, for not cleaning up after herself, for dumping this expensive and miserable project on me. I have so many questions, starting with, "What the fuck?" I miss her so much, and am so angry she didn't give me or anyone else any chance of turning her around. I respect her right to choose suicide, but hate that she did. And I hate that the note she left didn't say one single personal thing to anyone. Not good-bye, not thank you, no explanation why, nothing. Just, "Here's a list of things to do, people to call." I don't even know what my question is. I'm just so torn up and sad and missing her and hurt and overwhelmed and disgusted. There are way too many things she left that I can't un-see. When I take her leftover drugs to the pharmacy to have them disposed of, I will be hauling in three gallon-sized ziplock bags full of pill bottles. Some of the things she left were so upsetting that I removed them from the cottage and destroyed them before her friends came over to pack her boxes - only one of us needs to carry that inside. Her elderly father is coming Thursday to pick up the boxes. She had a lot of anger for him, for the way he treated her during her childhood. But the man has now lost his second child, of two, so he's in terrible grief. It's all so complicated, so tangled. I'm rambling. This is an accurate picture of my thoughts and feelings. Guidance? Something? I can't even think straight enough to ask the right question. Does anyone know what that question might be? Can anyone help me find an answer?

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"At approximately 6:30 a.m. Monday, a car crash involving two pickup trucks sent one of the vehicles inside the AnalTech building of Newark, Del., leaving a giant hole." Analtech, née Custom Service Chemicals, is a brand name "known and trusted by the academic and science communities worldwide," butt in 2009 it was considering changing its name because of the "juvenile" humor that has developed in the past few decades. The Register offers a characteristically snarky take.

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I'm looking for examples of television pilots that show the audience the series' protagonist when they were a child or teenager. It can be via a flashback or a prologue. (All I can think of is the first episode of "Pushing Daisies!") Note: only interested in a first episode of television, and only interested in series that feature an adult protagonist.

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I'd like to rip out my driveway and the patch of cement in front of my house between the sidewalk and the street. I'm thinking I'll just rent a jackhammer and go for it. Am I thinking about this right?This seems like an easy if loud job. Please tell me if you've done this before, what I should anticipate and plan for? I have assumed I need boots and ear protection... Besides that I really have no plan. Goal is to have more space to plant plants.

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On the eve of Election Day for Montana's special election for a new Congressional Representative, Republican candidate Greg Gianforte allegedly body slams Guardian reporter Ben Jacobs. Jacobs previously reported on Gianforte's financial ties to Russia. Democratic candidate Rob Quist, former member of the Mission Mountain Wood Band and has composed his own campaign song. Also running is Libertarian Mark Wicks, a rancher.

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A friend is looking for a music video. They describe the video as follows: "It was a new release within the last year and a half. The video takes place entirely in a parking garage. An androgynous human in super tight jeans and boots approaches a beautiful old muscle car. Everything revealed in the reflective surfaces of the car is different than what the audience sees happening around the car.""For example, through a mirror, we see a couple making out, inside the car, but from the outside of the car, we can tell it is empty. I remember the car getting completely destroyed, smashed, and burned."

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In The US, Rush Limbaugh is #1 on the radio, and, until recently, Bill O'Reilly was #1 on TV. Fox News is by far the most watched cable "news" channel. And a host of gadflies--Ann Coulter, Milo Yiannopoulous, etc--are regulars on the best-seller list and lecture circuit. Does England, and/or the UK writ-large, have right-wing media personalities and outlets on par (in terms of popularity and influence) with the United States Where do the English Defense League, UKIP, and Britain First turn for self-validating groupthink?.

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Because we know deep down inside that our life's work is only half of what it could have been had we the courage to not ask for permission, if there ever arise people who are doing high-level intellectual work on the outside, exactly as they wish to without anyone's permission or money, then not only are we naturally resentful, but we secretly know that at least some of these outsiders are likely doing more interesting, more valuable, more radically incisive work than we are, because we secretly know that we earn our salary by agreeing to only say half of what we could.

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posted about 11 hours ago on metafilter
I'm in the process of developing a new card game. Before I actually begin selling this as a product, I'd like to be sure I understand how much and what kind of legal protections I should have in place so my/family personal assets are safe.Some background information: - I plan to sell on Amazon, using their fulfillment/transaction systems - I plan to have all decks produced by large playing card companies here in the US and not do it myself or offshore it. Technically, I won't be producing anything aside from the artwork printed on the cards. - I would almost certainly form an LLC for the protections it does offer - I would be keeping my day job and not taking a salary or anything from this LLC. Some specific areas I'd love some guidance in: 1. Is there a kind of low-overhead LLC I should consider? Something that provides the same protections but might have minimal meeting/minutes/paperwork/taxes requirements? 2. Is it worth having a lawyer form my LLC for me, or does filing one via an online site suffice? 3. Is there a kind of insurance I can/should purchase for a reasonable amount? 4. Are there any other kinds of protections I can/should put in place? 5. Given the background I've laid out, are there any liability issues I could be exposed to, and not be able to sufficiently protect against? Thanks, all. Obviously I'm paranoid about protection. This is something I want to do, but I've heard such horror stories about our hyper-litigious culture.

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My (male) fiancé recently bought a hat to wear to our wedding. It is vintage (I'll post a pic when I get a chance--sorry, the camera on my phone is potato). What can I decorate it with that is NOT a feather?We are vegan, so brand new feathers won't work. We might be able to do secondhand/used feathers (if that's a thing?). I am thinking I could make something out of origami and lacquer it. Do you have any suggestions? We are pretty crafty, and can't spend too much money on this. We are not terribly traditional (I am wearing a lavender dress, for instance).

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How much time from documentation to return?I just sent in my paperwork (completely) for the VW recall. I'm just curious for those of you who sold back your vehicles, how long did it take to get the paperwork approved and to get an appointment? I know that we waited a bit longer so I'm assuming we aren't falling into the initial sell back rush, but I'm just not sure if I should start looking for replacement vehicles or if this is going to take awhile. Also, how long did your appointment at the dealership take? I'll probably have two little kids with me so this is pertinent info?

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I am working with a recruiter for the first time ever, and I'm new to the protocol involved. I just went on an interview today that my recruiter set up (went pretty well!) and sent them a thank-you email directly as soon as I got home, just like I've always been told I should do. One hour later - my recruiter contacted me to say "so, send me your draft of the thank you so we can get it to them!" I had no idea I had to go through the recruiter. Is this super-bad?I'm kind of freaking out a little because I had no idea I had to go through a recruiter for this. Also, I did a bit more of a brief email expressing interest in the job and pointing out a couple places where I thought I could fit in with the company, but my recruiter sent me a "tips for a thank you letter" that sounds like I should have sent something more extensive. So now I'm panicking that I really blew this. The company was a start-up that is seems pretty informal (they're workign out of a shared-work space and they desperately need someone to jump in and set up systems - and that's where I excel), so the brevity of the note probably won't kill me, but I"m afraid I've pissed off my recruiter. How bad a flub was this and what do I do?

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New Orleans mayor Mitch Landrieu, who has presided over the city's dismantling of Confederate monuments, delivered a righteous defense of the decision in a speech about history, race, and legacy. Seriously, read the whole thing.

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My thirteen-year-old daughter was asked to read a something at a picnic we've been invited to that has a Victorian literature theme. She's looking for something that speaks to her, either poetry or prose, about what it's like being a young woman in the Victorian era. So she's also looking at more contemporary fiction pieces that include a young woman in the Victorian era, and history with young women figures. She's a pretty smart kid, who likes girls, so something about a boy crush isn't going to work. What would you recommend?

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I currently use Day One Classic for journaling. I like it, except for the fact that my stuff is stored on a remote drive I don't have control over. What sorts of secure remote-sync/cloud journaling apps are available, and what is the setup like?

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posted about 13 hours ago on metafilter
What's going on with after hours trades that are way off the going rate? I understand a few shares going through, but explain this Amazon trade for example. About $2.7 million changes hands after hours today at about $130 per share below the closing price.

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Looking for a waterproof watch on which I can set 8 or 10 daily alarms.My 6 year old has a weird medical issue that causes him to have sudden accidents if his bladder gets more than half full or so. He's taking meds for it and the problem is resolving, but in the meantime he needs frequent reminders to go to the bathroom. He had a watch made specifically for this purpose that I could set 8 daily vibrating alarms on. It was great, EXCEPT that it was not at all waterproof, and it's hard for him to remember to try to keep it dry when he washes his hands, etc. (And not puke on it, you know. The usual stuff.) We've bought 3 of them in the last 6 months and they're all dead. I can't find a waterproof watch with more than 5 alarms. Anybody know of one? Thank you :)

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I'm a 38 year old woman with debilitating social anxiety and trust issues. Yes, I'm in therapy, but maintaining friendships has been a lifelong problem for me. I was recently offered the sweetest gesture of friendship and I don't know how to respond.I've become Facebook close with a woman I've known since we were in Brownies together, but was never actually really friends with during school. Our kids are good friends, and we reconnected because of them. We talk a lot online and we're in each other's private filters. She recently sent me an article about women finding their tribe and said "I think we could be that." On the one hand, I am thrilled, because it's hard to find new friends when you're pushing 40, but on the other, I'm not really in a place right now where I can go have coffee dates with people, no matter how much I like them. I also know that I can't exist in a vacuum, so maybe I should push myself? So here's my question, I guess; do I tell her that I'm not in a good place to hang out offline or force myself to face the discomfort of a night out? I don't want my awkwardness to be offputting.

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Hi! I'm interested in doing some research on collaborations between libraries and public media outlets. I am a full-time public radio employee (I'm an on-air host so what I'd be researching is not specifically job-related), and I'm not looking to leave my job. But I need a project! And I'd like to find resources not only for actually doing the project, but also for paying for it.Ideally I'd love to find some kind of arrangement that would provide a structure in which to do this research, support, and smart people who could help me out if I get stuck. I'm aware of the Nieman and Reynolds Journalism Institute fellowships, which might be something I'd (aspirationally) look at. But is there something big I should know about? Something small? And librarians of Metafilter (and I know there are many...) is there some kind of structure/funding in the library world that might work for this? Thanks in advance!

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i have some interviews lined up for a couple of ruby on rails positions. i've been working with the framework for quite awhile, but have not had a technical interview in a couple of years. the books i am familiar with (eloquent ruby, well-grounded rubyist) don't seem to have recent updates. the one recommended that i haven't read at all (practical o-o design in ruby) is also dated plus i am ambivalent about object oriented design. this is almost all back-end work and these positions are not senior, as in i would be in charge of a team (ugh), but would be a coder on a small one. any suggestions for recent resources to go through or recommendations for older work that still holds up are welcome. text only for the moment, although i did enjoy ruby tapas while i had a subscription.

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I have a few interviews for research associate/ assistant/ fellow positions for a variety of medical statistics jobs in the next few months. I am finishing my PhD at present. I haven't done many interviews before and am possibly overthinking it, but what questions should I be prepared for? Much beyond my work so far and general questions in the field? Are the interviews generally laid back or very intense? Any tips/ links/ example qs would be much appreciated!

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posted about 14 hours ago on metafilter
One of my favorite Chinese bakeries sells a taro flavored cake which I love. I want to experiment at home making cookies, cakes, dessert-y type things with a taro flavor - anyone have any recipes that us this root as an ingredient?

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posted about 15 hours ago on metafilter
What is the best one - volume history or biography of Eleanor of Aquitaine?

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I'm looking for an online project/task management tool, likely a kanban board, with a very specific feature: the ability to create recurring cards that regenerate with a new due date. I am willing to pay for this.For example, I want to create a card called "data load" that is due on 5/31. Regardless of whether or not that task is completed on time, I want another task to regenerate on 6/30 with a due date of 6/30. I'm happy to have two different date settings (recurrence date and due date), or to have them be the same. It must be possible to have two instances of the same task at the same time, with different due dates. Assuming this is a kanban(Trello style) board, I want the card to regenerate in the column of my choosing, not the column where the previous card ended up. This tool must be web based, and able to be used by multiple people on different OSes. Blerg.

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