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As a graduate teacher assigned to a difficult class, I felt like the students were personally attacking me. The general advice given to me was "Don't let it get to you" or even "Don't let it show if it does". How do you do that? More info inside.I graduated from teaching in June of this year, and accepted a job teaching an upper primary school class part-time (11 and 12 year olds). Before this, I was working as a Teacher Assistant in a very small community. While the students in my previous school were challenging at times, the nature of the community meant that I felt I knew them and knew their families - and they knew me and mine. Students would sometimes come by my house in the afternoons, or see me at the local swimming hole, and there was a general feeling of liking and respecting each other. Plus, as an assistant, I was not actually in charge of discipline. Fast-forward to my new job, in a much larger city. I was coming in half-way through the year, to take the class about half of the time, as the previous teacher (much-loved) increased her responsibilities elsewhere in the school. The students hated the change and I think disliked me because of it. A few in particular were obviously trying hard to find ways to "get" to me. For example, on clarifying my name, one student said, "It's Miss Tworedshoes, not Mrs, because no one would ever marry her!" Of course, the students had no way to know if I was actually married/partnered/single, but they did hit a nerve and I think it showed. Other comments followed and, after a period of weeks, I ended up leaving that position. Rationally, it shouldn't have mattered to me what a couple of pre-teens that I barely knew had to say about me or my personal life, and yet it did. My question is not "Should kids be allowed to get away with that?" or "How much do we expect teachers to put up with?" I genuinely want to know how to brush off comments or attacks like that in a classroom situation.

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my ex and i have been working together for 3 or 4 years, and we dated for 1.5 year. he broke up with me a year ago. the post break up year is full of drama. i couldn't let go. the chemistry we had was awesome, and before we dated we used to be the best friends at work. sex is mind blowing good too. at the spot when we broke up we were pretty seriously. neither of us could actually move on given the fact we still see each other everyday. the reason why neither of us has left the company yet is because both of us got some tremendous opportunity or reward for our hard working in the past years for this company. i can't give it up for this break up. so i stuck to it for a year.i pretty much cried everyday since i broke up with him for literally 9 months. i know he loves me too but he was acting like a total jerk at same time. a month ago he told me he wants to be with me but later on i found out that he was "kinda" seeing someone. things like this happened over and over again.... 2 days ago we made out a big time at work and it was sensational good. he told me he loves me while he and his girl are now gf and bf too.....i dont know...he says he doesnt love her but she treats him really good. it's really hard......i dated several guys in between and honestly they are all pretty decent and maybe better in many way than my ex. but i couldnt move on from my ex and chose to end up with all of them. i regret doing that....still he's sitting next to me and i know we "love" each other...neither of us would leave the company for another 2 years. but i'll probably work in another country in 6 months. but still 6 months to go... sometimes i cant stop picture the thing he did with her....i can't justify..... i put myself out there for a year and tried to fix and win him back. he told me numerous times that he loves me and i believe him...i understand it's just easier for him to start over with another woman to be a perfect guy again...

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Lost job. Without a net. I am SO screwed...Ok, I'll stick to bullet points. I usually try to post eloquently; I'm not in the mood for that. - I'm in my early 40s, I don't have a college education. In (Big City) Canada. - For seven years, up to a year ago, I (finally) had a steady lowish-end sales career...I sort of "fell into" it, but did very well (not financially; below average take-home income - I survived ok. But I was very good at what I did) - That ended when the company I worked for changed hands and eliminated the sales force. - I exhausted my unemployment benefits looking for a new position, I worked odd and short term jobs concurrently. - Just as my unemployment benefit period was ending, I landed a job at a media company (resonably reputable, but restructuring) selling advertising. - It was very challenging, far harder and different than what I had done before. From scratch, contact/lead generation, then the pitch and sell. I generated many leads, but I struggled with the pitch/sell. Only two months in, I'm fired. Now lets make matters worse... - The job was "on subcontract", as in not on the books. - I am broke, I have zero savings. All I have is a maxed-out ($5k) credit card. I have nothing of worth to sell. - I have no family (deceased) or any form of emotional support. None. I have acquaintances, no real friends. I am alone in this. - I have an apartment I can't afford (a remnant from my failed long-term relationship). - Rent and bills are due in 10 days. Now then: I'm not looking for sympathy, no one needs to feel sorry for me. I don't have time for that. Yes, I'm mad. I'm fucking pissed. My life is one disaster after another, nothing but poor decisions. It's all my fault. And now it's about to get a lot worse. I feel stupid, I feel like a total failure...I don't know what I've done to deserve this, other than people as incompetent as me get what they deserve I suppose. I'm worried I'll lose everything and end up in the streets. All my dreams are fading, a loving relationship, a family of my own, a living I can be proud of, retirement -- these things are not going to happen, are they? (what a stupid question...) I'm sorry for ranting. This all came down 2 hours before I posted. Tomorrow morning, along with LinkedIn and Kijiji/Craigslist, I'm grabbing a fistful of my shitty resumes, pounding on every door and begging for jobs. What else can I do?

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Rëdrüm (some assembly required)

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Wondering if anyone can help me identify the cause of this sudden change to my breathing? I don't think it's serious, and it seems to be subsiding somewhat, but I'm very curious about this phenomenon right now. Googling didn't help. Personal details inside.So about 20 minutes ago, seemingly very suddenly, I began feeling a weakness in my stomach and noticed that if I tried to inhale even moderately deeply my breath would start to 'shudder' (like a mild version of a sobbing-type breath-shudder). I felt a little dizzy and a little nauseous, but it seems to be getting better. I can still replicate it, however, if I inhale as deeply as possible, and I think it worsens with bad posture. Some details about me: - mid twenties, female - asthmatic - started taking a nasal corticosteroid for allergies about a month ago - never felt anything like this before Situational details: - recently ate a big meal - then had energetic sex and an orgasm - but I managed to wash up and then do a whole a whole dinner's worth of dishes before becoming symptomatic (about 15 minutes) I don't know if any of that is relevant , and again I don't think this is anything serious to worry about, I'm just kind of confused and curious if anyone knows what this could pertain to.

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You may know Rob Cantor for his work with Tally Hall (previously), or for his hit meme-song Actual Cannibal Shia LaBeouf (also previously), for which a new, amazing video was released today, or for the time he faked a bunch of celebrity impressions (previously again!). But wait - there's more! Rob Cantor got his start as the vocalist and guitarist for mid-2000s fabloo rock band Tally Hall, but his first major tracks independent of the group were two weird, wonderful songs about celebrities behaving badly on a grand scale - one where Shia LaBeouf is a murderous cannibal, and one where crazed, foul-mouthed sand wizard Christian Bale is a terrible party guest. Some time later, he co-penned a musical about the man who's job it is to tell the President that an asteroid is headed towards Earth (previously - script is here - the password is Calvert, music is here). But as Tally Hall stopped releasing new music, and former members Joe Hawley and Andrew Horowitz launched solo projects with Hawaii Part II (previously) and Edu (previously also), respectively, it seemed that Rob Cantor would be left by the wayside, with nothing to remember him by other than a pair of novelty tracks and an outline for a killer musical. That changed on March 19th, 2014, when Rob released the audio for a new track, called Ghost, with the promise that more would be coming on an album called Not A Trampoline. Ghost was haunting, beautiful, and above all catchy - a totally different beast than Cantor's earlier Celebrities Behaving Badly tracks, but one backed by the same foot-tapping sensibility. Soon after he released more videos - first the wonderfully playful Old Bike, and then the touching All I Need Is You. Shortly thereafter, Not A Trampoline came out, and brought with it an embarrassment of riches. The goofy, expansive Flamingo. The Tally hall b-side redux I'm Gonna Win. Elevated 80s tribute Garden of Eden. In interviews, Cantor described the album as "[comedic, serious, or whimsical]. All three, I hope." And the music video onslaught continued, with the viral-ready celebrity impressions video for Perfect (making of here), and the... well, pretty frigging strange video for The Rendezvous (NSFW). Today (or yesterday, depending on your time zone), Rob Cantor went full circle with the release of a new video for Actual Cannibal Shia LaBoeuf. Cantor, with the help of some friends new and old, breathes new life in to what is now an old internet chestnut, exploring the intersection of his fascination with celebrity and his Tally Hal-ish love for broad, sweeping artistic epics... and creating a pretty damn great video in the process.

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I tend to spend months on a piece here and there, but once this one got in my blood, I couldn't stop. It all started with the Cyberdemon by Reaper Miniatures my friend Chris Fields gave be back in 2004. After doing a paint job on it back then I wanted to build an environment for the little evil cyborg. -Icons of Doom

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Our toaster oven is about to die, and we're considering replacing it with a panini press. We use the toaster oven for: toast, bagels, sausages, baking microwaved potatoes, mostly for single people meals when we don't want to heat up the big oven. We grill in the oven or a cast-iron grill pan but the press looks like it'd be better. We're concerned about ease of cleaning (we don't clean our toaster except to replace the foil lining when it gets gah) and whether it can make regular toast and baked potatoes. Small kitchen so we don't want to get both. Advice?

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Figuring out some of the more obscure references in an episode of MST3k is a labor of love for some devoted fans. The folks over at The Annotated MST3k (previously) have been at it for eleven years now and have 113 episodes completely annotated. But for those who prefer their annotations in real time, you're in luck. The official YouTube channel for the show has posted two completely annotated episodes (Mitchell and Manos - The Hands of Fate) for your viewing pleasure.

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I distinctly remember Drakkar Noir as being the cologne of choice in my high school years, and suspected that it was a kind of rite of passage to manhood. I don't think that many of my male classmates actually had to shave often enough to justify the purchase of other fragranced items, but they definitely sprayed Cool Water and Drakkar Noir when going to dances or on dates. Is this something that young guys still do and why did everyone in my age group (mid-30s) stop wearing cologne? Is there a U curve to men's fragrance usage over time? Are guys in their late teens and retirees over 70 years of age the most likely fragrance wearers or is that just a sampling error in my universe? What are the social norms for using cologne? How have those norms changed over the last 50 years?

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At 10AM Mountain Time on Tuesday, October 21, Wyoming began issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples. The U.S. Supreme Court had announced its decision to "let stand appeals court rulings allowing same-sex marriage in five states," including Wyoming, on October 6—16 years since gay college student Matthew Shepard was abducted, tortured, and left to die outside Laramie, WY, in a homophobic attack that galvanized LGBT activism across the country. The Matthew Shepard Foundation posted today: "Congratulations, Wyoming. Thirty-two down, 18 to go." [Previously: The 10-year anniversary of Matthew Shepard's death.]

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We (my wife and I, that is) are tossing around the idea of a trip somewhere to the Southwest in February, when I get a week off from teaching and we'll need a week off from winter. Ideally with a mix of the outdoorsy and time spent in nice scenic towns with good (vegetarian-friendly) food, on a non-lavish budget. Never been anywhere in that part of the world. Where should we go and what should we see?The Grand Canyon's a possibility, if it's viable at that time of year, but suggestions of less internationally-known destinations are most welcome.

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I'm a guy in Los Angeles. I need some sexy, funky, S&M/leather-friendly, ankle-height black boots for rocking out on go-go platforms, cruising around at Burning Man, and generally pairing up with scandalous outfits at club nights. My budget could be up to $350 for the right pair. In-store only, because I'd really like to try them on. Where shall I go?

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We have a Ruud Achiever 90 Plus with variable speed motor. It works great heating up the house, but when it's trying to maintain the temperature (say it's set for 65 and it's currently 65), it constantly clicks. The sound is very annoying. Does anyone know what would cause this?We've had the furnace since 2007 and it's worked flawlessly except for this incredibly annoying clicking problem. I can't remember a time when it didn't click while maintaining the temp, but I didn't really suspect it could be a problem until recently. I just kind of lived with it. More specifically, I think it's the inducer fan clicking. It almost sounds like it's modulating between a high and low speed. The blower motor does not seem to change speeds, and the flames remain constant (they might decrease in size just slightly when the inducer fan clicks off, but it's hard to tell). Basically, this goes on for like 20 minutes at a time. *Click*(inducer fan slower for a few seconds) *CLICK* (inducer fan speeds up for a few seconds) *click*... ... ... *CLICK*... ... ... The last time we had the furnace checked out (a couple weeks ago) the technician didn't see anything wrong, but of course the problem didn't happen while he was here. Does anyone know what could be wrong, or how to fix?

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Quick question about using MS ACCESS. Can you direct me to an online tutorial that quickly illustrates how to create or edit/manipulate and an existing report from excel data? I do have an existing report that can probably be modified, but I've never used access before.Our database is proprietary but I've learned how to do deep queries and export that data into excel. While my bosses love that, they want me to hand over my data to another department so that guy can use access to create a smooth report. I want to do that myself. Any ideas, some DIY advice or very specific tutorials would be greatly appreciated. I've spent a couple of hours screening tutorials and they're mostly database/access 101. What I need is to hack the existing report as a noob with no MS Access experience/training. Many thanks in advance!

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"Fireproof" is the new music video from San Francisco pop group The Tropics. It features an enjoyable, upbeat, punchy song with a vibrant vocal from lead vocalist Claire George. Lighthearted, smile-inducing bonus: The video is also a spirited, shot-by-shot homage to the video for Marky Mark and the Funky Bunch's 1991 hit "Good Vibrations".

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How can I stop Chrome from killing my battery?Since upgrading to Yosemite, Chrome takes up crazy processor usage on my Macbook Air, killing the battery in the process. It never drops below 45% usage under activity monitor, and every 10 seconds or so peaks up to over 120% usage. I have the adblock plus, disconnect, and 1password plugins installed. Is this known behaviour? Is Google working on a fix? I realize i could migrate everything to Safari or another browser, but I'd very much prefer not to do that if at all possible.

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I want to be Vampire Luis Suarez for Halloween. I have the soccer kit, I have the fangs, I have the soccer ball. I just need some good fake blood to put around my mouth - blood that won't stain a polyester soccer shirt.Complication: I have an actual 2014 World Cup Authentic Replica Uruguay shirt that I'd like to use for the costume, that I'd rather not get stained by the fake blood. The shirt itself is 100% polyester. In a true pinch. I could use the cheap 100% Polyester Chinese Knockoff jersey that I have. What kind of fake blood could I buy/make that would not stain the shirt? I'd like to go for a 'dried blood' look, as I'd be wearing it all day. Thanks!

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I'm a dummy and left 2 dozen raw eggs in the carton overnight in my car; I forgot to bring them in after grocery shopping. They've been unrefrigerated for about 24 hours, and my car's been in various garages the whole time, probably 15-20 C. The carton says to keep refrigerated, but do they really mean it?Isn't there some controversy over whether or not eggs need to be refrigerated? These are regular decent quality large white grocery store sold in canada eggs. I have a pretty strong stomach (and it'd just be me consuming them) but for the sake of $8 my tolerance level for salmonella risk is pretty low. That being said, they'd be cooked at least over-medium if they were to be kept. Keep, or toss?

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Mystery photos from CERN's history

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Hi, after the sudden and unexpected death of our beloved pet cat on Sunday, we've decided to adopt two kittens. We are finalists for the adoption and will meet them on Saturday. The kitten we are basing the adoption around is a white male shorthair. We are working on finding him a littermate or bonded kitten to come home with him. I want to name him Jon Snow after the Game of Thrones character because he is one of my favorite characters (also...winter is coming, people!). I was thinking that if we adopt a girl kitten we'll name her Arya. Don't know what I'd do about naming a second male but we are not opposed to adopting two boys. However, I wanted to check in here and see if you could tell me if Jon Snow and Arya Stark continue to be generally good and decent people throughout the course of the books/tv series. I have only seen up to episode 4 of season 3 of the tv series and have not read the books (yet! waiting for winter break), and I've so far managed to avoid most spoilers. Also, if you have any other suggestions that's appreciated as well.

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I'm currently using Facebook group chats in some of my community organizational work. The "seen by" function is really helpful for more timely items, but the problem is that it only shows first names - but we often have multiple people in the group with the same first name. Is there a way to tell which John or Jane has seen the message? Googlefu is failing me.

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Looking for a cross-platform to-do list/outliner with the option to work offline/save locally on desktop (Mac) and Android, and to export to Google Calendar and Excel (or Word) for Mac 2011. I hate Evernote. More within!I want a hierarchical but flexible structure that can accommodate the accumulation of notes, let me copy / paste, etc. I need it to feel like Word's Notepad view or Taskflowy. I like those, except Word for Mac crashes constantly, and Workflowy doesn't hit other requirements. I need this for research and project management lite (distractable student leaning on tools). I don't need to collaborate with others within this. I would like to export to something locally saveable (in MS Office) (so it's secure, so I can share stuff with people working on Windows. I want to be able to use it on my Android when I'm on the subway. I want to be able to sync this up with Google Calendar so I can set dates for things easily. Additional desired features: - Moveable subtasks (option for expandable notes would be nice). - Stable. Does not crash. Is supported. This is really important. - Several levels of prioritization (but not essential if the actual outlining bit does its job well). - Uncomplicated syncing. Out of the running: - Scrivener: not outliney enough (dislike the Corkboard and folders), obviously not portable - OneNote for Mac: reviews aren't encouraging - Circus Ponies, OmniOutliner: Mac only - Evernote: I honestly feel like it's a mess. Or maybe I'm too much of a mess for Evernote. Idk. I hate the folders. I'm on a MBP running Mountain Lion until I know for sure that Yosemite is essentially bugless. If I'm not thinking about things the right way or should consider more than one product, do let me know! Do I need a local outliner + cross-platform task list + Word? Something else? Thank you in advance!

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I had some work done on my car today. It's a 1994 Nissan Altima. I had a belt and pulley replaced, the engine gasket replaced, and the plugs and wires replaced. The oil was changed as well. Oil had leaked through the gasket and gotten on the engine, which they cleaned off. I drove 10 miles with no problems.When I stopped, I popped the hood to take a look and see the work that had been done. I noticed the front of the engine was smoking, though not incredibly strongly. Is this just oil/cleaner burning off the surface of the engine, or is it likely to be something else? I tried calling my mechanic but they were closed.

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What kind of snake is this? My son captured a video of it today on the way home from school. Rattlesnake? King snake? Poisonous or not? It's moving its tail like a rattler but it otherwise doesn't look like any i've seen. Video here. This was in southern Utah. (And yes, he's been warned about approaching snakes in future...)

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